A day in the life of a Libra girl |
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I am a Libra girl who is dating an aries man. I love this guy to death. He is everything I want in a man. Im not saying he’s a perfect person, but he is perfect for my taste. He completes me. He is a skinny guy, relatively speaking; though he is still one and half times me. Even though he is a light guy, there is so much masculinity about him. The way he walks, talks and lays around the sofa exerts authoritativeness which i am simply attracted to. He will order me to make tea for him, specific to the way he likes it- with 3-4 drops of lime and without milk etc. and i won’t be able to help myself but get out of bed in the middle of a nap and go fulfill his wish. There is something about this guy which I can’t for the life of me figure out, that makes me head over heals for this guy. He will say the most arrogant things, he will boss me around, we have to live life according to his schedule, he is moody and totally self centered; however, he goes above and beyond to make me happy. He spoils me unselfishly, he takes care of my every reasonable and unreasonable requests and in return I have to put up with all the above mentioned negative qualities. So far, the benefits have far outweighed the costs. Last week, I told him at 1 am I was having a craving for dunkin donuts coffee, without telling me he picks up the keys to the car and walks out with a mere, "brb;" 20 minutes later i find him walking up the stairs with jelly donut (he remembered i like jelly donuts from months ago when i told him) and dunkin coffee. Now how could I not give him whatever he wanted in that moment? Thats the thing about these fire sign males, they will go to extremes for you, they will spoil you, they will make you feel like a disney princess and at the end of the day, you will owe them every ounce of love you have. I am more than happy to owe him everything i own because I know he really does love me. The kind of fiery, intense, hug-you-so-tight love that every girl craves deep inside. With an aries, everything has to be 110% or its not worth doing at all.
He is very emotional and insecure deep inside, though he hates for me to know this. He would rather be portrayed as the strong, and emotionally secure person. Once, before we became a couple, we had this moment where he unknowingly stole my heart and changed my life forever. He came over unannounced one evening, this was a month after his break up with his ex, and told me in a soft breaking voice that he was lost on the road for an hour because his gps’s battery died and he couldn’t find his way. He told me how lonely and scared he felt. I hugged him and comforted him. It was all very perfect in a way. This was one of the few or rather only time he shared his inner self with me. I long to sneak another peek in his heart but that hasn’t happened again since. I know I don’t see the soft, insecure man very often because I do enough of the emotional, insecure thing on both of our behalf and he happily lets me do his share. At least I think so. For his part, he can be excellent at sulking. Sometimes he drives me crazy with the silent treatment. His mind travels at a million miles an hour. We will begin to think about a situation and the decision we are faced with, before I can even lay all the facts down, he will spit out a decision on both of our behalf without even inviting me to be a part of the decision making process. Thats the thing, there really is no decision making process, or if there is one, the aries man goes through it at a million miles per hour and be done with before I even fully understand the situation. This is one thing I can’t stand about him. Though he is right almost all of the time, there are times when I wish I had more of an input in the decision. This is not that big of an issue and mostly I pretend its not an issue at all. He is obsessed with wining, and I love to watch my man win at a social gathering in a match of cards, scrabble or table tennis. He gave me his table tennis tourney trophy. It was adorable like he was saying, "I did it for you, babe." He has shown small hints of jealousy and therefore I am afraid to ever make him jealous. I make sure to explain iffy situations to him with utmost honesty. He loves honesty and isn’t into playing games at all and neither am I. These characteristics of his, make me feel secure that he will never cheat on me. This is a man of integrity and prides himself on his ethics. This doesn’t mean that I have it easy though. My man has a lot of women floating around him and he loves to flirt and sees no harm in this. Occasionally one or two will even cross the line. I try not to be the jealous type but we are who we are. I am not too proud to admit I can’t stand him sharing feelings- or rather other women sharing their feelings with him.
If you like your man to share his feelings, be polite and a gentle, to have a feminine side, if you like a planner, if you need cuddling, don’t go for an aries. These are qualities nowhere to be found in my aries; despite that fact, he is a diamond in the rough and I love him very much.
-Ayesha Shafique
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December 16th, 2009 at 6:07 am
Hello Ayesha
Your above letter was great. First cause it was a letter of love and appreciation. I hope all of us get to experience 50% of what you have.
I too am a Libra, male. My first crush was a darling bold Aries girl. So I to kinda understand what you are saying about the Libra/Aries match. She was everything I wanted in a women at the time. Bold,Sexy,Smart,Imaginative. Nothing came of this relationship for me, but I am glad it did for you. Remember that you two are opposites in many ways. It looks like you know the bad, so you’ll really be able to enjoy the good. I am so happy for you. In allot of ways I kick myself for never trying to have a relationship with the Aries I adored so much.
Sincerely
A fellow Libra that is happy for you,— GOOD LUCK!!
December 17th, 2009 at 1:44 am
hi, libra male here.
very nice article. i will write one too about my aries love.
December 23rd, 2009 at 7:50 pm
hi. i am a libra girl, i had a sort of fling with an aries guy for a short period. i couldn’t run away fast enough. he came on too strong and emotional
too bad., i really liked him from a far. on the other hand, my best friend is a female aries. she is so smart and accomplished. she is an example for women everywhere.
December 23rd, 2009 at 8:26 pm
Hello,
wow. there is an essay posted about ME! I think this should be posted under “Aries’ as well.., i am sure the arians will find this very, umm ego boosting.. which is always a good thing for the aries!
ps. ily woman!
December 25th, 2009 at 7:06 pm
i just emailed something to becky. hopefully it will be posted here. nice work Ayesha!
December 27th, 2009 at 8:31 am
I’m a Libra lady and I fell head over heels in love with a Aries male as well who also went above and beyond what could ever ask or imagine…he completely spoiled my socks off, unfortunetly we didn’t work out but I still often miss him so…hold tight to your aries man and I wish you too the best of luck…Happy Loving
January 2nd, 2010 at 11:17 pm
thank you guys ‘)
January 3rd, 2010 at 4:08 am
“He will order me to make tea for him, specific to the way he likes it- with 3-4 drops of lime and without milk etc.”
i love you!!!
January 4th, 2010 at 11:56 am
Hey Ayesha,
That was a truthful insight .. but none the less as a Arien Male, i know we are difficult to be
with.. but those who .. know that its worth it !!
January 7th, 2010 at 7:41 am
I am sorry to tell you this, but one day you are going to wake up and you are not even going to know your own identity. When you finally realize this, it will take every bit of strength that your mother and grandmother instilled in you for you to ever find yourself again and be able to pull away from the aries. I’m a Libra, highly attracted to aries and vice versa. 3 out of 4 long term relationships (meaning more than 2 years) were with aries men. It is a WASTE of your life! Do NOT keep going there! I am truely sorry for you. I know from experience! They are the best providers of the zodiac…very sexy and manly in their own way…such a turn on for libra woman, but they will never understand your depths and you will not be true to yourself for trying to make him happy. What you do for him will never be enough. He needs someone that does not need emotional security…NOT YOU!!!!
January 8th, 2010 at 5:53 am
Hi Shanon,
Why would you say something like that? You dont know me or my guy. My aries is a very giving person. He has a pure heart, he does makes me feel secure. I’m sorry your relationship with your aries man didn’t work out, I just love my guy too much. He never asks me for anything. I dont see how I can be unfair to myself in trying to make him happy when thats all I WANT to do. In fact, I wish he asked me to do more to make him happy. He rarely lets me do anything for him as he is very independent and maybe a bit detached. I know life is all about him and his dreams/ goals, I know his real loyalty is to himself first and I am second priority but thats a high enough level for me. Atleast he is an open book. It doesn’t take a lot to figure out his true intentions. I would rather be with someone like that then someone with whom I can’t even be sure if I’m loved. At least he has no hidden agendas. My aries man is just like my aries father. They both take care of me like they are my personal body guards, in shining armor too. Between the two of them, my every need is fulfilled so I can’t help but say that aries men are God’s gift to women.
I am really sorry to hear your 3 relationships with aries didn’t work out. If its not too personal, I would want to hear what happened as in where did things go wrong? I mean Im sure you know how the libra-aries attraction is as natural as male-female, opposite poles of a magnet kind of thing, where exactly did things start to go wrong?
February 19th, 2010 at 8:02 pm
I do wish you the best of luck with your relationship, but that scenario sounds like a nightmare to me. To my experience, Aries (male or female) are difficult to be around for long periods and tend to be quite self centered. I also am a Libra female but I am on the cusp of Virgo so this may have an effect on my viewpoint. I also prefer a partner, i.e. equal, as opposed to being spoiled or spoiling someone. Confidence is admirable in a person, sometimes even to the point of occassional cockiness but being possessive, demanding, or arrogant is not acceptable. There is nothing wrong with him having goals and priorities but it would be wise to find someone who puts you at the top of these and you owe it to yourself to believe this and settle for nothing but. Luckily, I believe there is someone for everyone and I am happy for you but I would have to say I am more happy for him. He sounds like a handful that more than a few would send packing before he warmed his seat. The opinions of others are exactly that, opinions of others. I say these things only as it seems you may be looking for general feedback from the public. No one knows your relationship as intimately as you and yours and ultimately that is all that matters. Best of luck to you!