Compatibility For Virgo and Libra |
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Virgo and Libra
Both of these signs love to communicate, converse and share ideas. The ways in which they choose to do this however is entirely different and can leave them staring blankly at one another with no idea what on earth has just been said, or even in what language. Libra loves new ideas and ways of thinking and is more than happy to sit and listen enjoying hearing other people’s points of view. On the other hand we have Virgo who enjoys analyzing and scrutinizing, if they don’t like your way of thinking they will tell you so in a way that has been known to bring tears to one’s eyes!
Virgo being an Earth sign likes to have depth and purpose in what they say and do and they may find their Libra partner to be somewhat flighty and fairy like, Virgo is not a fan of idealistic dreamers, they deal in hard reality, Virgo’s don’t own fluffy cushions, Virgo’s buy practical long lasting cushions. Virgo’s are practical. Libra is too but will buy fluffy cushions…..I digress.
The funny thing with these two is that they will probably get on very well indeed; they will both enjoy a bottle of wine and some long conversations with one another and will also enjoy some fine eating as well. It would be nice to be a fly on the wall with this couple, seeing how they both react to different situations; I imagine it would make for good T.V that’s for sure. Sexually these two will remarkably understand each other quite well. Libra’s are loving and gentle and very romantic, and Virgo needs all that sort of thing so they can relax. I certainly believe that if you have friends or family members who are in a couple of these signs, you will know about it! Good Luck!
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December 20th, 2008 at 6:06 pm
I Have a friend who is a Libra male and iam a Virgo Female. Me and him are both good in communicating with each other and every thing esle is shooting stars except for his decisiveness I never let my heart into this relationship I have with him cuase I do nt intend to get my feelings hurt with him, With Trust,if i feel i can nt trust him then my heart is nt in it and plus Iam barely gettin to know him which i really do not know him.
January 27th, 2009 at 5:00 am
Hello, I am a Libra! My boyfriend of almost a year in March is a Virgo! The article on our Compatibility is so true. There has been many times when I try to make a point and i don’t have enough information to back it up, he gets frustrated and makes me feel stupid.He defineatly analyzes everything he says and/or makes a point about. He’s always right! No matter what….So he “believes”! And as far as having a glass of wine together and chatting the night away.. Wow completely true! Thats an every other night occasion! I believe we even each other out very good. I’m a perfect, happy lover for him!!!!
March 2nd, 2009 at 2:11 pm
well i am a virgo girl and i have split up with an libra a couple months ago we were together for 7 months. now i have met a new person and hes a libra again and this time i now not to make the same mistakes twice and deal with them in different manners even though im consisdered to always being ‘right’.
i hope it works out but as soon as we met we both felt the attraction straight away and he leant in for a kiss.
March 7th, 2009 at 10:01 pm
Im a Virgo woman & my man is Libra, we have been dealing with each other last year sometime for about 4 months and then i had to cut him loose because he was so aggressive in how he expressed hiself and i could not take it, i’m a Virgo and we are known for wanting some sensitivity from our partners…..tHEN ABOUT 6 OR 7 months later i get a call from him saying how sorry he was, that he knows he did not treat me well…that was such a suprise because hes really not the type to apologize…Anyway i figured i give him another shot and we are still together now, but im always confused about him, because its so hard for him to show any emotion, but you can tell he wants that from me…for example he would say to me “You didnt tell me you love me today” and thats wierd, because obviously he wanted to tell me he loved me. he also proposed to me a couple of months ago. He feels like its nothing wrong with our relationship, but i still feel like he doesnt show me he cares enouogh…the good things about him is (1)hardworking (2) Family Man (3)dependable (4) good friend (5) encourages me (6)gives me anything i need (7) there for my daughter…Now let me ask, with all these good attributes should i be complaining ? or should i stick it out & be patient with him. Afterall we have only been back together for about 4 months.
June 11th, 2009 at 7:36 pm
I dated an Libra man and I am a Virgo women. He was a good man however he had one personality trait that drove me up the wall and that was his indecisiveness.
He appeared to be emotionally detached but was encouraging to me. He liked that I could fix things around my house but he hated having to ask me for help repairs around his house. He would get upset if I got a compliment and he didn’t compliment.
I ended the relationship because I felt like he really was not into me and that he was competing against me.
July 1st, 2009 at 9:05 am
Okay to all the one’s that have or dealt with Libra men.. yes you are all right.. their not that emotional and they hardly communicate their feelings. I’m a Libra and I’m very much that same way! It’s just our nature.. but if you learn to deal with us we will be one of the best and remarkable person you will ever meet. I’m talking to this Virgo now.. and Kara’s story has given me hope. We butt heads a lot I guess I have to learn to get around that .. I’m totally willing to sacrifice some ways and try to make things work.. the attraction has always been there between us that’s obvious. China you shouldn’t be complaining lol Libra’s are really good people..you should stick it out with him. Showing him that you care enough to give him another chance he will do everything in his will not to mess up again.
August 16th, 2009 at 7:05 pm
I just started dating a Libra, I’m a Virgo. He totally confuses me because he never seems to have time for me, but texts me a up to 20 times a day. He also says I make him feel like a different person when he is around me. In a good way. Then he will top it off with, but my life is crazy and busy right now, lets keep things casual. Is he into me or not? It seems very hot and cold? I never know if I should be pursuing him or letting him come to me. Any Libra’s out there got any advice? It’s totally early days, but as a Virgo I crave a black and white answer, so I can invest without getting my feeling hurt. If I don’t get the security I need, I know I will just run in he opposite direction. Dilemma.
August 24th, 2009 at 2:50 pm
Astra, I definately understand where you are coming from. I am a virgo woman & he is a libra man. I don’t even know if I could call him a boyfriend or what to call him. We have been seeing eachother for 3months now, I guess. Sometimes he’ll text me all night long, then nothing for days or weeks. We went like 6-7weeks without seeing eachother then all of the sudden he texts me asking to go out again!! We don’t really talk on the phone either. I have feelings for him, but do not feel comfortable telling him this because he won’t give me any signs of liking me either. I feel like we are stuck in a rut… Should I give up on this or put myself on the line & possibly get hurt because hes not really interested??!!
August 27th, 2009 at 3:25 pm
Hi Astra and Marie,
I am a Libran and would like to give you a very frank advice on your situation. He actually likes you but is shy of commitment.. i wud say go ahead and propose him.. he will be on cloud nine! Secretly he will be thankful to you for initiating this talk… and will be blushing all the way.
His commitment will not come easily because he’s always figuring out whether he’s ready for you or not. the scales are trying to balance..(that’s why the answer will never be YES or NO) and once he decides he will go on and on about why he likes u and such stuff.. but caution! never ever ask a libran the dreadful question “Do you love me?” “like” is fine over “love”.
I wud like to ask u what things of a Virgo irritates a libran? I have not been with any virgo earlier.. so wanted a frank opinion of ur behaviour towards libran…
August 30th, 2009 at 4:52 pm
Thanks for the advice, it seems to fit his behaviour. Thing is I’m not sure if I can wait around till he makes up his mind. As a Virgo, and I think this will begin to answer your question, we crave stability because we are so sensitive and get hurt really badly. We won’t fully commit until that happens and we will continue to stay distant until you prove to us that you are not going to hurt us. When a Virgo is distant, it means they will likely be cold and critical, which will probably turn a Libra off. Basically I need to know he is interested in me in order to stay with him. Because he always seems to just keep me hanging on with no real commitment one way or another, I begin to imagine he doesn’t like me at all, or worse, that he is seeing someone else and stringing me along. Once I have a few reassuring words about his feelings I would probably be fine, but because he seems unable to do that, I just push him away. He also seems to have this crazy hectic life and expects me to just fit into it. He doesn’t seem to be interested in making the time to spend together, but keeps promising he will soon. I’m never sure weather to keep contact with him or just say forget it and brush him off. He’s great, but I think I need more attention than he can give. I always make it clear to him that I want to spend time with him, and he continues to say “soon”, things will settle down and we can, but I’m not sure if I can trust that. Thoughts?
August 31st, 2009 at 6:38 pm
I will agree. Seems to fit. I am unsure & trying to be patient myself but not without the utmost uneasy feeling!! As a virgo I to need him to help me feel at ease & atleast discuss what is going on. He does keep telling me that he likes forward women but every time I ask him out he comes up with some lame excuse or blows me off! So what exactly does he mean by forward:Worship him & get nothing in return??!! If so thats not something I can do. My predicament is that I have been asked out many times & I’m on the fence of wether I should wait around on him or just move on. For some reason I really like him! I haven’t had enough of a chance to get to know him yet…plus he seems really airy fairy to me. I am waiting on the day he can talk realistically with me! Ideas??
September 1st, 2009 at 4:13 am
Hi Astra,
Do you feel bad when he checks out other gals when he’s with you or does this habit of his irritates you? If yes then he’s trying to keep a safe distance from you and may not be completely into u.. Libran’s love beautiful things around them and are always on the lookout for the ideal match/person.. they are never satisfied with what they have..
One thing is u should be able to do is have a good intelligent conversation with him which will turn him on from the mind and about various topics…
Librans always think of others and one reason he might not be committing you is “He himself might be thinking whether he’s the right person for you and not neccessarily that u r the right one for him” Librans want space and may not like it if u confront him everyday with the same question or topics.. just go with the flow and see if his behaviour changes towards you.
Could you give me straight tips on how to impress a virgo female and win her confidence… as I am dating one
September 1st, 2009 at 3:38 pm
Hi Tinsy,
I would say to be forward with her & honest about what you are looking for in your relationship. She will respect that alot!! We virgos just like to know where we stand no matter what the outcome. We don’t like a bad surprise, but if we know where we stand with you then we can act more cordially. If you aren’t straight with us we will push you away. Let her ask you out too & don’t always turn her down, there should be some give & take. We like to analyze a situation before we can be completely comfortable & open & if you don’t spend some quality time together she cannot feel comfortable in the situation & will refrain from being open to you. We are good at holding back & hiding emotions even from friends. I haven’t really told anyone anything about the libra I’ve been seeing because I’m soo unsure myself. We don’t like to act without all info first. Hope that helps…Good Luck.
September 1st, 2009 at 6:31 pm
Thanks Marie. Mine is so talkative that i rarely get a chance to speak. We librans like the “dance of love”, a bit teasing, a bit guessing about each others feeling. You want to know things “as a matter of fact”, which makes him feel that u get the romance kickd out of the whole moment. Dont hide your emotions when u r with him. Of course dropping tears every now and then will scare him away..
The typical thing about us is we need change and variety. If we feel a particular habit of yours or anyone for that matter is annoying us or seems too boring, then the thought process starts in our mind— will she behave like this forever? will she improve? will she change for me?—
but one thing we like is, if you can carry of grace and style by yourself and dont make him feel that U are after him will make him com to you. Try not to make him feel important and that u are strong enough to help yourself without him will drive him crazy and he will always wnat to be with you.. Just give it a try. We like indpendent women who can be themselves without any one’s support… Suggestions for me?
September 2nd, 2009 at 5:42 pm
Tinsy,
You say don’t hide your emotions when I’m with him but then you say try not to make him feel important. How do I do this, seems a little contradicting doesn’t it? I think thats part of my problem with him, his contradicting nature! I want a security. I can play this game for awhile but I can’t say how long I’ll last. Would I always have to worry with him that hes looking for something better? I’m not sure a virgo & libra is a good match. I don’t like to follow the book but if we can’t meet in the middle somewhere I don’t see a future. It seems to me a libra is more interested in what he can’t have then what he does. Libras are unreal. Virgos live on facts & reality not fantasy. We are in two different places I think. I’m not gonna hold my breath on this one.
September 3rd, 2009 at 2:09 pm
It turns out that besides our other deferences me and the Libra have found something we are extremely compatible when doing. Sex. I think this might be where the Libra/Virgo thing works for once. hahaha.
Tinsy: Just because Virgos like to feel secure, doesn’t mean that they don’t want romance and a little mystery.Virgos crave stability because they are deeply emotional and can get hurt far more deeply than most. Secure your Virgo at appropriate times, like just before you go to sleep when you are lying in each others arms, then continue to be mysterious and romantic elsewhere it will hold her interest. Virgos need to be shaken up every once in a while or their sharp minds will get bored. As for the securing part, it just needs to be a few simple words. Nothing fancy. We feel that simple words are direct and therefore truth. If you dress them up to much we will assume you are being over sentimental and don’t mean what you say.Something like: “You mean so much to me. I am so happy to have you in my life.” Also act like you are committed to seeing her again. Call/text regularly to check in. Conversation can be short, it’s the act of keeping communication open that is key, not what is said.
Also, to answer your question, my Libra is very attentive to me at all times when he is around me and we have epic intellectual conversations. I’ve never noticed him look at other women, but then again I’m not really the jealous type and tend to look at beautiful people also. I have never pressured him for a relationship commitment because I am not sure myself. I do however pressure him to make time for me in his life, if he wants to keep me around. I also told him straight that I have real feelings for him. That it’s not just sexual. To this he got a little freaked and started to explain that it’s all just so easy. That we met and we get along so well. That it scares him etc. He said he for sure wants to see me again though. I figure I’ll give him some space to figure his stuff out and see how it goes. Good call?
September 3rd, 2009 at 5:48 pm
Astra,
That is very funny & I would agree!! Sex is definately something we are compatible at. I think virgos have the capability of getting hurt more deeply if we are led on…but as long as its talked about totally capable of purely sexual relationships to without attachment.
Everything else you said I totally agree with also. Especially the over-dressing up of words…makes it seem like a lie. We don’t do fantasy!
First rule:don’t pay attention to what they say so much as what they do.
Great advice & good luck
September 7th, 2009 at 6:53 am
So far from the discussion it seems Virgo’s want to be secure and that’s what they want on priority. And let me tell u, this is the exact reason ur libra is keeping some distance from you.
U said u pressure him to be with u for some time and that’s what scares a libran away. Do not pressurize him and he will come to u! Miss a couple of days meeting up and see his reaction. He will definitely miss u and would like to meet u.. Also the “straight” message which u put across to him “is not” how a libran likes. And when he decorates his words for u means we just don’t want to hurt u.
Marie:- When u r with him do u remind him about your insecurities “everytime”? By independent, i meant u should not let him feel that u r dependent on him or u need him as an emotional support. Don’t give in too easily and don’t make him feel that u r totally into him. Librans don’t like it when some one is “dependent” on them, whatever the need, be it emotional or sexual or anything.
Astra:- I agree with u where u want to give time to ur relationship and that will work, believe me. Maybe Marie can take a hint here
Mine has told me that she is committed to me but since I am not totally into her she wud like to give more time to our relationship. I suppose the downright practical approach everything is what turns me off. She has no problems with me whatsoever. none of my things have irritated her or she felt bad about. I am wondering if everythings alright. She likes to “talk” about everything, whatever she does, whatever she did the whole day. This plain talking is what a I don’t like as eveything is not to be said and explained. I must admit I havent yet kissed her as I feel its early and Virgos do take time to come out in open doing that.. is it true?
More discussion welcome..
September 8th, 2009 at 7:00 am
I have some unusual feeling about my Virgo. May be may not be true but, I have a feeling that she is not romantic and her behavior seems like she’s taking our affair or courtship as “just another job to be done”. I dunno whether she “feels” what it is to be in love? She is not the initiator in anything.. be it just a simple phone call to whisper sweet nothings.. She doesn’t “understand” the body language of love.
She needs to be told everything, in sentences!
Typical virgo behaviour?
September 8th, 2009 at 3:39 pm
Virgos will be romantic & can feel in love but we are very cautious & like to analyze the situation before acting. We like to know what exactly we are getting into. We won’t initiate anything unless we feel comfortable in the relationship. But yes we are more straight forward. We are very different!
Yes I can give a relationship time…but with my Libra 6-7weeks without talking except for a few texts here & there tells me hes only into one thing & hes leading me on!! Everytime we go out alcohol is involved & he says we are going somewhere for dinner etc & we only end up at his house!! He is not romantic in any way…he just likes to mess with me, make fun & act like a total kid! All great some of the time but does all of the time have to be fake & unreal?
How am I to act romantic to that?! Majority of the time he just jokes around. He does talk serious about his future plans to me but that seems like the only time he serious. And I think by future he means very distant!
And no I don’t remind him of my insecurities everytime I’m with him. We don’t even really talk about it. He talks alot about himself & I just let him. He talks about other girls even & rates them openly to me & once even said something about a girl he worked with that he thought was too independent & was never going to get married because of it! You libras are quite contradicting! I had no problem with any of this just confused!
I was told by a friend through his best friend that hes only interested in sleeping with me. Too bad he couldn’t be man enough to talk about this. He doesn’t know that I know.
Oh well I moved on before finding out because I had suspicion anyway.
A virgo & libra match would take alot of work & why when we can just go & find someone more suitable to each of our definately different needs. No need for anyone to be unhappy.
September 9th, 2009 at 4:53 am
Marie:- Sometimes dont u think “love” needs no analysis? I generally call it “Paralysis of Analysis” Bcos when in love u don’t think and when u think u r not in love… Matter of head and heart, as simple as that. You just can’t think and be in love, i mean it’s not from the heart..
I suppose u have moved on, but just to confirm if u can check if he’s doing the same thing with other girls (having them just to sleep with him) then u can be sure he’s taken his Libran traits with a negative approach.
Just wanted to know from you, how do i make out that she’s in love? how do I know if she love’s me.. How long shall I wait for my first Kiss?
September 9th, 2009 at 2:12 pm
I understand the Love coming from the heart. For a virgo to be able to do this they first need that security that we aren’t going to be hurt by you for you not loving us in return. We feel love from our heart but try to hide it out of fear. When in love it can be very deep for a virgo & thats why we get hurt. If you love us back we will make you feel like the most important person.
You should definately make the first move for the kiss, not her. It will help her feel at ease & more comfortable with you if you can take some charge or control.
If you can let in to her a little first she will let in to you right back if she likes you. We take a little time to warm up.
I do not know for sure that he is just sleeping with me or any other girls or if he has done this before. The lack of talking & the information from a friend is what I’m going on. I am not perfect & I know I didn’t probably come off well to this libra, I am not very good with games. I am an adult & I don’t play well that way anymore.
September 10th, 2009 at 5:40 am
I thought so.. we held our hands together, but she seemed to be “cold”. she would not run her fingers over my hand or hug me tightly, as if like I am the one who shud be doing all this and she wud just be a statue allowing me to do it.
I am not sure if she liked it or not. I don’t know if she enjoyed the moment or spoiled it by just thinking over it than being involved in it.
She’s expressive in all but love. Doesn’t say what she felt or anything..
One thing I felt about her is she will not forgive if someone has hurt her. But she also doesn’t have the clarity to view if she was at fault! she can talk good things but doesn’t walk it. And when I pointed out to her that she is the one who shud be bending a little if a relationship (friends, relatives etc) has gone wrong, then she wud not accept.
She always feels that she has done her bit right and now wants the same reciprocation from the other person, if not less.
Is it typical virgo?
September 11th, 2009 at 2:49 pm
Tinsy,
I don’t know, maybe shes not that into you, or still uncomfortable with you. It is kind of hard to say.
Sounds like maybe shes witholding because of a past hurt. If you really like her you will have to work with her too. She does not want to be hurt again so her fear is stronger & makes her cold.
You would have to let in to her & reveal more about yourself to crack her I think. If you want Love from this virgo then you’ll have to show her your love without thinking about her stiffness & just let yourself go & not worry. That would help her to feel secure enough to let in to you in return.
She is scared. Just try to make her feel at ease by being confident & expressing your feelings openly.
Good luck
September 13th, 2009 at 10:42 pm
Marie: your Libra is using you for sex. Sorry to say it, but the way you described him just made it so clear to me. Move on. You could do so much better.
Tinsy: Your Virgo is waiting for you to make the first move, as soon as she is sure you like her she will begin to open up and be more affectionate. You need to be bold.
My libra is being a puzzle. We have gone on few dates, but he still makes me feel completely insecure. We also talk most days online. Then last night seemed so strange, he said he could not stay over because he had work to do, but then he just fell asleep in my bed. Sometimes it seems perfect accept he barely fits me in his life. We only see each other about once every two weeks and he is very reluctant to stay the night even when he usually just ends up staying. I have no idea how to handle him and am starting to feel like shutting down emotionally, which is painful because we have had such intimate moments when we are together. Should I hold out to see if he is going to commit? Is this how Libras act when they have feelings for someone or am I wasting my time?
September 16th, 2009 at 3:48 pm
Astra,
Thanks & yes I know. Was sad about it at first but I think our trusty withholding does pay off sometimes!
He text me again & I decided to call him out on it, but being a libra he denied it w/out denying it. All he would say is take it how I want to. HaHa…I honestly think he was really into me at first but when I wasn’t ready to open up he got scared & decided to turn it into something w/no feelings attached. I have moved on & am fine with that…don’t like investing in nothing.
Sounds to me like libras are scared shitless & are always looking for the greener grass too. I hope that yours is in it for real. No matter what I always try to be cautious & would give advice in the same matter.
Or go bold & unlike a virgo & dive in the deep end & see what happens…you will still be alive!
September 17th, 2009 at 8:34 am
Astra,
Librans are lazy and that explains why he slept at ur place.. did he thank you for that? If not, then he just dint bother about u.. And they are selfish too but not upto extreme..
Before u think he’s not into u can u do urself a favour? If u can just talk to him about him, his life and his priorities in life then u will get some info as to why he’s not commiting to u.
And it’s only when a libra loses something they know it’s importance. So if u can give him that time and space to reflect whether he’s ready for your responsibilites then u can be sure no one can be in love like a Libra… so instead of worrying over things which “you” want, i suggest let yourself free and go abut as if u r not looking for commitment but just friendship.. that may make him realise what he’s missing..
Marie, better that u left him..
I am not sure about my virgo… Whatever i do or say she asks “why do u think so? there nothing to worry” but again comes back asking why i said so.. She said she wud like my affection towards her.. that i shud have some special place for her from the rest of the crowd… that she is the one who has all the rights over me and such stuff.. I sometimes feel if she expects such things from me then she shud also “reciprocate” with the same, but that’s not happening. It’s me who needs to call everytime and tell her how i like her and stuff.. she never feels anything as such and never calls up. When i said this her reaction was cold as usual. She doesnt feel the romance between us and takes it as a routine and acepted stuff that we are together. Is it something typical virgo?
I am not sure how do i get the feeling upto her lips and make out if she’s sad happy or anything in between. She has the same expression and behaviour day in and day out.. Sometimes gets to u and becomes monotonous..
How do i get emotions out of her? Virgo females can help out here pls…
September 18th, 2009 at 1:58 pm
Your Virgo could be different and never really express affection physically, but usually once a Virgo feels secure she will express her feelings physically. Perhaps not to an extreme level in public, but in private she should open up. She also says you should be treating her differently from others. This means she is criticizing you, which is a strong Virgo trait. We always criticize those we care about because we want them to be the best they can be. This is because we admire them so much. This is her way of letting you know she cares, strange but true. Virgos love to nurture, Have you tried telling her you have a sore neck, she might just want to rub it for you. Or if you tell her you are feeling under the weather she may offer to take care of you. Even if you say you are feeling sad, she may go out of her way to cheer you up. These are signs she really cares. This is one of the ways my Libra and me connect. He is very busy and get tired a lot. I am good at listening to his complaints and make an effort to make him feel better. At first we both resisted these rolls but we are now slipping into them. Speaking of which, last night we had a really good date. We saw a film, but before and after he took me to different events where I met some of his friends. I felt like that was a step forward, as I have never met his friends before. If it were me introducing him to my friends it would mean something. But then again I’m a Virgo and everything has meaning to us. Thoughts?
On a final note. BE BOLD! Just grab her and kiss her like in a romance novel. Sounds corny, but if she is still hanging around you then that’s what she is waiting for. Some Virgos can be very traditional. She probably thinks the guy should do all the work. Plus they have trouble going out on a limb, so it is unlikely she will make the first move. If the kiss is passionate enough she will melt in your arms. Coldness does not mean we don’t like you, it may mean the exact opposite, we get so scared of the passionate feelings we have we can often get extremely cold on the exterior as a way to keep them in check. All you have to do is break the exterior, which can be a ton of work, but keep trying. It is very worthwhile. It will break when we feel secure in your feelings for us and know we can trust you. Once that bond is forged it is a hard one to break. Virgos are complex, don’t take her behaviour at face value.
September 21st, 2009 at 2:56 pm
Tinsy,
I would definately agree with Astra…Just be bold & go for it. If she likes you thats where she will respond back & you will feel it.
Why is it that when I am not interested anymore, now he is???!!! I thought I had nipped this in the bud & now hes texting more then he was previously!! Why do we have to be uninterested for men to be interested???!!! I am pretty much fed up with stupid games!
I would love a guys view on this please!
So if I always play uninterested how does this ever end?
I was married for 7 years during my early twenties, so I never really experienced these games…Is this normal?
Why are men this way?
October 6th, 2009 at 9:46 am
Marie,
I had earlier suggested Astra to leave her Libra alone and see if he reciprocates, and that’s what is happening to you.. U left him all alone and now he’s find it difficult without u. Also, u gave in too easily to his sexual demands and he never cared for you but now that u left him he needs u. As a Libran we prefer women who are strong and independent because of our own indecisiveness.
It’s not a game, it’s just that u gave in too easily and that we do want someone who is a bit hard to get. People should not take you for granted. Maybe u learned something from this relationship with him..
If you really want a man’s respect, stand for yourself. Virgo’s are meant to serve and that’s the weakness. Though no one’s as strong as you, being an earth sign.
As for mine, I did kiss her and hug her and we had a great date.. but One thing which is nagging me is, she has a lot of questions.. i mean even if it is understood by normal people, what is supposed to be a joke or a light comment she has questions on it.. and the most common one being “Why so?”
She is one typical one who feels I am a male and i shud be the initiator in everything and do everything.
Though Mercury being the ruler she’s talkative but not intellectual I think. I don’t think a Virgo matches the level of a Libra.
And one last one for today.. Are Virgo’s miser? I have experienced it so many times now..
Well Marie, all I can say is stand for ur self and u will be respected much more than what u got till now.. and Virgo’s are worrier. Stop worrying and lie will be much easier..;-)
Good luck!
October 13th, 2009 at 1:52 pm
Hey guys,I dont mean to interrupt in you guys conversation but im having a problem myself in my relationship and i was wanting to know if you guys can help…Okay I just started dating this libra guy and we have been dating for a month now.Not to mention I am a virgo.And before we started dating we only talked for 1 month.Anyways,the first 2 weeks were good,we talked everyday and texted eachother.But just last week i didn’t hear from him in 5 days and finally he texted me and I was like,”WOW,you’re actually texting me?”And he was like,”LOL why do you say that?”I told him because I havent heard from him in awhile,He just said,”Well,I havent heard from you either.But we stared talking again.And that was last week,now he went this whole week without talking to me.Finally just yesterday I just took the initiative to call him myself,I asked him how come I havent heard from him and he said because he has been busy and sick,he had the flu and i told him that he could have at least called me and he was like,”you’re right,ok”and I also asked him what has he been doing to be busy and he couldnt answer,he just said,”I dont know but i have been busy and I just forgot to call you…(that really bugged me)Anyways,he said he was going to call me back that night but he never did.Im starting to think he’s seeing other girls and that he’s not that interested in me anymore.Am i just being over-exaggerative?should i be worried?Or should i just relax?He says he likes and cares for me but im not sure anymore.Please help me!!!Im not so great in relationships,he’s my 3rd boyfriend and we are 18 by the way…
October 13th, 2009 at 9:25 pm
He is definatly cheatin on u I also am a virgo an tha father of my twins is a libra an he did me the exact same way wen we were datin to tha t an I later found out he had a fiancee an a ex wife that he 4got to mention an he still now jus stops callin an I dnt hear frm him 4 weeks at a time an we have babies 2gether he pops bac in our lives tryn tob apologize blamin himself to make me feel bad 4 him ab then does that same thing again!! It sucks but I think that’s jus how libras r lol
October 14th, 2009 at 8:23 am
Well anyone can post anything as it is an open forum and u r not disturbing anyone Michelle, infact u can contribute here your own experiences.
having said that, i think ur guy is bored of you. Librans do get bored easily until u keep them active. And I have a problem which u might not think it as… Virgo’s always expect their guy (libra) to call them and txt them and do all such stuff.. Librans do like to be loved and much so like anyone else.. So it’s not a one way street. My Virgo never calls up and then complains that I never make her feel special.. But I do get tired of calling always.. likenes shud be reciprocated.
Thoughts on this?
October 14th, 2009 at 1:54 pm
Thank you for your advice Tinsy,But im not being boring to him.When we hang out we have lots of fun and I try to give him my heart and show him that I care by saying things like how I think about him.And I compliment him and tell him the things I like about him and he tells me that he loves it when i do those things.And sometimes I do call him but I dont want to call him all the time,I dont want him to think of me as a stalker.And also I have this thing I go by,that if you really wanna talk to me,you’ll call on your own.I dont want to call all the time because I want to see where he’s at,I want to see if he wants to call me…Even though I have been hurt from my past boyfriends and that it is hard for me to open up and give people my heart,I still do it to him because I really care for him.Is there anything that im doing wrong?What is it that you libra guys want from females?Im really trying here… Oh and also yesterday morning he texted me and apologized for not calling me back when he said he was,he also called me baby which he has never done since we’ve been dating,What does that mean?
October 19th, 2009 at 9:58 pm
My Libra dumped me. He said he’s just not ready for a relationship right now. Ha! Perhaps Libra and Virgos are just doomed. We are staying friends though, with an odd text here and the there. Sad that it seemed to end before it even got off the ground. Guess I should have played harder to get. To late now.
October 24th, 2009 at 3:18 pm
I am sorry for u Astra. But u were with a typical Libran who wud not commit so easily.. it’s like “similarity between a mobile and girlfriend? wait for a couple of months and u get a better model” just meant to be in a lighter sense
I am going steady with mine but the only thing which irritates me of her (and seriously) is her way of speech.. she seems soo childish that it is sometimes embarrasing.. she may be intellectual and understanding but soooo childish that u feel will she ever grow up in her lifetime?
And her talks always have “I” or “ME” in it, never tires of talking about herself though not egoistically but she feels she is the center of all things happening with her and around her… Is this something treatable?
October 30th, 2009 at 1:37 am
I think one of the best tips for virgos trying to get with libras is be as independant as u can and don’t do anything that u wouldn’t want your libran to do. I am the Virgo male by the way. Comments and tips greatly appreciated
October 30th, 2009 at 6:27 pm
I cannot believe how true this is! I was overseas for a while and made friends with a guy who I only recently discovered was a Libran. We had the most amazing conversations (often going on til the wee hours) and we each had the same sense of humour but we sometimes drove each other nuts. He complained I was always reading too much into what he was saying and I always told him he never gave straight answers or avoided talking about things. Although I am not a typical Virgo(not a health nut, don’t always have control over my emotions and I am a very loving, open person)I definitely see why this guy and I never dated, there was a spark but we sometimes just irritated each other. Now that I’m home again I still keep in contact with my friend and we chat at least evrery day, but I know that we will never be more than friends because we’d drive each other nuts!
November 3rd, 2009 at 3:24 am
Its strange for me because I can completely relate to all of the females comments here…and i can see the trates of the libran male tinsy talks about in my friend(because thats really all he is right now). I can honestly say that I have no idea how i feel about this guy and I probally do like him alot because he’s quite calming… but will stay in denial until it hits me over the head. I am one of those virgo’s who don’t like to open up because I have never had someone make me feel even half way secure of accepting me. I don’t like relying on people because of that and usually good friends only know me in parts(pretty much because of fear and be waying to sensitive).I’m working on it.
But I have a question for you tinsy…Even if I am quite independent will going for it/initiating anything make me appear as too into him as you say?…I’ve been doing this approach where I will initiate conversations and ask him of his day out of the blue and can let days pass without talking to him as well. And he’ll surprise my low expectations of guys right now and reciprocate and make me feel like he thinks of me. (But I’m pretty sure he knows I feel something for him..but I don’t fawn and am wondering should i actually call out those moments where i feel like taking it to the next level both runs through our heads?
Also with your gal, I feel thats she’s that way because she honestly hasn’t had the opportunity to that. I know for me its like living backwards..being very serious as a child and learning to lighten up as I get older…I would say bombard her with some intellectual ideas or questions and If she has an intellectual side it will shine through(it should be a natural habit for a virgo) and although you said librans don’t like to analyze you might have to do a little research on her; people don’t act childish for no reason…confront her about in a sly way..i think you have the skills
November 4th, 2009 at 3:56 am
I hate the fact that Libras don’t speak up. I loved my Libra and he left. Guess I wasn’t independent enough for him. I wanted stability he gave me fickleness…but why did he keep returning to me every time he left me? Five years…five times he left and returned. ??????? Now he married another…
November 9th, 2009 at 1:06 pm
For Artsy Virgo:-
Thats exactly whats driving us crazy after some time going out with a Virgo.. Shes asks me about my day and analyses why i did what i did (typical virgo :-)) in that day, instead of just listening to what I have to say. That takes the fun out of the moment we are togeher. One think i know about her is that she wants to talk in detail about how she went about her day whereas we just want to know that a work was finishd (nomatter how it was done). Detailing is something which is not liked by a Libran and generalizing is avoided by a Virgo.. My suggestion is (From a libran perspective) is have intelligent talks with him (politics, movies, current affairs, news, astronomy, astrology anything except your daily chores) and he will be more than attracted to you.. and when you think u want to tel him about your feelings then do it gently and normally then being filmy or behaving what u r not! that will be truely appreciated! Also the key is to tell him your feelings AND not to expect anything back to hear. Dont ask for a reply the same time. Let a day go by and he will loose his sleep over you and think about the times u had together and then see you as a partner for life. You will be surprised!
Librans dont always want to talk about feelings and stuff even in love, everyday. Gets boring and monotonous in a relationship.
Mine is intelligent but only confined to her thoughts and knowledge. How do i make her loosen up and smell the coffee? Have a life? and enjoy what life has to offer? rather than just ask questions just experience whats happening and thats something cant be expressed in words!
More comments and experiences welcome…
November 16th, 2009 at 3:15 am
Good to know. I hate small talk anyway and will keep that in mind. Ok but from what I here you have a virgo that is too serious about life(which i think is pretty normal). I’ve realized the one thing that virgo’s do too much is think! I don’t know if you can plan a day/date where she doesn’t know anything. Basically force spontanaety to the point where she is too distracted to consider all the thoughts that run through her head. I don’t know if yal could go somewhere that is not in her element but she’ll probally need something serious to make it effective. There could be more ways to do this than change of location..but thats my best bet. Even a simple walk is a good distraction..but try it out.
Also,
You say act normal. I think thats the real issue because its becomes hard to do that around him because he so much saner than me! Its slightly a problem. I feel by doing so it will run him away. I know I’m not as linear as most virgos..ie art student, but still thats better?
November 24th, 2009 at 1:26 am
I RECENTLY STARTED TALKING TO A LIBRA MAN…I’M A VIRGO WOMAN WITH A SCORPIO-RISING, SAGITTARIUS-MOON, AND A FIRE TIGER LOL. I LIKE HIM ALOT BECAUSE I ENJOY COMMUNICATION…THE ONLY THING THAT FREAKS ME OUT INTO WANTING TO MAKE A DASH FOR THE DOOR IS HIS NEED TO HAVE ALL OF MY ATTENTION ALL OF THE TIME….LITERALLY “ALL” OF THE TIME..I’VE NEVER EXPERIENCED ANYTHING LIKE IT…HE WANTS TO TEXT,TALK, OR E-MAIL CONSTANTLY…I’M ALMOST NUTS FROM TRYING TO GIVE HIM A CONSTANT SUPPLY OF MYSELF LOL..I REALLY LIKE HIM THOUGH BCUZ HE’S SO GIDDY ABOUT ME AND HE TELLS ME HOW MUCH HE LIKES ME AND CAN’T WAIT TO SEE ME ALL THE TIME..HE’S REALLY QUITE SWEET. I JUST DON’T WANT TO DISAPPOINT HIM BY NOT GIVING HIM ENOUGH TIME OR AFFECTION..CAN ANYONE GIVE ME ANY ADVICE?? ON HOW TO MAKE HIM FEEL IMPORTANT WHILE STILL HAVING A LITTLE TIME LEFT FOR MYSELF…ARE THERE ANYTHINGS THAT LIBRA MEN LIKE OR APPRECIATE? I REALLY DO LIKE HIM TOO, BUT I MAY NOT BE SHOWING AS INTENSELY AS HE IS.
November 27th, 2009 at 1:33 pm
This site is really interesting, I like the conversations that goes on here too, makes people feel less silly about worrying about tiny things! So yeas, obviously i’m a Virgo…
Basically what i’m getting from this Libra - Virgo partnering Virgo needs to be more general, intellectual, give space and play hard to get? I like it! lol….well I think maybe I may have overdone the show of emotion (how thats possible for a cautious virgo I have no idea)but, i hardly laid on the affection when two days later I get a ‘talk’ that goes like : “I really like you and I think you’re attractive…but I dont really want to go there!”
Now say i didn’t react much might be overgeneralising… but i didnt say much because thers nothing much to say when nothing has started in the first place… I didnt kiss my libra man, harldy touched him…and yet i heard from him everyday in text…I didn’t give him much to go by wen i went home for the day (I think he wanted me to follow him to wereva he was goin)..a sweet smile and gd bye…and I left…now i’m not sure i did the right thing…but the way his face kind of fell, i think mayb i’m on the right track…
So i’m guessing i shouldn’t be worrying and just lay back and wait? or do i just treat him like a friend? or flirt with the friend? or even…just forget it?
Open to advice!!
Thank you
November 29th, 2009 at 4:48 am
Ok so I think I made it clear to my libra that i liked him.. without anything physical like you jez..but his usually indecisive nature made me realize that if he’s only gonna view me as a friend than thats really all it needs to be. I don’t think any harm can come from flirting lol, but its takes the stress off by treating him as just a friend… Or more so uneven expectations never really go anywhere. I would say just say lay back and just get to know each other and if deeper feelings actually creep up on his part..if your still interested.. than it can start on better terms!!!
I actually like our relationship now and I don’t have to worry about whether its something more because if it is it will come out in his actions. If not, atleast i have good friend out of the deal: )
November 29th, 2009 at 10:21 pm
To Artsy Virgo,
Thanks thats really good to know.. It’s always nice to get another perspective!
Indecisiveness takes its toll after a while so I know what you mean. I’ve been thinking about it and it would take a lot of work, and I don’t think I want to do that right now..
It’s really frustrating though to have had a really strong connection over a few days, we became really close, which to be honest is really unusual anyway! haha…but to have him change his mind from one day to the next without some sort of explanation is just strange…haha…so if we had to do that constantly I don’t think I’d last very long no matter how willing i was to try!!
All in all Libra’s are charming and fun sort of people so I can’t hold anything against him!!
and I agree they are good friends!
Thanks again!
January 30th, 2010 at 1:25 am
As far as I can tell as a Virgo myself; Libras make soothing, comforting friends. Really great for conversation, aside from the occasional disconnect. Maybe because they are great friends, I never really feel the need to advance the relationship sexually.
March 7th, 2010 at 8:45 am
Hi I just stumbled this website and find it really good. May I ask if Tinsy is still with his Virgo girl at the moment? Just wondering how’s it been so far.
I am really very interested with how to make a Virgo and Libra relationship work. I see a lot of potential and hard work but I believe it works somehow.
Would like to hear more about Librans being moody.
April 23rd, 2010 at 6:19 am
I am a Libran female and I would never date a Libran male, they just come on too strong and demand what they are not willing to give. Now as far as I have been told the sex is wild with them, so I guess they know how to put the sex spell on many women. They are often goodlooking and charming so I can see the attraction to them. My advise to any woman wanting to have a serious relationship with a Libran man is to be strong, don’t let him win all the time, don’t always answer his calls or drop everything to be with him. Have a sense of mystery about you and as far as the sex thing goes you would have to have a real wild streak to keep that up with him. If you are highly educated or very successful in business that is a bonus too. Never ever, ever initiate or show any signs of interest with a Libran male, he will never respect you, let him make the first move.
September 26th, 2010 at 2:26 am
I love all the comments made by everyone about Libra and Virgo, very insightful. For those Virgo women that have had bad experiences with a Libran Man…. Like feeling they just want sex with you, sounded interested then pushed you back and made you feel crap…. this is a trait of a typical man (no matter what there their star sign) that has been exposed to, too much porn and has let his ego get the better of him, makes them think they can have anything and every fish in the sea…. you may find you have chemistry but whether your a star sign match or not don’t get involved with any man with these traits and save your innocence as it were. However, on a nicer note….
The Relationship: Virgo women like a lot of respect and a good deep feel of love in a relationship, this is why most of them are so cautious as a Virgo can really hurt bad, it doesn’t help that they are so analytical and deep in there thinking. A Libra can respect and love more than most star signs can for a Virgo. Good Communication is key to this matching, and even though Libran’s like mystery and spontaneity a Virgo really can live up to this side but don’t forget A Libran still likes two know what the plans are and craves attention and love’s to love.
Another benefit for a Virgo with a Libran… Librans are very fussy too
So if you don’t like something and have high standards, they should understand as they usually know where your coming from. Librans are also very open to the world they like to travel and crave the feeling of freedom, but at the end of the day that doesn’t mean being single,they want someone to love and love them back unconditionally until the end of time. But they still want to be able to be socialites with access to the world and all its knowledge, beauty and experiences. Sometimes this is hard for a Virgo to accept as most of us Virgo’s are home people that like a happy routine as such… However, there is a side that makes us love to let our hair down and run through the rain and the wind naked..(not that I’ve done it… yet) But a Libra partner will make you feel like that and you will be more than adaptable to step to the Librans beat over time once you have built the most important foundations of trust and love, which you will know is true from the way they respect you.
Personalities: I am A Virgo women, Moon in Pisces and Leo Ascendant I must say that the love of my life is a Libran Man. When I first met him At first I thought he was rude and arrogant, and a bit of a snob, He was effortlessly well dressed very beautiful, tall dark and handsome, but his rudeness made me kind of ignore him, then his manners shown, his smile and his regard for me, he would always ask if I was Ok, needed a drink or if I was comfortable. I did’t talk much, just smiled and nodded to him, then one day I started taking interest to him, asking him where he was from etc etc… as I came to know him better I found he was a well travelled, intelligent good mannered person. Our friendship started off with many text messages I was more inquisitive and friendly than interested in pulling him but he was the one to pull me in (Buts that’s good as I like the man to do the chasing)
Our relationship started very quickly he was extremely romantic, a true gentleman and an absolute god in the bedroom. Our bodies and minds just clicked. We met in 2008 and had an unforgetable loved up 3 months but due to travels he has been away for 1 year and 6months, we are not together but he has kept in regular contact n has always said he loves me more and more each day and misses me so much. He is now due back in October, where we will start where we left off…. we already know we are going to be married to each other one day we have hardly even needed to talk about it. We just know and are letting the time reveal and pull us together as it should naturally.
A Libra and Virgo can match very well, a famous couple of these star signs are Will Smith and Jada Pinkett… now that is a relationship proven to work and so far has lasted along time, and according to Jada’s revealing of her sex life, they are pretty hot together. Good luck!!! Virgo/Libra couples. hope it works for you too x
November 3rd, 2010 at 2:25 pm
I’m a virgo and for some reason I do tends to date Libran (or Saggitarian…arent they supposed to be horrible match for Virgos :P). One thing tho : My moon is in Libra and I’m Gemini rising (maybe thats why? :P)
Based on my experiences, Virgo-libran relationship tends to develop slowly. Maybe it’s just me but I really have difficulties in sitting down and talking about my feeling, or his feeling, or both of us feelings or any uncomfortable things like that. To make things worse, I have a delayed reaction (i.e if someone tells me they loved me, it will take me few days to digest and then figure out whether I actually love them or not). Libran, in my experiences, are not awesome at this either. So yeah, it’s definitely not instant relationship (very unlike my saggitarians exes).
I do understand the Virgos comment about not wanting to ‘bare it all’ without knowing whether the other person is into you or not. I’m like that too and yes, being with Libras doesnt help. They’re a bit like that too (but then again maybe all people are like that too :). My advices is to take it as it is-dating-and not be too serious before you ’seal the deal’. With me, I usually date few guys at once, its fun and it keeps you from wanting too much too soon (assuming that you like all of em)
Not sure why people are complaining about them being aloof? All the librans I’ve dated are really caring. Especially after we’re ‘officially together’. And it doesnt hurt that we like same food, same clothes, same music, etc either. Same sense of humour too.
Sex wise-yes there’s that compatibility
we seems to know what each other wants and try to push each other limit all the time 
January 14th, 2011 at 5:41 am
Wow, this is amazing feedback! I’ll have to agree with all these comments.
My x girl friend is a Virgo, and I’m a Libra.
#1 Communication: she want’s to be heard and understood, I want to be heard and understood.
#2 sex is the best
#3 very emotional, lot’s of work!
#4 very dependent, I need balance and time alone for personal development.
I would like to add, if you do not give a Virgo women enough attention, she will seek and find elsewhere. They are good liars too.
February 10th, 2011 at 5:35 pm
hello i am a Libra female i am 28. i have been in a relationship with a Virgo man who is 31 for 8 1/2 years now. we are 3 years and eleven months apart to the day.we have our daughter together and no other children. however i find it very true that at times he does make me feel dumb when we are conversing.although i am not one to back down and i get directly to the point.he on the other hands never gets to the point. i am a strong believer in astrology. i believe everything happens for a reason. and no matter what we go through i will never leave this man.I love him and believe he is my soul mate. i used to have dreams of him since i was a little girl and them one day when i was pregnant with our daughter, i woke up out of a dream and shouted your him your the man of my dreams. since then (even though its corny) we have never left each other’s side. i would love for someone to research why we think we are compatible?