Do all Librans’ ’sit on the fence’? |
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I thought it would be nice if I put up a question every now and then for everyone to put down their opinion etc. I have done this just for fun and it is not meant to be taken seriously!!
I am a big fan of the air sign Libra and have a Libra Moon myself 
One of the characteristics of these wonderful people is their ability to stay in the middle when it comes to forming opinions. If their is a disputeyou will normally find the Libra’s to be the ones seeing both sides of the arguemen, taking ages (if ever) to form an opinion of there own. I happen to believe that this is a good quality but I know many people who find it quite frustrating!
Please leave comments of your own opinions on this, and any Librans’ out there or friends and family of a ’sit on the fence’ Libra, …let’s hear from you too. Also if you have any questions you would like me to ask here then please drop me a line and I will put the best ones up on the site.
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May 28th, 2009 at 6:29 pm
Bring a Libra kinda sucks.. I’m always day dreaming and have so many ideas that I can never finish one. I can never make up my mind on ANYTHING and that makes people so mad at me. But I’am good mediator..
May 29th, 2009 at 12:05 am
My dad is a Libra, but he rarely sits on the fence. His mind is influenced way too much by those around him, or by the popular opinion. However, he’s still very indecisive and has my mom make all the decisions. So either they sit on the fence or go with what everyone else is thinking. (Unless they are highly influenced by extremist Scorpio, of course.)
May 29th, 2009 at 2:01 pm
hi im a libra, and i tend to sit on the fence quite alot. there is always two sides to every story, and being a libra, you want to know. i hate taking sides, so im always in the middle, that way, you don’t lose any friends and you’ve already shown your opinion. okay this can annoy some people, but its always best to just keep out on anyones business for it can be a bit sticky and messy
xx
June 1st, 2009 at 5:22 pm
Libra-rising with Neptune in my 1st house. NOT indecisive. Aries Sun in the 7th, Sag ruling my 3rd house…perhaps too quick to opinions, which I’ll change later, if I’ve mis-judged.
Pisces in my 6th house makes it tough to stay focused. Work with a go-with-the-flow / catch the wave momentum…and ebbing. Venus there, too. Love beauty & art & creativity.
June 3rd, 2009 at 10:20 am
I completely agree with donna
i’m always seeing everyone’s point of view as if it were my own, i just like to be transparent so that i don’t offend anyone.
I would call it being tactful and/or diplomatic…to look on the bright side.
June 3rd, 2009 at 10:21 am
but being a libra really does suck sometimes…i feel very lame sometimes :S especially in friendships and love relationships.sigh!
June 7th, 2009 at 11:48 pm
I’m a female Libra.
The further back in time growing up, the more indecisive I was. I was fascinated with strong women who didn’t have this problem. Fascinated!
Making a decision was not just about a Libra Sun working it out. All the other components in my Chart had to be in agreement too, and this is difficult when you have various demanding Aspects!!
My respect for strong women was rarely reciprocated because my Cancer Moon was slow on the uptake. In reaction, I would try to be quicker, but then I’d come across moody & illogical.
I would try to be the “supporter” but then I got stepped on, and never knew how to time my actions, so again, left in the dust.
You would think a Scorpio Stellium (Mercury/Mars/Neptune) would help, but it sometimes exhasterbates the moodiness, and it’s not a likable characteristic.
Finding my center was the key, through meditation and a martial arts-type focus. My Chart has always made me feel like I am driving several different cars at the same time, each with their own needs. Talk about balancing!
I know it’s not popular to say one has a Rising on a Cusp, but it is in the very last degrees of Taurus. It has always made me feel even more obligated to bring my thoughts & emotions into a “body of action” - so more frustration, and many times, depression.
There are issues with control I still struggle with because I would like to be more agreeable & flexible with people like a good Libra, but I cannot because I’d just give myself away completely.
Focusing on my inner-warrior is key, but many times the bluntness of life shakes my Libra & Cancer parts and I suffer physically. So warrior, yes. But in moderation, which is a really weird thing to steer.
Thank you for this platform & all the hard work.
.glo
June 11th, 2009 at 9:16 pm
HI, Im a Libra Female and I have no trouble with taking a side in an arguement, when something or someone is wrong theyre wrong. I find the comments that people make about Librans deeply insulting. I can make a real decision, if it matters Ill make it quick, but if its just some silly thing that doesnt have relevence then I may take my time, that common reason is that I hate taking the first pick at anything. As a Libra, you may find yourself letting the others go first or getting that first peice of cake. We dont like to be unfiar, that part is true. Also I am divorced from a Libra man. bad news!!!! Libra and Libra should never marry, youll spend all the time fighting about who chooses what, etc, and yes, we do fight and can leave just as nasty of a sting as our Scorpio sisters, we just do it with a smile
I am currently engaged to an Aquarian man, who ironically proposed to me within days of our first chat. Everyone thinks Im crazy but it just feels right, he’s my soul mate, hows that for a quick decision all you Libra critics, I dont sit on the fence, I will lean on it though if its clean 
but my mind is made up and so is my heart….
Thanks
June 12th, 2009 at 12:12 am
I’m definitely a Libra female, and boy, do I ever look at all angles before I make a decision. My SIL hates to shop with me because I’ll know the entire inventory of the shop before I make my purchase. But when I leave, I know that I made the best decision possible.
I do tend to surround myself with strong people as well, and I listen to them often. The only real requirement is that they be intelligent (I was born in the Chinese Year of the Rat.)
But this is NOT a negative, mediation is what we do best! Calming and keeping the peace in the family (or workplace) is where we excel, this is necessary, and a gift that I certainly cherish.
June 12th, 2009 at 7:24 am
Libras! I love them
My aunt’s boyfriend is a Libra and he has the most wonderful eyes, but he does sit on the fence.
Whenever the two want to go out to eat or something, he always tells her “I don’t know, it’s up to you.” She’s a Sagittarius, so she’s usually the one deciding, but she’d prefer for him to make the decisions!
No matter, they are a very cute couple .
Thanks for your website, I really like it!
June 14th, 2009 at 4:34 pm
I’m an Aquarius with my Ascendent under Libra and even though I naturally like seeing the multiple sides of an argument, I can still decide for myself what is wrong and what is right and form an individual opinion over something.
From what I have seen, when it comes to morals and ethics Libras do have a good sense of what is ethically wrong and what is ethically good. My Libra friend is against the cruelty of animals; she knows who she is voting for in elections; she supports gay marriage and is against other social discriminations; she believes in equal rights for women and so on. But ask her where she wants to go eat on a date and she won’t be able to decide on her own.
Libras do sit on the fence sometimes but it just takes a strong-willed, patient person to influence them and guide them towards a path. They’re smart and lovable people, all they need is that encouragement to form their own individual opinions.
A question I have been asking myself lately is if “Square” relationships can work. Ex. Aquarius and Taurus, Leo and Scorpio, Cancer and Aries, Sagittarius and Virgo, Pisces and Gemini, etc. and what are people’s experiences on them.
June 19th, 2009 at 4:28 am
I’m a libra lady,and, this is how it has always worked for me… If someone is telling me about an issue they need resolved with someone else, I have always found that I can put myself in both parties involved,positions. And give my honest opinion,my goal being to not side with anyone, but to just help them both see things from each others perspective, and, to hopefully find some middle ground, if not a solution. I am a true Libra, through & through. Thanx
June 20th, 2009 at 1:24 pm
Omar -
In response to you wondering about Square relationship’s working, in romance & friendship, some people need a certain stress factor in their life, and maybe Square’s need that relationship to work something out.
Hopefully it is a transitory relationship because it shouldn’t be that much work all the time.
However, I do feel that some Square’s are much more difficult than others, and of course Moon, Mercury & Venus placements are important.
I think for example, Aries/Cancer energies, between Sun’s or other planets, are horrible. Cancer is always trying to prove they can handle it, and Aries is never really going to compromise to Cancer’s satisfaction and a lot of resentment builds up over a short time. Even if it’s not between Sun’s, if it’s a Mercury/Venus or Sun/Moon, it can’t be ignored.
I think Gemini/Pisces energies are a little easier because they are both Mutable, and especially if there are other energies to ground them in a common goal.
Virgo/Sagittarius energies are not as bad because Sag’s are usually determined and Virgo’s are usually supportive of them. But if the Sag has no respect for details, it can be frustrating.
Taurus/Aquarius energies are not bad at all. They usually find common ground very easily if they are not prone to stubborness.
Leo/Scorpio is hit or miss. Personally, I don’t like the drama which occurs, but there are surprising relationships that are working long-term. Ex: Arnold Schwarzenegger & Maria Shriver work it out, but Shriver has a Scorpio Sun, Leo Moon, so she’s already experienced with that Square energy INTERNALLY.
It’s interesting.
June 22nd, 2009 at 10:04 pm
I too believe that some of these things said about Libras are insulting. I will “ride the fence” on things that frankly don’t need to be decided on or are insignificant. Its not that I am riding the fence so much as i just really don’t believe it deserves the effort. I feel that way about a lot of things so it could be perceived as indecisiveness but to me its more indifference and disinterest.
I tend to be the decision-maker and leader in most relationships. My leadership style is not overbearing and people can have a hard time following what they see as rudderless, but there is always a method to the madness. Good leadership has nothing to do with brash and sheer force of will in my opinion.
I am compassionate and always considering the effects on others for the most part but I tend to try to keep the bigger picture in mind and need to balance the get it done with the means. i do not let myself get mired in the means however which many seem to think Librans will do.
June 25th, 2009 at 1:04 pm
I have absolutely no problem making decisions regarding IMPORTANT matters. I let my better half decide what we’ll eat for lunch :o)
I also have a very strongly developed sense of right and wrong and in no way fear confrontation. Here’s the kicker though…if I don’t care anything about you/want to have a relationship with you (friendship included)/don’t respect you I will NOT argue with you about ANYTHING! Conflict leads to understanding in my mind. You fight to come to a better understanding so that your relationship can flourish. There are only a chosen few that I desire to make that kind of investment in.
June 28th, 2009 at 2:03 pm
I totally agree with DOMINANT LIBRA. I think that sometimes indecisiveness gets a bad wrap. I’m a Libra Sun/Cancer Rising with a lot of fire in my chart. There are simply things in life that don’t hold my interest, so why bother forming an opinion? Why waste the energy when I could be daydreaming about something I like?
My indecisiveness tends to lie more to the mundane. Life decisions come very easy to me, I trust my intuition totally. But a restaurant menu can be overwhelming!
It’s funny that I stumbled upon your website today. The past few days I’ve taken note to how blessed I’ve been having many Libras friendships through out my life. Libras far outnumbers any other birth sign. I feel very fortunate! It’s fun being a Libra raising my Libra daughter!
July 3rd, 2009 at 5:54 am
i am a libra and i am selfish but i hate it
July 3rd, 2009 at 5:55 am
not that that has anything to do with anything. and i dont try or want to be selfish i just think i am. see. here i am sitting here talking about how selfish i am. i really am. oh well. my goal is to become selfless
July 3rd, 2009 at 5:57 am
but i guess if you want to become selfless, you have to be selfish first. “if you want to become straight, you must allow yourself to be crooked. if you want to be whole, you must first allow yourself to be empty.”
-tao te ching
July 8th, 2009 at 2:09 pm
I am Libran…..I do not sit on fence…but I do always hold a balance in my hands
I hate liars and betrayers…
Definitely I would love to sit in the company of ‘thinking’ people !
July 15th, 2009 at 1:17 am
I am a libran woman…and I do sit on the fence on things I don’t feel are important. Like what or where to eat, many times I just want everything so deciding means I only get one. I also try to weigh out things to see whether I want to put in the mental energy to see it through (I do not give up easily in an argument…I can keep arguing even when I’ve decided I’m wrong).
But I do want everyone to be happy before I’m happy. Which I’ve decided what I want which may seem indecisive to others.
I come up with great ideas (I’m a researcher) but do not always follow all the way through, especially if I get my answer I may not care about the bigger picture.
July 22nd, 2009 at 2:40 am
I;m a libra guy, and what a coincidence!! my mom and sister are libras too! =P we are talking about 3 cute and smart ppl under the same roof! XD it must be libra genetic dna lol well, my mom sister and myself are usually cheerful and umm just imagine 3 libras in one room and a Gemini kid(little sister) lol very energetic family i would say and it is waaaaaay to easy to pass ideas and opinions in between us, sometimes my mom gets in arguement with my little sister(libra vs gemini…. fight!) well they just got 2 extra libras in the house and we do take the side we think is right, sometimes it is the gemini side which makes us vs other libra but then it is easy for my mom to understand and argument is over =P just take it easy! life’s good! LG;)… XD sorry jk =x
July 22nd, 2009 at 11:32 am
I am a female Libra, and I do “sit on the fence”. I feel like the reason I do this a lot is because I weigh the pros and cons of each option, and most of the time the pros and cons equal each other out, so it’s hard for me to choose which one I’d rather have. I really do think I am an indecisive person, but that’s not to say that I don’t have strong opinions. Also, I feel like being a Libra makes me a very good listener, I love listening to what others have to say and comparing every opinion. I agree that Libras always see both sides to every situation, because I always do!
I read somewhere that many things don’t bother Libras the way it would bother someone else, and I think that’s also true.
July 30th, 2009 at 4:16 am
I’m a libra and my indecisiveness really gets to my girl friend but i really cant help it. If she asks what i want for dinner, if there isn’t anything in particular that i feel for its the most difficult thing to actually decide and not be if-ing about it in my mind even after i’ve already made a decision my mind still isn’t really made up. i think librans think most with there heart and are controlled mostly by what they feel. so when a decision is to be made and we’re in the middle of the road because we have no real feelings or thoughts or needs(depending on the situation) on the topic its hard to really decide without carefully weighing the pros and cons. i wouldn’t say we are unable to come to a decision and be convinced about it…we just need enough time to argue it out in our minds first…so dont get impatient or frustrated thats just the way our minds work. Librans depend mainly on logic and needs to be able to reason things out objectively and this takes time. I’m glad im a libra tho and i wouldnt change it for the world…however, i dont think i’d want to have a libran child. we’re too sensitive and ppl tend to not understand us. i wouldnt want my kid to go through what i go through with the emotional twists and turns that may be very unnecessary but just cant be avoided. i’d want to have a sagg…I hate capricorns so much i also had to add that little bit of info. does ne other libra feel the same way about capricorns???
August 6th, 2009 at 12:03 pm
I am a young Libra male and I am I guess a “typical” Libra from the get go of even deciding what Im about to say…
Overall I don’t think Libra’s get enough credit for how wonderful and caring or even how smart they really are. People seem to under mind the potential of a Libra, male or female, because of the fact that were so easy going. Well sorry were not as dramatic as a fire sign to always have to prove out points. Sorry not to right away pick on fire signs (I’ll get to the other elements later ha ha( but overall we can be some of the most compassionate people around. I know it sounds really egotistical to say all this but I hate how much people under estimate Libras. Ya we are fence sitters, like to keep the peace but I personally have a Taurus moon, with Scorpio rising. So Im not your most typical Libra, Im more fiesty and aggressive- hence Taurus moon etc… But at the end of the day Im sooo thankful to be a Air sign, especially a the Cardinal Air sign of the Zodiac. Cardinal signs tend to be the more all around group who tackle on a lot of challenge’s in life, go through a lot of transformations, growth, experience etc and still remain to want to learn and grow from it all again. So with all of my Libra opinions being said I just want to stress how wonderful of people we are, come on folks you know you always run to your Libra friends when you have an issue… We’re what you need! Ha ha ok I’ll shut up now!
August 9th, 2009 at 3:09 am
lol at Chris XD I would agree that ppl usually underestimate librans =P and yeah! librans are very caring and loving ppl .> cause I wouldn’t be surprised if they would show grudge for parents =x
August 17th, 2009 at 5:43 am
Wow. So your brave post was to redirect the Libra winds on themselves. We are tops that spin our selves. We found perpetual motion.
I am a Libra, with a Libra Moon!, and Taurus Rising.
It seems to me that I bring up the subject of being on the fence every once in while to those that get offended by me.
I love switching sides to an argument, I love taking the underdog, and/or ganging up on the opposition.
Some say that Libras like to hear themselves talk. I don’t think its the case. Its usually 1 of 2 things ( who could of guesed it wouldnt be just one with Libra!)
1st I like to know as much as I can about a conversation that I will challenge the conversation by bringing up many different points of view and arguing them till were all dead.
2. I find most conversations to be extremely boring. It can take allot for me to feel “into” the conversation. I get extreme satisfaction to know that a conversation has exhausted all elements of explanation.
I find to completely know a situation it has to change in how it is being said during the conversation, not after. Kinda like having two camera angles.
The challenge that I and other Libras I have met is that we need to focus on what WE WANT. We know that we can make any situation work. Literally! But inside of us there are situations that we choose to do for someone else that do not make us happy. We all need to learn to thing of ourselves down the road before we give our left arm. Duh Libra you wont get it back.
To those who are wondering what my point is, you have found what it is to hear/listen or speak to a Libra. I am actually wondering if I did answer the question.
To a Libra we are not afraid of either side. We can talk about the most dark and sinister things like we are Hitler himself. We also seem like sissy’s when all we do is talk about the pretty things in life. Others will be frustrated with us cause we have lost there attention. And that was our point. Its not just what is said but how its said. We will then move on to a better conversation. Even if it is with the homeless man who smells on the street. Hmm I wonder If he will challenge me? Conversation is a sport.
The fact is that we like to juggle… We really don’t have any intentions on setting any of our balls down. And if we do we can pick up all 15 subjects at once with out fail.
Here’s a good question for other Libras.. Can you carry a 4-5 conversations simultaneously without skipping a beat? If you can you will love the looks others give you. When I do this my words come out like I never stopped the first conversation . Its great.
End.
August 24th, 2009 at 2:28 am
I am a libra and i wouldnt say i sit on the fence i am very dominate and like things my way i like to take control but yes i do say “i dont know you decide” but i believe its just because libras are people pleasers and want to make sure the other person is getting what they want when two people are deciding. but deep down i know what i really want and sometimes i wish i was more of the fence sitter because i feel sometimes people are intimidated on how open minded i am.
August 24th, 2009 at 5:14 am
I am an aquarian female and have dated two libras that hold the quality that you speak of…undesicive….unable to make a decision in so many things. I have started communicating with my third Libra in hopes of finding this excellent “Match”. This one seems to be the typical Libra in other ways, but can make a decision. Back at the first two. Not sure if it is my way of thinking as an aquarian, but I see this undesiciveness as not haveing a mind of their own. I have been in conversations with these guys and one person says it this way and they are agreeing with them and I bring up how I feel different and they then agree with me. Well, guys which is it. Just a minute ago you said you would like to live in a big house and now that I say I like a small home you decide that is okay. Hmmmm that is the way I take that, and both relationship fizzled. This third Libra looks like a keeper. Time will tell. I don’t want a man to agree with me with every little thing, I just want him to have a mind of his own, an opinion of his own, etc.
August 28th, 2009 at 6:32 am
Libra/Libra/Taurus/Horse
Hello all.
I love coming here to read the posts and what not.And I don’t plan on coming back to this post but I do because its kinda a part of me and therefore have an interest in making sure people know Libras’
Libras don’t usually know why they are indecisive. To them indecisive is just a word like you calling a leaf brown, they don’t care. If a Libra is giving you a chance to have a say so that means that they will really do anything. Try it! They aren’t BS-ing.
I kinda got offended by the comment above about wanting someone who knows what they want. If a soul out there really knows what they want “for real” they are the rarity.
A Libra will not be held down by any single idea, its very against there nature. I personally believe that when you know what you want then you are giving up the ability to see other things that may benefit you more!
To sit on the fence is to say that one never moves. A Libra will move to both sides and back again before you can blink. Libras like to spin many plates, not just one.
I recommend that you Libra doubters play their game for a bit. Argue with them for no other reason than to argue. To bring a conversation to a higher level by not limiting it to your “PRIDE”. The moment you have a plan or idea, then set it into stone you and you alone will feel the pain of the stone breaking. Everything will break at some point, Everything! So in that manner a Libra is protecting everything by not classifying anything. A Libra doesn’t care to be right or wrong. Just don’t flex if they are right.
So Miss Alice, remember , actions speak louder than words. A Libra who is indecisive on his feeling towards you will prove his feelings over time as he places the blanket over you as you sleep. Get’s breakfast ready too! Be honored that a Libra will consistently speak to you. We as Libras felt a pain early in life , like feeling that no one wanted to really listen to what we were saying. So as we grow we get a little picky to whom we speak to. He chooses to speak to you everyday on many subjects. Show him you care and let him. Ask him things like. If you were to live by yourself would you like a big or small house. Either way you will find he can make both work. And have a good time doing it.
Ba bye
August 31st, 2009 at 8:32 pm
I am a libra, September 25th. I am indecisive at first, but when I make a decision I am 100 percent about it. I will be loyal and driven with the decisions I make especially in life decisions like a career or relationship. It takes me a long time to decide what I really want but it works out to my advantage most of the time. I am loyal to the decision I make and will stick by it and do anything to make it happen…. The only time it failed me was when I lost my soulmate because I was afraid to take that leap of faith. By the time I was ready he was married. I’m learning to act a little faster now. If something feels right I try to ignore the nagging voice in my head that says “what happens if….”
I generally go with the flow with small decisions and whatever anyone else wants to do is fine. Little decisions are not worth worrying about.
Can anyone explain to me what the “sun and moons” mean? There are a few people on here that say they are a libra but have a moon in cancer or a moon in another sign. How does that work?
September 3rd, 2009 at 10:11 am
I find myself literally ’sitting on the fence’.. personally, being a Libra means that at times I withdraw myself from the rest of the world as if to say I am ‘above’ and sometimes ‘better’ than everyone else and actually stand around on the street or at a party for example just watching and examining people, talking to myself in my head at the same time.
I also manage to blend in wherever I go because I can pull off the ‘i’m just another guy standing around’ pose. And no one ever wants to give me trouble either because I’m just so good at staying out of peoples business, while at the same time alluring people and pulling them towards me with curiosity.
Being a Libra is GREAT!
October 5th, 2009 at 12:50 pm
Very well said I.H. We are very misunderstood and underrated. Thank you for that comment.
October 7th, 2009 at 5:13 am
at times, we do sit on the fence but my great Aries and Scorpio friends are my inspiration,they are helping me be more assertive and to realize that i must take care of myself and i can’t make everybody happy. i respect strong women.i think Libra women are like wine, we get better with time:)~
October 9th, 2009 at 6:14 am
yeah, it is so true, libran people, men and women, are kind of selfish and good at using people. I m in between of virgo and libra, I can get along with libran, but I wont have deep conversation or geniune friendship or relationship with them.
October 9th, 2009 at 4:03 pm
Here’s the thing, I’m a female Libra and it really depends on the date of your birthday as far as Libra’s and other signs go. I’m so dogmatic, I will research something to death and ask so many questions, that people ask me if I’m a cop. It’s not that I’m nosey; it’s just that I don’t assume. I don’t want to run around the wrong information, so I ask people questions and I look them in their eyes. I have a clear cut idea of who am I. I hate to procrastinate… I HATE with a passion. I do not like to wait; when I want it I want it. I won’t’ wait for someone to do it for me so “sitting on the fence” is a no go for me.
I do look at both sides of an argument, because being fair is so important to me and being RIGHT is ever more important to me. I don’t ever want to tell a person to do something and it’s wrong. So what does a Libra do, I started reading books and I graduated at 14, ended up with a Master’s in Pscyh. Not because I’m an Einstein, because I really do not focus very well, unless its’ something I’m interested in. But I just get bored so fast. The human brain interested me so much before I knew it, I had that degree. I work as a Federal Grant budget manager though. LOL.. I do some counseling on the side sometimes. Normally for free.
I don’t need a lot of people in my life. I don’t like people in my home a lot. I don’t mind if you sit on the furniture, but please do not leave a mess. I am a bit anal when it comes to order. But, I understand that my man might not be as organized as I am, but he is a Leo, so that’s a whole other story.
I have trust issues. I day dream, I get bored fast. I am artistic, I write and design and do abstract oils. I love the water. I love looking outside. I love natural light and breezes. Open spaces, I feel the walls are closing on me if there are a lot of little rooms. I prefer one medium to large room. I am very protective, please do not try to hurt or harm anyone that I love or care for. I have what I call “Libra love” I might love you now, but it won’t last most times, unless you are truly compatible to me, which means I am getting attention , the same way that I’m giving you.
I tend to be with younger men, because I love to laugh, I love to play in the water, have water fights and I’m extremely sexual and passionate, but only with that man that I have feelings for. I’m picky about what I eat and how it looks. If it doesn’t look good or the person is not clean cooking it, I won’t eat it.
I make myself miserable sometimes, because I am so picky. I do love myself most times though and I just don’t care what most people have to say or what they think of me. I do not like to be embarrassed, I do not argue in pubic (I HATE TO ARGUE) why can’t we discuss things like civilized people. I have a fast temper so if you embarrass me, I will go off, but even with that, I won’t do anything that can cause me problems. I’m ALWAYS thinking, no matter what the situation. Some people say I think too much, but that’s me. I like people to get to the point and not waste my time with a sermon, just tell me. I like to know how the movie will end and then I’ll go back and watch it. Lol. Not really into suspense, but love martial arts, boxing and action and comedies. I love to laugh and will cry at a sad movie like beaches.
I’m not sure if there are any other Libra’s who feel the same ways that I do. I don’t ever want to look bad to myself. I have to look the way I want, don’t care if anyone else really likes it,but it’s nice when they do.
October 12th, 2009 at 5:38 am
I am a libra. Wow I was reading everybody’s posts on here and feel connected somehow. I have always wondered why people become so frustrated with me for not making decisions. I once stayed in a marriage for 7 years with a man I got married to while drunk at a Kentucky church lol! We told them we knew each other for a year, but I had lost my soulmate 3 days before and decided it no longer matters who I marry. Well, I was wrong. The guy who is really my soul mate is sitting next to me right now while I post this and he is an Aquarius. The guy I “thought” was my soulmate was a Sagittarius. The difference between them is something very slight. The guy I thought was my soulmate was someone I dated who could only dream that I was his. I do sit on the fence. I do it all the time. I have sat on the fence and asked myself “What is the answer?” “What is the real problem here?” I honestly don’t know. I have sat here and I might die here. Someone please tell me so I can come down from my fence and open the gate. I’m a real Desperado, but there’s only one someone to love me. Yeah, crazy. I wish you all the love in the world everyone. - Planet Venus
October 13th, 2009 at 5:59 am
I am a libra female…..
I am not that good in making decisions……
But, I am still proud to be a Librans
I think your right, Librans should not marry other Librans….
October 16th, 2009 at 6:16 pm
I’m a Libra male, and yes - we do sit on the fence regarding life issues. They only time I actually “speak up” is when it really affects me and I have STRONG opinions. Otherwise, I choose my battles very carefully and do NOT wear my emotions on my sleeve. I’m very hard to read.
October 18th, 2009 at 4:17 am
Hi I am a Libra female. I am 56. I don’t sit on the fence when I am ask by someone where my in
sight or opinion may make or break a situation. I’m am a great mediator and a naturally skilled
conflict mediator. However, I do sit on the fence when it comes to making decisions about my
own personal relationships with children,husband, education regarding children etc. I will live on the fence waiting for
God to response to my many questions I frequently ask when it come to the travels of life. I
I break down piece by piece the things I don’t understand until I figured it out. I treat
life like a mathematical problem. Certain conflicts in life take certain formula’s to overcome/.
We were not born with instance answers to some trials and tribulations. I stay on the fence until
I solve the mystery. Either through God’s divine intervention or through the divine intervention
of someone else. I may gather info from God, friends, reading, praying etc. But I gather as I
sit on the fence. One I gather it and am satisfied with the answer I praise God, Go dancing and return to the fence.
November 4th, 2009 at 3:38 am
I am a virgo technically, Sept 3, however I act so much like a libra it drives me nuts! I love everyone and never take sides. I am so indesisive it effects all aspects of my life and I get reemed for going with the flow too much. My ex was also a Libra and we drove eachother nuts, but I never loved anyone more. We are two signs too close together and it didn’t work:(… the only part of me that is virgo is my work ethic, other than that i’m a dreamer and I’ll eat whatever LOL!
November 29th, 2009 at 5:23 am
Yes, we do sit on the fence, because we see both point of views. I am a Libra. I don’t see it as a bad thing, it depends on the situation if we sit on the fence. That’s why we are durable and easy to handle. If you tell us if we want hamburgers OR tacos, we will easily sit on the fence. It doesn’t matter to us, pick which ever one you are most comfortable with. Especially the children, they are easy to endure and handle. We see both points of views so we sit on the fence. Don’t get me wrong, we know our rights from wrongs, so we don’t always sit on the fence. If we feel which ever side is wrong or right we pick what we feel.
November 29th, 2009 at 7:03 pm
I am a Libran. I have to say i agree with Libra/Libra compatability. I’ve been seeing another Libran for 2 months now and i can defenantly say we’re on the fence. Niether one of us can take a discision and we never end up doing anything because of it. We haven’t fully moved in together. We won’t stick our neck out and i’d say we’re just both unsure of the outcomes of doing so. So from what i’ve been reading, either i take a step up and take the initiative or just float on by. Daydreaming about what could be instead of what can be, now…
December 2nd, 2009 at 2:46 am
I am a Libra yay! and unfortunately i sit on the fence almost half the time and in my opinion it’s very annoying!Because choosing sides is already hard enough so why make it harder.
December 4th, 2009 at 9:30 pm
Having gone out with a Libra (Libra dominant in chart then Scorpio) for four years and being an Aries (Pisces dominant then Libra) I have a lot to say about this sign.
1) They love people, and really hate being alone, even though privately they want to be alone. They just don’t have it in them to break the habit of having someone around to do everything with all the time.
2) As they love people, appearances are extremely important. Consequently, they are in everybody’s camp, spending more time in the camp of the people they are trying to impress, neglecting those who previously did more for them. When questioned, they act genuinely surprised and hurt.
3) Nothing’s more annoying than trying to get some emotional support, after say a rough day at work, and your Libra partner listens patiently and objectively, then starts to mention the other party’s point of view as if it really matters after all that was said and done. I just want some bloody support, who cares who’s right or wrong. Libra playing devil’s advocate ranks high up there as being annoying in the name of fairness. Being fair to some stranger who he hasn’t met or what could’ve been doesn’t matter when your partner was taken advantage of. Period.
4) Which brings me to my next point that Libras appear emotionally cold when it comes to their emotions while they’re sitting on the fence.
5) But when it comes to their emotions, boy do you have to be super understanding. Half the time they don’t understand what they’re feeling, and spend too much time thinking about it. They don’t discuss it, and repress their emotions. Suddenly they blow up and you don’t know where it comes from. Or they have to think about what they feel, which makes no sense since emotions sometimes are illogical. Hence they can leave you in limbo while they can take months or years to figure out what they feel, what they want…it’s so wishy washy especially when sometimes (without the risk of sounding like a Nike commercial) they should “just do it”.
6) While Libra tries it’s hardest to be fair and rationalize things, they forget about your needs and your wants…and then the moment is lost. While Libra is deliberating, they cause irrational irritation in more active signs, and are so focused on being “Mr Nice Guy” that they’re conflict adverse. The same issues can come up again and again because they rather sweep stuff under the carpet.
7) I have to end with something nice. Being an Aries, it’s nice to be able to slow down and discuss things with Libra who can input some valuable advice. I just wish they weren’t so reticent.
December 21st, 2009 at 10:59 pm
First, I’d like to say I absolutely love this discussion! Yes, I am a Libra and I quickly decided that I love this discussion, lol. Ha!
I think we Libras are just misunderstood. We are HIGHLY intellectual. Therefore, highly emotional people will absolutely find us difficult to relate to. We speak a different language of sorts. Of course we have feelings + emotions but we know they are just a portion of the bigger picture. Feelings are not the end all be all. We need the entire picture. We need cold hard facts and figures. We want to be comprehensive and take in all relevant information pertinent to the issue at hand. You’re generally not going to find a Libra flying off the handle unless it was a calculated approach, lol…… Ah, calculated is a good description for us too…….
People may perceive it as indecisive but guess what?….we Libra’s actually just don’t care about the things other people seem to care about. Who cares where we have lunch? I could go to the same place for lunch every weekday for several weeks before I get tired of it. Who cares what movie we see? If I’m not invested in the outcome… a.k.a if I don’t really care, then I will not put any effort into making a decision about it…. I simply don’t care is all…. I’m not picky about every little thing in the world. Unfortunately, my lack of regard is taken as a lack of decisiveness…. but I did decide…. I decided that it’s not important enough for me to care about, lol…..
So to all the Libras who feel the same way and someone wants you to make a decision about something you consider unimportant just do a quick + mental “Eeny, meeny, miny, moe” and give that person the decision they so desperately wish we’d make. That’s my way around having to invest any of my brain power on things I simply couldn’t care less about. I do an eeny, meeny, miny, moe or I just pick what ever we did or had last…. For instance, “Where do you want to go for lunch?”… My answer = “Jersey Mikes”… My reason, because that’s where we went last, lol…. If the person doesn’t like the decision I made then they can simply make they’re own decision and I won’t feel any type of way about it at all… I do this because I think it’s fair to share the responsibility of decision making even though I might not care about the outcome of most things. I think it’s unfair to burden someone with the decision making responsibility 100% of the time…
Bottom line is when we’re invested in the outcome of a thing then we’re absolutely decisive. When we couldn’t possibly care less about the outcome of a thing then little to no brain power gets allocated towards that decision making process…. hence… no decision is made…. The problem isn’t Libra indecisiveness. The problem is more likely picky people who care about every single little thing and therefore need to take everything on…. Who has the time or energy to care about every little thing?! Apparently, most other signs I guess, lol….
Ok the last part of my rant is about us lacking emotion…. uh, that’s just not true at all. We actually feel or relate to every emotion that’s present or a part of the situation. I personally happen to be discerning enough to figure out what type of support is being requested of me. Does this person want my full objective opinion (i.e. view of every side of the story) or does this person actually just need me to relate to their portion and provide more personal and individual support? Some call it people pleasing but I call it being spiritually connected to the needs of the person you’re interacting with. I am fulfilled when I connect with a person in that way. It fulfills me to know I can do it…. to know I can connect to people on the deepest level and read their needs and desires like a book if I want to. And if I’m emotionally invested enough then I’ll meet those needs because that’s what you do when you love people. You work interdependently so everyone’s needs are met. Libra’s just happen to be the best at being psychically in tune with those around us. We can’t simply ignore this gift…. It’s like ignoring a constant whisper in your ear… It’s not going to happen. An evolved Libra however, will learn to be discerning and interdependent rather than codependent.
Now I’ve decided that this Libra’s rant is over, lol! Ha! Ha! Ha!
December 30th, 2009 at 9:54 pm
If you have enough information to make a judgement, then one can be made. But the fence is the place to be while gathering information…. and the place to stay if you never get enough.
I find graphic organizers to be very helpful, because they help put the information out there, to be analyzed… and make it easier for me to “see” the strength of the final decision.
January 5th, 2010 at 6:45 am
Hello .. Libra-Libra-Taurus-Horse here.
Nikki… Will you Marry Me?? Your above letter is so admirable and understandable. I myself have added items to this post and I feel like yours are much more to the point and understandable. I believe me having my Sun sign and Moon sign in Libra can be a negative aspect for me when I try to get my point across. As I ramble a bit and talk in to many metaphors.
I not only agree with what you say but am also taken back by how you said it! So Kudos to you! And no I don’t truly recommend a Libra - Libra relationship. It is a great and one of a kind love, but there is a little too much ying and not enough yang.
Bye.
January 9th, 2010 at 2:54 pm
Hey, one of the few male libras to post here.
While our sign is famous for its indecision and tendency to “sit on the fence”, its not because were uninterested or indifferent to the choice; we simply look for a balance between two opposing opinions.
Everyone has their own side and their own reasons for supporting it. Those under the Libra sign understand that blindly choosing an opinion can create arguments, fighting, and tension between other people.
Personally, I always follow the principle of balance, to a degree. If something is outright unbalanced or clearly unfair, I will engage in an argument to prove my point of equality.
Sitting on the fence allows us to choose a side.
That’s not always such a bad thing.
January 25th, 2010 at 9:50 pm
I USED TO THINK BEING A LIBRA SUCKED BUT AS YOU MATURE YOU BECOME A LOT MORE WISER. AND CAN GET VERY FAR IN LIFE DEPENDING HOW YOUR STATE OF MIND IS EITHER NEGATIVE OR POSITIVE. I THOUGHT IT SUCKED BECAUSE WHEN I WAS YOUNGER I WAS TOO NICE AND SOFT KIDS TOOK ADVANTAGE OF ME AND TOOK MY KINDNESS FOR WEAKNESS. ESPECIALLY SCORPIOS… BUT ME GROWING UP IVE BEEN MEETING PEOPLE FROM ALL OVER AND DIFFERENT KINDS OF HOROSCOPES N I GET ALONG WITH AT LEAST TWO OF EACH SIGN AND BECAME VERY POPULAR. I SIT ON THE FENCE YES U CAN SAY THAT. BECAUSE I LOOK AT IT AS I LOOK AT EVERYONE’S POINT OF VIEW, OBSERVE, AND I SPEAK MY MIND AND MAKE SURE THAT NO ONE DO THAT ANY MORE ESPECIALLY GROWING UP IN NEW YORK IT AINT EASY. I DEF KNOW HOW TO KEEP MY BALANCE AND ME GROWING UP BEING RAISED AND AROUND PICSES’ AND CAPRICORNS I CAN AY I AM A VERY GO WIT THE FLOW, ADVENTUROUS, AMBITIOUS,AND I CAN DAYDREAM AND MEDITATE VERY WELL BUT WHEN I REALLY WANT TO DO SOMETHING O U BETTER BELIEVE IM GONA DO IT AND CAN BE VERY VAIN SOMETIMES THINKING ALL EYEZ ON ME AHAHA.. BUT TO ALL MY LIBRA PEOPLE KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!!!!!!!! THERES ALWAYS HOPE WE JUST GOT TO FIND IT!! N O YEA WHEN I SEXING WITH GIRLS OOOO IMA FREAK SO I KNOW YA ARE LMFAO … LIBRA R GREAT PEOPLE LIVE LONG THE LIBRAN!
January 25th, 2010 at 9:57 pm
N O YEA THE DUDE BORN ON SEPTEMBER 3RD YEAA ILL BE FEELING LIEK THAT I WAS SUPPSOED TO BE BORN ON SEPT 23RD THE BORDER LINE CROSS BETWEEN VIRGO AND LIBRA BUT I WAS A WEEK LATE THEDOC SAID I DIDITN WANA COME OUT BUT I FEEL LIKE WHAT WHO I AM ME DOING THE THINGS I WANT TO DO N KEEPIN A BALANCE BETWEEN MAKIN CHOICES AND CHANGIN THEM I PERFER MY SELF MORE TO A VIRGO OR U CAN SAY “”"”VIBRA”"”"”" HAH FOR REAL I RELALY DO FEEL LIKE THAT N IM SO ATTRACTED TO ARIES GEMINIS CANCERS OTHER LIBRAS AND ALOT MORE N MOST OF THE TIME THE SIGNS AFTER THE OTHER OR BEFORE ONE ANOTHER CAN BE VERY ALIKE FOR EXAMPLE VIRGOS LIBRAS SCORPIOS N SAGGITARIUS ARE VERY ALIKE WE ARE ALL IDIOTS! LOL
January 25th, 2010 at 10:10 pm
AND VIRGOS LIBRAS SCORPIOS AND SAGS ARE CREATIVE THATS WHAT MAKES SU VERY ALIKE
February 9th, 2010 at 2:26 pm
I’m a Libra.
I was a closed minded fool for 30 + years, so my sign only had minor effects at first.
I was very skeptical about everything - I couldn’t believe without knowing!
Eventual I found out what I needed and ever since, I’ve been having alot of difficulty making descisions, cause I really do see 2 extreme sides to everything, and a ton of comfort between the extremes! I respect the extremes, but I love the confort zones the extremes make possible.
The only strong stance I have that is unchangeable are my 4 tools to survival: Free Love, Free Respect, Compassion, and Self Forgiveness.
I think a lady of the water - a Cancarian lady, is my one for now, but I hope she can find security in me free love!
peace
May 11th, 2010 at 5:01 pm
Libra woman here…yes and no. I sit on the fence and observe. I gather information from several sources and then proceed cautiously. I have found that once I make a decision, it feels solid and I act swiftly on it. Unfortunately, I miss plenty of romantic opportunities because of this “sit back and watch” mentality. I believe that I am often viewed as aloof or uninterested when I am actually so deeply interested that I forget to tell you I am interested. Seeking balance is critical to me in friendships, yoga, work and play. My advice to people trying to get me to commit to a decision is to give me solid intelligent information to pull me toward your ideas.
July 12th, 2010 at 5:36 am
I’m a Libra and definitely sit on the fence. My closest friends always say I’m the most non committal person they know. I’m not good at making decisions and tend to let someone else take the lead on the bigger ones, but I have to have my influence as well. (My independent side.)
I can never pick favorites. When asked what my favorite color is, I can never clearly pick one. Same with food, wine, TV shows, movies, songs, bands, etc…. My mind just doesn’t work that way….
July 12th, 2010 at 7:28 am
In addition… I’m a natural leader, which I believe is completely seperate of my ability to make a decision. And like others have said, I’d rather spend my efforts on bigger things than the small trival things. And I’m very idealistic in my thinking.
I analyze and do endless amounts of research, and find myself endlessly passionate about millions of things.
August 28th, 2010 at 7:23 pm
I’m a Libran female. I find myself more fiery than most, I think this may be due to the fact I’m only a few days off being a scorpio. I’m look at both sides of everything but once i decide it is final. I don’t sit on the fence, when asked for an oppinion, I form one and stick by it.
August 29th, 2010 at 10:19 am
im a libra and almost every arguement ive had ive seen both points of view and dont usually end up arguing which is a ‘decision’ in my eyes
January 29th, 2011 at 1:39 am
hello. I tend to weigh the pros and cons a lot. mostly when i am shopping. I want my moneys worth.
April 16th, 2011 at 6:49 pm
Well, I believe that librans do “sit on the fence” if it is somewhat of a petty matter. Librans love to please others so they will go along with popular decision to make others happy, but if it is something important, they can decide. I often find that I immediately have a decision/opinion when asked about something, but then I wish to “check” it with others’ opinions. We like to weigh the pros and cons of each, but this only gets us further confused!!! Usually our first instinct or gut feeling is in tune with our emotions, but we hate not exploring other options. To us our indecisevness is not frustating, but more of intellectual and judicial ‘training’.
August 9th, 2011 at 3:56 am
im a libra woman and at this point in my life im all over the place. im in a relationship (im gay) but im “on the fence” about whether or not i should end it. there’s so many variables spinning in my head about the situation that i have no idea what to do. the post on here that really hit home for me was Ads. privately i want to be alone BUT unlike most libras im socially inept and lack the ability to make friends so my circle is not small, its tiny and i have such a fear of being alone. not only that i have this desire to be social and within a crowd yet lack that “something” to make it happen. i get uncomfortable a lately ive started to have anxiety on those types of environments. maybe this is bigger than the libra, idk. i related to what many of you are saying. im am the worst type of libra imo. indecisive, non-confrontational, soft, dreamer not a doer, and deceitful in some ways. and i ramble. this started about my relationship and has turned into a self-absorbed post about myself. the hardest part about the relationship is she has a 5yr old daughter. we’ve been together since she was probably 2 and she loves me so. its hurts my libra heart to walk away from her bc she expects to see me. one weird thing about me is i would be ok with us cutting off the relationship but remaining friends. i would actually love it bc it would allow me to maintain a relationship to meet my social needs and allow me to open spaces i desperately desire. but no way she goes for that. she seems to love me so much. i dont undertsand that type of love. my thought process is more of just live life, enjoy it, and go with the flow. if it doesnt work oh well we tried. move on. its nt that i dont care, i do this is just how my mind works. i dont get all worked up about it. BUT on the flip side i get hurt easily and will cut you off as soon as you hurt me. i dont understand why other ppl arent this way but im grateful they’re not. i did not accomplish my goal with this post…. my life story in a nutshell… a bunch of rambling. i need a mentor. is that bad? im 32
August 10th, 2011 at 7:28 pm
I’m a 14, almost 15 year old Libra. I am in love with debating, yet I hate arguing. I’ve always been so interested in questions that can’t be answered so I can debate on them. It’s as if I ask people questions so they can give me a debate. There’s been times where I say something and then say “wait no, nevermind, because yada yada”. And I leave the other person so confused. So many things go on in my mind, it’s like I can’t keep up.
I’m inspired so easily and appreciate every single beautiful person in this world.
For some reason, every time I see a beautiful girl, I see how they are, it’s like a piece of art to me. I love the beautiful things in life and I’m an artist. I play violin, guitar and I sing.
And sometimes after watching a movie, that movie inspires me to want to change the world or be an acrobat or a soccer player or a ballerina.
What I am not, I want to see how it would be to be.
Figuring things out is the most important thing in the world for me.
I need to figure a person out because that’s what I’m best at. I’m amazing at sensing what other people want, and I give it to them.
But when I can’t, I become interested. I’m so in love with the human brain and the way it works.
I need to know every person or else I find it weird and I try my hardest too get to know this person.
I also can’t stand being ignored, I hate people who ignore you for a couple of days. My Virgo best friend used to ignore me and I would become so sad because I wanted to reason it out, knowing I could.
I don’t fight, and due to that reason, I can’t. Everytime someone begins to say something disrespectful I just come back with a witty saying or a “you’re pathetic”.
I feel as if I wouldn’t waste my time with someone who’s not willing to be respectful and settle this in a professional manner.
Many people say I’m very understanding and a good person at conversation.
Yet, I’m horrible at making decision.
I love being a libra
August 24th, 2011 at 3:43 am
hii im a libra, nd i tend to do tht too :p because i dont like fights and i dont like to pick a side. because it leads to fights and when ur in the middel u dnt loose friends.
thank u !!
can u please write again to tell me what u dont like about libras if theres anything, because i dnt like annoying my aries friend because i like him. so tell me my flause so i could fix them