A day in the life of a Libra girl |
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I am a Libra girl who is dating an aries man. I love this guy to death. He is everything I want in a man. Im not saying he’s a perfect person, but he is perfect for my taste. He completes me. He is a skinny guy, relatively speaking; though he is still one and half times me. Even though he is a light guy, there is so much masculinity about him. The way he walks, talks and lays around the sofa exerts authoritativeness which i am simply attracted to. He will order me to make tea for him, specific to the way he likes it- with 3-4 drops of lime and without milk etc. and i won’t be able to help myself but get out of bed in the middle of a nap and go fulfill his wish. There is something about this guy which I can’t for the life of me figure out, that makes me head over heals for this guy. He will say the most arrogant things, he will boss me around, we have to live life according to his schedule, he is moody and totally self centered; however, he goes above and beyond to make me happy. He spoils me unselfishly, he takes care of my every reasonable and unreasonable requests and in return I have to put up with all the above mentioned negative qualities. So far, the benefits have far outweighed the costs. Last week, I told him at 1 am I was having a craving for dunkin donuts coffee, without telling me he picks up the keys to the car and walks out with a mere, "brb;" 20 minutes later i find him walking up the stairs with jelly donut (he remembered i like jelly donuts from months ago when i told him) and dunkin coffee. Now how could I not give him whatever he wanted in that moment? Thats the thing about these fire sign males, they will go to extremes for you, they will spoil you, they will make you feel like a disney princess and at the end of the day, you will owe them every ounce of love you have. I am more than happy to owe him everything i own because I know he really does love me. The kind of fiery, intense, hug-you-so-tight love that every girl craves deep inside. With an aries, everything has to be 110% or its not worth doing at all.
He is very emotional and insecure deep inside, though he hates for me to know this. He would rather be portrayed as the strong, and emotionally secure person. Once, before we became a couple, we had this moment where he unknowingly stole my heart and changed my life forever. He came over unannounced one evening, this was a month after his break up with his ex, and told me in a soft breaking voice that he was lost on the road for an hour because his gps’s battery died and he couldn’t find his way. He told me how lonely and scared he felt. I hugged him and comforted him. It was all very perfect in a way. This was one of the few or rather only time he shared his inner self with me. I long to sneak another peek in his heart but that hasn’t happened again since. I know I don’t see the soft, insecure man very often because I do enough of the emotional, insecure thing on both of our behalf and he happily lets me do his share. At least I think so. For his part, he can be excellent at sulking. Sometimes he drives me crazy with the silent treatment. His mind travels at a million miles an hour. We will begin to think about a situation and the decision we are faced with, before I can even lay all the facts down, he will spit out a decision on both of our behalf without even inviting me to be a part of the decision making process. Thats the thing, there really is no decision making process, or if there is one, the aries man goes through it at a million miles per hour and be done with before I even fully understand the situation. This is one thing I can’t stand about him. Though he is right almost all of the time, there are times when I wish I had more of an input in the decision. This is not that big of an issue and mostly I pretend its not an issue at all. He is obsessed with wining, and I love to watch my man win at a social gathering in a match of cards, scrabble or table tennis. He gave me his table tennis tourney trophy. It was adorable like he was saying, "I did it for you, babe." He has shown small hints of jealousy and therefore I am afraid to ever make him jealous. I make sure to explain iffy situations to him with utmost honesty. He loves honesty and isn’t into playing games at all and neither am I. These characteristics of his, make me feel secure that he will never cheat on me. This is a man of integrity and prides himself on his ethics. This doesn’t mean that I have it easy though. My man has a lot of women floating around him and he loves to flirt and sees no harm in this. Occasionally one or two will even cross the line. I try not to be the jealous type but we are who we are. I am not too proud to admit I can’t stand him sharing feelings- or rather other women sharing their feelings with him.
If you like your man to share his feelings, be polite and a gentle, to have a feminine side, if you like a planner, if you need cuddling, don’t go for an aries. These are qualities nowhere to be found in my aries; despite that fact, he is a diamond in the rough and I love him very much.
-Ayesha Shafique
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October 9th, 2010 at 3:49 am
i am a libra girl that fell in love with an Aries without having an official conversation with him yet. i had a class with him, and we would catch eachothers eyes the minute he walked into the room. (i always had to be the first to look away tho lol) since i was going through alot at home, i couldnt really bring myself to open up to him and tell him everything that i so secreatly desired. so, i started to ignore him. After awhile, broke his heart
) he started to do the same. i will always look back and remember that i could have been with the one that i knew would be the guy i would spend the rest of my life with. 
p.s i think he might even hate me now.
January 15th, 2011 at 1:52 am
Just please be careful Ayesha. Point some of that high powered Libra passion towards strengthening yourself, taking care of yourself. You don’t need to be “second” to him just because your his princess, even if you do feel it’s good enough for you now. Eventually it won’t be. I’m not saying this to tear you down or hate on your man… I’ve just been where you are. It’s extremely addictive to be on the receiving end of that attention he’s giving you - and extremely heart-shattering (because we do feel every little thing with every little piece of our too big for our own good hearts) when that attention gets abruptly taken away when the next princess catches his eye. I really meant to only say “be careful” - but really - I HAVE been there. It’s some serious pain.
January 15th, 2011 at 2:08 am
And… the phrase you keep using about him “letting” you do this or that, the control and personal power you seem to hand over to him… it’s frightening. Please - all you young women on this board… Just be careful with your power. It belongs to you.
February 4th, 2011 at 11:18 pm
I just love this essay….it’s made me fall in love just reading it! For those in disagreement…. it’s important to remember that there is going to be good/bad men/women in every sign… that shouldn’t make you discount the sign all together. To me it sounds like you are in love… and that is that. Happy for you girl! And I just love the way you express it. I am a libra through and through. I lived with a male room mate (non-sexual) and we were the best of buds. Truly Bonnie and Clyde. HE had a lot of emotional issues that I would have never been able to put up with in a relationship… be we were each others angels:) Aires men want a ride or die chick…. and Libra women go weak in the knees for men that make them feel that way. Now I have met another Aires man…. and I am sure I am in for a ride, and a good one! The libra/aires match is not for the weak or tiresome of heart. I’ve read a lot of responses to the topic…it is a fiery match. It clearly takes work on BOTH parts (we libra women can hold a very high bar)…. but it won’t feel like work if you’re doing it for the man you love:)
Thanks for sharing!
September 22nd, 2011 at 9:15 am
I’m a Libra who to a crazy story of twisted fate fell in love with an Aries man who equally loved me. It was like a fatal attraction. I wasn’t sure if I was just physically attracted or am I in love. I hardly had any relationships because the guys that I came across where never worth the time. I was patient knowing that God will grant me true love when I am ready and mature to handle i.e. kept on convincing myself this is a dream. Eventually we both realized that we are truly in love. I never thought a person so sweet,funny,sarcastic,polite,classy,full of energy and passion will be mine.I was his girl,his pride,his fantasy,his dream,future,mother of his children,I was everything to him.
We are mature adults of equally compatible lifestyles. Our minds work in an opposite way that magically works. He spoiled me rotten, I loved him to bits, he was very caring and gentle, I was as sweet as anyone can be…it was all very surreal. I couldn’t wait to get out of work to see him. We met for lunch, for dinner, for no reason, for coffee, for the movies, for romance ,meet with friends, and did everything together. I tried occasionally to pretend that I’m busy for a day to give myself a tiny moment to think. He never lets me down, he never upsets me, he never hurts me, or even would let anyone dare to upset me.Life was fantastic. I was glowing and felt prettier than I ever did. I became even girlier than I was. I discovered a new woman in me. I tried thinking rationally that my dream might not come true.
I didn’t want it to pull me down so I was told I ignored it.How can you not give in emotionally if you don’t want to be in love. We managed to surprise ourselves with how great things seemed. Sure we had a few unserious problems, but we also solved it with talking and ending small misunderstandings with laughter and giggles.
Almost a year later we had named our kids, planned our house design, planned a wedding, future plans…etc. Then reality hit. We are both compatible even on a non-emotional level , our cultures, social level and the fact that we both come from Manhattan, but we met and are living on the West Coast for work. We are both Jewish but of different sects.There is nothing at all in our religion that prohibits our marriage. One day we decided to go back east together. He had one conversation with my father which resulted in a big misunderstanding of his intentions being the mystery Aries who didn’t declare what he wanted clearly.
Afterwards, I supported him and said we are meant to be because that is what he told me all along. My parents wanted to see where our relationship was going. He said his parents are against our relationship although they have never met me, and he will never disobey their wishes. Was it an excuse to get out?
It took that one blow, the one problem for him to walk away. Sure he said he loves me after that and I’m not breaking up with you. Let us be patient ,let us wait to see what is in the works for us? It was a dagger straight to my heart, twisted and turned all around. That is what it felt like.I said I will give him time and disappear from his life till he calms down. It has been a while since the breakup; I tried to contact him and talk to his friends for a short period but then stopped. He never called, never said hi to me when he sees me, and never bothers to look. Libra girls are very moody, we have a strong spiritual connection with God and I would like to pray the breakup results in his return as a better man .We could also get depressed easily without damaging our lives. We also never give up on what we want and who we love which could be a negative trait. Libra women will not cheat on their spouses even a good while after their breakup. Aries men are unpredictable and stubborn. They are better off left alone. It has been a few months and I’ve never received any form of contact. He lives 12 houses away from mine. I see his car in the evening parked in the driveway. I’ve sneaked to the yard and all he does is sits alone watching ESPN.There are no girls in his life, and he hardly does anything anymore.
As for me only God knows what is going on his head. I don’t want to interfere. I live my life and socialize. The one thing that wouldn’t go away when I’m in my car or at home are the tears, the fantastic memories, and the pain that resulted unfortunately to an illness. There are days when I think he lied to me and others when I convince myself he will come back. I don’t know why he left. Is it religion? Was it his parents? Was it my parents? Was it me? How can you love someone and not bother find out if they are ok or not? How can you see the woman you love and not even smile at her in public or stare at least?If you are man who just let the love of your life down you need to save it or else you might regret this when it is too too late.Libras girls are so easy to love and so easy to please.
I read many stories of similar experiences. A few of them could’ve been written by me.
No one knows.I know one thing I’m silly enough to still feel that. I love you Jed.