A day in the life of a Libra girl |
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I am a Libra girl who is dating an aries man. I love this guy to death. He is everything I want in a man. Im not saying he’s a perfect person, but he is perfect for my taste. He completes me. He is a skinny guy, relatively speaking; though he is still one and half times me. Even though he is a light guy, there is so much masculinity about him. The way he walks, talks and lays around the sofa exerts authoritativeness which i am simply attracted to. He will order me to make tea for him, specific to the way he likes it- with 3-4 drops of lime and without milk etc. and i won’t be able to help myself but get out of bed in the middle of a nap and go fulfill his wish. There is something about this guy which I can’t for the life of me figure out, that makes me head over heals for this guy. He will say the most arrogant things, he will boss me around, we have to live life according to his schedule, he is moody and totally self centered; however, he goes above and beyond to make me happy. He spoils me unselfishly, he takes care of my every reasonable and unreasonable requests and in return I have to put up with all the above mentioned negative qualities. So far, the benefits have far outweighed the costs. Last week, I told him at 1 am I was having a craving for dunkin donuts coffee, without telling me he picks up the keys to the car and walks out with a mere, "brb;" 20 minutes later i find him walking up the stairs with jelly donut (he remembered i like jelly donuts from months ago when i told him) and dunkin coffee. Now how could I not give him whatever he wanted in that moment? Thats the thing about these fire sign males, they will go to extremes for you, they will spoil you, they will make you feel like a disney princess and at the end of the day, you will owe them every ounce of love you have. I am more than happy to owe him everything i own because I know he really does love me. The kind of fiery, intense, hug-you-so-tight love that every girl craves deep inside. With an aries, everything has to be 110% or its not worth doing at all.
He is very emotional and insecure deep inside, though he hates for me to know this. He would rather be portrayed as the strong, and emotionally secure person. Once, before we became a couple, we had this moment where he unknowingly stole my heart and changed my life forever. He came over unannounced one evening, this was a month after his break up with his ex, and told me in a soft breaking voice that he was lost on the road for an hour because his gps’s battery died and he couldn’t find his way. He told me how lonely and scared he felt. I hugged him and comforted him. It was all very perfect in a way. This was one of the few or rather only time he shared his inner self with me. I long to sneak another peek in his heart but that hasn’t happened again since. I know I don’t see the soft, insecure man very often because I do enough of the emotional, insecure thing on both of our behalf and he happily lets me do his share. At least I think so. For his part, he can be excellent at sulking. Sometimes he drives me crazy with the silent treatment. His mind travels at a million miles an hour. We will begin to think about a situation and the decision we are faced with, before I can even lay all the facts down, he will spit out a decision on both of our behalf without even inviting me to be a part of the decision making process. Thats the thing, there really is no decision making process, or if there is one, the aries man goes through it at a million miles per hour and be done with before I even fully understand the situation. This is one thing I can’t stand about him. Though he is right almost all of the time, there are times when I wish I had more of an input in the decision. This is not that big of an issue and mostly I pretend its not an issue at all. He is obsessed with wining, and I love to watch my man win at a social gathering in a match of cards, scrabble or table tennis. He gave me his table tennis tourney trophy. It was adorable like he was saying, "I did it for you, babe." He has shown small hints of jealousy and therefore I am afraid to ever make him jealous. I make sure to explain iffy situations to him with utmost honesty. He loves honesty and isn’t into playing games at all and neither am I. These characteristics of his, make me feel secure that he will never cheat on me. This is a man of integrity and prides himself on his ethics. This doesn’t mean that I have it easy though. My man has a lot of women floating around him and he loves to flirt and sees no harm in this. Occasionally one or two will even cross the line. I try not to be the jealous type but we are who we are. I am not too proud to admit I can’t stand him sharing feelings- or rather other women sharing their feelings with him.
If you like your man to share his feelings, be polite and a gentle, to have a feminine side, if you like a planner, if you need cuddling, don’t go for an aries. These are qualities nowhere to be found in my aries; despite that fact, he is a diamond in the rough and I love him very much.
-Ayesha Shafique
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December 16th, 2009 at 6:07 am
Hello Ayesha
Your above letter was great. First cause it was a letter of love and appreciation. I hope all of us get to experience 50% of what you have.
I too am a Libra, male. My first crush was a darling bold Aries girl. So I to kinda understand what you are saying about the Libra/Aries match. She was everything I wanted in a women at the time. Bold,Sexy,Smart,Imaginative. Nothing came of this relationship for me, but I am glad it did for you. Remember that you two are opposites in many ways. It looks like you know the bad, so you’ll really be able to enjoy the good. I am so happy for you. In allot of ways I kick myself for never trying to have a relationship with the Aries I adored so much.
Sincerely
A fellow Libra that is happy for you,— GOOD LUCK!!
December 17th, 2009 at 1:44 am
hi, libra male here.
very nice article. i will write one too about my aries love.
December 23rd, 2009 at 7:50 pm
hi. i am a libra girl, i had a sort of fling with an aries guy for a short period. i couldn’t run away fast enough. he came on too strong and emotional
too bad., i really liked him from a far. on the other hand, my best friend is a female aries. she is so smart and accomplished. she is an example for women everywhere.
December 23rd, 2009 at 8:26 pm
Hello,
wow. there is an essay posted about ME! I think this should be posted under “Aries’ as well.., i am sure the arians will find this very, umm ego boosting.. which is always a good thing for the aries!
ps. ily woman!
December 25th, 2009 at 7:06 pm
i just emailed something to becky. hopefully it will be posted here. nice work Ayesha!
December 27th, 2009 at 8:31 am
I’m a Libra lady and I fell head over heels in love with a Aries male as well who also went above and beyond what could ever ask or imagine…he completely spoiled my socks off, unfortunetly we didn’t work out but I still often miss him so…hold tight to your aries man and I wish you too the best of luck…Happy Loving
January 2nd, 2010 at 11:17 pm
thank you guys ‘)
January 3rd, 2010 at 4:08 am
“He will order me to make tea for him, specific to the way he likes it- with 3-4 drops of lime and without milk etc.”
i love you!!!
January 4th, 2010 at 11:56 am
Hey Ayesha,
That was a truthful insight .. but none the less as a Arien Male, i know we are difficult to be
with.. but those who .. know that its worth it !!
January 7th, 2010 at 7:41 am
I am sorry to tell you this, but one day you are going to wake up and you are not even going to know your own identity. When you finally realize this, it will take every bit of strength that your mother and grandmother instilled in you for you to ever find yourself again and be able to pull away from the aries. I’m a Libra, highly attracted to aries and vice versa. 3 out of 4 long term relationships (meaning more than 2 years) were with aries men. It is a WASTE of your life! Do NOT keep going there! I am truely sorry for you. I know from experience! They are the best providers of the zodiac…very sexy and manly in their own way…such a turn on for libra woman, but they will never understand your depths and you will not be true to yourself for trying to make him happy. What you do for him will never be enough. He needs someone that does not need emotional security…NOT YOU!!!!
January 8th, 2010 at 5:53 am
Hi Shanon,
Why would you say something like that? You dont know me or my guy. My aries is a very giving person. He has a pure heart, he does makes me feel secure. I’m sorry your relationship with your aries man didn’t work out, I just love my guy too much. He never asks me for anything. I dont see how I can be unfair to myself in trying to make him happy when thats all I WANT to do. In fact, I wish he asked me to do more to make him happy. He rarely lets me do anything for him as he is very independent and maybe a bit detached. I know life is all about him and his dreams/ goals, I know his real loyalty is to himself first and I am second priority but thats a high enough level for me. Atleast he is an open book. It doesn’t take a lot to figure out his true intentions. I would rather be with someone like that then someone with whom I can’t even be sure if I’m loved. At least he has no hidden agendas. My aries man is just like my aries father. They both take care of me like they are my personal body guards, in shining armor too. Between the two of them, my every need is fulfilled so I can’t help but say that aries men are God’s gift to women.
I am really sorry to hear your 3 relationships with aries didn’t work out. If its not too personal, I would want to hear what happened as in where did things go wrong? I mean Im sure you know how the libra-aries attraction is as natural as male-female, opposite poles of a magnet kind of thing, where exactly did things start to go wrong?
February 19th, 2010 at 8:02 pm
I do wish you the best of luck with your relationship, but that scenario sounds like a nightmare to me. To my experience, Aries (male or female) are difficult to be around for long periods and tend to be quite self centered. I also am a Libra female but I am on the cusp of Virgo so this may have an effect on my viewpoint. I also prefer a partner, i.e. equal, as opposed to being spoiled or spoiling someone. Confidence is admirable in a person, sometimes even to the point of occassional cockiness but being possessive, demanding, or arrogant is not acceptable. There is nothing wrong with him having goals and priorities but it would be wise to find someone who puts you at the top of these and you owe it to yourself to believe this and settle for nothing but. Luckily, I believe there is someone for everyone and I am happy for you but I would have to say I am more happy for him. He sounds like a handful that more than a few would send packing before he warmed his seat. The opinions of others are exactly that, opinions of others. I say these things only as it seems you may be looking for general feedback from the public. No one knows your relationship as intimately as you and yours and ultimately that is all that matters. Best of luck to you!
March 24th, 2010 at 12:49 pm
hi, i’m a libra girl too, usually get the best along with gemini (guy & girl), never knew that we’re so compatible with an aries even tho my little bro himself is one (oh and a female aries cousin too), until recently i happen to get to know an aries man, he’s like the first aries man i’ve ever met, apart from the ones from family, thats why i’m like searching everywhere to see if we match in someway, so happy to find this article of urs
April 2nd, 2010 at 10:45 pm
This the best article I have ever read about compatibility. Being an Aries, I would say, yes, it’s really ego boosting that every Aries’s dreamed of. I don’t know how many times I have read this article. Each time I read I feel like it’s written by a Libra angel who really understands Aries inner side. It’s true few signs can keep pace with Arians.
I have been romantically linked with Cancer, Virgo, Sagittarius (full of humor that caused big trouble in relationship, especially with Arians) and Capricorn. The worst match was with Capricorn girl with whom I’ve recently broken up (though she tries to come back again and again). She appeared to be a cheater who cheated on me during my absence of few months. She always made me feel unsecured, bored and insulted me very badly.
What about Libra girl with whom I met a few years ago? She is (was) the one in thousand. She cared me like my mother. She spreads her hands and takes me in her heart. She never let me feel upset and treats me like I am a man, the real MAN. She has much patience which I have not seen to any other girl. She understands me very deeply and supports me whenever I am in any critical situation. She looks at me and I love to take care of her. She rushed to me whenever I fall in any problem and forgot everything until my problems solved. Each Aries has a soft side and very few people understand this. Libra girl is among of them. I feel sorry for other Libra girls who could not make it out.
There was a social boundary between us. So I had to keep this relation in limit. Did this make us apart? No, never. I would love her till death. No girls would love and care me like her. She is my princess and always will be. These days I am feeling quite lonely. Her each speech, lovable attitude takes me to back in those days. I always pray for her to god and wants to be with her next life!
This is the love of a Aries man for a Libra girl. A love that made a heaven between us !
April 6th, 2010 at 5:09 am
I’m an Aries male my Libra angel just left me, (broke up with me). I miss her dearly.
April 6th, 2010 at 10:19 pm
Bleeze, I feel really sorry for you. Was there any specific reason that your Libra angel broke up with you?
April 23rd, 2010 at 5:54 am
I am a Libran female who did date an Aries male in the past, he was just too easy going on life , not as ambitious or brainy as like my men. As soon as we were an item he would ask to borrow money(this is a big no-no for me). I am not in any way saying this is the norm for all Aries men, I am just stating my own experience. In any case wish you well on your relationship. I must say the whole Dunkin donuts and the 3-4 drops of lime in the tea had me laughing. If it works for you, then run with it and enjoy every morsel.
April 29th, 2010 at 2:27 am
i love this article! i feel the same about him too! and thanks, Nahid (Aries male),you made this article more beautiful!
i practically worship my aries guy,and he is crazy on me(he didnt say that ofcourse)and ill lov ehim for life!
May 27th, 2010 at 12:18 am
Well Well, I am a libra women and I met an Aries man who fell for me…I did not fall for him. I had read a lot of bad stuff on aries. The main one being they are womanizers, violent and game players. The good stuff: they spoil you rotten (if they are rich and libran women love rich men - rich everything!) So it turns out this aries guy never had any money on him, I had to pay for things and he would ask me for money and I never gave it to him, dating for 2 weeks and he wants money of me! Turns out, the guy was married with a child! Even when he told me this information and was crying…I laughed, because I knew it, investigation over! I told him to go home to his wife and he kept trying to come back and call me, Harassment! Never happened and then he got really angry and tried to insult me but I laughed my libra ass off again.
Never would I date an aries man again. All the ones I have ever met or known about have cheated on wife/girlfriend. The women stay with the rich aries man for security, he will take her and her friends on shopping sprees, give her an allowance and buy her anything she wants while he f***s other women.
My libra friend is with a aries man and she gets upset a lot of the time, they have crazy fights but still stay together. She has no trust in him because he’s a flirt and he always gets too close to other women. Even to me! My libra friend….she’s like his lap dog, poor girl. In her own time she will leave him, I am certain
May 31st, 2010 at 10:07 am
I firstly want to give you a big fat hug, you are my sister! This man could well be the love of your life. I want to share a little of my story with you, so you can avoid any of the pitfalls that befell me.
I am a single mother, i was with my Aries ex for over 9 years. You have described the beginning of our relationship to a tee. I too am a lovely libra.
Somehow over time, our relationship became, me adoring and doing every thing for him, and him soaking it up, but so focused on himself that it became normal for him to take and me to give, but never the reverse. He was so super competitive that he had to win at everything, and preen about how he was better then me, after a few years of this, still so in love with him, i thought he was invincable, and that i was…..well……lacking.
Something simple like me putting a picture on the wall, would turn into him pointing out that i had put it in the wrong place, this other place he would put it was far better, and a big long lecture on why his idea was so better than mine would start. It got so that without noticing i would only make decisions when he wasn’t around, or else i would have to fight just to be allowed to make my own decisions.
One week after our daughter was born, my ex started a new job, i was at home, exhausted (he refused to do any cooking/housework/child duties, because he figured i was at home all day so why should he), he stared to ring me several time a day to complain how his new job sucked, it was hard for him, why didn’t i find work from home to support us etc. I was so exhausted from the new baby, breast feeding etc, that i would cry after each phone call. I explained this to him, and from that point he was very cruel, going out of his way to make thing harder for me, when i asked why, he said, that as i had given up, so had he. He was punishing me for not wanting to take his upsetting calls throughout the day. Even though i was at a time in our lives where i needed the support, he was unable to give even a token effort. This was the first of many times when i needed him, through sickness etc, that when times were tough he would purposely make them harder, in anger over all the energy not being focused on him.
Obviously this has been a worst case scenario, but my point is, that it happened so gradually that i didn’t notice, and ended up believing all his hype that he was the best and i was nothing.
My advice with love to you is to enjoy being passionately in love with your Aries, but make sure that you keep true to yourself, feed his ego, but never ever at the expense of yours. Yes he is a passionate, exciting and amazing Aries. But you are a loving, caring, beautiful Libra.
October 9th, 2010 at 3:49 am
i am a libra girl that fell in love with an Aries without having an official conversation with him yet. i had a class with him, and we would catch eachothers eyes the minute he walked into the room. (i always had to be the first to look away tho lol) since i was going through alot at home, i couldnt really bring myself to open up to him and tell him everything that i so secreatly desired. so, i started to ignore him. After awhile, broke his heart
) he started to do the same. i will always look back and remember that i could have been with the one that i knew would be the guy i would spend the rest of my life with. 
p.s i think he might even hate me now.
January 15th, 2011 at 1:52 am
Just please be careful Ayesha. Point some of that high powered Libra passion towards strengthening yourself, taking care of yourself. You don’t need to be “second” to him just because your his princess, even if you do feel it’s good enough for you now. Eventually it won’t be. I’m not saying this to tear you down or hate on your man… I’ve just been where you are. It’s extremely addictive to be on the receiving end of that attention he’s giving you - and extremely heart-shattering (because we do feel every little thing with every little piece of our too big for our own good hearts) when that attention gets abruptly taken away when the next princess catches his eye. I really meant to only say “be careful” - but really - I HAVE been there. It’s some serious pain.
January 15th, 2011 at 2:08 am
And… the phrase you keep using about him “letting” you do this or that, the control and personal power you seem to hand over to him… it’s frightening. Please - all you young women on this board… Just be careful with your power. It belongs to you.
February 4th, 2011 at 11:18 pm
I just love this essay….it’s made me fall in love just reading it! For those in disagreement…. it’s important to remember that there is going to be good/bad men/women in every sign… that shouldn’t make you discount the sign all together. To me it sounds like you are in love… and that is that. Happy for you girl! And I just love the way you express it. I am a libra through and through. I lived with a male room mate (non-sexual) and we were the best of buds. Truly Bonnie and Clyde. HE had a lot of emotional issues that I would have never been able to put up with in a relationship… be we were each others angels:) Aires men want a ride or die chick…. and Libra women go weak in the knees for men that make them feel that way. Now I have met another Aires man…. and I am sure I am in for a ride, and a good one! The libra/aires match is not for the weak or tiresome of heart. I’ve read a lot of responses to the topic…it is a fiery match. It clearly takes work on BOTH parts (we libra women can hold a very high bar)…. but it won’t feel like work if you’re doing it for the man you love:)
Thanks for sharing!
September 22nd, 2011 at 9:15 am
I’m a Libra who to a crazy story of twisted fate fell in love with an Aries man who equally loved me. It was like a fatal attraction. I wasn’t sure if I was just physically attracted or am I in love. I hardly had any relationships because the guys that I came across where never worth the time. I was patient knowing that God will grant me true love when I am ready and mature to handle i.e. kept on convincing myself this is a dream. Eventually we both realized that we are truly in love. I never thought a person so sweet,funny,sarcastic,polite,classy,full of energy and passion will be mine.I was his girl,his pride,his fantasy,his dream,future,mother of his children,I was everything to him.
We are mature adults of equally compatible lifestyles. Our minds work in an opposite way that magically works. He spoiled me rotten, I loved him to bits, he was very caring and gentle, I was as sweet as anyone can be…it was all very surreal. I couldn’t wait to get out of work to see him. We met for lunch, for dinner, for no reason, for coffee, for the movies, for romance ,meet with friends, and did everything together. I tried occasionally to pretend that I’m busy for a day to give myself a tiny moment to think. He never lets me down, he never upsets me, he never hurts me, or even would let anyone dare to upset me.Life was fantastic. I was glowing and felt prettier than I ever did. I became even girlier than I was. I discovered a new woman in me. I tried thinking rationally that my dream might not come true.
I didn’t want it to pull me down so I was told I ignored it.How can you not give in emotionally if you don’t want to be in love. We managed to surprise ourselves with how great things seemed. Sure we had a few unserious problems, but we also solved it with talking and ending small misunderstandings with laughter and giggles.
Almost a year later we had named our kids, planned our house design, planned a wedding, future plans…etc. Then reality hit. We are both compatible even on a non-emotional level , our cultures, social level and the fact that we both come from Manhattan, but we met and are living on the West Coast for work. We are both Jewish but of different sects.There is nothing at all in our religion that prohibits our marriage. One day we decided to go back east together. He had one conversation with my father which resulted in a big misunderstanding of his intentions being the mystery Aries who didn’t declare what he wanted clearly.
Afterwards, I supported him and said we are meant to be because that is what he told me all along. My parents wanted to see where our relationship was going. He said his parents are against our relationship although they have never met me, and he will never disobey their wishes. Was it an excuse to get out?
It took that one blow, the one problem for him to walk away. Sure he said he loves me after that and I’m not breaking up with you. Let us be patient ,let us wait to see what is in the works for us? It was a dagger straight to my heart, twisted and turned all around. That is what it felt like.I said I will give him time and disappear from his life till he calms down. It has been a while since the breakup; I tried to contact him and talk to his friends for a short period but then stopped. He never called, never said hi to me when he sees me, and never bothers to look. Libra girls are very moody, we have a strong spiritual connection with God and I would like to pray the breakup results in his return as a better man .We could also get depressed easily without damaging our lives. We also never give up on what we want and who we love which could be a negative trait. Libra women will not cheat on their spouses even a good while after their breakup. Aries men are unpredictable and stubborn. They are better off left alone. It has been a few months and I’ve never received any form of contact. He lives 12 houses away from mine. I see his car in the evening parked in the driveway. I’ve sneaked to the yard and all he does is sits alone watching ESPN.There are no girls in his life, and he hardly does anything anymore.
As for me only God knows what is going on his head. I don’t want to interfere. I live my life and socialize. The one thing that wouldn’t go away when I’m in my car or at home are the tears, the fantastic memories, and the pain that resulted unfortunately to an illness. There are days when I think he lied to me and others when I convince myself he will come back. I don’t know why he left. Is it religion? Was it his parents? Was it my parents? Was it me? How can you love someone and not bother find out if they are ok or not? How can you see the woman you love and not even smile at her in public or stare at least?If you are man who just let the love of your life down you need to save it or else you might regret this when it is too too late.Libras girls are so easy to love and so easy to please.
I read many stories of similar experiences. A few of them could’ve been written by me.
No one knows.I know one thing I’m silly enough to still feel that. I love you Jed.