215 Responses to “Aquarius Men”

Dharmaruci on February 6th, 2008 at 11:28 am

I’m Aquarian and I agree with all the positive things you say about Aquarians but not the other bits.





Astrologywizard on February 6th, 2008 at 1:06 pm

Hi Becky,

Well, I’m an Aquarian man and I’ve just read the whole of this, which is more than I think I’ve done for any other blog entry anywhere. I have been following your series on Aquarians, but believe you really hit the mark this time and so simply had to say something in reply.

You’re clearly very much in love and I wish you luck, my most significant ex is a Gemini and we are no more. Although I wouldn’t take her back, years later believe it or not, I still think about her every day.

Of course I don’t agree with everything you say, you wouldn’t expect that, but if I’m objective I do identify with plenty and much of it made me laugh out loud. It’s great you’re talking from your own experience and have your own opinions, so you aren’t just repeating the same old stuff, like most people seem to do.

Thanks then and keep it up. We’re grateful!

Sincerely,

Paul





admin on February 7th, 2008 at 2:23 am

Hi Paul,
Thank you ever so much for your comment! And I’m glad you enjoyed reading it, even if you don’t agree with it all, which noone ever could, if it makes someone smile or laugh, that’s enough for me, that’s what’s important to me, making people smile! (even though I’m a Gemini & it dosen’t always work!)
Your site is wonderful and I’m guessing I could learn a lot from you, so no doubt I’ll become a regular visitor!

It’s a small world too, you live down the road from my Mum!

Love, light & Luck

Becky





admin on February 7th, 2008 at 2:28 am

P.S Your bitchscopes are hilariously close to the truth!
I did also try to contact you a different way but it didn’t work , my pc’s fault, not your website’s.





Astrologywizard on February 7th, 2008 at 4:57 am

Hello Becky,

Thanks for your feedback and all the praise, I’m glad I made you smile too. If you’re ever having trouble with the email links on my website, just type the address from the About Me page manually into whatever you use for emailing and that’ll work fine.

In a way though it’s great having your response here, like some sort of validation for baring my soul. I have concluded that being a male Aquarian is similar to having the Asperger’s Syndrome of the zodiac, you know, like a milder and more glamorous version of Rain Man, the Water-Bearer maybe? Everything you say about seeming aloof and distant is so true and the fact it’s not socially acceptable nowadays, that was a revelation to me. My ex used to call me the Alien. She was so right too…

Also the bit about walking off, which I have done in every possible situation throughout my life. As for your Mum living up the road, that’s amazing. Whereabouts, roughly?

Paul





admin on February 7th, 2008 at 5:06 am

I can’t wait to call my other half ‘Rain Man’ I’m sure he will love that!! Yes, that’s it, Aliens, definatly a different species anyway, although I know how hard us Gemini girls are to live with too..but we do try ever so hard to be lovely all the time
My Mum lives in Uckfield, do you know it? that’s sort of near isn’t it, I used to have guitar lessons there when I was 17!

Becky





Astrologywizard on February 7th, 2008 at 5:27 am

Uckfield? That’s astonishing, it’s about seven miles from me I think. It’s not a town I like much though, so I’m not surprised you ended up in the US. Are you actually British or American and how about your Mum? This is all really wild and on an eclipse day too, perfect!

I believe that if there’s one sign that can understand an Aquarian it’s a Gemini. I hope you fiancé realises how lucky he is, but can’t help but doubt it somehow…

Paul





admin on February 7th, 2008 at 5:51 am

No your right, it’s not all that nice, but it’s got everything my Mum needs. Now then, I am British, and I have never even been to the US! And I live in Kent! Rochester way at the moment, but hoping to move somewhere more rural soon! The world just got even smaller

Your right about Gemini’s ability to understand you Aquarians, I’m not sure whether my Fiance is lucky or cursed to be honest, but I do tell him he’s lucky haha!

Becky

You can contact me using the contact me thing if you’s rather, it’s up to you.





Astrologywizard on February 7th, 2008 at 6:12 am

Becky,

Far out! This is just brilliant and you’re right, I am going to stop cluttering up your website with off-topic posts, but I think you have a real talent, will be watching what you write and would love to stay in contact with you.

I’m sure I can manage a Site of the Week recommendation for you over the next couple of weeks, the first blog I’ve mentioned, and will be in touch via your contact form about that. In the meantime it has been really great talking with you. Please feel free to write to me directly about anything, anytime, ever…

Thank you for making my day much better, than it was before.

;o)

Paul





Alexandria on February 12th, 2008 at 10:12 am

I am seeing a Aqua male and I am Gemini, we get on really well and have known each other since May last year. However just before Christmas I received an email saying he just wanted to be friends as he works alot and cannot committ. I was hurt but left it and now he is back in touch and we have been out and getting on really well again!! Will I get another shock I wonder in a couple of months time as he just wants to be friends again……





admin on February 12th, 2008 at 11:44 am

Although I can’t guarantee what the shock will be about, I can guarantee you that he will be sure to give you plenty of them. You did the right thing though by leaving it, that is one of the best way’s to get an Aquarius’s attention to be honest, ignore them! Actually I think it’s called “giving them a taste of their own medicine” You will get on well, and will have a great friendship but if the relationship doesn’t progress you will have to ask yourself if it’s worth keeping this Aquarius as “just a friend”. Sometimes, with Gemini’s and Aquarius’s unless the romance is their it can very often become just a friendship, which is great, unless you wanted more.

Love & Light

Becky





Victoria on February 13th, 2008 at 2:24 am

Ay ay ay, I just stumbled upon this whilst looking for cancerian fun stuff, and I’m just laughing! I too am whole heartedly exploring and loving an aquarian man. All the while happily frustrated in his fascinating world…combined with cancer…makes for an interesting relationship. Thanks for the smiles.





Alexandria on February 13th, 2008 at 6:47 am

Thanks for that, I know what you mean by the friendship thing. I’m not sure but he says things to test me to see what my reaction will be, the other night he says “Oh I’m going out with a friend from school for a meal tomorrow night I’ve known her for years it should be good fun it usually is, to which I replied “Oh that will be nice especially since you have known her for so long.
Turns out the meal never came about, but I knew what he was doing!!! He is a very good father and has good friends so I know what sort of person he is and I know things have changed between us as we seem closer. So hopefully he has seen what a super fab woman I am (haha)





Miranda on February 21st, 2008 at 12:08 am

Hi,

I enjoy reading about the Aquarius man since I think I’m falling in love with one and I want to get the lowdown on them before I fall completely.

So much of what is written here I can identify with. I’m a Cancer and I know that Cancer and Aquarius is not the best match, but I don’t think I’m the typical Cancer in some respects so we seem to get along. We are just starting to get closer…after being casual friends for a while…naturally!

But I have been a bit of the aggressor and he seems to like it. He tends to put out hints, I pick up on them and suggest doing things. He cooperates nicely and it seems to work for us. I am also a bit older than him, so I’ve got some patience…which helps with an aquarius man.

Also, I am extremely free-spirited and independent, with a very active life and being a Cancer often need to rejuvenate in my shell so he can enjoy his “space” during those times.

I think he’s just wonderful…but some of my friends think I’m nuts.:)





Erica on February 27th, 2008 at 1:56 am

Thanks for your post.

Does Aquarius dislike emotion of any kind, even when it’s positive like romantic feelings? It seems like they like to keep things friendly when really they are feeling more inside.

I’m a Leo Sun with an Aquarius and the man I’m with is an Aquarius Sun with Leo Moon so I hope that helps somewhat with helping us get along better. I try and just keep things cool and I also try and compliment him often. Any other advice? Thanks.





Becky on February 28th, 2008 at 12:34 pm

Hi Erica,
I think Aquarius Men are just odd generally. They have emotion and they like other people to have it, they just are not always sure how to show it. It’s good that you compliment him, I do that to mine, just make sure he returns the kindness. When I want some attention from my Aquarius I don’t wait for it, I go up and ask for it..literally! They aren’t too good with subtle hints. I can imagine you two get along very well anyway and have quite a bit of fun as well! Just enjoy what you have and don’t let it become boring.
Love & Light
Becky
x





carrie88 on March 2nd, 2008 at 2:44 am

Omg my ex is an Aquarius and he is the most selfish person in the whole world! Im an Aries and i loved this man dearly but he was just to selfish for me and bizarre! Thank you for writing this article now i see im not alone! Before my recent ex i almost married and Aquarius but i ran after 5 years i just dont think they make good life partners everyday is just a constant battle. But i do wish you ALOT of luck with yours, just make sure he does not make u insane!





Becky on March 3rd, 2008 at 1:18 pm

LOL!! I have to agree with you carrie88, certain Aquarius males are really not meant to spend their lives with another person. My ex husband was one of them. If, however, you find one that has the right signs in the right planets then they are truly lovely, like mine!I think Aquariun’s need vetting heavily to find out their moon signs etc before anyone actually plans a lifetime with one of these other worldy people. And thanks for the good luck, but I think I drive him as insane as he drives me.





Daniella on March 9th, 2008 at 2:05 pm

tht was such a nice read thnks for writing it.
ive been with a aqua guy for 3 monthes and its funny becuz hes from a whole different culture(he’s lebanese) but ur post describes him exactly
i always knew tht he likes to spend some time alone which i found very weird,maybe its becuz im italian and wanting to be alone in our culture is unheard of. its so weird tht thy have so many friends also,we could be anywhere and he’ll bump into someone he knows and i can c from how much his friends love him tht hes a great friend to thm which is true for all aquas,,thy love to help!and not just thyr friends thyd help anyone who asks which is not always a good thing! i also find it amazing how thy can hang around with the most annoying people and still find something great to say about them, thy r very sociable and very very very smart! i remember when my b.f met my 85 year old grandad whos a very typical italian man doesnt like peopl dating his grand daughter and who grew up in a small remote village in tuscany,and within 10mins thy wer in a deep conversation about olive trees and how to make the best olive oil and thy wer laughing and my grandad started telling him stories he doesnt even tell my dad!:> sorry for the long post i just thought since ur dating a aqua also ud find these stories funny.
Daniella





eva on March 23rd, 2008 at 7:06 pm

I too am dating an aqua man. It is not always smooth sailing. I think the best thing you can do is to try and loose track of time because any kind of time restraint that you try to impose on these men goes completely out the door. However in my expeience they seem to always be there for you when you really need them which is the important thing. Oh, and eccentric hobbies, yes! Like making metal windchimes that have other weird properties, or “working” in the garden, which looks to me more like an appraisal of the different plants than any kind of manual labor, muching as he “works”. I dunno if I would call him smart in the typical sense, because he is more than that really. More of an inventor. If he doesn’t like somthing he will simply find some other way. If nothing else i find him especially entertaining!





eva on March 23rd, 2008 at 7:34 pm

Oh and one other thing. It was his total apparent lack of emotion and detachment that first attracted me to this man. He seemed so controlled and cool. Maybe somthing that you other girls don’t give him enough credit for?





Pascale on April 2nd, 2008 at 6:26 pm

I really enjoyed reading on the aquarius man. Don’t know how to feel about it though.

I recently started seeing an aquarias man and alot of what you’ve described I have already seen. Some characteristics you’ve described I am not so sure I want to see.

I am a capricorn, and I don’t know how much you know about us, but we do like sloving issues (not just forgetting about it) and we do hold grudges (i think) and do like the last word. I don’t like to argue, but when I do, I definetely put my two cents in…..anyways, don’t want to think of arguing as he seems very sweet, to himself and a great listener.

How would you pair a capricorn female (Horse) and a male aquarius (Pig)?

Thank-you so much.





Pascale on April 2nd, 2008 at 6:38 pm

Oh yeah, one more thing I am looking for a long term relationship, and I believe he is to. Although that talk hasnt come up





James on April 5th, 2008 at 10:20 am

Hello Becky,

Male Aquarius Fire Horse were my search terms and so here I am.I’ve thoroughly enjoyed discovering your website and your comments & insight into the Male Aquarian’s being.

Your image is inexplicably Lovely Gemini,enjoy your afternoon.





Aquarian on April 15th, 2008 at 10:03 pm

Hello becky,

its really wonder full to read this article. i cant imagine, how you sort out all the things.

becky, it must your man, aquarian man.
being auraian i agree with all these thing, i know all these from early boy hood, but never found words.

im not good in writing. but in addition to you comments:

For aquarius men, sex is like a routine job, they dont take a something intelctual, something heavenly blessed.

If you keep it that way, you will always get it. this is the same reason, you find aquarious men emotionally detached.

An other thing, to keep attracted the aquarians, always reamin a solveable puzzle, you know, how there minds are thinking logically.

there habit of being dominant, keeps them engaged. always keep, them surprises, making them feel, what they have portray you is wrong.

For aquarius men, you there must be reading there. lsiten. i have a tip for you:
wether you have intrest in having sex or not. always pretend you have. i know you are good at this.

becky, i like to share my feeling also. after readin long tex again n again.

the only reason i leave the my girl, is when i found out that, she have never been understanding me. she is only building the relation.

but can be stop by word, “you hate people,leaving you alone. and you are doing same to me”

when i find time i will write more.

oh i forgot to mention: in my prefernce of girl, i like mature & experinced one. which play more active part.

hahahah


love you all





pk88 on April 16th, 2008 at 12:50 am

Hi Becky!

I am an Aqua male, born in the year of the Dragon, and I definitely agree with what you have to say. I didn’t recognize my faults as much until I began reading astrology and this helped me avoid doing them as much as possible. However, the bit about hating time constraints and routine are things that I cannot change or improve on.

I can’t explain it but I like my days to be random. I go to a university where I can NEVER be on time to class, much less deal with all 342 deadlines to meet, and it probably is because of my intellect that I can even manage average grades. It’s not the material we don’t get it, it’s the fitting it into our non existent schedule, or the getting it in on time part. The order and structure of everything is often overwhelming to fit in a single day, and I often feel effective for just doing 20% of my tasks, and have no qualms on flaking class.

It’s weird though because we’re lone wolves, but at the same time we need companionship (I prefer any good friend out of my long list of friends) to share our ideas and thoughts with, ya know, get feedback. I also think Aquarians far better suited towards any metaphysical studies than any other sign. We see science as the box, and we think outside the box. If you believe everything scientists say, you’re going to miss the point of life, astrology included.





saggittarius woman on April 19th, 2008 at 12:10 am

OMG! I stumbled on this searching for informaton on aquarius men and some of it is right on! I am a saggittarius woman and have been seeing this guy for almost 3 months, I had to approach him, I noticed how he would stare at me at times then other times completly ignore me, which piqued my interest in him even more! I did notice that when I ignore him he is more responsive to me. Or when I act as if I don’t care, he wants me. He never makes advance plans and if he does, he cancels. It’s like a game, when he thinks I am not interested he is all over me. I really do like him because he is such a mystery, I just need some advice on how to keep his interest. I am very direct and straight forward with him and he seems to appreciate it. But he seems to say things to get a rise out of me, but I don’t let him see that it does. It seems as if dating an aquarius man is like playing games. Any suggestions?





Desmarie on April 19th, 2008 at 6:01 pm

Sag woman. being a sag. also who has dated aquarius men, i can say that I agree with Becky. In one of her blogs she mentions that Saggittarius can be too normal for the aquarius. He is one of a kind for sure. It’s like sag. thnks that if you plan a date then you go on a date right? This would be the normal thing to do, but for the aquarius it is much more fun when it is spontaneous! This may be why you think he is playing games. I feel however that this combination can work, because mostly of the eternal opptimism of the Saggittarrius, who is pretty much up for anything fun. Just get him over on your team and you won’t be lacking in ideas for adventure and spontaneaty!However you may be spending more evenings alone, reading or horseing around with other pals then you had wanted. You see aquarians need there time to figure out the problems while you would rather not focus on the serious stuff.So enjoy the game while it lasts!





Deke Thornton on April 20th, 2008 at 6:49 pm

Hello Becky,

As an Aquarius male I have to say your assessment of us in love and romance is spot-on. In my personal case with Venus in Pisces and Mars in Aries the naturally schizophrenic Aquarius romantic tendencies are only made worse – not an easy way to go through life.

The only woman with whom I ever fell in love with instantly and who fell in love with me on the spot was a Gemini. Distance and her perceived need and desire to embrace the normal (read average or, less charitably, the mediocre and banal) put an end to something that could have been perfect for the both of us.

My question about you Gemini girls is why do you insist upon doing things, seeing people, and going down paths which - by your admission – you know to be false or in some way inauthentic? I have seen it time and again.

With my moon in Gemini, I love all you Geminis to death but this sort of “hypocrisy” is simply strange. The rest of your little quirks I personally find quite charming.





Becky on April 21st, 2008 at 7:22 am

Hi Deke, Thanks for you comment

Yes, well I suppose that us Gemini girls can be quite annoying at times. But you see we are so much more than one woman, which makes it quite tricky at times to be 100% about anything! We are like butterflies I guess, and we flutter from one thing to the next mainly out of curiosity, and I think at times we head in the wrong direction. But as us Gemini girls have to put up with you Aquarius boys I think it’s only fair!!

Lovely to meet another wonderful Aquarius man

Love & Light

Becky





Deke Thornton on April 21st, 2008 at 11:05 am

Hello again,

Many thanks for the lovely compliment.

I supposed that together we have hit the nail on the head then. A very real possible problem between female Gemini and male Aquarius is that while you externalize your duality resulting in the need to try and explain or rationalize your choices of the moment to us or to yourselves, we internalize ours. This results in a slightly patronizing do as we say, not as we do approach to “helping” you. Worse yet, we feel that this received wisdom from us requires no discussion, justification, or explanation at all – it is simply self-evidently true.

In fact, you can even feel a touch of this tone in my posts here - sorry!

Is it possible that we Aquarius males are actually worse than people say we are? Well, in our defense, we do generally mean well.

Heavy thoughts on such a perfect Spring day here…

Cheers!





Taurus Woman on April 22nd, 2008 at 6:06 am

Being a Taurus, I have to say that getting involve with an Aquarius man is a lot of WORK. I do like him and everything, but frankly, I’m not even sure if he’s interested in me. When I am the most angry with him and completely ignoring his existence, he goes all out to get my attention only to become distant later on when he got it.

So in order to cope with this, I’ve learned how to be an Aquarius, popping in and out of his life. That way, I always get 100% attention every time I see him.

As someone mentioned, you really need to let Aquarius take his own medicine.

The future of this relationship, I’m not even sure. That’s why, even now, though he doesn’t know, I’m not exactly 100% committed to him yet.

The Taurus/Aquarius relationship is very draining for Taurus, and I think it takes a certain freer Taurus to deal with this lasseiz faire spirit.





Natalia on April 23rd, 2008 at 5:51 am

Well the question is does he like me or does he want to be like me/ As I have noticed there is a difference.





Natalia on April 23rd, 2008 at 5:54 am

Just a thought… Maybe you’ve got it backwards, learning how to be an Aquarius…





Tout Voyance on April 26th, 2008 at 9:46 am

L’influence des pierres précieuses et l’astrologie….

Il est bien connu qu’à l’époque du premier christianisme plusieurs ?uvres d’auteurs anciens sur l’influence des pierres sur la santé et le destin de l’homme ont disparu (l’église croyait que c’étaient les résultats de la superstition païe…





Haze on May 17th, 2008 at 2:26 am

Wow… you just described me and every relationship I’ve ever had..Yea I’m an Aquarius… the only thing that didn’t relate to me was the not trying new things cause I always assume ill be good at anything





Claudia on May 19th, 2008 at 1:35 am

I was born on june 27, 1980. The signs say am a “Cancer”, but I am nothing like a cancer, then I looked further and it turns out, am a “GEmini” and I love it! everything they say, it makes sense to me. I also wanted to say, am also madly in love with an Aquaries man, I can’t stop thinkin about him, its been close to 12 or 13 yrs that we broke up, but I still find him in my thoughs. Maybe, because we had an encounter a few months ago, but they do love their solitude, and yes it drives me “NUTS”…..





Sonya on May 19th, 2008 at 1:37 pm

I loved this post! It describes the Aquarius man very well. I am too a Gemini ^_^. I’ve recently fallen for an Aquarius guy. I am only going into the 10th grade this year; but as you probably know; Gemini’s (especially the women) mature fast. I kind of figured out that I’m the type of girl who likes to go for the chase; I am very choosy on which guy I want and let me tell you; not very many make it into my heart that quickly! This guy that I am interested stated back in February that his birthday was coming up; February 9th. I was curious to why as I liked this guy because he came off as the arrogant ‘I’m hot and I know it’ type. Usually I’d say ‘guys like that don’t deserve girls like me. Then I did some ‘research’ only to find that he’s Aquarius. That explains his complete mysteriousness! We both have Aries in venus; which is suppose to be a wonderful match; however, he is interested in a Libra Girl (Whose Venus sign is incompatible) and I’ve heard that the perfect match for Aquarius is Libra! He obviously flirts with her; but I get the feeling that he likes to flirt with me as well but i’m unsure if he’s just trying to be friendly. My question is; do I still have a good chance with him (Libra and Gemini are suppose to be equal when matching with Aquarius) even though this Libra girl is in his life? thanks.





Cat on May 28th, 2008 at 9:24 am

Hi Becky,

I recently met an aquarius guy and we went out on our first date. He talked a lot and we had some interesting conversations. However, 2 days later, he emailed me and said “there are some differences between you and what I am looking for.Please understand my frankness.
” I was a little shock because I talked a lot during our date. I mean…ther’s no silence at all. I might be a little shy to him as I feel it’s our first date but I know I’m a fun person when you get to know me a little more…coz…hey..I’m a Gemini gal. This aqua guy actually told me that he is ready to settle down before our date(and so am I). Is it possible that he feels I’m not ready to settle down or…? I replied him the email saying “It’s cool. np at all.It’d be cool if we can be friends; if not..it’s okay too.” And then he replied me,” Of course I like to be friends with you.”
I actually like the guy and don’t wanna just give up, but I know chasing after him is a big no-no for aqua. What should I do? How do I make him want to know me more? Thanks





Cat on May 28th, 2008 at 9:26 am

sorry…just wanna correct my typo…” we both talked a lot during the date…”





Cat on May 28th, 2008 at 9:30 am

Also, my birthday is coming up and I’m gonna have a little party in my place. My friends are encouraging me to invite him, but I feel kinda weird. Do you think I should invite him or better just…..not?

Thanks Becky,
Love your site.





Becky on May 28th, 2008 at 10:21 am

Hi there Cat,

Thanks for your comment. I too am an Gemini girl so I understand the non stop talking! I do it all the time to my poor Aqua partner. Aquarius men are awkward and not easy to deal with, so it is best not to. Call him up or email him and just casually arrange to go somewhere together..if he agrees then great! And go and have fun. They can be rather black and white so perhaps just asking him straight whether he wants to pursue a relationship with you or not. Hope this helps and good luck!

Love & Light

Becky





Becky on May 28th, 2008 at 10:24 am

Hi Cat,

INVITE HIM!! He will either say yes or no. And that will be mainly to do with whether he is a party going Aquarius or not. Some of them don’t like lots of people they don’t know and some just don’t care either way. But I would say definatly ask him..as another Gemini girl I KNOW you will regret it if you don’t.

x





Cat on May 28th, 2008 at 9:20 pm

Thank you Becky for your suggestions. Hmmm..My birthday party is this coming Sunday and I think I’ll send the invitation to him on Friday. Since he just sent me “that” email, I don’t wanna invite him to my party right away…kinda desperated…huh?

Thanks for your help:)

Regards from San Francisco~

Cat





Cat on May 29th, 2008 at 10:17 am

Hello Becky,

I was just thinking if it’s really appropriate to invite that aqua guy to my birthday party since we’ve only known each other for less than a month. Well…I do wanna invite him to my BD party but not sure if it’s gonna scare him away. I do like him and he was very thoughtful throughout our date, but I just don’t understand why he doesn’t wanna continue. Two of my ex bfs are aquarius as well and they coudn’t stop calling me after our first date(I mean…come on..we gemini gals are unique…we always think about how to make life more interesting…right?).
My friends told me he may be testing you or something. He is about 5 years older than me..is it possible about the age…omg..I have no clue.
Any idea or thoughts?

Thanks!

Regards from S.F.

Cat





Becky on May 30th, 2008 at 10:57 am

Hi Cat,

Firstly, yes your right we are very unique!!

This is all really up to you Gemini girl. I know it’s hard to make your mind up but you have to do it sometimes you know!!! I just think you should do whatever feels right to you, after all it’s your party, so you have to feel comfortable about who is there. I can’t help you with the age thing as I have no idea how old you are!!! All I know is that you are a proper Gemini girl and I understand. lol

Love & Light

Becky





here2c on June 2nd, 2008 at 4:38 am

HI Becky

OH my goodness, let me start off by saying hello, I too am a Horse and a scorpio. I have been with an aquarian man for the last 3 years. I want to know if we are dating the same man. This man makes me sooo crazy, you hit the nail on the head. I love him but every other day want to leave him. But, I might just take your advice, Ill see how that works out, but replacing him will be a hard thing to do. ( so maybe ill just roll with the punches)
This was like reading my life story( the last 3 years any way)





Cat on June 2nd, 2008 at 11:07 pm

Thank you, Becky. Thanks for creating this site and all the advices.

-Cat





Dez on June 3rd, 2008 at 6:00 am

ok… I am, as u can probably guess, Aquarius Male… i have no problem with the concept of love but a big problem with trust… especially after my brake up with my Cancer Ex..

At the moment i’m seeing a Gemini girl, who i hope to be with for a very very long time… but i just find it confusing when she gets fustrated when i am distant and when i try to get closer it feels like she is distant… i hate the feeling of distance… its yuky and awkward…

on the upside… this blog dose explain alot of my behavior quite well…





Faith on June 4th, 2008 at 8:29 am

Tx for the insight…….u r about as accurate as can be about the Aquarius man. I’m a Scorpio and every so often go into b*tch fits coz perhaps i love my Aquarius man too much. He’s a great guy with a brilliant mind…..but indeed he is an oddball. LOL…..

I do hope we work out…





kap on June 8th, 2008 at 11:11 pm

Hello Becky,
This is really unbelievable, you are so spot on about the aquarius man, my bf is one of them and it was like I was reading about him, same problems same advantages, but I am afraid I still haven’t found a way to deal with everything that you mentioned above. I will follow some of your advices, I think.
I am a leo myself and my ex is a gemini so when I landed with an aquarius it was too much of a shock, but we are still together somehow.
May be it has to do something with the fact that my moon is in Aquarius and his moon is in Leo.
Well anyway just wanted to tell you that you really got this one, well done!





NaughtyNikki on June 17th, 2008 at 9:54 pm

OMG!!! Oddball to the finest! I’m rather pissed with my Aquarius man right now! He analyzed me and that was so wrong of him, he has been distance for quite some time and all I needed to know was that he was still “here” with me even though he was on another planet. Argh!!! I gave him a dose of acid with my lethal tongue aka my over-emotional side got the best of me. Hope that he comes back around, if not I’ll have to drag him back into my arms… LOL

Oh my, i need to curb my ways, but he asked for it. I know I should have showed more understand as I am very understanding, but he just needed a dose of his medicine… ( i think)

As far as things go, I hope the make up sex will be a bomb!

I love him lots!

Thanks Becky!





Singingman101 on June 23rd, 2008 at 2:16 am

I just finished reading your outlook on the Aquarian man and I think it may be a little unfair. Speaking as an Aquarian man myself, I think that while the majority of what you said is true, I feel that there are a few generalizations that you have made that I would like to extrapolate on (but thank you for the disclaimer about them being based on the sun sign).

As you mentioned, Aquarian men have plenty of emotion and we do tend to bottle it up. But we do this is not only with emotions, but also with thoughts and opinions. That is our greatest down fall; We gunnysack things. When something bothers us we will not talk about it because usually we do not want to bother our partners with our troubles and woes. I know it’s frustrating, but i think that it is something that we may just be incapable of doing.

Another thing that can often be observed about us Aquamen, is that we tend to be fairly deep thinkers and VERY opinionated. I will openly admit this. The deep thinking is great for talking with people but it can be a double edged sword. Just like the bottling of emotions, deep intellectual thoughts can also be stored away. So if you really want to hear some interesting things, drag our thoughts and opinions out but be prepared to challenge them and make us defend them, maybe even revise them. You will have a great time.

thanks for listening.

Michael





Becky on June 23rd, 2008 at 6:49 am

Hi Michael,

I couldn’t agree with you more about the bottling up of everything. They are mental blockers, blocking anything that is painful or they feel they can’t deal with. I will be writing a ‘part two’ on Aquarius men as I feel that there is so much to say about them. You mentioned them being very opininated? They mostly come across as indifferent to be honest. I am aware however that they do have thoughts and opinions of their own but as I have also found out you really need a very deep and bonded relationship with him for him to open up and talk freely. Your comment was very interesting, thank you for taking the time to write it.

Love & Light

Becky

P.S If your chart has some water signs then your experience of this may be different. This really is just a basic look at the sun sign.





aly on July 5th, 2008 at 12:40 pm

Hi,

As a Pisces (male), I usually end up having aquaintances with aquarius (both sexes). It starts good and ends (as well) with no hard feelings. I have a few personal obervations about aquarius men (mostly singles I know):

(i) These guys can’t really laugh. Even with the best of jokes and comical situations, their faces appear controlled (with laughter jam-o-meters). They surely want to laugh but don’t want to show it which makes the facial expression something unique (can’t describe in words)

(ii) Don’t talk with them about marriage (if they are still single and getting old). Thats a very emotional issue to them. They can get waaaaaay sentimental when women are discussed to the extent of annoyance.

(iii) They love to talk to women on telephone rather than meeting them in person. Phone-sex is their most favourite past-time.

(vi) They love to gawk at girls (when outdoors) irrespective of their age (12 to 60 years: really doesn’t matter).

(v) Appears very vulnerable when alone with a person (one-on-one conversation). Usually expect from the other person to start conversation as they mostly act dumb. Try to intimidate by keeping quiet but it hardly works in a world where communication/conversation is so very important.

(v) Not proud of their achievements, always interested in other people’s lives and success stories. For example: You know Bob is such a successful banker, Jim has made a lot of money in stocks, Look at this sports car (i want to have/ride it) even if they can’t buy it for the rest of their life, this guy has a beautiful women with him (wish i could have her)

(vi) Really appreciate ordinary/run of the mill jokes often worldly, obscene, and vulgar. Unfortunately, sophisticated humour is beyond their comprehension.

(vii) Try to act sophiscated and controlled from exterior (being impressionable) but once you touch the soul from inside, the bawdiness can easily come out.

(viii) Try to be stuborn even if they are wrong particularly regarding issues of intellect. Have little knowledge and ideas of their own. Usually follow what is happening in the surroundings for discussions.

(ix) Although have an independent streak (mental/physical/spiritual) but when it comes to family, close friends, it is no where to be found. Usually don’t speak their own mind and it appears as they are trying to please other people particularly (with no independent thought) when they need some benefits/favours.

* Though love their independence but can’t digest others’. Try to control people with an independent streak.

(x) At times, like to live in the past by sharing previous memories.

(xi) Like to put their emotional baggage on others/friends and when acceptance is denied, feel offended.

(xii) Vulnerable to excessive depression in matters of love.

There are positive traits of my aqua aquaintances (might be later). These are just few of my personal comments. Appreciate responses to explore more or something different.

Bye

Aly





Duane on July 6th, 2008 at 11:28 am

Aly, I must say I think you’re hanging around with the wrong people if they’re gawking at 12 year old girls whether they’re Aquarius or not.

I’ve never read so much untruth about Aquarius. People like you should only be allowed a mouse.

I’d like to comment on all your observations but I really can’t be bothered to waste my time.

An Aquarius would surely laugh at your comments instantly proving (i) totally inaccurate.

Thanks for the entertainment. If you hadn’t guessed I’m an Aquarius, BTW my best friend is a Pisces Dog.

I’d like to hear what my fellow Aquarians think about your comments.





aly on July 7th, 2008 at 7:32 am

Duane,

Sorry pal. These are close observations and personal scrutiny based on long-term aquaintances (no lies whatsoever). There is no problem in admitting one’s faults because they help us to improve.

This is what all I have to say.

Ciao

Aly





Becky on July 8th, 2008 at 11:41 am

Hi Aly,

I have to agree a bit with Duane I’m afraid. I don’t think they can be very close observations as I don’t agree on everything you have said. But this is the thing with Astrology which I have found more and more, people from different signs see others in a different way, especially Aquarius as they are probably the strangest sign of them all. And very different from you Mr Pisces, so although I do not agree with you I understand why you see the things you do.

Love & Light

Becky





aly on July 9th, 2008 at 4:00 am

Hi Becky!

Thanks for disagreement, I really appreciate it since people either try to please each other for nothing or try to enforce their opinions on others. Thanks again. But I’m still sticking to my guns being a pisces-ox.

The earlier comments were based on the analysis of seven men aged between 24-52 years (mostly single).

The gawking behaviour, no ability to laugh thoroughly (controlled emotions), teletalk with women, always talking about others rather than themselves, lacking refinement, depression and excessive sensitivity in love, vulnerable in one-on-one conversations, and others traits are certainly the characteristics of aqua men I have been/was acquanited with. Surely, they also seem at times to live in the past memories. Since they love their families, they are also willing to forego their independence when living with them. A lot of aqua men told me that they want to get away from their families for sometime to seek some personal fulfillment in life. A lot, I think, envy me for being too independent and in control of my life.

In my humble opinion, these guys also are too much worldly unlike us (the pisces) that any thought, idea, discussion, creativity, intellectuality, that brings them away from reality and trivial worldly discussions; confuses or makes them uncomfortable.

Unlike pisces, aquarius doesn’t have much tendency for self-catharsis and reinvention. As I a pisces, I have touched their inner self and have find out how, at times, emotionally vulnerable these beings are though they do not express it.

For aqua men I know, women surely are the 8th Wonder of the World.

Sorry for writing too long but that’s my habit. I like to go into details.

Adios

Aly





Becky on July 9th, 2008 at 12:09 pm

Hi again Aly,

Your an Ox..it all makes sense now! lol

Love & Light

Becky





RUTU on July 15th, 2008 at 12:36 pm

Hi Becky!!
You are such a relief. I have been to other sites and I have found lots of women angry with aqua men and asking eachothers about how to DEAL with them. So this is a wonderful suprise…. Thanks for understanding Aqua men and women..
I am an aqua male and my friends, especially among girls are mostly scorpio women and fellow aqua girls. I am sort of uncontrollibly attracted to scorpio women. There is definitely something in aqua man and scorpio woman relationship..It’s electrifying..for both of sides…
And one famous aqua man and gemini woman couple is HEIDY and SEAL. They seem reallly happy together…





Rutu on July 15th, 2008 at 12:44 pm

Hi Becky!!
I am an aqua and I completely DISAGREE with aly…. I am not this bad.and I know it. Anyway people can have personal opinions.
I have found that I click instantly with either scorpio women, gemini women or aqua women. And I am actually quite fascinated by scorpio women. The chemistry is INSANE.
I think Aqua man and Gem girls are also really good with each others. Gemini girls are sooo differnt from scorpio girls. I find them both interesting. Scorpio chiks are boiling with emotions and standing next to her is like standing next to a ticking bomb. Her jelousy is undescribable for me. Gem girls are cooool.
One famous gem girl and aqua guy couple is HEIDY and SEAL.
THANKS BECKY!!!





Cam on July 15th, 2008 at 5:07 pm

Hi Aly,

As a person who was born on the fifteenth of February, I am quite insulted by your generic insults and hack-analysis of my personality.

Sound to me that you’re mad because people you know don’t find your jokes funny, and you have to occasionally console friends when they need help.

Before you attach yourself to some kind of shred of decency based on your individual interpretation of a star sign, you should actually look at your own emotional dexterity - wavering from moody and judgemental to quite depressive yourself.

Before you try to cast a blunt stereotype on millions of people at once, actually go out and talk to people and stop checking out twelve year old girls in the meantime.

Every interpretation of pisces I’ve seen has indicated use of emotional blackmail and the emotional spectrum you’re talking about is actually quite a bad thing (not the thought-channeler you make yourself out to be).

Fortunately for everyone, but you, they are individual people with individual personalities - totally separate of your vulgar generalities.

Why fortunate for everyone else? Because you, fishface, are hanging from a noose of bitterness and frankly, people like you ruin my day everytime.

Sincerely,

Cam

PS: It’s quite obvious you and ‘Rutu’ are the same person, whoever you are. Get a life





Rutu on July 16th, 2008 at 5:11 pm

Hey Cam!!!
what’s wrong with you???????????????
i am rutu and not aly……I am an aqua(5th feb) and not a piscies. I thought my post didn’t show up so I typed it again.
AND I AM NOT FLATTERD BY ALY’S COMMENTS I disagreed with them as i have mentioned in my post. I chose to put a post ONLY after reading ALY’S post. And you are accusing me of being him…..YOU ARE PLAIN INSULTING ME………AND WHAT SUPIRIER LOGIC YOU USED TO DECIDE THAT I WAS ALY. JUST EXPLAIN IT. OR WAS IT YOUR SIXTH SENSE. OR COULD YOU JUST SMELL IT. DID MY POST SMELLED SAME AS ALY’S??????
SORRY BECKY!! but i just had to write it.





Rutu on July 17th, 2008 at 5:26 am

Ya and if you(cam)there aren’t sites where women are angry with aquas then you are sooooo wrong. I will give you link if you want. there was this one site where a woman (scorp/sag cusp) named “wildrose” was soooo pissssed off by an aqua that she had put some realllllllly long posts under the article ” i hate aqurius men” and in that thread I found Becky’s post and followed the link.
Anyway why am i explaining this to you??
WHO.ARE.YOU.BY.THE.WAY…..
And Becky you offered ALY love @ light. I am not so sure about love but he definatly needs PLENTY OF LIGHT IN HIS HEAD. SO THAT HE CAN THINK CLEARLY.
Aly,
give me your adress PLEASE. I have got a TORCH for you. I need to parcel it to you.





Becky on July 17th, 2008 at 6:53 am

Hello everyone!

Can we please stop getting all worked up here otherwise I won’t be able to approve peoples comments anymore and I would hate that to happen! But I don’t want my site filled with hate and bad feeling. We all have different opinions that is one of the most amazing traits we as humans have. We will just have to agree to disagree.

I give love & Light to everyone as everyone is entitled.

P.s Rutu..I can’t believe my posts are still there on that site, I wrote them qutie a while ago!! Glad you found me on there.

LOVE & LIGHT

Becky





Rutu on July 17th, 2008 at 9:11 am

Hey Becky!!
Well I get your point. I am not writting such things again. At least not on this site. OK. But i will keep visiting it. And mostly add few nice comments. All right. bye……

LOVE @ LIGHT
(My light is special it comes from the torch i have bought)

Rutu





Becky on July 17th, 2008 at 9:33 am

Rutu, I am privilaged to be shone on by your new tourch! You make me laugh! Thank you for your understanding.

Becky

x





aly on July 17th, 2008 at 3:51 pm

Hiya

Very interesting that people feel insulted when their zodiac is discussed in a different way. Belonging to one zodiac doesn’t mean that one should become the custodian of it. They vary and defending them is obnoxious, ridiculous and absurd. If you don’t think you are like that, leave it as the rationality of mind suggests and if you are offended by other’s comments on ridiculous behaviours, that’s your mental problem. You won’t get anything out of it neither getting personal can harm the other person nor it will forward your case. Hate, bitterness, and frustration is only the trait of the shallow.

I dearly hope that you can understand what I have written.

Aly





aly on July 17th, 2008 at 3:57 pm

Hey Becky,

Good work. Keep on spreading the light through wisdom. A lot of people on the blog need it.

Aly, Piscean OX





fay on July 22nd, 2008 at 7:22 am

Hello Becky!
looks like i have found the right website because i’ve have been wondering for the longest time why do i fall for aquarians - iam taurus.
well, actually aries/taurus cusp with aquarius rising and yeah of the horse.
any insight?





Becky on July 22nd, 2008 at 5:27 pm

Hi Fay, I am sure I would have a lot of insight but I am afraid that it would take up a lot of room on a cooment! I do have some services you may be interested in which looks deep into you chart using western and Chinese astrology. If you are interested in this please feel free to contact me.

Love & Light

Becky

xx





Bella on July 26th, 2008 at 9:31 pm

Hi everyone,

Didn’t know I could post here. Yay! Well, Aqua men. I met my soul mate at 19. We dated 9 years. Went through some life struggles. I decided to end make up and break up patterns in the 10th year.

Dated a Taurus for 2.5 years. Realized I was fooling myself to force myself out of love w/ my Aqua man.

Now, I’m here. I made it obvious to my Aqua man I didn’t want to be friends or talk. Since he did hurt me but he was being himself. Detached. Of course!

Anyways, I am now contacting him. A flood of words in e-mails and 1 vmail. I feel dumb.

Aqua-Experts. Do you think there is a chance for friendship or at least conversation?

We used to always kid that if things didn’t work out we would be friends till we were old and gray. We would say we were each other’s Romeo & Juliette.

Geez, Life is interesting. Ain’t it?

Missing my Aqua Man,
(My Bday June 19-dragon, Aqua man- Jan. 27-rabbit - Both born in 1976)

XoXO

Thanks for reading!
Bella





Reggie on July 27th, 2008 at 7:47 pm

Hi Becky,
First, I happened upon your astrology site and found it quite informative, interesting, amusing, as well as insightful.

Moreover, I am and resemble the aquarian description you documented. I have learned to deal with emotions, though I continue to think emotions are far too nebulous to fully comprehend. However I do understand now that the vast majority of people are or become the result of their emotional state. That understanding has helped me greatly in interpersonal associations and relationships.

Additionally, thank you for the kind words about Aquarians, as more often than not we are very much in tune with the world and universe at large and need to be reminded that we presently exist on earth (LOL)!!

Finally, I enjoyed the site, learned a lot, and even paused to laugh at some of the descriptions that were personal for me.
With sincere regards and thanks!!





Marco on July 29th, 2008 at 8:53 am

Hello Becky,

Well what can I say I have read the Whole Post and I reckon you know a thing or too about Horoscopes.

I wasnt sure at 1st and I was just waiting for you to slip up. :O), but u didnt not one bit I think I can honestly say that I totally agree with every word on this post.
For the other aquarian men, yes! its all true wether you like it or not LOL, I swallowed my pride and its true every bit of it I swear

“They don’t really think they have many faults,”

read that again fellow water bearers! ;O).

Anyway well done becky interesting that you are a Gemini, that does intrigue me.





JacKInTheBoX on August 8th, 2008 at 11:15 am

OMG!, This astroloy stuff is really cool,

As I was loooking round for my 2 bestests friends star thingy, and found out they were both Libra and my GF is Gemini…And Amazing website,

And oh yh, Aly obersvation for Aquarius Lost/Dissaprove/What??/Huh???/WTF???…

Aquarius Jack!





Haz91 on August 28th, 2008 at 2:14 pm

hey becky,

The stuff on Aquarius men is soo true, your amazing and spot on.

I use to like this aqua guy. he was in my lessons in college. but i just couldnt understand him. we first spoke but it was through an arguement, after the arguement, he would see me around and either smile at me or just stare at me. in class, we would both stare at eachother like full on look into eachothers eyes, or just smile at eachother. I spoke to him twice but we never really had a friendship either. I don’t know what we had, do you think he liked me..but kept it secret ..or did he just see me as a class mate. Please reply back.
I’m a gemini gal born 25th may
he was aqua born 5th Feb
Thanks love lots
Haz91xxxx





Anna on September 6th, 2008 at 5:08 am

Hi Becky,

I’m a Leo gal who has been seeing an aqua man for the past 4 months. Very, very true reading above. I only saw another side to him recently when we had our first dispute. He totally ignored my messages, didn’t pick up his phone…being what I thought to be, quite selfish. Usually he’s the overly friendly, fantastic, genuine, caring person.

We finally spoke when he was ready. I didn’t get an apology. He didn’t fault his actions. We got over it. All is good, BUT I have noticed at times he has quite the wondering eye. He is really into me so he has confessed, although I haven’t fallen yet.

I know aqua men are known to float around and do their own thing, not giving their full attention to one being, but I’ve caught him checking out my friends in front of me on more than one occasion, and this is not deliberate.

Is this a recognized deed aqua’s are known for doing? Spreading his attention around to everyone to make everyone happy? Will Aqua’s partners have to settle for never being number 1?





amv on September 14th, 2008 at 8:51 am

hi becky!!!

gee, thank you so much! i’ve fallen in love w/ an aqua guy too, and it’s been almost 5 yrs now and i’m still into him. he’s such a great artist, i really admire him a lot! he can paint, sing, play guitar, design posters and stage sets, he’s an actor now too, and he usually gets the big roles (he’s really handsome, he got the most beautiful eyes!) so almost every girl i know has a crush on him! but because he’s a bit detached, all the more girls get drawn by his air of mystery! what i really like about him is his unpredictability, altho it’s the same thing that confuses me, no one really knows what he’s gonna do next (which is exciting too), but i discovered he can be very calculating with his actions. i agree he walks out a lot hahaha! but he never fails to surprise me. his dedication to his art is very inspiring. only this year we really dated. i’ve been working in another country, which is great so we both could have our freedom to do what we want. we’ve dated a couple of times this year (finally!!! woohooo!) and my most memorable, funniest, sexiest and extraordinary experiences were the time we spent together! really out of this world and i love it! but most of the time i was the one who initiates and give him gifts, as though i’m the one who’s courting him! am i doin the right thing? i’ve been wanting to confess all my true feelings for him altho im really scared to do that knowing how non-committal he is, i might scare him away. it’s really weird just when i thought he’s finally into me then i wouldn’t hear about him for so many days or months and when we talk as if nothing happened between us as if we’re starting from scratch again. becky help!!!

im an aries girl w/ aquarian rising, piscean venus and moon, and mars in scorpio… yikes!





K on September 24th, 2008 at 2:21 pm

Aquarius guys can be SO annoying!!





deep on September 25th, 2008 at 3:49 am

Hello, I am a Gemini girl and I have a Aquarius male friend. We have been friends 3yrs and he is so moody… but its true Gemini gals do know how to ignore them and know that they will come back around..we had sex twice out of the three years but sometimes he makes me feel like im not attractive to him anymore…he told me hes just coming out of a relationship and im in one myself so we try not to think bout it alot when we are together…. but i can feel that he wants me and i want him so what do i do in the matter, can one of you aquar guys answer me… he stays in touch and we work together its so diffucult for me…hes trying to get over his last love but in the process why do i have to wait to have sex with this guy again.. he tells me just be patient but my patients are beginning to run out……





E on October 25th, 2008 at 8:58 pm

I’m a Leo woman. I met an Aquarius man 20 yrs ago. Since we had lived in two different continents back then(Europe/Asia), we had corresponded with each other regularly. Eventually our friendship had developed into a romantic relationship. Since a child he hadn’t mixed with other people, but deep inside he was a very romantic and sentimental person. He told me that I had broken the wall built around him for years and captured his heart; he would always love me no matter what might happen between us…. I’d never had a doubt about his feelings for me or his devotion to me…. We had done a lot for each other. However, several years later the relationship was ended because of distance, misunderstanding & interruptions from other people, etc. Sad…. I chose to forget and move on. And I did forget and move on until recently…. I’ve been thinking of him constantly as well as what had happened btw us back in those years. I tried several times to contact him but he was not responding. I know he’s still alive. I just wanted to say Hello and see how he’s been doing…. Oh well, perhaps I should leave him alone. I don’t want him to think that I’m trying to push him…. I wish him all the best….





Fates21 on October 28th, 2008 at 5:44 am

Hello Becky…
I’m an Aquarius man and I saw so many things in your writing that get us to a T.I couldn’t believe that we were so predictable.By the way on behalf of all of us I apologize for the emotional thing…we do tend to block everyones attemts at getting tio us.I feel its more to protect our easy going nature and our tendency to go out on our own.I get reminded of the horse analogy from the movie the Bachelor..don’t fence me in kind of mantality.And we also don’t mean to come off arogant about our knowledge..we tend to show it freely without reguard as to how other people take it…kind of like a vulcan in star trek.And none of this is to say that you weren’t right about what you wrote and I fully enjoyed it and used it to try and see some of my character flaws…I guess if more of my kind were to be set down and shown some of our more distinguishable characteristics ,we would probably turn over a new leaf so to speak…thanks

Oh by the way…dimple chin..yes..age 30





Becky on October 29th, 2008 at 7:38 am

Hi there Fates21,

Thanks for your comment and I am glad that you approve of what I wrote. You Aquarius men have always fascinated me, and frustrated me in equal ammounts. But I am drawn to you still. It is true that if you all changed a little it would make things easier but on the whole I feel that the world would be a far less colourful place without you all just as you are. It is our job to understand you and that is what I love!!

Love & Light

Becky





Fates21 on October 29th, 2008 at 6:36 pm

Hey Becky

Love the site,been looking around at some of the other sections to.You have a strong insight into personality traits and what makes people tick.To see so many accurate descriptions and have a greater understanding of the people around me makes me feel alot better about myself.Your right be the way…if we weren’t our quirky,eccentric
,outside the box thinkers,life would probably be alot worse for wear.I was thinking of something recently the age of aquarius is just now begining to draw in,most people believe the years for that are between 2000 and 2050.More and more people are going to be picking up on some of our traits and we won’t feel so seperated from society anymore..might make things easier for all envolved when we start to share common traits..hopefully someday soon..thanks again for the sight and i’ll definitely be visiting more..





SRKRulez on November 4th, 2008 at 1:12 am

OMG!!!!!
I myself am in love with an aquarius guy at the moment, and everything written here is SO TRUE!!!! He is exactly like that!
But thats what i love about him!!!
I’m a libra, by the way.





Calvin on November 6th, 2008 at 11:30 am

I am an Aquarius, I love being an Aquarius! I first got into starsigns after trying to figure out my Aries girlfriend who showed no signs of falling in love and made scary comments making me feel she could up n leave at the drop of a hat, NO WAY! that’s my job.
I studied websites n books looking for compatibility between us which ended up being sexual not a love match… for the 1st time I found myself bitching about her using me for my body, our relationship being spent entirely in the bedroom I have been un-faithful in most of my previous relationships but this girl had me so stressed out tryna figure out if she wanted me i had no time to entertain any side orders. with her secret chat room accounts and msn friends whom i suspect are flirting with her due to the fact she’s deleted every trace of every conversation had has me in a position where i feel i need to be with her just to see if i was right about her lack of commitment 2 me, she’s a strong minded women who is smarter than she makes out only problem is she’s messing with a genius, to complicate matters shes 8mths preganant and I still don’t know her as well as I’d like she is indeed the most fascinating woman i’ve come across and i worry i only her because she doesn’t seem to want me!





amv on November 6th, 2008 at 5:14 pm

hi calvin! im an aries girl too!!! he’s still not yet my bf but im the one who’s chasing after my aqua guy! hahahaha! how did you get together? is it right if im the one who initiates and confess my feelings or your gf’s tactics works much better? help calvin!





Ab on November 14th, 2008 at 12:46 pm

Hi Becky,

I am an aquarian myself and i was in a relationship with a taurus woman, and it didnt work out and she asked me to be a good friend. I am trying hard, but i feel i am emotionally involved very much in to her. but she (who initially was emotionally involved , which brought me in) was now cool. i feel its hard for me to take her out of me. but i know very well that our relation will not be good if it had continued. My question is that, will it be possible for me to block her out of my mind as you said (coz, i have experienced that i can block things that were initially like a world to me) because, this is the first time in my life I am feeling emotional. The loads of emotion, i felt like experiencing towards her. i also heard that Aquarian guy used to think of one girl in his life and his mind will take her above the whole world & i felt her the same way. even now i know that she is using me a lot, but for getting a smile from her i am doing what ever she needs. I need the confidence, to take her out & to think that if a real nice girl comes in to my life i will be able to allow her in.





Omar on November 16th, 2008 at 5:05 am

Hey Becky,

You know us too well. It’s actually kind of scary. I know I am not speaking for every Aquarian male out there but here is my insight about why as an Aquarian I act in certain ways.

First off I wanted to talk about the whole emotional problem we have. You’re right, we have feelings too. But to be completely honest, we feel uncomfortable when showing them. I ties in with the embarrassment problem you mentioned; if we feel like we’re going to sound (look) stupid then we simply won’t do it or mention it at all. We are big personal believers of showing love rather than just saying we love. There is a big difference and one is certainly better expressed than the other which is why we’d rather show our love. Plus it gives us a reason to use our creativity.

In behave of all Aquarians; I’m sorry we act cold and aloof at times. I’m sorry we forget about simple details and walk away from our problems. There are reasons for them though. We walk away not because we’re cowards or don’t care but for two main reasons really: one, we don’t want to make an even bigger problem, and two, we need time to think of the situation alone.

We forget about simple details because our minds are constantly wondering off thinking of other things, like what are hot dogs really made of. But when we’re in love, we’re actually thinking of you. Our mind is our greatest gift and our greatest curse. When everything is going great we come up with happy scenarios and new ideas to make things better. Yet also when things are in their worst we replay all the bad things and get fixed into all the negativity. That’s why we need time alone to think. We’re trying to think of a way to make you all smile again.

I believe that no sign or person loves more than another. Water signs don’t have more emotions than Air sign, nor Fire signs over Earth signs and so on. I believe that Water sign, and at times Fire signs, simply cannot control their emotions as well as Air signs and Earth signs can. Not because they have more emotions but simply because they lack that blocking ability you mentioned. As you can see, there is even a difference between same element signs themselves. The real truth is – we all love. We just love differently. Same goes for every emotion. My brother is an Aries and like an Aries he has a hard time controlling his anger. That doesn’t mean he is the only sign that gets angry but simply one of the signs that has a problem controlling their anger. I, like any other person, get angry too yet I can control it and I don’t show it. This example can be applied to love. Some people, like Aquarians, are more practical about it and show it differently.

Lastly, we are brilliant! At the things we know anyway. Every person is brilliant their own areas of interests. One thing we do know is that we know nothing. So whenever we have read or looked into something we really like and know about we like to mention it a lot. There are a lot of things we don’t care about that we don’t bother learning and so we don’t even pretend to know about them. Those things we don’t talk about as you can notice. Since we like to read and look into a variety of things it may look like we know everything but the truth is we won’t. Which brings me to say another thing; I believe Aquarians are the most open-minded fixed sign there is. This sounds contradicting but it is not. When we know we’re right because we know facts then we fight for it even if we sound stubborn. We know we sound stubborn, we do that on purpose. When we know something is a fact we fight for it. Yet when it comes to opinions we are really open to hear them and take them into consideration. So I have always believed it’s a bit unfair to call us a fixed sign because in a lot of ways we’re really very mutual. We, unlike the easily angered Scorpios, the hard-headed Taurus, and the every prideful Leos we Aquarians actually care about knowledge. Not who is right or wrong but what is truth and what is false. Not status, not pride just knowledge.

God Bless





claudia on November 21st, 2008 at 10:45 pm

I must chime in,

A Sag. girl here (if you can still say girl at 40) but I do know a bit about the Aquas as I have 3 family members that are Aquas, one brother in-law, an older sister, and a niece.

They are very different but the same and I adore and love them all!

Are they weird…yup. We all know this in the family and of course, accept it. The Aqua man tends to be very boring and quiet. He is very different from the females.

My family is Hispanic and very loud, and for a Hispanic male, he is a monk. He hardly speaks but when he does, boy we listen. I have only seen him get angry once (his Gemini daughter was lying-doing v.bad things, and got caught) and after that anger came massive depression. So bad my sis (a Sag also) was very worried and wanted to take him to the hospital. It is true, they do feel but it is buried deep. He is very laid back but can be cranky, that could also be his medical condition though. He and sis have a great relationship, more like an awesome/respectful friendship than typical marriage. They adore each other and have both been completely in love and faithful for over 30 years. Sag did try to get him jealous once, he did not notice. She did not try that again. I don’t think he is typical Aqua as he does not like to travel and well, is very boring but oh so nice and charming. Can take the man everywhere, except shopping. My sis did one time on Black Thursday and he got so caught up conversing with the ladies that he never noticed the people behind him stealing things from his cart. Yeah, Sag sister was royally pissed.

The Aqua women are crazy. Of all my sisters and nieces I adore them and am closest to them both. I understand how they think and vice versa. Actually I don’t think they care to understand how I think so much as let me talk it out so I can then shut up and let them talk. It is said in my family that I am the only one that can “talk” to these Aqua women to get them to see another side of a situation when they are being stubborn. They are damn stubborn once they make up their mind. They will agree with you, then go and do what they wanted to do anyway. IT is not a lie to them because honestly, they know you are trying but why hurt your feelings. Much easier to ask forgiveness than permission. They ask nobody for permission. They told you a truth, maybe not all of it, but a truth nonetheless. I know this about them and since I have a Libra moon, I negotiate and sometimes I win, sometimes I loose. They are quirky, original and yes weird but then again, so am I and for a Sag. girl, would not have them any other way. The man does not dress odd, in fact, he always looks so well put together. The women…oh dear. Purple tights, yellow shoes, green skirt and red top. Yeah, that’s an Aqua for you. Somehow they make it look so good, you may be wearing it next! They are ahead of us you know…

Funny in all this is I am currently getting a divorce from a crazy Sag (nothing to do with star sign, everything to do with mental illness) and met an Aqua. We have been talking and stuff for 2 months. He is currently ignoring me. I guess he likes me. He is a scientist, innovator, extremely intelligent and well, all around awesome man. I did tell him a joke and he smiled and don’t know, like he could not laugh. Odd. He is very boisterous though but that could be because I met him through his sister-I have known her over 12 years. Will update later if anything happens. He does seem clueless about women. I do notice that. But then again, they are secretive-my sister and niece are-so who knows.

All this is just a generalization because life experiences matter just as much if not more than a moon/sun sign.
Peace and LOVE THOSE AQUAS AS IS, or LEAVE! They will :). If they stay,put them in their place, you have to once in a while or they will get too full of themselves and walk all over you.They can and do like to dominate if you allow it. But it is a delicate situation to do this to them. Because again, if they don’t like it, they leave. Be Ok with them leaving. That gets to them, but they respect that. I think that is why Gems go so well with them. I know all about them too as my best friend and tons of relatives are Gems. I think Gems are like Aquas with a little more energy and craziness more like less thought, more action.In the end I love ‘em all!

Sorry so long and LOVE THIS SITE!!!





Kacey on November 26th, 2008 at 6:57 am

Wow… Well, this is true. -eyes widen- About my love. -Grin- I’m a Gemini too!





rich on November 27th, 2008 at 1:39 am

MY GOD you got alot of comments on this… haha so who am i? i hope mine is just as well counted, because im one of the many aquarian men who had to comment this. wow, how cliche, right? well i didnt read one comment that said “I AGREE WITH ALL OF THIS!!!!” well i personally do! i laughed so hard i almost died! yea were annoying! i annoy myself. just because i could stop you dead in your tracks with a huge, manipulative curveball and pin alot of those personality traits on anyone… even you… its still true. no need to lie. that honesty is awsome.
ive really wanted to meet someone who is fascenated with aquarius, rather than hearing “you aquarians are sooo weird!”… just like i am fascenated with (though i cant see eye to eye with..) scorpio, cancer, and virgo. and its awsome that youre in love with one. that guy must be good at it, because i personally can stand someone being in the way, and throwing my way of doing things off track. but i did NOT know that everyone in my life complaining about me ‘just poppin in and dissappearing for months’ was an aquarius thing… i just thought it was me, and that lets a bit of weight off of my chest because ive been wanting to tear WALLS DOWN out of frustration because i cant get ANYONE to believe that theres no harm intended… and though i now understand that a little better, i still cant understand why everyone is so rediculously sensitive. but its easier to accept.

anyway ill quit blabbin. i just wanted to give you mad props on that post!!

Rich.. also ironically known as(seriously, im not making this up) AquarianEyez





Becky on November 27th, 2008 at 7:32 am

Hi Rich, thank you for your comment!! I’m glad you enjoyed reading my post! I have found the best way to be with an Aquarius is just to let them be. Like you say, there is no harm intended with the way you guys are and understanding this is hard but worthwhile. It really does help to know your not an inconsiderate (you know what) but an Aquarius!! The best and only thing an Aquarius man can do is to admit how they are when loved one moan and say ’sorry I’m a pain’ because one of the most annoying things with you men is that you hate, detest and will not admit your wrong!! But I love all Aquarius men, they fascinate me and are also the funniest people on the planet!!

Love & Light

Becky





AquaGirl on November 27th, 2008 at 4:10 pm

I am an Aquarius woman who CANNOT STAND Aquarius men. UGGH!





AquaGirl on November 27th, 2008 at 4:17 pm

^HAHA wow, I didn’t mean to submit that comment so soon.

But yes, let me elaborate on why this Aquarius cannot stand AQUARIUS MEN!!!

I’ve dated three Aquarius men in my life, and I’ve had the SAME experience with all of them. They did NOT want anything serious, they wanted friends with benefits. Aquarian men play the field, ALWAYS. Period. They don’t know what they want, and they want their cake and eat it too…meaning friends with benefits, and “other” types of relationships…as long as they don’t involve commitment.

The funny thing is, they’re not conniving with it at all…they actually think it’s perfectly fine to expect someone to be no strings attached and sexually involved with them at the same time. Not an iota of guilt with these men…it’s just natural to them. In a naive, second-nature sort of way…not an evil, out-to-get-you type of way. They think it’s actually normal to have sex with someone and be “friendly” and “detached” from them at the same time. Either way, it doesn’t excuse their behavior.

Hey, that’s just my opinion of Aquarian men, sorry. That’s been my experience with them. Please, watch your backs with these guys.





Fates21 on November 27th, 2008 at 5:56 pm

Hey all this is for Aquagirl.I hate to hear about all the bad experiences you’ve had with our type.I will admit that it is hard for some of us to settle.I can’t realy say that i’m in a much better position,but my situation is different.Instead of playing the field..i’ve been keeping myself out of the field hoping that one day someone special that I do want to be with for the rest of my life shows up.I’ve been coming to the conclusion though that you can’t realy meet the one without putting yourself out there.Maybe it wasn’t three Aquarius jerks,but just three jerks you had relationships with.Then again the aquarius sign is kind of flakey…I just wanted you to know that other houses in our charts do change certain behaviors..and not all of us are out there scoring for the bleachers…thanks and I hope you do find someone…true love is the strongest emotion and in short supply…





Kacey on November 29th, 2008 at 12:44 am

AquaGirl, My love is the one who wanted to commit before me and he’s an aquarius! He was the one who was the first to say that he could see himself old and grey with me…which was kinda scarey…with me being a Gemini and all. Now though, I’m thinking I want the same thing.

-Radiating happiness-
Not all aquarius are so for “friends with benifits” over committment…and I have proof right here. -points at my aquarius-

I am truly sorry for your bad experiences with these guys…but I’m sure it not all comes from their sign but from the way they were raised and their past experiences.





rich on November 29th, 2008 at 9:59 pm

haha yes this is for aquagirl as well. first big mistake, which should be common sence for me, is that you tried to make it with another aquarius. whatever that brings, it cant be good! but yes what you said makes sence! thats how we are, tough s***. although i dont know the biggest difference between aquarius men and women, we most likely (at least on my part) are terrified of emotional attachment. when it comes to showing it, if we show it… nothing good comes of it, and it seems if we hide it trying to spare ourselves and everyone around us the bitter truth, people get frustrated and confused and nothing good comes of that either. its a double edge sword and the easiest way to handle it is to, more elaborately speaking, take the desired personality.. which we have created in the back of our minds to fit any situation we want, and flip it with the emotionally torn up mess of a personality which lies in front of our minds. Aquarians are very far from unemotional, we are emotional WRECKS… but when we observe someone else whos feelings just pour out for everyone to see, people (or maybe just aquarians, im not sure) see it as really stupid. to me, it makes someone look really weak willed and worthy of being highly embarassed when they show a sign of emotion. (usually because emotion is what people are trying to get out of you, and who would willingly give someone that satisfaction?!)
all in all, we see things in ways that NOBODY understands. not even other aquarians. i get hassled, questioned, looked at funny, talked about… and i usually become the center of attention because im so weird. but the thing is that we see things the way we see them, and we wont admit to being wrong about something that does not seem wrong to us. WRAPPING IT UP .. haha i know, i know “FINALLY”.. but playing the field is FUN! (speaking souly from this aquarians mind) the thought of not being able to go where ever i want when i wanna go there and do whatever i want when i wanna do it makes my gut turn. ive wasted SO much time with emotional attachment, and there is only one female one this planet who gets the satisfatcion of seeing exactly what i feel. once youre in, youre in! and that is a terrifying feeling. we do not need ANYONE by our side for anything. someone who does is the BIGGEST sign of weakness. sex with someone who can be your friend is a desire that seems like it came from someone who does not know what its like to have a girlfriend who knows how to be your buddy, and not just your girlfriend. we trained. lastly. we trained ourselves… at a VERY early age… that if we hold our heart out in front of someones face, more than likely, the animal instinct kicks in and someone plays with it and messes it up. and unlike MOST, it seems like there is a simple lesson to learn here. uhhhh der derrrrr, its just gonna keep happening. and there is a VERY simple solution. just put your heart back in your chest, stitch your chest up, put a shirt over it to hide it, and stay alone and to yourself until it heals because people will see the blood seeping through. and when it heals, and it will.. no matter how deathly terrible it feels. you can go about your life with no visible heart, because you put it back where it belongs. and what your heart tells you, YOU can deal with yourself. its not exposed anymore so what other people think, say, and do doesent matter in the least because they have no idea HOW to hurt you when everything is tucked back where it belongs.
‘SIGHS’
there you have it. hahaha. plain and simple. thats how we are. and thats exactly why. i tried my ABSOLUTE BEST not to leave anything out.. nothing i said is meant to justify anything.

Q: “hey why did all the buildings fall down?”
A: “there was an eatrhquake”
Responce “thats no excuse!”
–thats right, its the actual reason.

love, peace, and chicken grease





VoLai on November 30th, 2008 at 5:17 pm

Hi Becky.I find your posts very interesting.Im a aquarius man too.I agree with most of what you said except “embarrassment” thing.I think im just human and i cant be perfect so I dont feel embarrassed when i dont know something or i cant
do something.I have a very good ability of controlling my emotion (not lack emotion).Emotion is somewhat not logical,though its part of human,but we can do many things better without it.
Your site really wake up my bad habit.When i find something interesting,i devote all my time to it.This time is astrology.I have spent whole several days reading many sites,blog on it.And what i totally agree with Rich is “we see things in ways that NOBODY understands. not even other aquarians” and “i usually become the center of attention because im so weird”.The common thing I read is that people find Aquarius so weird,cold,stubborn…We have our own logics and they just dont understand.I always have problems to get along with girls.Some just stay away and think “that weird guy…”.Others say im so cold.Rich and Becky,any hints to improve my situation???Your ideas will be much appreciated.
Anyway im from southeast Asia,so my english sucks.Hope its understandable.





Kacey on December 2nd, 2008 at 5:23 am

Rich,
What is your Chinese zodiac sign?





Cinnamon on December 5th, 2008 at 7:58 pm

I find your site to be very refreshing. I have been looking at different sites to see about compatibility with an Aquarius man and they all say the same thing — he and I are not a good match.

I don’t agree because the man who I am in love with is an Aquarius and I am a Scorpio and we get along fine. You are so on point about giving them a dose of their own medicine because there was an instance when he wouldn’t answer the phone and ignored me even after I apologized to him. Yes I do have a temper but I realize that I have to be tactful when talking to him and that hurdle we have gotten over. So then he did something that I didn’t like — like the “into himself” thing and I didn’t call him or answer his calls for a week and it got to him. We have gotten over that hurdle.

I think the important thing is communication and I don’t push him on issues — I wait until he brings up a subject and then I ask him to elaborate or it and it does. If I bring it up though — he acts as if he doesn’t hear me at all….LOL.

I think he is the sweetest, most loving man that I have ever dealt with and I love him for that. He is very sensual, totally erotic, and has stamina that makes me feel like my head is spinning. However, any new positions or sexual experiements that I wish to try, I just wait until he mentions it because otherwise he won’t want to do it.

He is very attentive to my needs and for some reason he can’t keep his hands or lips off of me! Wow! I am loving this relationship and just recently he asked me to be his woman — of course I said yes!

My intuition tells me that he loves me, I can tell by the way he looks deep into my eyes ALL the time and because he is always with me. When we go out — his eyes do not roam, they are constantly on me and he is constantly touching me as if no one else in the world exists. I love him — but I have not told him that I love him. I’ll wait until he feels comfortable enough to tell me that he loves me.

I’m wondering if we get along so well because he is on the cusps of Capricorn and Aquarius? Capricorn is a definate match for me and I think that sometimes he acts like a Cap and other times he acts like an Aquarius.





rich on December 8th, 2008 at 10:15 pm

kacey… my chinese zodiac sign????? im not quite sure, ive calculated dragon AND hare.

kind of confusing.

why do you ask?





Stephanie on December 10th, 2008 at 1:29 pm

WOW!!! you hit the spot. This is all true! at least from the perspective of the partner. And obviously you were right because the Aquarius men do not seem to be taking the negetive things in. I love my Aquarius.





Rachel on December 12th, 2008 at 5:56 am

Dear Becky,
I am new to the Aqua Man’s world and your advice is GREATLY appreciated.I am a Sag girl involved with a Aqua guy and after reading this realize the reason he has been ignoring me and avoiding me is because he must be blocking his emotions. We are not an official couple though we both want to be together. Drama. We have messed around from time to time and have been quite close for a few years. Scary close. Know each others thoughts close. He has been there for me through every hard time for the last few years. I really am in love with him, but will not let him know yet. A few weeks ago his ego was bruised and he is still not over it. I have tried to talk to him about it a few times and each time he walks away from me. Thank you for letting me know that is typical Aqua behavior bc it sure hurt me.I tried to talk to him again, in the car where he could not escape, and he just shut me out. Would not speak. Pulled his hat down and pretended to sleep. This infuriated me so I yelled and screamed and with no response I said things I now regret. I apologized the next day and saw him several days later thinking all was fine, but he kept his distance. Far away, which I did not understand till I read this. Is it safe to say he is still brooding(hurt), but not willing to admit it? How long do I have to give him his space? What is the best way to fix us bc I sure miss how things used to be? He completely makes me crazy, but I do love him! PLEASE HELP!





Jenny on December 15th, 2008 at 3:36 am

Hi, I am an Aries women with an Aquarius man we have been together for 3 and a half years now and about a month ago he broke up with me, he said it was becaue he met someone else, well I later found out that this girl he left me for was just some internet girl that lives 16hours away, he had been talking to her over the internet and text messageing and a few phone calls, it happened right when he was going threw some stuff, from working nights to going back to school during the day, trying to buy a truck and finding out he couldn’t afford it, everything was happening at once he said, he said he just couldn’t handle it and needed out, needed space, but i couldn’t understand why I had to be the one that got hurt in all of this, why did he have to leave me, couldnt he have just tell me that he needed some time alone, some space to think, well we had lots of fights, mostly me asking why..why did he do this, me yelling and nagging and him shutting down as always, so we took a break, at first we took some time apart and still talked we got together on the weekend and i found his cell and saw he was still talking to this other girl, so i lost it on him again, yelling and crying, but nothing from him, he left and didn’t come back, so i told him we needed to take a break and so we did, we didn’t talk for a week and we met up and had dinner and a very nice time together and got back together, it was great, just a week after we got back together i went on a trip for 2 weeks, he missed me more then i thought he would, he called me everyday and told me how much he loves me and misses me and now i’m back and i dont want to mess things up again, i want to give him his time alone but i don’t know how much time apart or for how long? I know he loves me and i love him very much, we just deeply love each other i just don’t understand him yet, but i’m learning, i think he left me for another girl just as a way out, as a way of changeing this up, a way of showing me he needs space. maybe? help me figure him out, i don’t want this to happen again, i love him and i don’t want to lose him. thanks.





Pisces_Dragon on December 16th, 2008 at 6:29 am

Hi Becky,

I just have a quick question…I’ve been “interested” in this aquarius male for almost a year now. We aren’t seeing each other, really…aside from a moment or two. Anyway, he’s kind of confusing. he acts like he’s really into me (when we actually see each other) but then we won’t talk for weeks. And then, we’ll see each other again (as if no time has passed.) We have great conversation (when we have it), and a strong chemistry. But, there’s some kind of detachment. (hence, the long bouts of silence inbetween). But recently, he shared with me some pretty personal feelings about his dad (who passed away when he was a small child.) he told me some of the memories he had, how he felt after losing him, etc. Is this a sign that he’s developing a (dare I say it..) bond with me? Are the periods of silence just the aquarius way? OR AM i being totally played? Also, is it typical for aquarius men to have so many friends that are girls? I really don’t mind..just don’t want to be completely foolish about keeping an interest in someone who may be just stringing me along for the fun of it. Are aquarians known for that, too? Any advice/suggestions…anyone?

Some “quick” question..huh? (sorry)

I’m a pisces (sun) moon/mars (gemini) and venus (aquarius) year of the dragon. Just in case that helps..

Oh, his venus is capricorn.

Thanks!





Becky on December 16th, 2008 at 7:16 am

Hi there Pisces dragon,

Thanks for your comment. I don’t normally look at people’s charts in comments as I really don’t have the time but well you caught my eye..must be the Dragon in you!! Having Venus in Aquarius and his in Capricorn will always cause a few probs, but understanding that is the only battle and knowing if you can deal with it. Venus in Aquarius is a pretty detached sign but Capricorn is even more so just not in the same way. Aqua’s always come with some kind of unique individuality wherever they are in your chart which makes them endearing one way or another, Capricorn….you won’t understand him, he will try so hard to lock you out as they simply won’t/can’t show you emotion. Aquarius guys normally have lots of friends but only one person they truly connect too. Some people say they are players, I disagree, unless they have some afflictions in their chart they really don’t know how to flirt and be a player to be honest and with a Venus in Capricorn then no, he just has female friends because let’s face it, us girls are great!

Have to go, must get children to school, never enough time!!

Love & Light

Becky





Jenny on December 16th, 2008 at 4:03 pm

Hi Becky,
Won’t you help me out, Aries women with Aquarius man. I posted earlier.





piscesqueen on December 17th, 2008 at 10:47 pm

hi pisces dragon…

your post sounds exactly like my situation. i think i must have posted my own ponderings on aquarius men on the pisces/aquarius thread.

anyway with reading through some of this stuff on auqarius men i can see that i may have his behaviour a little confused. he is very full on one minute…& then a bit off & detached. i thought he was playing some kind of mindgame but i think its just the way he is…a little detached at times. of course for us pisces women thats lethal & asking for trouble as we like to know we are being adored constantly lol

also it was only when he seemed to be playing hard to get that i missed/wanted him more… now i can’t figure out how much is me (my ego) wanting him to want me all the time & my actualy really falling for him if you follow!?





pisces_dragon on December 18th, 2008 at 4:14 pm

PiscesQueen,

Although I cannot say for sure, I think you’re right about the ego-trip. I, too, have wondered the same thing about my current situation. Is it really “HIM” or the challenge of getting him that peaks my interest? In previous “interests” I’ve put a lot of thought and energy into the idea of them, but when they show ME how much they care I would quickly lose interest. I know that sounds so harsh, but it’s true. Only a couple times have I ever been completely attached to a person for any length of time. I usually get coldfeet and wiggle away before things get “too serious” as I think I’m uncomfortable with my expressing my feelings on a very personal level. Mind you, I speak so eloquently amongst a non-threatening audience, otherwise I’m like a fish-out-of-water (no pun intended). I’ve never told this aquarius man how I feel. He probably has no clue–as I play it very cool. But then, so does he. Perhaps he and I are playing it a little too cool? I doubt that will ever work, huh. Seems like someone has to give. What he doesn’t realize is that I really am a very thoughtful and caring person, and I will go to many lengths to show it, but only if I know it will be appreciated. To me, the heart is a gift–and i’m very selective when giving it away (completely). I’d hate to admit to someone that they have my heart (vulnerability) and then have them not cherish it. So, until I know for certain it will be taken care of…I keep it to myself.
Don’t I sound a bit scattered! Geez!
I think we are both guilty of wanting what we can’t have. It is what it is, eh?





piscesqueen on December 19th, 2008 at 12:29 am

well no being a fellow pisces girl myself you don’t sound scattered at all…thats the only way i think lol

but what are we like eh??
when men are all over us we feel trapped…& leave…& then we meet an aquarius…& everything we know & are used to evaporates!!!

i have never been as intrigued or as frustrated by a man ever in my life…& being a pisces i have a lot of exes…including 3 ex husbands…i share my birthday with the ultimate piscesqueen…lizzie taylor no less!!

i wish you peace of mind in your aquarian quest
…looks like we’ll need it lol





arieschick on January 4th, 2009 at 6:47 am

You’ve hit the nail on the head! You just described my aries-ex perfectly! It’s always a horrible idea to nag and push Aquarius men, because they WILL retreat into themselves. If they throw one of their tantrums and storm off into an oblivion where and doing who-knows-what, then do give them a taste of their own medicine! If you are angry at them, don’t tell them because that makes them storm off for even longer! I’ve found keeping my quiet is best. And if I’m still upset, writing a *brief* note is received better than verbal confrontation. Leave out every little grievence from the note, keep it to the bare minimum! remember, aquarious men are bright and hide a wealth of emotion. They’ll figure it out.

I have to agree with the Asperger’s Syndrome comment and want to add that these men seem Bipolar at times.

I have also found that they are excellent at living a double life since they are so aloof and good at containing their emotions.

Crazy as it is, I love aquarious men too!





Amber on January 8th, 2009 at 4:02 am

wow you described my confusing what ever you wanna call him aquarius!he’s not quite my boyfriend and sometimes i’m not sure if he is into me then other times he leaves me in shock when he shows true gestures of affection towards me.but more or less you described him to a tee.he totally confuses me he will give me just enough to convince me he’s into me and cares then bam nothing for a period of time.i know he feels something for me only because he tends to open up to me,he seems comfortable with revealing himself to me but only briefly.once he told me i could do better than him and he didn’t have anything to give me but his love.i’m curious if that is possibly the reason he’s behaved this way with me is it he’s just afraid that this could be something serious,is he afraid he will fall for me or is it really because he doesn’t feel he’s good enough? any advice for me?please help me if you have any advice because i’m really into him and it’s driving me crazy!





Joni on January 9th, 2009 at 4:21 pm

Hi Amber,
I’m an Aquarius female, but I think I have a little insight into the Aquarian male mind.
One thing all Aquarians can’t stand is too much drama. If you are a drama queen, whiny and clingy, your Aquarian man will get very aloof and fly off into outer-space. I absolutely can’t stand drama of any kind. Put that stuff on the stage, ya know, where it’s appreciated!

If you want to get him to tune into you, do something quirky and offbeat. Show him some pics from the Hubble site (http://hubblesite.org/) because most of us love astronomy. But drama will kill the relationship.

When he gets aloof, take this time to work on yourself and leave him alone. He’s probably exploring other planets. They do call us “space cadets”.
Go work out, get a hobby, get busy with your own life while he’s out there floating around in space. He’ll come back down to earth. Just don’t bug and nag him because that is a big turn-off to Aquarians. They love independence in themselves and others.
Be independent and never clingy and dependent.
I do find the males to be a little more aloof than the females. But Paul Newman was a wonderful Aquarian male whose best friend was Leo Robert Redford. Aquarians are humanitarians so you’ll attract one by being very involved in humanitarian causes.
Aquarians are to humans as what PETA is to animals. Tell him about some injustice with a human being and you’ll get his attention.
Keep him interested by allowing him plenty of freedom to explore the universe and give him lots of space. Whatever you do, don’t be clingy, whiny and dependent.
Good luck.





Sean Mitchell on January 10th, 2009 at 8:34 pm

Hi Becky,
I found your site checking pices Auq. match.
I really liked how you wrote it and decided to read your opinion of my Aquarius sign. I find most are the same stuff just written a little differently. When I read this part above I felt you hit it right on the head and I can Identify with almost all of it.
We dont mean to do these things that people dislike, to harm them, we often feel its for the better. But Ive found that I too can be more open to others and not so aloof. It takes a conscious effort on my part. And its easy to find yourself back to where you were. But you right, its like were Aliens or somehow different from others in the way act and think. Our ideas and ideals.
In the future Ill come here first for advice from the stars. Thanks for you honest and accurate portrayal of my sign.
Sean





Marlena on January 14th, 2009 at 4:09 am

Hey Becky,
This is my first time on your site. My man on and off of 8 years is an Aquarus fits this profile. In 8 yrs the longest we have gone without talking was 30 days and it was brutal for both of us. Im a Gemini. I truley enjoyed this article. We truely understand each other and know each other like a glove. All his little quirks I just accept it is easier that way. I am sure you understand.

One Luv,
Lena





Haz91 on January 14th, 2009 at 11:41 am

Hey Marlena wen is your and your aqua mans birthday?

x





Veronica on January 19th, 2009 at 12:42 am

Where do I start? I was born May 28th, he was born January 23rd. We have worked together for a year and was attracted immediately. I am very much older than he is but he already dates older women due to being married at an early age to a young woman who cheated on him. He called me first. We then started doing the get together at his place for a movie and talk,,etc. Very nice. Since we work in gossip city, we are private, or should I say HE is private. He then asked me over for movie and wine, he wanted to try some different things. We did and had a very nice time. We slept together but did not have sex just some kissing and touching. The next week right before New Year, he asked me over and we fooled around but no sex. He told me to sleep there and I did for a while, but I couldn’t stay. Little did I know I was having an adverse reaction to some medicine which caused me to become paranoid. I did the unthinkable. I texted him all night on New Years to come get me and then from there just started to psycho text him. I could not help it. I was not eating, sleeping and I was obsessing. When the doctor figured it out I spent the day in the hospital with medicine to reverse the affects and get me back to normal. I apologized and explained to him what has happened. He has not had one thing to do with me. He comes into the office talking about the women he is going to meet in Brazil when he takes a trip and how he wants a Hispanic woman and he likes women to make the first moves. He has never talked this way before. He knew this was hurting me but kept on all away acting like I was not even in the room nor did he even look at me if I spoke. I was quite embarassing. I sent him a message because I can’t talk to him at work, that I just wanted to know if he got my little present Ileft on his desk. I could not believe he could treat me that way and I did not think he was capable. I told him basically I cared for him but if nothing is was he wanted from me, he could have it because I was strong and independent. I said maybe one day you will want to be friends again but if not there is nothing I can do about that. I told him I was shocked at his treatment and I just could never do him that way. So, here we are now working the same shift. He of course as usual, did not respond and I am sitting here clueless wondering if what I did was so horrible for him to hate me or if maybe he does not. But he can give me these stares if he does not approve of me saying something that might get people thinking we are seeing each other as the last time he was involved with a co-worker it was really bad. I don’t want that so I understand his laserbeam glares, in fact I found it to be quite cute actually and felt like the scolded little girl. I guess I need to know with your experience if this is a combination that is totally over, because it was short lived just two months and the age difference is 18 years. But I guess I thought if he did not care he would not be acting like he is. I am really confused. What did I do so wrong besides text him too much. I explained what had happened, it just seemed to make her angrier. Help me, just advice. Do I need to move on knowing its over. Thanks and sorry so long. A lot to tell…..I am heartbroken. Also, I know the age difference is great but everyone thinks I am his age which is 32. Everyone says I look 36 or so. Good living, no drinking and smoking I guess. Please let me know asap. I don’t know exactly how to act around him and I work closely around him every day.

Veronica





Veronica on January 20th, 2009 at 5:12 am

I keep trying to talk to him but I fear its making it worse. Please give me some advice on how to handle this man.

Veronica





lovesalias on January 20th, 2009 at 9:05 am

hi becky,

i wanted your opinion on how things went down with me and my aqua ex.I am an aries. here is the gist. i was at the end of a relationship as he just ended his when we met but apparently we have crossed paths sometime before as he is a very good friend of my brother for six years. . And we had only met at this particular time very strange lol. We only talked for about an hour at a club then I was to call him but had the wrong number so I emailed him to let him know. We chat on email most of the following day and he called me on his lunch break. We talked for a bit and he was trying to get me to say that I love him but what shocked me even more was he said it first and I am in my mid twenties so it was a shock but strangly I felt the same. He said he thought I was his soul mate and I never believed in that before and I agreed. He left to visit his family for a week but he called me and text me constantly. I extended my stay and when he returned we spent the next twenty or so days together then I finally made my flight arrangements to go home. There was lots of drama with my situation and things happend and I ended up telling him we should not talk anymore. two weeks went by then he called me and we talked like nothing happend and he still loved me and we talked most of the day. Then he found someone. When i went back in november she moved but they were still “together” and he waited for me outside of a local bar we talked and again he said he still loved me but things are so hard and I could tell by the way he looked at me that it was hard for him. i have not kept any contact with him but I think of him everyday I try really hard not to his birthday is coming up and I will be sending him a card but not call him. I dont know what his relationship status is but what are your thoughts? Are things done between us should I just let it be what it was and forget about the future we talked about? Mostly he talked about. He said things and showed so much emotion to me I had to believe it was real but was it? He told me that he told my brother (back when we were talking still…they are really good friends)that I was the only one he ever thought was the one but circumstances are what they are and make it difficult. What is your opinion on this situation?

lovesalias





lovesalias on January 20th, 2009 at 9:16 am

oh I forgot to mention how sometimes while we were together I would catch him staring at me and then his eyes would well up and i would ask him what the matter was and we would just say its hard to know for him that i had to leave. While I was visiting there he wanted to see me everyday and when we could not be together we would chat on email or text. He cried a lot on my last day and occassionally the days prior to my leaving. I never showed too much emotion until the last hour we spent together I broke down too. I really felt something different for him I really felt he is my twin flame and soul mate. Its been almost a month since we last spoke or text or anything. I don’t know what to do. I know all of his ex girls always try to keep in contact with him but I have not and i wonder if it is the right thing to do. I tell myself if he wants me he will be back let him be and if not it wasn’t meant to be. Should I keep it like this just wait and see or is there something i should do if i still want him? I would appreciate any insight you might have in my situation.





AquaRebel on January 24th, 2009 at 10:30 pm

Follow your heart





Veronica on January 25th, 2009 at 11:44 pm

Aqua Rebel,
Do I just call him and put it out there. I am not looking for marriage but I need him in my life in some way something I have done without for a long while. Follow my heart, I would let him go on and find who he wants being selfish, I want to be with him…..I have text him numerous times with no response. He has been off of work for four days and I have not heard one word. I guess I just don’t want to believe it. I want to text him and ask to see him. I guess that will run him off further, am I correct. I mean how long do these guys retreat from you? I have not heard from him since January 1st. I am just in denial I fear.
Let me know.
Veronica





Veronica on January 26th, 2009 at 7:15 am

Becky ,
Could you give me some insight. This man is friends with everyone but me. He is trying so hard to make me jealous or make a point talking to all the girls in the room telling them things he had shared with me I.e. Traveling, women (although that was new). The last night we were together I loved on him. Then when I wanted more in bed, he told me baby there will be more nights. Yet after my medication reaction on new years night, I have not heard a word since and this month is almost over. I don’t know what to think. I was married many years and I have not felt for my ex the feelings I feel for this aqua man so quick. I guess with the age gap and his absolutely no response to one text, my own brain says move on. It’s just I have not given my heart away since my first husband and it’s been 5 years since. I’m a fool ……I’m a gemini. The first night I spent the night , no sex but he picked me ip and carried me like a baby to his room. He was the perfect gentleman. Maybe my lack of strength after a long time without and my feelings for him I made him feel like I was a whore. I don’t know anything about love or if I believe in it anymore. Any words of advice or encouragement would be most helpful now.





Amber on January 26th, 2009 at 9:44 am

Veronica,
I totally understand what your going through my aqua guy does the same thing.I will spend time with him and chat,text,etc.when I can’t be with him and then out of no where he goes m.i.a for a couple weeks at a time sometimes I won’t hear from him for a month which really gets under my skin because as it is we live about an hour away from each other so it’s already kind of limited for us.I have no idea why he does it but I do know most of the time when it occurs something is up with him.Usually if it’s been a little over a week that I haven’t heard from him I know he’s dropped off the radar and there is no telling how long it will be before I hear from him, but I’ve figured out in my situation with this almost every time he’s done this it’s because he has had some major problems in his personal life due to family situations etc.When ever he finally decides to get a hold of me he usually will tell me what all has went on with him.I think it’s just his way of dealing with things being that he is a typical detached aqua.I have learned when it happens it’s probably because he’s got a lot on his shoulders and when he’s ready he’ll come around.Unfortunately with an aqua you just have to be patient and let it happen when it does in other words…when thier good and ready it will.But the question is are you patient enough to wait til’ who knows when for it to happen? My advice to you is if you really want him be patient,don’t text and call and try to track him down or he will loose interest!

Hope this can help you understand your aqua a lil’ better.Amber





Haz91 on January 26th, 2009 at 1:32 pm

Hey Veronica, listen I would not worry about it at all….you reallly are beating yourself up over this man..the thing is you have to give this Aqua man time to heal..rememebr he wont just heal when you think he will it will take some time. And leave him, if he is trying to make you joeloius then I think as well as he is acting like a baby, he still must have feelings for you if he is trying so hard to make you jeolous…give it more time and if things dont get better then move on honey thats all you can do!

and amber whens your birthday !





Veronica on January 26th, 2009 at 9:54 pm

Amber and Haz91,
That is all very helpful information. But how do you deal with these long voids of nothing from them? Are you both married to these guys and if you were or were not, could you take that disappearing for weeks, months? I don’t think I could unless he told me where he was going. I truly feel something for this man and I believe he does me because he has never showed a jealous bone in his body ever. But maybe he is just trying to show me he does not care for me at all and to leave me alone. He sure does not want to know or worry about me. I guess I will just leave it alone. He has not really communicated with me one on one for almost a month. And its been four days since I saw him last because he was off work for his birthday. Something I was not included in and thats okay. I think since he was the one who initiated it first, two times, because I turned him down first, and he kept inviting me over and intiated the intimacy he cares. But it had been so long for me, I wanted more. He said baby there are other days. I said, ok. When we went to sleep he did not hold me like he did is the past. So maybe the thinks I am cheap or something and does not want anymore to do with me. That was December 30th, then I had than reaction to some medicine my doctor put me on and I became obsessed/paranoid calling him and texting. It was since then he has looked at me with glares and ignoring me. I explained, but I don’t think it changed him at all. I guess I will see tomorrow when he comes to work. Before we started seeing each other he was never in my work place, now when I had been coming to work, he is sitting in here. Wish me luck, because although I am older, there is definitely some chemistry there. How can he deny that and walk away when its so hard to find? Thank you both for your responses and please respond again if you have something else to englighten me with.
Veronica
Thanks so much again for everything





Amber on January 27th, 2009 at 9:17 am

Veronica, I have a hard time dealing with his distance as well but I really want to be with him so I’m doing my best to be patient with this guy.Aquas are notorious for being distant and unemotional they seem detached on the outside and are really convincing to the rest of us.An aqua will walk away and loose it all before they reveal how much they desperately love you and need you.These guys are not good at relationships and it takes them a long time to come around.My advice to you would be if you really want him let him come to you when he’s ready…don’t put your life on hold waiting for him though.If you are someone that is emotionally and mentally affected by the lack of affection and attention and you find yourself stressing off it on a daily basis and your getting depressed over it,leave it alone! These men are very distant, don’t get me wrong when they do come around they can be loving etc., but they may take forever to get there!If your affected to the point that your unhappy move on sweetie because you are always number one love yourself first!





Amber on January 27th, 2009 at 9:19 am

Haz91,

My birthday is August 15th I’m a proud Leo baby!





Haz91 on January 27th, 2009 at 12:56 pm

Amber thanks..a leo and Aqua make a love or hate relationship and in your case it is love !

Veronica babe you have to move on..and as Amber said very rightfully that Aqua are very prepared to walk away from what they have very easily..leaving the other person hurt. But they will soon come round because they realise their loss. Also not being biased..you have to rememer, that you calling and texting him in a frenzy..must have scared him away .. and it could have hurt him…I dont think he has forgotten what you had but just needs time to heal and therefore is doing everything in his power to make you realise that even if it is hurting you. Rememeber Aquarius find it hard to deal withe emotion and you have to give him time and space even if does take 20 years! he will come back round…once you have upset this sign it is very hard to get back into their good books…I would know..I havent done it personally but there are alot of my friends who have dated this sign and hurt the AQUARIUS and its sad…because they want to be with the person they give their love and trust to.. but if you urt them then they just cant bring themsleves to accepting whats happened and take time off to detach and heal…
So dont worry..dont get to hung up on him and occpy yourself with soemthing else..and show to him that his jeoulosy technique is failing by getting on with your life and ignoring him! :))





Pisces_Girl on January 27th, 2009 at 7:41 pm

It amazes me how this guy can pull me around like a puppet on a string. More amazing, is that I KNOW this and go with it anyway. I can’t help but wonder why I am accepting of this. Sure, we have some very great moments together, but they are so few and far inbetween that I’m not allowed to call this anything more than a casual affair. I’m not not wanting a commitment, persay, but the confirmation that this could be more than a fling would be nice. I’m not happy with the situation.

It won’t be easy, as I know I will miss him, but I’ve decided that I have to love myself more than this. After all, I want a friend. Sure, we have great chemistry, which puts me on cloud nine no doubt, but obviously, even GREAT chemistry can only sustain a person for so long.

I know he enjoys my company, but I also believe he just enjoys women. I’m not just “another girl” and if he so chooses to be a part of my life (whether it be for friendship or more) he’s going to have make the next move. For now, I think I’ll leave the game-playing to checkers and chess.





cindy on January 28th, 2009 at 4:11 am

Im laughing out loud at your description of the Aquarius man you just described my husband {well estranged for almost 2 years husband}. I am a Libra and we have had the most fabulous times together. He has left me before and returned; though it has never seemed to last this long. Im afraid there is another relationship going on. He is with a Sagitarius right now but has yet to divorce me! Im interested in your thoughts on that. I love my Aquarius with alll my heart and seem to keep waiting on his return. I may be insane but my gut says honey yall are meant to be!





bondy on January 30th, 2009 at 8:17 am

dear all, happy aquarius days!

@veronica
maybe you somewhat too boring for your aquarian.or too dependable.. you make his freedom bugged, i think. what do u think? try this trick if you want your aquarian lover comeback to you : be cool, and be friends with all his friends. try make them closer to you than him, and make it all seems natural. u know what i mean right? dont show your emotional words and gestures in front of him, just cool. and just wait until he come back to you.

regards all from bali.





cindy on January 30th, 2009 at 5:35 pm

As far as too boring not the case at all. Im not boring and we have been on tons of adventures together. Maybe he decided commitment wasnt for him but he came and went as he pleased I didnt have him on a short leash and he asked me to marry him not the other way around. Libras arent known for being boring. thanks for the input though





Veronica on February 1st, 2009 at 6:28 am

I don’t think I had the chance to be boring. I think maybe he stopped something before it got to a point he and myself could walk away. He just shows with his face he cares.., maybe I need to read the book, “he’s just not that into you”. Ha! Oh well I have to be with him at work 5 days a week so getting over him will be very hard. Keep your advice coming at things that have worked for you getting your aqua man back! For now, I’ll move on. I don’t have a choice…..
Veronica





Rich on February 2nd, 2009 at 7:22 pm

yes its very good… just had to read it again. all except one little part…

how would you consider being able to control your emotions childish?

i would consider scorpio and cancer the most emotionally childish of the zodiac, because from my experience, their emotions are off the chain and for some reason, they cant control their actions at all.

but i personally think that being in control of your actions and emotions more adult than not being able to control it..

other than that, the post is still about the funniest aqua post ive ever read!





Veronica on February 2nd, 2009 at 11:30 pm

rich , was that for me? I’m a Gemini and I can be somewhat childish with my emotions I also can turn them off. But what was so funny? Just wondering.
Veronica





Veronica on February 3rd, 2009 at 5:36 am

I guess it is all pretty funny and incredibly childish!!! Men. .. And women!!!!





dbella on February 6th, 2009 at 9:57 pm

To Veronica!

Okay here you go …. I was recently in the same situation with a Aquarius man… I’m Aries…
Just when I felt like we we’re about to get to that relationship status he backed up. We didn’t hang out like we used to, we didn’t make love, he didn’t call or text, it was like everything kind of stopped.
For a while there I thought it was me, I thought something happened and he was scared to tell me what we ‘have’ is over. And then I started thinking ‘oh my god’ it’s another girl.
about two months went by and I decided that instead of being miserable and getting hurt everytime he said no to me when I wanted to hang out and waiting by the phone for him..to let him go…

I got out there and started to prepare myself for the end of ‘us’.. I truly felt like he didn’t want anything to do with me. Well word got out .. ( i’m a blabber) that I had gotten a number from a guy (who I met at a resturant,he was a gemini) ,and my aquarius called me that day …
pretty upset on why I didn’t have the respect to tell him I was moving on… In my mind I thought that he was already moved on, all of his actions made me feel like he didn’t want to be with me. So I told him straight up that I love him, but I didn’t know what was going on… so I prepared myself to move on, and that I thought about him everyday and that I would never disrespect him, and that he left me in the dark…
He apologized and said it was his fault for not telling me he needed time to himself… but not to take it personal…
We made up…
We’re back to where we we’re before his …’detachment’ …
Man, I really love him… but it’s so tough to understand his detachmentand to deal with it… but it’s a part of him.

He will come around when he wants to …but its up to you if waiting around is worth it.

Thats what I struggled with, but this Aquarius is someone special to me, very special, I do not believe he will ever hurt me intentionally and I know he cares about me.

If you feel that your feelings are one sided I would look at this guy as not just another Aquarius but as maybe someone who just isn’t right…

I wish you luck with this man but most of all I wish you happiness…!!! with or without this person!!!





Veronica on February 8th, 2009 at 1:30 am

dbella,
After I read this from you, I felt you knew my heart exactly. It was like you typed it. I then went to work. He was there and he smiled at me which caught me off guard. I said hello and when he asked how I was I said, “fabulous!”…well the next thing I had was a text message that he missed me. It was with a different cell number. During this time apart, he changed his number but now gave it to me. Later on when he was needed for a work issue another co-worker called him for his new number and he said he was not giving it out they could use his work number. I was amazed he had already given it to me and refused to give it to anyone else in the workplace. Next thing I know he wants me to come watch a movie. I did, although, I know I should have said no and went anyway. We had a great time and against my better judgement I slept with him for the first time. It was wonderful and he was great. So, like yourself, I see this is a special man and can do wonderful things and then disappear. I need to learn to deal with it or let him go. I am just not ready to let go yet. Thank you for such a sensitive response.
Veronica





debella on February 8th, 2009 at 2:38 pm

Veronica,
After dealing with so much with these men, when everything comes together and you finally sleep together… Your judgement is A-OKAY lol…
You slept with someone you care about.. something a lot of people fail to do!

Take care … keep me updated and I’ll do the same, cause I’m almost positive these men will do another thing to surprise us.!!

Your sign again?





Haz91 on February 8th, 2009 at 8:55 pm

Veronica…is everything sorted now then or is it still going wrong….
How are things between you and your aqua man..believe me these guys are shockers and love giving surprises no mater how miserable it makes you!
:))
x





groovycoolbean on February 9th, 2009 at 5:47 pm

I have recently been duped by another aquarian male. This is the second two-yr relationship with an aquarian male that was great and fun and loving (I’m a gemini female) but ended with them breaking up to pursue relationships with exes. Although there is a lot of fun and attention, the secretive, walking away, deceitful and detached behavior is tortuous and abusive. Right now there is another aquarian male chasing after me. This time I will have fun for awhile and then move on before it gets emotional.





groovycoolbean on February 9th, 2009 at 5:50 pm

Oh, I forgot to mention, in both cases we had been planning futures together and were in committed relationships, supposedly.





dbella on February 9th, 2009 at 6:12 pm

groovycoolbean-

I don’t get it … I really don’t they always have to test that greener grass…

I’m sorry .. and I agree with you these mind games make me feel ‘abused’ if not stupid for putting up with it…

You think that if you give honesty, you should receive honesty.. not so … all we can hope for is to be stronger and smarter for the next person that comes into our lives.

-





Veronica on February 9th, 2009 at 7:01 pm

OK, listen to this….I slept with him. It was everything possible for the first time. The next day, he came into work and would not make eye contact with me at all when he walked into the office. Not one time!!!! Day 2, nothing….I feel used and abused and its all my fault. I think his divorce from his wife devastated him to the point of wanting someone and gets to that point where he can’t stand being alone and when he gets what HE needs, he is fine by himself for the time being. I tell you what ladies, I am a valuable person and a great woman. I have a lot to offer a man and they are the qualities he is looking for, he has told me. But I also know his ex wife broke his heart cheating on him and I really don’t see this man settling down for a long long time. I am heartbroken and feel cheap and used and whats worse I did it to myself. Oh, and I am a Gemini….go figure…..Help with any advice….I know walk away and don’t look back….I guess I need to do that??
So confused.
Veronica
PS…I am reading the book “Why men love Bitches” its actually spot on!





Sim on February 10th, 2009 at 10:22 am

I’m a Libra and used to go out with an Aquarian.Sadly no more but I do think he was very special and different and I miss his uniqueness everyday.
I agree with the first comment on here about the fact they cannot deal with any issues you might have about their sometimes irratic behaviour. My ex also had an usual hobby of collecting 6o’s colourful vases- I put it down to him being an Aquarius! The Water bearer! Funny huh?
Anyway, Aquarians, gotta love ‘em!





dbella on February 10th, 2009 at 2:36 pm

Veronica-
I just got into work myself, and I read your post. I’m so sorry, I know how you feel and no amount of advice is going to make your work day any better because you will have to sit there and see him… jerk!
I totally feel like we are living the same situation, I also work with the Aquarius i’m ‘involved’ with. He can either light up my whole day by saying two stupid words or ruin it, by walking right past me. I hate that I allow him that power over me.
I’m going to assume that you two have email, or even text. The one thing I’ve learned is that they won’t approach, you will have to. Send him something short and sweet, and leave it at that. It will break the ice for you because you know you at least did your part. And that the ball is in his court.
When I say short and sweet I mean, Hi! or something even about work.
I’m going to say that what happened between you two is making him think. And it may be to re-evaluate your situation, or maybe (like mine does to me,) it has nothing to do with you but about what he’s feeling. Eventhough it feels like it has everything to do with us =)
Please please please do not feel down, life is short and your willing to live and go with your emotions and feelings, wherever it takes you…!!
You seen like a wonderful person, who is very smart, and who has a heart.

Take care
-dbella





groovycoolbean on February 10th, 2009 at 5:00 pm

thanks dbella =)





Pisces_Dragon on February 10th, 2009 at 8:12 pm

Reading these stories is so much like getting an outsiders view of my own situation. I’ve been so entangled with this one guy, who has also seemed very interested in me (when I see him, that is.) But, his on-again, off-again demeanor is becoming very emotionally exhausting, and I’ve well-surpassed the point of tolerance at this point. Then again, I can’t fault him–In reality, he nevre promised me a rose garden.

I’m certain that I have allowed myself to become romantically involved with the idea of him, more than anything. Sure, we seem to have an unmatchable chemistry when we’re together, but in the times that we’re apart I feel non-existent. And that has always bothered me. The difference between us is that I am still thinking about him long after our departure, and he’s doing other things.

All this time I have been frustrated with him, and how he treats me, and how he doesn’t call, and “how could he kiss me like that if he doesn’t mean it?”, etc. etc. etc. blah! WELL, Finally I’ve reached the conclusion that I’m complaining about the wrong person!!! The person that needs the talking to to isn’t HIM, it’s ME! Why would I stick around and wait for someone who doesn’t make sure I know they’re interested? Who doesn’t call? Who is wishy-washy? Who could act like I’m everything one day and then not talk to me for a month???? Who puts up with that crap?

Apparently someone who has no self-respect or higher expectations! People will treat us however they are allowed. And we allow them to treat us based on how we feel about ourselves. IF I truly felt I was worth more than this, then I would 1) Either demand it, or 2) Run, not walk!

I think it has been very unwise of me to create a “new” problem through this man to get my mind off of old ones. Aside from a temporary deflation of his ego, he would be just fine if we never spoke again-and that’s the way I should view him, rather than think this whole encounter was something special.

I think the problem is not HIM, but ME…and I suppose realizing that is just half the battle.

Erg! Still makes me mad as hell though.





Veronica on February 11th, 2009 at 12:36 am

dbella,
he never texts me unless he wants something. He does not email me EVER! He is off the next 2 nights…..I won’t hear a word from him I just know it and if that happens, I will not be available. Whether I think he is all that or not. I deserve better. Or maybe I got what I deserve. Who knows. He will not open up and talk to me. I will keep you posted. Thank you so much for you talking with me.
Veronica





Haz91 on February 11th, 2009 at 6:32 pm

Hey Veronica…

Right I have been following your story concerning you and this Aquarius guy that you have clearly fallen head over heels for..and I have thought out some solutions on how you can deal with this heart pulling situation.

I think it is clear to all of us that the relationship that you and this guy had was very special and reached intense proportions. You clearly loved him and he clearly loved you..and if it was not love then there was something strong there. You both work together and from there on you developed much bigger and stronger feelings. Which is very common in the Aquarius and Gemini pairing.

Now, you go over to his house, spend some time with him and things start to get more deep and more romantic. But then something strange happens.. you become heavily sedated on medication and then go mad. Texting him frantically, telling him to come and pick you up and blah blah. Then it is from that day on where your relationship crumbles.

Looking at your story, I think I can understand partially why he is acting in such a detached and cold manner towards you. The main fact is that you scared him and got him a bit pissed off. Aquarian men when entering in a romantic relationship, like to be treated delicately, and especially with things getting quiet serius and intense between you and him at that time, I think he MUST have felt that you were treating the relationship like a joke . Am I right?

Now..you are saying that he is being a complete ass hole and he is acting like a jerk. Honey, I would say that you have to forget about him. This relationship between you and him is going up and down up and down, and its really not helping anyone. He ignores you, tries to make you jeolous, doesnt even look at you anymore, THEN suddenly you sleep together, then he starts giving you the cold shoulder. What is going on!

The Aqua and Gem relationship is described as one of the best, but little hiccups like this can not be ignored. I think objectively, he is wrong for being and acting like such a jerk, because its not like you cheated on him or caused any major turbulance. BUT, you kinda did the wrong things by acting alittle mad around him and calling him, heavily on medication. Aquarius can not and wont stand for ppl who they think are mocking the relationship..no matter how long or how much you apologise. Babe I have seen it.

Now I think that maybe he is over reacting towards you by being a silent and unattentive jerk because maybe this guy reallly liked you and wanted to get srius and pursue it further, but then maybe you scared him off, by doing that phone calling frenzy. Aqua men dont like to show fear in a relationship, so they blanket it with cold, arrogant and nasty attributes, which is being clearly shown from him.

All I can say is that maybe you need to relax, leave him alone , not be soo obsessive over him, because he is not worth it if he in turn is treating you like a no body. I mean come on girl, you are not that desperate that even when he ignores you and talks to every other person, and doesnt even look at you and is being such a twat, that you are still going after him. Okay what you did was abit freaky, but he is clearly acting like abit of a baby and you dont need to pander to him. So leave it, finito, zero zilch , no more…. if he isnt making an effort with you then you have to leave it.. because being a gem girl myself we might love these Aqua men, but when they act like this you have to learn to back off and just do your own thing. Because us Gem girls can hold our own!

Anyway I hope I helped put some things in perspective for you and brought you back to reality alittle bit…because I just want to see you happy and not beat yourself up for this everyday. Be happy, and be peaceful and give him time, if he comes back and wants things to be normal again, then that will be good he will come and approach you, but if continues doing this then GIRL leave him there are plenty more fish in the sea.

Take care Veronica

xxxxx





Veronica on February 11th, 2009 at 6:53 pm

to Pisces dragon

I so feel your pain. I am beginning to think since we broke the barrier with sex, I’m a booty call now or at least he makes me feel that way. I have NEVER been that to a person so what is this telling me? I feel the same way as you. Honestly, as much as I care for him I could not live happily for a lifetime being treated that way. And the weird part is this is the man at work every woman is dying to be with. He has never dated any of them. Yet he called me for every time we were together. Nobody knows about us seeing each other and I prefer it that way. But when I say to the girls at work when they talk about his muscles and how handsome he is, what about me? They laugh and say in your dreams. (I am quite older than him). I’m just sick of his childish games. HELP! I don’t want to care about him. They can have him! Hehe





Veronica on February 11th, 2009 at 7:19 pm

Haz91:
Thank you. You are spot on with everything you have said. Let me explain something though. I was born with a rare blood disorder hence reactions to meds. Didn’t know I had it till I was in hospital for the first time in my life at 19 years of age. I almost died. I don’t smoke, do drugs or drink (except wine occasionally). So i dont want you to have the impression i got high doing drugs recreationally, it was a new medicine combined with my thyroid med that created this, its horrible when it happens When I finally got the chance to tell him to his face, it was like, ok, meh no big deal. It really hurt my feelings. I think he acts this way towards me not because he’s an Aquarius but he just doesn’t care for me. I have now become his booty call. I just can’t do that. He has some power over me that I have got to break. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You are probably very right. We are both off tonight. I want to call and see how he reacts, just curious. Probably a bad idea though
Hugs
Veronica





trish on February 12th, 2009 at 2:30 am

this is the most true thing i’ve ever read!
im “involved” with an amazing aquarious and im a pisces! so u can imagine all these things come up and annoy the sh*t outta me. but he also makes me strong, look at things in a “it not so bad” kind of way. even though they are difficult, its so worth it when you FINALLY get through to them………..





Pisces_Dragon on February 12th, 2009 at 3:39 am

Veronica,

How long have you and this Aqua known each other? You mentioned you work together, but how long since you first “noticed” each other?

The guy that grabbed my attention entered into my life a couple years ago. We were hanging out with some friends, had a bit too much to drink, and found ourselves in each others arms kissing the night away. The chemistry was absolutely amazing (and completely unexpected). I think we were both caught off guard. But being that we were both very much involved with someone else, we didn’t exchange numbers and left it at that.

I thought of him often, and after a year or so later I let my curiosity get the best of me, and proceeded to look for him through a popular networking site, and found him. I sent him a very vague message like, “hey mister, how’ve ya been?” He responded rather quickly..we met, talked about how amazing that night was, would make time to see each other whenever we could (mind you, we are still involved with someone else).. 1 1/2 years later, here I am…wondering if I should’ve ever sent that friendly email.

First, I am not one to cheat (although that doesn’t make much sense at the moment, being that I have for the last year or so with this guy)…but, I felt such a strong connection, that I felt I would’ve done myself an injustice had I not taken some initiative to see what it was…and unfortunately, I found out it was nothing after all.

There’s this qoute that keeps circling my mind that seems to fit. “Never kiss a fool, and never let a kiss fool you.” I felt as though I had stumbled across something amazing, but in reality, I think I was just fooled. Or perhaps, I let my imagination get ahead of logic. Either way, he has had full control of the reigns.

I don’t have a problem with letting go of men in general. I’ve never been the “boy crazy” type…and could easily move on. And I’m not so sure that it’s so much about HIM that I’m having a hard time letting go of, but more so about that amazing night (almost 2 years ago).

My point to telling you all this is to reconfirm what you already know…which is that things won’t change. You started to let him go–and he caught onto it…and then called you, and slept with you…and now you are back at square one…..more frustrated than ever. He knew what he was doing, and if he cared about you, you wouldn’t have to wonder. I’ve finally come to that place in my situation. He’s just not that into me–or I would know it…because he would make sure that I know it.

My advice is to save yourself the heart ache. It won’t be easy, but it’s for the best. You’ll see. I’m sure the guy I’m groveling over will call me again, and it will take every bit of willpower in me to ignore it, but I will.

Do you want to ignore these fellas together? I will hold up my end, I promise. Either way, know that you aren’t going through this heartache alone. IT sucks..but we are worth so much more than to waste our time on these pathetic losers (that’s what I keep telling myself). Good luck!





Veronica on February 12th, 2009 at 8:18 am

Pisces dragon

Yes, we are on. I asked him tonight in a playful way what was up tonight, being his day off. He told me he had already made plans, sorry. I just told him no big deal when I did not hear from him I made other plans. He is not into me at all! I don’t even need to see the movie to know. I want more. I am way more than any mans booty call. I believe he’s the one with issues. What is wrong with these Aquarius men. They act like jerks and we let them. I really have no one to blame but myself. I wouldn’t respect me either after the way I’ve acted. I am going to turn him down with the exact sentence he did me. I pray for the power to do it. Women like us who love so deeply are hard to find and we deserve a man who treats us with the same consideration. Haz 91 is right. We have been eyeing each other for a year before he asked me out. I turned him down also the first time because we worked together. Oh, and he does not line to French kiss. He said he did not line other peoples spit in his mouth. That’s just weird to me. But he does kiss me that way. Very confusing man. I’m exhausted and I’m done but I will need your help to pull it off. Thanks
Veronica





Haz91 on February 12th, 2009 at 1:11 pm

Veronica…GO GIRL!

Remember dont let him stop you by manipulating the situation..and dont put up with his shit..because even after the incident..where you explained to him what was wrong with you he was still a bastard..lol..sorry for the bad language. He is just being arogant and playing you basically and suprisingly that is not an Aquarius trait. Don’t give in to french kissing rubbish and all that crpa..because you hvae tried a numerous times to patch things up..but he was not interested. So what I say is that dont be sucked in by anything go in and tell him its all over and there is nothing left. ALSO remind him of what a twit he has been towards you..and that should kill him .

Good luck !

xx





dbella on February 12th, 2009 at 6:52 pm

Veronica!!!

I’ve been off a couple days (cause I check this at work) but I had to get on to see whats going on.

I would love to email you privately so we could talk more and in depth =(

Like I wrote you before I came to a point were I was ready to move on … walk away… the ‘I love you’ ‘I love you not’ games were too much!

You deserve to be happy with or without him, he shouldn’t hurt you … especially this early ! So make yourself happy without him

YOUR NOT A BOOTY CALL! Do not feel like that …

I’m going to be honest… It will be hard to see him at work everyday and and the same time move on.. I’ll be here for you =)

try to find something to occupy your time outside of work… maybe something new… because believe me when your alone.. your going to think about him…
ERASE HIS NUMBER !
And at work I’m almost going to promise, one of those girls who like him are going to flirt or vice versa he’s going to and your going to see it … and it’s going to hurt ( I know) .. just keep in mind that he’s a jerk !
Just in my situation … all the single, and even some of the married women liked my Aqua… if they only knew how difficult he is.

Veronica … get out flirt be fun, show that wonderful personality and do whatever it takes to think less and less about him…

He will surprise you one day, trying to charm you or whatever… and hopefully by that time you’ll look at him and know you deserve better…
be strong… !!

your friend
-dbella (Ivy)





groovycoolbean on February 13th, 2009 at 4:45 pm

Well everyone, the most recent aquarian ex and I met up for a friendly tv show and ended up having the best, hot, passionate sex we’ve had since we first met. Instead of getting all weepy and emotional I kissed him on the cheek and thanked him for the great sex and went home shortly afterward. He suddenly went into himself and became quiet as I was leaving.

I don’t know what will or won’t happen from here but it felt good to walk away in control and not confused about anything.





vicky_pisces on February 13th, 2009 at 8:54 pm

Hi, I met my aquarius guy when i least expected it. I went out to see my pisces ex and ended up with my aqua man’s number!!! We just ‘clicked’ straight away, both having the same sense of humour. The next time we met he asked me back to his & we were together for 2 months. I can honestly say we had such a great time! i love socialising, so does he. All his friends said that we were perfect together and i thought they were great, however, he never met any of my friends.
He has a son with his ex girlfriend and when she found out we were going out she stopped him from seeing his son. It’s bothered him so much and i hate to see him this upset. Anyway, he started being really distant about a week and a half ago, not wanting to see me, hardly contacting me. Then he did everything that could possibly annoy me, afterwards saying ‘i’m not doing anything wrong, am i? i don’t want to loose you’. Next thing i know, he’s pushed me too far, and i said that i wished he would stop taking his issues out on me! his ex wound him up by not turning up with his son again and i got a call saying his friend was staying over the next night and so he couldnt see me. He still loved me & the arguement the night before was sorted wasnt it? i said yes we were fine & i was sorry, but i did want to see him to make sure everything really was ok.
The next thing, i didnt hear from him the next day & he dumped me the day after.
He was really sweet, to be fair. He said it was because of his ex, and he really missed his son. He wanted to stay friends, although i told him we could, we never crossed paths before so the chances are we wouldnt now. He also said he was sorry he hurt me and he might regret it in the morning.When i said i was going to cry, and had to go, he said that he was going to cry too.
I texted him the next night and NOTHING, no reply.
I havent bothered since, it’s only been 4 days since weve broken up but it seems unreal. we were fine & then nothing.
Is this normal & will he come back? How do i get him to come back?
His birthday is 24th january 1982 and mine is 13th march 1985.





Veronica on February 14th, 2009 at 11:28 pm

To: Pisces Dragon:
Are you still trying to get away from your aqua man, because I am ignoring mine and do NOT plan on giving him the time of day unless he kisses my booty which I don’t think he will do. So , yes I nee a padnah’ in crime.

Haz91:
Thanks! You are right he is an ass and I am such a good person and I have bent over backwards for this man. He is not worth it. Not unless he has a comes to Jesus meeting and I see a HUGE change first, and I mean, I have to see it. I will keep you posted because he is still somewhat in the picture as he wants it to be that way. Its like he has a strange thrill out of making me crazy. But I am not giving into it! Thank you everyone. And where is Becky? I could use some of her insight on this man!!! Hey Becky, you still running this site?? I hope so!!

Happy Valentines Day to everyone!
Veronica





virgogirl on February 15th, 2009 at 2:06 am

hi, and thx for the aqua man post

I dated this aqua guy for a yr and few mths. we friend long before we dated. at first he treat me as a friend, then when we went on dating, he does nice thing for me, however as time goes by he still didnt intro me to his friends and his social circle. He didnt give me any present on special events like xmas, ny, bday…etc but i dont realy mind. later on I get the impression that he seem to put his friend’s need first before me. it’s so true that they can be selfish, for me hes’ so oblivious abt things between us.

coincidently, I hang out with pple he’s know so occasionally we bump into each other @ the clubs..however he treated me jst like everyone eles…”friend” and doesnt acknowledge me as his gf. He’s the man for everyone (girls thrown themselves @ him on dance floor). I cant stop those girls going for him cos he is charming and make them feel good, but I cant tolerate his flirtatious behaviour and he should draw a line with them since he is dating me….therefore i called him a slut ehhehehehe

I had read Veronica’s story and mine are similar. As much as I enjoy spending time with him, I do think i deserve better, someone who can appreciate me more than this so I decided to walk away for good. I rather end this early before I get too attach and make it harder to walk away from him. Aqua man can be good friend but not as boyfriend. They need to take in consideration that not everyone can read their mind





Veronica on February 15th, 2009 at 3:36 am

Oh, and I need to especially thank dbella (Ivy)…thank you for your so sensitive responses and just feeling what I feel with his rejection. I think everyone of us is special and deserves someone who thinks the same. I will be hurt for quite a while, I know it. Valentines Day has come and it will go without a word from him. I can’t believe I gave myself to someone who thinks so little of me. If this is the way of Aquarius men then I am going to flat ask them when I meet one, are you an Aquarius? and if the answer is yes, I will run!!! Thanks for being the sweetheart you are and the man that gets you is one lucky person!
Your friend,
V





Pisces_Dragon on February 15th, 2009 at 4:42 pm

Veronica,

Yes. I’m letting it go. He makes it rather easy for me by not calling. Lol. It’s been over 2 weeks since we talked, and almost 3 months since we last seen each other…this is typical. He’ll probably send me a text in the next week or 2 and act like no time has passed.

If or when this happens, I will not respond. Not yet, anyway. I’ll let him wonder for a little while.

Oh well…

I’ll let ya know if I hear from him..Keep me posted.





Veronica on February 15th, 2009 at 9:51 pm

Virgo Girl,
I feel you girl. I am treated the same way. I am nice like no big deal and it drives him crazy. I don’t know what is wired wrong in their brains that makes them act so weird to the people who care the most!
I am with you. Keep posting, this is like a group therapy session! Ha!
Veronica





quest on February 16th, 2009 at 1:22 pm

Veronica & Pisces_Dragon

I told him not to contact me in any form again. If he decides to contact me again after “leaving me to cool down” (as he always said when im mad at him) then I will treat him like a either stranger or aquaintance. and limit my convo and keep my distant

He think he can have an authority over me and I cant live without him or wat.

I wish him gluck for finding someone who can put up with his flirtatious and oblivious attitude. I feel bad for her but she gotta go thru it to feel it.

I dont hate him, nor hold any grudge. I feel nothing after sending him my breakup email and I sent it on Valentine day too


well he need to taste his own medicine and learn to consider other’s feeling, not jst his own

Yeah, this is like a group thearapy I feel good to share my story with u and others, and read their happy/sad experiences





groovycoolbean on February 16th, 2009 at 10:47 pm

Well, my ex aquarian and I hooked up again. That makes twice in 4 days and it all started with him inviting me over to watch our favorite shows together and dinner. He says he wants to be friends but we’re carrying on like more than friends. We were together for almost two yrs. Maybe this relationship means more to him than he thought? Or maybe we’ve just been so close that friendship isn’t going to work???
Any ideas??





Veronica on February 16th, 2009 at 10:50 pm

I am at work now and I’ll tell you, he acts like he is pissed off at me and I have no idea why. He is short and glares. I am like WTH??? Anyway, after I slept with him, nothing. He returns a text occasionally but never calls, never asks me out anymore. Has never taken me on an appropriate date. I am nothing to him….I am also going to give him a taste of his own medicine. Good luck to the woman who gets him. To be honest I don’t know very many who would have put up with what I have to this point without telling him off. But because we work together, I cannot have this in the work place, so the cold shoulder. He seems to be living without it, so no big change. I will just need all you guys to help me through this change. Its the hardest thing I am trying to do…. I feel sorry for myself, but I sure am trying not to. I feel used also. Honestly, I think he is an ambivalent man. He cannot connect intimately, hence the no kissing and sex is mechanical….done and over, gets dressed and goes and works out. Makes me feel like trash. No more. I am embarassed even telling you guys I have let a man treat me like this. I will become stronger. I heard a quote, “There is nobody who can make me feel inferior unless I give them the consent to.” I am not giving consent!
Veronica





Veronica on February 17th, 2009 at 6:48 pm

Dbella, Pisces-Dragon, Haz91 and to everyone who has helped me on this site:

After I left work I text him to please call me I wanted to talk to his face or at least on the phone because I was NOT going to do the text thing. I sent “I see how u feel but before you continue on with your life, I need to talk to u in person or at least on the phone. It won’t be emotional or freak u out, I just want to tell you something before I can walk away from this. Pls call me when ur off and I swear I will walk out of your life like I feel you want. It won’t take long but not on this text. Thanks. Call me or Ill call, lets just end it well. My biggest fault with u was I cared to much.

Ok, 45 mins later,…..I can’t keep doing this, I am a good woman. I need to speak to u. I mean, come on Steven we were very close or so I thought. Pls call tonight. It won’t take long and I will feel better. Thank you.

45 mins later…. R u gonna call?

1 hour later: I definitely have my personal thoughts about this but I truly hope we will be friends. I stood up for u with David, I hope you don’t treat me badly like I have seen you do to him in the past. Your r to dear a friend at least to me. It was fun while it lasted. You won’t hear from me again. I guess to end it in this way is not important to you. Bye Steven. I love ya

Ok. Not one word. I have come to realize, I am a doormat while he goes out and does his thing but I am the safe sex woman (he’s freaky about that kind of stuff). I am so much better than to be treated that way. I tell everyone of these girls on this site going through this kind of torture with Aquarius men, to demand to be treated kindly or walk away. If you like a masochistic realtionship, then I give you props for being a better person than I am. But when they all find themselves old and alone, maybe some of these men will rethink their ways. This is my first experience with an Aquaris and we are suppose to be so perfect, and it was at first. But I swear, I am not going to be treated like a nothing. I would never do my worst enemy the way he has treated me at work. In the midst of this, I love the man, yes I do. It will be a while before I can get over him but I have to. I don’t know about you guys but I want a long and happy life with a man who cares. BS to this no response, that is just plain rude.

Love to all,
Veronica

Thanks for everything and I will keep you posted. I am sure I will get the dirty looks when he comes in but I will just turn my nose up and talk to someone who truly cares about me.

I will need ALL your help!
Thank you again and I pray all God’s blessing on all you sweet women on here that your prayers are answered to life and love!





Veronica on February 17th, 2009 at 6:50 pm

Also to Quest:

We also seem to have the same feelings and drama going on in life. The post above was to you also! Let me know how you hold out!
Veronica





Veronica on February 17th, 2009 at 6:55 pm

To all my frends:

I forgot an important piece of information. When I asked him to call or I would call. Before I sent the last text, I called him. He had turned off his phone. What an Ass! Sorry, but I am so hurt that he turned out to be a totally different man. I believe he is definitely an Aquarius, but one with emotional issues which makes it worse. No wonder his wife left him! I can’t imagaine living in such a world with a man who is suppose to love you. Sorry, so much I just needed to vent and I thought this was important for you guys to know.

Veronica





Pisces_Dragon on February 17th, 2009 at 10:51 pm

Veronica,

What an ass! No one deserves that kind of treatment. If I were you I would just walk by and snicker–let him wonder what you’re laughing about…and if he asks, tell him you were thinking about how cute his little penis is. lol. No, but seriously…look at the facts:

He’s a jerk
He’s not very good in bed (based on your description)
He’s a womanizer
A manipulator
A user
Rude
Emotional inept
Immature
A player..
and perhaps a small penis?

People who treat others badly are often hiding something. Misery loves company, right?

I don’t know about you, but for me, I often have a hard time letting go of things if there isn’t a sense of “closure.” maybe you should tell him how you feel. You don’t have to be confrontational. Maybe you could just tell him you are surprised and disappointed in his behavior–and you expected more from him. But, then again….he sounds like a very self-righteous person and seems to think quite a bit of himself. In general, I would just make it clear to him that the only thing he has going for him are his looks (and eventually, even looks get old). His charm has run out…and anyone else in your shoes would feel just as you do at some point. The other girls will catch on. I don’t know….I was just thinking that it might help you to let your feelings be known. It helps me (whether or not they receive it).

Start feeling “sorry” for him–afterall he’s gotta be a miserable person–and maybe you’ll be able to see him as an ordinary fella, rather than someone who deserves to sit on a pedestal. Maybe that way, you’ll be able to get over him. Trust me, if he doesn’t treat you like something special, if he doesn’t act like something special, then odds are..he isn’t something special. Once you realize this, it will become obvious to him, because you’ll no longer show an interest whatsoever…and when this happens, he’ll probably hone in and try to win you back. Don’t fall for it.

I know this is hard and I’m sorry you’re having to endure it. You have every right to feel used. But you will get through it. I promise. Think of all the real battles you’ve had to go through in life…I’m sure then, you can look at this situation and laugh it off.

Good luck..and let me know how it goes.

P.s. Please don’t feel embarrassed about sharing…Many of us have your best interest at heart.





quest on February 19th, 2009 at 11:25 pm

Veronica

After my final email and i did give him a closure so he know what to do from there on . I didnt expect to heard anything from him after that…….surprisingly, he reply but he started to point fingers at my faults. talking like as if he know me well, complaining about my doing, not caring attitudes and such

I jst firmly tell him that if he’s not up to relationship nor bother to try with me to make it work then that’s fine, im not goin to push or nag abt it

no-one born to match the other, it’ll take alot of work and effort…..yet he expect me to do the chasing. Im a virgo, i dont chase anyone…PERIOD!!! He said if i want “deep & meaningful relationship, why dont I jst date those that confessed their love to me” or “find those guy @ church” WTF!!. He doesnt look at why i dont date other guys when they asked me out, why i put up wif his crap and tolerate his flirtatious behaviour and bad treatment. all he can see is how i dont show my emotion, i do wat i want and not telling him about it.

What does he want me to do, stay home waiting for his call, hoping he’ll come over? I had my life to live jst like he does wif his. He hang out wif his friends ALL the time yet i cant hang out wif my gfs? wat a hyprocrite. He doesnt make time for US, I dont need to give out mine either.

Im a virgo, unless i am sure about his intention and feel secure that he’s into me, I dont give out my emotion easily and surely not head-over-heel for him

Veronica, if u only call him ONCE and let him know u want to talk thing straight one-n-for-all, and leave it as it is he will call u back, maybe not on same day but he will
however, bcos u keep calling him after 45mins, he doesnt care and get annoyed so he switch off his phone. If he’s man enough he shouldnt turn off his phone, but since he’s a jerk then U’R BETTER OFF W/O HIM. MOVE ON. no need closure or anything.

gluck





dbella on February 20th, 2009 at 12:40 am

Veronica…

I haven’t been on in awhile… I’m so sorry … How everything turned out.

Personally I don’t think you have anything more to say to him… I mean you laid it out in a text and he didn’t respond… but the fact is, is that you laid it out… You put it out there for him.. and for whatever reason he didn’t care to respond.

Take that as closure… take him saying nothing… as your closure because this is what he’s about…
Get out there occupy your time and learn everyday to forget about him and his stupid game…
Laugh at him, roll your eyes when he tries to be nice…They hate it when you act like you don’t care..

My Aquarius man is in his own world everyday … it’s frustrating, it’s funny, it’s the way he is… some days I want to slap him, others I’m just so happy to be next to him.
He still won’t commit to me..so we can only go so far with this ‘relationship’, it hurts because I love him and I’d love to commit to him but I’m not forcing ANYONE to be with me…
I know I’m perfect for him… we’re perfect for one another…so if or when I move on, it will be his loss… and the only one he has to blame is himself…
People think they have forever

Veronica… everything is okay…stay strong!
stay beautiful!!

=Ivy





Veronica on February 21st, 2009 at 8:16 am

Pisces Dragon, Quest and Ivy,
Thank you all, everyone for all their help. I have needed your words of advice and encouragement to get me through this with this man. He did call me the other day to talk for a minute but his boss walked in and had to go. He said he would call back but did not. I was light hearted, no big deal, but still no return call. I wondered why he even called. But anyway, I decided I have so much love in me to give that I would be miserable any how with a man who would not let me climb in his lap, or just hug and kiss just because I wanted to. How sad I would be. He is noticing me pulling away, and I think he is noticing. But, to get me to trust him, he would have to probably put more effort in it that he would be willing to give, so its a dead end for me. Oh well, so much for Gemini and Aquarius. And one more thing, he acts all happy around people but with me, he shared his insecurities but acts pissed off all the time when nobody knows he is looking at me. A very strange man, maybe more problems than an just being an Aquarius. Sometimes I feel like I will probably be alone forever. I am just not a bar hopping kind of girl. I want the man to find me and how is he going to find me at home? I go out with my girlfriends, but its around their schedule with babies, boyfriends, husbands, etc. I refuse to date of these dating sites. I can’t pick out a quality man by a picture! Oh, well…..I am going to bed now. Thank you one and all for everything and YES!!!! Pisces Dragon….he did suck in bed not from lack of size but from lack of what I would say experience. I believe he has had very very little. Not that I am an expert, but the few men I have been with blew him out of the water. So, that just is mean for me to say but makes me feel better. At least I would never say it to him, but I can vent to you guys! Love to all!
V





Pisces_Dragon on March 2nd, 2009 at 3:34 am

Hi Becky,

I just wanted to throw a thought out for you to ponder.

In a majority of these posts (including my own) many of us have the same concerns over the Aquarius man: He doesn’t return calls, he seems uninterested, and so on and so forth. But, what really has me thinking is how we seem to have such a hard time with letting these guys go. Why is that? I mean, I have stopped communication with others for less.

Anyway, is it the charm or the challenge? OR do you think there’s some strong spiritual pull attached to the aquarius? Or am I completely nuts?

The experience I had with my aqua truly felt like someone reached in and grabbed my soul. We kissed for hours–and it wasn’t anything sexual for me. It’s something hard to explain, but it felt spiritual–like a reunion of souls. I know he felt something, too.

We developed a friendship/ casual love interest (no sex). He would open up to me about things even I would’ve thought private. but then there were inconsistencies with other things: Like not talking for weeks at a time. After a year of this, I suppose I’ve grown weary of his style and approach to things. He would often leave me hanging; saying he would see me in an hour, but then never show. I gave him the benefit of the doubt 2 times, but after the third I sent him an email saying: “Please don’t call me anymore.”

He responded with saying he thought we were closer than that, and wanted an explanation. I told him I felt foolish in following my heart somewhere it is not allowed to go–and that I was beginning to think I imagined something that wasn’t there–and may have already invested too much thought and energy into someone is unavaiable, and seemingly not that interested. I haven’t heard anything since, and honestly don’t expect to.

Anyway, I did’t mean to get caught up in my story. I apologize.

So here are my questions:

Is there a reason women have such a hard time letting go of the peculiar aquarius?
and..
I think I may have severed our ties (which isn’t necessarily what I wanted to do–just really needed some time to clear my head–but, I was impulsive–kinda hard to go back now though, but do you think I could’ve handled ending our friendship a little differenly?

Whew!





Becky on March 2nd, 2009 at 9:25 am

Hi there Pisces Dragon, Thank you for your comment. Feel free to write your story there are lots of people here doing just that, including me! You are right, it is terribly hard to let go of an Aquarius man, I have been there and seen that for myself. I think that most things in our lives we have control of, where we go, who we speak to, which clothes we wear, we are all independant in that way and the Aquarius man throws all of that in the fire. He dosen’t react how we want him to, when we want him too, worse than that, he dosen’t react at all! They also give the weirdest signals I have ever experienced, you never know whether they love you as a lover or as a friend, whether they enjoy spending time with you or not. We all live in a world of the spoken word to communicate and the Aquarius man does not, not until he feels like it anyway. So it’s a case I believe of fascination with these men. We desperatly want to understand them and they are such a challenge that we can not help but keep after them, which is the wrong thing to do (according to them) but the rest of us are just mere mortals who do not understand they intricate ways of the Aquarius, they really should make the boundaries far more visible!!

You are a Pisces, therefore you posess great intuition (whether you use it or not) so you MUST trust yourself, your heart and what your instinct tells you. Trying to use logic won’t work that well for you! Of course you culd have handled it differently, but he should really understand your need for ‘time out’ as he himself practically invented the term. Don’t ever feel that you can’t go back, if you fell you want to to set the record straight then you should. Never live with what if’s always try and ease your mind.

Love & Light

Becky

P.S I just love dragons a pisces dragon must be rather fascinating!





radiantlove on March 4th, 2009 at 2:04 am

hi becky,
i am an aquarian male , and i agree with all what u said , just wanna add:
“if u won an aquarian male,so u won the whole world ”

“give me freedom,and i will give u everything u wish”

“plz,,, don’t talk to me on phone for hours in useless issues ”

“may be we keep away of our parteners for hours and may be days , but ourfew moments when we get closer equals hundreds of years ”

” let me miss u ” and honestly the more you keep away the more u get us closer to u ” calling once or twice daily r stisfactory for us.

” plz plz try to understand us , we r very rare ,precious ,once in life time ”

“we r highlty spritual creatures , we like spritual ,unvisible matters , we can love with closed eyes , getting togther with our partners doen’t make that haulariace addition !!!!!!!!!





DrunkenLogic on March 4th, 2009 at 8:40 am

im an aquarian 3, and i used to be a HUGE shut in. so for the past 4 years i’ve been getting out there and really takeing note of how i act.(to try to become more social, and get rid of my shut in ways) and i have to say, your notes on the aquarian male are exteremly, EXTREMLY accurate when it comes to my personality. for a long time, i knew i was different lol as im sure all aquarians do, but it kinda felt weird that it was never too defiened. but this is… waaayyy too accurate. its nice to know im not crazy. haha

however i will say, i try to give what ever person im with, equal credit for anything they diserved. because i dont paricualarly like that “know it all” tigne i have to me.

i also try to show SOME emotions, ehhh… only.. when its comfortable… lol





john on March 4th, 2009 at 2:05 pm

Pisces_Dragon,

I’m a pisces man, and found it interesting that you mentioned how an aquarian reached in grabbed your soul. That has happened to me on a couple of occassions with aquarian females, and I wasn’t physically involved at all. It’s interesting that they described the same thing coming from me. It was the most unusual feeling I’ve ever felt - as if my heart was going to jump right out of my chest. It was as if I was extremely attracted to them, but red flags indicating “don’t even think about going there” were popping up all over. I don’t know if this is anything like what you felt towards the aquarian male. I would be interested to know if any other pisces males have felt this towards aquarian females though.

I’ve never felt any positive friendship connect with aquarian males.





Pisces_Dragon on March 6th, 2009 at 1:56 am

Becky,

Thank you for you response…I always appreciate your insight–and lucky for me that you are a dragon fan. I tend to think we’re pretty special, too–

John,

As for my experience–yes, my heart felt like it was about to explode. It was the most sensual (not to be confused with sexual) moment of my life. It was completely unexpected, but so familiar. weird, I know. For about a year, I thought of that moment until I finally mustered up the courage to look him up. I just had to find out what it was–but, unfortunately (or fortunately, however you want to look at it) I discovered that some stones really should be left alone.

While there’s no denying we shared “something,” I think I allowed myself to get emotionally involved with someone who was apparently just playing. Trying to sort it out has been the most frustrating thing for me…but I have finally come to terms with it. I don’t doubt for a second that he came into my life for some reason–and I think that reason was to reveal something within myself: not a lifelong love affair. And I’m ok with it now.

Nice to hear such a similar feeling from someone else.





Johnny on March 14th, 2009 at 9:35 pm

Aquarian man. All I can say is good read and you have pretty much summed me up perfectly.





OneAquarius4u on March 15th, 2009 at 4:41 am

OK…..here we go…..I’m an Aquarius male, and to make this more interesting to you folks….a bi male. Excuse me if I ramble a little….I have a million thoughts and I’m trying to put them all into words, and for us…..that’s pretty hard!

If you think it’s hard to deal with an Aquarian male, try being one. We are very close to our feelings. We are very in touch with them, however it feels almost impossible to verbalize them. It’s a constant battle for us, but once we figure it out, it gets a little easier, but in the meantime if anyone hurts us….we cut them off totally.

I’ve been reading about you ladies sending text messages, calling over and over, and getting no response and getting upset b/c of it. Honestly, I have never understood why people do this. I have always said that if you call, I will call you back. If I don’t call you back, then clearly I don’t want to talk. When I get call after call, I tend to think they are just being rude, and then i get irritated, hence turning the phone/ringer off.

We are attracted to people who are very sweet and sincere; however we are turned off by people that we feel are weak. There are 3 types of Aquarians. Those that only care about themselves, those that care about others so much that we distance ourselves in order NOT to hurt them, and those who are confused. If we see signs of weakness, the first Aquarian will run you over, and use you to his advantage, and the second will distance himself from you no matter how much he may care because he knows he can’t be what you need. The 3rd kind is confused, and this is where you get the hot/cold combination from. One min they love you, the next they want to be friends.

We are very confident individuals and this is why so many people are attracted to us. We tell you what we will do, and simply do it, without planning, or anything. We are very spontaneous. If we take time to plan something out which so many of my partners have suggested, it usually doesn’t happen b/c our mind is constantly changing. We also tend to connect on an intellectual level, and sometimes it’s more. I can’t really describe it myself.

We are hard to deal with, but once you win us over, you have won us for life. I’m not saying don’t take the challenge, but I am saying if your feelings are easily hurt, or if you need constant closure, or to talk out every single issue…..This is NOT the person for you. The way we respond to arguments is by leaving the situation, then coming back when both parties have calmed down. This is one of the biggest issues since a lot of folks must finish a discussion/argument once it has been started. So when this happens we shut down completely and disconnect. Sad part is there are so many of us that don’t even realize we do it. I have a great suggestion for those of you in a relationship, and are constantly frustrated. Show him these postings and ask him to read them so he can understand how you feel. It opened my eyes to a lot, and I guarantee it will do the same for him.

We are very curious and love interacting with different people, if not for anything else than just to see how they are wired. Once we find out, we tend to get bored. With Aquarians either you click with them, or you don’t. If everything is going well and he just stops calling…..something is wrong, and if he doesn’t respond, or answer your questions on the first attempt, DO NOT keep trying. This will prove to make a bad situation worse. Sometimes we meet folks that we really like, but don’t know if we want to spend our lives with them. This takes time….a lot of time….and I can’t give you a timeframe, however we will come to a conclusion and let you know, but if you pressure us, we will just cut off all ties.

All I can say is use your instincts, and see things for what they are. If he only calls to hang out….you are a friend. If he only calls to have sex….you are a booty call. If he doesn’t call……. He is NOT interested, and if you hear from him everyday….maybe even twice a day. He’s head over heals for you. Just take things SLOW….and don’t try to move in, or marry him right away, and I guarantee it will be worth the wait.

Bottom line……if they say they need space….give it to them. Only call once when you do call, and don’t let them know how deep you really feel. WE like a challenge ourselves, and we like to miss you. If we know we have you head over heals after 3 or 4 dates…that isn’t a challenge. We feel you would do this to anyone else you meet. What makes us special?

I will tell you, I agree with most of what you say on a lot of these posts, but in our defense we are anything but uncaring. It does take a SERIOUS effort on our part to show emotions, however we still try. (Honestly we would rather go dodge cars in traffic).

I’m not trying to by defensive, and I apologize if this offends anyone, as I’m only writing based on what I’ve seen and experienced. I have dated an Aquarius myself which was one of my WORST experiences. Needless to say, I was caring, they weren’t.

I may have missed a few things, but please let me know how you feel about my post.

I know it’s long….SORRY!!!!





Becky on March 15th, 2009 at 9:46 am

Hello there OneAquarius4U,

Thank you for your wonderful comment. I always love to hear from Aquarius men as I suppose they are my favourite mystery. I can’t write too long a reply as we are all just about to go out to play in the woods on a rope swing and bikes…but yes, I do agree with you. Three types of Aquarius? Well ofcourse. You have the Capricorn-Aqua, the Aqua-Aqua and you have the Aqua-Pisces. Aquarius men are amazingly caring and so tender and gentle it can make you cry, it’s just seeing it that is the hard part…when they choose to open up a bit and you see what they are actually thinking as apposed to what you think they are thinking then you will always be shocked…My Aquarius man never ceases to amaze me with his hard outer exterior that even now I tend to get wrong and then am left in shock and awe when he presents me with how he ‘actually’ feels. I love you all Aquarius men, your a very special breed indeed and one that I will never stop trying to fathom.

Love & Light

Becky

Thank you for sharing





Haz91 on March 15th, 2009 at 6:04 pm

Hi Aquarian men,

Just a very general question,

Doe Aquarian men hate ppl who listen into their conversations, because I JUST met this Aqua guy and he told me that even though he does it to other ppl, he hates other ppl listening into his conversations… ?

Another question, how would an Aqua guy react if he found out that a girl likes him, would he shy away, be forward, or just forget about it

Thanks … anyone can chip in to the answer if they want .. I need a broad range of Aqua men’s answers .. LOL





Jet on March 16th, 2009 at 10:28 am

Hi, aquarius dude here.

LOL! I dont even know how i ended up here. But it doesn’t really matter. I just wanna quote you on this….
“Aquarius men don’t do that either. Infact, just to be safe, don’t even mention the previous argument, just accept he is over it and get on with being happy, it’s a tough call, but trust me, it’s the only one that works.”

That is hilarious but so true. How i wished you were friends with me ex wife, LOL! Things would have been a lot better, har har har!





Alexander on March 18th, 2009 at 5:06 pm

WOW!!! Just Incredibly right, none has ever describe myself like you did!! Greetings from an Aquarius man in South America. You are awesome!!





groovycoolbean on March 20th, 2009 at 8:36 pm

I think I have a confused aquarius. We get close he pushes me away and calls for ‘a break’ but he calls me everyday or texts or e-mails and we still see each other and have sex and play as though things were still the same except I don’t spend the night. This has been ongoing for two years now. We have an extremely passionate sex life and we have a great friendship. OneAquarius4u is absolutely accurate about a lot of the characteristics of the aquarius. I have learned to be flexible in my day because he can change his mind at any time about our plans for the evening and call me and say “Hey, let’s go to the movies.” He will see absolutely nothing wrong with changing something midstream even when it’s plans we’ve made like to move in together or breaking up after we have been in an agreed committed relationship for a few months. I have to say about my aquarius he does stick by me. In two years the longest he has gone without contacting me in any way is two days and it happened once. He has never abandoned me and makes sure he tells me he is here for and will do whatever he can to support me AND this is when we’re broken up or taking a break.
Even with his contradictions, hypocrisies, hot-cold, etc, when he is emotionally present, there is a tranquility and peace of mind I have never felt before with any man. He is not the romantic and silver-tongued sweet talking man most of us fall for but his surprises and gifts can’t be beat! I’m not a patient person and I will probably get tired of waiting for him to finally commit once and for all but for now I am still committed to the relationship and he is still present.





MEEK on March 25th, 2009 at 7:17 pm

O~WOW! YOU REALLY HIT THE NAIL RIGHT ON THE HEAD WITH THIS ONE!! IT’S FUNNY HOW I’M AN ANQUARIAN WOMAN BUT LEFT TO FEEL THAT WERE ON DIFFERANT PAGES IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. I THOUGHT TWO WEIRDO’S (AS EVERYONE ELSE CALLS US:))COULD UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER AND GET ALONG JUST FINE, BUT NOT IN OUR CASE. MAYBE SINCE WE HAVE A 3 YEAR AGE DIFFERANCE MATTERS SOME WHAT?? ANYWHO, GOOD WRITING!!





aquavirgo on April 5th, 2009 at 12:39 pm

i known an aquarius friend and he is aloof, detached when is come to his personal feeling. unpredictable in what his next move is. However he’s not LOYALTY as i thought he would be.
He dated one of my gf for a yr, cheated on her wif another girl, she found out, confronted him then eventually they broke up. The girl that he cheated wif is now his current gf, they dated for 7 years. Recently he cheated on her wif another girl i know for more than a year. She found out later that he got a gf so she broke it off with him bcos she doesnt want to be the third party or his mistress.

He’s a player, liar, deceited, careless, hyprocrite, and cynical person. He doesnt fit into Aqua characteristic of Loyalty





Angel on April 16th, 2009 at 7:13 pm

Humm….I have always know Aquarius to be VERy, VERY LOYAL. my ex is an Aquarius and even as much as I can’t stand him now we were together almost 10 years. My current Aquarius bf (of over a year) has been nothing but also loyal. Eveything else mentioned of the Aquarius male really makes me laugh (SO TRUE). I’m a Gemini and feel these people are almost as crazy as I am. Maybe thats why we get along so well. The Aquarius understands my needs of freedom and allows me my space without ever really questioning as I do the same for him. ANd it’s weird because I have found that with both of my Aquarius they have this need of physically being with me (more so than anyone else I have been with. But I too find myself physically drawn and having this powerful need of physically being with him. Which is not like a Gemini. So actually, we aren’t apart that often. I can’t tell you the need we have to talk to eachother daily. This goes beyond the normal one-two phone calls a day. It’s a very powerful connection. And yes, this man is in my soul. I guess everyone is right, when you win the Aquarius over–he is yous until he chooses not to be.





Ved Kokru on April 18th, 2009 at 8:16 pm

Hi Becky,
Your posts on Aquarius sign is truly amazing and I found it quite true.
I am an aquariuan man married to a Gemini girl. The only reason I got married to her because she is crazy about me.
My Gemini girl who is otherwise a perfect wife, drives me nuts with her possesiveness and lack of communication. We just can’t have a proper conversation where we could connect. It just doesn’t happen. Also she comes with emotional baggage and keeps nagging me that I don’t connect with her emotionally. It really drives me crazy.
Is my relationship gonna stay like this forever or will I ever see light at the end of the tunnel?





Haz91 on April 19th, 2009 at 11:42 am

Hey Ved ,

Okay so your married to a Gemini girl and you being the Aquarius man, want alittle more out of her. You say that she is possesive and there is a lack of communication.
About the possesiveness, you said yourself that she was crazy about you, so does that mean you weren’t crazy about her?… because then why marry her. The fact that she is crazy and loves you alot, could contribute to her possesiveness… and Gemini’s arent really the possesive type unless they feel that their partner is not giving them enough attention…
Communication wise, I think that if you cant even sit down with her and have a proper conversation, then that will BRING your marriage down, because communication and respect are two key ingredients to a marriage… and if you feel that she keeps moaning about the fact that your not paying enough attention to her emotionally, then YOU as the husband need to sit her down and set her straight, meaning tell her that she needs to stop nagging you and going on at you, because it will only drive you away…
try that for starters… tell me how you get on… ?

Also when is your birthday and your Gem wife’s birthday?

hope that helped





Dany on May 4th, 2009 at 3:53 pm

You are dead on with the description here. My boyfriend and one of my brothers are aquarians.





apple on May 12th, 2009 at 9:36 am

Dear editor,

Loved your article =)

I’m a taurean and dated an aquarius for nine months. The chemistry was strong between us and he was head over heels towards me right from the beginning. he did everything there is to show me how he wants to be with me and we got on very well. Although there wasnt a lot of actualy transfer of words between us, we were very comfortable being with each other. And despite the fact that I always feel unsatisfied(spiritually/ emotionally) with this relationship, I like him a lot. And I really appreciate the way he was so nice to me whenever possible. But I screwed things up by being too possesive, he ended our relationship with me one and a half month ago…

I dont want to let go yet so I initiate chatting and phone calls with him every now and then (four days to two weeks) and he seemed to like it (although whenever i brought up the whole ”im sorry” thing he would be so turned off) other times, he would be so caring and made me feel that he still cares for me…

I wondered… if I should wait around for him? Would love for you to give me some advices here.

thanks, apple.





Rich on May 13th, 2009 at 7:16 pm

haha im an aqua man and im having a gemini girl over tonight!! anything i should know?





MYRASFAIRYDUST on May 13th, 2009 at 11:16 pm

I have been reading alot about aquarius men being “manipulating & controling”?…Which comes to a surprise for me cause I kinda thought that because of there “freedom-loving ways”.that would make them more care free towards there partners freedom,is this true? I have noticed that after I married an aquarius man,he did start to get more maybe possesive.I am a pisces women so I am both independent and needy at the same time. Maybe my husband is more old fashioned? what do you think?..anyone??





Cappysweety on May 25th, 2009 at 8:32 am

I broke up with my aqua guy 4 months ago, mainly because I just CANNOT stand his unemotional ways. I always thought he’s just not that into me. When I broke with him, he just shrugged, said ‘I really don’t know how to let you know I’m THAT into you’, walk away, but cried the whole night (WOW). Ever since then, we treated each other like best friends , chatting, going out tgt etc. But two nights ago, while chatting, he suddenly called me dear, and asked me to be his again for just one more night. I was shocked (duh), and asked him ‘do you stil love me?’ He replied ‘Of course I do… I thought I could forget you, but I was wrong…’ This is so totally expected that I did’nt know what to say. He never said anything like this for 4 months! He’s been unemotional and cold (as usual) in love for the past 4 months. Well I guess he’s just being true to his star sign. Anyway he’s so sweet to me lately, so affectionate and romantic, I never seen him like this before!! Is he really in love with me, or is it just an act? I know that aqua men behave the exact opposite way of what they really feel inside. Should I just accept him ? I’ve learnt to adapt to his werid (but cute) ways and his lack of emotions and we’re getting along so well now I can’t believe it, but I’m falling for him again.
Oh yeah , I’m a capricorn girl btw





Cappysweety on May 25th, 2009 at 8:33 am

Oops, *UNEXPECTED.





Rose on May 26th, 2009 at 4:33 am

Aquarius men are AMAZING,they are the kind you will NEVER forget!!!!:D





femaleaqua on June 4th, 2009 at 9:48 am

u hit the nail on the head infact ill send this link to my lover





Sarah on June 12th, 2009 at 2:10 pm

i’ve been living with an aquarius man for almost 7 months.
first i want to say that he is the best thing i have ever encountered as far as men are concerned. this article about aquarian men is absolutely him! as i was reading i kept saying to myself “that is SO him!” you really hit the nail on the head with this one. i love it. and i’m happy that i’m not the only girl in this world that has to put up with such an emotional oddity. thank you
–Sarah





Darrian on June 16th, 2009 at 6:44 am

Hello Becky,
I am a Pisces girl. I to have deep feelings for a aquarius. He is almost everything that you described. When it comes to his emotions he is VERY outspoken. He has a negitive side to him as well when it comes to himself. You know the saying “lets call it a night”? well he likese to say “lets call it a life”. He says this almost everyday.(do you have any idea why?] He likes to blam me for a lot of things as well, things that are not my fault and are his. He is very caring as well. He constantly says that he loves me… but I don’t love him. Since I don’t he feels the need to argue with me about it. Its like he just dosen’t understand. He is truly a piece of work.





Kapil on June 16th, 2009 at 10:41 am

Hmmm…….Aqua man here.

Veronica, i have just been reading your posts.

Can i say I had a similar experience with a Virgo girl.

Hurts me, cheats on me more than 3 times, says her friend is an alternative to me and she may as well marry him, and i still keeping calling, texting, e-mailing, and get b*llocks in return.

Broken off all ties with her since a year.

I was ruined when it happened. Went into a bad state of depression and tears for over 4 months.

We’d been together for 3 and a half years, and she’d been the one who had initiated the relationship…..





rob on June 16th, 2009 at 4:11 pm

to kapil… well three times?? once is enough… i would of left and never looked back. For me I’m a cancer male with and aries female and i went through F-ing hell

here some examples

you can cheat on me, just don,t tell me

tell me why you wouldn’t cheat on me

don’t hit on my firneds or i’ll fuck all of yours

i really was shocked by these statements and i finally grew the balls to leave her

am i acting over sensitive? all i know is that a whole bunch of little things added up and i got a huge turn off.. so i left .. does anybody agree with me?





Kapil on June 20th, 2009 at 10:53 am

^ Yup. Agreed. I should have seen it coming.

Ah well





Cando on June 23rd, 2009 at 2:36 am

Hi,

Great site, I just had to leave a comment after reading about Aquarian Men.

I am a Cancer female and have just come out of a 2yr relationship with such a male.

We both love and care for each other very much, but I felt I was the one compromising and didn’t feel he was giving anything back.

He can’t tell me how he feels about anything or what he wants from me. He used to say he likes to make me happy. I tell him what I like and don’t like, he doesn’t get it.

He is a very loyal friend and very giving… to his friends. When ever soemthing happens he will be there to help. But whenever I needed him, he would always find excuse or be hung over to not be there. Tho I can’t say that was always the case.

What ended for us, was losing my job and all he wanted to do was go out drinking and have fun.

I am older than him and tried to be patient.. but theres only so much you can take.

I don’t know if they are all like this?





Sandy on June 25th, 2009 at 4:13 pm

Wow, is all I can say about this one. Becky, you are amazing,How can you be so right on about so many things,I am a gem girl of course and I love my aqua man, i just hate his ways, I have never been insecure and needy, but why do i feel like I am now? I blame it on him, he so unemotional and I feel so emotional, its scary. everything you said is on the money about the gem woman and the aqua man. Sometimes I just don’t know why i deal with him and I break it off and he so easily accepts it and I cry, feeling stupid but one of us(most likely him)is gonna call again and we might argue for a while thereafter but he’s gonna ask to see me and i’m gonna fold like i always do. I’m afraid he’s not taking me seriously but I dont know how to leave him alone. I’m definitely not the nagging type and I don’t want to be with him all the time either because i enjoy my space,I enjoy spending time with my friends but I don’t think he wants to spend as much time with me as I do with him. he is making me feel insecure and i hate that about myself. during an argument, he told me that “there were plently of fishes in the sea” so I told him to go find another fish. he’s still here and so am i. He’s constantly telling me I;m not going anywhere but is he?





Sandy on June 25th, 2009 at 4:18 pm

One more, Sarah, You’re not the only one going through it. I thought I was and I was feeling a little embarrased to tell my friends because they know theres a lot I won’t take in a man but this man,I feel like I’ve done all the things I said I would never do.





Kapil on June 29th, 2009 at 8:42 am

@ Sandy:

We’re not ‘unemotional’. A few posts above, someone talks about ‘blocking’ the feelings out.

We just dont want to lose good mates we have made, or dont want to take any chances with our feelings, or hurt anyones elses unintentionally.

Feelings and emotions are not our cup of tea. As intelligent we may seem, when it comes to feelings and emotions, we are the most clueless, if you like.

We just cannot do it.

About your first post, if you say you like your space, and are not the nagging type, then you might as well not find another better sign than the Aqua.

I think this is why most of us end up getting married late, or leading single lives. We just dont know emotions. We try to do our best, but are scared when it comes down to it.





Sunshine on June 30th, 2009 at 3:53 pm

OMg u got it down to the T on the Aquarius man i must say.Being married to one for 10yrs n loosing my mind many times at his blocking of emotinons feelings n everything around him.HR just makes me wanna smack the hell out of him.N ur right about the walking away giving them their space to breath,they forget u ever argued with them n sweep it under the rug.Who can live like that dow? They r 100 percent selfish sorry even if they don’t mean to be.They use their words to cut u like a knife at times n make u feel beneath them to make them self look higher or feel better.GEEEz.How about them n loyalty.u didnt mention that?





Patrick on July 2nd, 2009 at 3:18 pm

Enjoyed reading your personal experience w/an Aquarian Male. What a Scream! Im an AQ Male myself and am fascinated with the perceived traits, though agree with many of them. Nature/Nurture plays a big role I believe,explaining some differences re:two edged sword, that is, with everything handed to us in life, for good or for bad, we have a choice.Depending on what one was exposed to enviromentally during developing years,helps forges traits and tendencies.I see traits in myself that mystify, yet intrigue….want to understand them/me better.Strangely enough,I actually knew very few other Aquarians growing up, and over the years. Its only been in say the past 8-9 months that I have started running into fellow Aquarians left and right. I mean like 5-6 in a two month period! Should I have been looking out for something during that time? (This was last summer, roughly)
I can see where “stubborn” might characterize some aquarians…ahem….And passionate, oh my God….If you are female and in the sights of certain AQ males, brace yourself….your pipes will never be the same….trust me on this one…huh!? And of course, if you have never been loved, you will be. regardless what happens to your Aquarian male, he will always love you! You can take that to the bank/…

Theroad





Patrick on July 2nd, 2009 at 3:41 pm

To: Haz91

Read your comment after I posted the first time, way down the list from yours.As to your request for insight on your “Aqua-man” I can only speak for myself though I feel a tight bond among my fellows….But….If you happen to be interested in a aquarian male and he finds out….and you/he happens to match chemically…your in so much trouble! cause he’ll eat you alive!!…i mean that in a very fun way…..!

Theroad

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