I dunno if i should risk him again, but I’m not afraid of him/us. I can’t say he always brings out the best of me. He has betrayed me and hurt me. But like i said, i’m not scared…Ugh, either way our chemistry overrides our thought process D: . It’s been a year since we connected, I feel as though I’ve known him my whole life. He is still a huge part of my life and my motivation. Yet everyone says stay away from his potentially abusive nature…

Any suggestions? :\

The thing we worked so well with? He spoke the thoughts I was too cautious to say myself. He spoke for me, and with all the fire I wish I had. I represented a quieter, thoughtful part of him that he avoided. He taught me how to stand up for myself and not think so much, just go in and do the best! And physically! One kiss = butterflies & heart skipping beats. His fiery passion and fearless skill and simple will to please combined with my perfection and sensuality and will to please is addictive! Financially? We were both meticulous about balancing our money (I have more than he does), and we took turns purchasing and sacrificing.

You may notice this is in past tense. Yes, we’ve separated. This is because he is clinically depressed (You know how much Emotion I had to deal with?!?!? But I didnt mind). He often criticized me than I ever criticized him. Anyway, now we’re sort of on a physical thing and we’re trying to distance ourselves. Proving difficult! =P

One thing: I am concerned in the welfare of others, while he is self-centered. However, at the height of our relationship, he did the best he could for me & us as a couple and was very sweet and considerate. It’s his unique mental problems that ruined us.

Step #1 “Meet your man at the door wearing a costume, perhaps a nurse, maid or anything revealing. Play a little fantasy game before heading to the bedroom to fulfill his fantasies.” – Great advise for any woman wouldn’t you say? Here is how it relates to Aries specifically.
Reminding an Aries that he is the number one lover man in his postal district will re-enforce all of that “rock star, porn star, hunter, warrior, leader” stuff. With that said, remember that Aries man is a man of action. Telling him that you love the way he makes you feel safe and sexually satisfied is important but nothing will quite do the trick like jumping on him like you can’t contain your raw sexual desire for him, for in his mind he is all that is man. We’re likely to tell people “Don’t tell me what you’re going to do… Show me!” “Don’t tell me who you want to be… BE IT!” Action here is the main point I’m putting down people. Impulsive and abundant blowjobs will do more for Aries ego than words, flowers or gifts of power tools and porn ever could. Sure they’re great and wanted by every guy but it’s not just the blowjob that excites; understand that there too is an emotional response connected to it. (And I wouldn’t stop there if you want to keep Aries happy and interested, casually flash him in public in a way that only he sees, ask to be tied up and pleasured. Asking or “begging in the heat of passion” for anything outside of the sexual routine from time to time will go along way in both parties satisfaction.) All of those little actions is a re-affirmation of our manhood at one of it’s most primal centers. Not in the mood right tonight? Do it anyway and we’ll do our damnedest to help ya turn that around and make it worth the extra effort for you. Nothin gets you in the mood for sex like performing a willing sexual act. (As an Aries myself you’ll understand why I refuse to sugar coat my wording here. If ya don’t like it, you should not engage an Aries for more than one night at a time.) On top of that, don’t be too shy to brag to your girlfriends, at least little bit, about your Aries man and his sexual prowess and skill… even if you don’t believe it with your whole heart LIE, just a little bit. But also consider that if he isn’t blowing your mind in bed it’s partially your fault for not providing the proper instruction. (Don’t make up stuff HE knows isn’t true either, look for his strengths and let him know how much you value them. This goes for anything outside the bedroom also, for example: maybe your man can fix just about anything. Reward him for a job well done with kudos for his talent.) It may sound like you’re mission statement for the relationship is to boost Aries ego. To a large degree it is, if there is anything more important than my ego, I want it hunted down and shot! Knowing Aries, he will return that effort 10 fold in whatever way you want or need. Part of being alpha male Aries includes having a beautiful woman in genuine, perma-grin. If you as a Virgo, for example, demand service and order this man of action will bust his ass to ensure that you have it! He’ll even try to plan and schedule his impulsive behavior with plenty of notice for you to prepare for it. We’re really simple creatures! Don’t over complicate it.

Step #2 “Feed your man’s regular hunger, not just his sexual appetite. A good meal goes a long way towards keeping a man satisfied since it’s hard to get upset when your tummy is full of good cooking.” For Aries man this is probably no different than it is for every man, of every astrological sign… outstanding in every way! Want to make it even better? Serve it with a smile and the words “for my strong, sexy, handsome or loving man.” (any combination will do.)

Step #3 “Tell your man how great he is” We covered that in #1… moving on.
Step #4 “Watch sports with your man if that’s what he likes to do for entertainment. Or learn to bowl if he’s a bowler. The point is to get over your initial dislike and do some of the things your man likes to do. You get to spend more time together, and he’ll start to see you as a friend, as well as a lover.” For me I don’t watch sports or care who is playing against whom. So I would say don’t pay too much attention to what the “norm guy stuff is”. I don’t want my girl to be “one of the guys” It’s enough that she sees the things I’m interested in and appreciates the fact that I enjoy them. If she really and genuinely wants to learn how to weld for her own projects, I’ll teach her what I know. Just don’t do it because you think I want you to be into the same things as me. I don’t even care if she likes Bob Dylan so much as she understands that I do and if she interrupts certain songs while I’m listening to them, it’s going to piss me off. I have thrown people out of my home for that.
Step #5 ”Keep yourself looking as nice as possible. Get your hair and nails done, wear nice-looking clothes and stay in shape. Men are pleased when they have a well put-together lady on their arm when out in public, so save the sweatpants for the gym.” I don’t think this one needs any more explanation either… If you need to, just re-read #1 and figure out that the two go hand in hand. At the same time don’t be afraid to keep us well groomed too if we start slipping. If our hair is getting long, don’t say something like “You’re startin to look like a dirty hippy.” Just remind us that we look so handsome with shorter hair and there is nothing like a new hair cut to make you want to… you can fill in the blank here because it doesn’t really matter how you end that and its likely we’ll get a trim that day. It’s not hard to manipulate us if you know what strings to pull and as long as you pull the right ones we’ll be happy to dance for you.
Now I know that the majority of this is written mostly toward sex but I want to throw this in there because it plays upon the same egocentric mentality of the Aries. I always wanted a girlfriend that fancied herself as an amateur photographer, constantly snapping off pictures. Not because I like pictures of myself or think that I’m photogenic but rather the ego boost of having my woman think that I am and want to capture those moments of me for herself. It could be that I over romanticize photography but for myself, I can’t take enough pictures of have enough pictures of my sweetie. And I have to admit that it helps that she is drop dead gorgeous and sexy. I cant tell ya how much she drives me wild and I’m sure that it even gets on her nerves from time to time when she walks by and I need a handful. lol
Step #6 “Please your man best by treating him the way you want him to treat you. Men really aren’t that much different from women…except for a little testosterone and a few physical differences.” Pay no attention to this crock of shit… “What?” That’s right, it’s bullshit, get that wording out of your head. By that same school of thought, every guy that brings you flowers wants flowers too? If you want flowers buy your man flowers? Or to take it to an extreme, if a fella wants to have anal sex with you is trying to say he wants something in his ass as well. DON’T ASSUME TOO MUCH! Everyone has different wants and needs from their significant other/partner. If you have specific ways that you want to be treated or pleasured then fucking say so. Don’t expect us to pick up on the things you’re doing or not doing as the example of what you want or don’t want. I know a girl who would never try to choke me during sex but she liked it… how would I know if she hadn’t told me? I wouldn’t have just tried it on a whim because it doesn’t really do anything for me personally… what did do it for me was her telling me that she wanted me to do something to her that was fairly dirty or kinky. Just by asking/telling me to do it almost made me loose it right there. If you cant say it buy us a book and say “I want this.” And if you’re afraid that we’ll get offended at the implication that what we’re doing now isn’t good or good enough… tell us while you’re naked and pinching a nipple. A pretty girl could tell me that she backed over my dog while she was doing that with a come hither look in her eye and I would be all right with it. Then again I don’t have a dog so I’m clearly just making the point that there are great ways to soften that blow.
P.S. I saw a book at the bookstore the other day called “The Good Girl’s Guide To Bad Girl Sex.” Having not read it myself I can’t say too much about it but, based solely on the title, I can say that regardless to how good you are or think you are in bed I’m pretty sure that every woman needs to read this book and take notes. If for some reason you can’t get out to the bookstore, here are a few ideas off the top of my head.
1. Get out of the bedroom! – Or at least off the bed, the easiest way to mix things up a little bit is to do it where it’s not the regular place. Do it on the floor, bent over the arm of the sofa, kitchen table… you get the idea. Take him where he stands so to speak.
2. Thigh highs, heels and a smile. Maybe one of his dress shirts unbuttoned… just because you wanted to. – If you need more explanation than that, I don’t know how to help ya’.
3. Stoke the fires early on – There are a million creative ways that you can get your man’s juices flowing. Leave a dirty note in his shirt pocket, on his cell phone, digital camera. Wear a skirt more than you do now, that by it’s self can do wonders but if you’re on your way to dinner or something; take your panties off in the car and hang them on the rearview mirror… If you’re up to the task, put on a quick solo show for him. Going back to one of his dress shirts; understand that in his mind that most likely is the uniform of being Man and you wrapping yourself in it is in a sense wrapping yourself in his manhood. If he is in the habit of setting out his cloths for the next day you can use that to your advantage buy putting that shirt on, snap a pic of yourself wearing just that posing or doing something sexy and shoot it over to his cell phone around lunch time; Or print it off and slip it in the shirt pocket. You might think that this stuff sounds silly or you might be embarrassed doing it but unless you change what you’re doing, you can’t expect things to get any better for either one of you. Understanding the psychology of sex for your man will help you overcome those natural inhibitions if you have them. If he’s smart he’ll try to do the same for you and your sexual psychology. Buy a copy of “How to Satisfy A Woman Every Time…And Have Her Beg For More” by Naura Hayden, read it and let him see that you’re reading it. When he asks why simply tell him that there are some sexy ideas in this book that you would like to try. Maybe even tell him you’re borrowing the book from a girlfriend or something… Naura Hayden also wrote “How to Satisfy A Man Every Time” You should probably pick that one up too. Most people know that that the key to a good relationship is good communication so why don’t we tell each other what we want and need until we’re fed up and frustrated? Well all I can do is talk for myself in the context of an Aries making a bold blanket statement for Aries. As the egocentric men I am and we are, we don’t like feeling that we’re begging for sex because it is in direct contrast to the “rock star, porn star, hunter, warrior, leader, lord of the manor, alpha male” mentality we inherently possess. Some Aries men will use that mentality to rule as a dictator and demand these things but that’s a jackass move and shouldn’t be rewarded.

Also if for some reason a guy is reading this so he can edit it down for his astrological sign and casually plant it somewhere for his girlfriend to read let me share something else with you. Dude, did you know that, according to surveys, 70% of women have NEVER had an orgasm with a man. 25% of men will get turned down by their own lovers over half the time. These men have women who think sex is a chore. Nearly 50% of men have partners that will NEVER ask for sex (would you ask for something that doesn’t give you any pleasure?) 92% of women will FAKE ORGASMS just to “get it over with” on a semi regular basis. It’s obvious that what most men are doing simply isn’t working. If you think you’re an exception to that. (Denial aint just a river in Egypt) chances are YOU’RE NOT and that attitude (believing that you’re skilled in bed) may be the biggest reason you’re not. Just having a “big” unit does not make you good in bed… Don’t take it too hard though, I believe that if she wants a better sex life then she has to take a big part of the responsibility for it also.
Look, statistically I have to accept that I’m just as likely not one of the few guys that woman cum running to for sexual gratification. Knowing that might be a possibility has made me a better lover in that I’m eager to learn something new and I’m constantly looking and creating new ideas on how to get that big O for her. My advise to you my friend is to do the same and by the way (unless she asks for it by name) 97.5% of what you see in porn… yeah, don’t do that if you’re trying get her off. There are thousands of great books on the subject written by people who actually know what the hell they are talking about… Steve at work has probably never been remotely successful at making a woman cum so don’t listen to what he says he does to drive women wild. Other than that… Good luck to ya all!