Aries Compatibility With Virgo |
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Aries and Virgo
Some people naturally "get" each other, and some people don't. And I'm afraid that these too just don't! Their temperaments are so different that they are rather befuddled by one another's approach at well, everything! Virgo is pretty much a perfectionist and loves to make sure everything is in it's proper place. The Aries gets very wound up by these traits, although does appreciate the outcome. Aries people are free and fun loving, and enjoy getting up and facing a new challenge at the drop of a hat. Whereas the Virgo will have to think about it first, maybe for day's, then make sure the house is perfectly orderly before even thinking of closing the front door. Money is another problem that can cause more arguments. The Virgo makes sure every penny is accounted for and dosen't really agree with fool hardy spending, the fun loving Aries on the other hand just wants to spend, spend, spend. Work hard, play hard right? Unless the Earth Sign Virgo has some help from Leo, or Libra in their sign and the Fire Sign Aries is a bit less boisterous then these two don't stand much of a chance at a long-term union.
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June 10th, 2008 at 6:21 pm
This is so very true about those two star signs it’s unbeliavable. I am an aries woman and my ex husband was a virgo. As soon as the initial attarction between those two signs is gone, all there’s left is differences that are almost impossible to overcome. Virgo’s are idy, neat and predictive, aries are exactly the opposite. A union like that can never last, yet it is a good experience as i personally learned a lot from the virgo man…but will certainly not go for one ever again !
L.
June 11th, 2008 at 4:44 pm
oh man i agree to the fullest..
July 22nd, 2008 at 6:56 pm
I think its kind of right my ex was a virgo..we split up but remained close friends, now i come to realize that he would’ve held me down if i stayed with him…Its true as an aries i wanna spend money especially if i worked hard for it ,but virgos like everything simple and dont like spending the money
September 10th, 2008 at 3:21 pm
I could not disagree with this more…I am a virgo & I am far from a perfectionist & I love to be spontaneous & fun. My bf is an Aries & we get along great! I DO believe in work hard/play hard. I would say everything listsed about virgos in the above statements doesn’t apply to me AT ALL!!!!!
September 11th, 2008 at 2:40 am
My BF is an aries and everything that you have mentioned is absolutely true. i do however go along with what Melissa has to say; I think Virgo’s are a little underestimated. We enjoy spontaneity and fun just as much as the next person. I think that the Aries really brings out that side in us… it does work!
October 29th, 2008 at 7:11 am
my bf is a virgo, some of this stuff i disagree with, because we have been together for quite some time now. The money ordeal has not been a problem with us because he enjoys spending money just as much as i do. He is also able to keep up with me. He is however very criticizing
December 13th, 2008 at 2:16 am
So far so good for us. My boyfriend is an Aries and I am a Virgo. The sex is great, the friendship is working….. and as for us coexisting, as long as he puts the cereal box back I am happy. Should we fear what’s to come, or go for the ride?
December 16th, 2008 at 7:27 am
My ex is a virgo and we didn’t get along at the end, although my guy best friend is a a virgo as well and we have been friends for the longest time and barely fight… My ex liked to spend money as much as i did but always wanted others to pay for him and he would try to get everything cheaper. But anyways i still believe in our love… somehow im still attached to him and well who knows what the future reserve…
January 1st, 2009 at 10:31 am
Well, my ex is a virgo guy. At first it seems that he can keep up with my spending habits and my way of thinking & life styles. I can stand his criticizing habits. But after 2 years he shows his true self and he become so cheap and stingy. Yet, he prefer to laid back and spend as little as he can. Moreover, he also too introvert and a real deceiver. He never really lies but he deceives; intentionally make others misunderstood him as good whenever he’s not. He was very affectionate, caring, loving & think for his future wellness. But, I can’t stand his cheapness, cowardness (fussy state of minds) which leads to his irresponsibily character, easily influenced thoughts. Virgo guy is egoistics & calculating, they’ll only do things or give help after they calculate their benefits & future assurance. In doing so, they’ll deceive you as if they’re sincere. Virgo guys will prefer to run away and find a sanctuary (be unfaithful) then to face & solve any problems. However, their ego will deny this and with their fussy state of mind will plot a cunning scenario as a path to run away and yet give others impressions as if they’re innocents. They can easily be unfaithful behind yourback as if nothing has happened. Fire signs never go for a Virgo. I regret letting him into my life, we’d better stayed a best friend.
January 8th, 2009 at 11:59 am
ciel!!!
u really scare me cos my guy is a virgo and watever u say is very very true !! but the only diff is im an earth sign and i don mind putting upw ith him !! But if he’s gonna be unfaithful - then it will be a bye bye for him!!
January 9th, 2009 at 3:35 am
this is true but i believe in opposites attracting. . . my BF is aries and i’ m a virgo, although aries are hard working they really need someone like a virgo to keep them grounded. they lose there temper way to easily and over the passed 5 years i’v helped him make alot better choices in life. i really made him who he is today. he has thought me so much to, like how everything dosen’t revolve around work. he loves the fact that he can go out with the boys and i never care because i like staying home thinking about business stuff. he always knows i’m safe waiting for him, with all the bills payed. he’s always sure there’s enough money. . . A PERFECT MATCH the way i see it
January 11th, 2009 at 7:15 am
where i disagree is the attraction.. i think there is instant attraction, for the relationship to work out— YOU are RIGHT.. A and V do not last.
the last guy i dated ( a V) i am an aries.. i swear, he totally would hold be back and drag me down. V’s are sooo boring, that they “try” to give off a facade they are exciting. And Aries fall for it, but realize they are so boring. my Ex-V hated to travel, liked being homebound.
I fact i told him upfront when first met him, and discovered he was a “V”. i said “A and V’s don’t last, but you might prove me wrong.”
But, turns out I was right.
February 2nd, 2009 at 1:18 am
OMG, Ciel…you hit everything on the head!!! Im not a Aries, but i watched an old virgo friend of mine do the same thing with his girlfriend who is an aries, and he was the same in our friendship…Never really lied, but decieved…SO TRUE…tell half truths, or purposefully say something in a way to make you think something else is going on…so many Mind Games!! Always doing something for some thought out future benefit, and not because of real care…will let people just buy him stuff if he could,cheap!…and was such a coward! I know all Virgo Guys aren’t like that, but when they are living in the bad/lost side of themselves its not nice!
March 20th, 2009 at 1:55 am
hmmmm… I’m a V and my gf is an A… I’m 3 years older than her, so I feel like I have the responsibility to “correct” her or “show her the proper way”… I do look at her as a person who needs to be guided at certain things… In my opinion, everything will be all right as long as my gf keeps an open mind… I have been with an A before, so I know my boundaries… … Contrary to some comments on V, I am not cheap… I DO do things for my benefit, but it’s not necessarily leaving others at a “loss”… I think of it as a “win-win” situation… If others gain something, isn’t it fair that I also get something out of it? …
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:54 pm
Hi, I’m a Virgo and my so called by is an Aries. We have been together for 8 months now. For the pass 6 months everything was great and wonderful. Then for the last two months we started to go down hill. His personality started to show and he shift downward.He likes to take control of everything, the center of attention. Likes things his way all the time! Where we eat, he would never ask me he just takes me there. Even when we don’t agree on things its his way. Man this guy is full of it. Funny things was before I dated him I already have a bad impression of him. I gave it a chance and somehow end up liking him for his ways of thinking. Other than that I can’t stand him. I had to dress him and do all these nice things for him and nothing seems enough. I think we are not a good match. Besides I have other guys that wants to be with me more then him. I’m very faithfull to him but what is enough is enough. I don’t think him and I are better off without each other. He is too selfcenter. I rather be with someone who would love and respect me. It is not about him all the time. Kbee
April 6th, 2009 at 1:36 pm
Well, all I have to say as an Arian with my moon in virgo it’s not all that bad with my virgo partner. The matter of the relationship is about give and take, and partnership deffinitley plays a big role. If you can contain these things, then the relationship should keep flowing for however long it wants to. We realized as opposite as we are, if we love each other so much wether it would be out of my emotions or his intellectal views, we work with each other because we are different. That is the only way. I have never would have thought that I could feel this special being with an earth sign =) I give virgos a lot of credit. They are truly the most sincere in the zodiac.
April 6th, 2009 at 7:26 pm
I’m an Aries with my moon in virgo. In all honesty, coming from an arian, virgo’s aren’t bad people. I give them MAJOR credibility because they are the fundamentals of the zodiac, I believe. My Virgo partner is the best thing thats ever happened to me. We learned that it’s better to work WITH each other BECAUSE we are different. It’s a matter of give and take. The top thing I believe that is crucial in an aries-virgo relationship is partnership, which we have plenty of. Compromise is a major thing. Sometimes it is difficult because his words can be harsh and I can charge with great force with my horns, but we always work it out at the end of the day because we realize we love each other and we want nothing more than to be with each other. My insight is the virgo has to be willing to take risks and the aries has to be willing to be ready to have certain settlements. If you can work together hand in hand through the good and the bad, then nothing can stop either of you. My virgo partner makes me feel special in every way and I make him feel loved and secured. It’s good enough for me =]
April 7th, 2009 at 1:04 am
Well I just blocked my virgo from my phone. Things got out of hand. I tried to end it several times, but I’d find him or he’d find me. I made a lot of mistkes with him & I learned a lot from him. I wish I could do it all over again now that I have a better understanding of what I want out of a relationship… Then atleast I’d know whether or not he was the one.
May 11th, 2009 at 12:54 am
I am a virgo Female and i have found that my best relationships have been with two Aries Males and the other relationships that are supposedly supposed to be more compatible were in fact very bad relationships that didn’t last long
I guess I’m just an Aries lover
I mean i have only been in love twice and both times it was with Aries Men
May 25th, 2009 at 8:19 am
i am a virgo and i have dated an aries before ….all i can say from that relationship is that it was fun filled and we never really had any arguments about anything..the reason i left was becuase i couldnt live with someone who was so care free. it made me feel out of place most of the times because i love my routine and he didnt had a routine!
today we are still great friends and he is still amazing and care free as always.
June 16th, 2009 at 5:13 am
My boy friend is an aries we just started dating but so far it has been fun. I dont know what to make of this article although I believe that virgo and aries dont naturally ‘get’ each other. but I also think that many virgos will make an effort to get aries. which could make it work or it could be very wearing on virgo
I guess I will find out if virgo and aries is actually a good match or not!
July 7th, 2009 at 9:54 pm
My best friend is an Aries, and I’mma virgo. It’s fun to know that we’d NEVER work. xD
July 25th, 2009 at 4:47 pm
I’m a Virgoan whose moon is in Sagittarius. About a month ago came the end of a relationship with a gorgeous Aries whose moon is in Capricorn. We had dated for about 3 months and the excitement she had when seeing me at her place was simply infectious! I turned her on with romantic and tender gestures, texts and e-mails. The passion she showed in intimate moments burned memories into my mind that I will either never forget or have to somehow incorporate into my own being.
She was ambitious enough to make it in America on a professional scholarship, but her laziness (her words!) really caught up with her. We gave each other space during the weeks and made up for it with long weekend get-aways and other activities that sometimes included pleasant, intimate dinners out with friends. By the fifth date (the point at which her sexual passion could no longer be contained) I told her my feelings could grow into love, but without reciprocity, I told her that the physical step she was seeking would wait. Of course, I’m sure this only turned her on more.
Three months before we met she had ended a LTR of a year and-a-half duration. But as we got into it she gave me indications that ours would be a long story of its own, while she allowed me to “conquer” her - which didn’t take long. I took the hint (or the bait?) and despite my strong sense that her infatuation would take a lot more to turn into the sort of commitment we seemed to hint at, started viewing her and us in this light. We both know it takes a long time to really know someone.
It ended following a sleepless week for her that included threats of revoking her scholarship funding and imminent deportation back to South America. A few careless words on my part preceding this couldn’t have helped. She insisted on remaining friends, and when I returned the next day to get a more detailed explanation, I received the indication that despite never having got back together with an ex (all TWO of them), she would allow me to decide what I wanted once I got back from the vacation I was taking. I know that I want her and have never wanted anything this much or seen as much potential as I have in this, but once I got back it was clear that she would still have to focus on herself for the three remaining weeks until her fate was clear. After all, the initial explanation was that she could not be involved with ANYONE while completing her scholarship - and I believed it given how easily distracted this otherwise headstrong woman had shown herself to be.
But although I feel like I’m moving on in a sense - and not by choice, I am incredibly reluctant to allow this woman to leave my life as a lover and companion for good. Family is incredibly important to her, and I found her, as the youngest child, to be very dependent on her (psychologist!) mother for daily advice/instruction. But I am undeterred. If it takes marriage to keep her in the country I will do that - even just to prove that I would, and am entirely and happily resigned to the possibility of a lifetime of providing for her every need, comfort and desire for attention that she would require. She knows how difficult relationships can be for her. But I don’t care. To be told by someone that you enjoy being with that much that you make them feel safe, comfortable and happy is too incredible to let go of and something I may gladly spend every waking hour figuring out how to accomplish and maintain.
As she told me, and I agreed with it, love is simple…
But hoping to buck the trend griped about above, my mind is eager to engage the challenge that her passions require, and as determined to meet it as she is to meet her every need!
Life is too easy otherwise.
August 20th, 2009 at 12:29 am
I am an Arian who was dating a Virgo for at least 9 months. I ended it because yes, ciel and KellyBee, Virgos are quite boring and like to play off being interesting and sincere. It is basically a war of defeat not love. Arians are self-centered and dominant, but this doesn’t work when Virgos try to be the same way. My Virgo was faithful though, but he was too dependent. He never did anything by himself or made the effort to make this relationship work. Therefore, it was lopsided, and he continued to make things worse as he pushed me away in his self-absorption. They might want you back.. feigning sincerity, but it’s only for their own ego and for themselves. I am glad to be out of that weighed down relationship. If you want this kinda of A-V thing to work, there’s gonna have to be some hard work involved with a lot of compromise.
September 18th, 2009 at 2:13 am
yeah im a virgo and i love to party and i talk to everyone and im nowhere near perfect im messy mostly and a bad worker so yea
September 25th, 2009 at 12:44 am
I’ve been reading a lot on compatibility on Aries & Virgo and i find it comes across quite negative.
Being an Aries woman i have found my Virgo man to be really special. His nature is so kind and sincere. & i find his organizing ways a relief as I’m rubbish at it.
I think this match does work. Again it’s all about compromise.
Also i once dated a Libra which is suppose to be one of my matches & it was living hell.
It just shows that horoscopes are not everything.
October 28th, 2009 at 1:25 pm
Oh, man oh man, I hate to say it but I’m in love with this Virgo girl for the very first time! I was just a freshman when I realized something…. At first I was really irritated and annoyed at the sigh of her then, I wanted to show off and impress her!!! darn it! now were juniors and I’m still wacked about what I should do… I cant seem to have a decent conversation with her b’coz soon i’d be mumbling over and over and get nervous… WTF? AM I REALLY IN LOVE??? HELP!!!
November 12th, 2009 at 6:11 am
i am a virgo girl and the best relationship i ever had was with an aries man. i loved him and still do to death. for me it was love at first sight. i waited 2 years to get his attention and when he finally came around i thought i was the luckiest woman alive to have him but 6 months later i found myself suffocating from his energy, possessiveness and jealousy and i had to leave him. to this day i can’t forget him, i can’t get over him. he touched me in a way thats gonna effect me forever. i can’t live with him and can’t live without him either
December 13th, 2009 at 9:33 am
as an aries being with a virgo was extremely frustrating and heart breaking. I learned a lot from our relationship and for that I am grateful, but I do not see how an A&V relationship could EVER work long term. We are so different and both extremely stubborn. EVery fight would end in frustration. He was extremely patronizing. I need straight forward honesty and he loooved talking his way around the truth, it was disapointing and i often felt betrayed and worn out.
Our arguments would never end from compromise but from exhaustion. he was extremely fussy and controlling. he was very giving though and would do anything to please me… EXCEPT for what I truley wanted, which was honesty. However he loved cooking and giving me massages whenever I asked,
January 21st, 2010 at 11:37 pm
Lets be clear about Aries… More than one woman has made the claim that they wrote the book on Aries based largely on me. (That by itself is a true complement to an Aries male; allow me to explain…) I have seen dozens of sites and pages about Aries sexual and relationship compatibility. For the most part, they all agree that Aries men are the hardest to get along with if they don’t get some degree of “kinky” sex, get to take the lead or are held without high praise. Well, It’s all true, we’re rock stars, porn stars, hunters, warriors, leaders. But there is also an implication that we’re very complicated so here is a breakdown that might simplify things using what we already know of the man animal in general, taken from eHow.com’s “How to please a man”. The reason I’m using that site’s page is simply because it was the first one I came to that wasn’t a satire about bringing a guy a beer and shutting the hell up.
Step #1 “Meet your man at the door wearing a costume, perhaps a nurse, maid or anything revealing. Play a little fantasy game before heading to the bedroom to fulfill his fantasies.” – Great advise for any woman wouldn’t you say? Here is how it relates to Aries specifically.
Reminding an Aries that he is the number one lover man in his postal district will re-enforce all of that “rock star, porn star, hunter, warrior, leader” stuff. With that said, remember that Aries man is a man of action. Telling him that you love the way he makes you feel safe and sexually satisfied is important but nothing will quite do the trick like jumping on him like you can’t contain your raw sexual desire for him, for in his mind he is all that is man. We’re likely to tell people “Don’t tell me what you’re going to do… Show me!” “Don’t tell me who you want to be… BE IT!” Action here is the main point I’m putting down people. Impulsive and abundant blowjobs will do more for Aries ego than words, flowers or gifts of power tools and porn ever could. Sure they’re great and wanted by every guy but it’s not just the blowjob that excites; understand that there too is an emotional response connected to it. (And I wouldn’t stop there if you want to keep Aries happy and interested, casually flash him in public in a way that only he sees, ask to be tied up and pleasured. Asking or “begging in the heat of passion” for anything outside of the sexual routine from time to time will go along way in both parties satisfaction.) All of those little actions is a re-affirmation of our manhood at one of it’s most primal centers. Not in the mood right tonight? Do it anyway and we’ll do our damnedest to help ya turn that around and make it worth the extra effort for you. Nothin gets you in the mood for sex like performing a willing sexual act. (As an Aries myself you’ll understand why I refuse to sugar coat my wording here. If ya don’t like it, you should not engage an Aries for more than one night at a time.) On top of that, don’t be too shy to brag to your girlfriends, at least little bit, about your Aries man and his sexual prowess and skill… even if you don’t believe it with your whole heart LIE, just a little bit. But also consider that if he isn’t blowing your mind in bed it’s partially your fault for not providing the proper instruction. (Don’t make up stuff HE knows isn’t true either, look for his strengths and let him know how much you value them. This goes for anything outside the bedroom also, for example: maybe your man can fix just about anything. Reward him for a job well done with kudos for his talent.) It may sound like you’re mission statement for the relationship is to boost Aries ego. To a large degree it is, if there is anything more important than my ego, I want it hunted down and shot! Knowing Aries, he will return that effort 10 fold in whatever way you want or need. Part of being alpha male Aries includes having a beautiful woman in genuine, perma-grin. If you as a Virgo, for example, demand service and order this man of action will bust his ass to ensure that you have it! He’ll even try to plan and schedule his impulsive behavior with plenty of notice for you to prepare for it. We’re really simple creatures! Don’t over complicate it.
Step #2 “Feed your man’s regular hunger, not just his sexual appetite. A good meal goes a long way towards keeping a man satisfied since it’s hard to get upset when your tummy is full of good cooking.” For Aries man this is probably no different than it is for every man, of every astrological sign… outstanding in every way! Want to make it even better? Serve it with a smile and the words “for my strong, sexy, handsome or loving man.” (any combination will do.)
Step #3 “Tell your man how great he is” We covered that in #1… moving on.
Step #4 “Watch sports with your man if that’s what he likes to do for entertainment. Or learn to bowl if he’s a bowler. The point is to get over your initial dislike and do some of the things your man likes to do. You get to spend more time together, and he’ll start to see you as a friend, as well as a lover.” For me I don’t watch sports or care who is playing against whom. So I would say don’t pay too much attention to what the “norm guy stuff is”. I don’t want my girl to be “one of the guys” It’s enough that she sees the things I’m interested in and appreciates the fact that I enjoy them. If she really and genuinely wants to learn how to weld for her own projects, I’ll teach her what I know. Just don’t do it because you think I want you to be into the same things as me. I don’t even care if she likes Bob Dylan so much as she understands that I do and if she interrupts certain songs while I’m listening to them, it’s going to piss me off. I have thrown people out of my home for that.
Step #5 ”Keep yourself looking as nice as possible. Get your hair and nails done, wear nice-looking clothes and stay in shape. Men are pleased when they have a well put-together lady on their arm when out in public, so save the sweatpants for the gym.” I don’t think this one needs any more explanation either… If you need to, just re-read #1 and figure out that the two go hand in hand. At the same time don’t be afraid to keep us well groomed too if we start slipping. If our hair is getting long, don’t say something like “You’re startin to look like a dirty hippy.” Just remind us that we look so handsome with shorter hair and there is nothing like a new hair cut to make you want to… you can fill in the blank here because it doesn’t really matter how you end that and its likely we’ll get a trim that day. It’s not hard to manipulate us if you know what strings to pull and as long as you pull the right ones we’ll be happy to dance for you.
Now I know that the majority of this is written mostly toward sex but I want to throw this in there because it plays upon the same egocentric mentality of the Aries. I always wanted a girlfriend that fancied herself as an amateur photographer, constantly snapping off pictures. Not because I like pictures of myself or think that I’m photogenic but rather the ego boost of having my woman think that I am and want to capture those moments of me for herself. It could be that I over romanticize photography but for myself, I can’t take enough pictures of have enough pictures of my sweetie. And I have to admit that it helps that she is drop dead gorgeous and sexy. I cant tell ya how much she drives me wild and I’m sure that it even gets on her nerves from time to time when she walks by and I need a handful. lol
Step #6 “Please your man best by treating him the way you want him to treat you. Men really aren’t that much different from women…except for a little testosterone and a few physical differences.” Pay no attention to this crock of shit… “What?” That’s right, it’s bullshit, get that wording out of your head. By that same school of thought, every guy that brings you flowers wants flowers too? If you want flowers buy your man flowers? Or to take it to an extreme, if a fella wants to have anal sex with you is trying to say he wants something in his ass as well. DON’T ASSUME TOO MUCH! Everyone has different wants and needs from their significant other/partner. If you have specific ways that you want to be treated or pleasured then fucking say so. Don’t expect us to pick up on the things you’re doing or not doing as the example of what you want or don’t want. I know a girl who would never try to choke me during sex but she liked it… how would I know if she hadn’t told me? I wouldn’t have just tried it on a whim because it doesn’t really do anything for me personally… what did do it for me was her telling me that she wanted me to do something to her that was fairly dirty or kinky. Just by asking/telling me to do it almost made me loose it right there. If you cant say it buy us a book and say “I want this.” And if you’re afraid that we’ll get offended at the implication that what we’re doing now isn’t good or good enough… tell us while you’re naked and pinching a nipple. A pretty girl could tell me that she backed over my dog while she was doing that with a come hither look in her eye and I would be all right with it. Then again I don’t have a dog so I’m clearly just making the point that there are great ways to soften that blow.
P.S. I saw a book at the bookstore the other day called “The Good Girl’s Guide To Bad Girl Sex.” Having not read it myself I can’t say too much about it but, based solely on the title, I can say that regardless to how good you are or think you are in bed I’m pretty sure that every woman needs to read this book and take notes. If for some reason you can’t get out to the bookstore, here are a few ideas off the top of my head.
1. Get out of the bedroom! – Or at least off the bed, the easiest way to mix things up a little bit is to do it where it’s not the regular place. Do it on the floor, bent over the arm of the sofa, kitchen table… you get the idea. Take him where he stands so to speak.
2. Thigh highs, heels and a smile. Maybe one of his dress shirts unbuttoned… just because you wanted to. – If you need more explanation than that, I don’t know how to help ya’.
3. Stoke the fires early on – There are a million creative ways that you can get your man’s juices flowing. Leave a dirty note in his shirt pocket, on his cell phone, digital camera. Wear a skirt more than you do now, that by it’s self can do wonders but if you’re on your way to dinner or something; take your panties off in the car and hang them on the rearview mirror… If you’re up to the task, put on a quick solo show for him. Going back to one of his dress shirts; understand that in his mind that most likely is the uniform of being Man and you wrapping yourself in it is in a sense wrapping yourself in his manhood. If he is in the habit of setting out his cloths for the next day you can use that to your advantage buy putting that shirt on, snap a pic of yourself wearing just that posing or doing something sexy and shoot it over to his cell phone around lunch time; Or print it off and slip it in the shirt pocket. You might think that this stuff sounds silly or you might be embarrassed doing it but unless you change what you’re doing, you can’t expect things to get any better for either one of you. Understanding the psychology of sex for your man will help you overcome those natural inhibitions if you have them. If he’s smart he’ll try to do the same for you and your sexual psychology. Buy a copy of “How to Satisfy A Woman Every Time…And Have Her Beg For More” by Naura Hayden, read it and let him see that you’re reading it. When he asks why simply tell him that there are some sexy ideas in this book that you would like to try. Maybe even tell him you’re borrowing the book from a girlfriend or something… Naura Hayden also wrote “How to Satisfy A Man Every Time” You should probably pick that one up too. Most people know that that the key to a good relationship is good communication so why don’t we tell each other what we want and need until we’re fed up and frustrated? Well all I can do is talk for myself in the context of an Aries making a bold blanket statement for Aries. As the egocentric men I am and we are, we don’t like feeling that we’re begging for sex because it is in direct contrast to the “rock star, porn star, hunter, warrior, leader, lord of the manor, alpha male” mentality we inherently possess. Some Aries men will use that mentality to rule as a dictator and demand these things but that’s a jackass move and shouldn’t be rewarded.
Also if for some reason a guy is reading this so he can edit it down for his astrological sign and casually plant it somewhere for his girlfriend to read let me share something else with you. Dude, did you know that, according to surveys, 70% of women have NEVER had an orgasm with a man. 25% of men will get turned down by their own lovers over half the time. These men have women who think sex is a chore. Nearly 50% of men have partners that will NEVER ask for sex (would you ask for something that doesn’t give you any pleasure?) 92% of women will FAKE ORGASMS just to “get it over with” on a semi regular basis. It’s obvious that what most men are doing simply isn’t working. If you think you’re an exception to that. (Denial aint just a river in Egypt) chances are YOU’RE NOT and that attitude (believing that you’re skilled in bed) may be the biggest reason you’re not. Just having a “big” unit does not make you good in bed… Don’t take it too hard though, I believe that if she wants a better sex life then she has to take a big part of the responsibility for it also.
Look, statistically I have to accept that I’m just as likely not one of the few guys that woman cum running to for sexual gratification. Knowing that might be a possibility has made me a better lover in that I’m eager to learn something new and I’m constantly looking and creating new ideas on how to get that big O for her. My advise to you my friend is to do the same and by the way (unless she asks for it by name) 97.5% of what you see in porn… yeah, don’t do that if you’re trying get her off. There are thousands of great books on the subject written by people who actually know what the hell they are talking about… Steve at work has probably never been remotely successful at making a woman cum so don’t listen to what he says he does to drive women wild. Other than that… Good luck to ya all!
February 2nd, 2010 at 9:34 pm
i am an aries about to start a relationship with a virgo mail, i really like him and was attracted to him at first sight. we ve been friends ever since and we have gone on dates a couple of times. i find his company interesting but i think we might have issues on the TRUST aspect. i suspect he still has a girlfriend but he is showing so much interest in me though i havent agreed to a relationship yet, i just wanted to have a view of what it might be like. everything said about arians right here applies so well to me but i wish to God it doesn’t apply to him cos that will be the end of all this!
March 19th, 2010 at 6:30 am
Aires men are babies.. Maybe just the one I came across was. I’m a virgo, neat, tidy, great with money but I hate the statement that virgos are boring and like to be home bound. I’m a very artist virgo and I love to travel, dance and have fun. The worst relationship I have ever had in my life was with a Aires male. As soon as he discovered how well I maintain things such as work and money he left it all up to me. He had many wonderful ideas but always needed me to make these things happen. Brilliant flashes but no steady flame. He always craved attention and was obsessed with his body, the way he dressed and what people thought of him. Seemed to always be hiding his true self. Had to be the “nice guy”. I do not think anyone had ever seen him in the way I had. It was horrible. If he could not get the attention from me he would find it somewhere. Old flame, online. Being a virgo that is a huge disrespect to me. The straw that broke the virgo’s back, after 5 years I was done! He always had to have his way and I have never seen a grown man throw a fit like a child until him. He was always right, Never would except blame. If he did something dishonest it was because I wasn’t doing something right in our relationship. Nevermind that I worked 10 hours a day to make sure we were both taken care of.. Just like a virgo! Okay, maybe this guy was just a jerk and it has nothing to do with him being a Aires. I’m not saying I would never date another Aires but I have been single now for two years. Aires have a lot of wonderful qualities and I love the Intelligence they can often posses. I’m sure there are some great ones out there. I love Aires females, we get along great!
June 8th, 2010 at 4:27 am
OMG Lilly, you also dated my ex! When I met him I told him I don’t date Aries because of a bad relationship from my younger days but somehow we ended up dating for nearly 8 years. He was so childlike and always right. He is all ideas and no action, blows money left and right. Not responsible at all, total flirt and cheater. Soooo obsessed with his looks and the kicker…he always seemed like he was hiding his real self. It was more important for him to project an image than be himself. It killed me. He would also talk about these sexual things, but was a complete bore when it came down to it. No passion for anything and wants the world to kiss his ass. Given, we are friendly now and get together better than when we dated because I accept him for his own selfish ways and don’t need him to make me feel special at all anymore. I think we could be great friends actually.
June 12th, 2010 at 6:13 pm
hmm…..I honestly have to disagree with this. I am a Virgo girl, and immediately my Aries guy and I found that we had a mutual mindset. We view the world similarly.
The thing we worked so well with? He spoke the thoughts I was too cautious to say myself. He spoke for me, and with all the fire I wish I had. I represented a quieter, thoughtful part of him that he avoided. He taught me how to stand up for myself and not think so much, just go in and do the best! And physically! One kiss = butterflies & heart skipping beats. His fiery passion and fearless skill and simple will to please combined with my perfection and sensuality and will to please is addictive! Financially? We were both meticulous about balancing our money (I have more than he does), and we took turns purchasing and sacrificing.
You may notice this is in past tense. Yes, we’ve separated. This is because he is clinically depressed (You know how much Emotion I had to deal with?!?!? But I didnt mind). He often criticized me than I ever criticized him. Anyway, now we’re sort of on a physical thing and we’re trying to distance ourselves. Proving difficult! =P
One thing: I am concerned in the welfare of others, while he is self-centered. However, at the height of our relationship, he did the best he could for me & us as a couple and was very sweet and considerate. It’s his unique mental problems that ruined us.
August 6th, 2010 at 10:05 am
I am an female A & my bestfriend (guy) and boyfriend (of 8 months) are both V’s. I can say from past and present relationships with V’s that you will never see “eye to eye” on everything, but if you both believe in eachother and are willing to compromise, and see past the V insecurity (sometimes mistaken as deciet or secretiveness) and the A compulsiveness and just trust that when V is ready, they will share everything with their A and once A calms down, they can be the sweet, caring, happy-go-lucky person V really craves and needs beside them, everything will be as it was in the wonderful beginning (or better because now you know that it is love)
My bestfriend and I are constantly disagreeing and he has this idea in his head that he’s never wrong. So I’ve learned to just let him have his way and when he realizes it wasn’t so, we just go on as if nothing had happened. He eventually mentions his err in his own time and I just laugh at him and say “okay”. Fortunately for me, I got to practice dealing with V’s through him and knew what to do when situations arise with my V guy. One of the hardest lessons that an A needs to learn is that when your V goes into one of their solitary modes (dont want to talk to anyone, or doesn’t care about anything) just leave them be! Remind them that you are there for them (in the background) but don’t pester, once is enough for any question, so once you’ve asked “are you alright” or “is there anything I can do” let it go. They will eventually come around and more than likely will tell you everything and they will love you for being that wonderful, caring person that you are.
August 12th, 2010 at 5:33 am
I am a virgo woman dating an aires man for the last six months. We just broke up because of money issues. It seems the opposite. I felt he was cheap with money and he wants me to go “dutch” or pay something for everything we do. I DO NOT DRINK ALCOHOL and we only see each other two nights on the weekend. We go to a club with a $10 entrance and maybe one night out to dinner for the most part. I believe that a man should pay for a woman. I am out of work and have it hard raising my daughter alone with nothing from the ex-husband. This aires man is making approximately $4000-$6000/month and cries that I should be contributing to the dates when we are together. I have already taken him to $240 Broadway play, taken him on a boatride which was $40/person, bought him a few material items, and I am always the one driving out to see him (he lives 35 miles from me). He won’t come to see me. He complains if I ask him for gas money also as I am doing the driving and putting wear and tear on my car. He thinks I am using him. I finally “threw in the towel”. I really think I have “fallen for him” and am very depressed over the breakup. We have a fantastic time when we are together and we think alot alike, but or financial values and the fact that he does not want to come to see me in my environment hurts me. I feel he is selfish and does not want to reciprocate and he thinks I am using him. What do you make of this?
August 30th, 2010 at 8:15 pm
I am an Aries girl N I’ve been dating a Virgo guy on n off 4 about 4yrs….n i’ve noticed that they do like 2 b decietful…we live n da same state but about 45minutes away. he has been with da mother of his children 4 about 10yrs n they continue 2 live n da same household n he swears dat they r not intimate…but i was born at nite but it wasn’t last nite. he is fussy, critical and he over analyzing life n general. me being da spontaneous outgoing bold Aries im NOT gonna take his critizing me wut-so-eva and besides his decietfulness n critiqing me its been good i think with ne open relationship can work if u have good communication. which now we do. n things have been better. we r 7 years apart i was 18 n fresh out of high school n he was 24. i am now 22 n he will be 29 sum how he got with me n my young fragile state n sumhow n da bavk of his mind he expects me 2 be da same naiive girl dat i once was!
October 21st, 2010 at 5:50 am
i am a female aris and i am current in a long term relationship.I am still with my bf but the relationship is basically coming to an end. My feelings are strong for another guy that is a virgo but he gives off mixed signals. I would like to end my relationship with my bf and start over with virgo but it doesn’t seem like it would be a good idea. Sometimes he acts like he wants to be with me but it might be all about sex for him. Can we really have a real reationship after being friends with benifits first? He also seems very friendly with other girls but i can’t say anything about that because i am not his gf. Are virgos really friendly or could he possibly be sleeping around with other girls too at the sametime because he is currently single but seems to be looking for a relationship even though he says he’s not? It seems like the relationship would work if he is willing to commit but i don’t know how he really feels about me, i could just be another girl that he is springing along.
November 7th, 2010 at 6:43 pm
My turbulent but deep and fulfilling relationship…
My Sun is Virgo, his was Aries
but our Rising signs were Scorpio and Capricorn
And our moons were Libra and Scorpio .
Our Venus Leo and Aries
He has a lot of Pisces and i have a lot of Libra elsewhere. (both opposites to our sun signs)
Our Uranus&Neptune are both Capricorn, our Pluto is both Scorpio.
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Although we can’t trust each other right now, even tho the relationship was
turbulent (mostly his wild insecurities and me keeping silent too much)we
are communicating very well right now and regarding the best of each other. Now my
trust issues are the question. Either way we are both holding on to each other in
a fierce grip, yet loving each other is a bit like being in love with fire and eventually
we get burned. We’ve tried to see other people but we both lost interest and came back to eachother.
He’s working on his demanding/selfish Aries ways and now we know each other almost too well, we can’t hide anything, we finish what we know the other is going to say/do.
I dunno if i should risk him again, but I’m not afraid of him/us. I can’t say he always brings out the best of me. He has betrayed me and hurt me. But like i said, i’m not scared…Ugh, either way our chemistry overrides our thought process D: . It’s been a year since we connected, I feel as though I’ve known him my whole life. He is still a huge part of my life and my motivation. Yet everyone says stay away from his potentially abusive nature…
Any suggestions? :\
January 14th, 2011 at 5:50 pm
Me and my husband have been married for 10 years and he is a Aries and Im a Virgo. It works well for us as in opposits atract. He works hard and I balance the money well. He has a temper I am able to reverse it with my optamism. He likes that I am clean and organized. We balance each other out real will. So dont let a sign determine who you date. It could work out real well with the right person. Whatever trait he is bad at I am good at and the other way around. It works out great.
April 2nd, 2012 at 1:11 am
i had a horrible encounter with an aries guy. im a female virgo and he was a male aries. talk about immature! he acted like a horny little 8 year old. we didnt even go out on a first date yet and all he wanted to talk about was sex. ugh needless to say a first date never happened.