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The Aquarius Man
I have been reading a lot lately about people’s apparent dislike for Aquarius men, and so I thought I would add my bit also. For anyone who has read any of my posts, you will know that I am openly a fan of these strange airy creatures. And I am. But that doesn’t mean to say I don’t understand the utter torment they can put people through. I have lived with two, one of whom I am hoping to live with for a lot longer than the last! So I have some insight into how the Aquarius man works.
Now, obviously, the other signs in their charts do come into it (rather a lot), but as a lot of people aren’t aware or not sure about which sign is what, I shall concentrate here mainly on the sun sign. And oh my, what a sun sign!! The problem I think the Aquarius man has is that the world has very set views on how people should be, and of-course, the Aquarians generally don’t fit into any category and they certainly don’t do things just to please the masses. Perhaps once, the Aquarius man fitted well into society, when it was OK for men to be in control, aloof, distant and lacking in emotion. However, it is not so nowadays. The modern man is expected to be a lot of things that the Aquarius man just can’t be. Not doesn’t want to be, just plain can’t.
If you learn to understand the Aquarius then it can make life much easier. Shouting at him and nagging will only make him go even further into himself which will make you angrier, thus a vicious circle begins. These men walk out, it’s really annoying, but that’s what they do. You say anything to them they don’t like and off they go. I have learnt the best thing is to just leave them to calm down, they will eventually, and they will come home, but they will not have their tail between their legs, Aquarius men don’t do that either. Infact, just to be safe, don’t even mention the previous argument, just accept he is over it and get on with being happy, it’s a tough call, but trust me, it’s the only one that works.
On the flip side, the Aquarius man is an amazing listener and is so very caring and kind and loving. If you ever have a problem he is the man to go too. But as I have learnt, that doesn’t include if it’s about him and it’s bad. That’s when you have to talk to a friend or really find the perfect timing, which will prove difficult as if you need to talk to him about him then there is never a good time. So you just have to tread carefully. They don’t really think they have many faults, and the one’s they do have only come about when other people bring the bad out in him (I’ve heard that one a lot). They are somewhat childish towards emotion (in my opinion). They just can’t seem to handle bad feeling at all, they want a world where there isn’t any, don’t we all!!
These men can also be highly selfish, they don’t mean to be, and that is the most annoying thing. They honestly don’t mean to wind you up. Or hurt your feelings. Or miss your birthday. They just do. And the best the rest of us can do I’m afraid is deal with it. Now, if your an Aquarius man reading this please don’t get too angry with me, I am deeply in love with one such man and truly love his funny way’s (that he won’t admit to having) But I just wanted to address some issues as they seem to keep popping up.
Another frustrating trait of these men is their lack of emotion. Isn’t it annoying? YES! Trouble is they don’t actually lack emotion, they have barrel loads of it, it just doesn’t emanate out of them that’s all. Of course, when they do let it out you faint with shock and miss the whole thing anyway! Seriously though these people do feel, perhaps they feel too much, I don’t know, what I do know is they are masters at blocking. They seem to block anything from their minds that they do not want there. Lucky them. I can’t do it, I’ve tried
I have forgotten to mention that they are brilliant, at everything! And they aren’t overly arrogant about it either, really. The truth is though the Aquarius man is worth listening too, they have a bit of the genius in them and they are terribly clever, which is also really annoying. Of course, the problem with that is that they adopt a ‘right about everything’ attitude to things which is totally unnecessary if you ask me! They can make you feel slightly beneath them with their confidence in their rightness. However, they are normally rubbish at general knowledge, mine is anyway, so he sneaks out of the room.
Which is another thing, if they know or think they won’t be or aren’t very good at something to save embarrassment they simply won’t even try. For instance, I love to play tennis, but my beloved Aquarius has never played, so of course, we have never played each other, ever. I join in all his activities, but he won’t share in mine easily. And if I ever do beat him at something it was ‘just luck’ rather than talent! So, there we have it, the Aquarian man. A one off, unique nutty oddball. But I love them. It would be interesting to see what you all think about this, so please leave some comments!
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February 6th, 2008 at 11:28 am
I’m Aquarian and I agree with all the positive things you say about Aquarians but not the other bits.
February 6th, 2008 at 1:06 pm
Hi Becky,
Well, I’m an Aquarian man and I’ve just read the whole of this, which is more than I think I’ve done for any other blog entry anywhere. I have been following your series on Aquarians, but believe you really hit the mark this time and so simply had to say something in reply.
You’re clearly very much in love and I wish you luck, my most significant ex is a Gemini and we are no more. Although I wouldn’t take her back, years later believe it or not, I still think about her every day.
Of course I don’t agree with everything you say, you wouldn’t expect that, but if I’m objective I do identify with plenty and much of it made me laugh out loud. It’s great you’re talking from your own experience and have your own opinions, so you aren’t just repeating the same old stuff, like most people seem to do.
Thanks then and keep it up. We’re grateful!
Sincerely,
Paul
February 7th, 2008 at 2:23 am
Hi Paul,
Thank you ever so much for your comment! And I’m glad you enjoyed reading it, even if you don’t agree with it all, which noone ever could, if it makes someone smile or laugh, that’s enough for me, that’s what’s important to me, making people smile! (even though I’m a Gemini & it dosen’t always work!)
Your site is wonderful and I’m guessing I could learn a lot from you, so no doubt I’ll become a regular visitor!
It’s a small world too, you live down the road from my Mum!
Love, light & Luck
Becky
February 7th, 2008 at 2:28 am
P.S Your bitchscopes are hilariously close to the truth!
I did also try to contact you a different way but it didn’t work , my pc’s fault, not your website’s.
February 7th, 2008 at 4:57 am
Hello Becky,
Thanks for your feedback and all the praise, I’m glad I made you smile too. If you’re ever having trouble with the email links on my website, just type the address from the About Me page manually into whatever you use for emailing and that’ll work fine.
In a way though it’s great having your response here, like some sort of validation for baring my soul. I have concluded that being a male Aquarian is similar to having the Asperger’s Syndrome of the zodiac, you know, like a milder and more glamorous version of Rain Man, the Water-Bearer maybe? Everything you say about seeming aloof and distant is so true and the fact it’s not socially acceptable nowadays, that was a revelation to me. My ex used to call me the Alien. She was so right too…
Also the bit about walking off, which I have done in every possible situation throughout my life. As for your Mum living up the road, that’s amazing. Whereabouts, roughly?
Paul
February 7th, 2008 at 5:06 am
I can’t wait to call my other half ‘Rain Man’ I’m sure he will love that!! Yes, that’s it, Aliens, definatly a different species anyway, although I know how hard us Gemini girls are to live with too..but we do try ever so hard to be lovely all the time
My Mum lives in Uckfield, do you know it? that’s sort of near isn’t it, I used to have guitar lessons there when I was 17!
Becky
February 7th, 2008 at 5:27 am
Uckfield? That’s astonishing, it’s about seven miles from me I think. It’s not a town I like much though, so I’m not surprised you ended up in the US. Are you actually British or American and how about your Mum? This is all really wild and on an eclipse day too, perfect!
I believe that if there’s one sign that can understand an Aquarian it’s a Gemini. I hope you fiancé realises how lucky he is, but can’t help but doubt it somehow…
Paul
February 7th, 2008 at 5:51 am
No your right, it’s not all that nice, but it’s got everything my Mum needs. Now then, I am British, and I have never even been to the US! And I live in Kent! Rochester way at the moment, but hoping to move somewhere more rural soon! The world just got even smaller
Your right about Gemini’s ability to understand you Aquarians, I’m not sure whether my Fiance is lucky or cursed to be honest, but I do tell him he’s lucky haha!
Becky
You can contact me using the contact me thing if you’s rather, it’s up to you.
February 7th, 2008 at 6:12 am
Becky,
Far out! This is just brilliant and you’re right, I am going to stop cluttering up your website with off-topic posts, but I think you have a real talent, will be watching what you write and would love to stay in contact with you.
I’m sure I can manage a Site of the Week recommendation for you over the next couple of weeks, the first blog I’ve mentioned, and will be in touch via your contact form about that. In the meantime it has been really great talking with you. Please feel free to write to me directly about anything, anytime, ever…
Thank you for making my day much better, than it was before.
;o)
Paul
February 12th, 2008 at 10:12 am
I am seeing a Aqua male and I am Gemini, we get on really well and have known each other since May last year. However just before Christmas I received an email saying he just wanted to be friends as he works alot and cannot committ. I was hurt but left it and now he is back in touch and we have been out and getting on really well again!! Will I get another shock I wonder in a couple of months time as he just wants to be friends again……
February 12th, 2008 at 11:44 am
Although I can’t guarantee what the shock will be about, I can guarantee you that he will be sure to give you plenty of them. You did the right thing though by leaving it, that is one of the best way’s to get an Aquarius’s attention to be honest, ignore them! Actually I think it’s called “giving them a taste of their own medicine” You will get on well, and will have a great friendship but if the relationship doesn’t progress you will have to ask yourself if it’s worth keeping this Aquarius as “just a friend”. Sometimes, with Gemini’s and Aquarius’s unless the romance is their it can very often become just a friendship, which is great, unless you wanted more.
Love & Light
Becky
February 13th, 2008 at 2:24 am
Ay ay ay, I just stumbled upon this whilst looking for cancerian fun stuff, and I’m just laughing! I too am whole heartedly exploring and loving an aquarian man. All the while happily frustrated in his fascinating world…combined with cancer…makes for an interesting relationship. Thanks for the smiles.
February 13th, 2008 at 6:47 am
Thanks for that, I know what you mean by the friendship thing. I’m not sure but he says things to test me to see what my reaction will be, the other night he says “Oh I’m going out with a friend from school for a meal tomorrow night I’ve known her for years it should be good fun it usually is, to which I replied “Oh that will be nice especially since you have known her for so long.
Turns out the meal never came about, but I knew what he was doing!!! He is a very good father and has good friends so I know what sort of person he is and I know things have changed between us as we seem closer. So hopefully he has seen what a super fab woman I am (haha)
February 21st, 2008 at 12:08 am
Hi,
I enjoy reading about the Aquarius man since I think I’m falling in love with one and I want to get the lowdown on them before I fall completely.
So much of what is written here I can identify with. I’m a Cancer and I know that Cancer and Aquarius is not the best match, but I don’t think I’m the typical Cancer in some respects so we seem to get along. We are just starting to get closer…after being casual friends for a while…naturally!
But I have been a bit of the aggressor and he seems to like it. He tends to put out hints, I pick up on them and suggest doing things. He cooperates nicely and it seems to work for us. I am also a bit older than him, so I’ve got some patience…which helps with an aquarius man.
Also, I am extremely free-spirited and independent, with a very active life and being a Cancer often need to rejuvenate in my shell so he can enjoy his “space” during those times.
I think he’s just wonderful…but some of my friends think I’m nuts.:)
February 27th, 2008 at 1:56 am
Thanks for your post.
Does Aquarius dislike emotion of any kind, even when it’s positive like romantic feelings? It seems like they like to keep things friendly when really they are feeling more inside.
I’m a Leo Sun with an Aquarius and the man I’m with is an Aquarius Sun with Leo Moon so I hope that helps somewhat with helping us get along better. I try and just keep things cool and I also try and compliment him often. Any other advice? Thanks.
February 28th, 2008 at 12:34 pm
Hi Erica,
I think Aquarius Men are just odd generally. They have emotion and they like other people to have it, they just are not always sure how to show it. It’s good that you compliment him, I do that to mine, just make sure he returns the kindness. When I want some attention from my Aquarius I don’t wait for it, I go up and ask for it..literally! They aren’t too good with subtle hints. I can imagine you two get along very well anyway and have quite a bit of fun as well! Just enjoy what you have and don’t let it become boring.
Love & Light
Becky
x
March 2nd, 2008 at 2:44 am
Omg my ex is an Aquarius and he is the most selfish person in the whole world! Im an Aries and i loved this man dearly but he was just to selfish for me and bizarre! Thank you for writing this article now i see im not alone! Before my recent ex i almost married and Aquarius but i ran after 5 years i just dont think they make good life partners everyday is just a constant battle. But i do wish you ALOT of luck with yours, just make sure he does not make u insane!
March 3rd, 2008 at 1:18 pm
LOL!! I have to agree with you carrie88, certain Aquarius males are really not meant to spend their lives with another person. My ex husband was one of them. If, however, you find one that has the right signs in the right planets then they are truly lovely, like mine!I think Aquariun’s need vetting heavily to find out their moon signs etc before anyone actually plans a lifetime with one of these other worldy people. And thanks for the good luck, but I think I drive him as insane as he drives me.
March 9th, 2008 at 2:05 pm
tht was such a nice read thnks for writing it.
ive been with a aqua guy for 3 monthes and its funny becuz hes from a whole different culture(he’s lebanese) but ur post describes him exactly
i always knew tht he likes to spend some time alone which i found very weird,maybe its becuz im italian and wanting to be alone in our culture is unheard of. its so weird tht thy have so many friends also,we could be anywhere and he’ll bump into someone he knows and i can c from how much his friends love him tht hes a great friend to thm which is true for all aquas,,thy love to help!and not just thyr friends thyd help anyone who asks which is not always a good thing! i also find it amazing how thy can hang around with the most annoying people and still find something great to say about them, thy r very sociable and very very very smart! i remember when my b.f met my 85 year old grandad whos a very typical italian man doesnt like peopl dating his grand daughter and who grew up in a small remote village in tuscany,and within 10mins thy wer in a deep conversation about olive trees and how to make the best olive oil and thy wer laughing and my grandad started telling him stories he doesnt even tell my dad!:> sorry for the long post i just thought since ur dating a aqua also ud find these stories funny.
Daniella
March 23rd, 2008 at 7:06 pm
I too am dating an aqua man. It is not always smooth sailing. I think the best thing you can do is to try and loose track of time because any kind of time restraint that you try to impose on these men goes completely out the door. However in my expeience they seem to always be there for you when you really need them which is the important thing. Oh, and eccentric hobbies, yes! Like making metal windchimes that have other weird properties, or “working” in the garden, which looks to me more like an appraisal of the different plants than any kind of manual labor, muching as he “works”. I dunno if I would call him smart in the typical sense, because he is more than that really. More of an inventor. If he doesn’t like somthing he will simply find some other way. If nothing else i find him especially entertaining!
March 23rd, 2008 at 7:34 pm
Oh and one other thing. It was his total apparent lack of emotion and detachment that first attracted me to this man. He seemed so controlled and cool. Maybe somthing that you other girls don’t give him enough credit for?
April 2nd, 2008 at 6:26 pm
I really enjoyed reading on the aquarius man. Don’t know how to feel about it though.
I recently started seeing an aquarias man and alot of what you’ve described I have already seen. Some characteristics you’ve described I am not so sure I want to see.
I am a capricorn, and I don’t know how much you know about us, but we do like sloving issues (not just forgetting about it) and we do hold grudges (i think) and do like the last word. I don’t like to argue, but when I do, I definetely put my two cents in…..anyways, don’t want to think of arguing as he seems very sweet, to himself and a great listener.
How would you pair a capricorn female (Horse) and a male aquarius (Pig)?
Thank-you so much.
April 2nd, 2008 at 6:38 pm
Oh yeah, one more thing I am looking for a long term relationship, and I believe he is to. Although that talk hasnt come up
April 5th, 2008 at 10:20 am
Hello Becky,
Male Aquarius Fire Horse were my search terms and so here I am.I’ve thoroughly enjoyed discovering your website and your comments & insight into the Male Aquarian’s being.
Your image is inexplicably Lovely Gemini,enjoy your afternoon.
April 15th, 2008 at 10:03 pm
Hello becky,
its really wonder full to read this article. i cant imagine, how you sort out all the things.
becky, it must your man, aquarian man.
being auraian i agree with all these thing, i know all these from early boy hood, but never found words.
im not good in writing. but in addition to you comments:
For aquarius men, sex is like a routine job, they dont take a something intelctual, something heavenly blessed.
If you keep it that way, you will always get it. this is the same reason, you find aquarious men emotionally detached.
An other thing, to keep attracted the aquarians, always reamin a solveable puzzle, you know, how there minds are thinking logically.
there habit of being dominant, keeps them engaged. always keep, them surprises, making them feel, what they have portray you is wrong.
For aquarius men, you there must be reading there. lsiten. i have a tip for you:
wether you have intrest in having sex or not. always pretend you have. i know you are good at this.
becky, i like to share my feeling also. after readin long tex again n again.
the only reason i leave the my girl, is when i found out that, she have never been understanding me. she is only building the relation.
but can be stop by word, “you hate people,leaving you alone. and you are doing same to me”
when i find time i will write more.
oh i forgot to mention: in my prefernce of girl, i like mature & experinced one. which play more active part.
hahahah
love you all
April 16th, 2008 at 12:50 am
Hi Becky!
I am an Aqua male, born in the year of the Dragon, and I definitely agree with what you have to say. I didn’t recognize my faults as much until I began reading astrology and this helped me avoid doing them as much as possible. However, the bit about hating time constraints and routine are things that I cannot change or improve on.
I can’t explain it but I like my days to be random. I go to a university where I can NEVER be on time to class, much less deal with all 342 deadlines to meet, and it probably is because of my intellect that I can even manage average grades. It’s not the material we don’t get it, it’s the fitting it into our non existent schedule, or the getting it in on time part. The order and structure of everything is often overwhelming to fit in a single day, and I often feel effective for just doing 20% of my tasks, and have no qualms on flaking class.
It’s weird though because we’re lone wolves, but at the same time we need companionship (I prefer any good friend out of my long list of friends) to share our ideas and thoughts with, ya know, get feedback. I also think Aquarians far better suited towards any metaphysical studies than any other sign. We see science as the box, and we think outside the box. If you believe everything scientists say, you’re going to miss the point of life, astrology included.
April 19th, 2008 at 12:10 am
OMG! I stumbled on this searching for informaton on aquarius men and some of it is right on! I am a saggittarius woman and have been seeing this guy for almost 3 months, I had to approach him, I noticed how he would stare at me at times then other times completly ignore me, which piqued my interest in him even more! I did notice that when I ignore him he is more responsive to me. Or when I act as if I don’t care, he wants me. He never makes advance plans and if he does, he cancels. It’s like a game, when he thinks I am not interested he is all over me. I really do like him because he is such a mystery, I just need some advice on how to keep his interest. I am very direct and straight forward with him and he seems to appreciate it. But he seems to say things to get a rise out of me, but I don’t let him see that it does. It seems as if dating an aquarius man is like playing games. Any suggestions?
April 19th, 2008 at 6:01 pm
Sag woman. being a sag. also who has dated aquarius men, i can say that I agree with Becky. In one of her blogs she mentions that Saggittarius can be too normal for the aquarius. He is one of a kind for sure. It’s like sag. thnks that if you plan a date then you go on a date right? This would be the normal thing to do, but for the aquarius it is much more fun when it is spontaneous! This may be why you think he is playing games. I feel however that this combination can work, because mostly of the eternal opptimism of the Saggittarrius, who is pretty much up for anything fun. Just get him over on your team and you won’t be lacking in ideas for adventure and spontaneaty!However you may be spending more evenings alone, reading or horseing around with other pals then you had wanted. You see aquarians need there time to figure out the problems while you would rather not focus on the serious stuff.So enjoy the game while it lasts!
April 20th, 2008 at 6:49 pm
Hello Becky,
As an Aquarius male I have to say your assessment of us in love and romance is spot-on. In my personal case with Venus in Pisces and Mars in Aries the naturally schizophrenic Aquarius romantic tendencies are only made worse – not an easy way to go through life.
The only woman with whom I ever fell in love with instantly and who fell in love with me on the spot was a Gemini. Distance and her perceived need and desire to embrace the normal (read average or, less charitably, the mediocre and banal) put an end to something that could have been perfect for the both of us.
My question about you Gemini girls is why do you insist upon doing things, seeing people, and going down paths which - by your admission – you know to be false or in some way inauthentic? I have seen it time and again.
With my moon in Gemini, I love all you Geminis to death but this sort of “hypocrisy” is simply strange. The rest of your little quirks I personally find quite charming.
April 21st, 2008 at 7:22 am
Hi Deke, Thanks for you comment
Yes, well I suppose that us Gemini girls can be quite annoying at times. But you see we are so much more than one woman, which makes it quite tricky at times to be 100% about anything! We are like butterflies I guess, and we flutter from one thing to the next mainly out of curiosity, and I think at times we head in the wrong direction. But as us Gemini girls have to put up with you Aquarius boys I think it’s only fair!!
Lovely to meet another wonderful Aquarius man
Love & Light
Becky
April 21st, 2008 at 11:05 am
Hello again,
Many thanks for the lovely compliment.
I supposed that together we have hit the nail on the head then. A very real possible problem between female Gemini and male Aquarius is that while you externalize your duality resulting in the need to try and explain or rationalize your choices of the moment to us or to yourselves, we internalize ours. This results in a slightly patronizing do as we say, not as we do approach to “helping” you. Worse yet, we feel that this received wisdom from us requires no discussion, justification, or explanation at all – it is simply self-evidently true.
In fact, you can even feel a touch of this tone in my posts here - sorry!
Is it possible that we Aquarius males are actually worse than people say we are? Well, in our defense, we do generally mean well.
Heavy thoughts on such a perfect Spring day here…
Cheers!
April 22nd, 2008 at 6:06 am
Being a Taurus, I have to say that getting involve with an Aquarius man is a lot of WORK. I do like him and everything, but frankly, I’m not even sure if he’s interested in me. When I am the most angry with him and completely ignoring his existence, he goes all out to get my attention only to become distant later on when he got it.
So in order to cope with this, I’ve learned how to be an Aquarius, popping in and out of his life. That way, I always get 100% attention every time I see him.
As someone mentioned, you really need to let Aquarius take his own medicine.
The future of this relationship, I’m not even sure. That’s why, even now, though he doesn’t know, I’m not exactly 100% committed to him yet.
The Taurus/Aquarius relationship is very draining for Taurus, and I think it takes a certain freer Taurus to deal with this lasseiz faire spirit.
April 23rd, 2008 at 5:51 am
Well the question is does he like me or does he want to be like me/ As I have noticed there is a difference.
April 23rd, 2008 at 5:54 am
Just a thought… Maybe you’ve got it backwards, learning how to be an Aquarius…
April 26th, 2008 at 9:46 am
L’influence des pierres précieuses et l’astrologie….
Il est bien connu qu’à l’époque du premier christianisme plusieurs ?uvres d’auteurs anciens sur l’influence des pierres sur la santé et le destin de l’homme ont disparu (l’église croyait que c’étaient les résultats de la superstition païe…
May 17th, 2008 at 2:26 am
Wow… you just described me and every relationship I’ve ever had..Yea I’m an Aquarius… the only thing that didn’t relate to me was the not trying new things cause I always assume ill be good at anything
May 19th, 2008 at 1:35 am
I was born on june 27, 1980. The signs say am a “Cancer”, but I am nothing like a cancer, then I looked further and it turns out, am a “GEmini” and I love it! everything they say, it makes sense to me. I also wanted to say, am also madly in love with an Aquaries man, I can’t stop thinkin about him, its been close to 12 or 13 yrs that we broke up, but I still find him in my thoughs. Maybe, because we had an encounter a few months ago, but they do love their solitude, and yes it drives me “NUTS”…..
May 19th, 2008 at 1:37 pm
I loved this post! It describes the Aquarius man very well. I am too a Gemini ^_^. I’ve recently fallen for an Aquarius guy. I am only going into the 10th grade this year; but as you probably know; Gemini’s (especially the women) mature fast. I kind of figured out that I’m the type of girl who likes to go for the chase; I am very choosy on which guy I want and let me tell you; not very many make it into my heart that quickly! This guy that I am interested stated back in February that his birthday was coming up; February 9th. I was curious to why as I liked this guy because he came off as the arrogant ‘I’m hot and I know it’ type. Usually I’d say ‘guys like that don’t deserve girls like me. Then I did some ‘research’ only to find that he’s Aquarius. That explains his complete mysteriousness! We both have Aries in venus; which is suppose to be a wonderful match; however, he is interested in a Libra Girl (Whose Venus sign is incompatible) and I’ve heard that the perfect match for Aquarius is Libra! He obviously flirts with her; but I get the feeling that he likes to flirt with me as well but i’m unsure if he’s just trying to be friendly. My question is; do I still have a good chance with him (Libra and Gemini are suppose to be equal when matching with Aquarius) even though this Libra girl is in his life? thanks.
May 28th, 2008 at 9:24 am
Hi Becky,
I recently met an aquarius guy and we went out on our first date. He talked a lot and we had some interesting conversations. However, 2 days later, he emailed me and said “there are some differences between you and what I am looking for.Please understand my frankness.
” I was a little shock because I talked a lot during our date. I mean…ther’s no silence at all. I might be a little shy to him as I feel it’s our first date but I know I’m a fun person when you get to know me a little more…coz…hey..I’m a Gemini gal. This aqua guy actually told me that he is ready to settle down before our date(and so am I). Is it possible that he feels I’m not ready to settle down or…? I replied him the email saying “It’s cool. np at all.It’d be cool if we can be friends; if not..it’s okay too.” And then he replied me,” Of course I like to be friends with you.”
I actually like the guy and don’t wanna just give up, but I know chasing after him is a big no-no for aqua. What should I do? How do I make him want to know me more? Thanks
May 28th, 2008 at 9:26 am
sorry…just wanna correct my typo…” we both talked a lot during the date…”
May 28th, 2008 at 9:30 am
Also, my birthday is coming up and I’m gonna have a little party in my place. My friends are encouraging me to invite him, but I feel kinda weird. Do you think I should invite him or better just…..not?
Thanks Becky,
Love your site.
May 28th, 2008 at 10:21 am
Hi there Cat,
Thanks for your comment. I too am an Gemini girl so I understand the non stop talking! I do it all the time to my poor Aqua partner. Aquarius men are awkward and not easy to deal with, so it is best not to. Call him up or email him and just casually arrange to go somewhere together..if he agrees then great! And go and have fun. They can be rather black and white so perhaps just asking him straight whether he wants to pursue a relationship with you or not. Hope this helps and good luck!
Love & Light
Becky
May 28th, 2008 at 10:24 am
Hi Cat,
INVITE HIM!! He will either say yes or no. And that will be mainly to do with whether he is a party going Aquarius or not. Some of them don’t like lots of people they don’t know and some just don’t care either way. But I would say definatly ask him..as another Gemini girl I KNOW you will regret it if you don’t.
x
May 28th, 2008 at 9:20 pm
Thank you Becky for your suggestions. Hmmm..My birthday party is this coming Sunday and I think I’ll send the invitation to him on Friday. Since he just sent me “that” email, I don’t wanna invite him to my party right away…kinda desperated…huh?
Thanks for your help:)
Regards from San Francisco~
Cat
May 29th, 2008 at 10:17 am
Hello Becky,
I was just thinking if it’s really appropriate to invite that aqua guy to my birthday party since we’ve only known each other for less than a month. Well…I do wanna invite him to my BD party but not sure if it’s gonna scare him away. I do like him and he was very thoughtful throughout our date, but I just don’t understand why he doesn’t wanna continue. Two of my ex bfs are aquarius as well and they coudn’t stop calling me after our first date(I mean…come on..we gemini gals are unique…we always think about how to make life more interesting…right?).
My friends told me he may be testing you or something. He is about 5 years older than me..is it possible about the age…omg..I have no clue.
Any idea or thoughts?
Thanks!
Regards from S.F.
Cat
May 30th, 2008 at 10:57 am
Hi Cat,
Firstly, yes your right we are very unique!!
This is all really up to you Gemini girl. I know it’s hard to make your mind up but you have to do it sometimes you know!!! I just think you should do whatever feels right to you, after all it’s your party, so you have to feel comfortable about who is there. I can’t help you with the age thing as I have no idea how old you are!!! All I know is that you are a proper Gemini girl and I understand. lol
Love & Light
Becky
June 2nd, 2008 at 4:38 am
HI Becky
OH my goodness, let me start off by saying hello, I too am a Horse and a scorpio. I have been with an aquarian man for the last 3 years. I want to know if we are dating the same man. This man makes me sooo crazy, you hit the nail on the head. I love him but every other day want to leave him. But, I might just take your advice, Ill see how that works out, but replacing him will be a hard thing to do. ( so maybe ill just roll with the punches)
This was like reading my life story( the last 3 years any way)
June 2nd, 2008 at 11:07 pm
Thank you, Becky. Thanks for creating this site and all the advices.
-Cat
June 3rd, 2008 at 6:00 am
ok… I am, as u can probably guess, Aquarius Male… i have no problem with the concept of love but a big problem with trust… especially after my brake up with my Cancer Ex..
At the moment i’m seeing a Gemini girl, who i hope to be with for a very very long time… but i just find it confusing when she gets fustrated when i am distant and when i try to get closer it feels like she is distant… i hate the feeling of distance… its yuky and awkward…
on the upside… this blog dose explain alot of my behavior quite well…
June 4th, 2008 at 8:29 am
Tx for the insight…….u r about as accurate as can be about the Aquarius man. I’m a Scorpio and every so often go into b*tch fits coz perhaps i love my Aquarius man too much. He’s a great guy with a brilliant mind…..but indeed he is an oddball. LOL…..
I do hope we work out…
June 8th, 2008 at 11:11 pm
Hello Becky,
This is really unbelievable, you are so spot on about the aquarius man, my bf is one of them and it was like I was reading about him, same problems same advantages, but I am afraid I still haven’t found a way to deal with everything that you mentioned above. I will follow some of your advices, I think.
I am a leo myself and my ex is a gemini so when I landed with an aquarius it was too much of a shock, but we are still together somehow.
May be it has to do something with the fact that my moon is in Aquarius and his moon is in Leo.
Well anyway just wanted to tell you that you really got this one, well done!
June 17th, 2008 at 9:54 pm
OMG!!! Oddball to the finest! I’m rather pissed with my Aquarius man right now! He analyzed me and that was so wrong of him, he has been distance for quite some time and all I needed to know was that he was still “here” with me even though he was on another planet. Argh!!! I gave him a dose of acid with my lethal tongue aka my over-emotional side got the best of me. Hope that he comes back around, if not I’ll have to drag him back into my arms… LOL
Oh my, i need to curb my ways, but he asked for it. I know I should have showed more understand as I am very understanding, but he just needed a dose of his medicine… ( i think)
As far as things go, I hope the make up sex will be a bomb!
I love him lots!
Thanks Becky!
June 23rd, 2008 at 2:16 am
I just finished reading your outlook on the Aquarian man and I think it may be a little unfair. Speaking as an Aquarian man myself, I think that while the majority of what you said is true, I feel that there are a few generalizations that you have made that I would like to extrapolate on (but thank you for the disclaimer about them being based on the sun sign).
As you mentioned, Aquarian men have plenty of emotion and we do tend to bottle it up. But we do this is not only with emotions, but also with thoughts and opinions. That is our greatest down fall; We gunnysack things. When something bothers us we will not talk about it because usually we do not want to bother our partners with our troubles and woes. I know it’s frustrating, but i think that it is something that we may just be incapable of doing.
Another thing that can often be observed about us Aquamen, is that we tend to be fairly deep thinkers and VERY opinionated. I will openly admit this. The deep thinking is great for talking with people but it can be a double edged sword. Just like the bottling of emotions, deep intellectual thoughts can also be stored away. So if you really want to hear some interesting things, drag our thoughts and opinions out but be prepared to challenge them and make us defend them, maybe even revise them. You will have a great time.
thanks for listening.
Michael
June 23rd, 2008 at 6:49 am
Hi Michael,
I couldn’t agree with you more about the bottling up of everything. They are mental blockers, blocking anything that is painful or they feel they can’t deal with. I will be writing a ‘part two’ on Aquarius men as I feel that there is so much to say about them. You mentioned them being very opininated? They mostly come across as indifferent to be honest. I am aware however that they do have thoughts and opinions of their own but as I have also found out you really need a very deep and bonded relationship with him for him to open up and talk freely. Your comment was very interesting, thank you for taking the time to write it.
Love & Light
Becky
P.S If your chart has some water signs then your experience of this may be different. This really is just a basic look at the sun sign.
July 5th, 2008 at 12:40 pm
Hi,
As a Pisces (male), I usually end up having aquaintances with aquarius (both sexes). It starts good and ends (as well) with no hard feelings. I have a few personal obervations about aquarius men (mostly singles I know):
(i) These guys can’t really laugh. Even with the best of jokes and comical situations, their faces appear controlled (with laughter jam-o-meters). They surely want to laugh but don’t want to show it which makes the facial expression something unique (can’t describe in words)
(ii) Don’t talk with them about marriage (if they are still single and getting old). Thats a very emotional issue to them. They can get waaaaaay sentimental when women are discussed to the extent of annoyance.
(iii) They love to talk to women on telephone rather than meeting them in person. Phone-sex is their most favourite past-time.
(vi) They love to gawk at girls (when outdoors) irrespective of their age (12 to 60 years: really doesn’t matter).
(v) Appears very vulnerable when alone with a person (one-on-one conversation). Usually expect from the other person to start conversation as they mostly act dumb. Try to intimidate by keeping quiet but it hardly works in a world where communication/conversation is so very important.
(v) Not proud of their achievements, always interested in other people’s lives and success stories. For example: You know Bob is such a successful banker, Jim has made a lot of money in stocks, Look at this sports car (i want to have/ride it) even if they can’t buy it for the rest of their life, this guy has a beautiful women with him (wish i could have her)
(vi) Really appreciate ordinary/run of the mill jokes often worldly, obscene, and vulgar. Unfortunately, sophisticated humour is beyond their comprehension.
(vii) Try to act sophiscated and controlled from exterior (being impressionable) but once you touch the soul from inside, the bawdiness can easily come out.
(viii) Try to be stuborn even if they are wrong particularly regarding issues of intellect. Have little knowledge and ideas of their own. Usually follow what is happening in the surroundings for discussions.
(ix) Although have an independent streak (mental/physical/spiritual) but when it comes to family, close friends, it is no where to be found. Usually don’t speak their own mind and it appears as they are trying to please other people particularly (with no independent thought) when they need some benefits/favours.
* Though love their independence but can’t digest others’. Try to control people with an independent streak.
(x) At times, like to live in the past by sharing previous memories.
(xi) Like to put their emotional baggage on others/friends and when acceptance is denied, feel offended.
(xii) Vulnerable to excessive depression in matters of love.
There are positive traits of my aqua aquaintances (might be later). These are just few of my personal comments. Appreciate responses to explore more or something different.
Bye
Aly
July 6th, 2008 at 11:28 am
Aly, I must say I think you’re hanging around with the wrong people if they’re gawking at 12 year old girls whether they’re Aquarius or not.
I’ve never read so much untruth about Aquarius. People like you should only be allowed a mouse.
I’d like to comment on all your observations but I really can’t be bothered to waste my time.
An Aquarius would surely laugh at your comments instantly proving (i) totally inaccurate.
Thanks for the entertainment. If you hadn’t guessed I’m an Aquarius, BTW my best friend is a Pisces Dog.
I’d like to hear what my fellow Aquarians think about your comments.
July 7th, 2008 at 7:32 am
Duane,
Sorry pal. These are close observations and personal scrutiny based on long-term aquaintances (no lies whatsoever). There is no problem in admitting one’s faults because they help us to improve.
This is what all I have to say.
Ciao
Aly
July 8th, 2008 at 11:41 am
Hi Aly,
I have to agree a bit with Duane I’m afraid. I don’t think they can be very close observations as I don’t agree on everything you have said. But this is the thing with Astrology which I have found more and more, people from different signs see others in a different way, especially Aquarius as they are probably the strangest sign of them all. And very different from you Mr Pisces, so although I do not agree with you I understand why you see the things you do.
Love & Light
Becky
July 9th, 2008 at 4:00 am
Hi Becky!
Thanks for disagreement, I really appreciate it since people either try to please each other for nothing or try to enforce their opinions on others. Thanks again. But I’m still sticking to my guns being a pisces-ox.
The earlier comments were based on the analysis of seven men aged between 24-52 years (mostly single).
The gawking behaviour, no ability to laugh thoroughly (controlled emotions), teletalk with women, always talking about others rather than themselves, lacking refinement, depression and excessive sensitivity in love, vulnerable in one-on-one conversations, and others traits are certainly the characteristics of aqua men I have been/was acquanited with. Surely, they also seem at times to live in the past memories. Since they love their families, they are also willing to forego their independence when living with them. A lot of aqua men told me that they want to get away from their families for sometime to seek some personal fulfillment in life. A lot, I think, envy me for being too independent and in control of my life.
In my humble opinion, these guys also are too much worldly unlike us (the pisces) that any thought, idea, discussion, creativity, intellectuality, that brings them away from reality and trivial worldly discussions; confuses or makes them uncomfortable.
Unlike pisces, aquarius doesn’t have much tendency for self-catharsis and reinvention. As I a pisces, I have touched their inner self and have find out how, at times, emotionally vulnerable these beings are though they do not express it.
For aqua men I know, women surely are the 8th Wonder of the World.
Sorry for writing too long but that’s my habit. I like to go into details.
Adios
Aly
July 9th, 2008 at 12:09 pm
Hi again Aly,
Your an Ox..it all makes sense now! lol
Love & Light
Becky
July 15th, 2008 at 12:36 pm
Hi Becky!!
You are such a relief. I have been to other sites and I have found lots of women angry with aqua men and asking eachothers about how to DEAL with them. So this is a wonderful suprise…. Thanks for understanding Aqua men and women..
I am an aqua male and my friends, especially among girls are mostly scorpio women and fellow aqua girls. I am sort of uncontrollibly attracted to scorpio women. There is definitely something in aqua man and scorpio woman relationship..It’s electrifying..for both of sides…
And one famous aqua man and gemini woman couple is HEIDY and SEAL. They seem reallly happy together…
July 15th, 2008 at 12:44 pm
Hi Becky!!
I am an aqua and I completely DISAGREE with aly…. I am not this bad.and I know it. Anyway people can have personal opinions.
I have found that I click instantly with either scorpio women, gemini women or aqua women. And I am actually quite fascinated by scorpio women. The chemistry is INSANE.
I think Aqua man and Gem girls are also really good with each others. Gemini girls are sooo differnt from scorpio girls. I find them both interesting. Scorpio chiks are boiling with emotions and standing next to her is like standing next to a ticking bomb. Her jelousy is undescribable for me. Gem girls are cooool.
One famous gem girl and aqua guy couple is HEIDY and SEAL.
THANKS BECKY!!!
July 15th, 2008 at 5:07 pm
Hi Aly,
As a person who was born on the fifteenth of February, I am quite insulted by your generic insults and hack-analysis of my personality.
Sound to me that you’re mad because people you know don’t find your jokes funny, and you have to occasionally console friends when they need help.
Before you attach yourself to some kind of shred of decency based on your individual interpretation of a star sign, you should actually look at your own emotional dexterity - wavering from moody and judgemental to quite depressive yourself.
Before you try to cast a blunt stereotype on millions of people at once, actually go out and talk to people and stop checking out twelve year old girls in the meantime.
Every interpretation of pisces I’ve seen has indicated use of emotional blackmail and the emotional spectrum you’re talking about is actually quite a bad thing (not the thought-channeler you make yourself out to be).
Fortunately for everyone, but you, they are individual people with individual personalities - totally separate of your vulgar generalities.
Why fortunate for everyone else? Because you, fishface, are hanging from a noose of bitterness and frankly, people like you ruin my day everytime.
Sincerely,
Cam
PS: It’s quite obvious you and ‘Rutu’ are the same person, whoever you are. Get a life
July 16th, 2008 at 5:11 pm
Hey Cam!!!
what’s wrong with you???????????????
i am rutu and not aly……I am an aqua(5th feb) and not a piscies. I thought my post didn’t show up so I typed it again.
AND I AM NOT FLATTERD BY ALY’S COMMENTS I disagreed with them as i have mentioned in my post. I chose to put a post ONLY after reading ALY’S post. And you are accusing me of being him…..YOU ARE PLAIN INSULTING ME………AND WHAT SUPIRIER LOGIC YOU USED TO DECIDE THAT I WAS ALY. JUST EXPLAIN IT. OR WAS IT YOUR SIXTH SENSE. OR COULD YOU JUST SMELL IT. DID MY POST SMELLED SAME AS ALY’S??????
SORRY BECKY!! but i just had to write it.
July 17th, 2008 at 5:26 am
Ya and if you(cam)there aren’t sites where women are angry with aquas then you are sooooo wrong. I will give you link if you want. there was this one site where a woman (scorp/sag cusp) named “wildrose” was soooo pissssed off by an aqua that she had put some realllllllly long posts under the article ” i hate aqurius men” and in that thread I found Becky’s post and followed the link.
Anyway why am i explaining this to you??
WHO.ARE.YOU.BY.THE.WAY…..
And Becky you offered ALY love @ light. I am not so sure about love but he definatly needs PLENTY OF LIGHT IN HIS HEAD. SO THAT HE CAN THINK CLEARLY.
Aly,
give me your adress PLEASE. I have got a TORCH for you. I need to parcel it to you.
July 17th, 2008 at 6:53 am
Hello everyone!
Can we please stop getting all worked up here otherwise I won’t be able to approve peoples comments anymore and I would hate that to happen! But I don’t want my site filled with hate and bad feeling. We all have different opinions that is one of the most amazing traits we as humans have. We will just have to agree to disagree.
I give love & Light to everyone as everyone is entitled.
P.s Rutu..I can’t believe my posts are still there on that site, I wrote them qutie a while ago!! Glad you found me on there.
LOVE & LIGHT
Becky
July 17th, 2008 at 9:11 am
Hey Becky!!
Well I get your point. I am not writting such things again. At least not on this site. OK. But i will keep visiting it. And mostly add few nice comments. All right. bye……
LOVE @ LIGHT
(My light is special it comes from the torch i have bought)
Rutu
July 17th, 2008 at 9:33 am
Rutu, I am privilaged to be shone on by your new tourch! You make me laugh! Thank you for your understanding.
Becky
x
July 17th, 2008 at 3:51 pm
Hiya
Very interesting that people feel insulted when their zodiac is discussed in a different way. Belonging to one zodiac doesn’t mean that one should become the custodian of it. They vary and defending them is obnoxious, ridiculous and absurd. If you don’t think you are like that, leave it as the rationality of mind suggests and if you are offended by other’s comments on ridiculous behaviours, that’s your mental problem. You won’t get anything out of it neither getting personal can harm the other person nor it will forward your case. Hate, bitterness, and frustration is only the trait of the shallow.
I dearly hope that you can understand what I have written.
Aly
July 17th, 2008 at 3:57 pm
Hey Becky,
Good work. Keep on spreading the light through wisdom. A lot of people on the blog need it.
Aly, Piscean OX
July 22nd, 2008 at 7:22 am
Hello Becky!
looks like i have found the right website because i’ve have been wondering for the longest time why do i fall for aquarians - iam taurus.
well, actually aries/taurus cusp with aquarius rising and yeah of the horse.
any insight?
July 22nd, 2008 at 5:27 pm
Hi Fay, I am sure I would have a lot of insight but I am afraid that it would take up a lot of room on a cooment! I do have some services you may be interested in which looks deep into you chart using western and Chinese astrology. If you are interested in this please feel free to contact me.
Love & Light
Becky
xx
July 26th, 2008 at 9:31 pm
Hi everyone,
Didn’t know I could post here. Yay! Well, Aqua men. I met my soul mate at 19. We dated 9 years. Went through some life struggles. I decided to end make up and break up patterns in the 10th year.
Dated a Taurus for 2.5 years. Realized I was fooling myself to force myself out of love w/ my Aqua man.
Now, I’m here. I made it obvious to my Aqua man I didn’t want to be friends or talk. Since he did hurt me but he was being himself. Detached. Of course!
Anyways, I am now contacting him. A flood of words in e-mails and 1 vmail. I feel dumb.
Aqua-Experts. Do you think there is a chance for friendship or at least conversation?
We used to always kid that if things didn’t work out we would be friends till we were old and gray. We would say we were each other’s Romeo & Juliette.
Geez, Life is interesting. Ain’t it?
Missing my Aqua Man,
(My Bday June 19-dragon, Aqua man- Jan. 27-rabbit - Both born in 1976)
XoXO
Thanks for reading!
Bella
July 27th, 2008 at 7:47 pm
Hi Becky,
First, I happened upon your astrology site and found it quite informative, interesting, amusing, as well as insightful.
Moreover, I am and resemble the aquarian description you documented. I have learned to deal with emotions, though I continue to think emotions are far too nebulous to fully comprehend. However I do understand now that the vast majority of people are or become the result of their emotional state. That understanding has helped me greatly in interpersonal associations and relationships.
Additionally, thank you for the kind words about Aquarians, as more often than not we are very much in tune with the world and universe at large and need to be reminded that we presently exist on earth (LOL)!!
Finally, I enjoyed the site, learned a lot, and even paused to laugh at some of the descriptions that were personal for me.
With sincere regards and thanks!!
July 29th, 2008 at 8:53 am
Hello Becky,
Well what can I say I have read the Whole Post and I reckon you know a thing or too about Horoscopes.
I wasnt sure at 1st and I was just waiting for you to slip up. :O), but u didnt not one bit I think I can honestly say that I totally agree with every word on this post.
For the other aquarian men, yes! its all true wether you like it or not LOL, I swallowed my pride and its true every bit of it I swear
“They don’t really think they have many faults,”
read that again fellow water bearers! ;O).
Anyway well done becky interesting that you are a Gemini, that does intrigue me.
August 8th, 2008 at 11:15 am
OMG!, This astroloy stuff is really cool,
As I was loooking round for my 2 bestests friends star thingy, and found out they were both Libra and my GF is Gemini…And Amazing website,
And oh yh, Aly obersvation for Aquarius Lost/Dissaprove/What??/Huh???/WTF???…
Aquarius Jack!
August 28th, 2008 at 2:14 pm
hey becky,
The stuff on Aquarius men is soo true, your amazing and spot on.
I use to like this aqua guy. he was in my lessons in college. but i just couldnt understand him. we first spoke but it was through an arguement, after the arguement, he would see me around and either smile at me or just stare at me. in class, we would both stare at eachother like full on look into eachothers eyes, or just smile at eachother. I spoke to him twice but we never really had a friendship either. I don’t know what we had, do you think he liked me..but kept it secret ..or did he just see me as a class mate. Please reply back.
I’m a gemini gal born 25th may
he was aqua born 5th Feb
Thanks love lots
Haz91xxxx
September 6th, 2008 at 5:08 am
Hi Becky,
I’m a Leo gal who has been seeing an aqua man for the past 4 months. Very, very true reading above. I only saw another side to him recently when we had our first dispute. He totally ignored my messages, didn’t pick up his phone…being what I thought to be, quite selfish. Usually he’s the overly friendly, fantastic, genuine, caring person.
We finally spoke when he was ready. I didn’t get an apology. He didn’t fault his actions. We got over it. All is good, BUT I have noticed at times he has quite the wondering eye. He is really into me so he has confessed, although I haven’t fallen yet.
I know aqua men are known to float around and do their own thing, not giving their full attention to one being, but I’ve caught him checking out my friends in front of me on more than one occasion, and this is not deliberate.
Is this a recognized deed aqua’s are known for doing? Spreading his attention around to everyone to make everyone happy? Will Aqua’s partners have to settle for never being number 1?
September 14th, 2008 at 8:51 am
hi becky!!!
gee, thank you so much! i’ve fallen in love w/ an aqua guy too, and it’s been almost 5 yrs now and i’m still into him. he’s such a great artist, i really admire him a lot! he can paint, sing, play guitar, design posters and stage sets, he’s an actor now too, and he usually gets the big roles (he’s really handsome, he got the most beautiful eyes!) so almost every girl i know has a crush on him! but because he’s a bit detached, all the more girls get drawn by his air of mystery! what i really like about him is his unpredictability, altho it’s the same thing that confuses me, no one really knows what he’s gonna do next (which is exciting too), but i discovered he can be very calculating with his actions. i agree he walks out a lot hahaha! but he never fails to surprise me. his dedication to his art is very inspiring. only this year we really dated. i’ve been working in another country, which is great so we both could have our freedom to do what we want. we’ve dated a couple of times this year (finally!!! woohooo!) and my most memorable, funniest, sexiest and extraordinary experiences were the time we spent together! really out of this world and i love it! but most of the time i was the one who initiates and give him gifts, as though i’m the one who’s courting him! am i doin the right thing? i’ve been wanting to confess all my true feelings for him altho im really scared to do that knowing how non-committal he is, i might scare him away. it’s really weird just when i thought he’s finally into me then i wouldn’t hear about him for so many days or months and when we talk as if nothing happened between us as if we’re starting from scratch again. becky help!!!
im an aries girl w/ aquarian rising, piscean venus and moon, and mars in scorpio… yikes!
September 24th, 2008 at 2:21 pm
Aquarius guys can be SO annoying!!
September 25th, 2008 at 3:49 am
Hello, I am a Gemini girl and I have a Aquarius male friend. We have been friends 3yrs and he is so moody… but its true Gemini gals do know how to ignore them and know that they will come back around..we had sex twice out of the three years but sometimes he makes me feel like im not attractive to him anymore…he told me hes just coming out of a relationship and im in one myself so we try not to think bout it alot when we are together…. but i can feel that he wants me and i want him so what do i do in the matter, can one of you aquar guys answer me… he stays in touch and we work together its so diffucult for me…hes trying to get over his last love but in the process why do i have to wait to have sex with this guy again.. he tells me just be patient but my patients are beginning to run out……
October 25th, 2008 at 8:58 pm
I’m a Leo woman. I met an Aquarius man 20 yrs ago. Since we had lived in two different continents back then(Europe/Asia), we had corresponded with each other regularly. Eventually our friendship had developed into a romantic relationship. Since a child he hadn’t mixed with other people, but deep inside he was a very romantic and sentimental person. He told me that I had broken the wall built around him for years and captured his heart; he would always love me no matter what might happen between us…. I’d never had a doubt about his feelings for me or his devotion to me…. We had done a lot for each other. However, several years later the relationship was ended because of distance, misunderstanding & interruptions from other people, etc. Sad…. I chose to forget and move on. And I did forget and move on until recently…. I’ve been thinking of him constantly as well as what had happened btw us back in those years. I tried several times to contact him but he was not responding. I know he’s still alive. I just wanted to say Hello and see how he’s been doing…. Oh well, perhaps I should leave him alone. I don’t want him to think that I’m trying to push him…. I wish him all the best….
October 28th, 2008 at 5:44 am
Hello Becky…
I’m an Aquarius man and I saw so many things in your writing that get us to a T.I couldn’t believe that we were so predictable.By the way on behalf of all of us I apologize for the emotional thing…we do tend to block everyones attemts at getting tio us.I feel its more to protect our easy going nature and our tendency to go out on our own.I get reminded of the horse analogy from the movie the Bachelor..don’t fence me in kind of mantality.And we also don’t mean to come off arogant about our knowledge..we tend to show it freely without reguard as to how other people take it…kind of like a vulcan in star trek.And none of this is to say that you weren’t right about what you wrote and I fully enjoyed it and used it to try and see some of my character flaws…I guess if more of my kind were to be set down and shown some of our more distinguishable characteristics ,we would probably turn over a new leaf so to speak…thanks
Oh by the way…dimple chin..yes..age 30
October 29th, 2008 at 7:38 am
Hi there Fates21,
Thanks for your comment and I am glad that you approve of what I wrote. You Aquarius men have always fascinated me, and frustrated me in equal ammounts. But I am drawn to you still. It is true that if you all changed a little it would make things easier but on the whole I feel that the world would be a far less colourful place without you all just as you are. It is our job to understand you and that is what I love!!
Love & Light
Becky
October 29th, 2008 at 6:36 pm
Hey Becky
Love the site,been looking around at some of the other sections to.You have a strong insight into personality traits and what makes people tick.To see so many accurate descriptions and have a greater understanding of the people around me makes me feel alot better about myself.Your right be the way…if we weren’t our quirky,eccentric
,outside the box thinkers,life would probably be alot worse for wear.I was thinking of something recently the age of aquarius is just now begining to draw in,most people believe the years for that are between 2000 and 2050.More and more people are going to be picking up on some of our traits and we won’t feel so seperated from society anymore..might make things easier for all envolved when we start to share common traits..hopefully someday soon..thanks again for the sight and i’ll definitely be visiting more..
November 4th, 2008 at 1:12 am
OMG!!!!!
I myself am in love with an aquarius guy at the moment, and everything written here is SO TRUE!!!! He is exactly like that!
But thats what i love about him!!!
I’m a libra, by the way.
November 6th, 2008 at 11:30 am
I am an Aquarius, I love being an Aquarius! I first got into starsigns after trying to figure out my Aries girlfriend who showed no signs of falling in love and made scary comments making me feel she could up n leave at the drop of a hat, NO WAY! that’s my job.
I studied websites n books looking for compatibility between us which ended up being sexual not a love match… for the 1st time I found myself bitching about her using me for my body, our relationship being spent entirely in the bedroom I have been un-faithful in most of my previous relationships but this girl had me so stressed out tryna figure out if she wanted me i had no time to entertain any side orders. with her secret chat room accounts and msn friends whom i suspect are flirting with her due to the fact she’s deleted every trace of every conversation had has me in a position where i feel i need to be with her just to see if i was right about her lack of commitment 2 me, she’s a strong minded women who is smarter than she makes out only problem is she’s messing with a genius, to complicate matters shes 8mths preganant and I still don’t know her as well as I’d like she is indeed the most fascinating woman i’ve come across and i worry i only her because she doesn’t seem to want me!
November 6th, 2008 at 5:14 pm
hi calvin! im an aries girl too!!! he’s still not yet my bf but im the one who’s chasing after my aqua guy! hahahaha! how did you get together? is it right if im the one who initiates and confess my feelings or your gf’s tactics works much better? help calvin!
November 14th, 2008 at 12:46 pm
Hi Becky,
I am an aquarian myself and i was in a relationship with a taurus woman, and it didnt work out and she asked me to be a good friend. I am trying hard, but i feel i am emotionally involved very much in to her. but she (who initially was emotionally involved , which brought me in) was now cool. i feel its hard for me to take her out of me. but i know very well that our relation will not be good if it had continued. My question is that, will it be possible for me to block her out of my mind as you said (coz, i have experienced that i can block things that were initially like a world to me) because, this is the first time in my life I am feeling emotional. The loads of emotion, i felt like experiencing towards her. i also heard that Aquarian guy used to think of one girl in his life and his mind will take her above the whole world & i felt her the same way. even now i know that she is using me a lot, but for getting a smile from her i am doing what ever she needs. I need the confidence, to take her out & to think that if a real nice girl comes in to my life i will be able to allow her in.
November 16th, 2008 at 5:05 am
Hey Becky,
You know us too well. It’s actually kind of scary. I know I am not speaking for every Aquarian male out there but here is my insight about why as an Aquarian I act in certain ways.
First off I wanted to talk about the whole emotional problem we have. You’re right, we have feelings too. But to be completely honest, we feel uncomfortable when showing them. I ties in with the embarrassment problem you mentioned; if we feel like we’re going to sound (look) stupid then we simply won’t do it or mention it at all. We are big personal believers of showing love rather than just saying we love. There is a big difference and one is certainly better expressed than the other which is why we’d rather show our love. Plus it gives us a reason to use our creativity.
In behave of all Aquarians; I’m sorry we act cold and aloof at times. I’m sorry we forget about simple details and walk away from our problems. There are reasons for them though. We walk away not because we’re cowards or don’t care but for two main reasons really: one, we don’t want to make an even bigger problem, and two, we need time to think of the situation alone.
We forget about simple details because our minds are constantly wondering off thinking of other things, like what are hot dogs really made of. But when we’re in love, we’re actually thinking of you. Our mind is our greatest gift and our greatest curse. When everything is going great we come up with happy scenarios and new ideas to make things better. Yet also when things are in their worst we replay all the bad things and get fixed into all the negativity. That’s why we need time alone to think. We’re trying to think of a way to make you all smile again.
I believe that no sign or person loves more than another. Water signs don’t have more emotions than Air sign, nor Fire signs over Earth signs and so on. I believe that Water sign, and at times Fire signs, simply cannot control their emotions as well as Air signs and Earth signs can. Not because they have more emotions but simply because they lack that blocking ability you mentioned. As you can see, there is even a difference between same element signs themselves. The real truth is – we all love. We just love differently. Same goes for every emotion. My brother is an Aries and like an Aries he has a hard time controlling his anger. That doesn’t mean he is the only sign that gets angry but simply one of the signs that has a problem controlling their anger. I, like any other person, get angry too yet I can control it and I don’t show it. This example can be applied to love. Some people, like Aquarians, are more practical about it and show it differently.
Lastly, we are brilliant! At the things we know anyway. Every person is brilliant their own areas of interests. One thing we do know is that we know nothing. So whenever we have read or looked into something we really like and know about we like to mention it a lot. There are a lot of things we don’t care about that we don’t bother learning and so we don’t even pretend to know about them. Those things we don’t talk about as you can notice. Since we like to read and look into a variety of things it may look like we know everything but the truth is we won’t. Which brings me to say another thing; I believe Aquarians are the most open-minded fixed sign there is. This sounds contradicting but it is not. When we know we’re right because we know facts then we fight for it even if we sound stubborn. We know we sound stubborn, we do that on purpose. When we know something is a fact we fight for it. Yet when it comes to opinions we are really open to hear them and take them into consideration. So I have always believed it’s a bit unfair to call us a fixed sign because in a lot of ways we’re really very mutual. We, unlike the easily angered Scorpios, the hard-headed Taurus, and the every prideful Leos we Aquarians actually care about knowledge. Not who is right or wrong but what is truth and what is false. Not status, not pride just knowledge.
God Bless
November 21st, 2008 at 10:45 pm
I must chime in,
A Sag. girl here (if you can still say girl at 40) but I do know a bit about the Aquas as I have 3 family members that are Aquas, one brother in-law, an older sister, and a niece.
They are very different but the same and I adore and love them all!
Are they weird…yup. We all know this in the family and of course, accept it. The Aqua man tends to be very boring and quiet. He is very different from the females.
My family is Hispanic and very loud, and for a Hispanic male, he is a monk. He hardly speaks but when he does, boy we listen. I have only seen him get angry once (his Gemini daughter was lying-doing v.bad things, and got caught) and after that anger came massive depression. So bad my sis (a Sag also) was very worried and wanted to take him to the hospital. It is true, they do feel but it is buried deep. He is very laid back but can be cranky, that could also be his medical condition though. He and sis have a great relationship, more like an awesome/respectful friendship than typical marriage. They adore each other and have both been completely in love and faithful for over 30 years. Sag did try to get him jealous once, he did not notice. She did not try that again. I don’t think he is typical Aqua as he does not like to travel and well, is very boring but oh so nice and charming. Can take the man everywhere, except shopping. My sis did one time on Black Thursday and he got so caught up conversing with the ladies that he never noticed the people behind him stealing things from his cart. Yeah, Sag sister was royally pissed.
The Aqua women are crazy. Of all my sisters and nieces I adore them and am closest to them both. I understand how they think and vice versa. Actually I don’t think they care to understand how I think so much as let me talk it out so I can then shut up and let them talk. It is said in my family that I am the only one that can “talk” to these Aqua women to get them to see another side of a situation when they are being stubborn. They are damn stubborn once they make up their mind. They will agree with you, then go and do what they wanted to do anyway. IT is not a lie to them because honestly, they know you are trying but why hurt your feelings. Much easier to ask forgiveness than permission. They ask nobody for permission. They told you a truth, maybe not all of it, but a truth nonetheless. I know this about them and since I have a Libra moon, I negotiate and sometimes I win, sometimes I loose. They are quirky, original and yes weird but then again, so am I and for a Sag. girl, would not have them any other way. The man does not dress odd, in fact, he always looks so well put together. The women…oh dear. Purple tights, yellow shoes, green skirt and red top. Yeah, that’s an Aqua for you. Somehow they make it look so good, you may be wearing it next! They are ahead of us you know…
Funny in all this is I am currently getting a divorce from a crazy Sag (nothing to do with star sign, everything to do with mental illness) and met an Aqua. We have been talking and stuff for 2 months. He is currently ignoring me. I guess he likes me. He is a scientist, innovator, extremely intelligent and well, all around awesome man. I did tell him a joke and he smiled and don’t know, like he could not laugh. Odd. He is very boisterous though but that could be because I met him through his sister-I have known her over 12 years. Will update later if anything happens. He does seem clueless about women. I do notice that. But then again, they are secretive-my sister and niece are-so who knows.
All this is just a generalization because life experiences matter just as much if not more than a moon/sun sign.
Peace and LOVE THOSE AQUAS AS IS, or LEAVE! They will :). If they stay,put them in their place, you have to once in a while or they will get too full of themselves and walk all over you.They can and do like to dominate if you allow it. But it is a delicate situation to do this to them. Because again, if they don’t like it, they leave. Be Ok with them leaving. That gets to them, but they respect that. I think that is why Gems go so well with them. I know all about them too as my best friend and tons of relatives are Gems. I think Gems are like Aquas with a little more energy and craziness more like less thought, more action.In the end I love ‘em all!
Sorry so long and LOVE THIS SITE!!!
November 26th, 2008 at 6:57 am
Wow… Well, this is true. -eyes widen- About my love. -Grin- I’m a Gemini too!
November 27th, 2008 at 1:39 am
MY GOD you got alot of comments on this… haha so who am i? i hope mine is just as well counted, because im one of the many aquarian men who had to comment this. wow, how cliche, right? well i didnt read one comment that said “I AGREE WITH ALL OF THIS!!!!” well i personally do! i laughed so hard i almost died! yea were annoying! i annoy myself. just because i could stop you dead in your tracks with a huge, manipulative curveball and pin alot of those personality traits on anyone… even you… its still true. no need to lie. that honesty is awsome.
ive really wanted to meet someone who is fascenated with aquarius, rather than hearing “you aquarians are sooo weird!”… just like i am fascenated with (though i cant see eye to eye with..) scorpio, cancer, and virgo. and its awsome that youre in love with one. that guy must be good at it, because i personally can stand someone being in the way, and throwing my way of doing things off track. but i did NOT know that everyone in my life complaining about me ‘just poppin in and dissappearing for months’ was an aquarius thing… i just thought it was me, and that lets a bit of weight off of my chest because ive been wanting to tear WALLS DOWN out of frustration because i cant get ANYONE to believe that theres no harm intended… and though i now understand that a little better, i still cant understand why everyone is so rediculously sensitive. but its easier to accept.
anyway ill quit blabbin. i just wanted to give you mad props on that post!!
Rich.. also ironically known as(seriously, im not making this up) AquarianEyez
November 27th, 2008 at 7:32 am
Hi Rich, thank you for your comment!! I’m glad you enjoyed reading my post! I have found the best way to be with an Aquarius is just to let them be. Like you say, there is no harm intended with the way you guys are and understanding this is hard but worthwhile. It really does help to know your not an inconsiderate (you know what) but an Aquarius!! The best and only thing an Aquarius man can do is to admit how they are when loved one moan and say ’sorry I’m a pain’ because one of the most annoying things with you men is that you hate, detest and will not admit your wrong!! But I love all Aquarius men, they fascinate me and are also the funniest people on the planet!!
Love & Light
Becky
November 27th, 2008 at 4:10 pm
I am an Aquarius woman who CANNOT STAND Aquarius men. UGGH!
November 27th, 2008 at 4:17 pm
^HAHA wow, I didn’t mean to submit that comment so soon.
But yes, let me elaborate on why this Aquarius cannot stand AQUARIUS MEN!!!
I’ve dated three Aquarius men in my life, and I’ve had the SAME experience with all of them. They did NOT want anything serious, they wanted friends with benefits. Aquarian men play the field, ALWAYS. Period. They don’t know what they want, and they want their cake and eat it too…meaning friends with benefits, and “other” types of relationships…as long as they don’t involve commitment.
The funny thing is, they’re not conniving with it at all…they actually think it’s perfectly fine to expect someone to be no strings attached and sexually involved with them at the same time. Not an iota of guilt with these men…it’s just natural to them. In a naive, second-nature sort of way…not an evil, out-to-get-you type of way. They think it’s actually normal to have sex with someone and be “friendly” and “detached” from them at the same time. Either way, it doesn’t excuse their behavior.
Hey, that’s just my opinion of Aquarian men, sorry. That’s been my experience with them. Please, watch your backs with these guys.
November 27th, 2008 at 5:56 pm
Hey all this is for Aquagirl.I hate to hear about all the bad experiences you’ve had with our type.I will admit that it is hard for some of us to settle.I can’t realy say that i’m in a much better position,but my situation is different.Instead of playing the field..i’ve been keeping myself out of the field hoping that one day someone special that I do want to be with for the rest of my life shows up.I’ve been coming to the conclusion though that you can’t realy meet the one without putting yourself out there.Maybe it wasn’t three Aquarius jerks,but just three jerks you had relationships with.Then again the aquarius sign is kind of flakey…I just wanted you to know that other houses in our charts do change certain behaviors..and not all of us are out there scoring for the bleachers…thanks and I hope you do find someone…true love is the strongest emotion and in short supply…
November 29th, 2008 at 12:44 am
AquaGirl, My love is the one who wanted to commit before me and he’s an aquarius! He was the one who was the first to say that he could see himself old and grey with me…which was kinda scarey…with me being a Gemini and all. Now though, I’m thinking I want the same thing.
-Radiating happiness-
Not all aquarius are so for “friends with benifits” over committment…and I have proof right here. -points at my aquarius-
I am truly sorry for your bad experiences with these guys…but I’m sure it not all comes from their sign but from the way they were raised and their past experiences.
November 29th, 2008 at 9:59 pm
haha yes this is for aquagirl as well. first big mistake, which should be common sence for me, is that you tried to make it with another aquarius. whatever that brings, it cant be good! but yes what you said makes sence! thats how we are, tough s***. although i dont know the biggest difference between aquarius men and women, we most likely (at least on my part) are terrified of emotional attachment. when it comes to showing it, if we show it… nothing good comes of it, and it seems if we hide it trying to spare ourselves and everyone around us the bitter truth, people get frustrated and confused and nothing good comes of that either. its a double edge sword and the easiest way to handle it is to, more elaborately speaking, take the desired personality.. which we have created in the back of our minds to fit any situation we want, and flip it with the emotionally torn up mess of a personality which lies in front of our minds. Aquarians are very far from unemotional, we are emotional WRECKS… but when we observe someone else whos feelings just pour out for everyone to see, people (or maybe just aquarians, im not sure) see it as really stupid. to me, it makes someone look really weak willed and worthy of being highly embarassed when they show a sign of emotion. (usually because emotion is what people are trying to get out of you, and who would willingly give someone that satisfaction?!)
all in all, we see things in ways that NOBODY understands. not even other aquarians. i get hassled, questioned, looked at funny, talked about… and i usually become the center of attention because im so weird. but the thing is that we see things the way we see them, and we wont admit to being wrong about something that does not seem wrong to us. WRAPPING IT UP .. haha i know, i know “FINALLY”.. but playing the field is FUN! (speaking souly from this aquarians mind) the thought of not being able to go where ever i want when i wanna go there and do whatever i want when i wanna do it makes my gut turn. ive wasted SO much time with emotional attachment, and there is only one female one this planet who gets the satisfatcion of seeing exactly what i feel. once youre in, youre in! and that is a terrifying feeling. we do not need ANYONE by our side for anything. someone who does is the BIGGEST sign of weakness. sex with someone who can be your friend is a desire that seems like it came from someone who does not know what its like to have a girlfriend who knows how to be your buddy, and not just your girlfriend. we trained. lastly. we trained ourselves… at a VERY early age… that if we hold our heart out in front of someones face, more than likely, the animal instinct kicks in and someone plays with it and messes it up. and unlike MOST, it seems like there is a simple lesson to learn here. uhhhh der derrrrr, its just gonna keep happening. and there is a VERY simple solution. just put your heart back in your chest, stitch your chest up, put a shirt over it to hide it, and stay alone and to yourself until it heals because people will see the blood seeping through. and when it heals, and it will.. no matter how deathly terrible it feels. you can go about your life with no visible heart, because you put it back where it belongs. and what your heart tells you, YOU can deal with yourself. its not exposed anymore so what other people think, say, and do doesent matter in the least because they have no idea HOW to hurt you when everything is tucked back where it belongs.
‘SIGHS’
there you have it. hahaha. plain and simple. thats how we are. and thats exactly why. i tried my ABSOLUTE BEST not to leave anything out.. nothing i said is meant to justify anything.
Q: “hey why did all the buildings fall down?”
A: “there was an eatrhquake”
Responce “thats no excuse!”
–thats right, its the actual reason.
love, peace, and chicken grease
November 30th, 2008 at 5:17 pm
Hi Becky.I find your posts very interesting.Im a aquarius man too.I agree with most of what you said except “embarrassment” thing.I think im just human and i cant be perfect so I dont feel embarrassed when i dont know something or i cant
do something.I have a very good ability of controlling my emotion (not lack emotion).Emotion is somewhat not logical,though its part of human,but we can do many things better without it.
Your site really wake up my bad habit.When i find something interesting,i devote all my time to it.This time is astrology.I have spent whole several days reading many sites,blog on it.And what i totally agree with Rich is “we see things in ways that NOBODY understands. not even other aquarians” and “i usually become the center of attention because im so weird”.The common thing I read is that people find Aquarius so weird,cold,stubborn…We have our own logics and they just dont understand.I always have problems to get along with girls.Some just stay away and think “that weird guy…”.Others say im so cold.Rich and Becky,any hints to improve my situation???Your ideas will be much appreciated.
Anyway im from southeast Asia,so my english sucks.Hope its understandable.
December 2nd, 2008 at 5:23 am
Rich,
What is your Chinese zodiac sign?
December 5th, 2008 at 7:58 pm
I find your site to be very refreshing. I have been looking at different sites to see about compatibility with an Aquarius man and they all say the same thing — he and I are not a good match.
I don’t agree because the man who I am in love with is an Aquarius and I am a Scorpio and we get along fine. You are so on point about giving them a dose of their own medicine because there was an instance when he wouldn’t answer the phone and ignored me even after I apologized to him. Yes I do have a temper but I realize that I have to be tactful when talking to him and that hurdle we have gotten over. So then he did something that I didn’t like — like the “into himself” thing and I didn’t call him or answer his calls for a week and it got to him. We have gotten over that hurdle.
I think the important thing is communication and I don’t push him on issues — I wait until he brings up a subject and then I ask him to elaborate or it and it does. If I bring it up though — he acts as if he doesn’t hear me at all….LOL.
I think he is the sweetest, most loving man that I have ever dealt with and I love him for that. He is very sensual, totally erotic, and has stamina that makes me feel like my head is spinning. However, any new positions or sexual experiements that I wish to try, I just wait until he mentions it because otherwise he won’t want to do it.
He is very attentive to my needs and for some reason he can’t keep his hands or lips off of me! Wow! I am loving this relationship and just recently he asked me to be his woman — of course I said yes!
My intuition tells me that he loves me, I can tell by the way he looks deep into my eyes ALL the time and because he is always with me. When we go out — his eyes do not roam, they are constantly on me and he is constantly touching me as if no one else in the world exists. I love him — but I have not told him that I love him. I’ll wait until he feels comfortable enough to tell me that he loves me.
I’m wondering if we get along so well because he is on the cusps of Capricorn and Aquarius? Capricorn is a definate match for me and I think that sometimes he acts like a Cap and other times he acts like an Aquarius.
December 8th, 2008 at 10:15 pm
kacey… my chinese zodiac sign????? im not quite sure, ive calculated dragon AND hare.
kind of confusing.
why do you ask?
December 10th, 2008 at 1:29 pm
WOW!!! you hit the spot. This is all true! at least from the perspective of the partner. And obviously you were right because the Aquarius men do not seem to be taking the negetive things in. I love my Aquarius.
December 12th, 2008 at 5:56 am
Dear Becky,
I am new to the Aqua Man’s world and your advice is GREATLY appreciated.I am a Sag girl involved with a Aqua guy and after reading this realize the reason he has been ignoring me and avoiding me is because he must be blocking his emotions. We are not an official couple though we both want to be together. Drama. We have messed around from time to time and have been quite close for a few years. Scary close. Know each others thoughts close. He has been there for me through every hard time for the last few years. I really am in love with him, but will not let him know yet. A few weeks ago his ego was bruised and he is still not over it. I have tried to talk to him about it a few times and each time he walks away from me. Thank you for letting me know that is typical Aqua behavior bc it sure hurt me.I tried to talk to him again, in the car where he could not escape, and he just shut me out. Would not speak. Pulled his hat down and pretended to sleep. This infuriated me so I yelled and screamed and with no response I said things I now regret. I apologized the next day and saw him several days later thinking all was fine, but he kept his distance. Far away, which I did not understand till I read this. Is it safe to say he is still brooding(hurt), but not willing to admit it? How long do I have to give him his space? What is the best way to fix us bc I sure miss how things used to be? He completely makes me crazy, but I do love him! PLEASE HELP!
December 15th, 2008 at 3:36 am
Hi, I am an Aries women with an Aquarius man we have been together for 3 and a half years now and about a month ago he broke up with me, he said it was becaue he met someone else, well I later found out that this girl he left me for was just some internet girl that lives 16hours away, he had been talking to her over the internet and text messageing and a few phone calls, it happened right when he was going threw some stuff, from working nights to going back to school during the day, trying to buy a truck and finding out he couldn’t afford it, everything was happening at once he said, he said he just couldn’t handle it and needed out, needed space, but i couldn’t understand why I had to be the one that got hurt in all of this, why did he have to leave me, couldnt he have just tell me that he needed some time alone, some space to think, well we had lots of fights, mostly me asking why..why did he do this, me yelling and nagging and him shutting down as always, so we took a break, at first we took some time apart and still talked we got together on the weekend and i found his cell and saw he was still talking to this other girl, so i lost it on him again, yelling and crying, but nothing from him, he left and didn’t come back, so i told him we needed to take a break and so we did, we didn’t talk for a week and we met up and had dinner and a very nice time together and got back together, it was great, just a week after we got back together i went on a trip for 2 weeks, he missed me more then i thought he would, he called me everyday and told me how much he loves me and misses me and now i’m back and i dont want to mess things up again, i want to give him his time alone but i don’t know how much time apart or for how long? I know he loves me and i love him very much, we just deeply love each other i just don’t understand him yet, but i’m learning, i think he left me for another girl just as a way out, as a way of changeing this up, a way of showing me he needs space. maybe? help me figure him out, i don’t want this to happen again, i love him and i don’t want to lose him. thanks.
December 16th, 2008 at 6:29 am
Hi Becky,
I just have a quick question…I’ve been “interested” in this aquarius male for almost a year now. We aren’t seeing each other, really…aside from a moment or two. Anyway, he’s kind of confusing. he acts like he’s really into me (when we actually see each other) but then we won’t talk for weeks. And then, we’ll see each other again (as if no time has passed.) We have great conversation (when we have it), and a strong chemistry. But, there’s some kind of detachment. (hence, the long bouts of silence inbetween). But recently, he shared with me some pretty personal feelings about his dad (who passed away when he was a small child.) he told me some of the memories he had, how he felt after losing him, etc. Is this a sign that he’s developing a (dare I say it..) bond with me? Are the periods of silence just the aquarius way? OR AM i being totally played? Also, is it typical for aquarius men to have so many friends that are girls? I really don’t mind..just don’t want to be completely foolish about keeping an interest in someone who may be just stringing me along for the fun of it. Are aquarians known for that, too? Any advice/suggestions…anyone?
Some “quick” question..huh? (sorry)
I’m a pisces (sun) moon/mars (gemini) and venus (aquarius) year of the dragon. Just in case that helps..
Oh, his venus is capricorn.
Thanks!
December 16th, 2008 at 7:16 am
Hi there Pisces dragon,
Thanks for your comment. I don’t normally look at people’s charts in comments as I really don’t have the time but well you caught my eye..must be the Dragon in you!! Having Venus in Aquarius and his in Capricorn will always cause a few probs, but understanding that is the only battle and knowing if you can deal with it. Venus in Aquarius is a pretty detached sign but Capricorn is even more so just not in the same way. Aqua’s always come with some kind of unique individuality wherever they are in your chart which makes them endearing one way or another, Capricorn….you won’t understand him, he will try so hard to lock you out as they simply won’t/can’t show you emotion. Aquarius guys normally have lots of friends but only one person they truly connect too. Some people say they are players, I disagree, unless they have some afflictions in their chart they really don’t know how to flirt and be a player to be honest and with a Venus in Capricorn then no, he just has female friends because let’s face it, us girls are great!
Have to go, must get children to school, never enough time!!
Love & Light
Becky
December 16th, 2008 at 4:03 pm
Hi Becky,
Won’t you help me out, Aries women with Aquarius man. I posted earlier.
December 17th, 2008 at 10:47 pm
hi pisces dragon…
your post sounds exactly like my situation. i think i must have posted my own ponderings on aquarius men on the pisces/aquarius thread.
anyway with reading through some of this stuff on auqarius men i can see that i may have his behaviour a little confused. he is very full on one minute…& then a bit off & detached. i thought he was playing some kind of mindgame but i think its just the way he is…a little detached at times. of course for us pisces women thats lethal & asking for trouble as we like to know we are being adored constantly lol
also it was only when he seemed to be playing hard to get that i missed/wanted him more… now i can’t figure out how much is me (my ego) wanting him to want me all the time & my actualy really falling for him if you follow!?
December 18th, 2008 at 4:14 pm
PiscesQueen,
Although I cannot say for sure, I think you’re right about the ego-trip. I, too, have wondered the same thing about my current situation. Is it really “HIM” or the challenge of getting him that peaks my interest? In previous “interests” I’ve put a lot of thought and energy into the idea of them, but when they show ME how much they care I would quickly lose interest. I know that sounds so harsh, but it’s true. Only a couple times have I ever been completely attached to a person for any length of time. I usually get coldfeet and wiggle away before things get “too serious” as I think I’m uncomfortable with my expressing my feelings on a very personal level. Mind you, I speak so eloquently amongst a non-threatening audience, otherwise I’m like a fish-out-of-water (no pun intended). I’ve never told this aquarius man how I feel. He probably has no clue–as I play it very cool. But then, so does he. Perhaps he and I are playing it a little too cool? I doubt that will ever work, huh. Seems like someone has to give. What he doesn’t realize is that I really am a very thoughtful and caring person, and I will go to many lengths to show it, but only if I know it will be appreciated. To me, the heart is a gift–and i’m very selective when giving it away (completely). I’d hate to admit to someone that they have my heart (vulnerability) and then have them not cherish it. So, until I know for certain it will be taken care of…I keep it to myself.
Don’t I sound a bit scattered! Geez!
I think we are both guilty of wanting what we can’t have. It is what it is, eh?
December 19th, 2008 at 12:29 am
well no being a fellow pisces girl myself you don’t sound scattered at all…thats the only way i think lol
but what are we like eh??
when men are all over us we feel trapped…& leave…& then we meet an aquarius…& everything we know & are used to evaporates!!!
i have never been as intrigued or as frustrated by a man ever in my life…& being a pisces i have a lot of exes…including 3 ex husbands…i share my birthday with the ultimate piscesqueen…lizzie taylor no less!!
i wish you peace of mind in your aquarian quest
…looks like we’ll need it lol
January 4th, 2009 at 6:47 am
You’ve hit the nail on the head! You just described my aries-ex perfectly! It’s always a horrible idea to nag and push Aquarius men, because they WILL retreat into themselves. If they throw one of their tantrums and storm off into an oblivion where and doing who-knows-what, then do give them a taste of their own medicine! If you are angry at them, don’t tell them because that makes them storm off for even longer! I’ve found keeping my quiet is best. And if I’m still upset, writing a *brief* note is received better than verbal confrontation. Leave out every little grievence from the note, keep it to the bare minimum! remember, aquarious men are bright and hide a wealth of emotion. They’ll figure it out.
I have to agree with the Asperger’s Syndrome comment and want to add that these men seem Bipolar at times.
I have also found that they are excellent at living a double life since they are so aloof and good at containing their emotions.
Crazy as it is, I love aquarious men too!
January 8th, 2009 at 4:02 am
wow you described my confusing what ever you wanna call him aquarius!he’s not quite my boyfriend and sometimes i’m not sure if he is into me then other times he leaves me in shock when he shows true gestures of affection towards me.but more or less you described him to a tee.he totally confuses me he will give me just enough to convince me he’s into me and cares then bam nothing for a period of time.i know he feels something for me only because he tends to open up to me,he seems comfortable with revealing himself to me but only briefly.once he told me i could do better than him and he didn’t have anything to give me but his love.i’m curious if that is possibly the reason he’s behaved this way with me is it he’s just afraid that this could be something serious,is he afraid he will fall for me or is it really because he doesn’t feel he’s good enough? any advice for me?please help me if you have any advice because i’m really into him and it’s driving me crazy!
January 9th, 2009 at 4:21 pm
Hi Amber,
I’m an Aquarius female, but I think I have a little insight into the Aquarian male mind.
One thing all Aquarians can’t stand is too much drama. If you are a drama queen, whiny and clingy, your Aquarian man will get very aloof and fly off into outer-space. I absolutely can’t stand drama of any kind. Put that stuff on the stage, ya know, where it’s appreciated!
If you want to get him to tune into you, do something quirky and offbeat. Show him some pics from the Hubble site (http://hubblesite.org/) because most of us love astronomy. But drama will kill the relationship.
When he gets aloof, take this time to work on yourself and leave him alone. He’s probably exploring other planets. They do call us “space cadets”.
Go work out, get a hobby, get busy with your own life while he’s out there floating around in space. He’ll come back down to earth. Just don’t bug and nag him because that is a big turn-off to Aquarians. They love independence in themselves and others.
Be independent and never clingy and dependent.
I do find the males to be a little more aloof than the females. But Paul Newman was a wonderful Aquarian male whose best friend was Leo Robert Redford. Aquarians are humanitarians so you’ll attract one by being very involved in humanitarian causes.
Aquarians are to humans as what PETA is to animals. Tell him about some injustice with a human being and you’ll get his attention.
Keep him interested by allowing him plenty of freedom to explore the universe and give him lots of space. Whatever you do, don’t be clingy, whiny and dependent.
Good luck.
January 10th, 2009 at 8:34 pm
Hi Becky,
I found your site checking pices Auq. match.
I really liked how you wrote it and decided to read your opinion of my Aquarius sign. I find most are the same stuff just written a little differently. When I read this part above I felt you hit it right on the head and I can Identify with almost all of it.
We dont mean to do these things that people dislike, to harm them, we often feel its for the better. But Ive found that I too can be more open to others and not so aloof. It takes a conscious effort on my part. And its easy to find yourself back to where you were. But you right, its like were Aliens or somehow different from others in the way act and think. Our ideas and ideals.
In the future Ill come here first for advice from the stars. Thanks for you honest and accurate portrayal of my sign.
Sean
January 14th, 2009 at 4:09 am
Hey Becky,
This is my first time on your site. My man on and off of 8 years is an Aquarus fits this profile. In 8 yrs the longest we have gone without talking was 30 days and it was brutal for both of us. Im a Gemini. I truley enjoyed this article. We truely understand each other and know each other like a glove. All his little quirks I just accept it is easier that way. I am sure you understand.
One Luv,
Lena
January 14th, 2009 at 11:41 am
Hey Marlena wen is your and your aqua mans birthday?
x
January 19th, 2009 at 12:42 am
Where do I start? I was born May 28th, he was born January 23rd. We have worked together for a year and was attracted immediately. I am very much older than he is but he already dates older women due to being married at an early age to a young woman who cheated on him. He called me first. We then started doing the get together at his place for a movie and talk,,etc. Very nice. Since we work in gossip city, we are private, or should I say HE is private. He then asked me over for movie and wine, he wanted to try some different things. We did and had a very nice time. We slept together but did not have sex just some kissing and touching. The next week right before New Year, he asked me over and we fooled around but no sex. He told me to sleep there and I did for a while, but I couldn’t stay. Little did I know I was having an adverse reaction to some medicine which caused me to become paranoid. I did the unthinkable. I texted him all night on New Years to come get me and then from there just started to psycho text him. I could not help it. I was not eating, sleeping and I was obsessing. When the doctor figured it out I spent the day in the hospital with medicine to reverse the affects and get me back to normal. I apologized and explained to him what has happened. He has not had one thing to do with me. He comes into the office talking about the women he is going to meet in Brazil when he takes a trip and how he wants a Hispanic woman and he likes women to make the first moves. He has never talked this way before. He knew this was hurting me but kept on all away acting like I was not even in the room nor did he even look at me if I spoke. I was quite embarassing. I sent him a message because I can’t talk to him at work, that I just wanted to know if he got my little present Ileft on his desk. I could not believe he could treat me that way and I did not think he was capable. I told him basically I cared for him but if nothing is was he wanted from me, he could have it because I was strong and independent. I said maybe one day you will want to be friends again but if not there is nothing I can do about that. I told him I was shocked at his treatment and I just could never do him that way. So, here we are now working the same shift. He of course as usual, did not respond and I am sitting here clueless wondering if what I did was so horrible for him to hate me or if maybe he does not. But he can give me these stares if he does not approve of me saying something that might get people thinking we are seeing each other as the last time he was involved with a co-worker it was really bad. I don’t want that so I understand his laserbeam glares, in fact I found it to be quite cute actually and felt like the scolded little girl. I guess I need to know with your experience if this is a combination that is totally over, because it was short lived just two months and the age difference is 18 years. But I guess I thought if he did not care he would not be acting like he is. I am really confused. What did I do so wrong besides text him too much. I explained what had happened, it just seemed to make her angrier. Help me, just advice. Do I need to move on knowing its over. Thanks and sorry so long. A lot to tell…..I am heartbroken. Also, I know the age difference is great but everyone thinks I am his age which is 32. Everyone says I look 36 or so. Good living, no drinking and smoking I guess. Please let me know asap. I don’t know exactly how to act around him and I work closely around him every day.
Veronica
January 20th, 2009 at 5:12 am
I keep trying to talk to him but I fear its making it worse. Please give me some advice on how to handle this man.
Veronica
January 20th, 2009 at 9:05 am
hi becky,
i wanted your opinion on how things went down with me and my aqua ex.I am an aries. here is the gist. i was at the end of a relationship as he just ended his when we met but apparently we have crossed paths sometime before as he is a very good friend of my brother for six years. . And we had only met at this particular time very strange lol. We only talked for about an hour at a club then I was to call him but had the wrong number so I emailed him to let him know. We chat on email most of the following day and he called me on his lunch break. We talked for a bit and he was trying to get me to say that I love him but what shocked me even more was he said it first and I am in my mid twenties so it was a shock but strangly I felt the same. He said he thought I was his soul mate and I never believed in that before and I agreed. He left to visit his family for a week but he called me and text me constantly. I extended my stay and when he returned we spent the next twenty or so days together then I finally made my flight arrangements to go home. There was lots of drama with my situation and things happend and I ended up telling him we should not talk anymore. two weeks went by then he called me and we talked like nothing happend and he still loved me and we talked most of the day. Then he found someone. When i went back in november she moved but they were still “together” and he waited for me outside of a local bar we talked and again he said he still loved me but things are so hard and I could tell by the way he looked at me that it was hard for him. i have not kept any contact with him but I think of him everyday I try really hard not to his birthday is coming up and I will be sending him a card but not call him. I dont know what his relationship status is but what are your thoughts? Are things done between us should I just let it be what it was and forget about the future we talked about? Mostly he talked about. He said things and showed so much emotion to me I had to believe it was real but was it? He told me that he told my brother (back when we were talking still…they are really good friends)that I was the only one he ever thought was the one but circumstances are what they are and make it difficult. What is your opinion on this situation?
lovesalias
January 20th, 2009 at 9:16 am
oh I forgot to mention how sometimes while we were together I would catch him staring at me and then his eyes would well up and i would ask him what the matter was and we would just say its hard to know for him that i had to leave. While I was visiting there he wanted to see me everyday and when we could not be together we would chat on email or text. He cried a lot on my last day and occassionally the days prior to my leaving. I never showed too much emotion until the last hour we spent together I broke down too. I really felt something different for him I really felt he is my twin flame and soul mate. Its been almost a month since we last spoke or text or anything. I don’t know what to do. I know all of his ex girls always try to keep in contact with him but I have not and i wonder if it is the right thing to do. I tell myself if he wants me he will be back let him be and if not it wasn’t meant to be. Should I keep it like this just wait and see or is there something i should do if i still want him? I would appreciate any insight you might have in my situation.
January 24th, 2009 at 10:30 pm
Follow your heart
January 25th, 2009 at 11:44 pm
Aqua Rebel,
Do I just call him and put it out there. I am not looking for marriage but I need him in my life in some way something I have done without for a long while. Follow my heart, I would let him go on and find who he wants being selfish, I want to be with him…..I have text him numerous times with no response. He has been off of work for four days and I have not heard one word. I guess I just don’t want to believe it. I want to text him and ask to see him. I guess that will run him off further, am I correct. I mean how long do these guys retreat from you? I have not heard from him since January 1st. I am just in denial I fear.
Let me know.
Veronica
January 26th, 2009 at 7:15 am
Becky ,
Could you give me some insight. This man is friends with everyone but me. He is trying so hard to make me jealous or make a point talking to all the girls in the room telling them things he had shared with me I.e. Traveling, women (although that was new). The last night we were together I loved on him. Then when I wanted more in bed, he told me baby there will be more nights. Yet after my medication reaction on new years night, I have not heard a word since and this month is almost over. I don’t know what to think. I was married many years and I have not felt for my ex the feelings I feel for this aqua man so quick. I guess with the age gap and his absolutely no response to one text, my own brain says move on. It’s just I have not given my heart away since my first husband and it’s been 5 years since. I’m a fool ……I’m a gemini. The first night I spent the night , no sex but he picked me ip and carried me like a baby to his room. He was the perfect gentleman. Maybe my lack of strength after a long time without and my feelings for him I made him feel like I was a whore. I don’t know anything about love or if I believe in it anymore. Any words of advice or encouragement would be most helpful now.
January 26th, 2009 at 9:44 am
Veronica,
I totally understand what your going through my aqua guy does the same thing.I will spend time with him and chat,text,etc.when I can’t be with him and then out of no where he goes m.i.a for a couple weeks at a time sometimes I won’t hear from him for a month which really gets under my skin because as it is we live about an hour away from each other so it’s already kind of limited for us.I have no idea why he does it but I do know most of the time when it occurs something is up with him.Usually if it’s been a little over a week that I haven’t heard from him I know he’s dropped off the radar and there is no telling how long it will be before I hear from him, but I’ve figured out in my situation with this almost every time he’s done this it’s because he has had some major problems in his personal life due to family situations etc.When ever he finally decides to get a hold of me he usually will tell me what all has went on with him.I think it’s just his way of dealing with things being that he is a typical detached aqua.I have learned when it happens it’s probably because he’s got a lot on his shoulders and when he’s ready he’ll come around.Unfortunately with an aqua you just have to be patient and let it happen when it does in other words…when thier good and ready it will.But the question is are you patient enough to wait til’ who knows when for it to happen? My advice to you is if you really want him be patient,don’t text and call and try to track him down or he will loose interest!
Hope this can help you understand your aqua a lil’ better.Amber
January 26th, 2009 at 1:32 pm
Hey Veronica, listen I would not worry about it at all….you reallly are beating yourself up over this man..the thing is you have to give this Aqua man time to heal..rememebr he wont just heal when you think he will it will take some time. And leave him, if he is trying to make you joeloius then I think as well as he is acting like a baby, he still must have feelings for you if he is trying so hard to make you jeolous…give it more time and if things dont get better then move on honey thats all you can do!
and amber whens your birthday !
January 26th, 2009 at 9:54 pm
Amber and Haz91,
That is all very helpful information. But how do you deal with these long voids of nothing from them? Are you both married to these guys and if you were or were not, could you take that disappearing for weeks, months? I don’t think I could unless he told me where he was going. I truly feel something for this man and I believe he does me because he has never showed a jealous bone in his body ever. But maybe he is just trying to show me he does not care for me at all and to leave me alone. He sure does not want to know or worry about me. I guess I will just leave it alone. He has not really communicated with me one on one for almost a month. And its been four days since I saw him last because he was off work for his birthday. Something I was not included in and thats okay. I think since he was the one who initiated it first, two times, because I turned him down first, and he kept inviting me over and intiated the intimacy he cares. But it had been so long for me, I wanted more. He said baby there are other days. I said, ok. When we went to sleep he did not hold me like he did is the past. So maybe the thinks I am cheap or something and does not want anymore to do with me. That was December 30th, then I had than reaction to some medicine my doctor put me on and I became obsessed/paranoid calling him and texting. It was since then he has looked at me with glares and ignoring me. I explained, but I don’t think it changed him at all. I guess I will see tomorrow when he comes to work. Before we started seeing each other he was never in my work place, now when I had been coming to work, he is sitting in here. Wish me luck, because although I am older, there is definitely some chemistry there. How can he deny that and walk away when its so hard to find? Thank you both for your responses and please respond again if you have something else to englighten me with.
Veronica
Thanks so much again for everything
January 27th, 2009 at 9:17 am
Veronica, I have a hard time dealing with his distance as well but I really want to be with him so I’m doing my best to be patient with this guy.Aquas are notorious for being distant and unemotional they seem detached on the outside and are really convincing to the rest of us.An aqua will walk away and loose it all before they reveal how much they desperately love you and need you.These guys are not good at relationships and it takes them a long time to come around.My advice to you would be if you really want him let him come to you when he’s ready…don’t put your life on hold waiting for him though.If you are someone that is emotionally and mentally affected by the lack of affection and attention and you find yourself stressing off it on a daily basis and your getting depressed over it,leave it alone! These men are very distant, don’t get me wrong when they do come around they can be loving etc., but they may take forever to get there!If your affected to the point that your unhappy move on sweetie because you are always number one love yourself first!
January 27th, 2009 at 9:19 am
Haz91,
My birthday is August 15th I’m a proud Leo baby!
January 27th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
Amber thanks..a leo and Aqua make a love or hate relationship and in your case it is love !
Veronica babe you have to move on..and as Amber said very rightfully that Aqua are very prepared to walk away from what they have very easily..leaving the other person hurt. But they will soon come round because they realise their loss. Also not being biased..you have to rememer, that you calling and texting him in a frenzy..must have scared him away .. and it could have hurt him…I dont think he has forgotten what you had but just needs time to heal and therefore is doing everything in his power to make you realise that even if it is hurting you. Rememeber Aquarius find it hard to deal withe emotion and you have to give him time and space even if does take 20 years! he will come back round…once you have upset this sign it is very hard to get back into their good books…I would know..I havent done it personally but there are alot of my friends who have dated this sign and hurt the AQUARIUS and its sad…because they want to be with the person they give their love and trust to.. but if you urt them then they just cant bring themsleves to accepting whats happened and take time off to detach and heal…
So dont worry..dont get to hung up on him and occpy yourself with soemthing else..and show to him that his jeoulosy technique is failing by getting on with your life and ignoring him! :))
January 27th, 2009 at 7:41 pm
It amazes me how this guy can pull me around like a puppet on a string. More amazing, is that I KNOW this and go with it anyway. I can’t help but wonder why I am accepting of this. Sure, we have some very great moments together, but they are so few and far inbetween that I’m not allowed to call this anything more than a casual affair. I’m not not wanting a commitment, persay, but the confirmation that this could be more than a fling would be nice. I’m not happy with the situation.
It won’t be easy, as I know I will miss him, but I’ve decided that I have to love myself more than this. After all, I want a friend. Sure, we have great chemistry, which puts me on cloud nine no doubt, but obviously, even GREAT chemistry can only sustain a person for so long.
I know he enjoys my company, but I also believe he just enjoys women. I’m not just “another girl” and if he so chooses to be a part of my life (whether it be for friendship or more) he’s going to have make the next move. For now, I think I’ll leave the game-playing to checkers and chess.
January 28th, 2009 at 4:11 am
Im laughing out loud at your description of the Aquarius man you just described my husband {well estranged for almost 2 years husband}. I am a Libra and we have had the most fabulous times together. He has left me before and returned; though it has never seemed to last this long. Im afraid there is another relationship going on. He is with a Sagitarius right now but has yet to divorce me! Im interested in your thoughts on that. I love my Aquarius with alll my heart and seem to keep waiting on his return. I may be insane but my gut says honey yall are meant to be!
January 30th, 2009 at 8:17 am
dear all, happy aquarius days!
@veronica
maybe you somewhat too boring for your aquarian.or too dependable.. you make his freedom bugged, i think. what do u think? try this trick if you want your aquarian lover comeback to you : be cool, and be friends with all his friends. try make them closer to you than him, and make it all seems natural. u know what i mean right? dont show your emotional words and gestures in front of him, just cool. and just wait until he come back to you.
regards all from bali.
January 30th, 2009 at 5:35 pm
As far as too boring not the case at all. Im not boring and we have been on tons of adventures together. Maybe he decided commitment wasnt for him but he came and went as he pleased I didnt have him on a short leash and he asked me to marry him not the other way around. Libras arent known for being boring. thanks for the input though
February 1st, 2009 at 6:28 am
I don’t think I had the chance to be boring. I think maybe he stopped something before it got to a point he and myself could walk away. He just shows with his face he cares.., maybe I need to read the book, “he’s just not that into you”. Ha! Oh well I have to be with him at work 5 days a week so getting over him will be very hard. Keep your advice coming at things that have worked for you getting your aqua man back! For now, I’ll move on. I don’t have a choice…..
Veronica
February 2nd, 2009 at 7:22 pm
yes its very good… just had to read it again. all except one little part…
how would you consider being able to control your emotions childish?
i would consider scorpio and cancer the most emotionally childish of the zodiac, because from my experience, their emotions are off the chain and for some reason, they cant control their actions at all.
but i personally think that being in control of your actions and emotions more adult than not being able to control it..
other than that, the post is still about the funniest aqua post ive ever read!
February 2nd, 2009 at 11:30 pm
rich , was that for me? I’m a Gemini and I can be somewhat childish with my emotions I also can turn them off. But what was so funny? Just wondering.
Veronica
February 3rd, 2009 at 5:36 am
I guess it is all pretty funny and incredibly childish!!! Men. .. And women!!!!
February 6th, 2009 at 9:57 pm
To Veronica!
Okay here you go …. I was recently in the same situation with a Aquarius man… I’m Aries…
Just when I felt like we we’re about to get to that relationship status he backed up. We didn’t hang out like we used to, we didn’t make love, he didn’t call or text, it was like everything kind of stopped.
For a while there I thought it was me, I thought something happened and he was scared to tell me what we ‘have’ is over. And then I started thinking ‘oh my god’ it’s another girl.
about two months went by and I decided that instead of being miserable and getting hurt everytime he said no to me when I wanted to hang out and waiting by the phone for him..to let him go…
I got out there and started to prepare myself for the end of ‘us’.. I truly felt like he didn’t want anything to do with me. Well word got out .. ( i’m a blabber) that I had gotten a number from a guy (who I met at a resturant,he was a gemini) ,and my aquarius called me that day …
pretty upset on why I didn’t have the respect to tell him I was moving on… In my mind I thought that he was already moved on, all of his actions made me feel like he didn’t want to be with me. So I told him straight up that I love him, but I didn’t know what was going on… so I prepared myself to move on, and that I thought about him everyday and that I would never disrespect him, and that he left me in the dark…
He apologized and said it was his fault for not telling me he needed time to himself… but not to take it personal…
We made up…
We’re back to where we we’re before his …’detachment’ …
Man, I really love him… but it’s so tough to understand his detachmentand to deal with it… but it’s a part of him.
He will come around when he wants to …but its up to you if waiting around is worth it.
Thats what I struggled with, but this Aquarius is someone special to me, very special, I do not believe he will ever hurt me intentionally and I know he cares about me.
If you feel that your feelings are one sided I would look at this guy as not just another Aquarius but as maybe someone who just isn’t right…
I wish you luck with this man but most of all I wish you happiness…!!! with or without this person!!!
February 8th, 2009 at 1:30 am
dbella,
After I read this from you, I felt you knew my heart exactly. It was like you typed it. I then went to work. He was there and he smiled at me which caught me off guard. I said hello and when he asked how I was I said, “fabulous!”…well the next thing I had was a text message that he missed me. It was with a different cell number. During this time apart, he changed his number but now gave it to me. Later on when he was needed for a work issue another co-worker called him for his new number and he said he was not giving it out they could use his work number. I was amazed he had already given it to me and refused to give it to anyone else in the workplace. Next thing I know he wants me to come watch a movie. I did, although, I know I should have said no and went anyway. We had a great time and against my better judgement I slept with him for the first time. It was wonderful and he was great. So, like yourself, I see this is a special man and can do wonderful things and then disappear. I need to learn to deal with it or let him go. I am just not ready to let go yet. Thank you for such a sensitive response.
Veronica
February 8th, 2009 at 2:38 pm
Veronica,
After dealing with so much with these men, when everything comes together and you finally sleep together… Your judgement is A-OKAY lol…
You slept with someone you care about.. something a lot of people fail to do!
Take care … keep me updated and I’ll do the same, cause I’m almost positive these men will do another thing to surprise us.!!
Your sign again?
February 8th, 2009 at 8:55 pm
Veronica…is everything sorted now then or is it still going wrong….
How are things between you and your aqua man..believe me these guys are shockers and love giving surprises no mater how miserable it makes you!
:))
x
February 9th, 2009 at 5:47 pm
I have recently been duped by another aquarian male. This is the second two-yr relationship with an aquarian male that was great and fun and loving (I’m a gemini female) but ended with them breaking up to pursue relationships with exes. Although there is a lot of fun and attention, the secretive, walking away, deceitful and detached behavior is tortuous and abusive. Right now there is another aquarian male chasing after me. This time I will have fun for awhile and then move on before it gets emotional.
February 9th, 2009 at 5:50 pm
Oh, I forgot to mention, in both cases we had been planning futures together and were in committed relationships, supposedly.
February 9th, 2009 at 6:12 pm
groovycoolbean-
I don’t get it … I really don’t they always have to test that greener grass…
I’m sorry .. and I agree with you these mind games make me feel ‘abused’ if not stupid for putting up with it…
You think that if you give honesty, you should receive honesty.. not so … all we can hope for is to be stronger and smarter for the next person that comes into our lives.
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February 9th, 2009 at 7:01 pm
OK, listen to this….I slept with him. It was everything possible for the first time. The next day, he came into work and would not make eye contact with me at all when he walked into the office. Not one time!!!! Day 2, nothing….I feel used and abused and its all my fault. I think his divorce from his wife devastated him to the point of wanting someone and gets to that point where he can’t stand being alone and when he gets what HE needs, he is fine by himself for the time being. I tell you what ladies, I am a valuable person and a great woman. I have a lot to offer a man and they are the qualities he is looking for, he has told me. But I also know his ex wife broke his heart cheating on him and I really don’t see this man settling down for a long long time. I am heartbroken and feel cheap and used and whats worse I did it to myself. Oh, and I am a Gemini….go figure…..Help with any advice….I know walk away and don’t look back….I guess I need to do that??
So confused.
Veronica
PS…I am reading the book “Why men love Bitches” its actually spot on!
February 10th, 2009 at 10:22 am
I’m a Libra and used to go out with an Aquarian.Sadly no more but I do think he was very special and different and I miss his uniqueness everyday.
I agree with the first comment on here about the fact they cannot deal with any issues you might have about their sometimes irratic behaviour. My ex also had an usual hobby of collecting 6o’s colourful vases- I put it down to him being an Aquarius! The Water bearer! Funny huh?
Anyway, Aquarians, gotta love ‘em!
February 10th, 2009 at 2:36 pm
Veronica-
I just got into work myself, and I read your post. I’m so sorry, I know how you feel and no amount of advice is going to make your work day any better because you will have to sit there and see him… jerk!
I totally feel like we are living the same situation, I also work with the Aquarius i’m ‘involved’ with. He can either light up my whole day by saying two stupid words or ruin it, by walking right past me. I hate that I allow him that power over me.
I’m going to assume that you two have email, or even text. The one thing I’ve learned is that they won’t approach, you will have to. Send him something short and sweet, and leave it at that. It will break the ice for you because you know you at least did your part. And that the ball is in his court.
When I say short and sweet I mean, Hi! or something even about work.
I’m going to say that what happened between you two is making him think. And it may be to re-evaluate your situation, or maybe (like mine does to me,) it has nothing to do with you but about what he’s feeling. Eventhough it feels like it has everything to do with us =)
Please please please do not feel down, life is short and your willing to live and go with your emotions and feelings, wherever it takes you…!!
You seen like a wonderful person, who is very smart, and who has a heart.
Take care
-dbella
February 10th, 2009 at 5:00 pm
thanks dbella =)
February 10th, 2009 at 8:12 pm
Reading these stories is so much like getting an outsiders view of my own situation. I’ve been so entangled with this one guy, who has also seemed very interested in me (when I see him, that is.) But, his on-again, off-again demeanor is becoming very emotionally exhausting, and I’ve well-surpassed the point of tolerance at this point. Then again, I can’t fault him–In reality, he nevre promised me a rose garden.
I’m certain that I have allowed myself to become romantically involved with the idea of him, more than anything. Sure, we seem to have an unmatchable chemistry when we’re together, but in the times that we’re apart I feel non-existent. And that has always bothered me. The difference between us is that I am still thinking about him long after our departure, and he’s doing other things.
All this time I have been frustrated with him, and how he treats me, and how he doesn’t call, and “how could he kiss me like that if he doesn’t mean it?”, etc. etc. etc. blah! WELL, Finally I’ve reached the conclusion that I’m complaining about the wrong person!!! The person that needs the talking to to isn’t HIM, it’s ME! Why would I stick around and wait for someone who doesn’t make sure I know they’re interested? Who doesn’t call? Who is wishy-washy? Who could act like I’m everything one day and then not talk to me for a month???? Who puts up with that crap?
Apparently someone who has no self-respect or higher expectations! People will treat us however they are allowed. And we allow them to treat us based on how we feel about ourselves. IF I truly felt I was worth more than this, then I would 1) Either demand it, or 2) Run, not walk!
I think it has been very unwise of me to create a “new” problem through this man to get my mind off of old ones. Aside from a temporary deflation of his ego, he would be just fine if we never spoke again-and that’s the way I should view him, rather than think this whole encounter was something special.
I think the problem is not HIM, but ME…and I suppose realizing that is just half the battle.
Erg! Still makes me mad as hell though.
February 11th, 2009 at 12:36 am
dbella,
he never texts me unless he wants something. He does not email me EVER! He is off the next 2 nights…..I won’t hear a word from him I just know it and if that happens, I will not be available. Whether I think he is all that or not. I deserve better. Or maybe I got what I deserve. Who knows. He will not open up and talk to me. I will keep you posted. Thank you so much for you talking with me.
Veronica
February 11th, 2009 at 6:32 pm
Hey Veronica…
Right I have been following your story concerning you and this Aquarius guy that you have clearly fallen head over heels for..and I have thought out some solutions on how you can deal with this heart pulling situation.
I think it is clear to all of us that the relationship that you and this guy had was very special and reached intense proportions. You clearly loved him and he clearly loved you..and if it was not love then there was something strong there. You both work together and from there on you developed much bigger and stronger feelings. Which is very common in the Aquarius and Gemini pairing.
Now, you go over to his house, spend some time with him and things start to get more deep and more romantic. But then something strange happens.. you become heavily sedated on medication and then go mad. Texting him frantically, telling him to come and pick you up and blah blah. Then it is from that day on where your relationship crumbles.
Looking at your story, I think I can understand partially why he is acting in such a detached and cold manner towards you. The main fact is that you scared him and got him a bit pissed off. Aquarian men when entering in a romantic relationship, like to be treated delicately, and especially with things getting quiet serius and intense between you and him at that time, I think he MUST have felt that you were treating the relationship like a joke . Am I right?
Now..you are saying that he is being a complete ass hole and he is acting like a jerk. Honey, I would say that you have to forget about him. This relationship between you and him is going up and down up and down, and its really not helping anyone. He ignores you, tries to make you jeolous, doesnt even look at you anymore, THEN suddenly you sleep together, then he starts giving you the cold shoulder. What is going on!
The Aqua and Gem relationship is described as one of the best, but little hiccups like this can not be ignored. I think objectively, he is wrong for being and acting like such a jerk, because its not like you cheated on him or caused any major turbulance. BUT, you kinda did the wrong things by acting alittle mad around him and calling him, heavily on medication. Aquarius can not and wont stand for ppl who they think are mocking the relationship..no matter how long or how much you apologise. Babe I have seen it.
Now I think that maybe he is over reacting towards you by being a silent and unattentive jerk because maybe this guy reallly liked you and wanted to get srius and pursue it further, but then maybe you scared him off, by doing that phone calling frenzy. Aqua men dont like to show fear in a relationship, so they blanket it with cold, arrogant and nasty attributes, which is being clearly shown from him.
All I can say is that maybe you need to relax, leave him alone , not be soo obsessive over him, because he is not worth it if he in turn is treating you like a no body. I mean come on girl, you are not that desperate that even when he ignores you and talks to every other person, and doesnt even look at you and is being such a twat, that you are still going after him. Okay what you did was abit freaky, but he is clearly acting like abit of a baby and you dont need to pander to him. So leave it, finito, zero zilch , no more…. if he isnt making an effort with you then you have to leave it.. because being a gem girl myself we might love these Aqua men, but when they act like this you have to learn to back off and just do your own thing. Because us Gem girls can hold our own!
Anyway I hope I helped put some things in perspective for you and brought you back to reality alittle bit…because I just want to see you happy and not beat yourself up for this everyday. Be happy, and be peaceful and give him time, if he comes back and wants things to be normal again, then that will be good he will come and approach you, but if continues doing this then GIRL leave him there are plenty more fish in the sea.
Take care Veronica
xxxxx
February 11th, 2009 at 6:53 pm
to Pisces dragon
I so feel your pain. I am beginning to think since we broke the barrier with sex, I’m a booty call now or at least he makes me feel that way. I have NEVER been that to a person so what is this telling me? I feel the same way as you. Honestly, as much as I care for him I could not live happily for a lifetime being treated that way. And the weird part is this is the man at work every woman is dying to be with. He has never dated any of them. Yet he called me for every time we were together. Nobody knows about us seeing each other and I prefer it that way. But when I say to the girls at work when they talk about his muscles and how handsome he is, what about me? They laugh and say in your dreams. (I am quite older than him). I’m just sick of his childish games. HELP! I don’t want to care about him. They can have him! Hehe
February 11th, 2009 at 7:19 pm
Haz91:
Thank you. You are spot on with everything you have said. Let me explain something though. I was born with a rare blood disorder hence reactions to meds. Didn’t know I had it till I was in hospital for the first time in my life at 19 years of age. I almost died. I don’t smoke, do drugs or drink (except wine occasionally). So i dont want you to have the impression i got high doing drugs recreationally, it was a new medicine combined with my thyroid med that created this, its horrible when it happens When I finally got the chance to tell him to his face, it was like, ok, meh no big deal. It really hurt my feelings. I think he acts this way towards me not because he’s an Aquarius but he just doesn’t care for me. I have now become his booty call. I just can’t do that. He has some power over me that I have got to break. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You are probably very right. We are both off tonight. I want to call and see how he reacts, just curious. Probably a bad idea though
Hugs
Veronica
February 12th, 2009 at 2:30 am
this is the most true thing i’ve ever read!
im “involved” with an amazing aquarious and im a pisces! so u can imagine all these things come up and annoy the sh*t outta me. but he also makes me strong, look at things in a “it not so bad” kind of way. even though they are difficult, its so worth it when you FINALLY get through to them………..
February 12th, 2009 at 3:39 am
Veronica,
How long have you and this Aqua known each other? You mentioned you work together, but how long since you first “noticed” each other?
The guy that grabbed my attention entered into my life a couple years ago. We were hanging out with some friends, had a bit too much to drink, and found ourselves in each others arms kissing the night away. The chemistry was absolutely amazing (and completely unexpected). I think we were both caught off guard. But being that we were both very much involved with someone else, we didn’t exchange numbers and left it at that.
I thought of him often, and after a year or so later I let my curiosity get the best of me, and proceeded to look for him through a popular networking site, and found him. I sent him a very vague message like, “hey mister, how’ve ya been?” He responded rather quickly..we met, talked about how amazing that night was, would make time to see each other whenever we could (mind you, we are still involved with someone else).. 1 1/2 years later, here I am…wondering if I should’ve ever sent that friendly email.
First, I am not one to cheat (although that doesn’t make much sense at the moment, being that I have for the last year or so with this guy)…but, I felt such a strong connection, that I felt I would’ve done myself an injustice had I not taken some initiative to see what it was…and unfortunately, I found out it was nothing after all.
There’s this qoute that keeps circling my mind that seems to fit. “Never kiss a fool, and never let a kiss fool you.” I felt as though I had stumbled across something amazing, but in reality, I think I was just fooled. Or perhaps, I let my imagination get ahead of logic. Either way, he has had full control of the reigns.
I don’t have a problem with letting go of men in general. I’ve never been the “boy crazy” type…and could easily move on. And I’m not so sure that it’s so much about HIM that I’m having a hard time letting go of, but more so about that amazing night (almost 2 years ago).
My point to telling you all this is to reconfirm what you already know…which is that things won’t change. You started to let him go–and he caught onto it…and then called you, and slept with you…and now you are back at square one…..more frustrated than ever. He knew what he was doing, and if he cared about you, you wouldn’t have to wonder. I’ve finally come to that place in my situation. He’s just not that into me–or I would know it…because he would make sure that I know it.
My advice is to save yourself the heart ache. It won’t be easy, but it’s for the best. You’ll see. I’m sure the guy I’m groveling over will call me again, and it will take every bit of willpower in me to ignore it, but I will.
Do you want to ignore these fellas together? I will hold up my end, I promise. Either way, know that you aren’t going through this heartache alone. IT sucks..but we are worth so much more than to waste our time on these pathetic losers (that’s what I keep telling myself). Good luck!
February 12th, 2009 at 8:18 am
Pisces dragon
Yes, we are on. I asked him tonight in a playful way what was up tonight, being his day off. He told me he had already made plans, sorry. I just told him no big deal when I did not hear from him I made other plans. He is not into me at all! I don’t even need to see the movie to know. I want more. I am way more than any mans booty call. I believe he’s the one with issues. What is wrong with these Aquarius men. They act like jerks and we let them. I really have no one to blame but myself. I wouldn’t respect me either after the way I’ve acted. I am going to turn him down with the exact sentence he did me. I pray for the power to do it. Women like us who love so deeply are hard to find and we deserve a man who treats us with the same consideration. Haz 91 is right. We have been eyeing each other for a year before he asked me out. I turned him down also the first time because we worked together. Oh, and he does not line to French kiss. He said he did not line other peoples spit in his mouth. That’s just weird to me. But he does kiss me that way. Very confusing man. I’m exhausted and I’m done but I will need your help to pull it off. Thanks
Veronica
February 12th, 2009 at 1:11 pm
Veronica…GO GIRL!
Remember dont let him stop you by manipulating the situation..and dont put up with his shit..because even after the incident..where you explained to him what was wrong with you he was still a bastard..lol..sorry for the bad language. He is just being arogant and playing you basically and suprisingly that is not an Aquarius trait. Don’t give in to french kissing rubbish and all that crpa..because you hvae tried a numerous times to patch things up..but he was not interested. So what I say is that dont be sucked in by anything go in and tell him its all over and there is nothing left. ALSO remind him of what a twit he has been towards you..and that should kill him .
Good luck !
xx
February 12th, 2009 at 6:52 pm
Veronica!!!
I’ve been off a couple days (cause I check this at work) but I had to get on to see whats going on.
I would love to email you privately so we could talk more and in depth =(
Like I wrote you before I came to a point were I was ready to move on … walk away… the ‘I love you’ ‘I love you not’ games were too much!
You deserve to be happy with or without him, he shouldn’t hurt you … especially this early ! So make yourself happy without him
YOUR NOT A BOOTY CALL! Do not feel like that …
I’m going to be honest… It will be hard to see him at work everyday and and the same time move on.. I’ll be here for you =)
try to find something to occupy your time outside of work… maybe something new… because believe me when your alone.. your going to think about him…
ERASE HIS NUMBER !
And at work I’m almost going to promise, one of those girls who like him are going to flirt or vice versa he’s going to and your going to see it … and it’s going to hurt ( I know) .. just keep in mind that he’s a jerk !
Just in my situation … all the single, and even some of the married women liked my Aqua… if they only knew how difficult he is.
Veronica … get out flirt be fun, show that wonderful personality and do whatever it takes to think less and less about him…
He will surprise you one day, trying to charm you or whatever… and hopefully by that time you’ll look at him and know you deserve better…
be strong… !!
your friend
-dbella (Ivy)
February 13th, 2009 at 4:45 pm
Well everyone, the most recent aquarian ex and I met up for a friendly tv show and ended up having the best, hot, passionate sex we’ve had since we first met. Instead of getting all weepy and emotional I kissed him on the cheek and thanked him for the great sex and went home shortly afterward. He suddenly went into himself and became quiet as I was leaving.
I don’t know what will or won’t happen from here but it felt good to walk away in control and not confused about anything.
February 13th, 2009 at 8:54 pm
Hi, I met my aquarius guy when i least expected it. I went out to see my pisces ex and ended up with my aqua man’s number!!! We just ‘clicked’ straight away, both having the same sense of humour. The next time we met he asked me back to his & we were together for 2 months. I can honestly say we had such a great time! i love socialising, so does he. All his friends said that we were perfect together and i thought they were great, however, he never met any of my friends.
He has a son with his ex girlfriend and when she found out we were going out she stopped him from seeing his son. It’s bothered him so much and i hate to see him this upset. Anyway, he started being really distant about a week and a half ago, not wanting to see me, hardly contacting me. Then he did everything that could possibly annoy me, afterwards saying ‘i’m not doing anything wrong, am i? i don’t want to loose you’. Next thing i know, he’s pushed me too far, and i said that i wished he would stop taking his issues out on me! his ex wound him up by not turning up with his son again and i got a call saying his friend was staying over the next night and so he couldnt see me. He still loved me & the arguement the night before was sorted wasnt it? i said yes we were fine & i was sorry, but i did want to see him to make sure everything really was ok.
The next thing, i didnt hear from him the next day & he dumped me the day after.
He was really sweet, to be fair. He said it was because of his ex, and he really missed his son. He wanted to stay friends, although i told him we could, we never crossed paths before so the chances are we wouldnt now. He also said he was sorry he hurt me and he might regret it in the morning.When i said i was going to cry, and had to go, he said that he was going to cry too.
I texted him the next night and NOTHING, no reply.
I havent bothered since, it’s only been 4 days since weve broken up but it seems unreal. we were fine & then nothing.
Is this normal & will he come back? How do i get him to come back?
His birthday is 24th january 1982 and mine is 13th march 1985.
February 14th, 2009 at 11:28 pm
To: Pisces Dragon:
Are you still trying to get away from your aqua man, because I am ignoring mine and do NOT plan on giving him the time of day unless he kisses my booty which I don’t think he will do. So , yes I nee a padnah’ in crime.
Haz91:
Thanks! You are right he is an ass and I am such a good person and I have bent over backwards for this man. He is not worth it. Not unless he has a comes to Jesus meeting and I see a HUGE change first, and I mean, I have to see it. I will keep you posted because he is still somewhat in the picture as he wants it to be that way. Its like he has a strange thrill out of making me crazy. But I am not giving into it! Thank you everyone. And where is Becky? I could use some of her insight on this man!!! Hey Becky, you still running this site?? I hope so!!
Happy Valentines Day to everyone!
Veronica
February 15th, 2009 at 2:06 am
hi, and thx for the aqua man post
I dated this aqua guy for a yr and few mths. we friend long before we dated. at first he treat me as a friend, then when we went on dating, he does nice thing for me, however as time goes by he still didnt intro me to his friends and his social circle. He didnt give me any present on special events like xmas, ny, bday…etc but i dont realy mind. later on I get the impression that he seem to put his friend’s need first before me. it’s so true that they can be selfish, for me hes’ so oblivious abt things between us.
coincidently, I hang out with pple he’s know so occasionally we bump into each other @ the clubs..however he treated me jst like everyone eles…”friend” and doesnt acknowledge me as his gf. He’s the man for everyone (girls thrown themselves @ him on dance floor). I cant stop those girls going for him cos he is charming and make them feel good, but I cant tolerate his flirtatious behaviour and he should draw a line with them since he is dating me….therefore i called him a slut ehhehehehe
I had read Veronica’s story and mine are similar. As much as I enjoy spending time with him, I do think i deserve better, someone who can appreciate me more than this so I decided to walk away for good. I rather end this early before I get too attach and make it harder to walk away from him. Aqua man can be good friend but not as boyfriend. They need to take in consideration that not everyone can read their mind
February 15th, 2009 at 3:36 am
Oh, and I need to especially thank dbella (Ivy)…thank you for your so sensitive responses and just feeling what I feel with his rejection. I think everyone of us is special and deserves someone who thinks the same. I will be hurt for quite a while, I know it. Valentines Day has come and it will go without a word from him. I can’t believe I gave myself to someone who thinks so little of me. If this is the way of Aquarius men then I am going to flat ask them when I meet one, are you an Aquarius? and if the answer is yes, I will run!!! Thanks for being the sweetheart you are and the man that gets you is one lucky person!
Your friend,
V
February 15th, 2009 at 4:42 pm
Veronica,
Yes. I’m letting it go. He makes it rather easy for me by not calling. Lol. It’s been over 2 weeks since we talked, and almost 3 months since we last seen each other…this is typical. He’ll probably send me a text in the next week or 2 and act like no time has passed.
If or when this happens, I will not respond. Not yet, anyway. I’ll let him wonder for a little while.
Oh well…
I’ll let ya know if I hear from him..Keep me posted.
February 15th, 2009 at 9:51 pm
Virgo Girl,
I feel you girl. I am treated the same way. I am nice like no big deal and it drives him crazy. I don’t know what is wired wrong in their brains that makes them act so weird to the people who care the most!
I am with you. Keep posting, this is like a group therapy session! Ha!
Veronica
February 16th, 2009 at 1:22 pm
Veronica & Pisces_Dragon
I told him not to contact me in any form again. If he decides to contact me again after “leaving me to cool down” (as he always said when im mad at him) then I will treat him like a either stranger or aquaintance. and limit my convo and keep my distant
He think he can have an authority over me and I cant live without him or wat.
I wish him gluck for finding someone who can put up with his flirtatious and oblivious attitude. I feel bad for her but she gotta go thru it to feel it.
I dont hate him, nor hold any grudge. I feel nothing after sending him my breakup email and I sent it on Valentine day too
well he need to taste his own medicine and learn to consider other’s feeling, not jst his own
Yeah, this is like a group thearapy
I feel good to share my story with u and others, and read their happy/sad experiences
February 16th, 2009 at 10:47 pm
Well, my ex aquarian and I hooked up again. That makes twice in 4 days and it all started with him inviting me over to watch our favorite shows together and dinner. He says he wants to be friends but we’re carrying on like more than friends. We were together for almost two yrs. Maybe this relationship means more to him than he thought? Or maybe we’ve just been so close that friendship isn’t going to work???
Any ideas??
February 16th, 2009 at 10:50 pm
I am at work now and I’ll tell you, he acts like he is pissed off at me and I have no idea why. He is short and glares. I am like WTH??? Anyway, after I slept with him, nothing. He returns a text occasionally but never calls, never asks me out anymore. Has never taken me on an appropriate date. I am nothing to him….I am also going to give him a taste of his own medicine. Good luck to the woman who gets him. To be honest I don’t know very many who would have put up with what I have to this point without telling him off. But because we work together, I cannot have this in the work place, so the cold shoulder. He seems to be living without it, so no big change. I will just need all you guys to help me through this change. Its the hardest thing I am trying to do…. I feel sorry for myself, but I sure am trying not to. I feel used also. Honestly, I think he is an ambivalent man. He cannot connect intimately, hence the no kissing and sex is mechanical….done and over, gets dressed and goes and works out. Makes me feel like trash. No more. I am embarassed even telling you guys I have let a man treat me like this. I will become stronger. I heard a quote, “There is nobody who can make me feel inferior unless I give them the consent to.” I am not giving consent!
Veronica
February 17th, 2009 at 6:48 pm
Dbella, Pisces-Dragon, Haz91 and to everyone who has helped me on this site:
After I left work I text him to please call me I wanted to talk to his face or at least on the phone because I was NOT going to do the text thing. I sent “I see how u feel but before you continue on with your life, I need to talk to u in person or at least on the phone. It won’t be emotional or freak u out, I just want to tell you something before I can walk away from this. Pls call me when ur off and I swear I will walk out of your life like I feel you want. It won’t take long but not on this text. Thanks. Call me or Ill call, lets just end it well. My biggest fault with u was I cared to much.
Ok, 45 mins later,…..I can’t keep doing this, I am a good woman. I need to speak to u. I mean, come on Steven we were very close or so I thought. Pls call tonight. It won’t take long and I will feel better. Thank you.
45 mins later…. R u gonna call?
1 hour later: I definitely have my personal thoughts about this but I truly hope we will be friends. I stood up for u with David, I hope you don’t treat me badly like I have seen you do to him in the past. Your r to dear a friend at least to me. It was fun while it lasted. You won’t hear from me again. I guess to end it in this way is not important to you. Bye Steven. I love ya
Ok. Not one word. I have come to realize, I am a doormat while he goes out and does his thing but I am the safe sex woman (he’s freaky about that kind of stuff). I am so much better than to be treated that way. I tell everyone of these girls on this site going through this kind of torture with Aquarius men, to demand to be treated kindly or walk away. If you like a masochistic realtionship, then I give you props for being a better person than I am. But when they all find themselves old and alone, maybe some of these men will rethink their ways. This is my first experience with an Aquaris and we are suppose to be so perfect, and it was at first. But I swear, I am not going to be treated like a nothing. I would never do my worst enemy the way he has treated me at work. In the midst of this, I love the man, yes I do. It will be a while before I can get over him but I have to. I don’t know about you guys but I want a long and happy life with a man who cares. BS to this no response, that is just plain rude.
Love to all,
Veronica
Thanks for everything and I will keep you posted. I am sure I will get the dirty looks when he comes in but I will just turn my nose up and talk to someone who truly cares about me.
I will need ALL your help!
Thank you again and I pray all God’s blessing on all you sweet women on here that your prayers are answered to life and love!
February 17th, 2009 at 6:50 pm
Also to Quest:
We also seem to have the same feelings and drama going on in life. The post above was to you also! Let me know how you hold out!
Veronica
February 17th, 2009 at 6:55 pm
To all my frends:
I forgot an important piece of information. When I asked him to call or I would call. Before I sent the last text, I called him. He had turned off his phone. What an Ass! Sorry, but I am so hurt that he turned out to be a totally different man. I believe he is definitely an Aquarius, but one with emotional issues which makes it worse. No wonder his wife left him! I can’t imagaine living in such a world with a man who is suppose to love you. Sorry, so much I just needed to vent and I thought this was important for you guys to know.
Veronica
February 17th, 2009 at 10:51 pm
Veronica,
What an ass! No one deserves that kind of treatment. If I were you I would just walk by and snicker–let him wonder what you’re laughing about…and if he asks, tell him you were thinking about how cute his little penis is. lol. No, but seriously…look at the facts:
He’s a jerk
He’s not very good in bed (based on your description)
He’s a womanizer
A manipulator
A user
Rude
Emotional inept
Immature
A player..
and perhaps a small penis?
People who treat others badly are often hiding something. Misery loves company, right?
I don’t know about you, but for me, I often have a hard time letting go of things if there isn’t a sense of “closure.” maybe you should tell him how you feel. You don’t have to be confrontational. Maybe you could just tell him you are surprised and disappointed in his behavior–and you expected more from him. But, then again….he sounds like a very self-righteous person and seems to think quite a bit of himself. In general, I would just make it clear to him that the only thing he has going for him are his looks (and eventually, even looks get old). His charm has run out…and anyone else in your shoes would feel just as you do at some point. The other girls will catch on. I don’t know….I was just thinking that it might help you to let your feelings be known. It helps me (whether or not they receive it).
Start feeling “sorry” for him–afterall he’s gotta be a miserable person–and maybe you’ll be able to see him as an ordinary fella, rather than someone who deserves to sit on a pedestal. Maybe that way, you’ll be able to get over him. Trust me, if he doesn’t treat you like something special, if he doesn’t act like something special, then odds are..he isn’t something special. Once you realize this, it will become obvious to him, because you’ll no longer show an interest whatsoever…and when this happens, he’ll probably hone in and try to win you back. Don’t fall for it.
I know this is hard and I’m sorry you’re having to endure it. You have every right to feel used. But you will get through it. I promise. Think of all the real battles you’ve had to go through in life…I’m sure then, you can look at this situation and laugh it off.
Good luck..and let me know how it goes.
P.s. Please don’t feel embarrassed about sharing…Many of us have your best interest at heart.
February 19th, 2009 at 11:25 pm
Veronica
After my final email and i did give him a closure so he know what to do from there on . I didnt expect to heard anything from him after that…….surprisingly, he reply but he started to point fingers at my faults. talking like as if he know me well, complaining about my doing, not caring attitudes and such
I jst firmly tell him that if he’s not up to relationship nor bother to try with me to make it work then that’s fine, im not goin to push or nag abt it
no-one born to match the other, it’ll take alot of work and effort…..yet he expect me to do the chasing. Im a virgo, i dont chase anyone…PERIOD!!! He said if i want “deep & meaningful relationship, why dont I jst date those that confessed their love to me” or “find those guy @ church” WTF!!. He doesnt look at why i dont date other guys when they asked me out, why i put up wif his crap and tolerate his flirtatious behaviour and bad treatment. all he can see is how i dont show my emotion, i do wat i want and not telling him about it.
What does he want me to do, stay home waiting for his call, hoping he’ll come over? I had my life to live jst like he does wif his. He hang out wif his friends ALL the time yet i cant hang out wif my gfs? wat a hyprocrite. He doesnt make time for US, I dont need to give out mine either.
Im a virgo, unless i am sure about his intention and feel secure that he’s into me, I dont give out my emotion easily and surely not head-over-heel for him
Veronica, if u only call him ONCE and let him know u want to talk thing straight one-n-for-all, and leave it as it is he will call u back, maybe not on same day but he will
however, bcos u keep calling him after 45mins, he doesnt care and get annoyed so he switch off his phone. If he’s man enough he shouldnt turn off his phone, but since he’s a jerk then U’R BETTER OFF W/O HIM. MOVE ON. no need closure or anything.
gluck
February 20th, 2009 at 12:40 am
Veronica…
I haven’t been on in awhile… I’m so sorry … How everything turned out.
Personally I don’t think you have anything more to say to him… I mean you laid it out in a text and he didn’t respond… but the fact is, is that you laid it out… You put it out there for him.. and for whatever reason he didn’t care to respond.
Take that as closure… take him saying nothing… as your closure because this is what he’s about…
Get out there occupy your time and learn everyday to forget about him and his stupid game…
Laugh at him, roll your eyes when he tries to be nice…They hate it when you act like you don’t care..
My Aquarius man is in his own world everyday … it’s frustrating, it’s funny, it’s the way he is… some days I want to slap him, others I’m just so happy to be next to him.
He still won’t commit to me..so we can only go so far with this ‘relationship’, it hurts because I love him and I’d love to commit to him but I’m not forcing ANYONE to be with me…
I know I’m perfect for him… we’re perfect for one another…so if or when I move on, it will be his loss… and the only one he has to blame is himself…
People think they have forever
Veronica… everything is okay…stay strong!
stay beautiful!!
=Ivy
February 21st, 2009 at 8:16 am
Pisces Dragon, Quest and Ivy,
Thank you all, everyone for all their help. I have needed your words of advice and encouragement to get me through this with this man. He did call me the other day to talk for a minute but his boss walked in and had to go. He said he would call back but did not. I was light hearted, no big deal, but still no return call. I wondered why he even called. But anyway, I decided I have so much love in me to give that I would be miserable any how with a man who would not let me climb in his lap, or just hug and kiss just because I wanted to. How sad I would be. He is noticing me pulling away, and I think he is noticing. But, to get me to trust him, he would have to probably put more effort in it that he would be willing to give, so its a dead end for me. Oh well, so much for Gemini and Aquarius. And one more thing, he acts all happy around people but with me, he shared his insecurities but acts pissed off all the time when nobody knows he is looking at me. A very strange man, maybe more problems than an just being an Aquarius. Sometimes I feel like I will probably be alone forever. I am just not a bar hopping kind of girl. I want the man to find me and how is he going to find me at home? I go out with my girlfriends, but its around their schedule with babies, boyfriends, husbands, etc. I refuse to date of these dating sites. I can’t pick out a quality man by a picture! Oh, well…..I am going to bed now. Thank you one and all for everything and YES!!!! Pisces Dragon….he did suck in bed not from lack of size but from lack of what I would say experience. I believe he has had very very little. Not that I am an expert, but the few men I have been with blew him out of the water. So, that just is mean for me to say but makes me feel better. At least I would never say it to him, but I can vent to you guys! Love to all!
V
March 2nd, 2009 at 3:34 am
Hi Becky,
I just wanted to throw a thought out for you to ponder.
In a majority of these posts (including my own) many of us have the same concerns over the Aquarius man: He doesn’t return calls, he seems uninterested, and so on and so forth. But, what really has me thinking is how we seem to have such a hard time with letting these guys go. Why is that? I mean, I have stopped communication with others for less.
Anyway, is it the charm or the challenge? OR do you think there’s some strong spiritual pull attached to the aquarius? Or am I completely nuts?
The experience I had with my aqua truly felt like someone reached in and grabbed my soul. We kissed for hours–and it wasn’t anything sexual for me. It’s something hard to explain, but it felt spiritual–like a reunion of souls. I know he felt something, too.
We developed a friendship/ casual love interest (no sex). He would open up to me about things even I would’ve thought private. but then there were inconsistencies with other things: Like not talking for weeks at a time. After a year of this, I suppose I’ve grown weary of his style and approach to things. He would often leave me hanging; saying he would see me in an hour, but then never show. I gave him the benefit of the doubt 2 times, but after the third I sent him an email saying: “Please don’t call me anymore.”
He responded with saying he thought we were closer than that, and wanted an explanation. I told him I felt foolish in following my heart somewhere it is not allowed to go–and that I was beginning to think I imagined something that wasn’t there–and may have already invested too much thought and energy into someone is unavaiable, and seemingly not that interested. I haven’t heard anything since, and honestly don’t expect to.
Anyway, I did’t mean to get caught up in my story. I apologize.
So here are my questions:
Is there a reason women have such a hard time letting go of the peculiar aquarius?
and..
I think I may have severed our ties (which isn’t necessarily what I wanted to do–just really needed some time to clear my head–but, I was impulsive–kinda hard to go back now though, but do you think I could’ve handled ending our friendship a little differenly?
Whew!
March 2nd, 2009 at 9:25 am
Hi there Pisces Dragon, Thank you for your comment. Feel free to write your story there are lots of people here doing just that, including me! You are right, it is terribly hard to let go of an Aquarius man, I have been there and seen that for myself. I think that most things in our lives we have control of, where we go, who we speak to, which clothes we wear, we are all independant in that way and the Aquarius man throws all of that in the fire. He dosen’t react how we want him to, when we want him too, worse than that, he dosen’t react at all! They also give the weirdest signals I have ever experienced, you never know whether they love you as a lover or as a friend, whether they enjoy spending time with you or not. We all live in a world of the spoken word to communicate and the Aquarius man does not, not until he feels like it anyway. So it’s a case I believe of fascination with these men. We desperatly want to understand them and they are such a challenge that we can not help but keep after them, which is the wrong thing to do (according to them) but the rest of us are just mere mortals who do not understand they intricate ways of the Aquarius, they really should make the boundaries far more visible!!
You are a Pisces, therefore you posess great intuition (whether you use it or not) so you MUST trust yourself, your heart and what your instinct tells you. Trying to use logic won’t work that well for you! Of course you culd have handled it differently, but he should really understand your need for ‘time out’ as he himself practically invented the term. Don’t ever feel that you can’t go back, if you fell you want to to set the record straight then you should. Never live with what if’s always try and ease your mind.
Love & Light
Becky
P.S I just love dragons
a pisces dragon must be rather fascinating!
March 4th, 2009 at 2:04 am
hi becky,
i am an aquarian male , and i agree with all what u said , just wanna add:
“if u won an aquarian male,so u won the whole world ”
“give me freedom,and i will give u everything u wish”
“plz,,, don’t talk to me on phone for hours in useless issues ”
“may be we keep away of our parteners for hours and may be days , but ourfew moments when we get closer equals hundreds of years
”
” let me miss u ” and honestly the more you keep away the more u get us closer to u ” calling once or twice daily r stisfactory for us.
” plz plz try to understand us , we r very rare ,precious ,once in life time ”
“we r highlty spritual creatures , we like spritual ,unvisible matters , we can love with closed eyes , getting togther with our partners doen’t make that haulariace addition !!!!!!!!!
March 4th, 2009 at 8:40 am
im an aquarian 3, and i used to be a HUGE shut in. so for the past 4 years i’ve been getting out there and really takeing note of how i act.(to try to become more social, and get rid of my shut in ways) and i have to say, your notes on the aquarian male are exteremly, EXTREMLY accurate when it comes to my personality. for a long time, i knew i was different lol as im sure all aquarians do, but it kinda felt weird that it was never too defiened. but this is… waaayyy too accurate. its nice to know im not crazy. haha
however i will say, i try to give what ever person im with, equal credit for anything they diserved. because i dont paricualarly like that “know it all” tigne i have to me.
i also try to show SOME emotions, ehhh… only.. when its comfortable… lol
March 4th, 2009 at 2:05 pm
Pisces_Dragon,
I’m a pisces man, and found it interesting that you mentioned how an aquarian reached in grabbed your soul. That has happened to me on a couple of occassions with aquarian females, and I wasn’t physically involved at all. It’s interesting that they described the same thing coming from me. It was the most unusual feeling I’ve ever felt - as if my heart was going to jump right out of my chest. It was as if I was extremely attracted to them, but red flags indicating “don’t even think about going there” were popping up all over. I don’t know if this is anything like what you felt towards the aquarian male. I would be interested to know if any other pisces males have felt this towards aquarian females though.
I’ve never felt any positive friendship connect with aquarian males.
March 6th, 2009 at 1:56 am
Becky,
Thank you for you response…I always appreciate your insight–and lucky for me that you are a dragon fan. I tend to think we’re pretty special, too–
John,
As for my experience–yes, my heart felt like it was about to explode. It was the most sensual (not to be confused with sexual) moment of my life. It was completely unexpected, but so familiar. weird, I know. For about a year, I thought of that moment until I finally mustered up the courage to look him up. I just had to find out what it was–but, unfortunately (or fortunately, however you want to look at it) I discovered that some stones really should be left alone.
While there’s no denying we shared “something,” I think I allowed myself to get emotionally involved with someone who was apparently just playing. Trying to sort it out has been the most frustrating thing for me…but I have finally come to terms with it. I don’t doubt for a second that he came into my life for some reason–and I think that reason was to reveal something within myself: not a lifelong love affair. And I’m ok with it now.
Nice to hear such a similar feeling from someone else.
March 14th, 2009 at 9:35 pm
Aquarian man. All I can say is good read and you have pretty much summed me up perfectly.
March 15th, 2009 at 4:41 am
OK…..here we go…..I’m an Aquarius male, and to make this more interesting to you folks….a bi male. Excuse me if I ramble a little….I have a million thoughts and I’m trying to put them all into words, and for us…..that’s pretty hard!
If you think it’s hard to deal with an Aquarian male, try being one. We are very close to our feelings. We are very in touch with them, however it feels almost impossible to verbalize them. It’s a constant battle for us, but once we figure it out, it gets a little easier, but in the meantime if anyone hurts us….we cut them off totally.
I’ve been reading about you ladies sending text messages, calling over and over, and getting no response and getting upset b/c of it. Honestly, I have never understood why people do this. I have always said that if you call, I will call you back. If I don’t call you back, then clearly I don’t want to talk. When I get call after call, I tend to think they are just being rude, and then i get irritated, hence turning the phone/ringer off.
We are attracted to people who are very sweet and sincere; however we are turned off by people that we feel are weak. There are 3 types of Aquarians. Those that only care about themselves, those that care about others so much that we distance ourselves in order NOT to hurt them, and those who are confused. If we see signs of weakness, the first Aquarian will run you over, and use you to his advantage, and the second will distance himself from you no matter how much he may care because he knows he can’t be what you need. The 3rd kind is confused, and this is where you get the hot/cold combination from. One min they love you, the next they want to be friends.
We are very confident individuals and this is why so many people are attracted to us. We tell you what we will do, and simply do it, without planning, or anything. We are very spontaneous. If we take time to plan something out which so many of my partners have suggested, it usually doesn’t happen b/c our mind is constantly changing. We also tend to connect on an intellectual level, and sometimes it’s more. I can’t really describe it myself.
We are hard to deal with, but once you win us over, you have won us for life. I’m not saying don’t take the challenge, but I am saying if your feelings are easily hurt, or if you need constant closure, or to talk out every single issue…..This is NOT the person for you. The way we respond to arguments is by leaving the situation, then coming back when both parties have calmed down. This is one of the biggest issues since a lot of folks must finish a discussion/argument once it has been started. So when this happens we shut down completely and disconnect. Sad part is there are so many of us that don’t even realize we do it. I have a great suggestion for those of you in a relationship, and are constantly frustrated. Show him these postings and ask him to read them so he can understand how you feel. It opened my eyes to a lot, and I guarantee it will do the same for him.
We are very curious and love interacting with different people, if not for anything else than just to see how they are wired. Once we find out, we tend to get bored. With Aquarians either you click with them, or you don’t. If everything is going well and he just stops calling…..something is wrong, and if he doesn’t respond, or answer your questions on the first attempt, DO NOT keep trying. This will prove to make a bad situation worse. Sometimes we meet folks that we really like, but don’t know if we want to spend our lives with them. This takes time….a lot of time….and I can’t give you a timeframe, however we will come to a conclusion and let you know, but if you pressure us, we will just cut off all ties.
All I can say is use your instincts, and see things for what they are. If he only calls to hang out….you are a friend. If he only calls to have sex….you are a booty call. If he doesn’t call……. He is NOT interested, and if you hear from him everyday….maybe even twice a day. He’s head over heals for you. Just take things SLOW….and don’t try to move in, or marry him right away, and I guarantee it will be worth the wait.
Bottom line……if they say they need space….give it to them. Only call once when you do call, and don’t let them know how deep you really feel. WE like a challenge ourselves, and we like to miss you. If we know we have you head over heals after 3 or 4 dates…that isn’t a challenge. We feel you would do this to anyone else you meet. What makes us special?
I will tell you, I agree with most of what you say on a lot of these posts, but in our defense we are anything but uncaring. It does take a SERIOUS effort on our part to show emotions, however we still try. (Honestly we would rather go dodge cars in traffic).
I’m not trying to by defensive, and I apologize if this offends anyone, as I’m only writing based on what I’ve seen and experienced. I have dated an Aquarius myself which was one of my WORST experiences. Needless to say, I was caring, they weren’t.
I may have missed a few things, but please let me know how you feel about my post.
I know it’s long….SORRY!!!!
March 15th, 2009 at 9:46 am
Hello there OneAquarius4U,
Thank you for your wonderful comment. I always love to hear from Aquarius men as I suppose they are my favourite mystery. I can’t write too long a reply as we are all just about to go out to play in the woods on a rope swing and bikes…but yes, I do agree with you. Three types of Aquarius? Well ofcourse. You have the Capricorn-Aqua, the Aqua-Aqua and you have the Aqua-Pisces. Aquarius men are amazingly caring and so tender and gentle it can make you cry, it’s just seeing it that is the hard part…when they choose to open up a bit and you see what they are actually thinking as apposed to what you think they are thinking then you will always be shocked…My Aquarius man never ceases to amaze me with his hard outer exterior that even now I tend to get wrong and then am left in shock and awe when he presents me with how he ‘actually’ feels. I love you all Aquarius men, your a very special breed indeed and one that I will never stop trying to fathom.
Love & Light
Becky
Thank you for sharing
March 15th, 2009 at 6:04 pm
Hi Aquarian men,
Just a very general question,
Doe Aquarian men hate ppl who listen into their conversations, because I JUST met this Aqua guy and he told me that even though he does it to other ppl, he hates other ppl listening into his conversations… ?
Another question, how would an Aqua guy react if he found out that a girl likes him, would he shy away, be forward, or just forget about it
Thanks … anyone can chip in to the answer if they want .. I need a broad range of Aqua men’s answers .. LOL
March 16th, 2009 at 10:28 am
Hi, aquarius dude here.
LOL! I dont even know how i ended up here. But it doesn’t really matter. I just wanna quote you on this….
“Aquarius men don’t do that either. Infact, just to be safe, don’t even mention the previous argument, just accept he is over it and get on with being happy, it’s a tough call, but trust me, it’s the only one that works.”
That is hilarious but so true. How i wished you were friends with me ex wife, LOL! Things would have been a lot better, har har har!
March 18th, 2009 at 5:06 pm
WOW!!! Just Incredibly right, none has ever describe myself like you did!! Greetings from an Aquarius man in South America. You are awesome!!
March 20th, 2009 at 8:36 pm
I think I have a confused aquarius. We get close he pushes me away and calls for ‘a break’ but he calls me everyday or texts or e-mails and we still see each other and have sex and play as though things were still the same except I don’t spend the night. This has been ongoing for two years now. We have an extremely passionate sex life and we have a great friendship. OneAquarius4u is absolutely accurate about a lot of the characteristics of the aquarius. I have learned to be flexible in my day because he can change his mind at any time about our plans for the evening and call me and say “Hey, let’s go to the movies.” He will see absolutely nothing wrong with changing something midstream even when it’s plans we’ve made like to move in together or breaking up after we have been in an agreed committed relationship for a few months. I have to say about my aquarius he does stick by me. In two years the longest he has gone without contacting me in any way is two days and it happened once. He has never abandoned me and makes sure he tells me he is here for and will do whatever he can to support me AND this is when we’re broken up or taking a break.
Even with his contradictions, hypocrisies, hot-cold, etc, when he is emotionally present, there is a tranquility and peace of mind I have never felt before with any man. He is not the romantic and silver-tongued sweet talking man most of us fall for but his surprises and gifts can’t be beat! I’m not a patient person and I will probably get tired of waiting for him to finally commit once and for all but for now I am still committed to the relationship and he is still present.
March 25th, 2009 at 7:17 pm
O~WOW! YOU REALLY HIT THE NAIL RIGHT ON THE HEAD WITH THIS ONE!! IT’S FUNNY HOW I’M AN ANQUARIAN WOMAN BUT LEFT TO FEEL THAT WERE ON DIFFERANT PAGES IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. I THOUGHT TWO WEIRDO’S (AS EVERYONE ELSE CALLS US:))COULD UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER AND GET ALONG JUST FINE, BUT NOT IN OUR CASE. MAYBE SINCE WE HAVE A 3 YEAR AGE DIFFERANCE MATTERS SOME WHAT?? ANYWHO, GOOD WRITING!!
April 5th, 2009 at 12:39 pm
i known an aquarius friend and he is aloof, detached when is come to his personal feeling. unpredictable in what his next move is. However he’s not LOYALTY as i thought he would be.
He dated one of my gf for a yr, cheated on her wif another girl, she found out, confronted him then eventually they broke up. The girl that he cheated wif is now his current gf, they dated for 7 years. Recently he cheated on her wif another girl i know for more than a year. She found out later that he got a gf so she broke it off with him bcos she doesnt want to be the third party or his mistress.
He’s a player, liar, deceited, careless, hyprocrite, and cynical person. He doesnt fit into Aqua characteristic of Loyalty
April 16th, 2009 at 7:13 pm
Humm….I have always know Aquarius to be VERy, VERY LOYAL. my ex is an Aquarius and even as much as I can’t stand him now we were together almost 10 years. My current Aquarius bf (of over a year) has been nothing but also loyal. Eveything else mentioned of the Aquarius male really makes me laugh (SO TRUE). I’m a Gemini and feel these people are almost as crazy as I am. Maybe thats why we get along so well. The Aquarius understands my needs of freedom and allows me my space without ever really questioning as I do the same for him. ANd it’s weird because I have found that with both of my Aquarius they have this need of physically being with me (more so than anyone else I have been with. But I too find myself physically drawn and having this powerful need of physically being with him. Which is not like a Gemini. So actually, we aren’t apart that often. I can’t tell you the need we have to talk to eachother daily. This goes beyond the normal one-two phone calls a day. It’s a very powerful connection. And yes, this man is in my soul. I guess everyone is right, when you win the Aquarius over–he is yous until he chooses not to be.
April 18th, 2009 at 8:16 pm
Hi Becky,
Your posts on Aquarius sign is truly amazing and I found it quite true.
I am an aquariuan man married to a Gemini girl. The only reason I got married to her because she is crazy about me.
My Gemini girl who is otherwise a perfect wife, drives me nuts with her possesiveness and lack of communication. We just can’t have a proper conversation where we could connect. It just doesn’t happen. Also she comes with emotional baggage and keeps nagging me that I don’t connect with her emotionally. It really drives me crazy.
Is my relationship gonna stay like this forever or will I ever see light at the end of the tunnel?
April 19th, 2009 at 11:42 am
Hey Ved ,
Okay so your married to a Gemini girl and you being the Aquarius man, want alittle more out of her. You say that she is possesive and there is a lack of communication.
About the possesiveness, you said yourself that she was crazy about you, so does that mean you weren’t crazy about her?… because then why marry her. The fact that she is crazy and loves you alot, could contribute to her possesiveness… and Gemini’s arent really the possesive type unless they feel that their partner is not giving them enough attention…
Communication wise, I think that if you cant even sit down with her and have a proper conversation, then that will BRING your marriage down, because communication and respect are two key ingredients to a marriage… and if you feel that she keeps moaning about the fact that your not paying enough attention to her emotionally, then YOU as the husband need to sit her down and set her straight, meaning tell her that she needs to stop nagging you and going on at you, because it will only drive you away…
try that for starters… tell me how you get on… ?
Also when is your birthday and your Gem wife’s birthday?
hope that helped
May 4th, 2009 at 3:53 pm
You are dead on with the description here. My boyfriend and one of my brothers are aquarians.
May 12th, 2009 at 9:36 am
Dear editor,
Loved your article =)
I’m a taurean and dated an aquarius for nine months. The chemistry was strong between us and he was head over heels towards me right from the beginning. he did everything there is to show me how he wants to be with me and we got on very well. Although there wasnt a lot of actualy transfer of words between us, we were very comfortable being with each other. And despite the fact that I always feel unsatisfied(spiritually/ emotionally) with this relationship, I like him a lot. And I really appreciate the way he was so nice to me whenever possible. But I screwed things up by being too possesive, he ended our relationship with me one and a half month ago…
I dont want to let go yet so I initiate chatting and phone calls with him every now and then (four days to two weeks) and he seemed to like it (although whenever i brought up the whole ”im sorry” thing he would be so turned off) other times, he would be so caring and made me feel that he still cares for me…
I wondered… if I should wait around for him? Would love for you to give me some advices here.
thanks, apple.
May 13th, 2009 at 7:16 pm
haha im an aqua man and im having a gemini girl over tonight!! anything i should know?
May 13th, 2009 at 11:16 pm
I have been reading alot about aquarius men being “manipulating & controling”?…Which comes to a surprise for me cause I kinda thought that because of there “freedom-loving ways”.that would make them more care free towards there partners freedom,is this true? I have noticed that after I married an aquarius man,he did start to get more maybe possesive.I am a pisces women so I am both independent and needy at the same time. Maybe my husband is more old fashioned? what do you think?..anyone??
May 25th, 2009 at 8:32 am
I broke up with my aqua guy 4 months ago, mainly because I just CANNOT stand his unemotional ways. I always thought he’s just not that into me. When I broke with him, he just shrugged, said ‘I really don’t know how to let you know I’m THAT into you’, walk away, but cried the whole night (WOW). Ever since then, we treated each other like best friends , chatting, going out tgt etc. But two nights ago, while chatting, he suddenly called me dear, and asked me to be his again for just one more night. I was shocked (duh), and asked him ‘do you stil love me?’ He replied ‘Of course I do… I thought I could forget you, but I was wrong…’ This is so totally expected that I did’nt know what to say. He never said anything like this for 4 months! He’s been unemotional and cold (as usual) in love for the past 4 months. Well I guess he’s just being true to his star sign. Anyway he’s so sweet to me lately, so affectionate and romantic, I never seen him like this before!! Is he really in love with me, or is it just an act? I know that aqua men behave the exact opposite way of what they really feel inside. Should I just accept him ? I’ve learnt to adapt to his werid (but cute) ways and his lack of emotions and we’re getting along so well now
I can’t believe it, but I’m falling for him again.
Oh yeah , I’m a capricorn girl btw
May 25th, 2009 at 8:33 am
Oops, *UNEXPECTED.
May 26th, 2009 at 4:33 am
Aquarius men are AMAZING,they are the kind you will NEVER forget!!!!:D
June 4th, 2009 at 9:48 am
u hit the nail on the head infact ill send this link to my lover
June 12th, 2009 at 2:10 pm
i’ve been living with an aquarius man for almost 7 months.
first i want to say that he is the best thing i have ever encountered as far as men are concerned. this article about aquarian men is absolutely him! as i was reading i kept saying to myself “that is SO him!” you really hit the nail on the head with this one. i love it. and i’m happy that i’m not the only girl in this world that has to put up with such an emotional oddity. thank you
–Sarah
June 16th, 2009 at 6:44 am
Hello Becky,
I am a Pisces girl. I to have deep feelings for a aquarius. He is almost everything that you described. When it comes to his emotions he is VERY outspoken. He has a negitive side to him as well when it comes to himself. You know the saying “lets call it a night”? well he likese to say “lets call it a life”. He says this almost everyday.(do you have any idea why?] He likes to blam me for a lot of things as well, things that are not my fault and are his. He is very caring as well. He constantly says that he loves me… but I don’t love him. Since I don’t he feels the need to argue with me about it. Its like he just dosen’t understand. He is truly a piece of work.
June 16th, 2009 at 10:41 am
Hmmm…….Aqua man here.
Veronica, i have just been reading your posts.
Can i say I had a similar experience with a Virgo girl.
Hurts me, cheats on me more than 3 times, says her friend is an alternative to me and she may as well marry him, and i still keeping calling, texting, e-mailing, and get b*llocks in return.
Broken off all ties with her since a year.
I was ruined when it happened. Went into a bad state of depression and tears for over 4 months.
We’d been together for 3 and a half years, and she’d been the one who had initiated the relationship…..
June 16th, 2009 at 4:11 pm
to kapil… well three times?? once is enough… i would of left and never looked back. For me I’m a cancer male with and aries female and i went through F-ing hell
here some examples
you can cheat on me, just don,t tell me
tell me why you wouldn’t cheat on me
don’t hit on my firneds or i’ll fuck all of yours
i really was shocked by these statements and i finally grew the balls to leave her
am i acting over sensitive? all i know is that a whole bunch of little things added up and i got a huge turn off.. so i left .. does anybody agree with me?
June 20th, 2009 at 10:53 am
^ Yup. Agreed. I should have seen it coming.
Ah well
June 23rd, 2009 at 2:36 am
Hi,
Great site, I just had to leave a comment after reading about Aquarian Men.
I am a Cancer female and have just come out of a 2yr relationship with such a male.
We both love and care for each other very much, but I felt I was the one compromising and didn’t feel he was giving anything back.
He can’t tell me how he feels about anything or what he wants from me. He used to say he likes to make me happy. I tell him what I like and don’t like, he doesn’t get it.
He is a very loyal friend and very giving… to his friends. When ever soemthing happens he will be there to help. But whenever I needed him, he would always find excuse or be hung over to not be there. Tho I can’t say that was always the case.
What ended for us, was losing my job and all he wanted to do was go out drinking and have fun.
I am older than him and tried to be patient.. but theres only so much you can take.
I don’t know if they are all like this?
June 25th, 2009 at 4:13 pm
Wow, is all I can say about this one. Becky, you are amazing,How can you be so right on about so many things,I am a gem girl of course and I love my aqua man, i just hate his ways, I have never been insecure and needy, but why do i feel like I am now? I blame it on him, he so unemotional and I feel so emotional, its scary. everything you said is on the money about the gem woman and the aqua man. Sometimes I just don’t know why i deal with him and I break it off and he so easily accepts it and I cry, feeling stupid but one of us(most likely him)is gonna call again and we might argue for a while thereafter but he’s gonna ask to see me and i’m gonna fold like i always do. I’m afraid he’s not taking me seriously but I dont know how to leave him alone. I’m definitely not the nagging type and I don’t want to be with him all the time either because i enjoy my space,I enjoy spending time with my friends but I don’t think he wants to spend as much time with me as I do with him. he is making me feel insecure and i hate that about myself. during an argument, he told me that “there were plently of fishes in the sea” so I told him to go find another fish. he’s still here and so am i. He’s constantly telling me I;m not going anywhere but is he?
June 25th, 2009 at 4:18 pm
One more, Sarah, You’re not the only one going through it. I thought I was and I was feeling a little embarrased to tell my friends because they know theres a lot I won’t take in a man but this man,I feel like I’ve done all the things I said I would never do.
June 29th, 2009 at 8:42 am
@ Sandy:
We’re not ‘unemotional’. A few posts above, someone talks about ‘blocking’ the feelings out.
We just dont want to lose good mates we have made, or dont want to take any chances with our feelings, or hurt anyones elses unintentionally.
Feelings and emotions are not our cup of tea. As intelligent we may seem, when it comes to feelings and emotions, we are the most clueless, if you like.
We just cannot do it.
About your first post, if you say you like your space, and are not the nagging type, then you might as well not find another better sign than the Aqua.
I think this is why most of us end up getting married late, or leading single lives. We just dont know emotions. We try to do our best, but are scared when it comes down to it.
June 30th, 2009 at 3:53 pm
OMg u got it down to the T on the Aquarius man i must say.Being married to one for 10yrs n loosing my mind many times at his blocking of emotinons feelings n everything around him.HR just makes me wanna smack the hell out of him.N ur right about the walking away giving them their space to breath,they forget u ever argued with them n sweep it under the rug.Who can live like that dow? They r 100 percent selfish sorry even if they don’t mean to be.They use their words to cut u like a knife at times n make u feel beneath them to make them self look higher or feel better.GEEEz.How about them n loyalty.u didnt mention that?
July 2nd, 2009 at 3:18 pm
Enjoyed reading your personal experience w/an Aquarian Male. What a Scream! Im an AQ Male myself and am fascinated with the perceived traits, though agree with many of them. Nature/Nurture plays a big role I believe,explaining some differences re:two edged sword, that is, with everything handed to us in life, for good or for bad, we have a choice.Depending on what one was exposed to enviromentally during developing years,helps forges traits and tendencies.I see traits in myself that mystify, yet intrigue….want to understand them/me better.Strangely enough,I actually knew very few other Aquarians growing up, and over the years. Its only been in say the past 8-9 months that I have started running into fellow Aquarians left and right. I mean like 5-6 in a two month period! Should I have been looking out for something during that time? (This was last summer, roughly)
I can see where “stubborn” might characterize some aquarians…ahem….And passionate, oh my God….If you are female and in the sights of certain AQ males, brace yourself….your pipes will never be the same….trust me on this one…huh!? And of course, if you have never been loved, you will be. regardless what happens to your Aquarian male, he will always love you! You can take that to the bank/…
Theroad
July 2nd, 2009 at 3:41 pm
To: Haz91
Read your comment after I posted the first time, way down the list from yours.As to your request for insight on your “Aqua-man” I can only speak for myself though I feel a tight bond among my fellows….But….If you happen to be interested in a aquarian male and he finds out….and you/he happens to match chemically…your in so much trouble! cause he’ll eat you alive!!…i mean that in a very fun way…..!
Theroad
July 10th, 2009 at 9:33 am
To: Aly…..or whoever you are……you are so off with your summation of the aqua-male ( or female for that matter ) that even the astro-novice could read right thru your B.S. If you were going to pretend to know a given sign….their’ traits..etc…Aquarius is definitely not the sign to try that shit with….I cant think of a faster way to get busted. Aquarians, and their’ “people” are far too intelligent to fall for such ramblings! You are either referring to a aqua-male to whom you dislike greatly…and or….are intimidated by, or…..Your’ terribly unhappy with who you have become, and your summation is but a manifestation therein. Don’t know how old you are….but may I recommend that you research, plan and choose a Discovery Camp, where you may join a group of others who are equally as confused or twisted, as it were….and go out into the wilderness and discover trust, commitment, self reliance, friendship, ( Keep in mind, friendship is something you have to give…to the other…would be friend, before you can expect them to even consider…. sharing anything like a square acre …..of where you may reside….You see, these programs expect….of their participants, only the purist in thought, word, and deed! So you better opt for the extended package which may keep your ass occupied for months. It’ll take that long to extract all the crap off of your exterior, so that the would be teacher can dig around …………and find whatever it is in you……… that contains even a modicum….. of sincerity and truth. With any luck at all, you might come out the other side with a presence…..such as…is… in keeping with that which an Aqaurian would mind standing next to…..within say a….. 50 yard perimeter…..If you happened to be a individual who were even within yelling distance of me, Id be tempted to take you out on site.
To Summerise:
1.) Get some help
2.) Stay as far away from this site or any which speak in truth and in Love….
3.) Never…ever….ever… Pull this shit again on an Aqaurian or like sign. You might get eaten up….in a very real way!
Note: To those sensitive ears out there…Please forgive me for using certain explicative(s) to describe this individual or his plight….I don’t normally find it necessary to use the aforementioned to get my point across……However….this genius warrants some attention!
Sincerely,
Theroadisalover
July 27th, 2009 at 11:14 am
Yeah and Aquarians dance funny, have warts,
and don’t smell good…Hee hee.!
Just thought I’d lighten things up a bit..!!
July 27th, 2009 at 11:18 am
Let me just say one thing about that..
Don’t expect anything, and you won’t be dissapointed..!
July 27th, 2009 at 3:54 pm
I have been toying with the idea of leaving a comment on this page for sometime, whilst I’m really against being funny with any sign and I do have a lot of male aqua friends (I’m an aries woman), I know (from past experience) it is a bad move to get involved with an aquarius bloke.
I have never met anyone so difficult to read, I think the only way to remain with an aquarius is to pretend they don’t exist, which may prove difficult if you are married to them!
Usually they have one central “ideal woman” (most likely to be the first girl they ever met or the one that got away) and about 3,000 hangers on or possible contenders.
Unfortunately ladies if your reading this heartbroken from their hot/cold antics then you fall into latter category.
Aquarius men have the ability to literally possess their victims, I say victims because like a cat and mouse game, they don’t like to kill a relationship out right instantly, they like to play with it just on the brink as the mental play/control is a big turn-on to them. This game can last for years and years.
Sorry if this is offensive to anyone, this is simply my experience, but my advice- if this is rings true- is to get out now and never contact them again.
July 27th, 2009 at 3:59 pm
P.S Felt I had to say something nice about Aqua blokes after that (they aren’t all bad!) If you are in a relationship with one and it is all going well it is the most magical time of your life.
July 27th, 2009 at 10:14 pm
Thank you so much for this site Becky!! I’m a gem gal totally in love with her aqua man too! I was wondering do aqua men have difficulty trusting people? I have never given him any reason not to trust me. But lately I have been noticing him making comments and being less confident when I tell him I love him. It seems he wants constant reassurance on how I feel.
August 8th, 2009 at 6:33 pm
Hi everybody,
I am a Sagittarius and I met the first Aquarius man 3 years ago. I was immediately attracted to him and I have got that weird feeling like I have been knowing him forever. We had a few short conversations and he was paying a special attention to me compared to anybody around. I felt very comfortable talking with him.Then I had to leave and because I did not have any contact info of him I even could not tell him. At that time I was in a difficult relationship with a Virgo. Two years after I saw the Aquarius my boy friend told me that he is not ready to be in a relationship and I have decided to do what is necessary to get in contact with the Aquarius man, which I haven’t forgotten. I found his emails from some mutual friends and write to him. He was glad to hear from me and we could not stop our communication, it is going on for about 8 months.He is in USA, I in Bulgaria so we are having some kind of a relationship over emails and the phone only. We have great conversations, we write poetry to each other and the whole interaction is a lot of fun. He is very intelligent, sensitive, honest and sweet man. I just can’t resist. The only problem is that he is married, I did not know this when I contacted him. In the beginning of our interaction he told me that he has being unhappy for a really long time and he stays in his marriage more because of duty and because he is afraid what his wife can do /she is bipolar/. A few times we are almost about to cancel our talks because he feels guilty, I am also not the person who will want to interfere in somebody’s marriage, but we could not do it.
Right now I am trying to not have any expectations and just enjoy our friendship and talks. He said that he loves me, but I am not sure if I should take his words very seriously. He is in a peculiar spot and I don’t know what the future holds for us.
Any advice will be appreciated. Thank you!
Warm greetings,
M.
August 8th, 2009 at 8:25 pm
I am a cancer woman who dated an Aquarian man for approx. 2yrs. At first he made me feel so electrified by life. A feeling I never felt before I met him. The chemistry between us was intense. The attraction we had for each other was noticeable to others and the relationship began to develop. However, even in the beginning of the relationship there were things I noticed that seemed odd . He would call me a lot, have hours of conversation, but days would pass without seeing each other. Or he seemed distant.
We were both divorced, about the same age and had many things in common. Neither of us had the desire to remarry. I understood his need for space. So, I would give him that. As I too, had the need to hide in my “shell” from time to time.
Sometimes I felt that he couldn’t stay away from me. Other times it seemed he never wanted to see me again. I was patient!!! Very patient. I rarely called him. If I did, he never took my call. I would leave a message, that he never replied to or would never mention. I never confronted him about anything. Unless he would ask. I found that if I did address something that may have bothered me (which by the way, I only did because of his desire to know what I was thinking) he would become angry at me for the way I had interpreted the situation or his behavior.
I always felt that the relationship was up in there air. I never knew where we were. I never knew when we were going to see each other? If he was going to call? If we had plans? Mostly, the best times we had were spontaneous. Last minute phone calls with “lets get together” or “lets take a trip this weekend”.
He invited me to so many places, made suggestions for things to do together, but they were mostly false invitations that never happened. I always felt disappointed with the last minute cancellations and the fact that he never ever mentioned the tentative plans he had made.
I know I sound foolish, I have come to the conclusion that I was. I let him get away with so much. He never welcomed me into his home. NEVER!!! It was always at my place, my time, my stuff, MY SPACE!!
I could go on and on but I just wanted to say that it has been almost 2yrs since I last saw him and I think about him everyday, EVERYDAY! Even though I am angry, hurt and disappointed with him, we had agreed to remain friends. However he has faltered with that as well. He moved to another country and he has yet to reply to my last email from 6 months ago.
How can I feel hatred and love for him? How does that work?
I do recall doing a compatibility quiz for our signs and it said that “the broken heart will always be that of the Cancer”. Maybe I should have listened then and not find myself where I am now.
My greatest disappointment with him was that he invited me on several occasions to visit him. I finally agreed, purchased my ticket and when it came time to go, he asked me to postpone. I told him I understood and again didn’t confront him about it. He postponed the trip 3 times and on the last time he told me it was because he was in a new relationship. I left it alone and although we continued contact via email and phone calls. He ignored the expiration on my plane ticket and I lost the fare. I have not made contact with him. I have left him alone. I have always respected his freedom, privacy and space.
I know I need to let go. Move on. As a cancer, that is so very hard to do!
I don’t know that I would erase this experience but I could do without the resentment and regret to some of the things that occurred. I doubt that I could ever date another Aquarius again, not because I dislike them but because of the incompatibilities between us.
Some of the negative Aquarius displayed:
Distrust, jealous, self centered, unreliable, stingy, impatient and cruel.
Some of the positive:
Passionate, intelligent, funny, strong, adventurous and love.
Thank you for all the info on Aquarius, as it has offered some comfort.
With reading some of the comments, I now realize it is not “just” my experience.
August 19th, 2009 at 4:54 pm
As a Gemini girl, I need lots of love and attention. I dated Aquarius men that have been exactly like what you described and it’s just too hard. I wouldn’t forgive anyone for forgetting my birthday. The long conversations are nice, you can talk to an Aquarius men about anything and they will hear you. But it comes to a point were it’s not enough. Gemini’s are sensitive and we need admiration like we need oxygen, Aquarius men can’t deliver.
August 20th, 2009 at 6:06 pm
Hi Maggie,
I also need lots of love, affection and attention. At first he gave me all of that, he got me hooked on it as my ex-husband was not verbally or physically affectionate. I was on cloud nine with the Aquarius. I believe that is what I miss the most, he made me feel beautiful and desired and the chemistry was out of this world. He admitted that about us. So, I don’t know what happened?
I wanted to say that I don’t think he “forgot” my birthday, I think he intentionally avoided it as if to say that he was somehow disconnected from me and my life, holding me back and arms length. Maybe? I don’t know!
I am tired of missing him, thinking about him, dreaming about him almost every day! Is this something you experienced with your ex-Aqua’s? Does it take so long to shake free of them?
August 20th, 2009 at 11:55 pm
Hi Becky, I have been spending way too many hours reading all the posts on your site..thank you for creating such a wonderful site. I have a question (sorry it’s going to be a long one) and I was hoping you could help me out because I cant stop thinking about it and analyzing it.
I am a gemini (female) born in mid june and he is an acquarius born towards the end of january. We met online and hit it off from date one. For the first couple of weeks, we spend a lot of time together, and the time increased each week. We would always be the one to called first and invited me out and every time, we went somewhere very nice and he was a perfect gentelman. There were times when we spend hours upon hours talking non stop until the morning. I have met some of his friends and he met mine, and I have been over his house several times. And here’s the strange part - he tried nothing physical with me, not even a kiss. And it has nothing to do with age b/c we’re both young adults, him being older than me. And then after about 6 weeks of seeing each other all the time, he stopped calling or texting. I called him maybe 1 time and texted him twice and he never ignored me. He always called me back or texted me back being nice and friendly, but he stopped inviting me places. Then I figured that he’s not interested and even though I was really confused and annoyed at the abrupt stop, I figure I’ll just move on. But then this past weekend he called on Friday and we talked for a bit but I was out with my friends so I had to cut it off. Then he called again Sat night and again I was out. So I called him back on Sunday and we spoke for a little under an hour. Then he told me that he had to go somewhere and we said bye and that was it . I don’t understand this, it’s not like anything I have ever experience before. We spend a ridiculous amount of time together and spends a lot of money and he tries nothing physical. And then he stops and just when I think he’s not interested, he calls, but doesn’t invite me out again. I don’t know what this means? What do I do? I really want to ask him what’s going on, if he’s interested but I don’t know if I should. What do you think?
I would really appreciate your input, as this has been driving me crazy.
August 21st, 2009 at 9:38 am
Hello people:) Here is my story. I met an aquarius guy, age of 30. Im 11 years younger than him. I am a scorpion. He told me the third time after we met he does not want a relationship. So i stopped talking to him and ignored him. He begged me back. I told him I wont be no sex buddy. Then time was flowing, and now we are almost 8 month together. I found out from his stuff that he writes and meets with girls. Also that he lies to me all the time about where he is. Anyways, we almost met every day, and usually it was good to be with him. After I found out about that he writes and meets with girls, I broke up with him. He begged himself back. He promised me the stars, that he will change, and that he loves me and so on. So i told him, that I am only willing to put it up in a committed relationship. He agreed. Now I find out that he still lies to me about where he goes and with who. And he keeps denying, but when you see it with your own eyes, then it is hard to believe. He really keeps me under his control. I broke up with him nowdays again. For a week, he was texting, writing, calling, trying everything. I ignored it completely. Then we met as a coincidence when I went out. We both cried again,and he told me how much he loves me and he would do anything to get me back, because i am the best thing that happened to him. But we clearly have different perspectives about a relationship. He says he does not mind if I meet with guys. And that is not okey for me. He says he has been faithful, but I dont believe him anymore. Then messages came again after the time we met, and I ignored them again. Now, we will meet today, and hopefully this is the last time. I have suffered a lot from this guy. He is in love with me, but he is a jerk. He is so scared of commitment. He really knows how to use words, and how to manipulate. Sex is great with him, and we laugh a lot together, and cuddle and kiss. We always go to places, and he always wants me to go with him abroad. The point is, that his words are empty, and his actions do not support them. I do not know if this has anything to do with him being an aqurious but from what I am reading here, it seems so. It will be very hard for me now, but I would do anything to be happy and free again from this guy, because he kills me with his bullshit. Even though he cries like a baby after me, and basically stalks me and wants me so much, he cannot give up his lifestyle of meeting with girls, and probably having sex with them. I really trusted him from the beginning but after what I saw from his stuff, it was all gone. And as a Scorpion, it is very hard, if not impossible to get that trust back. So ill tell what happened after today’s meeting if you are interested. And I would be happy to see some reactions to my comment. Love, C
August 22nd, 2009 at 3:04 am
GemGirl,
I am in the same Boat as you! I have known this Aquarius for a few months and we have hung out a few times. He always leaves Big Gaps in between hanging out and texting.
He Usually keeps his distance like a typical Aquarius, which makes me think he is not interested in Me. Just when I think he doesn’t like me after a few weeks he will call me to hang out! We get along great which is rarely heard of w/ Aquas since I am a Leo, but we talk and laugh , but he has never made a Pass at me!!! He has not kissed me or even held my hand , or even sat next to me , nothing. But Yet he texts me to hang out with him, Go to his place , the beach. I am his pal , which is good and bad.
Gemgirl, I read somewhere Aquas like to become friends first and date their friends . I was told this on another site . I Like this info better though.
I am glad to see I am not the only girl who does not know If I am “Just” his friend? why he takes so long to call? leaves long gaps in between our dates!
Just when I give up he invites me to his place and surprises me with a Book he bought me about Leo’s! I was so impressed , but even at his house , still no kiss!!
I am a Leo and would rather have him make the first move. Will I ruin my chances If I kiss him first?! I can’t take it anymore!! I wanna pounce on him! LOL , he is so smart and handsome and a Humanitarian …*sigh*
Good Luck everyone!! Aquarius Rock!
August 25th, 2009 at 4:13 pm
In my experience with Aqua Man, I would not make the first move. He will love you for it in the moment, but later,I think he will resent you for it! Aqua’s hate to feel cornered or forced to do anything. Even though the moment of being taken will be exiting, he will then think about it and feel as I mentioned.
Well, I have not heard from this Aqua man in almost 7 months, did he forget about me? Or is he doing the disappearing thing for now? Will I suddenly receive an email and he’ll act as if no time has passed? Or should I delete his contact info and move on, forget about him? I suppose I am waiting to see if he makes any effort to contact me or at least recognize that he screwed me out of using the ticket I bought to visit him. Does he even care? I have so much resentment toward him that all I can think of is confronting his bad behavior and telling him he has no integrity and at the same time, I want to keep this friendship, the connection we both felt at one time. I wish I could erase him from my mind!…sometimes!!!!!
September 8th, 2009 at 3:46 am
Hi!
What a great web site. Seeing this post on the Aquarian man - I had to read as I am married to one. And wow, how spot on it was, made me smile as it is all so accurate. The bit about walking out of the room (general knowledge) and not playing tennis HA! MY HUSBAND DOES THE SAME THING…. But THEY SURPRISE YOU ONCE IN AWHILE and do give something they can’t do a go. When they master it they make themselves so happy (I secretly think they are keen to please, but aren’t we all?). I agree though, if you are better at something than him its down to pure luck, and they often don’t acknowledge you did it better than them! Aquarian men are moody, and highly intelligent, love to read mostly non fiction and don’t follow the norm. He loves fashion but hates capitalism, but will happily spend the money on beautiful clothes, that’s not to say he is frivolous with money. He is much better than I! He blocks things out of his mind if he does not have time to worry or simply doesn’t want to - I suspect these men do worry a lot though. They may drink a lot to unwind, but will easily give up a long time smoking habit almost overnight, and never go back. Friends who have tried to quit for years will be amazed at his will power. These men will let you know how well they have done in giving up (in a very quiet way…)! Good on them though, that pure self determination is inspiring. They are very hard workers, often anarchists at heart and admire beauty in a woman (doesn’t every man!). Yes they may forget to give you a birthday card, and treat your birthday like its just another day. You may need to remind him of his friends & family’s birthdays too (i wonder if secretly they do remember, but just like to leave all that organising up to someone else). I guess this air sign prefer to connect on an intelligent level. Agreeing on things will please him as this makes him feel like he has a true partner in crime - one he can discuss the problems of the world with. Discussing how to create positive changes in others is his idea of a great night out. They do create a great deal, and these males are extremely strong willed. A great mate to speak to for advice on almost anything, he will point you in the right direction (if they are heading in the right direction themselves - it may take them awhile to find there life purpose). Aquarian men will bring out the best in you - in that they help you improve all the things you were bad at (they’re not so good at addressing the emotional stuff though). This advice will come in a very pragmatic, fair and intelligent way. I’ve given up expecting to connect on a spiritual level with my husband as this is far too vague for him - they are true skeptics - and prefer scientific reasoning! They give great hugs no matter how many you need, just make sure they are in a good mood. They are stunningly beautiful, kind, and understanding too. They will let you escape into fantasy but won’t always join you, there are too many more serious things to consider!
Does he sound like many contradictions rolled into one?? Perhaps that is the Aquarian man.
He is certainly a true individual who’s ideas may likely be spoken of in hundreds of years to come. If only he would consider meditation or yoga - or work on his intuition - I highly doubt it though!
Love from a Libran female who likes to day dream just a little and is only a tiny bit indecisive…
x
September 16th, 2009 at 10:08 am
Hello!
Aquarius male here and I definitely do agree with most of this article and it was a real pleasure to read. My situation is this, I am an Aquarius Sun/Cancer Moon/Cancer Rising. Aquarians truely do have barrels and barrels of emotion and with my moon and rising in Cancer, that emotion is triple fold.
The real problem with this combo is that I have a lot of kindness, romance and love in my heart, but when I try to make it show, it comes out all odd and distant! Every once in awhile I’ll be able to put the words together and really express what I feel. A lot of the time though my Gemini girlfriend picks up and my odd distanceness (that’s really fun to say, try it :P) and doesn’t believe me.
Anyways enough of my ranting. Thanks for that article it definitely gave me a few chuckles
Best of luck to you and your Aquarian! I’m glad somebody out there understands us.
September 16th, 2009 at 11:42 pm
Hi Becky
I love your website, and i agree 100% with every detail you say about your aqua man. I’m a Gemini, and i love my Aquarius 2 bits, he is the best!! Iv never dated one before, always some one else, some other sign, i was happy, but things just did not work, but the first time my eyes met with my honey bun, sparks just flew, in a good way, and it still does!! ill never go back, and i never imagined i could be so happy and satisfied, can you belive a Gemini satisfied, its g8! Words cant describe it, i love aqua men, you guys rock the Gemini word!!
September 26th, 2009 at 2:45 am
I am a Leo/Virgo who has had the misfortune of being involved with a Capricorn/Aquarius and a
Aquarius. The first was a little better than the second, but they both ended up being the most humiliating, hellish experiences I ever had. The instability and selfishness of the first one and the bizarre, manipulative, secretive behavior of the second almost drove me to insanity. Also, they were devoid of logic and fairness; their mistakes were ok but I was expected to be perfect. The first one, owing to the Capricorn influence was more straightforward about his feelings, but the second was like a hollow log until you disappointed him or angered him. An Aquarius’ anger is unreal, and you never forget it once you experience it. They bring new meaning to the words emotional abuse. Then afterwards, you’re supposed to just forgive and forget. The second one floated around like a ghost, and wouldn’t let me really know him. Aquarius men(at least these two) are the masters of mind games; they excel in keeping you off balance. They disappear when you need them, but expect you to be there when they need you.
They don’t want to talk, but they expect you to read their minds and anticipate their every need. Passive-aggressive. I thank God I survived. Never again!
October 7th, 2009 at 3:21 pm
Hello Becky,
Just came across your insights into the Aquarian male.
I agree with all the plus points of the Aquarian and although I hate to admit it I have to agree with most of the negative also.
It’s an interesting article, never thought about how different all us Aquarians are. I enjoyed reading it.
This one off, unique nutty oddball wishes you well.
October 13th, 2009 at 6:30 am
I was born on Jan. 20 and everything seem true. I also like to act confused all the time with my eyebrows raise, and people say I am very humorous. I am a fast learner and I can cook good food too. I am very confident but I don’t talk at all in class unless I am call on by the teacher or have to present something to the class, and somehow girls still seem interested but are too imitated by me (they think I am a gangster or drug dealer, but I am the nicest person ever once they get to know me, that’s what all my past classmate said) to make a move. Which is why I still never been on a date at the age of 20. Its funny how hot girls think they can get us by staring at us, we act like we don’t notice them but we do notice them. We can tell when someone looks at us when we past by, like things get quiet or we can hear the person stopped doing what she was doing, its like we have eyes in back of our head. I am a catholic and believe sex is for marriage, but in today society, most girl loose their virginity at the average age of 16, that’s why I am still single. I built a thick wall with barbwire around my heart (I am a sucker for love) and I am always 2 move ahead of you girls, so don’t think you can fool me, LMAO. When I glance or stare at you, it doesn’t mean I want to go out with you, it just mean I am admiring your beauty. Beside, I only go for cute girl with good morale. Ways I try and figure out which girls has good morale is by founding girl who go to church that sit with their family, doesn’t smoke or get drunk, etc.
Its true, I am very generous and fair, one time, I was going home from school to buy food, instead of buying food, I gave my last $10 with me to a homeless man sleeping on the grass. Also, when my brother does something that piss me off and I tell him I am not going to give him free candy anymore, the next day. I still gave him free candy. Also, when my brother ask for help like how much does this item cost with 30% off, or how much does it cost per item. I would always said, (since we are close and play around a lot) “suck it” “get away from me” “suck my balls” “hump it sucker”, but I always end up helping them because they keep saying, “come on man”.
Once I made up my mind, don’t try to move me. For example, I take my mom to the grocery store a lot, but when we get home, I ask her “want to go anywhere else?”, if she said maybe then I said, “I am going to changed my cloth into something comfortable ok, unless you are going to go somewhere right now”. My mom said go ahead and I changed into something comfortable, then 2-5 hour later, she come begging me to take her to the store, but I simply won’t budge. If she get lucky, my dad or one of my 4 older brother might take her, lol.
We do love challenges, whether its about chasing girls or sport. We always win though, ;). Reason why I hide my emotion because I don’t want to seem weak or let people found out my weakness. Even though we seen strong and tough, when a love one hurt us, we do think about what would happen if we loose a love one and what the future would be like, and we would sometimes feel super sad and fall asleep. When my mom try and act sad or mad, I can make her laugh with my face expression and body language, but when she actually get sad, we are serious and very caring. When she get mad, I walk out because I don’t want to make the situation worst and hope she forgets about it later.
P.S Whats up with them ignoring you for weeks or even month? I mean, a couple of days seem alright, but weeks?
And sorry about this long post on your site, its just that I am so addicted to this astrology stuff that I am founding to be interesting.
October 23rd, 2009 at 10:18 am
Where did go Veronica?
October 23rd, 2009 at 11:48 pm
I’m an Aqua man and I saw this was Awesome…spot on
October 25th, 2009 at 4:00 am
Hey… Thanks for your opinion.
So I am an Aquarius woman… and recently met an Aquarius man.
I can only imagine us together.
Last night we met at midnight, and walked to a football field, first without a football, and he told me he had one in his car. I love football.
Then we went to pick one up, and went back to the field. We then walked down the road to a river, TWO MILES. Without notice as well. I jumped on the caboose of a train that ran parallel to the river and climbed to the top for fun. Continuing our walk down the river we came across a swing where I played with him and a PIRATE ship.
Playing around and having fun 3am was coming around the corner… well I played a pirate and climbed to the top of the ship… where we shared our first kiss.
It was sweet and quick really.
We then walked back to the dorm and hung out in the study hall of his building and cuddled on the couch while talking and stuff.
I thought of him while you were reading this… some parts.
I will comment more when more happens.
Thanksss.
-Rae
October 27th, 2009 at 4:57 pm
LMAO!!! my boyfriend is an aquarius , and everything you said is so true. I used to think that he does’nt care, and that he does’nt love me anymore, and that he just did’nt want to be with me anymore, but YOU REALLY JUST HELPED ME!!!! And now i understand what it is… WOW what a man! And i love aquarius men too, I actually dated one right before i got with this one, but he was more mature than this one so the relationship was kind of different than this one! By the way i am a sagittarius, and this is a relationship that i deffinately wont forget LOL… we’ve been together a year and three months now, and it’s going ” OK ” so far LOL!!!!
October 29th, 2009 at 9:32 pm
Hey all
Actually I am pretty annoyed with you Aquarians. Why do you have to be so aloof? It is so annoying!! lol
Well I’ve read the comments on here and everything, and I am very interested in astrology so I do know about you Aquarius men, I know you don’t act aloof and distant on purpose - that is just who you are. But it is still very annoying, and the most annoying thing is that it is impossible to stay angry with you! Because when we confront you about things, you honestly don’t seem to understand what you did wrong, because you didn’t act cold and unemotional on purpose - it’s just your personality! Arghhh! =)
I dated an Aqua guy, he doesn’t want a relationship with me so we are just friends right now.
However, I do notice that the more aloof and uninterested I act the more interested and keen he gets.
I just wonder what to do to make him open up emotionally? Is there a way to warm them up? I want him to open up to me and trust me enough to confide in me, but he is so cold.
October 29th, 2009 at 9:39 pm
Oh and to GemGirl up there:
I know what you mean. I experienced the exact same thing, he kept asking me out on dates and acted as if he was interested, but didn’t try to kiss my or even hold my hand, and even seemed to back off when I tried to hug him. Yet he kept asking me out and talked to me in a way he didn’t do with other girls.
So I asked him where things where going, if he was interested, and then everything turned into a mess and he sort of panicked and said that he’s not looking for a girlfriend right now
(Wtf? He had been flirting with me all along?)
Anyway. So I’m just warning you, be careful if you do confront him or something like that.
Aquas don’t like to feel caged or fenced in, and doesn’t (generically speaking) like to commit.
October 30th, 2009 at 7:38 pm
ATTENTION FOR THOSE WHO THINGS THEY KNOW MUCH ABOUT AN AQUARIAN
hi dear,
i am aquarian man, i was going through your post about an aquarian man ,i agree some of your opinion about an aquarian man but , i am sorry to say that an opinion cannot be generalised . I will like to tell u few truth about an auquarian ,first of all they are not afraid of telling truth , they will never agree on things which cannnot be justfied on any ground ,like being gay or a lesbian which is a mental sickness but people say it as an individual choice but actually it is a neurological disorder , unnatural . They are versatile and know many things, which is beyond the capability of other signs , so they have an edge over other people when arguing , so it is better not to argue with them , as u have admitted in your post. more over our general knowledge is much more than an average man , as we have an inquisitive nature to know every thing . which generally other people are less interested to know . As many woman feel that we are less romantic it is not completely true as we cannot express our inner feeling in a dramatic way as u girls love or u girls like to be pampered but that dosen’t mean we are unromantic . show off of love not necessrily means true love always . it can be false impression too. An aquarian can be the best friend at time of distress and a very good advisor so try to listen too them it will be helpful. moreover aquarian is a honest friend too . They don’t try to be smart in things they don’t know it is not a matter of embarresement but not to be over smart , YES they like smart and intellegent woman as that matches with thier mental level , NEVER ever hit thier EGO , SELFESTEEM , SELF RESPECT u will loose them as once provoked they really BECOME FIERY and don’t even care to do their own damage and latter regret upon it , its OUR WEAKNESS ,, they seem to be arrogant but it is not true as they try to force thier opinions firmly . I agree they are bit dominant but it is in their nature which can be corrected by love and affection.BUT once u win them they are all yours . They are responsible , caring , sincere , LOVE any body MORE than any average man ,i cannot compare with any sign as i don’t know much about any sign .
BUT TRUST ME IF U HONESTLY LOVING AN AQUARIAN SHOW UR INFINITE LOVE FOR HIM ONCE HE REALISES UR TRUE LOVE HE WILL NEVER LEAVE U ‘BELIVE ME’ AND TRY TO UNDERSTAND THEM . THOUGH ITS HARD TO UNDERSTAND AQUARIAN WITHOUT BEING AN AQUARIAN . THERE IS SO MUCH TO KNOW U JUST KNOW A LITTLE. RELATIONSHIP IS ALL ABOUT UNDERSTANDING EACH OTHER . AS MOST OF THE RELATIONS ARE BROKEN JUST FOR SATISFYING EACH OTHERS EGO. TRY TO MAKE RELATIONSHIP POSSIBLE THAT IS THE BEAUTY OF LIFE .
SORRY FOR ANY GRAMATICAL OR SPELLING ERROR IN THE POST AS MY MOTHER TONGUE IS NOT ENGLISH
November 2nd, 2009 at 5:41 am
I was with an aqq man for over 3 years… and was my fiance at one point…
I have recently started to talk to him again ..and am feeling very frustrated as i did when i was with him… I have never in my intire life been in such an intense emotionaly draining relationship ever!!!! one minute he is sweet cute adorably funny witty and charming…the next he is no where to be found ..distant and strange…. I spent three years with him and never fely so out of the loop with a person..very secritive… I couldnt ask a single question like where are you going? it pissed him off… he would hide things like his phone calls his computer activity…block off his face book..of which he wouldnt even add me as a friend…I felt like i knew nothing about him and wanted to more than anything…if he said jump i did and rolled over at the same time…It was like trying to break down a brick wall..he was and is a writer..thats all that mattered…we would spend no time alone and if we did it was always like he was somewhere else….we would break up off and on off and on..and he was always the first to ask for me back.so i thought ok he is going to try..nope a week in and the same crap…i barely knew his friends his family…he would come home late..and I was afraid to ask him anything he would get angry and call me paronoid…the only way i knew anything was if he slipped it out and even than he would cover it up…great story teller…..
At the same time we cant leave each other alone… but when i get back with him my whole world is flipped upside down and he doesnt see it…sooo cold….
So what i have to say about aquarious men…. something i have never very exsperienced and its a love and hate to the death… I would not do it again… i have had a friend try and set me up with her friend and as soon as she said aquarious ..i said no thinks…Im too exausted…the thought gives me anxiety….phewwwwww…p.s My self wirth goes right out the door with aq men…distance and secritiveness is very unhealthy….
November 2nd, 2009 at 6:02 am
…I would have to say am glad wel relieved that im not the only person who feels this way about aq man…. I thought I was going nuts there for a second….
I have to be honest…I have noticed having two aq men in my family and an ex aq man… I have never felt so uneasy around a person… Ever!!!! and small be littled and judged…
It seems all the three aq men I know are all hermits also is that Just me? My brother for instance.. Does not leave the house unless to wander to the store..has no friends besides on the computer and no one really knows exactly what he does on there because he hides it… He sufers from depression also and temper issues…he is exsplosive…. as was my ex…
I do know all three of them to be very good writers…my sister as well…but socially ..not so good…Its almost like they think people are out to get them judge them or be little them there for they stay inside to not have to interact… my ex will fully sit on the computer on msn while im on there ..not say a word…when he knows i am there..than his status will change at least 4-5 times…like he is trying to show me he is on there..just to mess with my head… oh and than theres the temper that comes with a mouthful of vengful bitter crap…like when we broke up the last time because he choked me …. yup..sat on me and told me he was the devil and i wil never understand who he is and the power he has…”you dont know who i am he said”"” so yeah after we broke up my computer internet was hacked to death he said it was not him..but i was geting emails from people saying they know him and to help there friend because he is hurting her…i was getting emails from his address but with my email attached i was scared to death…
now he talks to me about…well..i love you …im sorry for everything..than nothing for days… than hi baby..wanna come see me i miss your little fingers and toes and i wanna kis them… than i say no i dont think i can not today ..and nothing for another day ..than he tells me he is going to bc for 3 months this just after crying saying we need to work it out that he needs me…oh yes so your going to bc because what ?..you need me or you want some more distance….
Ohhhh dont get me started on aquarious men!!!!!
and btw…the aquarious men who are posting on here!!! well of course you dont agree….
You always think your right after all !!!!! and everyone is just misunderstanding!!!!
Yeah…
November 3rd, 2009 at 1:53 am
Yeah im a pisces and i personally agree with all of you.. I am currently in an on again off again relationship with an aquarius. We are two totally different people and sometimes i find it very hard to relate. Pisces are emotional and aquarius’es are so unemotional and that can be sooooo frustrating. Im not saying that aquariuses are the enemy (my sister is also an aquarius), because me and my aqua man have had very good times within our year long relationship.. but we dont connect very well because im more laid back and hes so uptight.. idk whats gonna happen now.. but i just know us pisces arent meant to be with aquariusess.
November 3rd, 2009 at 10:05 pm
I am worried about my aquarius man. Things were totally perfect before we did it. Before that he spoke to me everyday until I put out. All the sudden he magically stopped talken to me as much now he only speaks to me like once a week and I haven’t seen him since we hooked up. I still like him very much I just don’t know what to do. I don’t know what to say. I have no idea what I did wrong. I never in a million years thought that would be a one nighter because he kissed me with so much passion and treated me with such respect. I thought we had something special. Will he come back? I am an aquarius too. You’d think I’d understand him but I don’t anymore.
November 11th, 2009 at 3:48 am
wow!!! I’m amazed really I am. I’m an Aquarius man. most things i would agree with you well nearly all of it but you said about bad feeling i can handle them, i deal with it and put it away, end of. I’m good at general knowledge and i try new things all the time (but i do want to win, if i cant I’ll do anything to be able to, if i started it i wont stop until i do win) almost every time i set my mind to it i do well. other then that you did really well and i learn from what you said i thought it was me but now i realise its not its because i was born in feb that makes me so unique lol
November 11th, 2009 at 3:59 am
Im an Aquarius and wat rajan said is 100% i totaly agree with him.
November 20th, 2009 at 5:10 am
I’m a virgo woman and I have had two Aquarius boyfriends, almost three and other Aquarius dating experiences I get along with the Aqua men well because of their intelligence and curiousity about life, while I as a virgo also like to ask questions and analyze, so Aqua men keep me on my toes, which is fun, but I have to say one thing I’ve observed is that many of the Aqua men I’ve come in contact with just have something about themselves that make me wonder if he may be gay or bisexual…this is from my personal experience with different Aqua men..they all had something that was a little overly feminine about them that made me think they were gay, although they would swear up and down on a stack of bibles that they were not. I found this very confusing and also a turn off which is why I won’t pursue a relationship with an Aqua man who is chasing me currently…we get along great, his personality is great, but I get the over-whelming feeling that he wouldn’t mind sleeping with a man…for certain reasons.
November 28th, 2009 at 5:52 pm
Spot on hilarious! I’m an aquarian male (Leo rising) and I really just had to say, when it comes to dating an aquarian male you have to be at most somewhat intellectual and fun. Not going to the bar every night kind of fun, that’s fun, but gets old. As for intellectual that can swing to anything that piques my intellect, like I dated a gemini once, she was a fantastic artist and I found myself doing things like going to art shows and art museums, and loved every second of it. I suppose the opposite person needs to posses a little something more interesting than the norm, cause I’ve broken up several budding relationships do to lack there of. A lot of people think we are bad lovers and I’ve been told on several occassions that I only love myself…this ofcourse is not true. Aquarians should really stick to their own kind, it would save a lot of headache and time (which every aquarian lives by). Anybody that falls outside of the Gemini, libra, Aries, sag is pretty much destined for failure (or atleast that’s how I perceive it). Believe me, Ive dated several girls From Virgo to cancer to pisces to taurus and being completely honest some went real good until that sun sign started peaking it’s nose into the relationship. Can aquarian guys be romantic, yes, but not like those fictional romantic books, I think they’re funny…and fictional lol. Aquarians have their own way of being romantic.
December 4th, 2009 at 4:47 pm
I’m an Aquarius female & when reading peoples comments about the Aquarius mans bad qualitys I can’t help but defend them! If you don’t click with an Aquarius … You never will. So all these girls “putting up” with these bad qualitys should stop wasting their time. Aquarius people are picky with who they commit to because finding mental chemistry with someone is so very rare but for me at least, it seems like
my life mission lol. I think two aquarius’s make the best pair because we truely understand each other…. There are, of course, exceptions to this
December 8th, 2009 at 4:45 am
thanks becky! very helpful, have loved reading the posts. i too love an aqua male, who drives me nuts, and who is currently in a ‘disappeared’ state–about a month. trying not to think its me, but its hard. i’m aquarius too, so i get it, but it’s still rough and disappointing. long story. thought you all might find this link interesting…
http://astrological-sun-signs.suite101.com/article.cfm/marriage_and_divorce_for_aquarius
December 10th, 2009 at 1:55 pm
Brooke has a very valid point. Aquarians are very much an acquired taste (so to speak) and while they can make excellent partners, if you don’t *click* to begin with, you probably never will. To make things worse, considering the Aquarian habit of over analysing, he will be very much aware of the fact that the connection hasn’t been made.
Now I’m an Aquarius man myself and considering I’m Aquarius in both star and moon sign, I’m pretty much the most typical Aquarian male you can get. Now I can pretty much understand why people get annoyed with us, the unemotional facade is not something we can help. Quite frankly, we can’t deal with emotion (often regardless of whether that emotion is positive or negative) and yet we are cursed with an abundance of it. For us, the only way to deal with this emotion is to display either humour or cynicism (those of you with Aquarian partners may have noticed a tendency to be sarcastic) and when we are expected to delve deeper, we panic.
It can be tempting to try and push an Aquarius man toward snapping point, if only to get some form of reaction… Don’t do it. Assuming you can pin us down long enough to bring us to snapping point, the results will not be pretty. Aquarians are not aggressive, but on the (exceedingly) rare occasions somebody makes us snap, years worth of pent up aggression and sadness come tumbling forth in a short-lived but unpleasant tirade that leaves others shocked, upset and utterly disillusioned. As a side note, I’ve noticed a trend amongst Aquarian men to become quite severely depressed, but they will never show it if they can help it.
If you are looking for a light hearted, fun loving relationship, then Aquarian men can accomodate quite easily. If however you expect to settle down, be prepared for an Aquarian to panic. Needless to say, water signs in particular are very likely to suffer with an Aquarian, as honesty and rationality are far more important to an Aquarian than notions of love and romance (or at least, that’s what they try and convince themselves. Truth be told, Aquarian men are easily heartbroken and can fall completely in love in a flash. The problem is that we can’t bring ourselves to admit it). A good example of this from my own life is when an ex of mine asked me, “do you think we’ll be together forever?” I answered quite plainly, “No probably not.” The stupid thing is I didn’t even realise how awful this was at the time (I’m older now, and hopefully wiser).
If you want to connect with an Aquarian man, you may as well forget about “tarting” yourself up and leave your dance moves at home. These things simply don’t impress us. Instead, find a subject you are passionate about and discuss it. While there is nothing worse than a girl without her own opinion, to see somebody with a broad knowledge of a subject they feel strongly about definitely piques interest!
I couldn’t help but notice a few posters complained that Aquarian men seem reluctant to kiss and hug. I actually laughed to myself as this is something I do myself, if somebody tries to hug me I tend to be a little overwhelmed. Try not to worry too much about this as with Aquarius it shouldn’t be taken as a sign that they don’t like you. You are doing nothing wrong by trying to hug and kiss them (in fact, it’s usually better that you make the first move. The Aquarian fear of rejection can be crippling at times) and over time they should begin to relax more.
To summarize, Aquarian men can quite frankly be a pain in the neck, but don’t take it personally. We genuinely do love deeply (sometimes too deeply) and to know that we are hurting somebody we care about is devastating. We are willing to go out of our way to look after our partners and often feel complete when we have somebody to protect. If you can get past the outer ice, Aquarians really aren’t all that bad. Just don’t try to force the ice away, it’ll melt itself over time.
Bit rambling perhaps, but hopefully a few of you will find this helpful. Best of luck.
December 13th, 2009 at 11:27 pm
Thank you Dave for what you wrote. I needed to read that. It helped put some perspective on what I was going through. I feel hurt, disappointed, and let down by this aqua guy that I really cared about. But he has ran away, far far away, and I don’t want to deal with it anymore, feeling let down…asking him why he doesn’t want to be in contact… I’m moving on.
You aqua guys, I do love you all, for you have this way of being such a friend and being able to talk…and I connect with this sign on so many levels…but when I thought there was a deeper thread of love, of connection…he went away and and just doesn’t want to even communicate. I will do the same though…I’m not going to sit here feeling like I was abandoned…I won’t write him back either.
Anyway, I appreciate what you wrote, clears things up a bit more for me.
December 14th, 2009 at 12:48 pm
Hey. I have 2 say tht Most of the posts tht I have read have been very informative. I am a Virgo lady so its a bit dissapointin 2 read tht It will neva wrk wit an AQUA guy. I have been chattin wit my AQ 4 3mnths now. our 1st date was amazn & we spent a few days 2gethr aftr. but thn he had 2 up & go due 2 job location. we still keep incontact & he’s the most sweetest guy I hav ever incountrd. but he alwys leavs me wit mixd feelns. one min so into me the next vague & distant. being tht I am a virgo I tend 2 B very selective wit partners and whn I do find tht one tht displys the most chemistry I stck 2 like glue. virgos r very passionate lovers and tend 2 carry the same traits as an AQUA. we r very icy on the surface but undaneath is so much passion. its hard dealn wit him cause I 2 am difficult 2 figure out & will hide & protect my heart tht is so full of emotion. I’m not sure where 2 begin or end with this AQUA but I have 2 say these comments create a better passage way. comments wuld greatly b appreciated.
lovelyvirgo
December 15th, 2009 at 3:35 am
Thanks Dave, just glad to hear an Aquarian man admit his faults. Yes, I am broken hearted over an Aqua man, but trying to move on. However, my question is….HE was the one who constantly said we had a connection that he felt was very strong, comparing me to his closest and limited friends. He has also disappeared for sometime and has not communicated with me at all. So, what happened to that “connection”? Does that type of bond to another person diminish for you as well? Just curious.
Dreamy fish girl,
Thank you also for your comment. I know I deserve more than the scraps and crumbs I received from my ex, it’s just hard for me because he had a spell over me I cannot explain! What happened to your guy? Where did he go?
December 16th, 2009 at 9:53 am
Dear In Repair, I hope you are doing well.
I don’t know where this aqua guy went, but like us water signs must do sometimes, we just have to let it wash away with the water…and I’m moving on. The truth is I know that he knows we had something very deep and special, but I guess some people can’t deal with feelings, so they run, flee. It takes a certain maturity and self confidence to be able to stay with your feelings and stay with something meaningful, and I think this guy was, or is not there yet. But I don’t want to sit here blaming him. He’s always going to hold a special place in my heart. I’m just going on, into the new year and going forward because life is full, rich, beautiful and there are people out there that can appreciate that and value someone that wants a deeper connection, and not just switch to the next newest conquest.
So, that is my wish and vision for myself as the new year approaches…and I trust in my instincts to know what is good for me.
Take care In Repair (hey that rhymes!) I have no doubt you had a special bond with your aqua friend too, and he even said it himself- that there was/is a connection. I wish the best for you. Happiness, peace and joy during the holidays and the new year.
December 16th, 2009 at 12:07 pm
Hi InRepair, I’m genuinely sorry to hear what you’re going through, but in all honesty I would avoid beating yourself up about it. Yes unfortunately Aquarians can fall out of love just as quickly as they can fall in love. Sometimes this happens naturally, othertimes Aquarius may deliberately force strong feelings away in order to rebuild their defensive “shell”.
If he was the one who admitted to a deep connection, it’s possible he still feels that way, but can’t deal with it. This really isn’t your problem and I wouldn’t reccomend waiting up. If he returns at a later date to find that you’ve moved on, it will be a valuable lesson to him (harsh maybe, but experience has taught me that Aquarians often need to experience the odd “crash course” in emotion if they are ever to really enjoy love properly).
Thankyou all for your comments, I’m glad that my post has helped people… Best of luck to all of you.
December 16th, 2009 at 8:53 pm
Dave, your words of wisdom have helped me very much…my gratitude. It just allows me understand it all better. You are an evolved and wise Aquarian, and that is a gift that comes with time and experience.
There are others of you that have written really insightful and honest thoughts.
Sarah, your post, so candid, made me see things realistically, and laugh some too, and I think humor is helpful to me right now, so thanks for your comment a while back.
Becky, thankyou for this website and opening up the conversation. I never was involved with an Aquarian until this year, other than friends…but it must be this Age of Aquarius thing.
I guess it has been a bit of a self-reflecting time for me too, since I am a Pisces born near the cusp of Aquarius, so I have never considered, until recently, seeing that maybe I have qualities in myself that I have never examined before until now.
Wishing everyone a good New Year.
December 17th, 2009 at 9:55 pm
Dave and DreamyFishGirl,
Thank you both. I began writing in response and realized how pathetic I was coming across, re-hashing the past, looking for answers that aren’t there. I decided not to post it but I’ve been in tears for the last hour.
I guess I am ‘waiting up’ as Dave put it, holding my breath, for I think of him daily and wait to hear from him. This is not me at all! I don’t even recognize myself in the ‘mirror’!
I want to believe the latter in Dave’s post, that he forced himself out of whatever he felt for me, that he struggles with it, even now. Sadly, I must say that another part of me(probably my brain) believes he never did have a connection and just moved on, is now happily with someone else and glad he has no dealings with me.
I need to say this. (Dave, you seem to have a good understanding about this. When you wrote about the question asked to you about ‘being together forever’ and you realized how awful your response was). Well, I hope my post are helpful to Aquarians as an example of how badly you can hurt those you attract and pursue. I know we are all different by nature and nurture, perhaps my ex had an experience in his life that made him cautious and maybe bitter.
I know I really do need to shake this off and live my life! I wish my heart could understand that too!!! I have not gone out with anyone since my ex, as no one seems to catch my interest. The chemistry is just not there for me and I am truly afraid of being hurt again.
I am heartbroken even after all the time that has passed(2yrs since I last saw him, almost one year since we communicated).
Reading and writing on this site has helped me understand some things about my Aqua man, but the questions, agony and longing persist. I feel lost………
December 20th, 2009 at 10:16 pm
Dearest In Repair,
Take good care of yourself…no matter what happened with this Aquarian guy, you are a beautiful person that deserves happiness.
I just recently got a message from my out of the radar Aquarian, but it’s all about friendship with him at this point. I believe we will be friends forever and always…no matter how upset I may get, a friendship with him will always be. But I have already accepted that I’m at a point where I do have certain needs and qualities I look for and I want to make a choice to do what’s good for me. I feel really happy and optimistic about the new year and the future, and that eventually I’ll spend content and happy days with someone who is a good match with me.
I wish you the best In Repair. May the New Year ahead be filled with wonderful things for you.
January 3rd, 2010 at 3:28 am
I just wanted to share with you that although this posting was done some time ago, I am currently in a relationship with an Aquarius man and I could not agree more with your take on the situation. My man shows me love in many different ways, but he’s yet to say it out loud. He’s funny, creative, passionate and kind. He’s got many quirks that drive me mad and a very dark sense of humor, but I hope now that I’ve let myself give into my feelings and just go with the flow, that this relationship is not a complete waste of my time in the long run. I am a Leo and everything I’ve read about Leo-Aquarius is that we can either be wonderful and great together, or a complete disaster. It’s been over two years now and he says he’s in it for the long haul. We shall see. Thank you for the reading. It was great.
January 5th, 2010 at 8:07 am
OMG. 14+ pages of posts!! I’ll be back to add a few myself. My best friends brothers are Aquarius’s, his dad is an Aquarius. And lastly I was an only child raised by my single Aquarius dad!! So yes I do have some things to add.
First I will agree with many comments about the Aquarius brilliance. They don’t flaunt their knowledge, but when you have the time to listen you will learn something guaranteed. One of my favorite things to do is visit with my best friends dad, and watch the time fly by with the TV off. Its rare these days for me to be so satisfied by an intellectual conversation. However he is a sure bet. Its like talking to a producer of a History Channel program. He knows much and has experienced many things, all of which he can remember quickly. The part that I am always amazed with is how he conducts his conversations, not just what he says. He is very sincere and polite. The man is mildly scary too. He has this aura about him, a strength that will knock you to the ground if you are an idiot. And even over 60 his strength is in his words and his body.
Next is my dear Father.
I guess now is the time that I should apologize first for what I am about to say. I am a Libra/Libra/Taurus/Horse and My father Aquarius/Horse. It took me about 25 years to really get my father. Or a better way to say it would be to say it took me 25 years to let go of what a father should be. At this moment there are way to many things running thru my head to put down on paper. As you see above me being an Air sign has its disadvantages. This 5 seconds of thinking will take me a week to sort out and leave a detailed reply. Funny thing is that I took a long time to say that. So. Back to the point.
I have painful memory’s of being the child of an Aquarius. I grew up in an emotional wastland. No ” I love you’s” hardly any “good Jobs” and typcially he was drunk wich made it all more fun. He was and is very pysically strong in an old fashion way. I still feel he could crush me and he is in his mid 50’s. All in all I never doubted his love. I learned more truth’s about life thru him, albeit it took 25 years for me to get it. The love that he has shown me is very rare. He literaly worked his ass off for me. He tried to have fun with me the best he could. I’m sure it was hard for him doing it all alone. He really did ( and still does) need a good woman to finish the other side of the story. I have never known him to give up on me. I am his only son and that is the end of the story. There is no ” what if’s” with him.
Today I have a good relationship with my father because I grew up. I got out to see the world, and realized that his love is stronger than you will ever see. Most of us saw love growing up because someone was forcing us to look at how good a particular person was. No one ever pointed to my Dad, he never flaunted , he knew he wasn’t perfect. And thats what made him so great. He never acted anything other that what he is, an Aquarius.
Today I am happy to say that I do feel his love. I wish I would of felt it when I was 9, but I appreciate it nonetheless. Now I should be off to repay him for his worldly deed of being a good Dad.
Bye..
January 5th, 2010 at 5:50 pm
Yes I.H, keep them coming, because I have read every comment from that 14 page so far.
January 11th, 2010 at 7:15 am
To lovesalias, Veronica, Pisces_Girl, dbella, Pisces_Dragon and all the rest of you ladies out there that are dealing and coping with these beautiful nightmares we call Aquariuses. You warm my heart because I felt like I was alone in this madness. I am a Gemini born May 28th and he is born Jan. 29th and my story echos a lot of your stories, at this moment it has been a month and half since I have heard from my dear Aqua Man but you know what I a Ok and I don’t even know why. I think is it you… your words have helped me to see that it is not me and I can hold on to him but know it is his behavior not my fault, so the breathe of fresh air I breathe tonight is because you have helped me. I want to say thank you so much. I can go to sleep tonight knowing that there is hope (based on Becky’s words)but it is also based on my patience and the knowledge that I have done nothing wrong as you have done nothing wrong to your Aqua men. Teary on or walk away I have no answer but you have given me strength either way I choose. Hang in there ladies and my best and gratitude to all of you.
Somebody needs to take the hard job and tell all these Aquariuses that their very nature hurts the people that they claim to care about. That the disappearing acts go against their suppose need to be liked and loved and have positivity all around them. The Humanitarian nature of the Aquarius is lost on the humans that they disregard.
January 11th, 2010 at 8:03 pm
Well said GeminiSmile! I couldn’t agree with you more. My guy also disappeared and it’s been a month and it drives me crazy at times, but I have hope that he will come back…he always has in the past. I told him in a text that I fell in love with him and if he doesn’t feel the same way then it’s ok, we can still be friends. He txted me back (which suprised me because he would usually ignore a txt that had strong emotions involved) …and said that’s sweet of you, what brought this on my friend? I couldn’t believe he said “friend” when he knows what we have isn’t just friendship, he has told me in the past that he loves me, once. And the look in his eye and the way he holds me I know it’s not just “friendship”. So that got me so upset and I told him that I need to move on(in the txt) ..then right away he txted me back saying “you dont have to leave me alone, I love you you’re awesome”…then after this I have been keeping my distance and havent really been txting him. He knows he has hurt me and I know he’s hurt for hurting me, he never would do anything that would cause me pain that I know for sure, because what we had was truly out of this world, we would read eachothers minds and understand each other as if we were one, it’s crazy I know. So now he has disappeared, and I know he’s thinking deep wondering what just happened between us because before everything was going just fine until I poured out my heart to him which was not even planned, it came to me and I went for it, early in the morning.
Anyway, for those of you who might think your Aqua has disappeared for good, I wouldnt bet on it. When they get involved emotionally with someone they will distance themselves and think about it, but believe me, they are thinking nothing but wonderful thoughts about you…but for some reason they just can’t say them to you in person which sucks! Hang in there ladies and have faith! If my english sounds funny Im sorry I have tried!
Best Wishes To All My Ladies Who Are In Confustion As I
January 14th, 2010 at 6:06 am
My husband is an Aquarius, what you said couldn’t be more right. I’ve learned that he is ALWAYS right, never wrong, even when proven. He is always the smartest and always knows what to do, if only I would have listened to him, I’d have been so much better off… blah blah blah, ok, many times he is right BUT NOT ALWAYS!!!! No one can mention any of his defects because he’ll very easily point out all of yours and then some. He is very good at talking and giving his opinion, not so good at listening. And yes, my interests are usually just my interests and boring for him, but I’m expected to believe everything he does and all of his interests are the best things in the world. He is good at comforting as long as you make it clear you don’t want a lecture, he is good in bed and he is a good father. He doesn’t have friends, only one close friend but pretty much shuts everyone else out. I don’t know, maybe not the best match for a Leo, he wants me to be a like him, content at shutting out the world which suffocates me, I can’t stand it or the criticism. It’s nice that I can trust him, that he will not cheat on me, he is very loyal, but I think its just his way. We’ve been together for 10 years, so maybe there’s something, we can tolerate each other, maybe I can’t ask for more than that in a husband? All in all, what was said is very accurate! Great job as usual!
January 18th, 2010 at 4:00 am
Hi Becky,
thanks for the lovely post.. love it!
im a gemini, and very much interested to an aqua man..
his bday 10th feb, mine is 27th may.. Only got to know each other end Nov 09.
he’s caucasion n im asian.
we could talk just abt anything together! he always told me im funny and we always have good laugh together.. he once told me there’s something abt me.. and i told him the same.. the thing is.. i only get to see him when he wants to see me!! otherwise he would be bz with his work n frens!
when we were together, i felt that he really likes me n somehow he wants us to be more than frens. But days after, i would not hear anything from him.. not until i txted him to say hi.. he would reply, but very casually.. when i left it at that, he would one day txt me n said, hey come over, we make something together for dinner..
we’ve talked abt a pick up club which i’ve never been to, and i was curious abt it (ehem typical gemini!hee) and told him, hey i wanna go there n see how it is.. and he was like, nooo dont go there.. and i was like y not? and he said noo dont n kissed me.. oh yeah he even got me a massive love bites on my neck! And then again, days after, i heard nothing frm him!
im so confused really!! what should i do Becky? what do u think? he’s interested or just wanna us be frens? close but just frens :S this is killing me..
of course, i wish to give it a go since there’s attraction going on. Just not sure how to capture his heart. Help!
Linda
January 26th, 2010 at 6:03 am
Hey there, I am dating an aqarius, we have been together for over three months now, and he is such a great guy. But he does over-react about certain things, and gets rather emotional. Then i have to go and apologize my ass off. Im a cancerian myself, and i happend to read on here that we are not very compatiable. But I don’t think it’s true. I guess it just depends. But anyway, I enjoyed reading your post :]
February 3rd, 2010 at 5:47 pm
I am still being haunted by my ex Aquarian! I had the weirdest dream about him last night. In the dream it was as if no time had passed, he hugged me, talked to me and it felt good to see him again. I must dream of him at least 3 times a week. His birthday just passed but I didn’t contact him, still waiting for his reply to my last attempt to keep in touch, but that was a year ago and I would be a fool to initiate anything, for he would probably say that I am clueless to the fact that it is so obvious that he no longer wants to talk to me or have any kind of friendship with me.
But I do still think of him, sometimes my thoughts are good and other times, bad! I wish I could erase him from my past, even though I learned alot, but sometimes I think that what I learned was not good. The experience (in retrospect) makes me feel used, played, old, worthless and most of all makes me want to “settle” for anyone who would want to be with me. I feel numb! Unhappy! And I also feel bored, very very bored. Nothing to look forward to. I know I sound pathetic in saying these things and although this is not the impression I give to those around me, as I seem to others put-together and confident…it’s a lie! My ego is shattered, my confidence shot. I don’t know if I could possibly explain the connection we had in a few paragraphs, but it really was incredible when he was “willing” and not keeping me at arms length.
I feel like I am plainly “existing”. Avoiding all emotions, even with those close to me. How much longer? I ask myself, will it be before I can feel free again?
February 7th, 2010 at 5:45 pm
I dont know how any1 could be so correct abt these guys. Its a wonderfull post i have ever read abt Aquarius men. Somehow i find it REAL1. But i love him so much that his neg- things dont bother me. I m crzy abt him. Being a Leo it is against my atitude but something in him makes him above everything.
February 7th, 2010 at 10:30 pm
dave… I just read your post and thank you for the insight.. actually I hope you know that it made my day… The same Aquarius man I wrote about 2 yrs ago!! is still in my life and still frustrating me lol, I can say that I did come to a conclusion that I should have more commitment and stability then he’s ready to give so I stood my ground recently and said NO MORE I’M MOVING ON… .. BUT … that dang man has my heart, and it’s his .. I can’t take it back it’s all his.. and he’s the only one I’d give it to if love was our choice.
Love is not a switch that can easily be turned on and off. And as much as I cried and hurt , and just ached, and prayed to forget.. I’m glad the hurt is just as intense as the joy that comes with being in love. Love is truly a gift from God…
Now back to the astrology … I’m a Aries… and all these games aquarius plays make us women want to scream, but they are the only sign that can handle my craziness and get me in line when i want to act like a baby…
February 15th, 2010 at 12:27 am
Hi Becky,
I am really glad I read your blog! I have been dating an aquarius for 4 months now and it has been really frustrating, but I apparently cant just let go of him. Like you say he is very intelligent, sexy, caring and loving. Obviously that isnt the frustrating part. He absolutely runs away whenever I try to address any of his characteristics that contribute negatively to our relationship, but as soon as I move on he comes right back to me and in his own way has adjusted to what I was previously complaining about. I guess they have to adjust when they see fit.
He can be pretty selfish, but makes up for it by being caring in other aspects.
He does in fact help others, even strangers, when he can and is very busy otherwise, and also likes alone time, so sometimes we dont see eachother for periods of time.
You really nailed this sign. I have learned quite a bit from reading your blog and glad to know that I am not crazy!
Thanks,
Daniela
March 5th, 2010 at 8:01 am
Sooo i am a SCORPIO woah!man(woman) and i absolutely adore Aquarius men..one in particular..theres something about him thats so mysterious and hes just so clever and ever so uniquely odd..i am very much attracted to the wierdness in people..he makes me curious and i will forever have a CRUSH on this boy dammit.there is just no one like him and thats what i love about Aquarius…strange how they can be so detached yet so caring.
April 17th, 2010 at 4:14 pm
I’m an Aquarian man and most of your comments were accurate eventho officially I can’t say so…lol It was a great read! I’ve just found out why my attraction to the rental office lady was so strong. She’s a Gemini! I really want her!!!!!!!!!!!! Tips please
April 24th, 2010 at 8:30 pm
Well, well, well. Seems like us Aquarian men are the intellectual James Bonds’ of the zodiac.
Must rush, I have a world to save.
May 2nd, 2010 at 6:00 am
whats with these cancer women who always seem to fall for me? i dont like em, dont find em interesting or sexy, yet i succumb to their charms and have sex with them, only to realize i was used for just dat - sex.
on the other hand, why do i always fall for aries girls? sun in aquarius, sag ascendant.
May 5th, 2010 at 6:53 am
Hi all,
To Inrepair!!
Believe it or not, i hear you from the bottom of my heart. I feel your pain and confusion, wondering what happened to you,, When are you going to come back to yourself..
Each single sentence you are writing i ve experienced, this is very interesting, i mean how same it can sound!
May 14th, 2010 at 12:51 pm
I’ve read almost anything there is to read on this site about the Aquarius man… I’m a Virgo woman (my moon sign is Aquarius) and is currently “involved” with an Aquarius man. He’s 30 and I’m almost 26. I’m wondering about something and maybe some of you could help me…? I’ll start from the beginning.
He and I started talking in 2008 and we met online. He wanted to meet me after only a few months, but I wasn’t looking for a relationship at that moment, so I told him that I wasn’t interested at that moment. As time went by we talk frequently and started talking again for real in February 2010. He was really into me like in the beginning. He had written many poems to me (indictly) on his Facebook account hoping I would see them and know that he was still into me.
After talking to him I started to get feelings for him, like really deep feelings. I started on writing poems too, so I could get it out of my system, also by listening to a lot of music. That’s what I do if I feel sense or something like that. We both knew our poems were about our feeling for each other. After some time he wanted to meet me again (I live in Denmark and he currently lives in Germany). I also wanted to meet him, so he planned a 5 days trip to Denmark with hotel, dinners etc.
Those 5 days were like being in heaven. We had a really strong connection emotionally and had a lot to talk about. We had “the talk” after a few days because of his current situation. If he can’t find a new job in Germany soon he gas to go back to his home country. We started a long distance relationship because we cared a lot about each other.
But things changed fast… He had some downs and started to think too much about how complicated this thing was etc. I supported him and tried to be there for him. It was also hard for me, because I was afraid of losing him or never see him again. We agreed that I should visit him in Germany so we could get to know each other better.
On May 8, 2010 I arrived in his current home town. He seemed different and the next 24 hours were kind of weird. The next day I talked to him, as we agreed, about our current situation etc. He said his feelings for me weren’t as strong as in the beginning when he first met me, because there had been some downs that were because of him, and for him it felt like we didn’t have that much to talk about over MSN etc. But this was because we didn’t knew each other that well. Icwas totally confused and also somewhat hurt inside, but he was just being honest and I prefer that, since I’m also an honest person. I asked him if he wanted to get out of our relationship, but he couldn’t define it. He still had feelings for me but he needed to see if we had a mental connection (an important thing to him, but also me). I asked if I was single or in a relationship, but he couldn’t see why this was important. He said we were more friends than in a relationship at the moment and we had to see what was going to happen over time. I said fine and agreed to this plan, since he was right in some of it.
Now it has been 5 days since that talk and we’ve been talking, laughing, watched TV, been outside, shopping etc. and on Tuesday we started this tickle game and he wanted to sleep with me, but I couldn’t because of my periode. The next day the same thing happen, also yesterday and we slept together. But he didn’t kiss me or anything.
So I’m really confused. Is this a good or a bad developement? Or is he using me? I really hope someone can give me a clue, because I’m afraid of getting hurt again.
Kind regards, Sarah
May 17th, 2010 at 12:32 am
WWWWWOWWWW Is all I can say. I must admit this blog is so TRUE!!..I Am a gemini woman and im in a relationship w. an aquarian. Lol they are such characters but i love aquarius men. they are very loving, kind, funny, selfish and sadly they really dnt realize it. The one thing that kills me about them is how they really do have the ability to just…block everything out of their minds that they truly dont want there.Hm..aquarius men are fun and interesting individuals. My aquarian has this way about him about not wanting to share his emotional side much and you mentioned tht in your blog. I LOVEEEE YOUR BLOGS!!! Every time i read I always laugh and clap at how u hit things right on the nail. Becky, i love 9the website so just keep up the GREAT work.
May 26th, 2010 at 12:52 am
My Aquarius guy have known me since the day I was born. Literally.
We lived in the same street and always had a kind of bond between us. He is seven years older than me and at that time there was a large difference in age. So nothing could happen anyway. I remember him as a person I always looked up to. A strange bond.
When I was 12 and he 17, we had the great changes in our lives. I will not go into details .. but we were separated from each other. And there were several years where I did not know anything about him, no contact what so ever. I knew where he was and that was all.
But the older I became, the more I began to think of him. I had the same dream about him several nights in a row. Several months in a row.
I woke up always with the same feeling in my body, feeling kept me all day long in a sort of dream state. And I wondered where he was, what he did and why I felt so strongly for him.
And thus ended these periods, as soon as they arrived. I lived my life but he was always in a strange way a part of me.
We lived thousands of miles from each other and the chance that we might see each other again was very small.
One day a few months back I got his email address and contacted him. He was very surprised that I found him after 17 years!
We started talking every day and realized very quickly that something was very good and very strange. A bond stronger than anything else we felt. After a month he said that I just had to come and be with him.
And here I am with him. Happy. And it’s getting only stronger for each day.
We are each others half. And I’ve never felt anything like that for any other man. It’s scary, we are not teenagers and yet it feels like the first time u fall in love. But this time i know it will last till one of us die.
May 26th, 2010 at 7:25 pm
Here is some advice I gave to a Pisces friend of mine with regards to her Aquarius boyfriend who she was having difficulty in understanding and getting to grips with how she felt about him because she was so unsure as to how he felt about her and how he was approaching the relationship…..I’ve just cut and pasted it straight out. Im an Aquarius and I’ve been doing a lot of writing on how i approach and perceive things, be they societal, personal, inter-relationship based, and what my own personal angle is on them and how they fit within the generalised description of the Aquarius starsign….the text of my email to her is directly below…..
As for your Aquarian guy!!! Christ we are the biggest contrary bunch of guys at times….and I can say that through thorough experience. We have a capacity to be the most charming and vulnerable and disarming guys on the face of the planet and truly….we have a great deal of inner conflict in what we want and what we need. Resolving that has been hard for me at the best of times. Relationships are something that for me are not the usual run of the mill experience with none of the usual expectations and its pretty true for all Aquarians on this score. We love company….but we need solitude….we love having somebody special and being romantic with them….but we need and protect our own independence and individuality fiercely….we love exploring the relationship and what it means….but we have real problems about being vulnerable and really letting people in. In a lot of ways what we see and perceive and call love is something very different from the way most other signs perceive it…especially little Piscean fishies like yourself. For you love is a really deep emotional state with attachments and bonds and trust which you readily immerse yourself in all its aspects….and truly its a vision of a perfect love that we Aquarians aspire to and even write about and maybe even want to feel really badly….but it scares the bejesus out of us. For me love is based firstly on friendship, and I mean real friendship, not just being an aquaintence, because Friendship something I intrinsically understand and is second nature to me. And believe me, Aquarians have many friends, but those people we know and are even kind and generous to arent necessarily people that we catagorise as a friend in our heart or soul. That label is kept for a very select few and the rest of our “friends” are merely varying degrees of aquaintences. The special bunch or friends with a capital F is what I call them. We love these people very deeply and place a lot of trust in them, but it can still be hard to be completely open with them…and thats probably something you as a mystery loving Piscean (as well as being a really caring and protective sign) cant but get caught up in like a fish in a net. I think this is mostly because we do internalise our feelings to a great degree and we also have an inherent mistrust of feelings, we dont have an intrinsic understanding of them like you Water sings because they are not especially rational, and rationality play a huge part in our perception of the world…The main things I look for in love and feel good about giving are my loyalty and trust and an assurance that I would never hurt or be dishonest if I can help it…and really they are principles that we aspire to, we are pretty idealistic when it comes to morals and things….but we need a sense of freedom that we arent being smothered or trapped in order to provide that. Yes we can be dishonest but I have found that its usually when I feel I cant be completely honest because my perspective just wouldnt be understood. Thats a big reason for not sharing feelings, perceptions, ideals I have also because to tell the truth, they differ significantly from those that most others feel. We dont like arguments especially not on our perceptions of the world or a situation, because unless you know and understand the unique rational behind our perception, you just wont get it, we arent being obtuse, we are just avoiding a very frustrating argument that wont be solved to either of our satisfactions. The largest clincher among these perceptions is that well we Aquarians need to feel free to love other people just as much as we maybe love our partners. We dont see a real difference. That depth of immersion in interpersonal love is not there for us in many ways, because all our real loves are based in friendship. We dont know any other way to build them really. Just as I have no jealous perceptions of my partner ever having a deep and abiding love for another, I would in fact promote that she does and never suppress that. Because my partner is a Gemini, she has something similar of a need in her life and is quite the social butterfly and is very protective of her individuality also and it just seems to work very well for us. We each know and trust that we have a deep and abiding love for each other but love to us is something you can feel differently for different people, in different ways and they should be freely expressed and allowed to be expressed with no egotistical need for jealousy from the other, because they are entirely innocent and honest. I have felt I could never be that honest with most other girls because they see love in a singular object or in a possessive manner, based around one person…I just dont…and have felt very frustrated at feeling smothered by being the perpetual object of a singular affection. Trust me, there is nothing so abhorrent to Aquarians, we run away from feeling smothered if it happens, because there is an expectation on our partners part that we should and must feel the same….and in that we see ourselves losing our individual identity in being part of a couple. that is a HUGE NO NO!!! It does sound like having your cake and eating too…and we just want to have our freedom to do what we want yet always expect a warm reception and support when we get home too…and in many ways that is pretty fair comment too. We cant expect everyone else to march to our drum beat….and in many ways we dont want to….we like being the oddballs and the unpredictable people. But love is something we have very definite ideas on….its just that they differ in a lot of ways from how others percieve, or understand or expect love to work. And because there is a difference there we feel that in some ways pursuing a relationship can be treacherous if the expectations are vastly different.
I dont know if that helps…but maybe you have a little bit of an insight into the generalities of Aquarian perception. In essence its less about personal love and more about something more extensive and a lot of people have a real difficulty seeing that point of view. Then again I could be totally wrong about your wonderful Aquarian…Im just giving you my opinion really…it isnt gospel. :o) I will tell you something though….friendship is always a point where we go back to, a sort of default setting if things get too heavy for us. That doesnt preclude that he will never want a relationship with you or that he isnt wanting one now…as I said what we want and need at different times are sometimes very different and thats when we retreat back to what we know and can define and is safe.
Well there you go…and my Piscean friend did find a lot of answers in that email. I actually confirmed a lot of things that her Aquarian boyfriend had said to her…sometimes in the heat of argument and frustration which she thought were merely excuses for a course of action he had taken or perceptions which he had that she felt were just hiding something sinister or dishonest….but were just the way her boyfriend naturally thought and went about in his life. We arent really that selfish, we are actually a hell of a lot more generous than most give us credit for….we are just generous with that which most people covet…love, friendship, affection, our time, its something we feel compelled to share and we actually see those who want to lock us up in a box and find us having a problem with that as being the selfish ones. Weird rationality eh???
June 14th, 2010 at 1:34 am
Kevin…
you don’t know how right you are about Aquarians. Having the freedom to love everyone we feel deserves our presence is the Aquarian way. As an Aquarian lady, I find myself growing tired of tossing my love and friendship around like candy. I think I am getting to that point that I wish someone would lock me in a box. I have a Pisces Moon so you can imagine what it must be like having sun in Aquarius and the emotionality of a Pisces and how much more inner confusion I have because of that. Love to me is finding someone great enough to appreciate the weird ecentric things about me. Someone who is putting in virtually the same as me. Having a whole bunch of “friends” lets face it Kevin is just a disquise for our true lovers. WE Aquarians need to start making some decisions because its making a lot other signs upset. Have you noticed? Even though we believe that we’re not hurting anybody we’re just “doing our thing” and if they can’t except that then screw them? We are (accidently) hurting people Kevin with our aloofness. We should not fear losing others because of the one we choose to be with. That person obviously understands us enough to know that we love a bunch of people. (BUT) in exchange for the freedom and paitence they provide, we must let them know in our own special way… that they are more than the others. If they’ve paid their dues … we must reward them with our loyality and commitment eventually.
June 20th, 2010 at 7:29 am
What is so speacial about Aries woman that Aquarians love so much? am a libra and should be more on the go than Aries on Aquarians..
June 20th, 2010 at 11:07 pm
Yeah, that’s a fairly accurate summation I suppose, from your perspective at least.
June 28th, 2010 at 12:10 am
Hi Becky…
I’m a fellow Gemini women and I have been friends with an Aqua boy for years, he has always wanted this to get more intimate but I’ve held back becuase of the intensity I feel from him…if I think about him..he all of sudden he calls…he was dating a Capricorn they broke up…he called me and said he needed some sunshine a friendly face ad after we talked for hours he opened up about a lot of things which shocked me because I didn’t know he had such a tender side…afterwe hung up he texted me thank you for bringing smile! I thougt wow in such a dark moment he wanted met help him feel better me!! Should I pursue as a relationship? I am Sun in Gemini my Moon is in Sagatarius and my Venus is in Cancer, His Sun is in Aquarius his Moon is in Cancer and his Venus is in Aqarius…could this work? Birtdays are May 30th 1980, is is Janury 22nd 1978
July 15th, 2010 at 5:32 pm
To: bb
Well, I’m still here, I had been posting my latest under Aquarius in Love. To sum things up; he emailed me a few months ago, to which I decided not to respond! I guess I needed him to take the first step to communicate with me and ME being the one to ignore him, as he did to me!
However, everyday that passes I think of him less! Not completely out of my mind but I’m closer to where I ’should’ be. And I ’should’ hate him! But I still wonder and occasionally dream about him too! When I look back, I really just ‘hate’ MY behavior, as I allowed all that happened. I respect him less everyday and although I am working on myself, I find myself in a place I should not be….(long story) but I know that what I am doing is not good for me, for my soul and well being. I don’t know if I will find happiness in my life. I become very emotional when I think about how I was treated by my ex-husband(libra) and this aquarius! I ask myself…”Am I not worth it’?????
I can blame my parents or my sun-sign as a cancer or my upbringing, for my self esteem, insecurity and life outlook issues, but that only goes so far. I think that I have overcome a big percentage of it in my life, but when you love someone and they treat you badly, all those issues come back and hit you hard!
And what truly bothers me is this: I have always been told by others(I have residual self esteem issues and don’t see myself this way) but I have always been told that I am very beautiful. I do attract men alot. Women compliment me as well. Men say; Anyone would be lucky to have you.
That bothers me because I am not treated that way! I don’t have a problem attracting men but I cant seem to get the respect and loyalty I deserve. So, I thought that maybe it was my attitude or personality but I was two extremes with my ex husband and the aqua guy. And No, I was not fake in either, just tried to recognize the mistakes I made in my marriage and avoid them in the following relationship, but it did not work out.
So, what is it? Hell if I know any more!!!
July 17th, 2010 at 7:31 pm
Dear Becky
ou
I am an Aquarius woman born on February 14,1971 at 9:15 A.M. Just came out of a really horrible relationship with an Aries man,12 years later, now you want to talk about selfish. I really had to pick up the pieces of my life. Just met a Aquarius man born on February 18,1972 I believe he said he was born in the morning.We have both been married before, he has five kids, I have three. It is wonderful being with him, neither of us has held back, he is truely amazing, in all aspects. He treats me like a Queen, he compliments me, he is so polite, so intellingent, I could go on.When we made love it was really like fireworks! I am truely an independent woman, I could live the rest of my life with him of course marriage free maybe an unconventional promise ceremony doesn’t sound to bad. I think sometimes it’s hard for him to grasp he has found somebody like me and yes it’s hard to grasp I have found an Aquarius Man with all the attributes I’ve always looked for.
July 19th, 2010 at 9:56 pm
Becky,
This is just a tale of my first experience with an aquarius male as a gemini woman. Let me first say that many things you have said about an aquarius male seem to be very true about him. He is wonderful, he is talented and inspiring, and I am positive that i love him. Ive known this man for a while before we developed into more than friends. I’ve seen him around campus and always spoke said hello until he was in one of my classes, and this is when I began to notice him. It seems as if fate brought us together because we began as friends and there was always a sense of relaxation with him that i’ve yet to feel with another man. I am very comfortable with him, and one could say I am my true self with him. With us, ive noticed it is true, we get along because of my ability to compromise with his ridiculousness and he is very patient with me. He has taught me alot about life and people and we’ve connected on an intellectual level and this is why i’ve fallen for him. With him i never know what to expect in regards to his attitude towards me, sometimes he is warm and welcoming, others he is distant and pushes me away. Ive seen 9 out of 10 sides of him and i know him very well. Only once has he opened up to me as he has severe trust issues with women, and when he did this it made us that much closer. I feel a bond to him that I always want to be near him, and we could be doing anything in the world I just want to experience it with him. He inspires me through all he does and if he is not the one for me he is certainly the prototype of the type of man i want to be with forever. In his negative side, he is controlling, manipulative, almost a brat in the sense that he must get what he wants or he has an attitude, he is distant at times and does little things to show he cares. At his best, he is creative, very very intelligent, very talented, positive and a people person. As this does sound like a perfect fairy tale of a story, here comes the bad news. He is in a relationship with someone else and that is why I must let him go despite my love for him and connection with him. in this circumstance i’m skeptical about his loyalty because, as read somewhere he feels it second nature or his inalienable right to be with many women, as he is not yet married. he constantly lies to his girlfriend when he is with me and takes her for granted. he is in a relationship with her because he claims he “natrually opened up to her,” as they have been dating/talking for over a year before he committed. i am certain there is no fate for he and I but I do use him as a learning experience. I wilL always have love for him as i use these upcoming days and weeks to find a way to detach myself from him mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually for the greater good.
thank you.
July 29th, 2010 at 8:57 pm
Hi Knights
when is your birthday and when is your Aquarians friends birthday?
August 7th, 2010 at 12:57 am
To : In Repair
I dont forget anything in my life that he has done, but yes I keep quiet.I still see him trying to forget the past be friends..but still there is a lot of things hurt me i keep silence, i suffer, i swollew the pain, And i let it happen actually. Is it because i am stupid? No!.. I dont tell anyone to leave, i cant. But even for everything has been done to me i still love and value so that each and every single day that person can feel the shame..
But this time, I am going to leave everything, stop my feelings.
Because i found out that people are after what they cant have , trying catch the impossible, there is no love, there is only passion-sex-and company. But not everyone really feels love, if everyone felt love the ‘real Love’ world would be full of butterflies.
August 20th, 2010 at 1:28 pm
To: bb
I had written a response last week but it’s not here???
Anyhow, I know exactly what you are feeling!! I too, kept silent. Hoping he would see how much I cared for him and let his guard down with me…..but he didn’t and I too, felt pain. I don’t know what to say anymore??? I feel exhausted by him and the emotions of it all. But I want to tell you that I feel sad when you (me) doubt our own-selves. Yeah, I also have asked myself it I am just a stupid woman? Sometimes I feel that I am, yet other times I say NO!!! I am not! I was open and excepting, I was not the one playing games! However, I do have to blame myself for allowing him to play, it takes two to tango….right???
By the way…I got another email from him. But I have not and do not think I will respond. He seemed a bit more persistent for me to respond. I’m not sure exactly what he wants, but I can only imagine that he wants to reconnect as if no time has passed and all is good. But I don’t think he wants anything other than the obvious…..kill some time while he is in town…..have entertainment….he is bored and so on!!!
Well, I say no to that!!! I am laying low and staying out of sight! Even online!!! If he truly wanted to be a friend or whatever??? His email would have contained an apology or something to that affect. My phone number is the same, if he wants to talk to me, he will have to make a greater effort that a simple email (which he should not rely on).
bb, During the relationship, I confided in a friend about how he was and how I was feeling at the time. She advised me that I HAD to walk away from him and break it off. She said that the relationship was not good for me because there where too many questions I had about it. I did not feel secure with his feelings about me, and he did not assure me about them, as I only got mixed messages from him. I did not listen to her, I was scared to loose him, but in the end I lost him anyway, and I am left with the pain, self doubt, self loathing and all the regret I can possibly have!!! I should have walked….at least I would have had some pride in that. I would now feel that I choose how I am treated, respected and nurtured. I choose!!!
Please do what is right for you!!!
August 20th, 2010 at 1:59 pm
To: bb
I had written a response last week but it’s not here???
Anyhow, I know exactly what you are feeling!! I too, kept silent. Hoping he would see how much I cared for him and let his guard down with me…..but he didn’t and I too, felt pain. I don’t know what to say anymore??? I feel exhausted by him and the emotions of it all. But I want to tell you that I feel sad when you (me) doubt our own-selves. Yeah, I also have asked myself it I am just a stupid woman? Sometimes I feel that I am, yet other times I say NO!!! I am not! I was open and excepting, I was not the one playing games! However, I do have to blame myself for allowing him to play, it takes two to tango….right???
By the way…I got another email from him. But I have not and do not think I will respond. He seemed a bit more persistent for me to respond. I’m not sure exactly what he wants, but I can only imagine that he wants to reconnect as if no time has passed and all is good. But I don’t think he wants anything other than the obvious…..kill some time while he is in town…..have entertainment….he is bored and so on!!!
Well, I say no to that!!! I am laying low and staying out of sight! Even online!!! If he truly wanted to be a friend or whatever??? His email would have contained an apology or something to that affect. My phone number is the same, if he wants to talk to me, he will have to make a greater effort that a simple email (which he should not rely on).
bb, During the relationship, I confided in a friend about how he was and how I was feeling at the time. She advised me that I HAD to walk away from him and break it off. She said that the relationship was not good for me because there where too many questions I had about it. I did not feel secure with his feelings about me, and he did not assure me about them, as I only got mixed messages from him. I did not listen to her, I was scared to loose him, but in the end I lost him anyway, and I am left with the pain, self doubt, self loathing and all the regret I can possibly have!!! I should have walked….at least I would have had some pride in that. I would now feel that I choose how I am treated, respected and nurtured. I choose!!!
Please do what is right for you!!!
August 21st, 2010 at 12:04 am
Hi,
I’m a Gemini male who has been in a relationship with an Aquarian male for the last ten years. I’ve found over the years that he can disappear into his own little world at times (but so can I).
I think the secret to a lasting relationship is the ability to be able to sit in the same room as one another without the need to be in constant contact e.g. to disappear into your own space and both be comfortable with that. I’ve found that from experience the Gemini and Aquarius match has this ability as niether are clingy and both like their own space.
However, we can both have conversations at times that will last all night when we stumble upon a subject that grabs both of our interest.
sexualy it’s good in the beginning as the aquarian’s open mindedness (sod it, perversions) will grab the Gemini’s interest. However, speaking from my experience it’s the Aquarians fetishes that will govern the sex, so eventualy the Gemini tends to get a bit bored of pandering to this, also the Gemini tends to prefer the thought rather than the action at times.
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 am
Hi Baz,
when is your birthday and when is your aquarius mans birthday?
August 25th, 2010 at 8:52 am
may 31 and his is feb 6th
August 25th, 2010 at 8:58 am
may 31, and feb 6th
August 26th, 2010 at 9:52 pm
Hi Baz,
can I ask when is your birthday and when is your Aquarians birthday?
September 19th, 2010 at 1:24 am
My Birthday is May 24th and His is January 31st
September 20th, 2010 at 12:02 pm
Hi Baz,
I find your relationship analysis spot on. I totally agree with how you said both the signs can sit in the room and go off into their own world. I think that is why Aquarius and Gemini suit each other so well, because the Gemini does not mind allowing the Aquarius his own space and time.
What would you say is a weakness in the compatibility between Aqua and Gem?
I think it is good to have a male perspective on the subject.
October 11th, 2010 at 1:24 am
Hi, Libra girl had Aquarius bf for 3 yrs… all what you say is so so so true…I took comfort in starsigns after we broke up. To make me gain confidence that it wasnt me being the bad guy but it was his personal traits which would effect the outcome of our relationship be it after 3 yrs or 13yrs. Im please to have found your account. And warn any typical librian girl.. its true they do what universal love and believe me when YOU know its not right and gut insinct takes over then be the stronger one. Guess what. he is now with the girl I had issues with (another libra and a poor copy of me). Go for a Leo r dont put all you eggs in one basket!!!
October 30th, 2010 at 2:57 am
Hi Im a saggitarius woman and trying my best to see an aquarius man!!! HELP!
recently i have been converted to starsigns and it seems that my direct nature of getting things out the way maynot be the best way to handle him..
Trying to get informationin advance out of him is a nightmare.. and seems one min really warm the next as cold as ice and no contact for a day or 2 ….
All ideas and ways to deal with this are appriciated.. I refuse to give in unless we are totally incompatable?!
J
December 11th, 2010 at 5:57 am
Aquarius guys are very moody and sensitive but yet so independent and strong its like a walking contradiction to watch one operate. If they don’t like you they wont talk to you at all, period.
They don’t really waste their time with shallow relationships because since they were little the whole world has been trying to be their friend. So if one tells you personal things he is into you and probably thinks and talks about you more than you realize.
They hate competition for feelings that’s probably where the jealousy thing comes to play, they want to be the center of attention but are calm and collected enough to handle it so always come off as composed and uninterested when really it is just their way of presenting them selfs as they are fully aware of everything that’s going on.
they can be obsessive at times and they are always ALWAYS busy and have their minds somewhere else, like on their next task or some other project they have going on, they love to have a part in everything going on whether it be the conversation or an activity. always have their eyes on the prize so usually have good looking women around them all the time.
oh and they hate to be alone, not having a lover to grow old with.
i think just understanding someones sign helps you to understand them and you are able to use it as sort of a guide to make the relationship better, in other words you wont question their actions and confuse them for something else.
best of luck
December 21st, 2010 at 4:32 pm
To: J
Run…..I mean it! Nothing will change even if it seems he wants to be in a relationship! Believe me, I fell for an Aquarius and thought I had a relationship for two years, but throughout that time it was just as you described; warm and affectionate one day, cold and distant the next, then he would disappear for a few days and even if I tried to call him, he wouldn’t take my phone calls until “HE” wanted to talk, when he would finally call me I would think “he is going to call things off with me” then he would surprise me by being really nice and sound as if he missed me so much. However, the cycle would begin again after a few days. That continued for two years. He had me on an emotional roller coaster and I now hate that I allowed him to do that to me. I have so many times kicked myself in the butt with regret, with blame and it’s been so hard for me to move on. Save yourself some grief and walk away. My friends told me the same thing but I just wanted to think that “I” was different for him. I wanted to believe that this would not happen ‘to me’ and all I needed to do was be understanding and give him a chance to know me and know that I did care for him. But in the end I was just another woman to him and nothing more.
Good luck. I know you must be struggling in your heart and mind, thinking that he just needs a good woman to understand him and that maybe he will see that in you. I know I did the same thing. Always thinking, always wondering and now always regretting I gave him 2 years of my life, plus the two years it has taken me to get over him! I wish you the best of luck!!!
January 14th, 2011 at 6:10 am
As an Aquarian male i can relate to every post i’ve read in this topic, including many of the bad ones. Someone early on did ask “Do Aqua men have emotions?”. In my particular case girlfriends have told me i’m too sensitive, i admit i am though i rarely show it. Why you ask? Having an abundance of emotion and not knowing how to wield it appropriately at times can often make you seem moody and feel vulnerable, hence the poker face when dealing with awkward or unfamiliar people, issues and situations. Appearing calm and unphased is the better option, to do otherwise in negative situations would bring out a part of me i don’t like. I hate the person i become when i have arguments and will try to avoid them by walking away or finding a place to calm myself down. My failing is my inability to talk about my feelings when distressed, maybe that is just a male thing, i’ll blame my mother and evolution for that. If a problem can’t be dealt with calmly and rationally, it’s not worth talking about. I had an Aqua girlfriend many years ago, all the good moments were magnified two-fold and we were deeply in love, unfortunately the bad moments were as well. Upon reflection, many of our arguments were at the core, feelings of losing our individual identities, independence or power plays. During these moments i was first exposed to guilt trips, the scary thing was i recognised what she was doing straight away. This behaviour was familiar to me as i had acted like that in past relationships yet was completely unaware of it until i’d seen her do it to me. I swore to myself never to behave that way again. During these arguments she would never give in and we wouldn’t speak to each other for days, although we slept in the same bed, worked in the same building and had many of the same friends. Being stubborn is not an admirable quality, even on principle and i realised i had to break the silence just because i was tired of feeling sad and angry. As i get older i’ve decided not to take life too seriously and tend to gravitate towards relaxed, positive and genuine people. They are less likely to judge blindly or have hidden agendas. I feel they bring out the better person in me as well.
January 14th, 2011 at 9:36 pm
Bobster,
A very enjoyable read. we need this information, we appreciate it so much as these men are quite alien to us. We love them very deeply. we just are not sure how too. That is why an aquarius man s
input is so vital, thank you so much.
January 16th, 2011 at 5:06 am
First time I’m reading astrology from your website! Before I’ve read in newspapers alone and never bothered! But you website inspired me to post a comment! And my sign is Aquarius! And your website almost gave the most things that I do, that i never know it was from my sign! And this ” These men walk out ” I’ve been doing it a lot and always continue to do and I myself don’t know why I do this but I do! Although some things you said I’ll not agree generally you got most of them right! Hoping to visit this website more often now!
January 17th, 2011 at 11:39 am
Hello Everyone, Hello Becky
Hmmm
Taking into stock everything I have read… Rather than reiterate what others have spoken of i will try to simply place down a few things with as little of that as possible. (And yes… this is waaaayyy shorter than what you could have been reading… be thankful i have spared you my whimsically written word.)
What does an Aquarius need?… Everything and nothing at the same time… Someone that can understand how they perceive things and hold the same beliefs in life, in the world itself… And yet their own person at the same time.
We like our freedom yes, but we also appreciate guidance and even a talking to… (Even though I, for one don’t like it at all when it happens - usually… I still appreciate it after i’ve gotten a handle on my emotions.) We need it often then we’d think actually, why do i say this? There are times when an Aquarian does something that they do not wish to do intentionally; like cause harm to someone they love. When that happens, let them know- we can be just as clueless as we make other people. When we don’t need a talking to we will usually let you know, And… we can be wrong, tricky part is getting us to realize and believe we have done wrong.. Well that is during the times we believe ourselves to be right, to be precise.
… How to do this? … Find a way to meet us in the middle and talk over both sides of the argument so they can see why you feel that way. Aquarians resist and resent ultimatums and opposition, push full force in one direction that we are against.. and we WILL push back or resent it greatly and simply run away. (we’ve got a pretty profound ‘fight or flight’ built in that we can’t resist.) It can’t be helped, like some evoked (bidden or unbidden) cry within us to rebel. But offer them a gentle coaxing to at least see and understand for themselves, then ask them to speak their mind about those same points… You might not get it every time but Its definitely worth a try.
Even though we share our love equally throughout our close friends and family… There should always be a definite difference, even if it is ever so slight as my own. (I, believe it a difference that speaks volumes. Some words, and some sentiments are only passed between me and my love. No one else will ever hear or know what is said in our heart to heart. That intimacy is saved for only that one person alone.) For all you Aquarius out there, don’t forget to show it when they earn it or else your going to hurt them. And that, is not ok.
It is my belief, That even though we are a tough act to follow. Difficult and all… If you do find a way to mesh with an aquarius and are taken by one another… You have definitely caught a prize. Would I say that about me myself? No… because that is conceded and i resent that. In general though, for being one such person thinking of others like myself, i believe those words.
Hopefully all of that stuff is kinda helpful to you all..
I wish and hope for you nothing but the best in your endeavors.
This.. is for those heartbroken by my kind… I am truly and deeply sorry they hurt you… As well as those taking the plunge… or would it be leap? (cause we are air not water… hmm so many analogies so little time.)
Simply remember this small truth from one that has fallen madly in love more than once- (but never so much as i am now.) Those heart breaks of your past, the ones you feel now or the ones you yet to come. They are now stepping stones for you. Love, like life itself it is a constant journey for us all, (yes- even the seemingly other worldly aquarians.) And even though you, dear reader. May feel the pain of it, part of what love is- is an agony and vulnerability. You cannot feel love without it, so there are times when it is worth hanging in there. But, When it gets to the point (hopefully a bit before) where you can honestly say, ‘this person brings to bear more pain than love’ Its your call, but it is time to come to grips with your ultimate decision of that commitment… If its- Hang in there like crazy and weather the storm because this person is worth everything… All i can do is smile and say ‘good luck’ and hope you make it through it all, stronger and contented with what you have gained.
One last bit to Becky.
Not able to be what a modern man is expected to do?… I resent these allegations! .. Then again, I have been told my entire life that I am nothing more than another man… no good like the rest of them. I greatly resent that more so, and i guess its been something i’ve done all of my life- to prove them wrong… At the same time, I do see where many parts of what you said can be true. Yeah, yeah, yeah… even with me.. a ‘perfect’ aquarius. (actually, i resent being called perfect too. even though i tend to be a perfectionist. huuuge contradiction there.) but not all… And I truly believe myself capable of defeating that bit, because i believe that is something i must do… be a proper example to those who would follow, and more importantly be true to who i am and who i’ve always known myself to be. Not ’spot on’ as some would say- due to it only being by sun sign alone. but very very accurate non the less and greatly appreciated.
Kind Regards to you all,
I go now to resume loving my amazing Pisces Tigress, with no need or want more than what i already have.
Justified,
Aquarian Horse
January 19th, 2011 at 9:13 am
i’m an aquarius and i honestly feel that it’s quite true and sometimes i will always think that i’m right in everyway. but that’s how aquariuses are.
January 19th, 2011 at 7:27 pm
Wow!
This is so… so scary, yet amusing to read. It’s completely who I am!
There’s only one thing you got wrong. And that is that I would leave an angry comment. I loved to read this as it is all true.
Of course, you guessed it, I’m an aquarian.
This is just awesome
January 19th, 2011 at 9:40 pm
I could not stop laughing because what you said was right on. I am an Aquarius and all of my past girlfriends would get frustrated at some of the things you mentioned.
Good thing I married an aquarius women! haha
January 20th, 2011 at 4:04 pm
Hi Justified
Thank you for sharing and taking the time to do so. Would you mind explaing the ignoring someone you like and although you almost stalk someone, you have this fight or flight thing going on. Scared almost. When I say you I mean aquarius.
Your response to this would be so much appreciated. Thank you
January 21st, 2011 at 1:41 pm
Honestly, we aquarians need some time alone for our deep thinking. it’s true and other will feel like we have become distant. but after our thinkings are done, we will find someone to talk to. and i’ve seen alot of stuffs about our emotions. We HAVE emotions, it’s just that we are not really good in showing it. but we will be there if there’s any help needed. and sometimes we are too stubborn and keep using the ‘we are always right’ attitude. so if you don’t like it, just say it and we will try to correct it. hope you guys will know more about us Aquarians. we are just a LITTLE bit too complicated .:D
P.S my english is not that great as you can see that imma Chinese.
January 22nd, 2011 at 9:45 am
Hello J Birch,
I would have to say, that is a tough one. The only way i could best describe it is… the aquarian is ‘courting’ you. And is uncertain how to act. Younger aquarians can be very timid as we develop and become more assured of ourselves and our relationships we get a little better at our little games… but even still, i have always gotten timid around someone i like. And did the whole… ‘borderline stalker and then i’ll ignore you.’
It is very contradictive and very aquarian. When I did it, I would want to see the girl… so if i noticed she would be somewhere that wasn’t out of my way- i would go so i could see her and talk to her… but i’d always loose my nerve and just walk by… Or, other times I’d simply notice her as she came to me… be so surprised that i’d simply pretend i didn’t see her.. because i was suddenly terrified because i was unsure and afraid of being embarrassed. But i noticed every time she was there.
From my personal experience i would have to say, the best way to describe it would be. This Aquarian is courting you and trying to decide what to do…
Its kind of like how we are capable of being acutely sensitive one moment and then things overwhelm us and become too much for us right now- we push ourselves away from that feeling entirely, ignoring it until we can handle it… which, is never the case- when it comes back its far worse.. and eventually we just have to address the cascade of this, set aside emotion. We do that with all aspects of our lives to some degree no matter how small or how large we just do it.
Personally… If you are curious and want to encourage this Aquarian… who seems very shy and unsure. Simply do this… For perhaps a day or two off and on, just say ‘hi’ when you notice them but they pretend to ignore you. If its every time it’ll begin to whittle away their confidence (yeah… its annoying but trust me, it took me a looong time otherwise to work up the courage. even the wonderful gal i now have, letting her know terrified me to no end…. Why is this? why is it all so terrifying? Simple. Being with an aquarian- one like myself (the one this conversation is about.) This aquarian feels very very vulnerable… They wish to share their heart with you. Hence the reason we ‘court’ the one we are attracted to. I cannot say this applies to every aquarian due to our uniqueness but, my aquarian best friend and I are the same way with girls. The whole of being in a relationship has a huge significance to us and we do not want to get hurt but we do want to be with that special someone so it is agonizing… But you’ll have to realize that- left to our own course we do not usually conscript to the constraints of time… so it could take a very long time otherwise- ya know.. for this aquarian to decide.)
At any rate- back to my recommendation for if you DO want to further a relationship (and recap on what i said.) When he/she ignores you… at irregular intervals, greet them. They may not show it, but their heart will skip a beat as they will be surprised initially with terrifying panic and then a warming satisfaction as they will be most pleased to hear. Then… help them to open up just a little more… Invite them into small seemingly trivial conversations or small correspondence. (preferably 1 on 1. But so long as your the only two in the conversation it doesn’t matter all that much.) And if you become shy yourself, this will only bring this aquarian one step closer to opening up. Questions like, ‘how are you today?’… or on some subject you both have in common perhaps you can bring them to idle conversation.
Once you have a sense of how the aquarius is feeling about you, and i know how it is- your never sure when it comes to relationships and those first steps… non of us really are when we’ve got our heart opened to another. Now, when you have that incling - which you have had for quite some time… let them know. be it ‘Do you have a crush on me? because i have one on you…’ Or ‘I like-like you, do you like-like me?’ JUST REMEMBER to be yourself, do what comes natural to you. This Aquarian has taken an interest or been smitten by you because of who you are, nothing else need be fretted over.
That all being said, It is easiest to speak with an aquarian when you are asking of their feelings about something by adding your own. Though, with some things they tend to lean towards what your answer is simply because we … can be like puppy dogs looking for approval at times. (And then go and close up on you b/c we’re moody and ‘don’t wanna talk about it.’ lol.)
Then, you will have your answer and then you will know what kind of feelings this aquarian has for you.
I say this all as my heart goes out to this other aquarian as i understand exactly what they’re going through and can’t help but find great affection there in that knowledge. (Yes i know im an odd ball, but- i am what i am. An oddity, a creature of peculiar nature to all of you. Yet to me it is… ‘right’ it ‘feels right’ hard to explain otherwise.. You’d have to feel it to know.)
i highly doubt -considering how i walked the same exact path- that i am wrong. Though there is the possibility for error… Aquarius might give up and consider it nothing more than a crush… Or might get caught in a relationship- settling for someone else because that other person asked. Any number of scenarios can play out, seeing as this is life. Unpredictable in the way it works as it builds us all up for our future and our life yet to live.
Hopefully this helps you J Birch.
Those of you that take this information… please don’t break our hearts… they are tender and given to only a select few…. And when we are broken hearted it often takes a very long time for us to mend those open wounds. (At least it has been so for a pair of Aquarian Horses I know… myself and my best friend.)
Kind Regards n’ thanks for asking- Im always happy to help,
Justified,
Aquarian Horse
January 23rd, 2011 at 8:53 am
Dearest Justified,
Thank you thank you thank you, where else would you get that type of information straight out of the horses mouth lol. Every single word you wrote was right on the money! I have seen him panic stricken so many times even looking like a rabbit in the headlights if he thinks I am coming too close.
I feel soooooooooooooo frustrated I have been so patient, both of us are coming out of painful relationships. I also am shy and nervous and sometimes I have panicked. I like him because he is reserved and not all over me as this would not work for me either. We are from very different backgrounds and whilst I can see he is proud and confident on his own, I know his self esteem has taken a battering.
I have been on my own for a long time and he is so lovely and has such a gentleness about him I care very very deeply for this man and just long to be in his arms. Sometimes I just hide and make sure he dosent get to see me, thinking this will make him do something, when I return I can see he is annoyed with me but nothing changes and I have only hurt myself because I have missed him so very badly. When I SEE HIM IT IS LIKE A MENTAL HUG Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh. I hope I dont sound too pathetic because I am not I just cant help it and I would hate him to go away.
I do know that he does not feel good enough for me and I do sometimes think he will meet someone else and it will be right because I also believe if it were rigt it would have happened by now. I never stop living in hope and he is always there and in a way I have needed things to be slow so that I can trust him. Justified I hope this makes some sort of sense to you, and once again I thank you. I cant tell you how much it means to someone who really wants to understand these beautiful nightmares. xxx
January 24th, 2011 at 9:06 pm
Becky!
I very much enjoyed your article and am happy to have run across it while searching for my new zodiac sign (still an Aquarius it seems).
Granted i haven’t taken the time to read more than the first page of comments I’d still like to share my experiences with you in the hopes that it will shed some light onto your relationship.
I was shocked the first time i found out that people didn’t deal with their emotions the same way as i did. I found out at an early age that my emotions burned too hot and wild for me to simply let them run rampant. Although the passions of my feelings served as a great motivational tool, they also made me prone to over reacting and selfish behavior. So i built some walls for my emotions; or a dam if you’d prefer. my emotions never go away but sometimes i can analyze them safely to come up with an appropriate response.
this created another problem however. I noticed behavior towards me changing; my lack of emotion came across as a lack of trust to the new people i met. they viewed me as cold and calculating, in a way they were right. One thing i’ve never been able to rid myself of is my curiosity and thirst for knowledge. I found myself being walled out of people’s lives which made me irate. Everyone has valuable experiences and hidden talents, and it was upsetting that those wouldn’t be shared with me.
i can see how this last statement can look selfish but that’s not my intention. think of it this way. imagine for a minute that you are baking late in the evening and need a cup of sugar. So you head over to your neighbors to borrow a cup. Well a neighbor who is slightly afraid of you because they don’t understand why you’re so cold will be less likely to share with you than the one who thinks you’re aloof and warm. Life is so much more interesting when the doors to people’s lives remain open to you.
So to solve my problem of a cold persona i adapted. I realized that people found emotions endearing so i should create my facade around that. to this day i wear the same mask, it’s easy to compose. the basics of it work in two easy steps:
1) When no one is interacting with me i allow warmth and compassion flow from my emotional dam; like the feeling you have for baby animals.
2)During interactions i put myself in the person’s place. If someone told me they just bought a car then i envision getting a new car, the excitement i feel is genuine and it makes me happy to see their satisfaction.
Those are just the basic steps to creating a social facade; in reality it has to be used in an elegant manor to be effective, mirrors grow tiresome quickly.
AS for someone i trust enough to let behind my walls. Allowing someone to view me as i am requires a lot of trust. You get to experience all the raw emotions as they come to me. if you say something judgmental (or bad) it’s going to stir every negative emotion i’ve had in the past, with an overwhelming sense of betrayal. imagine being woken up with a bucket of ice water for the first time in your life. there’s no buffer, nothing that could prepare you for the rush of adrenaline that feels like cold fire in your veins. However if you’re awake and aware of what’s about to happen you might not be looking forward to the cold torrent about to happen but at least you can prepare for it by putting up some buffers, or blankets. Allowing me to set up some buffers before reeking havoc on my emotions helps to me prepare a more rational response. If no buffers are in place then my blood boils and I’ll need time to cool off or my emotions will shut down completely. Personally, i leave so i can process what’s upsetting me so i don’t do something rash and try to put the person that hurt me in just as much pain. I haven’t done that in years but the fear of over reacting still remains.
To be honest i feel like I’m trying to describe an ocean and only showing you the surface. If you want further elaboration i believe i gave you my email.
January 27th, 2011 at 7:02 am
Joriel,
As you have printed here first we would all love to hear more please.
January 28th, 2011 at 7:05 am
How true Joriel,
How very true… For somethings like these, when asked in the spurt of the moment i find it harder to explain so eloquently as he stated. And even then if it can be explained, some things are far easier when experience first hand. But please, do continue. I love to see the insights of yet another aqarian, different and yet so similar to my own heart. I’ve gone through a very similar process of development yet my reasons and causes for those actions are much different. Yet, it seems the same end result is apparent.
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Dear J. Birch,
Please excuse me if im a little chatty… im half asleep- thought id check before i went to bed… that was supposed to be 1 1/2 hour(s) ago.. but im done, have a peek.
Well I am glad i could help. Its just what i do and i love doing it. You are not desperate though it certainly sounds that way when looking over it with an eye of scrutiny and judgment. No, you are taken with this aquarius. I know how crazy those emotions are when in love, i am deeply in love right now. It has been a pleasure to provide some insight into this confusing workings of an aquarian- who is going through the same things and for similar yet so different reasons from what i gather. Again, the end result (our reaction) is the same, as is the disposition (like in the above). As far as your aquarian being angry- no, when you leave and hide it is my suspicion that this merely hurts him as well and appears to be anger. Likely due to the fact you’ve never seen him angry.. Bare in mind, when in love one can often become hyper sensitive to the emotions of their counterpart. Or if you have seen those negative emotions there is a chance that he acts the same way for different reasons too.
My disposition tends to come across as angry or mad- even when im not. But this often occurs when i am; Hurt, sick, in pain, troubled, annoyed, focused, distracted, deep in thought, busy, tired (and/or grumpy), off balance (kind of like having a bad day… but its you that is out of tune opposed to the world giving you a hard time.) or just having a bad day. Anytime there is something on my mind i always have gotten this response from those around me. “Is there something wrong?” or “Why are you mad?” … that last one drives me crazy b/c when i squint, i frown deeply. That being said, having heard that so many times i might have a bit of an edge to my response… not vocally but in the emotion that goes with it…. what im saying there is, even we have triggers that can evoke emotions that we cannot reign in fast enough, or sometimes recognize… but thats besides the point… im drifting off back to Joriels comment… (whoops, sorry!)
Ehem… Anyhow. Another thing i’ve noticed… merely because I am an empathic person (or so i feel.) And often times look deep into the eyes of others.. which is a habit of mine that can scare the life out of others. Just imagine a guy frowning and looking very serious as he looks into your eyes. (thats me, odd i know… can’t help it.) It is intimidating sometimes and i don’t really like to make people uncomfortable or do that to people, instead i’ll look away or avoid eye contact. Especially considering when they look back just as intently, it becomes oddly intimate. And i usually don’t like to let people in so readily… which only separates and causes what appears to be a ‘wall’ between us. Its difficult for me to find a middle ground as i always seem to be ‘all or nothing.’ A Horse trait too- at least from what i understand. Though i believe aquarians work the same way, just a different context is usually put into play there. (so im right on the money… i think.)
An aquarian that has been battered down is a difficult one to get to open up, I know because its happened to me plenty of times. I will find myself competently shutting out the world around me as all i want to do is address my pain and nurse my wounds. But, being in a relationship means having to learn to sacrifice some of that… problem being our emotions often can overwhelm our listeners as well. Thus, we hold it in least we hurt someone else. But a relationship is about give and take, both giving something of themselves and offering up their woes when weak and taking in the thoughts, insights and opinions of one another. (as well as so, so much more.)
So, If he does open up to you in some way. Well, there is a start. Often i have found myself feeling undeserving too… But a simple reminder from a friend brought me some strength that i will never forget… ‘You deserve to be happy too.’ True words that have brought me a much better life, as it is a reminder i greatly need(ed) to hear. But, everyone is different… i cannot say it will strike the same cord but it is very true.
Still trying to think, what could there be that would help open things up… Though, I for one have always wanted someone that i could level with. Who understand me yet is profoundly different and independent yet needy at the same time. Things flow easier and allow for that deeper intimacy we crave. The toughest part is getting to understand your aquarian, do that and you’ll become either a best friend or their chosen partner.
I can’t see what in the future, I can only strive to take that next step towards what it is i want out of life.. And really thats all you can do too, and if you believe that it is worth it. Lifes too short to wait, It may be that all he’s waiting for is a definite interest at a time when he is interested and ‘ready’… gradually working him up to it yet keeping him clueless. And then change it while things are relaxed and not so wound up. (Unless of course you just want to be friends, this may be a disappointment to him too.. but he will accept it in order to keep you.)
-Justfied
February 4th, 2011 at 8:27 am
OMG!! U are absolutely right! I married with aquarian man and found out everything you said are true.. ohhhh.. I just hate the “lack of emotion” part because he seems like he dont love me and when we’re fighting, he like to avoid conflict and the next day, he just make nothing-happen-faces. ohhh.. I hate that!! but I know he loves me because everytime we fight, up till I can’t stand it, when I say I will leave him, he’ll cry & beg for me to stay.. hmmm.. can’t we just change that?? more emotion please..
February 16th, 2011 at 5:27 am
Hi All…I am an Aquarius born on Feb 9.I was going through all the comments about we being emotion less, heartbreakers.so i would like to share my story.I have off on relationship with a Taurus women. She is the most amazing women i have met in my life,sweet,charming,caring but when we fight she says that i dont have feelings for her,i dont care about her.so when i explain her that i do she has hard time believing me.So the point here is we are not very good in showing love and affection.It’s something that we are born with.So girls who are facing hard time in dealing with your aqua please sit down and discuss with him.Bring him to this discussion and let him know what you are going through.And aquarius loves healthy discussion and if he truly loves you, i am sure he will try to work on the negative parts..And one more thing, we are very loyal and so when he finds the one he fell for, he will do anything and everthing on this world to be with that girl
February 19th, 2011 at 8:54 pm
An Aquarian Dog man here and without exaggerating I find myself the most loyal individual on this planet haha. It is beyond any test.
I’m usually cold toward the world and indifferent to people but just recently found out when i love a girl I become very talkative or write a lot to her. I think we are very sensitive to our loved ones, but we do not show it, we swallow all the pain by ourselves, sometimes these pains can well dry our feelings out. If you got an Aquarian boyfriend trust me, care for him, even if we do not ask it, we need that tenderness, our world inside is most often freezing, a Winter awaiting Spring to come. I do not know the others but I really need a caring partner
We are honest and trustworthy, if we fall in love with you we will share everything we have. But never betray us, because by personal experience, there will be never a turning back point after a betrayal, even if we adore you like a princess, after your cheat, we turn to ice, you are forever out of our life. And we got sixth sense haha, we always found out about a betrayal.
March 6th, 2011 at 2:26 pm
Hi Becky!
I read this because my boyfriend is an Aquarius, and I would have to agree… he really is a unique, but nutty, oddball. I myself am a Gemini, so I know that there are times I can be a bit much to handle, what with all my topic bouncing and general Gemini-ness. But I’d have to say that I love my Aquarius, and we have decided that I am one of the few people he’s ever been with who can deal with his oddities. Although I can’t always understand him, I really have to say thanks, ’cause this post has given me a bit of a new perspective!
March 22nd, 2011 at 7:28 pm
I miss my aqua…:”( should wait for long time i guess, since hes now chasing for a taurean…
March 22nd, 2011 at 7:36 pm
I am a Leo girl, had a year relationship with an aquarius.. he doesnt think we match:(.. i cant argue cus i know hes not gonna change his mind unless he got this taurean girl and he realizes himself..
my biorhythm with him is always around 80-90/95 %, i have gemini in my rising and moon.. idk his bcos he hasnt asked what time he was born to his mom.
im not God and the future is still in His hand, revealing by time,… but my feeling is, rather, (im scared if exxagerating or feeling too much will change into hates later on) but i know my feeling towards him is rather, like, pretty much,..emm… very strong…
Taureans were born patient and can hold their ground, but im a little used to patience..
I hope their talents are my great habits (patience and holding ground) aamiin.. please pray for me:s. thankyou.. any feedback to support my selfesteem?, thanks.
March 28th, 2011 at 5:20 am
I really actually enjoyed reading this. Very accurately describes how i am so i thought i would leave a comment, and say thanks for understanding us oddball’s lol.
April 1st, 2011 at 10:01 pm
Here’s an Aquarius story for you all to help me figure out lol
I am an Aquarius through and through… some friends set me up with a man and low and behold we have the exact same chart. We were even born in the same hospital on the same day. Imagine! Its so funny how he is basically my astrological twin and I cant figure him out ha ha. So when someone wonders if there is a difference between an Aquarius man and woman… the answer is YES very much so.
He made a date, canceled. So the next week I was busy so he pursued me and I responded. We had plans to go out that following Saturday but the last minute on Friday he asked me to go out, to which I said yes. We had a great time and he made mention that he wanted to see me again. Since then I’ve text him 3 different times and even though he responds, its only a one line response and never initiated by him. As to which one response was him saying he was just thinking about me. I SHOULD have this one figured out but I am Aquarius and we are good at seeing others problems but not our own lol. Does he seem interested? Is he just being polite? Just for the record, I am getting bored. I hate chasing and now its starting to irritate me so my chasing is over. He can chase my tail now lol
April 3rd, 2011 at 8:50 pm
I am an Aquarius and i have been in a relationship with an Aquarius man for 2 years. This has been the most difficult relationship that i have ever been in because we do not have much in common. I do not believe you can put each sign in a catagory because you really need to do an astrological chart on the person to find out the other signs. So i am saying that even though i am an Aquarius, my Ascendant/Rising sign is in Aries, my Moon is in Virgo and i have Venus in Pisces. The man i am involved with has Capricorn in Venus and even though you would think we would be compatible in the sexual/love area, we are from two different worlds. My feelings with intimacy are very sensual and erotic. His views with intimacy is hit it and quit it so it has shut us down. Even though i have been with him for 2 years, we are not intimate and our relationship seemed to fall into the “friends” catagory. We both enjoy the far out things in life like UFO’s, etc, i would say that is the only thing we have in common. He can be critical and judgmental all the time and finds fault in everything and everyone, so he is connected to his ego conditioning. I am more intune with love and compassion and feel things more (perhaps that is my venus in pisces trait).
One thing about us is that we dont get too attached which can make a transition of separation in a relationship much easier.
If you have met a new man or woman, do not judge them for what sign they fall under, have a natal chart done on him or her to see why he or she is the way they are. Also, what i found is, you need to be true to yourself. Most of the time we meet people in our lives and have relationships with them but we do not tell them in the beginning what we really feel inside, what we want and dont want because we are afraid of chasing them away out of lonliness etc. You can not expect anyone to make you happy, that needs to come from within. And if there is something lacking in your relationship, it is usually just lacking in you that you need to try and figure out. I know this from my experience and i am still learning more about. You can not expect anyone to love you unless you truly love yourself no matter what sign you may fall under. People tend to get insecure and start demanding/controlling because they dont love themselves enough.
I found that the best relationship i ever had was when i was feeling good about myself and really liked the place i was in at that time in my life. But if i was going to pick a sign for me that i felt i really connected with, it would be a gemini man because we seem to laugh alot together (our planets still need to be in a good alignment for it to go further.
Good luck on your journey of finding yourself and your true love…….Peace
May 9th, 2011 at 5:39 am
I have been in love with an Aquarian for 2 years now, Im a Leo (I don’t know if a good combination or not, He doesn’t want a relationship with me but we have had a sexual relationship for just as long, I am 14 yrs older than him but I look his age, I’m thinking maybe age is an issue for him, I know he is still hung up on his ex girlfriend. He has broken my heart and hurt my feelings so many times and tried to get back with his ex so many times as well, at those times that’s when he doesn’t want to know me and is very sort tempered towards me and basically stars an argument so he doesn’t have to talk to me. When she breaks his heart, he excepts me back & is really nice to me.
We hung out together every weekend and just recently he wanted us to share a house together, its been a month now since we moved in together & we have not slept together, we have separate bedrooms, all his choice. Im trying to go with everything he says but now he seems to snap at more eaisly, I dont know more how much more I can take, I am in a constant battle with my heart & my head
May 12th, 2011 at 3:04 pm
Dear Julie,
I hope that I do not speak out of turn here, but I am not involved as you are, therefore I should have a clear head. When I read what you had written I thought where is the respect, I dont know but it seems to be lacking, him for you and you for yourself. You seem to be a bit of a doormat. Please Juile I do not mean to be cruel thats not my point. I am a Leo also and I know where you are coming from. Underneath alot I am as warm and loving as you seem to be. the best I can say about him is he is confused and he is not in a place to give you a fair chance. You dont want to hear this I know I CAN FEEL YOUR LOVE, but get the hell out of there and find yourself someone who values you, and that will happen when you value yourself. Go Girl we are all here for you and yes we do understand.
Lots and lots of real love.
August 7th, 2011 at 4:57 am
well beck, looks like you have worked out why Aquarius Men are the way we are.. I find it funny that the two Aquarians that you wrote about share the same birthday. apart from that it was a bit of an eye opener. enjoyed reading it. thats all im say on that
August 16th, 2011 at 3:46 pm
Eveerything you said about us Aquarius is true, Lol. But i have fallen for a gemini. And my gemini says he highly doubts we would ever get together. But knowing how i am i am very p tient and have been waiting for months now.
But we know each other like a book from page to page.
Even when were not around, I could sennse if hes ok or not .
But this Gemini is very protective.Like a knight and shining armor sort of speak. He doesnt mind doing things for me and i dont mind doing things for him eitheir.
But thankyou for putting this up.
August 26th, 2011 at 1:40 am
I am an Aquarius Woman and I am dealing with an Aquarius man (friends with benefits). We are VERY smart people alone, but together… I deserve an aware for aguring with myself and him. I’ve been putting up with his way for two years and I will never forget him. He is probably the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am madly in love with him and I know that we arent even legit. But, when we make love and when were laughing or just happy in general were just both in heaven. Him and I are just funny and weird. I find Aquarius people not book smart but has intelligence. All i’m saying be ready to put up with everything they do and everything they say. Because when they are done with you, they are DONE with you. I’m surprised him still with this beauty of art.
August 30th, 2011 at 6:27 am
That was so pure and lovely Mila it really did warm my heart this morning, truly lovely!:)
November 10th, 2011 at 4:30 pm
That was so right on. I am with my own Aquarian and he is exactly like that. As an Aries women it can be very frustrating but amazingly attractive all at once. We both enjoy our independance very much so it seems to work for us although I have found that being with him has forced me to learn some patience among other things. Some of his behaviors I do find annoying however he fasinates me in so many ways. I read this and it is dead on. I also will say that our relationship can never be accused of being boring… lol
November 29th, 2011 at 2:01 am
Hi there..
Funny, but they simply true.. hahahaha