Life of the Aries Man |
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This article has been written by one of my readers, he is sharing his insight and experience with us which I am very grateful for. Thank you for sharing 
I hope you all enjoy it!
I am an aries male with Aquarius moon, i think. I am writing to give the ladies who are or were at some point involved with an aries guy, some insight about the aries men from the source- and to vent a bit. I have experienced romantic encounters with female aries, virgo and libra. I will briefly go through each one of them and then share my thoughts and theories about zodiacs and compatibilities.
In my early twenties I got attached to this aries girl who was a couple of years younger then me. At the time I paid no attention to astrology and didn’t realize she was aries and even that I too was aries. She was wild and out and I was attracted to her rebellious nature. If I had to use one term to describe the relationship i’d use "make out" I don’t know if it was the hormones or something else all that we did with each other was make out. There were hardly any time we sat together alone and not tried to each others tongue. lol The sexual tension was intense to say the least. Being with her made me realize, a few years later when i recognized that we were both aries, that aries is a difficult star sign to deal with- in matters of romantic relationships at least. The good thing about the aries-aries couple is that they both love to fight, so when there is an argument each gets off by igniting the fire in the other and yelling at the other and they grow together in their twisted way. Its like a very entertaining pay-per-view fight. Its hard for an aries to get bored of another aries which is real plus because getting easily tired of something is a problem inherent in us arians. She pushed me to out do myself and I enjoyed that. I was taking some time off college to save up some cash. She pushed me to work like an animal and I appreciated that. As I later learned a woman that backs up a man’s work ethic is essentially spoiling him because in my experience such understanding women are rare. She was very understanding when it came to me earning the doh. She went out of her way to prep me everyday like a warrior who is going out into the battleground. I excelled in life having such a strong woman and I didn’t even fully appreciate that fact about her. I have only secretly longed for a strong and passionate girl like her ever since me and her parted ways. You might be wondering so what could possibly have went wrong with this union? Attitude problem. We came to the point where we were in a constant battle to hurt each other’s ego. Somehow It became a love-hate thing where we both loved each other so much and yet couldn’t help but battle at every chance. One thing about us arians is that we are- both male and female- emotionally insecure and don’t like to recognize this fact so we fall into denial about it. Two arians can do a lot for each other but can’t provide to fill the voids that they both share.
Me and her still fight, having broken up in 2006. Until the beginning of this year (2009) we were facebook messaging each other and arguing about who was at fault. I wont lie, I fully enjoy seeing a message pop up every 6-8 months to which i respond with skillful speech. I love to hear I made her cry, many years after we parted ways.
My second and longest lasting encounter (2.5 years) was with a virgo girl. A very intriguing affair to be sure. She was so different in the way she thought, analyzed things, and expected things that it very quickly became a very fascinating challenge to understand this new specie that I had discovered. I could see in her eye that she too was fascinated to say the least to see a creature so different from her. Virgos tend to be slow paced and more enigmatic then the aries can tolerate. At first it was a very unique and magical thing- My rule for relationships is that any relationship even one between two totally incompatible signs will have a grace period of three months at minimum where things would be rather magical. I think you face reality of your relationship in the period following the first three months of the initial hook up. In all fairness this girl probably loved me a lot. She used the term "breaking-love" as in such deep love that can break a person’s spirit if the love fails. I never felt loved. Now here’s the point I’m making, despite all her efforts she failed to make me satisfied. She never boosted my ego- which is a must for an aries man. She pointed out my faults which the aries usually takes as constructive criticism and uses to improve himself. Once she pointed out that I finished my college degree but never pursued specialization in my field. Two months later, I found myself resigned from my job and working on my CPA exam and licenser. I finished it in 8 months and threw her criticism in her face. What I became tired of was the lack of compliments. She quietly acknowledged my positives, but gave no positive reinforcement. A healthy dose of criticism does wonders for the challenge-loving aries as long it is balanced with an ego boosting reward too. Basically to sum things up, to this day, I can’t be sure if she even loved me. Thats how different we were. I mean if I make all the logical deductions then yes of course why does someone stay in a relationship for 2.5 years, why does one cry and tell you they love you. They probably do, but in the words of my favorite band, Savage Garden, "if love was red then [I] was colorblind."
This one made me realize one thing about astrology. I often read people commenting on a supposedly good match, like one between Aries and Aquarius. Someone wrote, "I couldn’t run away fast enough, I don’t see how we are compatible at all" There are many aspects to people, astrology is one of them. So it may or may not dictate the compatibility. However, the non-compatibility analysis is far more accurate in my opinion. An example is the attraction that Cancer women and aries men have for each other. I have personally never had such an encounter. Two of my best friends are cancers so I have a fair understanding of how the cancers work. I have seen that cancer females attract aries male and aries male draw out the cancer females. There is a natural opposites attract kind of magnetism at play here but these two are so different in their needs and wants that this rarely works beyond the grace period of 3-months. If you enjoy a good heart ache then go for this kind of union. Its a natural disaster (volcano) waiting to erupt.
Now Aries are supposed to be best matched with sadge girls, aqua girls and leo. I happened to never find any of these girls appealing in that way. There is a Sagittarius girl who I knew from college. She is a ton of fun. I totally get her. So much so that there is no mystery or intrigue left there. So I didn’t go for her. She is a beauty, the girl who every guy in school wants but is too intimidated to even talk to. Aqua girls are too strange- i hate to use the term freaky but more like stand outs from the crowed. I just never met a leo girl who knows maybe she is the perfect match after all. Oh well.. too bad. lol
I am seeing a Libra girl now. My mum is a libra. This girl is nothing like the libra my mum is because me and my mum hardly ever agree on anything. She reads astrology a lot and says that aries and libra are legendary. I just love her optimistic view point. I neglect to tell her that mum is a libra too. lol. She has tremendous patience which I have never seen in a females- its something I always wanted. At this point in life I have to come to terms with the fact that Aries are hard to deal with. The rules of engagement are so complex and make it seem hardly worth a girls time and energy. I love that this girl is right up there with me. I’m talking about taking a road trip from new york to the east coast and she is enthusiastic and upbeat about it. Most women get exhausted from the aries energy and the need to jump from one adventure to the next back-to-back-to-back. She looks up to me and I love to take care of her. I’m happy to announce we’ve been a thing for four months now. Hopefully things will remain lovey-dovy even after the grace period of love magic. She is a small girl and I love love love that. I love being able to lift her with one arm. Historically I have been attracted to the larger breasted females; I never knew how sexy cup size B could be. I learned that aries men are attracted to the girly girl, whether she be curvy or not. As long is she has a very feminine figure, it work! She is the skinniest girl I have ever been with and I just can’t back to anything else.
One last thing, I want to add is that I recently found that my moon is Aquarius. Someone told me this leads to solitude in life. I have to agree, I often find myself very lonely and unable to hold small talk. Someone with Moon in the Aquarius please tell me more about how this occurance effects the individual. Thank you in advance.
Well this is the summary of my arian life. I tried to keep my rant short and to the point but think I might have failed here. lol. I hope someone will read this and be able to take something form it.
-ArieswithAquaMoon
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- A day in the life of a Libra girl - December 14th, 2009
December 31st, 2009 at 7:52 pm
Typical aries male philosophy
dear author, i bet u don’t see anything wrong with what u did to ur aries girl. sigh. what are your thoughts on double standards in relationships, more specifically the aries justification of flirting with the entire female population and than throwing a temper tantrum when your partner does the same? i curious. please reply.
January 1st, 2010 at 1:23 pm
Hi, I really enjoyed this article! The writer is a very typical Aries male, all ego and passion and energy, but with flashes of true insight and sincere relevations: “I love to hear I made her cry, many years after we parted ways.” That made me laugh out loud!
It is such a childish yet very honest thing to say - let’s all admit it, any one of us would be totally flattered to know we still affected someone so much, years after the relationship is over.
I also thought the section on his relationship with the Virgo girl was full of valuable insight and constructive criticism for Virgos. I’m a Virgo sun/Capricorn moon/Virgo rising woman, and it is only because I’m older, more mature, and a mother that I finally recognize (and fulfill) other people’s need for compliments and positive reinforcement. Especially the fire signs who may seem all blustery and full of bravado, but inside they are actually a tad insecure and they just really need a gesture or some words from you that they’re doing great.
I also really liked reading that true love overcomes what a person THINKS is their physical preference - I liked how the writer realized his Libra lady didn’t fit his usual female physical mould, but because of her nature, he now finds her really hot! Good luck with your Libra love, ArieswithAquaMoon! You may be “opposite” on the wheel of the zodiac but maybe you’ve finally found the person who fills your voids, whose voids you fill, and may your whole be greater than the sum of your parts.
Anyway, again I really enjoyed reading this. The whole idea of “a day in the life” series is brilliant! I look forward to reading other signs’ essays.
January 1st, 2010 at 10:15 pm
dear cup of tea,
aries, leo and sags are fire signs. not to avoid blame but we tend to be aggressive in life, jealous, and moody. like i said earlier, ur sun sign is one of many many things that shapes u as a person, so not all aries throw temper tantrums when their females flirt with someone. and i think a little jealousy in men goes a long way for a girl. my male aries tell me that his women complain to him because he is always trying to turn her into a “slut” as in pushing her to be more friendly with other guys. now i acknowledge this is a very conservative girl we are talking about but the fact remains that my aries guy friend has not an ounce of jealousy in him.
i on the other hand would have to admit that i am a kind of possessive guy, but nothing extreme. simply put, it just hurts when another guy makes my woman laugh. not that i will go crazy just the fact that i feel a slight pinch on the inside every time. lol and about the question of aries men flirting themselves. i know u r right, we can’t keep our hands out of the cookie jar where flirting is concerned but most aries men are not cheaters, you’ll have to admit that. aries man will cheat only when he is ready to wrap up a relation or isn’t happy. We are no scorpios. no offense!
January 1st, 2010 at 10:30 pm
AnonyMiss,
thank you. I look forward to reading your essay one of these days = )
January 8th, 2010 at 5:23 pm
I’m not sure if there is such a thing as a “Moon sign cusp,” but if I had been born an hour and a half earlier I would have had Moon in Aquarius. I’m actually a Moon in Pisces but, either way, I still find myself alone most of the time, though this really doesn’t bother me as much as people would think. Yes, I do find it hard to hold a conversation with most people, mainly because I think they’re not “intelluctual” enough, which is crazy because I spend most of my time at university, where of course there are countless professors who specialize in various subjects. In fact, most of my conversations are solely with my professors. (In high school I was a complete teacher’s pet!)
Also, I find myself not speaking unless I have something important or smart to say. Another friend of mine, who really does have Moon in Aquarius, does the same and this habit tends to intimidate others, which is probably part of the reason why we find ourselves lonely.
January 10th, 2010 at 12:12 am
wow. thats exactly how i feel most of the time and yea the solitude really isn’t bad at all.. its like being alone I feel im in the best possible company (i think i might be showing the arian ego here.. lol) i can’t even carry a conversation with strangers even if they strike up something that i might even be interested in. “I’d rather you mind your own business sir” is how I feel. ofcourse thats not what i’ll say what i’ll say is something like “thats wonderful, I have to run” I think you might be on to something here HL about pple not being intellects, thats the appeal thats missing from the conversation.
thanks for talking about the Aquarius moon thing. really appreciate it = )
January 13th, 2010 at 8:30 pm
Hi, I’m Aquarius moon (sun sign Libra/rising sun-Sagittaurus) as well and I must say I am not like that at all. I talk a lot and I am quite social. Still, I do feel incredibly lonely often too. So lonely, it hurts inside. Although I have friends and I meet people every day, I feel like not in my place sometimes. Then I become queit and talk only with the people who first talk to me (which is unusual for me). Maybe I am so social, because I am afraid to be lonely so much. I guess everybody feels like that sometimes, though. I don’t know if I have helped much, but I am totally not agreeing with the fact Moon Aquariuses aren’t talkative. What I have discovered for myself is that they are very moody and quite unstable in emotional plan.
January 18th, 2010 at 1:50 am
my boyfriends an aries and im a gemini.we made it through 2 years and still going strong!! yay for us
February 7th, 2010 at 3:49 pm
i loved how u were able to explain to us how aries people think. Not only because aries is one thing i have tried to understand so many times, but because i met an aries, and we flirt like crazy, full of energy and active.
And i am hoping it will last, even though we’re still in the 3 months period. Lovy-Dovy indeed. Thank you again!
February 10th, 2010 at 6:55 pm
marina and tia.. good luck to you both with ur aries guy. thanks for leaving comments = )
March 9th, 2010 at 7:24 pm
Haha love u saved the best for last LIBRA (like me) how thoughtful of u to post ya life as a Aries!
I enjoyed it and thank you ahaha … wish u the best of luck wid ya libra woman…i dated a aries we last for almost about 2 years! && i regret nothing it was BLASTTTT
March 17th, 2010 at 1:05 pm
You made your agirl cry and you felt good about it?! That’s disgusting no wonder the relationship finished! You’re obviously the insensitive aries type.
March 18th, 2010 at 5:01 pm
yes..ur ryt..being an aries girl..i cn state dat u men jus nd ego tickling..i ws wid an arien but it did nt end totally..its an on and off relationshp
u guys luv fun bags..dat to huge…my man ws a die hard fan of my 38DD…u lyk 2 dominate…dats wt i lyk abt u guys… i luv 2 get sobmissive 2 my man..most of d tyms, but alwaz pretend dat im vain…it makes him go crazy
still unable 2 derive wts wrong btwn us…myt ab as u said a voids!!!!!
March 20th, 2010 at 4:40 am
stari and jhazy,
the libra relationship ended too
lol
im seeing a scorpio now. oh fun!!!
March 26th, 2010 at 10:23 pm
Well, reading this I had to take a step back and reflect. I met my Aries man at 19, he was indeed very shy himself. I have no idea what his moon sign or sun sign is. We’re only 20 days apart myself being the oldest. I can say after 7 1/2 years of being together, and 4yrs of marriage that I couldn’t see myself with any other partner. An Aries/Aries relationship can go two ways…there is no in between. You do or you don’t…lol Aries with Aqua moon, to be fully honest your Aries girl was probably crying because #1. She failed…Failure is the worst thing an Aries or Fire sign can go through and #2. She misses the great sex…lmao I relate to your comment about sex, because for a long time, that’s all we ever did and is still til this day a wonderful quality. I mean seriously a sign that not only thrives for sex but has to be the best at the same time?..who wouldn’t want that?
Now don’t get me wrong, our relationship hasn’t always been the greatest. we have both gone through our stages of boredom and being competitive towards each other, to the point of it almost breaking us apart. If you learn to have a 50/50 agreement then it’s the best way to last forever. From self experience I can say that yes, an Aries man does like to look, but so does an Aries female. Instead of getting jealous, which is also an Aries trait, look together.
The guy I was dating before I met my husband was a Libra as well, and he was just not on the same success level I was. I grew very impatient(imagine that..lol) and it ended very quickly. My opinion an Aries person should not date a Virgo, Capricorn, Cancer, Scorpio, and depending on the Aries a Libra as well….short term maybe, long term…sorry and good luck with that…lol Hope this helps a little.
April 9th, 2010 at 8:44 pm
I am in a relationship with an aries man going on 5 years. It is an affair and we are both married. He tells me he loves me and is crazy about me. We both work together in the same place and have separate tool boxes. Today i guess i walked up on him suddenly and he quickly covered whatever he was looking at in his toolbox. When i asked to see it he told me no. Im confused now. He said he was testing me to get a reaction. Aries man please tell me what you think about this. We both have been so in love and are still…so why this? By the way, i could tell he was nervous because his face muscles were twitching. Do aries men expect someone to blindly trust them when they are obviously trying to hide something? Im a libra girl.
April 9th, 2010 at 8:48 pm
And by the way aries man, he has an aries sun and aquarius moon…like you. I have a libra sun and aquarius moon. We are both the same age…38yr.
April 9th, 2010 at 8:55 pm
Aries man, can you give me some good advice please on how, and how not to treat my aries man? I want to love and respect him. Also please tell me when aries is bullshitting and when not to put up with it. I understand that aries like to spar and i as a libra do too! But then there are times like the day at the toolbox…im thinking he may have been lying. I dont want to be a doormat, but like your libra girl was, i am patient. I just desire straight-forward blunt honesty please. Thanks
April 18th, 2010 at 12:18 am
Libralass,
I know you wanted the writer of this article to answer your question, but maybe I can help. My husband has that same trait. When my hubby and I starting living together I went out to the garage and he saw me coming in and hid something. I proceeded to ask what he was hiding. He said “Nothing” well after he knew I was getting upset he uncovered the hidden item, the funny thing was it was only a Porn Magazine…lol But since he didn’t know how I was to react over that, to save my feelings from getting hurt(in his mind) he hid it. So maybe it’s something he feels will trigger an upset and or feelings hurt reaction from you. Just simply explain to him he can be fully honest with you…this may take a lot of time, and he may test it often, but don’t give up! Hope this helps!!
April 26th, 2010 at 1:28 am
libralass,
First off, sorry for the delay in response. I haven’t had the chance to check this website lately. I’d love to share what I know with you and hope it’ll help. AriesMarriedAries has pretty much summed it up, I’ll take it a little bit further. Its very likely that your aries man has nothing that important worth hiding but in his mind it was important that you not see it. He may have been trying to protect you in his own way. Maybe it was porn or a picture of his old love or something like that. In either case you need not worry about this. Know that he expects you to trust him a lot. If he is anything like the aries I am he probably imagines life and death scenarios in his wild fantasies and I bet in all of them he fancies you to be on his side in the most questionable situations. Its very important to us arians that our women stand by us no matter how the facts may LOOK. Like if he is at a trial or something and he seems very very guilty and the whole world thinks he did it, his silly but will be most concerned about what you think of him rather then what the jury thinks. Do you trust him? Its like the article on this website about aries men says, to him love is you making friends with his friends and more importantly be enemies with his enemy. To him, thats true love.
I hope this helps. Try acting like it doesn’t bother you at all and he will show you with his own style that you really had nothing to worry about. I wouldn’t try and push him that will only piss him off and push him away from you.