Are all Cancerians caring? |
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I thought it would be nice if I put up a question every now and then for everyone to put down their opinion etc. I have done this just for fun and it is not meant to be taken seriously!!
It is widely known that peopleborn under the Sun sign of Cancerare very caring and kind people. However, this usually only works out when the person has this sign in other areas of their chart. In fact, it is sometimes the case that Cancer the crab people can be very critical of others which is always a shock for people who believe that all Cancer’s are helpful, kind and caring.
Please leave comments of your own opinions on this, and any Cancerians out there or friends and family of an overly critical and not your stereotypical caring Cancer person, …let’s hear from you too. Also if you have any questions you would like me to ask here then please drop me a line and I will put the best ones up on the site. 
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June 3rd, 2009 at 7:37 am
My sister is a Cancer and she doesn’t care much for others unless they’re adoring her. (No Leo in her whatsoever)
But I have countless people with moon in Cancer. Those are the ridiculously selfless and most caring people I’v ever met! If they hurt you, it ends up hurting them ten times more. If you need a place to crash, they’ll offer you bed and breakfast at their place. And they make amazing parents.
June 7th, 2009 at 5:05 am
I had a friend that I love dearly. He is a cancer male who was very caring…he offered and gave me his services out of concern. I believe that he is my soul mate. He wanted me to be a success, and be happy….to realize my potential, he said. Then, one day, he shared with me that he felt that his body may be shutting down (he is more than 15 years my senior). I told him that there is a place that is only his in my heart that will always be there…that I carry him there forever. Forever is entirely accurate as I was calling for him by name and dreaming of him as a child, looong before I’d ever met or heard of him…he came from across the ocean. Anyway, when I volunteered words describing my feeling of connectedness, he said simply that I didn’t really need to see him any more….that, if anything I’d outgrown him. I left with tear swollen eyes…heart broke. He was never my lover…do friends really do such things???? He emailed me the next day to let me know that his door remains open, if I ever really do need him sometime….but later I found that his email was simply a polite gesture.
Not a day has gone by that I don’t think of him. I so loved spending time with him. He was my best friend. So, to answer your question: from this experience, I see him as the most caring person that I have ever known…and truly he was. But then, when the caring ended abruptly, as I had somehow trespassed some unseen boundary that I am still confused about, it was cut off cold and it just seems almost unreal. Months have gone by and I can’t seem to make my heart stop screaming no matter how my gemini sun logic tries to rationalize the whole drama. I do have a cancer moon though and what the previous writer had to say is quite accurate. I go to ridiculous lengths to prevent anyone from having hurt feelings. It makes arguing impossible, and talking about others negatively very difficult which means that I don’t really get stuck in any cliques. Sorry to have been so lengthy, months have gone by and I’m beginning to look for a form to view it all from. Astrology is a great gift.
June 9th, 2009 at 7:06 am
Maybe I could just add to the last comment that: perhaps we can know another as friend without reciprocation…no expectation!!!
June 12th, 2009 at 4:55 am
I have 2 guy friends that are cancer.(they both like me) But they both are always up my ass scuse the french. I wake up each morning with a text from them both saying MORNING! And one he is caring till a point, its so hard to explain him…like he likes helping people but i think that in hes life people hurt him in a way that he doesn’t like to help all people just the ones he likes. The the other one hes soooo sweet like i love the kid but some times he gets soo annoying… he keeps texting e like crazy and if i dont reply back he keeps sending me texts @__@;; and sometimes he knows hes anoying so then he says sorry… but he sweet =]
June 12th, 2009 at 3:41 pm
I have found ALL my cancer friends to be unfaithful…male and female. They state they love their spouses and would die for them, but ALL of them have been unfaithful. I find it extremely odd.
June 14th, 2009 at 4:47 pm
The Cancers I know are bipolar. They seem like caring, heart-warming people but can criticize the heck out of everyone. I think they do this out of insecurity. They know they are easily hurt by comments and so they take a shot at people before that person does to them. Not all of them are like this. I have six Cancers in my life and what they all have in common is that they are emotional people and at times cannot control their emotions. They love being right and in control of situations; perhaps because they don’t have control over their own emotions.
My Mercury and Venus are both in Capricorn. I was even born under the Capricorn/Aquarius cusp. Saturn, Neptune and Uranus are also in Capricorn. You can say that when it comes to Cancers, we’re pretty much opposites. When we get each other, we get each other. When we don’t, we don’t. Ironically enough my best friend is a Cancer and people often ask us why we are friends. My Cancer friend is a loyal friend. He isn’t faithful to his girlfriends because his emotions get the best out of him when it comes to other girls but he is a good friend. Just very annoying sometimes when he tries to be funny.
They’re good people though. Cancer moons tend to be nicer though.
June 15th, 2009 at 7:07 pm
Cancer is moody and complicated but true to its feelings. The moods will confuse the friends but they will still enjoy the warmth and hospitality.
June 15th, 2009 at 8:14 pm
My fiancé is a Cancer and he is especially caring towards friends and family. He is usually helpful towards people he doesn’t know too, most of the time. “Helpful” is definitely a word I would use to describe him. He isn’t ridiculously kind though, as if someone annoy him or do something wrong towards him he will let them know.
My sister is also a Cancer, she is caring too… but not to the same extent. With her, it depends on what mood she’s in as she can be very selfish too.
June 17th, 2009 at 4:11 am
I’m a cancer and I can honeslty say as a cancer, I am moody, and emotional. I also do know I am overly nice sometimes, I’ve learned to not be that way. My friends have told me not to take BS from anyone and I think as cancers we do that. We take BS from alot of people and when we finally speak up, they think were being critical and mean, when it’s not like that at all. I have met some cancers who are just mean for no reason and it’s shocked me.
June 18th, 2009 at 8:34 am
I am a cancer and I can tell you…yeah we are the type to go above and beyond to help someone and to make other feel better before we do, but when you hurt us you hurt us and all we want is revenge…i get caught up in my emotions all the time..bad enough to where i screwed up a 10 year relationship…however i must say..I myself am a very loyal caring trustworthy person who would give everything i had to someone else if they needed it..i have been told that i am the kindest person in the world but also the least tactiful..whoda thunk right? hehe my point is..if you think about it..most people are like i just described..some cancers are moodier than the other, but i kid you not..if you need anything from one of us i guarentee you we’ll be there
June 21st, 2009 at 1:27 am
I completely agree with Livi on this subject. We are so kind and caring all the time, we make our partner feel like they are the most beautiful person in the world. We make her feel like an angel. But for some reason, I guess they find pleasure in pushing our buttons, so to speak, to see how our tender little hearts get all damaged and destroyed. When we can’t take it anymore and retreat into our shells (just so we can’t be hurt anymore), we are being thought of as uncaring and end up confusing others!! Please don’t interpret our softness as a weakness and try to step all over our heart.
June 22nd, 2009 at 11:17 am
Hey!!! I’m a Cancer. Yes and No to this question. I am very kind, emotional, sensitive, loving…whatever.
But also, especially due to my tidal wave of emotional mood swings, some times I really don’t FEEL like giving a fuck.
Of course I FEEL bad after haha. As for the comment that all the cancers they knew being unfaithful….well…there’s unfaithful people everywhere.
for example. You think of sagittarius being the nympho lying cheaters…well I met one thats actually very family oriented (LOVES being at home with his family), still has his childhood action figures (enjoys the emotional attachment he once had to them), and is this hopeful romantic. Go figure…
However he’s still very much a sag in some aspects.
As a Cancer, I can willingly admit that we are pretty childish, and a lot of the time very selfish. Especially when it concerns our emotions. We over analyze EVERYTHING.
We can either be the best or worst parents.Personally, I don’t want kids. I never fantasized about having kids or even getting married!!
I would like a lovely victorian style home with a nice flower garden though.
Take a Cancer, and realize that their emotions can make them into the most tender person you know, the most bitter person, or all of the above.
Here’s something you may find funny. I’m a Cancer female. I HATE being at home!!!! Home is a closet to me. Family…..is nice on the holidays. I’m not family oriented. Romance…meh. It’d be nice but I don’t believe in it. Sex is more than just some worship act for me, since I don’t believe in romance.
The sag man I mentioned above…he wants romance with me. He’s okay with clingyness..I’m not. Last time I called him he asked if I only call him when I’m bored. Well…I like adventures. Unlike most crabs I don’t sit in my house and dwell about love and childhood when there’s mountains to climb and adventures to go on.
Am I a typical Cancer woman? Yes and No.
June 22nd, 2009 at 11:19 am
oh not to mention I came on to the Sag. purely for sex. Cancers don’t make the first moves and they aren’t horn dogs? Heh…perhaps I should be the sag!!!
June 22nd, 2009 at 11:18 pm
Rebecca,
You are the typical un-typical Cancer woman. I am pretty sure you and I were separated at birth!! I too see myself am a Cancer who shares the exact characteristics and desires as you described. In fact, I show my emotions far less than most Fire and Air signs I know, who are general more aloof. The only time I do show it is when I get moody or crabby and which I just stay tight-lipped and anti-social, and that is only when someone tests my enduring patience. We Cancers have lots of that!
Do you know what your other charts are? I have Cancer Sun, Leo Moon and Saggittarius rising. I think my Sag rising determines my adventures and need for freedom. My Leo Moon explains who I can stay cool with my emotions. So you may have more fire and air signs which could explain how you are.
Anyways I am happy for who I am. There are days when even I cant control my mood swings so I can’t imagine being a typical Cancer!
June 23rd, 2009 at 8:30 pm
I am a cancerian.I totally agree with most of the comments that cancerians are moody, childis, caring… But the thing that I don’t like about me, I care for my friends and family beyond limits and sometimes I feel insecure. I am very giving (love and help) but I never expect the same back from anyone. Is that a very typical cancerian thing? But the other thing about me is if I stop talkig (any fights)to my any close family friends, no matter what happens I would never talk to them again, even though they try to fix the situation back. Is this bad?
June 27th, 2009 at 7:42 pm
Wow…I’m in the same boat as Rebecca and Jen in these comments. For me im the typical untypical cancer male I have so many mood swings and at the drop of a hat im fine again. Im very caring to my friends and family, but at the same time im like whatever,,,Ive learned not to be the overly nice guy. I was the typical cancer all my life but once u get steped on one to many times or called to nice it flips the script. I do want a stable relationship but at the same time the closeness i enjoy when with someone for so little i get bored and if there is not the devotion from who my girl is at the time i loose interest act as though I am crushed and I am for the moment crushed. And that night or the next I’m with a new woman. Okay I dont think im a player but wow my actions are that of a player (im fickled)especially the last couple years (im 23). Also as cancers we have to realise we are the camillion of the zodiac and adapt to all personalities we are around. My closest friends are sag, aqui, and I love capricorn women im always witty and dnt let anyone knw that their comments bother me. im the coolest person I knw (thats the gemini comeing out in me. I cld keep typing and typing bc as any cancers knw reading this we love to listen but love to listen to ourselves (well thats me I guess like I am saying general characteristics are the same of cancers but since were changeable so much I think it just depends on the person at hand. And even now there is so much I still wanna write and probly will post again when my next mood comes out lol
June 30th, 2009 at 12:44 pm
Hello everyone; I’m a cancer and yes every comment for this question relates towards me. As a cancer I’m very moody, very emotional, and very family oriented. I hate big crowds. And I hate attention. I agree with Rani I notice that when it comes to a relationship I tend to give my all towards my spouse and not want anything in return but the appreciation and understanding of what my spouse means to me.We tend to be clingy because cancers are about feelings, and when feelings are involved a lot of attachments occur. but once a cancer gets hurt… It’s tremendously hard to trust someone fully. No matter how far the relationship is how deep we love the insecurity will always be there… Sometimes I hate being a cancer due to the amount of emotion and feelings I put towards my spouse. But I enjoy expressing my feelings in a way. The only sign that can express themselves fully are cancers… And that’s something unique we have that’s a gift. Right now I’m in a relationship with a Gemini and to tell you all right now… Its not easy! It is not… But one thing that not understood is that we both can’t get enough of each other… And we learn from each other tremendously… Our relationship is all about strives and misunderstandings but one thing I can say is that I surely bring out the emotions out this Gemini.. Odd but it is what it is..lol
June 30th, 2009 at 8:46 pm
I am a cancer/tiger and I’ll tell you it’s confusing. I love my home but it’s a mess. I am unorganized to a fault and impulsive, don’t want to be out but am bored to tears when I stay in too long. My spouse is a taurus/rabbit and I guess I didn’t choose well because I think I just annoy the heck out of him. I don’t care about accumulating tons of material things, am happiest with the things that are mine. He wants to be in a palace, something out of Godfather. I don’t think he appreciates a thing I give him. It’s not real enough for him to think of it as something he likes or needs. I hate that I’m emotional about him, but like a true cancer whomever is in our home we can tend to let them effect how our day is. No one that is not a cancer can understand how hard it is to deal in a home where we are hated or disliked. If we are attacked we crawl back into our shell, but the taurus doesn’t stop. He complains about all my faults and doesn’t even notice that there is anything good about me. Makes me wonder if there is anything good about me. I know that as a tiger it is hard to be fulfilled without true love, someone that is supportive and loving. What will i do now? All the love and caring that I can offer is not of importance to him. So to answer your question, yes we are completely caring but if it is not appreciated we may continue but only for so long.
But then I think about my family and I was always the one to help with disputes. To calm everyone down and try to communicate what went wrong for them. But I could never communicate what was wrong with me. Mostly I just put it on my shoulders and kept going. I had a snake as a dad, a monkey as a mom and a ox for a sister. All those are not good to have around me. So, I am hoping that as I get older I’ll have better people in my life. I am trying to make the next 30 years better. No one knows how hard it is to be a Cancer, no one. And they all complain about us but they don’t know what is going on underneath, how strong we have to be to not let them know how hurt we are. And I know that to be a true Cancer we have to let people in, but then how to we build up a strong core? This is the question that I will take with me wherever I go. They say ’stand up for yourself’ how do I do that? If I do, I get disapproval everytime. They only want to see us happy, like a clown with a frown. But we aren’t taurus’ we aren’t pillars, we are sensitive squishy and loving. Can someone appreciate that? Can we find our soulmate? I don’t know that being with another cancer is the way either though. I was with one and neither of us were talking. I didn’t know how to break through it, maybe it’s harder to be a man but if I’d known he was a cancer before I would have tried harder. I regret the past but you can’t know then what ya know now, live and learn slowly.
Signing off.
July 9th, 2009 at 1:16 am
Im an Aries and my boyfriend of 3 years is a cancer. I know, its supposed to be a “turbulant”relationship, but it is actually working out wonderfully. I fell in love with him the day i laid eyes on him, maybe it was because he did make me feel special and constantly made me feel beautiful everyday, even after just meeting me. i thought this was all just a game but after 3 years, he still makes me feel that way and im head over heels in love. Although there will be days where i feel like his personality has just instantly changed and i have no idea what is wrong with him or what he is thinking, and he will not tell me ANYTHING, but ive learned that normally nothing is wrong and he just needs his space and time to himself, he really values that but still at times very mysterious, he also loves being at home.
Being an aries, im always up for a challenge, especially in relationships. I guess ive always felt that my cancer being a mystery, has always kept my interest, im constantly curious as to what is happening in his head and what is going to happen tommorow with us. Its kind of crazy i guess but he is ALWAYS
July 9th, 2009 at 1:19 am
CONTINUED………….there for me no matter what or when. He is extremely caring and loving, ive actually never felt so loved in all of my life. I do feel that he is insecure and sometimes not as outgoing as id like, but that’s why im there, to balance. Overall i think besides being completely over emotional and confusing, cancers are wonderful people and i think we will be together forver.
July 9th, 2009 at 11:45 pm
Im a huge Cancer… Im emotional, and I really care for those that I love. But if you irritate me then I could give a rats ass!
July 20th, 2009 at 11:24 pm
I am a cancer but never believed in zodiac signs. As I was reading all the comments, I realized that I am exactly as what is described about cancers. I am a homebody, very caring, giving, loving, but emotional and overly sensitive person. My relationship with my husband lately has been rough. We argue with a lot of things and half of them are dumb reasons. The reason is, I am too sensitive and I overly analyze things that he says. I tend to be quiet when I am upset. I stay in my room or sometimes hide in my closet until I get over my emotions. My husband doesn’t want this. He always wanted to discuss the problem but we end up arguing until I burst. Yes, I end up getting overly emotional because he wouldn’t stop talking. By the way, he is Gemini. I’ve read that these two are not compatible. We love each other so much, we are really in love and happy whenever he won’t say any bad or reckless comment with little things. But when he says something I didn’t like, it takes hours before I will feel better. I really can’t help myself to easily forgive and forget. We have been together for two and a half years but its been getting extreme lately. I am worried about our relationship.
July 22nd, 2009 at 1:28 pm
i’m a cancer female, i just read every single post on this page, and it made me feel insecure, angry and under attack. it’s infact sent me straight in to a bad mood. the problem is that people genuinely don’t get it. saying that someone is “an extremely emotional person” is one thing, and actually understanding that statement is another. When cancers feel, we really do feel, when someone shows disloyalty or criticizes us (especially when it comes to our homes, often the only safe place we have in the whole wide world), it genuinely breaks our hearts.
Caring and nice are two very different things, as the mothers of the zodiac we want to ensure that our family, friends and partners are taken care of to the greatest of our ability, and sometimes looking after people requires a bit of “tough love”.
we constantly consider others feelings as we are ourselves so sensitive, we want to shelter the people we care about from the outside world, as to a cancer, leaving the house can sometimes be a bit of an event. for me anyway, if i could i’d stay home 2 days a week, and not leave the house at all.
we are wonderful hosts (if we like the guests) and can cook the best feeds ever.
ALSO, it is essential to realise that cancers are only second to pisces when it comes to intuition and also the most sensitive souls of the zodiac so we can suss new people out in a second, their motives, their character and most importantly, whether or not they’re the kind of people that could hurt us or the people we care about, so if a cancer is cold or rude to you, its you whos got to look in the mirror, not them.
i just think that people should realise that this immense sensitivity leads to going through life being constantly weary of potentially being hurt, and the bad moods are just so dark and we feel so so helpless and under appreciated most of the time. its easy to say that cancers are mysterious and alluring, but noone ever notices mysterious people, they tend to dismiss them as quiet or standoffish and pay no more attention. having said all of this, the good moods are unbelievable, just so optimistic and empowering, we feel invincible, and these can be magnified if we are around trusted and optimistic company. we are bi-polar as. lol.
July 23rd, 2009 at 12:58 pm
I’m a female Libra-Sun/Leo-Moon/Cancer-Asc. I have plenty of experience with male Cancers, not so much female, so there may be differences I’m unaware of. What I have found to be a common trait amongst the men (regardless of whether it’s in their sun or moon) is that they tend to think they are more intelligent (kinda of a know-it-all) than anyone else (they are smart people, though!). What annoys me is the arrogance that comes with it and they have a tendency to look down on others who aren’t as “intelligent” as them. I don’t know if this is true with the women.
They are very witty, fun, family-based people, who love field trips and excursions.
Just don’t piss them off or they’ll cut you out. My brother (Cancer) hasn’t spoken to me in over a year and a half, ultimately due to an argument on how I should raise MY autistic daughter (mind you, he has no kids). My fiery Leo and eloquent Libra (with my Mercury in Scorpio) had enough and roared at him, putting him back in place. I was not happy about having to say what needed to be said to him (learn to walk in someone’s elses shoes, buddy), but there was no way I was going to let him critique my parenting. I wonder if his stubborness will let him come out of his shell.
August 2nd, 2009 at 7:43 am
I’m a Cancer born on a cusp(leo)and I’ve been married to a Gemini for the past 4 years. In order to make this last for so long I had to smother 90% of my emotions. It drains me dry! He doesnt get that my emotions are the biggest part of me and i can’t seem to function properly without them.I dont work, I’m not in school, I hardly cook, clean, or do anything a wife is supposed to. It takes all I have to sit here day after day wondering why I’m this way?? Im scared cuz I know if I start to make my own money its no secret that im leaving his ass,but i havent done it yet cuz despite his sharp careless tongue he does love me and I just can’t even bare the thought of hurting him like that. Why does he love a bum like me anyway? So I would say yes we are all caring but when some of us gets pushed to the point of no return its hell to pay. and some are just smarter and learn lessons from other peoples mistakes.Im not one of those cancers I lived all my heartaches first hand and still speak to all the people that took me thru them. I feel like im in a cage when I’m home so i leave every chance I get..I love attention especially from men..I could never get enough compliments,im a little arrogant and a bit of a know it all but when the lites go out i still feel empty and hollow. I’m really a bit unstable and occasionally have suicidal thoughts. But id never really go thru with it cuz i wouldnt want to cause anyone else pain.sad but true. My son is the only one who keeps me alive on the inside and now he’s growing up so i can’t smother and over-protect him as much, so now i just go heavy on the extra-marital affairs to make up for it. Ive always been a cheater, no one man has ever been enough for my needs. My heart has gotten so cold that now I only see love as an attempt of pay-back for all the many times my heart was broken. When I cheat i fully intend on making them fall for me even though I have no intentions on ending my marriage until I see fit.This is the plan but me being the mush ball that I am I usually fall for them too.But once i get out of this marriage I plan to NEVER make this mistake again and live a single happy life. Well not exactly happy but pain i can handle, a negligent husband I can’t.
August 4th, 2009 at 5:31 pm
Well…I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years wit a Cancer guy.I thought the world of him.He was the best coz he truly loves me and made me feel special in every way.Even though we’ve been together for this long I still feel the stong connection and it hasn’t diminished any way.I’m a capricorn n so I find it difficult to show any emotions.But he changed all that in me and made me more open and loving.I thought I was the luckiest girl in the world to get a guy like him.But it was all short-lived.
There was another girl in love wit him n he assured me that he had no feelings for her what so ever and he’s been trying to make her understand that he can’t love her.She used to come and tell me though that they both love each other and he doesn’t want anyone else to know.But I took his word for it n trusted him and thought she was making the whole thing up.
Recently I found out that he has been cheating on me the whole two years and loves this girl as much as me.Everything he told me was a lie.Now he says he can’t live without both of us and wants us both to marry him.what an asshole.He spoiled the whole relationship and made us both believe that we were the only ones for him and that he could never think of any other girl.And he made us both to think that he was just on friendly terms with the other.
Lesson learned never trust a cancer if you want a faithful person to spend the rest of your life with.
August 6th, 2009 at 1:16 am
I am also a Cancer, and the comments in this thread contain the best descriptions of Cancer traits that I’ve ever seen.
Thanks for all the honest and insightful comments!
August 8th, 2009 at 9:54 am
I AM CANCER MALE AND I AGREE WITH THE FACT THAT WE ARE VERY KIND/EMOTIONAL BUT I AM SICK OF PEOPLE THINKING THAT CANCERS ARE WEAK AND THAT WE CRY OVER EVERY LITTLE THING WITCH COULDN’T BE FARTHER FROM THE TRUTH YES WE ARE GENERALLY ASTOUNDINGLY NICE PEOPLE BUT BOY IF U GET ON ARE BAD LIST THIS MEANS WAR. ME PERSONALY WHEN SOME ONE HURTS ME EMOTIONALY/PHYSICALLY I TRY TO DO EVERY THING IN MY POWER TO HURT THEM TWICE AS MUCH AS THEY HURT ME IDK WHY THATS JUST THE WAY IVE ALL WAYS BEEN I MEAN DON’T GET ME WRONG IVE BEEN TOLD I AM A VERY NICE PERSON YOU MIGHT THINK US CANCERS HAVE WILD/CUNFUSING MOOD SWINGS BUT IF U ACTUALLY TAKE THE TIME AND SIT DOWN WITH US AND ASK WHATS WRONG MAYBE IT WONT SEEM SO WILD AND CUNFUSING BECAUSE ANOTHER SO CALLED FACT ABOUT US IS THAT WE GET HURT VERY EASILY NOTICE I SAID SO CALLED BECAUSE I DON’T TOTALY AGREE WITH THIS JUST DON’T SAY NEGATIVE SHIT ABOUT US AND U WONT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT ALL THE DRAMA ITS VERY SIMPLE BE KOO WITH US WILL BE KOO WITH U MY OVERALL POINT IS THE DAY U TRY TO GET OVER ON A CANCER IS THE SAME DAY THAT CANCER WILL BE PLOTING ON GETING REVENGE. WHEN I GO TO ASTROLOGICAL WEB SITES AND CLICK CANCER YOU’LL SEE WORDS LIKE EMOTIONAL MOODY LOYAL CLINGY ETC BUT I NEVER SEE REVENGEFUL IN A WAY I GUESS THAT GOES IN THE SAME CATAGORY AS CLINGY BCAUSE WE HOLD ON TO MORE THAN JUST THINGS WE LOVE LIKE ARGUMENTS SARCASTIC REMARKS ETC AND I CAN SAY THIS WITH ALL HONESTY THIS IS ONE OF THE THINGS THAT HOLDS US BACK IN LIFE.
August 8th, 2009 at 10:04 am
I MEANT TO SAY AFTER/ARGUMENTS SARCASTIC REMARKS ETC THAT IT TENDS TO BRING VENGEFULNESS IN US AND THEN I CAN SAY THIS WITH ALL HONESTY THAT THIS IS ONE OF THE THINGS THAT HOLDS US BACK IN LIFE. IM OUT THE REAL CANCERIAN
August 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
Im a Cancer and yes we are emotional people jealous with our partners we dont want anyone to get near them..and we are insecure especially if our partner is not there for us in our time of need..we need stability and security if you cant give us that are relationship is finished..Ive grown up alot im not as emotional as i used to be and i dont cry unless its something really sad out of my control..usually i have everything under control
August 10th, 2009 at 3:01 pm
Rebecca——-From the comment you left you seem very out of the ordinary for a typical Cancer. But if you’re a cancer, you’re a cancer. Just a different shade of one. Smoke this over……You say that you hate being at home and you like outside adventures. I believe that external adventure is what you call home. There are many elementz of different shades. I’m real deep with romance cause itz so intuned into my emotionz. But I know our life experience and how we were raised truly shapes our personality. After getting my heart broken yearz ago, I’m not as clingy on the surface than I used to be cause I once gave my whole heart and soul to someone that didn’t fully accept in the end. This person that broke my heart was a Sagitarius.
August 10th, 2009 at 8:29 pm
I just read most of the post and I’m quite impressed with what I read. I made me feel like I belong in someway or form. I’m a Cancer male and for the past 3 yearz I’ve been deep into the zodiac. My ex whoz an Aquarius got me into it. She truly understood my deep senstivity like no other and it made me feel special. Before 2006, I didn’t know too much about the zodiac and thought it was more trival than anything. But then I just starting reading about the characteristics of a Cancer and it completly matched with my own experiences. And thatz how I got into it….it was just real. A lot of people call me over sensitive about a lot of thingz but itz funny people say that when I’m trying to stand up for myself. Growing up I didn’t know too much about myself personally and I was mad insecure. I was teased a lot and alwayz avoided confrontations. After high schoool I started to naturally be a lil more open while still being very sensative. I never really understood why I was so sensitive. I thought I was going crazy or something. I really started to feel alienated and couldn’t really relate to many people. But when I read more about the zodiac and the other characteristics of other signs the pieces started to fall into place and I knew more about myself and why certain thingz happend in my life.
My girlfriend now is an Aquarius and itz amazing how loyal and justified they are. They say Cancerz and Aquarius aren’t very compatable, but thatz highly relative remark. My best friend is an Aquarius and we’ve been friends since 1985. We never had one argument. But we’ve been friends for so long cause we both understood each other by nature. Like wit my girl itz sometimes hard that shez unemotional but thatz only on the surface. Cancers and Aquarius have a lot in common if you’re just willing to walk the journey. The main problem with the 2 is how we deal with our emotions. Cancers emotions are expressed my by nature and Aquarius’ expresses their emotions in a opposite fashion. I call them ticking time bombs that go off when they recieved to much pressure. But I admire how Aquarius’ can be passive towards their emotions. Itz like how Cancers deal with their emotions but in an opposite fashion. There’s a lot the 2 can learn from each other. Itz pure balance thatz what it is. My girl and I don’t fight much and we have minor disagreements. But if we do fight we naturally balance ourselves out. And I start to see that the Aquarius feeds off the radio active emotions that a Cancer can give. My boo truly accepts my emotions and I accept her unemotional stature. And with that pair itz the only way that relationship(or any) can work.
Being a Cancer isn’t eazy. Itz like a blessing and a curse all rolled into 1 vessel. But even with this high sensitivity, I wouldn’t want it any other way. I’m gonna do me and that’ll never change. And if catz can’t understand that, then they have a superfical mindset. Cause if was put in reverse, us Cancerz would LISTEN what you have to say.
August 23rd, 2009 at 3:42 am
My brother is cancer and He is really kind and sweet, but he never kept his promises and it hurt me quite a lot, it gave me a complex, now I look for guys who can keep their promises becouse I cannot cope with someone as careless as my brother!
But I always had a tender vision of cancerians in general, especially women they are so sweet i compare them to marshmellaws and butter lol. although there are some who are too selfish and critical, some have the tendency to dissapear and have a “in the shell” period where no matter how when or where u try to reach them they are no where to be found!!! not even if u are his spause! that is quite tyring to play hdie and seek, for an aquarius like me it cant work out cancer’s are too sensitive and caring, I am too detached and see it too dramatic to live in such a sentimental world..
I love cancer women they are sweet to the extreme in everyway but I dont tollerate cancer men they can have the tendency to lie a lot. and I dont do LIES!
Midnight
August 24th, 2009 at 6:26 am
I’m an Aquarius woman and I’ve been involved with a Cancer male for some time now. They are so hard to understand at times. I love him to death but he drives me crazy. Reading all of the posts I have to agree with most of them. Cancers are very caring people. Sadly, I hurt him and he changed so much towards me. After that I had to work so hard to get him back to where he was before. Cancers are lovely people but they change their personalities very fast.
August 25th, 2009 at 6:49 pm
I am a Cancer and in a relationship with a Leo. IT is true that cancers are moody. Sometimes I don’t understand myself and it makes things hard for my loyal Leo. He is truly a great person, but if you make him mad, he will lick his wounds so to speak… just like a giant cat. And when we argue, I go into that shell and it is hard to communicate. He will not talk and I am stubborn so we do clash sometimes, but overall, we get along. I have learned to work through my emotions and just be calm. It has gotten better since I am 27 and not 18 again. LOL. I will say though, Cancerians have a tendency to hold grudges and if you hurt us, we typically hurt for a long time and tend not to forgive. If we do, we are usually guarded with those pincher claws… ready to attack. Very insecure people… that we are!
August 26th, 2009 at 5:49 pm
For the most part, our emotions are our (and every one else’s) curse. We can bring a whole house down into despair. I’ve done it.
However, don’t ever allow yourself to be under the impression that we will be a doormat, or an ever-loving, kind, sappy pushover. The claws are there for a reason. In fact, our dark moods can spontaneously change into outright rage. We are capable, no, overly-qualified, to emotionally destroy a person. People let us in because we seem harmless, but once crossed, we will use every possible fear, hang up, or shame one has to hurt them back.
Luckily, most of us have to be under a great deal of stress or emotional turmoil to do this. Otherwise, we’ll punish ourselves for our actions far more than any court, penitentiary, or hell could dish out.
August 28th, 2009 at 4:13 pm
I’m a cancerian, Yes, I’m caring…I can be harsh at tines, I could really be a scary critic. Cancerians are vain but not selfish…we cud get insecure at times…We’re irritatingly moody and are prone to pessimism. And I think Cancerians are soo in love with Scorpions. I think 7 out of 10 guys I liked were scorpions. Weird.
September 2nd, 2009 at 4:36 pm
Hi hi! I’ve read everyone’s posts and am very intrigued and impressed with the honesty.
We, as cancers, also have a tendency to internalize alot, especially if we’re of the type that doesnt like confrontation, so learning to communicate more calmly and deliver my feelings through words in a more clear manner, has helped my relationships out a lot. I like what someone said in these comments about cancers being a curse and a blessing all at once, and I agree, but I think its mostly a blessing if we learn to carry with grace the blessing of feeling so much that others sometimes just dont feel, and not getting mad at them for not having that same trait. It aint easy being sensitive! But if you mix in some fun, some humor, and use that power of emotion to ignite intimacy, then your love relationships are the richer for it, with more sensuality and spirituality and soulfullness, and your friendships are the deeper for it with more fun and layed-back qualities. If there’s anything I’d like to change its how hard it is on myself and how sensitive I am to other people’s emotions around me, which make me always bend over to make sure that I dont upset them! I’ll be working on that for now 
Thanks for all these awesome posts - helped me really feel like I belonged.
Cancers come in many shades and sizes!I think they are perhaps the most complex sign, and the hardest to understand, because of the one trait they all do have in common: deep emotions. Emotions are very subjective things, and can be illusive, hard to clarify. So the trick for cancers if you ask me is really self-awareness. Each sign has it’s evolved self, and its unevolved self; it’s downs and its ups, and with a cancer, it’s really sort of exaggerated, simply because they feel things so deeply, so much so that sometimes they can just switch off and think the world owes them a favor!
I’m a sun-cancer, moon-cancer, mercury-cancer, and i’ve got my ascendent in aries, mars in libra and venus in gemini. I think it’s important to know the main planets in your chart; and apparently, I’ve got a lota cancer! So yes, I get moody and yes I get vulnerable and yes I have an urge to connect with people emotionally and feel things that sometimes other people think are just totally not there! So it can get lonely, and at worst, it can get very dark - because you feel something so strongly, and you want to give so much, but you often dont find it given back. But as I grew up, I started to get to know myself better, forgive myself for my shortcomings, and accept my strengths and weaknesses, and overtime that helped me understand how to use my kindness and caring much more appropriately. To give without expecting return and simply because you want to give, because if makes you feel good, and because harmony is peaceful, and well, peace is chill
September 4th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
I am a cancer! But id say where all caring and driven to help people but once i feel like my friends or lovers are just taking advantage of my good crab nature, I usually ditch them or play mind games to see if they really care. Those who prove their there for me im usually fine
Basically where all caring till our emotional needs are deprived. The worst match would be libra there very self centered !
September 9th, 2009 at 7:26 am
I believe that deep down, all Cancers have the loving caring sign. I came across a book the other day titled “The Dark Side of The Zodiac”. I was quite fascinated in what the Author had to say. Everyone has a dark side to them whether they realize it or not…Especially Cancers!..just look at the sign, the child of darkness, the child of light! This book showed the characteristics of all signs that have taken to their dark side, and it did point out how malicious Cancers can be, being that they are very sensitive, needy, and very manipulative! I myself am a Cancer, and about two years ago, I went through a very spiritual awakening! My eyes were opened in ways that if I tried to explain, they would have me committed! I seen mountains that I never knew existed, I seen my whole life flash before my eyes..literally! Everything I had ever believed in, was stripped from my soul. But after reading this book, I realized that back then, I was living the dark side of my sign. And although I was caring and loving to my family, I also seen how I was rude, hateful and very manipulative to others! If anyone is interested, I forgot the name of the Author, but she has been writing Astrology books for 20+ years, and the book itself was very self informing..I would recommend it!
September 9th, 2009 at 7:11 pm
I am a Cancer with a Gemini rising and Leo moon. I would say I’m very caring towards friends and will offer them a place to stay or drive them home if they have had too much to drink. I am up and down mood wise though, and it takes extra effort to break out of a bad mood. I have no problem letting people know they’ve upset me, and if I’m really mad I simply shut down and will not say anything at all. One trait Cancer’s seem to have, is that they have trouble making alot of friends, and only keep a few close ones. If a close friend hurts them, they may still be there friend, but will never fully forgive them again or offer such a warm heart as they did before.
September 14th, 2009 at 2:24 am
I am Sun-Cancer, Venus-Cancer, Rising-Cancer, Mars-Aries and Moon-Gemini…they say my sign is supposed to be mothering and super sensitive and like to cook and all that..I HATE cooking, Hate being home, not mothering at all, and not the type to cry and all that. Sometimes I have to really wonder and ask “Am i really a Cancer?” I dont really have the desire to get married, ever, I like my freedom. I like shopping and spending money not much into “saving and stashing” money like the cancer is supposed to do. I like being on the go all the time, hate sitting around. Like spur of the moment plans, not much into planning either. So AM I REALLY A CANCER. I was born June 28th so pretty close to Gemini also.
September 20th, 2009 at 3:46 pm
I’m also a cancerian and i can tell you all, we are the most kindest caring people to be around with. I’ve had my fair share of ups and downs with people treating me like dirt and using my good nature to there advantage but yet i still end up feeling like the bad guy every time. I’ve also found out in my life that as a cancerian, were really good at sorting out peoples worries and dishing out advice and putting people before ourselves, but were really crap at sorting out our own problems. I’ve just entered another relationship with someone who is a Gemini and apparently were good as friends and not partners according to a website. Hopefully time and a little patience from us both and we can live a really good life together.
September 24th, 2009 at 11:57 am
I am a cancer- sun, moon and venus (fun fun)
Cancer is the foremost maternal sign, the mothers of the zodiac and ruled by the earths feminine moon.
Yes, we care.. utterly and completely. There is no choice in the matter, it is what we do.
From my experience, I get hurt when I am not treated in the same manner that I treat others.. it is because it comes completely naturally to me and in my ignorance - i cannot imagine how others can not see that saddness on ones eye, or see how they are only thinking of theirselves and hurting another… so the inner mother comes out and i will get angry or bite back.. (much like a mother would, defending her child or home) … also if we need to be cruel to kind at times, this bravery will appear..
it is all out of love, i believe cancers love so deeply, almost a love affair with everything…. it is tough.. rewarding however and most wouldnt trade it for the world.
September 24th, 2009 at 8:27 pm
I am a virgo female & I started seeing a cancer male not that long ago. He was overly caring & kind & affectionate!! All right away, we spent 2 weeks nearly straight together everyday. All of the sudden he stops texting when before it was constant. I finally text him asking what was wrong to have him tell me that he was moving too fast with me! I still really like him but we haven’t talked in a week now. I can’t figure out what went wrong…If cancers are soo caring then how come he can’t even really tell me what the problem is? I find it hard to believe that there wasn’t some other trigger. Everything seemed to me very good. Being a virgo I don’t like to let others in & he was soo comforting & wonderful that I felt grateful to let him in. Cancers definately have extremes in both regards!! Any ideas on how to approach him again to figure out what went wrong?
October 1st, 2009 at 6:36 pm
Hi I am a cancerian and I do agree that we cancerians are moody,over sensitive and also sometimes manipulative.But at the same time we are extremely caring,loyal,tenacious and always stand up for our loved ones.many of my friends confide some of their darkest secrets with me coz they know that I am true to my words.But one character that most cancerians possess is their sense of humour which goes sadly unnoticed.Now coming to our negative traits,i guess all humans have these negative traits in em.We all sometimes act unreasonably and regret it later.As far as manupulative nature is considered,all of us are manipulative depending on circumstances.and next coming to ppl whose boyfriends or gfs have two timed em, I really feel sad…(contd)
October 1st, 2009 at 6:46 pm
and I also pray that u get a partner who is ready to accept you as you are,understand you,give you your space and importantly trust u and love you.But it is unfair to genaralize all cancerians as unreliable,unfaithful etc.I also read in another website that we are the ones who during bad times instead of cribbing and crying ,face the situation boldly and also support those who depend on us.Infact all the failures and shortcomings i have faced in my life has made me stronger and i have always emerged as a better human being.So I feel that though we cancerians are a bit too mushy and sometimes vulnerable,we also have a very strong side and lets use our strong qualities like intution,caution,determination and ofcourse our unrecognized sense of humour to achieve what we are truly capable of.
October 6th, 2009 at 8:26 am
Wow! I’m so glad I found this website, I’m a cancer girl who is going through something with a virgo man. He cheated on me and ever since he says stuff like I’m a different person and I don’t act the same toward him. I am a very emotional person, I truely loved him but now me being kindof COLD hearted with my remarks and so forth. I cannot control it, I feel so much better after reading this. I don’t feel I’ve changed just drawn back into my shell and everyonce in a while snapping my claws. I’m an insecure person as it is
October 7th, 2009 at 4:58 pm
Ooh lala.
Considering I’m a Cancer sun with Leo rising and moon, I’m more outgoing and assertive than the average Cancer.
I’ve met a lot of Cancers in my life so far, and it’s true, most of the Cancerians I know are caring but way sensitive. They also are either chubby or really skinny. The girls either are flat or blessed with a nice chest, while the guys I know are kind of to the chubby side.
Many are imaginative and artistic.
Anyway, astrologically speaking Cancerians care, but not all. Rarely have I seen Cancers that do not seem to lend a hand or be a shoulder to cry on.. but I guess it’s the shell.
October 7th, 2009 at 8:25 pm
i am cancer woman and yes I am extremely caring. i would never start a fight and always try to avoid arguments.i would do a lot for my friends, and i LOVE spending time alone. i care so much but am afraid to show my feelings so i am often misunderstood. i also don’t talk much and am shy. i am very fearful.i am dating aquarian man, and hes wonderful but i think he also can’t understand me..
October 9th, 2009 at 3:39 am
Cancer 69 you are my twin!!! I’m a Cancer born 06/29. The only differnce is that I do enjoy getting out from time to time, but not all the time. I’m seeing an aquarian man right now, but we are so different that it’s just become boring! I’m about to possibly start seeing a Libra man. I’ll let you know how that goes. So far he’s sweet as pie and it just so happens that I had a great big crush on him back in highschool a little over 20yrs ago! Ooooooooo………..can’t wait to see how this turns out! This is the most dating I’ve done in all of my 37yrs………..okay, close to it!!! LOL!!!!!!!
October 12th, 2009 at 4:58 am
I’ve written in this thread before
l love this shit.
ok, when they say cancers “care”, it doesn’t necessarily mean that cancers will be the first to run to your rescue, they will probably be the last to run to your rescue, but they will do it all the same. that is to say that we feel like if someone else is going to rescue you, it lets us off the hook. we know you need help, as long as you’re getting it, thats good. i’m a cancer so i’m not very good with words (obviously). If we see that you’re not getting helped, or are alone, we will be in there faster than you will know, and we seem to come out of nowhere. but personally, if i see someone in need, and they have a lot of people helping them already (unless i am very close with them), i feel like i’m being nosey getting involved. Just because cancers care doesn’t mean we will always show it. “caring” think about the last time you really cared about something, (eg, if you were truly in love with someone and they didn’t seem to feel as deeply as you did about it). you can’t stop thinking about it, you get all choked up when you see them, you get all awkward around them and in short you CARE too much. caring too much is the same as feeling too much i think, although, in my world, if i didn’t feel as much as i do, i wouldn’t have anything left to define me. these are facts. i love you guys, cancers rule. hard out.
November 2nd, 2009 at 6:19 pm
Everything is good about this article except for the spelling. You don’t say “all Cancer’s are caring”, but “all Cancers…”, apostrophe is NOT needed for the plural number. I’m not a grammar Nazi, but it’s annoying to see such elementary school mistakes in articles written by grown-up, supposedly smart people.
November 6th, 2009 at 11:30 pm
Hi to those who are in a relationship with a Cancer. I am a Taurus. I have read the horoscopes of a Taurus and Cancer stating that they are “A Match Made in Heaven.” People that is true. I have learned certain aspects and deep qualities about myself that I didn’t even know could surface and that two people could thrive on completely understanding one another. I have been seeing/dating a cancer for a little under 2yrs. and he has been patient, fun, loving, loyal, honest(at times), moody, insecure, critical, confused, very sensitive and also understanding to that fact that simply, I just don’t understand him at times. At first, with confusion, thought there was a wall(*hints the shell), but by his advice “we took it slow.” I slowly started to understand how or why he did/does or says certain things.
As a Taurus, I am very strong headed and I like it my way because I like to be right, however I will admit when I’m wrong! The more time we spend together, that selfishness that I once had, slowly decreases, and the nurturing quality kicks in for his emotional and stability needs. It’s true!
It’s been quite a learning process. My Cancer doesn’t feel comfortable with too much affection. Intuitive, as a woman, I thought I was sensitive and intuitive, my cancers intuition and sensitivity amazes me. It’s actually become quite funny, when he walks in a room, I feel like crawling in the shell with him and simply enjoying each other’s company! As a Taurus, I can steadily keep it going, but I let him lead, it’s safer that way for both our emotional needs. I do not take criticism very well and get heated fast with misunderstanding. And is learning to take his moodiness and turn it into something positive. We butt heads at times, easily rolled over with space. Fortunately he found a woman that loves a challenge and would give everything she owns to make him happy. And coming from a person with trust issues, that’s a lot for me to say. He understands that.
When we are together, his loving and caring qualities brings out my same qualities times 10. I can’t stand being without him, after 2yrs I still get little butterflies. I went from being scared of a commitment for years to LETS DO IT in months time! They key in this relationship is that every relationship has stages and phases and tests, it just depends on how deep and how much you love someone to exceed your expectations for a happy, fulfilling relationship. Thanks for reading me.
November 8th, 2009 at 9:36 am
Ok, 39 year old male here Cancer Sun / Pisces Moon, not sure about the whole Mars Venus ascending stuff yet as I have just gotten into the Zodiac, but I believe in it whole heartedly. I agree with almost everything people here are saying except the cheating and lying part. And as far as “intuition”, my gut feeling has NEVER been wrong, even caught my ex several times cheating and lying because my intuition would lead me somewhere she was. Nonetheless, I was eventually COMPLETELY destroyed emotionally by her, yes a Scorpio, from a 4 year relationship that ended last year. NO MORE SCORPIOS!!! I will not even pursue a girl if I find out she is a Scorpio, even if she is drop-dead gorgeous and she seems interested, “not gonna do it”! So here’s my recent endeavor… I saw a girl in a bookstore and made several mutual “glances” because she is BEAUTIFUL! Then like a month later I came across her working as a waitress at one of my favorite restaurants. We chatted at her work one day, I got her number and called her a few days later and asked her out and she had some “random” excuse. So I was like “ok, NEXT”… then the following morning she texted me inviting me to lunch… Long story short, we went out to lunch and it went well (I thought), and I brought up Zodiac signs and I found out she is a Taurus (and boy have I been reading up on them, and still don’t understand how Cancer and Taurus are supposed to be a match made in Heaven, yeah right!) Anyway, when I said I was Cancer she was like “You’re a CANCER?” like an attitude of “oh great”, but she said just kidding, that her sister is a Cancer. Well, I think that honestly did it in for me with her, because she has been very aloof ever since. Today was 2 days since our lunch date and we last spoke (Yes, I am trying my best to not seem persistent and clingy) so I texted her to say hi and that I was just thinking about her and hope she’s having a great weekend. Of course, NO RESPONSE, so I will now chuck this one up to no more Taurus either, and not just because of her persistence “one-sidedness” communication and plans, but from what I read Taurus has a lot of similar “characteristics” of Scorpios, and you know how I feel about them. Plus, I worked my ASS off for 4 years for a Scorpio (as well as a million dollars)and it got me no where but destroyed. It’s time someone worked for me for a chance! It’s odd, because supposedly Taurus women like to be spoiled and like Men than can afford to show them with material things they care and take them to nice places, yet I’ve offered but she’s not taking. AND I drive a Mercedes AND I have a Platinum Amex (hmmm maybe it’s because I don’t have the Black Amex) Anyway, didn’t mean to get off on how “Taurus” makes me feel, guess it’s just me being “Cancer”. So 10 signs left to approach…“NEXT”!
November 13th, 2009 at 5:54 am
I am a Cancerian and I am very emotional. I am kind but if you say the wrong thing to me i will tell you about it. I think Cancerians think too much about negative issues and worry but we do it because we care too much. We care about everything and we want to make sure our loved ones are all cared for so we worry about it to the point that if someone askes you something stupid you get angry and snap at them like a psyco chicken. On the other hand, I am very loving, almost too loving and thats where i need to make sure people don’t use me as a “door mat”. It depends on what mood i am in no-one can tell what that will be. I am also a little bit psychic too
November 17th, 2009 at 6:15 am
Holy shit, after reading all of these post i feel like i’m reading about myself. Cancers can definitely can be an emotional roller coaster, but i’ve found with age and mental growth i’ve learned to control a lot of my erratic emotions. When i love something, i find myself jumping into it 100% and seeking as much knowledge and insight as i can on the topic. When i despise something, i’ll avoid it like the plague. Alone time is essential to my personality for it allows myself to to truly relax and piece things together. When i get hurt i tend to be passive. I consider myself to treat everyone as if they were a cat inheriting the nine lives. But once that person has passed the nine lives i drop them without another glance. Once they crossed me enough times i feel its a healthier idea for myself to move on. i consider myself to always forgive but never forget. Social events stick to my brain like a voice recorder, i remember every single detail of the situation. Which can at times be rather obnoxious! i love taking care of people, and tend to cater to their every needs. But this past year i’ve begun to take on the key ingredient every cancer needs, which is moderation. While i do love alone time, i also love to explore, different cultures would definitely be the reason for that avenue. Leo has totally been the most helpful of the zodiac signs for me. Leo has helped restore a much needed confidence boost that i had lost, as well as building a stronger shell. They can say hurtful words, but it has toughened my emotions for the better. i love their zest for life which is so inherit in a leo, as well as they loved to be loved. Which allows me to feel like i’m doing my job. i love to love, and when i do at times it can feel like pure ecstasy. Cancers can be extremely stubborn, and i can play that role like its my job haha, but for the most part i always end up giving in after saying no, i just need time to think it out. i’m very outgoing once i get to know and trust you, but until then i tend to quietly observe you and try to figure you out. haha i tend to always observe and try and put pieces together, that way i never make decisions i end up regretting. When ever i do get angry and voice nasty words, i never truly mean them and usually regret them in the end. Lastly i will say i love giving complements, but usually feel extremely awkward receiving them. As long as i know i’m being respected and not taken advantage of life is amazing, that usually all i need to receive. Thanks again guys for all your post, they have truly been eye opening.
November 29th, 2009 at 6:15 pm
ive just split up after 7 on/off years with a cancer male. MOODY MOODY MOODY for definite. Im pisces and tried n tried to understand and help cos he asked me to. The more i cared the further away the goalposts got. He was a drinker and promised over n over to stop. never did. he was emotionally abusive from day one. id never met anyone so insecure so was completely unarmed to deal with it. Still says he loves me and wants me back. hes 43. ive said get the help professionally and we’ll talk but he just goes quiet. im too old for this crap. This negative cancerian trait is the most destructive behaviour i have known. They wont help themselves and will constatnly be on the lookout for someone to save em. Anyone with a baby cancer = bring em up in a way that will make em positive as they are naturally born with a negative ego.
December 1st, 2009 at 2:29 am
That’s kinda true for the most part, my name is Mary, my sun sign is cancer, my moon sign is cancer and my ascending sign is Pisces, it would seem like I’m feeling 24/7 365 right but here’s the thing I’m not. First off the whole home and cancer thing can not be more off than it is in regards towards me, home is more like a base, sort of like somewhere where i can recharge my batteries and take off again. Family is important and i love them but its not at the top of my priority list, don’t get me wrong I’m gonna be there when they need me, but you gotta let them fly on their own you know? second the whole cancer wont make the first move, i disagree when i like a guy imma let him know and passably have a little one on one aha. Next is the cancer is antisocial, … does not apply to me, :] im quite comfortable in a room full of strangers and i love to be the center off attention…just like cancer :] also when it comes to love i can be a little jealous but ill get over it, and I’m also possessive to a point. Cancer…great parents…marriage? i hate kids, they annoy the jesus out of me, i can honestly say i only love new born babies but once they hit the 3& older mark they get on my nerves so bad…marriage well i cant say i don’t want to ever be married but its not a priority i got places to go and people to meet, things to see and money to be spent.
See my point im one crazy cancer…i believe that my special someone needs to be on the move as much as i am, the thought of being with a Scorpio, Taurus, cancer or Pisces horrifies me i’m not trying to offend, please don’t take it to heart they just don’t float my boat. Now and aquarious,gemini,saggitarious or a libra really catch my eye, especially Gemini!
December 7th, 2009 at 8:22 pm
well im 16 and im a cancer and im very sensative i often keep my feelings inside and rarely let them out im with a guy i went out with when i was 14 we ended up not talking because we lost eachothers numbers and well we just now started talking and all our feelings came back for eachother i havent talked to him in two years and the love thing just happend anyways he is a scropio and he goes under what a scropio is and i go under what a cancer is and i think we make a perfect match he is the jealous type and will fight any guy that messes with me or flirts with me which makes me happy cause he is very protective and loving at the same time
and he respects me wanting to be a virgin
actually he tells me to wait because he regretted losing his
we dont talk about sex though
were more like bestest friends
even though he is my boyfriend
i can talk to him about everything
i love that guy
December 20th, 2009 at 4:52 pm
I’m a Cancer female myself and I don’t consider myself as having mood swings or whatsoever. We just ran out of battery sometimes if we overdo it one moment and end up quiet to restore our energy. This is a quite an unacceptable habit which would mislead people in thinking that you are not sociable or etc, which I had successfully kicked this bad habit.
I am critical of others and even 10 times more strict to myself. I know how to judge people, especially picking their weaknesses even in a short time. I don’t expect much from others, but at least be nice/polite otherwise I would probably drift away from you. Especially rude and inconsiderate people whom I totally can’t stand. If you are a selfish person, I would appear more rough on you and I wouldn’t care about your ego at all.
As said, crabs are hard on their shells but soft internally. This is totally true. Most of the time, I appear to be very tough/independent/less emotional person in order to protect myself. Even in front of my friends, I wouldn’t appear weaker.
Unless you are someone whom I trust completely, I could cry in front of you. However, that is not likely to be as I have problem trusting/relying on people. (I wouldn’t want to appear clingy or weak) Even when my tears are urging, I would run away to somewhere else and hide myself.
As for people who are close to me, I always appear to be nice and helpful. Even when we argue, I may call you awful things but I am even more hurt myself. I feel very bad arguing with people who are close/dear to me cos’ I am hurt because I am hurting them.
December 21st, 2009 at 4:39 pm
im a cancer and everything i read about my sign confuses me because its like im the exact opposite i hate hate hate being home i love big crowds i flirt constantly with out realizing that im even doing it im extremely unfaithful any type of commitment is a threat 2 my sense of freedom so i find the quickest way out of that situation i dnt like kids family (love them) they’re annoying im passionate about always being center of attention if im not i get bored and move on to a new audience people think im the coolest and sweetest person ever yet think im unemotional which jst confuses me every air sign ive ever dated has always complained 2 me about how unaffectionate i am its amazing to me how light hearted i am when it comes to everything and they say cancers will do anything to avoid confrentations but i enjoy them the more chaos there is around me (good or bad) my mind seems more at easy almost relaxed strange im not like any cancer that i know im far from sensitive i cant cry in front of anyone no matter how much i may want 2 and my ego is its own super star i find myself really strange but i like it and i guess so does everyone else well except 4 the guys that i date that think im unemotional nd party 2 much
December 29th, 2009 at 8:16 am
I know that as a cancer, I am both helpful to others and critical of others - all in one. I find that often my criticism can be used in a positive way to help my friends see flaws they are blind to, or to help them see with my sensitive crab eyes for once. Sensitive and critical are not words with totally negative connotations though. I am very sensitive to other people’s feelings and intentions, and that is why I find myself criticizing but often that criticisms is mostly a bit of healthy judgement that can be either good or bad (i.e. that person is very honest, that person seems insecure, that person has the worst fashion taste.. ever). All in all I would say all cancers are caring people, we’re just also a little neurotic and yes, somewhat.. manipulative, people. Next time you see a crab criticizing someone realize that it’s probably just their way of wanting to organize their world, wanting to fit everyone into boxes that they deem appropriate. Many other signs will not like it (esp Aquarius, yeesh) but it’s our way of dealing with things, understand it’s all out of the deep love radiating from our very large yet very week crab hearts. Most of the time we’re a thousand times more worried what you’re thinking of us. We do care, much love
January 9th, 2010 at 1:25 am
I am a 23 year old Cancer female and I have very few “close” friends and a couple “friends”. I like to have a deep connection with people and if I meet someone and straight out the gate they are being pretentious or flippety I get annoyed and they will basically have a red X on their forhead with me until they prove me otherwise.
I think that we are the most caring. I could be lying on my bed with a friend and I am thinking “are they hot/cold, are they thirsty?, are they having a good time?, are they hungry?, do they need to talk?, what would make this person happy right now?” I just love to take care of the people I care about.
I think with that comes the unfaithfulness. I have had a total of 7 relationships, I have cheated on 3 of these people. I actually just broke off a relationship with a fellow cancer bc he was cheating on me. I think that we love to love and we love to care and that gets us into trouble. Beings we are so emotional, we LOVE romance and we LOVE being in love and feeling loved, we tend to spread warmth expecting it in return and sometimes if we get it in return and its romantic, we are emotionally driven to experience what love is like with that other person.
No excuse. Really, cheating is a bitch either way you look at it. Idk, I was never a liar about it. The 3 people I cheated on, I told within the week of doing it and broke the relationship off. Even after one attempted to convince me to stay with her. I felt, that by cheating on her I had broken some part of her, as it would do to me, and that I no longer deserved her. I became cold and walked away from our relationship. I could never accept love from her again after trashing the love she’d given me before.
And I help my friends with anything they need. One thing is for sure, my friends know if they’ve had a shitty day, I’ll be right there to use my last $3.00 to make them my specialty spaghetti and help them work through it.
But… I don’t endanger my own finances or the things I want to have for myself unless someone is really important to me. So if you need help with your electric bill and you went out to the bar last night and paid for rounds of beer, I’m not going to be sympathetic. But if you’re really in a bind, I’ll help a bit, but not enough to make my own situation uncomfortable.
A lot of people think I’m the party pooper or that I consider myself better than other people bc of my quiet nature at parties and such. When really, I’m just observing, watching my friends to make sure they are alright and having a good time and just taking in the whole situation. It’s not about being better or lame, I’m having a good time and people are quite possibly the most interesting things on earth to observe.
Idk, I love and care hard but I fight harder.
January 14th, 2010 at 10:04 pm
I am a 30 year old female cancer, some of the comments I find to be the far from the truth when it comes to me. I have the typical cancer traits. I love my sign, but sometimes I hate the fact that I am too sensitive and I over analyze everything. I am very cautious about what I say, or how I say it, simply because I do not want to offend anyone especially considering how sensitive I am. I always think I know how a person feels, or what they think ahead of time to save myself the potential hurt. I am usually right though. I have been manipulative when I was younger and I was also very revengeful. I am now overly forgiving, but I will criticize the hell out of you with sarcastic remarks. I need to feel secure and loved, but I know when it is not genuine. I am the life of the party. I love to talk and express my feelings, and sometimes people will say that I am confrontational. I have friends from state to state and people really cling to me quickly. They love my warm personality, my sense of humour,my openess, and of course my meals. I am a good host, but I am not a kid lover. I have 3 sons that I love, but parenting did not come easy for me.I had to learn to be a good parent.I am overly critical of myself. I have extreme mood swings. I feel other people’s pain as if it was my own. I am usually in a good mood and my mood swings don’t last long. I do play love games in relationships. I like for people to fall for me & when they do I tend to pull back. I am turned off easily. When in a relationship I have to have a friend in my mate or we will not work. I have to be able to communicate openly and honestly. I do not like to be wrong so I think things out before I do them and I hate to make decisions for fear of them being wrong. I am a passionate person and will do anything for the people I love or even to help someone I do not know. I moved in a couple & their 2 children and I did not know them. I like to be committed, but I have cheated, when I did I told my mate and then it was time for me to move on. I do not like to lie at all. Most people respect my honesty and trust me rather quickly.
January 18th, 2010 at 7:21 pm
I’m a strong Cancer born on July 12 and I’m a very caring person and one of my best friends is a Pisces and were so much a like its cool we enjoying being a Cancer and Pisces I share a B~Day with
Henry David Thoreau and I want to be an author too, I’m working on two and I’m 16.
January 19th, 2010 at 12:35 am
I am a 30 year old cancerian woman and would have to agree with most of the comments that have been said. Although I believe it varies between men and women of that sign.
Personally, I am extremely sensitive, giving, caring and people can trust and rely on me.
I can on the other hand be moody. If I am in a good mood, I will be the happiest person alive, a great listener, party animal and great to be around.
But if I am in a bad mood, I overanalyze things, read into things, worry too much and will need comforting and reassurance by others!
I have a few really good friends who I love and they have been there for me, even when I am hard work! They know that its just a phase and that I am being too emotional. I never argue with my friends and try to take their feelings ito consideration. I prefer talking and expressing how I feel.
In a relationship I will give all and sometimes unconditional love, which means that nearly always I end up getting hurt..
All I want is someone to be there and show me they care. Can admit that sometimes because we care too much, we can suffocate people with our love and can seem needy and possesive at times.
Especially when a man needs his space this is hard because all we want is to snuggle up and make things better! Commitment is very important to Cancers at this age and they will try to make things work with their partner at any cost ( put up with crap they shouldn’t )because their feelings run deep and if they truly love someone they don’t want to let go.
I am really creative and love anything to do with the house ( decorating and cooking esp.)
I sometimes prefer staying in on a Saturday watching movies with my boyfriend or friends instead of going out. I feel secure at home and its very important place for me.
Cancers can be critical of others and love chatting and analyzing situations with friends. But I believe we are more critical with ourselves and even if we show that we are outgoing and confident, we are quite insecure and need reassurance.
I am not sure about the compatibility with other signs, as I think our sensitivity and emotional state is not doing us any favours. Other signs like Pisces or Scorpio are sensitive and passionate like us, but also independent and strong.
My advice to fellow cancerians ( if that is you are like me )is to give to the people that give back to you, give people their space when required, be optimistic and don’t give unconditional love to people that don’t deserve it! ( you are not their mum you know )! Lol!
January 24th, 2010 at 6:54 pm
im a libra and my bestest friend is a cancer. the crab would always get me so itrritaded somtimes. because itll get me so confused. i can never read it, never know what it wants from me.
imside,I really like the crab.but when it hides, itll change the subject or be the person everybody think it is;being a big joker,loud,upnoxious.when im at its house the crab sorta changes;it’s more loving torwards me and like to cuddle when we watch movies, and thats all she likes to do when its home with me,watch movies.me as rised from the planet venus,I allways love the pleasure of bing close to the crab,and i always try to be intimate with it,and gives me these signs like it also wants to, but then somtime the crab would push me away…i would never understand it.
its like ‘we love to stare at each other but for some reason we never reach out and touch,seems best as a dream’…I just want to know how to aprouch the crab.
January 29th, 2010 at 8:55 am
I am a cancer. and for some reason i can sense other cancers…both my best friends are cancers! i find to be pulled to them the most. they can have a tough outter shell and like anyone can be critical but they are big softies inside!! i remember one time hanging out with a few people i didnt know very well…and we grouped together (about 5 of us) and i asked them what there signs were and they were all cancers! weird energies.
February 3rd, 2010 at 7:04 am
Cancer can be so critical and harsh. My aunt and I are both cancers, and we are polar opposites. While I can see a nurturing spark in my Aunt’s eyes, it is bulldozed by the harsh, critical, and selfish cancer. Yes, cancer is known to be very selfish, and in some cancers this is blown to the extent and she is one of them. Me though, I am caring and less selfish. I have a huge nurturing streak and I try to be intuitive so I can help others. Her? She will just push you down for the top or criticize you till she turns blue.
February 5th, 2010 at 9:56 am
I’m a Cancer. No matter what Astrology you follow (western/tropical sidereal/hindu) I am a Cancer. The question is quite intriguing. Asking a Cancerian “Are you always nice?” is like asking “Does is snow in Minnesota?” We are so nice that we are nice about being mean to people and we are only mean when we are fed up and can’t take it any longer. Every Cancer I might is always understanding even when you shouldn’t be. Some Cancerians, like me, have learned to not come off as nice to protect our feelings. So if a Cancer seems like a jerk or is completely self-centered… they are only trying to protect them selves.
To Ariesinlove. I once almost got with an Aries. It only didn’t happen cuz I was heart broken from a Libra. She would say a lot of the same things you say about him to me. She is the only woman I ever regretted not getting with. I know we would of been great together. I still like her til this day and I don’t think it will ever leave. Just keep showing him constant affection and he’ll never ever leave.
February 5th, 2010 at 10:01 am
Uhhh sorry. I mean’t to say met instead of might and I mean’t caring but nice works too. It’s 4 o’clock in the mourning and I’m starting to get really incoherent. Oh and if anyone get’s curious of when my birthday is it’s July 19th. Cancer forever! lol. Peace
February 8th, 2010 at 10:17 pm
I’m a cancer and I do have a lot of leo in my sign, but only in the attention and passion areas of leo. I have always been a kind person to the point that it was harmful to me, still trying to learn the word no. It is true though when us cancers are confronted we can be one of the biggest advisory that you could ever meet, We stand are ground like there is no tomorrow. Yes we have a lot of emotions, but we also receive a lot of emotions from others, which can be worse then just dealing with your own emotions. So if a cancer mate or friend starts to act out of their normal characteristics think for a sec what feelings am I giving off right now.
February 10th, 2010 at 4:00 pm
my understanding is that there are two kinds of cancer: the grownup with a hard shell and the child who has a soft shell. the cancer with tougher shells so to speak are usually tougher in disposition as well. it doesn’t mean they aren’t caring but they can handle themselves. the cancer with soft shells tend to be more insecure and hypersensitive to the slightest or perceived criticism.
my mother falls into the soft shell/child category. she is a caring woman but very insecure with no sense of self. she had a difficult childhood growing up in a home with an alcoholic parent. i have read that when a cancer has a traumatic childhood he/she needs time to themselves (retreat into their shell so to speak)in order to grow and toughen up. if they don’t get that opportunity they become emotionally undeveloped and awkward. that is how my mother is.
my relationship with her has probably been the most challenging in my family. she is possessive, and demanding because she does not believe in her own power. when i was a child i loved how attentive and sweet she was, and I wanted to be like that. i don’t feel that way anymore, and i doubt i ever will.
i don’t believe anyone has ever challenged her in a healthy, productive way. she had two older sisters who did the disservice of taking care of her and not teaching her much as a child. so as she got older she never learned to stand on her own. she never learned to see strength inside herself, she learned to be helpless. for this reason she is essentially a very selfish person; living vicariously through others. i am a Capricorn, and she saw strength in me rationalizing that it was my responsibility to make her happy, especially since my father was not able to provide that. this erroneous idea of believing i was responsible for her happiness is what ultimately destroyed our relationship.
February 15th, 2010 at 7:40 pm
I’m a Cancer male, with a thick wall to ward off people I don’t know too well. I tend to only be caring and loving towards the people I feel comfortable being myself around.
February 16th, 2010 at 8:51 am
Hmm i Think i like to help people if they are worth it ^^; But i have a yearn of always wanting to be friends with people–so even if they dont i will sometimes help out. But ussually i am the type of person who will wait until theres no one there to help and then i’ll reach out.
i always like to voulenteer and such and help people–but im often walked over and pushed around because of my sensitive and generous nature ^^;
Depending on how i am feeling it will show. sometimes if i am in a moody spell i think–”go help yourself” but ussually i am always willing to give a helping hand ^^;; i am confusing
February 24th, 2010 at 8:20 pm
I am a Cancer, yes I am a caring person, am I moody? no..When we want our space we sperate ourselves from everyone, so we may think. We will help anyone and everyone, but do not think we are fools to the unknown. We are very blunt when it comes to people being rude towards us. As a cancer we feel, once we are crossed, you will never get back in. (We have a very high tolerant for BS) However we are not hateful people we just can not and will not tolarate lies . And as fars a zodiacs and people- everyone has two sides to them. But (cancers) we are more of a balance than any other sign.(when we are wrong we will admit it. (we don’t focus on fear) We do what we say and and say what we mean, we do not like allot of attention (like a Gemini), this is when we hide in our shells. (we can read people very easy) And if a cancer does not like a person, something is wrong with that person. Cancer like everyone.
February 26th, 2010 at 2:49 pm
I am a Cancer and my best friend and her sister both are too. All three of us are totally different! My best friend is a true Cancerian to a tee…she fits the bill perfectly. You could google cancer and there would be her photo! Her sister is almost as readable as she is. Me, however…I’m not so sure about myself. I have a lot of cancer traits, but when it comes to being caring, well, I don’t think I care more than anyone else does. Like a true Cancerian, I would lay down my own life to save one of my children (and as a matter of fact, I almost did once), but I’m more outward and outgoing than my other Cancer friends. If there’s something on my mind, nine times out of ten, it pops right out of my mouth. I don’t keep much hidden. I’ve been friends with my best friend since junior high and out of all of my cancer friends, I’m the go getter, the wild child, the one who always does as she pleases and says whatever comes to mind. The rest of my Cancer friends tend to keep things buttoned up so to speak, stew over things for weeks sometimes before they let their true feelings be known, and I just don’t understand why I’m not the same way. I do, however, over analyze everything, which I’m told is a Cancer thing…IF you can help me understand this, it would be greatly appreciated! If it helps, my birthday is July 16, 1983. Oh yeah, while I’m at it…if a Cancer is a water sign, then why am I so terrified of water? I was always ready to go swimming and quite a pro at it when I was a kid, but at some point, I developed fears of water to the point where I don’t even enjoy boating. There is absolutely NO reason why I developed these fears, no accidents or whatever. I just don’t get it….
March 2nd, 2010 at 7:00 am
I am a Cancer woman and , yes, I am very emotional and sensitive at times, especially when I feel I’m not being treated as I deserve. I think the words emotional and sensitive get a bad rap, but when you are an emotional person you are very in tune with the world and who you are as a person, inside and out and when you are sensitive that doesn’t necessarily mean you are “overly sensitive” more so that we are intuitive and have a great sense of ourselves AND the people around us.. which is a real gift i think. I feel i am open and VERY honest - to a T. But through my devotion and dedication for the ones I love - if I don’t get the same care and concern it isn’t pretty.
I feel like Cancers are very laid back and low-key people generally, but if you cross them or mess with a loved one, you better watch out. They will bite your head off and stomp on it if need be. And because of their vulnerable and fairly quiet/passive demeanor you will probably be caught pretty off guard. Cancers will only feel bad for something if they feel the person did not rightfully deserve it. But when doing things to the extreme they tend to be completely certain before taking such a huge step in such a brash direction.
I, as a Cancer woman, am VERY VERY nurturing and security and devotion in a partner is extremely important to me. My bf is a Capricorn and, despite being polar opposite zodiac signs our compatibility is great and our emotional bond is unbreakable. I guess the key is finding those key needs where we align somehow (nurturing maternal/paternal ways). Our only issue seems to really be that when I get emotional or get needy or he somehow does something to upset me I start to tuck into my shell and being the stubborn goat he is he becomes emotionally withdrawn. At that point it tends to turn into a game of silent treatment chicken and the longer the silence the more it hurts.
I’ve learned that the Capricorn man does like to provide (whether that be emotionally, mentally, physically) and when he feels he has failed he retreats very rapidly and usually you have to make the first move to snap him out of it. But that’s the only significant obstacle we are having to work on. Open communication and honestly is a great thing and we have that. Capricorn man is VERY VERY devoted. If you get close enough to him where he starts to open up and let you in, you are in for life and he’s yours forever! its awesome..
March 7th, 2010 at 12:12 am
i am a cancer and i have a bad attitude && i am lovin and caring for another cancer for a year now, & they say two signs dont mix, but we get along very well, me and the boy i used tew be with is a gemini && we’re just friends now, so i would hve tew agree that being friends wyt a gemini is betta then dating one, ! but me and my gemini firend support and love each other dearly !
March 21st, 2010 at 6:24 pm
Being a Cancer I have felt like i’ve been walked on by others most of my life. Thing is I still try to help when I can, even with people who have wronged me in the past. Life is to short to begrudge people for the way they are. We are the mothers for a reason and for the most part we care about everyone. We can be hurt,we can carry pain for a long time but we care more than we should,just remember that when dealing with my crab brethren.
March 26th, 2010 at 11:28 pm
I am a cancer and I can be kind but I usually put up walls, but once that wall is broken I can be very sweet and caring and nice to the people I love and care about….some people have hurt me but sometimes if I truly care about them deeply then I will overlook it and act like nothing has happened….Sometimes I can be judgmental and hurtful towards others but I will always try and get them back….I find it difficult hurting other people
April 11th, 2010 at 4:02 am
I’m a cancer male and for the most part I have no problem plucking somebody out of my life. For example, I can fall in love and if I feel anything that is not of the norm from a partner, I would end contact and act like I didn’t even know them. I can put up a wall fast and if somebody ever did me wrong I would come back for them and wrong them twice as hard, just how I am. However, I can be a great lover and caring person and I am one of those people who gives their last. I’m also very adventurous and outgoing. The home thing is nice, but I couldn’t see myself their all the time, especially when there’s so much life has to offer. I like to seek it and take it. I do find myself not having a damn care in the world for Aries, Leo’s, Aquarius and Gemini’s, I try to avoid all these signs. Is this typical for a young cancer male?
April 27th, 2010 at 5:10 pm
Hi I’m a scorpio and my boyfriend was a cancer,born on July 13th.In january he cheated on me with a girl, told me to “F*** off” and couldn’t care less when I felt so bad I tried to commit suicide.He was totally heartless and uncaring.
So no- ithink cancerians are pretty bloody uncaring and unfaithful!!!!
It could be that 2nd decan cancerians(is 13th July 2nd decan?) are harder and less compassionate than those born in the 1st or 3rd section.
Anyway this cancer has really smashed me up and couldn’t care less.
April 29th, 2010 at 11:36 am
Haha I’ve been reading these and feeling I can relate to the untypical cancer I am nice ,caring ,a natural philanthropist ,family oriented,but I love being out rather then at home ,I tend to be very daring and sometimes a flirt ,I can’t seem to find myself easily longing for someone my ambitions go before love even tough I kinda don’t believe in it weird ha well I figured out why you know how they say us cancers retreat into our shell when hurt well I was a typical cancer before until a couple of hurts by the opposite sex,and supposed friends and ultimatly the las t person I loved hurt me to the point of no return I think im soo jaded that I’ve grown such a big shell that it covers me whole and protects what little cancer left I feel like and act like gerard butler in that movie the ugly truth that’s me
May 17th, 2010 at 12:35 pm
Well-My sign Scorpio gets a bad rap-but personally I feel Cancerians are alot crueller, more unfaithful and cold-hearted.Also they only care really about their families!! when will cancerians realise that other human beings are just as important as their families.
It seems narrow, selfish and insular just to care about your family.
Well I hate cancerians after the way my ex boyfriend ,Scott, treated me.I bought him a car for Xmas, paid for his meals because he was skint and was generally very loving and affectionate.We made plans to travel europe and have a gay blessing-basically..engaged to be married!!
Yet he started cheating behind my back with this girl and seems to have no conscience whatever.He didn’t care less how it devastated me and pushed me to near suicide.
Sorry-Cancer men are total bastards-especially ones born on July 13th!-Women may be more caring-look at Princess Diana or Esther Rantzen…do Cancer men just totally suppress the feminine,empathetic side of their natures?
May 28th, 2010 at 11:09 pm
I AM AN ARIES WOMAN SEEING AND CANCERIAN MAN. I REALLY ENJOY HIS COMPANY HE APPEARS TO BE SWEET AND KIND. BUT HE IS REALLY JEALOUS. HE ACCUSSES ME OF OTHER MEN. I ONLY SEE HIM AND DONT WANT ANYONE ELSE BUT HIM AND HE THINKS I SEE OTHER MEN. WHENEVER I GO TO THE HAIR SALON HE CALLS ME AND IF I DON’T ANSWER THE PHONE HE GETS MAD. I TOLD HIM THE LADY WAS DOING MY HAIR AND HE SAYS THAT I WAS WITH ANOTHER MAN. HE CAME OVER AND WANTED TO SEE THE RECEIPT. I HAD TO LITERALLY SHOW IT TO HIM SO THAT HE COULD SEE WHAT TIME I LEFT. THIS RELATIONSHIP IS REALLY HEART FELT. I REALLY HATE SOMEONE MIS TREATED HIM AND HE CAN’T TRUST ANYONE. WE ALL HAVE BEEN HURT BUT EACH INDIVIUAL IS DIFFERENT. I FEEL LIKE I AM GETTING THE BLAME FOR SOMEONE ELSE’S MISTAKES. WHEN HE IS AROUND HE WANTS ME TO CATER TO HIM THE WHOLE TIME HE IS HERE. HE LOVES ATTENTION..HE ASKED ME FOR SOME MONEY TO BUY SOMETHING HE WANTED AND I SAID NO I AM NOT USE TO TAKING CARE OF MEN. HE WOULDNT CALL ME. HE STARES AT ME ALL OF THE TIME. WHY IS HE LOOKING AT ME SO MUCH? HE SAYS THAT I AM A BEAUTIFUL BLACK QUEEN HE ALWAYS COMPLIMENTS ME ON MY HAIR OR THE WAY I DRESS. AND HE HAS BEEN ACTING JEALOUS SINCE I FIRST MET HIM. I REALLY HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM. WHENEVER HE MAKES LOVE TO ME HE DO HIS BUSINESS AND ROLL OVER AND GO STRAIGHT TO SLEEP. HE DOESNT HUG ME WE KISS EVERY NOW AND THEN BUT HE SAYS HE IS NOT INTO SEX AS MUCH AS I AM. CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME TO KNOW IF THIS MAN CARES ABOUT ME.
June 6th, 2010 at 2:09 am
My brother is a cancer and he is very caring person. He is emotional and not selfish at all. But what i wanted to ask is if anyone knows a cold-hearted cancer? The guy i’m in love with is cancer as well. He is or acts cold-heart. He doesn’t show any emotions at all. I wonder what’s wrong with him. I don’t know if something hurt him so much, so he’s not letting him fall in love again or he really is that cold hearted. I’m an Aquarius and very emotional person as well. I’ve been in love with him almost two years. And confessed it about 3 months ago. He’s not giving me a chance, cause he says he’s only gonna hurt me. I don’t want anybody else. And i’m trying to understand him, but everytime i think i’m close to figuring him out i realize i’m only drifting apart. He’s really complicated, it’s true. But could he be HEARTLESS??
June 9th, 2010 at 3:47 pm
I am an Aries female that is in love with a Cancer male. When we first started dating about 9 months ago everything was perfect! I thought he was the man of my dreams. He gave me all the attention I could ask for, was the sweetest man I’d ever met, and when I went out w/ him I paid for nothing. After reading these posts I tried to recall any incident in which I hurt him (I’m still not sure)because he’s changed so drastically. He lies to me (so many broken promises), he keeps soo many secrets(which I absolutely Hate), and has been unfaithful. Of course Aries and Cancers are not supposed to be compatible but with a Taurus Ascendant, Taurus Venus, and Cancer Mars Im not too fiery at all (Although Im known to say things I shouldn’t). I love that man and I’m sure he loves me too but we’re a mess. We go back and forth between breaking up and making up. Crazy thing is, I don’t want anyone but him. I guess that’s the Aries flare for a challenge or maybe my Taurean patience. Im not sure.
July 19th, 2010 at 1:09 pm
I am a Cancer male with a Sag rising and a moon in Cancer. I am probably the most conflicted person I know most of the time! The Sag always wants to go! go! go! and the Cancer says, relax! stay home!
Anyway, I agree with the bipolar comments, at least in theory. I discovered as a child I had the ability to compartmentalize like no one else. My mother once told me I was the sweetest and at the same time the coldest person she had ever met. Like many other Cancers posted, when I am done I am done. Either with relationships, jobs, whatever.
So, to answer your question, yes, all Cancers are loving and caring, it does not come free though, and it can be taken away. Egotistical? probably, I am a Cancer though…
August 1st, 2010 at 6:27 am
hi! my sister is a cancerian…i totally think that cancerians are caring for those who are nt family to them..i mean strangers. my sister whose a typical cancerian is never caring towards me bt when it comes to her friends or strangers or any one else she dosent know much…she is the most caring person! strange but i have observed!
August 2nd, 2010 at 6:02 pm
Hi I am Varun and I am from INDIA. I was looking for “Ophiuchus” as I saw it on TV today and I found this very nice article about Cancer and Capricorn. As I am a Capricorn guy and my beloved partner was Cancerian. What ever you told about relationship between the two stars I and her shared exactly that way. But my hard luck I have Lost her to god last year. I just want to say some of her words whoever you love and whatever you do “DO IT PASSIONATELY”
LOVE YOU A LOT JAANE LOVE YOU FOREVER BABY
REST IS PEACE “NIKKU”.
August 17th, 2010 at 9:28 am
Rebecca: I think you have just described me haha, I believe this is the real cancer. I FEEL like doing stuff for people, if I want them to like me. At times i do think selflessly but i find myself being satisfied with the thought and end up not going through with it. Since we are very emotional people, and know how to hide in our shell when necessary, we are very in-tuned with other peoples emotions, and can and will use this to our advantage. I have many times seduced all the while making them think they were the first to engage. WHen it comes to sex I can have up to 6 partners and none of them know of each other. Though this is hard to do with having a full time job, being a full time student, volunteering and still finding time to make my significant other feel loved, I feel weird if I dont stay busy. On a happy note we cancers can be very caring people and though it may seem like we are being taken advantage of, don’t be fooled, it is just a stepping stone to getting what we want.
August 17th, 2010 at 9:37 am
Keith im sorry to say this my boy but scorpios spend so much time lashing out at people and being ass holes that when they do something bad its expected. THe cancerian spends his time in the shell carefully planning out his attack(like an assassin per say) and everyone is used to him being nice that they are shocked when they act out…Cancers love to love im sorry that your ex was so cruel, but no one is worth taking your life for. If he truly loves you he would never do anything to hurt you…or at least he would never let you find out.
August 30th, 2010 at 6:47 pm
I am a Cancer male, and i am completely accomidating, conciderate, loving, loyal, giving, selfless, respectful, all of the above. I put my b/f on a pedistal and view him as the only man in my life, until i get let down sometimes and it hurts, and then i get sensative and moody. When i love someone i dont love half asked, its 110% molding my life, changing things around to accomidate them. Its crazy how i can do that. I have learned to be accomidating but not lose myself in the process, because i i then become clingy and thats not a desirable trait. Yes i have broken some hearts, and have had my heart broken too. The thing is with cancer, is we know a potential mate almost after 2 days of hanging out with them. I have to trust them, and i have to know that they’re loyal…so we’re cautous at the beginning letting them be themselves completely. And we make our judgement, much like a taurus. We have a disarming (well for me) type of personality, alluring…we make you WANT to tell all, and most of the time you do. I am not a judgemental person, however things that i find distasteful in getting to know someone..may eventually lead to me moving on. If you want a loving b/f g/f who is fiercely loyal, has emotional depth and will make you feel like you’re the most important person in their life…than a cancerian is the person. ON the downside…everything does come with a price. I am hyper sensitive too…when my b/f consistantly puts his hand on my leg every time in the car…and then one time he doesn’t i freak out. Just the way i am. I find security in the consistancy of thing i like. Our sensative is one of our insecurites…we have a hard time admitting it, and coming to grips with it. One thing i would change about myself is sensetivity, however recently i’m coming to understand it and accept it…because with out that insecurity i wouldn’t be a sensual, passionate, person. Just like the taurus we can be possessive, and its our need for security..to know what you’re doing and that you’re still thinking about us. YOu have to understand we sacrifice a lot in ourselves to be with you…and we dont take that lightly. If you make us feel secure, and give us a sense of emotional freedom, loyalty, and affection……you will see an amazing person who will make your dreams as well as theirs come true…loyal and attentive. =)
September 30th, 2010 at 4:25 am
im a cancer girl with sagitarious rising, im extremly emotional sensitive caring and loving also very very easily offended can be moody at times but come out of them just as quick! but i genuinly feel that im not possesive or jelious which r supposed to be qualitys of cancer. im not a homebird i get really bored but when i am at home i like my comforts. they say were really attatched to our familys and ofcourse i love mines dearly but i find i can go on holiday for week 2 months n dont feel the need to call home. because im sensitive i tend to go for nice guys and i would say i have that “outer shell” somehow i always end up with virgos but my god the bore the shit out of me i seek excitment and adventure and always find myself attracted to aquarious although ive never allowed myself to go with it. i feel im far 2 nice at times to people i shouldnt be and let people i love take advantage of my gd nature. but at the same time im am not 2 be messed with im quite outspoken and very critical of myself and others and can be quite blunt at times. im also the most loyal friend and actually wish i had one like me ive never met anyone who will go out of there way for someone as much as myself other than my ex boyfriend who is a virgo rising cancer but im affraid he just doesnt do it for me although i stayed in the relationship for 2 and a half years unhappy just because i couldnt bear to hurt him. 2 be honest i think my signs r a complete contradiction of eachother and i confuse myself at times lol
November 8th, 2010 at 4:56 am
I am Cancer and a lot of what is being said is true. I am a sensitive loving caring person with a very warm heart. I think being 36 yrs. old I have been able to learn lessons from all of the pain and hurts that I have experienced. I have grown a thicker skin and have learned to control my emotions to a point. One of the weakness that I still have not overcome is being self protective. If I get pissed, and it takes a lot to get me there, I flip out. I use to get teased a lot as a child because I was very poor but learned right away to fight back and not take crap from anyone. My advice to much younger Cancers take your time and learn from your emotions that way your sensitivity will be used for good and not leave you feeling dark and unappreciated. We are truly gifted with the ability to make people smile and that should be a goal not revenge. You deserve better than that!
December 19th, 2010 at 8:04 pm
I’M AQUARIUS HE’S A CANCER OUR LOVE WAS THE BEST THAT ANYONE COULD EVER HAD WE WERE 2GETHER FOR 4 YEAR GOING TO 5 BUT SUDDENLY W DECIDE IT TO HAVE A BABY… WE HAD A CANCER BABY…. OUR SON IS THE BEST THING WE COULD EVER HAD… HE SMART AND HANDSOME FRIENDLY AND LOVING… BUT OUR LOVE GOT DESTROY AFTER HIS ARRIVAL…WE BROKE UP… WE GOT BACK TOGETHER BUT THEN HE WILL BRAKE UP…WE DATED PEOPLE WE JUST COULDNT STAY AWAY SO BROKE UP WITH THEM… GOT BACK TOGETHER MAKE LOVE LIKE NO OTHER GAVE EACH OTHER ALL….BUT HE FELT I WAS TO GOOD FOR HIM AND LEFT AFTER COUPLE MONTHS INTO THE RELATIONSHIP…. I FELT HORRIBLE I FELT LIKE I GAVE HIM MY ALL I TRY SO HARD I GAVE HIM MY HEART AND I HOLD HIM TIGHT FROM GOOD AND BAD….BUT IT SEEM LIKE IT WAS A WASTE OF TIME…. BUT HE JUST DONT STOP TELLING ME HOW MUCH HE LOVE ND I CANT STOP FEELING HOW MUCH I LOVE HIM…. BUT IT SEEM EVERYTIME WE GO BACK TOGETHER HE END UP CALLING IT OFF….BUT WONT LEAVE SO IT MAKE IT HARDER FOR ME TO TRY TO MOVE ON….IT HURTS BUT HE SAID HE NOT TRYING TO HURT ME BUT IT HAPPEN THAT HE SORRY I FORGIVE HIM BUT IT HURTS I LOVE HIM FOR WHO HE IS… BUT HE THINK HE NOT GOOD ENOUGH AND WE SHOULD TRY TO GET AWAY BUT HE ALWAYS COMEBACK AND WE JUST DONT KNOW WHY…I KNOW OPPOSITE ATTRACT BUT THIS ATTRACTION THIS LOVE WE HAVE IS SO STRONG THAT IT HURT BOTH… CAN SOMEONE TRY TO EXPLAIN HOW WE SO OPPOSITE BUT CANT LET GO OUR FEELING…HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
January 14th, 2011 at 10:51 pm
I am a cancer most cancers dont realize that we are the mother figures of the zodiac so with that being said yes i can be overly nice and we pushed i can be very very mean….only when pushed i can take alot of BS but as the mother figure we teach love,peace and how to be caring….I ve met some cancers that are butt heads but they were nice and just tired of being pushed so they became very aggressive….Man…we are cheater if we are not satisfied in the bed room and what we think will be sexual only,it dont be that way cause of our emotion we be come attached and so does the only person….but let see….man i can go on about my self,oh yeah one more thing we are soooo positive as ppl.
January 16th, 2011 at 11:29 pm
That’s easy, id have to say it depends if were in the mood.. lol No honestly we sit in depths of emotions. True about the Cancer, were are (well I am) definately all or nothing. We come off too strong, then there’s a thin line(mostly due to insecurity, & the known fact we don’t like anything ugly) between love and hate which makes us seem bipolar. But bipolar is a mental condition, which we are heartful people. I suffer from not being able to control my emotions, which caused me lots of pain during my life. I also use this as an advantage, being very successful in my career. & use my heart and emotions to control my mind. Were so misunderstood. Everyone calls me crazy.. because they think I do crazy things, but I don’t. I place it safe so much I don’t enjoy my life enough being a 23 year woman. Everything is all work & no play. I’m also a perfectionist , since I’m such a perfectionist, it shows. So badly when ima mess. I’ve loved someone so much I’ve pushed them away, (since pain seems so for sure), I would not want that person to have to feel that on my part. Hard to understand. If your saying yes, than it proves my point exactly. My best matches have been the fish, & the bull (#1).worst match the Ram! Favorite Lover the scales, my birth chart has no air signs in it. So I admire the libra the most, & have been in love with one all my life. I become somewhat influenced by my libra, where I’m reflecting there most balanced ways. But I cause to much disharmony due to our indifferences =(. It will never work,
So what we need is that person we love to turn too us and reassure us they aren’t going to leave or hate us when were going through our famous mood swings. (Darn moon!) I thought I had a chemical imbalance. Reassurance, security, and appreciation. We would stop the nonsense. I promise its true. July 16th
January 17th, 2011 at 1:57 am
Cancers are so many things @ once, very mutuable, easily influenced. Up & or down. Very funny very. Dull. Very timid yet extremely passionate, cold yet clingy. All in one. Wouldn’t you say. 69. Like the foundation, ones subliminal heart. The mother. Mother nature can be destructive. They honestly have something in common with every sign.maybe because they change so much. Ex. Sometimes they are free spirited as if they can’t be reached. With no regards to what society says about them. Not liking to be told what to do. Aquarius? Then are drowned in a current of emotions, pisces? /Quite selfishly inward.? Views self amongst existance? Whatever beneifits them. Aries? Probably why they bump heads. /Needs security, obtains a natural need to protect and be protected. TAurus? Ok here’s a funny one, cancer can be extremely cold & numb right? True I’ve been told that. While gemini thinks. Cancer feels. There’s. Extreme polarity for you. What. better relation then ying and yang. Which is separated by a thin line. Cancer can be the same if she/he feels a nothingness from the gemini. Which can lead to the cancer being on the go. With no interest for the -gemini.(my ex. bestfriend) Leo, passionate! Sometimes likes attention depending on the mood. Loyalness.LIkes games once in a while when feeling bold./ Virgo, shyness worring. Intuitive, suspiciousness. A realist. LIkes pefect world./Libra loves. love, beauty harmony, peace and family.closeness. Dreamers. Scorpiioo, depth of emotion like no other, true to say we read them very well, the eyes are too deep, To miss when depths are too cold. they may be quite harsh. My mother./ Sag- hmm not to sure. Don’t know any sags like that. Lol sure we hve somethings in common. Last but not least capricorn. (The seagoat) Our polarity we truely understand each other. Need I say anymore. They lay on the outer skirts, a little more calm. With the ability to be on land. CAncers change too much to be defined as 1 main thing. They are the mothers, or @least the conscious of it.
February 8th, 2011 at 5:38 am
Obviously, “Keith Rogers”, everyone here who said that they found Cancers to be loving and caring are lying; they don’t know what the hell they’re talking about.
For the record, I was being sarcastic. (This, to inform the more literal-minded readers)
On a more serious note, trusting that you are being real, I see a girl (or a gay guy, whichever one you are) trying to sincerely make a point about the negative side of Cancer; you are obviously hurt and have a lot of passion to express. However, once you start to include scapegoating in your message, it becomes murky and preposterous, and your cup of credibility becomes less than half full. I found myself having a bit of a hard time taking you seriously because of the tactlessly blatant, not to mention laughable, prejudice coming from your post. First, it’s your ex-boyfriend born of July 13 who hurts you. Next, it’s you spiting much of the population of Cancer men (including those born on days other than the 13th??) and branding it possibly worthy of suspicion for unfaithfulness and missed empathy, just like your boyfriend… I can only wonder how many (decent and/or innocent) Cancers you yourself might have hurt and how many might have been upset by reading your post.
I think you are smart enough to know that your boyfriend doesn’t speak for all Cancer men, even those tens of thousands of ones born on his birthday. I’m also almost certain that you know, or at least have the capability to learn, that there are cancers who are beyond the quintessential stereotype and care about people other than just their close family members. You were angry, and you let this foolishly color your views of what people of the zodiac sign are like.
Well, I guess I have made my point. Why don’t I now focus more on your situation, since that was what you were originally talking about.
I know what feelings of betrayal feels like; I think Cancers and Scorpios alike can share that terrifying heartbreak. Once someone has become disloyal, everything becomes a living nightmare: the one who we knew and loved so much for so long has all gone down the drain, and so too do trust and eternal bond. It’s alomst like a piece of our hearts being turned into stone, and our entire bodies just won’t function the same anymore. I am sincerely sorry that you went through this. However, I kindly ask as a fellow Cancerian that you try to express your feelings without having to point fingers at people who are otherwise innocent and non-involved. Concluding, I hope that in the future you will find a boyfriend, regardless of what his sign may be, who can truly live up to the “until death do us apart” vow (which I don’t think is only suitable for marriage).
Best wishes,
~~~Tony~~~
A homosexual male Cancer
*hugs and kisses*
February 8th, 2011 at 3:26 pm
well i’m a piscean but i’d just like to say that i definately understand why cancerians go bad. they really are the most giving people until they get stomped on. i knew a guy once and i was very close to him, he’d been ‘diagnosed’ with adhd,add, aspergers, he’d been drugged by his parents, even with ritalin without the doctors knowing for sure that this guy had ANYTHING at all. anyway i got to know him and there was absolutely nothing wrong with him, he was rediagnosed after he reluctantly went to see a counsellor and eureka! NOTHING wrong. the point of me telling you all this? cancerians don’t always act like you expect them to act, so don’t judge them until you know them, that goes for every other person on this earth as well. i know this is kind of a rant and i apologise lol. that’d be my inner rooster not knowing when to shut my trap >w>. you get the point though. xx
February 17th, 2011 at 2:39 pm
am cancer and yes am emotional and moody sometimes i try not to show it since most o my family
members are leos the only one who gets me is my mum when it comes to dating am a mess i relly need
to trust someone for me to open up because i find it hard to trust guys mostly am attracted to taurus
guys am passionate lovable and quite funny once you get to know me but geuss all be waiting for the
right guy who knows how to handle an emotional sensitive woman
February 21st, 2011 at 4:41 pm
I am a cancer…and omg i can totally relate to most people here. I always thought that I was an odd cancer, im not very family oriented, eventhough i love them, but i can definitely do without them for periods of times. Emotional?I guess you can say I can be emotional, not when it comes to my personal problems or feelings, things dont face me the same way it does to others, I just say whatever and move on. But when it comes to other peoples feelings or problems, I am right there with you holding your hand. All my friends come to me for advice because as a cancer I can easily put myself in someone elses position. I over analyze everything!!!!I can be very moody, a simple comment that wasnt directed in a negative way can change my mood instantly, but I can be over it 10 mins later. In relationships, I dont show any sort of emotion until the other person does. I guess its a sort of shield to not get hurt,which makes it hard for me to get attached to someone. When it comes to friendships, I get along with everyone I meet, I keep friends for a long time. I can be caring, but you have to be selfish sometimes. I am very witty and sarcasm is my middle name, I can take it and give it back. I am very independent and love adventure, so when it comes to being a home body who doesnt like to go out Im gonna have to disagree.
June 20th, 2011 at 5:22 am
Many Cancer males I know are very selfish. I think they feel insecure in the “ultra-feminine” sign, and perhaps build a ton of defenses.
August 3rd, 2011 at 7:42 pm
Well am a male cancer and i can describe u every single way how we are… we are very romantic and we care about the people we love more than to ourselfs,also we like to help people.. When we hurt somebody it actually hurts us more than to them.. we love giving advices we are kind and we try to make other people happy nd not try to make ourself happy……. THE BAD THINGS… we have a bad temper i dont like people telling me what to do i hate dat it pisses me off if u do something to me ill remember that my whole life …we have great memory nd we calculate too much people because we live in our past which means if someone does something to us we think they are gonna do it again to us sooo we evaluate everything..we can be very caring but if u mess up we can be ur worst enemy… i hope it helps
August 9th, 2011 at 7:09 am
I can die for humanity and have the ability to cry over ads on tv, but I can also walk through a field of dead babies and kick the shit of my feet. We are people’s pleasers, ego boosters, but not weak. I have Gemini rising, mars and mercury in Gemini, sun in cancer, moon in Pisces, Venus in cancer, Jupiter and Saturn conduct in libra- a lot of air, a lot of water. I love my kids, but I love my freedom equally. If I thought I could lie longterm I would cheat all the time, variety, but my Scorpio would never , he’ll keel over. plus I consider our union sacred and I’ll protect it at all costs, although the feeling of being smothered gets a bit much at times. He’s wonderful and caring and beyond this world in bed.
August 20th, 2011 at 11:15 pm
Hello, I’m Cancerian Pig.
I’ve read this post, all the comments above and I have to agree that the most of us Cancerians are extremely emotional, we love our homes and we do really love our friends and family. We are totally family-orientated. But you guys have to separate truth and critical. I don’t think we are that ‘critical’..
The worst I’ve read was, that you label us as unfaithful. I know myself: I was not, am not and I will never be unfaithful. In my opinion, unfaithful people are the worst. I hate them, so I will never become like that.
August 26th, 2011 at 5:58 pm
Hey
I can tell you that Cancers are really helpful. They are moody and a but jealous, over sensitive and emotional, moody and clingy but caring, supportive, protective and encouraging. They love their home more than anyone else. Of anyone of you wanna know about any zodiac sign, just read Linda Goodman’s Sun Signs..:) 
everything in that book is true and also Cancers find it hard to say goodbye or let go
I know all this cause I’m also a cancer
August 29th, 2011 at 2:49 pm
Cancers can be caring, but their pathetic attempts to hold a grudge and be vindictive can be quite tiresome. I’m a Taurus. These games don’t work with us. We may not be as intuitive as Cancers, but trust me, we’re the investigators, watchers, the most cautious and stubborn individuals in the zodiac. While Cancers are plotting revenge, a Taurus will place emotional wedges and observe and analyze your movements. Oh, and we will not budge! LOL.
Oh, we pick up on your subtle hints. We simply refuse to play the game…and always looking for a way out.
Once we decide that your intentions are malicious, we will make a Cancer’s head spin…to the point of confusion…
Two things a Taurus protects, OURSELVES and OUR FAMILY. Everything else is irrelevant. Including YOU.
My Cancer is in love.
Being extremely petty.
…And I’m being entertained with no prospect of being with this Cancer.
My advice to all Cancers….
The pettiness may work for casual affairs…
But not for longevity.
October 12th, 2011 at 6:07 pm
Likewise, Bull77, I also happen to know that Cancer’s said-intuitiveness usually gets to Taurus, and Tuarus knows that he won’t win. Every time a Taurus like my little brother gets told off when my (Cancer’s) accurate predictions penetrate him/her, he/she would try to level the same kind of mind-penetrating ability back at me (Cancer). The problem with my little bro doing this, however, is that he takes LITERAL (not to mention GENERIC) information from the surface and throws it back into my face, thinking to himself that he’s making a psychic prediction. Unfortunately for him, his psychic Cancerian older brother (me) knows that literal information cannot accurately attack the actual feelings that maybe going on UNDERNEATH. Cancer knows this to be the typical frail attempt by Taurus to get back at Cancer. And WHY, one asks?
Answer: it is stated in my first statement.
What also gets to me is that he thinks that by adding a component of slap-head name-calling and then turning away with a conspicuous blink of an eye and a lift of snooty nose would piss me off. He thinks he got me back, but really, he just makes himself look even more like an idiot. Because litteral surface visual information do not affect me. See?
You are right, Bull77. Cancers ARE intuitive, including myself. Like all the other water sunsigns, we usually have things and conversations figured out before take place. (What we specifically figure out and how we go about figuring it out may vary by the sign). Having said that, if Cancer is “holding a grudge” or is behaving in a petty negative manner, I already know that
a) it’s your fault, or
b) you bear much responsibility to his feeling upset (even if you may not think or, rather, TRY to not think so)
I also happen to know that you yourself are involved every bit in the pettiness and is, in fact, are likely holding a petty grudge yourself against a Cancer or perhaps a bunch of Cancers. Maybe not in the same was Cancer is, but a grudge nevertheless.
MY advice to TAURUS is,
Unless you are a mean-ass Pisces or Scorpio, you will never defeat Cancer at the mental teardown game, so don’t even try.
November 11th, 2011 at 12:33 am
*sighs* I guess that’s all we can ever be…caring people. All the while, Scorpio and Pisces are PSYCHIC and SAVING THE UNIVERSE…
Perhaps I should have been born under one of those sunsigns. Maybe then, this pathetic human life can serve a more meaningful purpose.
I’m not disvowing care for other people’s feelings. That’s a great thing to have! But, I just wish we were more than JUST that.
Suicide is an answer mayhaps?
December 18th, 2011 at 4:37 am
Cancers act like their saving the world, yet it only applies to things in their own interest. The cancers that I have known seem too self-centered to be “caring.” It’s no surprise that cancer and leo are right next to each other. Cancers are jealous petty leaders, who try to manipulate every situation to their benefit and then position themselves to be the hero.
Cancers are too weak and tactless to be saving anyone. It’s just a front to promote themselves. Really they need people to constantly “protect” them from some unknown force. It sums up to this. Cancers are petty low-lives who act up, then need other people to protect them from their own deceitful actions. You’re fooling no one sweetheart;)
December 18th, 2011 at 7:42 am
@yada
Why suicide? If you wronged a pisces, it’s never too late to apologize. A pisces never forgets but is probably the most forgiving sign in the entire zodiac. My advice is apology sincerely. Remember the key word being sincerely. If you come with anything less, the pisces will pick up on it, and that will make things worse.
December 18th, 2011 at 11:40 pm
Cancers are the caring ones…but there is nothing worse than a middle aged single Cancer woman with no kids. These people are wretched manipulative beings. Just buy these women a drink, let them “save” you and call it a day.
December 20th, 2011 at 12:05 am
@Steve
There are no pisces involved. I’m talking about observations and comparison. I see a cancer like myself as a petty floater who’s unproductive to humanity and society where pisces and scorpios have mastered the eternal humanity “saveship”. (For a lack of better terms, I make up my own lol) I feel I can always learn from them and learn a great deal, but the fact that saving the world is not in my DEFAULT nature is where my anxiety comes. Suicide is an answer to me because it brings me closer to a place where I can be productive in my work to help humanity.
But now, on your tangent, since you brought it up (and since you probably have had horrendous scars from cancers, which I don’t blame you for) I do believe that sometimes we cancers can be bullies to pisces without truly knowing it. In that case, to your favor, it would be best to stick a knife in our stomachs and let us live through it for as long as possible. I know for a fact that such would emotionally heal pisces of cancer’s abrasive, unforgiving nature, even if they don’t want to admit it verbally on the surface. I mean this unsarcastically. It really would be good therapy for the pisces. I’m not condoning self-destructive violence to anyone. Just for myself in favor of a pisces.
Aye, then again, my having spoken about it would probably lessen the favor. :S
December 20th, 2011 at 1:33 am
Sorry, I must clarify. When I say “stick a knife in OUR stomach”, I mean “stick a knife in MY stomach.”
December 22nd, 2011 at 12:12 am
@Yada
I’m glad you clarified it from “our” to “my.” Because you don’t speak for the group, and frankly, every cancer I ever met has been a friend for life. Pisces (me) are some of the most understanding group of people on this Earth. Even when I know I’m being wronged, I try to see the other side of it and understand. I ask myself, what is intentional? what is malicious? could it have been different? If the majority answer is yes, then I can not allow a cancer (or anyone) get away with it.
I’m not sure how suicide would help humanity, MAYHAPS you can explain.
Also, I’m not following this whole knife-stomach thing. And you keep referring to cancers as bullies..why would you assume that a pisces or scorpio or any other sign won’t/can’t return the favor? Speaking as a pisces (not on behalf of) I am very patient. And I know that you can only right the wrong with an individual. Trying to pander to a group of pisces, scorpios, etc.. won’t do anything for you.
But you seem verbal enough, try apologizing..
February 23rd, 2012 at 9:38 pm
@ Steve -
“If you wronged a pisces, it’s never too late to apologize.”
What does this have to do with Yada’s point at hand?
April 1st, 2012 at 6:56 am
I’m a cancer.. Oh dear! nah LOL My sister is a cancer and my uncle is a cancer. I’m very different to both of them. Its hard to generalise, as anybody who knows about astrology knows that well, not every cancer, leo, aquarius etc on the planet is the same. There are murderers, rapists, saints, meanies and genuinely decent people in all signs. A lot has to do with upbringing and life influences, as well as ascendants, moon signs, good old pluto! etc etc. Eg. My cancer uncle is very stingy and bitches and moans about everyone, but for instance my ex who was a cancer was not like this at all and would do anything for most people.. but you’d have to prove yourself first, and he also had scorpio on his ascendant, which means he’d be very picky with who he’d give his extreme generosity and limitless heart to. My sister on the other hand.. is emotionally unstable and selfish.. but its because she is so damn sensitive and has no control over her emotions. If you’ve done something in the SLIGHTEST wrong in her books, she will ignore you for months. Where as, for example, I have sagittarius in moon, ascendant and lots of other places and I’m very forgiving and dont hold grudges… but then I put up with too much, when everyone else is telling me to get out of situations that are no good for me.. I tend to see both sides and think, Oh well they’re just having a bad day or whatever. And I’m way too generous, but I think that comes with the sagittarius not being good with money and being overly positive about everything! This sounds highly biased… but it is not. And I agree with the cheating thing, I have never and would never cheat on anyone, but my sister has (but it was for revenge purposes, which doesnt justify but she wouldn’t of prior to that). My ex cancer cheated on me (though I dont care). My uncle would never cheat on anyone.I know cheaters and non cheaters in every sign… I know cheaters and non cheaters in a lot of different signs. Also, an astrological chart doesnt say everything about a person.. its always best to go with that good old gut instinct
April 13th, 2012 at 11:23 pm
dang, what has these comments become? pisces and cancers fighting like little children over an issues that i seem to get doesn’t really exist. let me just say, i think everyone has personal shit that they have to deal with on their own. being prejudiced to a group of people under a silly ZODIAC SIGN aint gonna help no one, especially not yourself. i think we can all agree that SOME cancers are caring to SOME people and SOME cancers are not. SOME are out to “save the world”, others are not. i am a cancer, and i would LOVE to try to help people in any way i can, but i know that my efforts wont always be received in the way i’d like. still, i continue trying. i always give it my 100% best shot!!! no matter how much people hurt me, no matter if i like or dislike the person, i love lending an open hand in any way i can. i’m a firm believer that, being nice will pay off in a way that will gain you back the same kind of friends. no, i don’t do it to try get praised, like a few people seem to want to to say. i stay true to my word.
April 13th, 2012 at 11:31 pm
NOW
as for you, mr “mark”, i say this:
i found it hard to bother myself at being mad after reading your depressingly disturbing post. i’m sorry you feel the way about cancers that you do. i truly am. none of it applies to me or any of the fellow “cancers” ive known.
it seems that you have an exagerated horrified view of how this unified group of people carlessly hurt others while masking it under a clever veil of helping society on the grandest scale. are you saying that they do this to make it hard for you individually to confront them? about what??? what horrible things have these people actually done? why would “cancer” go through SOOOOO much trouble as “saving the world” just to cover up their shit with one person as you? have YOUVE been accused of troubling other people while pretending to “save the world” yourself?…sorry i had to use the caps since there’s no italicizing feature… again, i read your post and wasn’t swayed by anything you said. i think therapy and talking your feelings out with trust friends and family members would definitely help you sort out your personal problems. concluding, its in my deep prayers that you and your friends-for-life cancer pals can get along well in the future if you guys dont now. =)
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“yada”, i too am a bit perturbed as “mark” is when reading your suicide sentiment. i think many of us hjave the tendency to see the worse in ourself, especially when we are depressed. hey, zodiac profile after zodiac profile have stated how powerful our personalities are in healing people and caring for them. i think you should take their word for it. =) and if that can’t cheer u up, i really don’t know what will.
my word of advice as one cancer to another is this. if you take your own life, ur only confirming the harshly negative perceptions of cancers as championed by people like “mark.” please don’t do it, if you haven’t yet. i’m asking you as a friend.