For starters I have something that makes other people follow me even if they don’t know me. When I was a child and went to school then I was soon the first class leader (don’t know the right term in English). I was not the most popular boy in my class but somehow other students trusted me and when I went to the university I was soon becoming the one who organized events and other people asked me for advice. After that I joined the army since it’s mandatory for men here and after a couple of weeks I was told that I was definitely going to become a sergeant and I did and after that I was one of the few selected to become a platoon leader. To be honest I have always been surprised “Why me? I am not doing anything special to stand out” but it seems that when there are tough decision to be made then I subconciously take the leading role and I manage to carry it while not even thinking about it. One thing I hate is following orders from someone I don’t respect or who I know is not competent (but I can force myself to follow if I sense that the other person is smart and capable)

On the other hand what does not suit me but it comes out from your description, is that I really don’t like being the center of attention. People often ask me to speak or make introductions and they say that I am really good at it, but somehow I don’t feel like doing those things but again - when the need rises then I’ll take charge because… well I don’t know why, but I do Anyways in my heart I am what you could call a “lone wolf” and not a people’s person although yet again I must say that I make friends easily and somehow I manage to get along with very different people and even bad people somehow become less hostile around me (While being in pubs and clubs I’ve met with convicted criminals, hippies, ultra-nationalists, total air-heads etc and I get along fine with all of them and never had any problems)

And last but not least I am very determined - when I see something I want I usually go for it (although I am usually quite shy with women) And I am usually very calm and I have a loooong temper but when I do get angry, then it’s better to get the f* out of my way.