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Aquarius In Love
Introduction
Over the next month Aquarius’s everywhere are celebrating their birthdays and indeed entering the world for the first time. These people are hard to define in life and love mainly because defining them takes away a big part of what and who they are, and what they are is highly individual and very quirky human beings. Perhaps ‘human beings’ is not the right phrase, as Aquarius’s are not really of this world. I mean, physically they are, and we can, for instance, touch them, see them and hear them. But the Aquarius person’s mind is seldom linked to earthly matters.
Aquarius In Love
When in love the Aquarius subject is not overly gushing and certainly not traditional. Occasions can tend to get forgotten about even when reminded and things such as birthday cards can prove a bit of an effort also!! Now, don’t get me wrong, I am a fan of this sign, I am indeed madly in love with a man of this sign…luckily for me I am one of the few people who can understand where they are coming from, sort of!
So, if you are the kind of person who loves nothing more than to be wooed in the appropriate manner of posh restaurants, flowers and chocolates, then you may be disappointed. However, if you are the kind of individual who likes something different, such as a picnic on Jupiter, then this could be the person for you. Although tradition maybe lost to them, everything else isn’t.
They will always surprise you with something no doubt zany and unique, but, you see, the meaning behind it will be enormous. You might be given for example, a twig with a red ribbon tied around it……..but there would be a reason for it, some kind of memory you had together or a private joke. It’s that sort of thing the Aquarius brings to your life and makes a smile appear on your face, not just any old smile, but one you have never had before!
The Aquarius is also very independent, and hates to feel confined or trapped by anyone. They may spend weeks by your side, cuddling you and kissing you and behaving like a lost puppy, then all of a sudden and always without warning, the Aquarius goes away…sometimes physically, sometimes mentally, occasionally both. And this is, for some, one of the frustrating way’s of the Aquarius. Just to reassure you, they haven’t stopped loving you, or caring, or even thinking about you, they simply need space. These people have a touch of the genius in them (they will freely tell you this themselves) and what almost always comes with genius is a little bit of madness. So, just smile to yourself when your Aquarius lover vanishes and just think ‘nutter’ and go about your day.
Aquarius In The Bedroom
These people are very open minded. And this is projected into every part of their life, including the bedroom. The Aquarius lover loves to have sex. They love having another body and soul to get entwined in. They are not one of the more promiscuous signs, however, the Aquarius does love to experiment new things and really does need a partner who will want to co-operate with any new ideas. It is common for this sign to be found at swinging parties!!!
They make stimulating lovers and will take the time to learn how to press all the right buttons, as their first priority isn’t to please themselves but to please their partner. The Aquarius loves to see you enjoy yourself in every way, both in and out of the bedroom.
So what we have here is a loving, unique, independent soul, who is up for any kind of adventure and extreme sports, both in and out of the sheets!!!!
These characteristics are based fully on a persons sun sign. Therefore may not be 100% accurate for everyone as there are lots of different aspects of one’s chart to take into consideration.
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February 19th, 2008 at 7:51 am
i think this is incredibly patronising towards both astrology and aquarius signs.
February 19th, 2008 at 9:53 am
Well I am sorry to hear that Grace. It wasn’t meant in anyway to be patronising. Perhaps with a little humour. My partner and I have both just re-read it and neither of us can find anything in it that we would call partronising. And he is an aquarius himself. But we are all entitled to our own opinions and your’s is just as appreciated as a positive reaction.
Love & Light
Becky
February 26th, 2008 at 11:44 pm
its amazing how analyzed my sign nicely, much is so true about my sign and some is eye opening
there is things you wrote that i do or i am but never occurred to me that it was an effect from my sign, but something i read about my sign being in love with Taurus made me feel worried and sad, plz email me crying.devil_@hotmail.com
March 23rd, 2008 at 7:16 am
I am an aquarius and from my experience love for me has been a tiresome road. I find myself becoming less interested in my taurus’ boring daily routines. Nothing he does surprises me and he constantly feels like I am asking for too much when in reality the reason why my needs are not being met is because my taurus is too tired from daily activities or simply too fed up with my wants and needs. I do all I can do to please him when he asks, but when I ask for something like more of a message or sex i’m always asking for too much. If you ask me I would say love between a Taurus and Aquarius can work only if the taurus learns to control their anger and give in not just once in while but more than usual without the request of the Genius Aquarian and stop judging your aquarian lover for he/she will surely leave you . For the aquarius learn to trust your taurus and listen when you feel like you don’t need to because you’ll end up wishing you did !!!
April 7th, 2008 at 4:24 pm
Boy, you hit THAT on the money,I have been reading alot about astrology and you are the only one has come close to it, really like your site,
April 7th, 2008 at 4:28 pm
P.S. Im an Aquarius too. I left that out :O)
April 9th, 2008 at 11:45 pm
aaah i love your readings, it makes me love being aquarian. gives me a nice warm fuzzy inside. i enjoy disecting people and i believe you did my job for me and layed it right out there on the table for me to gobble up with little effort. thank you
ciaociao
August 22nd, 2008 at 4:44 am
i totally agree, its hard when they leave u alone but reassure when he comes back u will forget n forgive right away. the aqua men are r perfect if u have a open mind, sexy scorpio.
August 22nd, 2008 at 7:17 am
To me, birthdays are really important so even if i give a twig with a red ribbon, I’ll definately have the real present backing it up..but yr right about the puppydog thing i suppose…
and i really hate being confined or trapped cause I’ll just run… :p
August 23rd, 2008 at 5:45 am
Thank you, thank you, thank you for this wonderful description of the Aquarius man. I’ve recently started dating one and turned to astrology to get a “sense” of the sign. Almost everything I read said that aqua’s were, well not romantic, not overly affectionate, etc. I’ve only been dating him for just over a month but my aqua guy definately seems affectionate, loving, a wonderful communicator etc. I haven’t really seen the disappearing part yet…maybe that will come with time, I’m not sure…all I know is that for now, he is everything I could hope for in a man. I’m 38 and this is the best relationship that I’ve ever been in in my life.
August 23rd, 2008 at 8:35 pm
I liked this very much!
It seemed VERY accurate!
That Grace person…I think overreacted WAY too much.
I think she woke up on the wrong side of the bed or something…
September 5th, 2008 at 5:21 pm
OMG… such an awesome description of the Aquarius male! Especially the “puppydog” theory…lol
While I’m sitting ’sulking’ or digging deep to see if there is something I did wrong - he then suddenly comes back to me like nothing ever happened! LOL … I just move on…
I dont get it, but there is something so intriguing about them, so beautiful but weird… (smiles)
♥ your site! Can’t wait til everything is up and running! Dont forget about us LIBRAS!! ☺
September 7th, 2008 at 4:57 am
For the previous comments regarding taurus and aqua relationships. Trust me, from experience, they do not work. There’s going to be lots of arguements and you’re going to get tired of it. I know, I am an aqua myself. I have been with a taurus for nearly 4 years. We thought we could work it out, but in the end, I left. We can only take so much before they get too overbearing. If you’re in a relationship right now, I am telling you. It’s going to end sooner or later.
September 15th, 2008 at 7:56 pm
Hello Becky!
Any thoughts on Venus in Aquarius People (men and women) Love to hear that???
Aly, The Water OX
September 16th, 2008 at 6:31 am
Hello Aly my friend,
Great Idea and yes I have lot’s of thoughts about this. I am just in the middle of writing Gemini/Horse for the combined astrology section and then I think I may write about that.
Thanks Aly
Love & Light
Becky
September 16th, 2008 at 9:38 pm
WOW, would wait to hear that. We are the Quirky Types.
Thanks
September 24th, 2008 at 2:10 pm
Yehh would luv 2hear about guys w/ Venus in Aquarius too!!x
October 4th, 2008 at 3:49 pm
How can I tell if the aqua man I am dating is in love with me? How do aqua man show they are in love?
October 4th, 2008 at 4:29 pm
I should probably tell you that I am a virgo. We have known each other for over 3 months and we have this amazing connection in all levels and the best time when we are together. Sex is awesome. He was the one to tell me first how amazing he thinks I am, and how he loves the way i am, and how cool it is to hang out, talk to me and do all the crazy things we do together. I feel exactly the same way about him and I told him that. I just don’t know if what he feels is friendship only, or if that is his way of saying that he loves me…. so my question is: how do aqua man show they are in love? Thank you!
October 4th, 2008 at 4:48 pm
Hi Jen,
Thanks for your comments. Well Aquairus men are not the gushing type, but he will do things for you, spending time with you alone means that you mean a lot to him. Remember this sign needs noone, they can function perfectly well alone, when they do spend time with someone it will only be because they want too therefore the more time he spends with you the more he feels for you. If he lets you into his world then he loves you. It is always wise to actually ask them out right too or you may never find out! They don’t function the same way the rest of us do. Sounds like it’s going well so far though
Love & Light
Becky
October 4th, 2008 at 5:02 pm
Becky,
Thank you! I was wondering if the fact that we both have scorpio ascendants connect us in a deeper level. It’s amazing how we know how each other is feeling without even speaking…. By the way, your website is AMAZING!
Jen
October 5th, 2008 at 7:47 am
I’ve been seeing my Aquarius guy for a few months.. we’ve been friends for a couple years. We spend all our time together and he gets really jealous when I hang out with my friends. I’m a gemini and I love astrology so I know about both signs.. I can’t understand his jealousy for one thing.. he was so shy at first now he’s completely different his moods are crazier than mine (that’s saying alot you know?) . He says he doesn’t want a relationship but we spend all our time together and he does things for me.. he acts just like my boyfriend… except when he gets caught up working on his truck for hours and wants to be alone and working. I guess the scorpio somewhere in his planets and his cheating ex girlfriends drove him to decide he wants to be alone.. which is the opposite of what he wants.. which way which way??? I thought I was the gemini hahahaha really though.. I’m tired of analyzing maybe you have a few thoughts
October 5th, 2008 at 8:41 am
Hi there Acasia,
Thank you for your comment. There a pain at the best of times these Aquarius men, to the rest of us anyway, to themselves their behaviour is perfectly normal! If he tells you he wants a relationship then that means he has given himself to someone, he has commited..and they don’t really like that, so by saying that he dosen’t want a relationship, in his mind, allows him to feel he is still free whilst having you in his life as well. My Aquarius is just the same, he works for long periods of time and it’s like he isn’t even here. It’s just the way they are, and that is there one falling point, people can love them but they find it hard to accept them. And that is becuase it’s nearly impossible at times!! It’s just a case of accept or walk away i’m afraid.
Good Luck
Love & Light
Becky
October 28th, 2008 at 4:20 am
I believe this to be very accurate, I am an Aquarius male myself. I just love that lost puppy dog part…
But what seems to be the problem for me is that girls don’t take the time to get to know me. They just view me as “that weird guy” and think no more of me.
But I just wish they’d see that I’d do anything to be their dream, I really would.
Oh well, guess that’s life?
November 2nd, 2008 at 8:16 am
Once again Becky nailed it. This is sooooooooo true. Expect I wouldn’t go to swinger parties. I am one man kind of girl. I will be honest I haven’t had sex yet, but I had foreplay with some flings. To me, sex doesn’t interest me, I am more interested in love. And I am one that doesn’t need someone RIGHT NOW. I can live my WHOLE life being alone. It just I am not in a hurry. I know somewhere out there is someone just for me. Even if I was in relationship with guy and he never wanted to get married, that wouldn’t bother me. Because I am not in the rush to get married.
Oh yeah, that is so true, we are really expermenial when it comes to the bedroom. For me it gets on my nerves when someone doesn’t let me play and just expect me to just lay there and do absoulutely NOTHING sadden me. I think love should be fun, have no boundaries, free and ect. The moment someone wants to do it sooo TRADTIONAL is where I lose my interest and say “BORRRRRING!!!” And yeah, we aim to please. One needs to clairfiy how they want to be please, because if you told me “just touch me.” I am just so lost. I also found myself that I am so curiosites behind close doors. I want to fullfill my fantasties, but then I become shy. So yeah, I think we need a partner that is calm and doesn’t rush us, but yet is up for anything I come up with.
I don’t know about the rest of you Aquarians, but for me it very hard to just have sex with someone. There has to be the emotional conntection of love.
Being detact is one of our traits. And people should not interuppted as we don’t care, or we hate you. Because we’ll let you know when we don’t care or we hate you, we are not afarid to be in your face direct. I know I am not.
November 3rd, 2008 at 5:14 pm
Wow i’m a aquarius myself…. and I dont really kno myself. Well my sgin that well… as well as you do. I like the sounds of being a aquarius alot. It seems that we are good people and excellent lovers. But, I do have a question! Are aquarius good in relationships?
November 4th, 2008 at 9:09 am
To Anna. Hallo!!!!
Well, it really depends on the person’s makeup. Yes, we are all Aquarius, but we are different people. I can’t really say that Aquarius are good in a relationship, nor are they bad in one, because it really depends on the person.
For me, I haven’t found the right person yet, that likes my strong sense of self, indepence, will. And let me be me in a relationship. I seem to find that when I get in relationship with a man, he wants to change me into his version of what I should be. Or has a problem about me, that shouldn’t be a problem. I had this one guy that said he loved me, but had problem with me being a virgin. To me that isn’t love. A real man wouldn’t have problem with a woman who was a virgin.
I have not had any good luck in a relationship. Because, I haven’t found a guy that is secure enough in himself to handel my intense, firecryness. Immature men cannot handel me, but man who is forces, has strong will of self, is level-headed, has thrill for life, and lets me be me could handel me. I find myself attracted to older men.
But it really is up to the person’s makeup and how they were rised.
This is the thing, you can’t really basic how things are going to work in a relationship by star signs. It really comes to how the person was raise, can you two commuicate well, can you two handel each other annoying traits and still get along.
November 4th, 2008 at 9:15 am
To Acasia Sounds like your boyfriend has some insuries. My suggesting is. Is to re-sure him that when other men talk to you or whatever that you are not going to cheat on him and that everything will be fine.
Jealous in men turn me off, because that jealous can lead to controaling. So just be careful. And just re-sure him that everything is fine.
November 6th, 2008 at 12:10 pm
My partner is an aries and she used to allow me as much space as i wanted, i was free to do whatever i pleased… this upset me! there would be no txt messages asking how i’m doing, no i love u calls in fact we were like mates who would chill untill it was sex time, in fact I started feeling she wanted me out the way to do what she wanted with whom she wanted, i spied on her phonecalls knocked her house randomly and caught her out on several lies but nothing that proved her cheating. I decided to let go emotionally and have a not care attitude and now shes started txting askin me who i’m with what i’m doing on facebook and generally making an effort to show she doesn’t want to lose me, good thing really as shes giving birth to my first born next month and I’m shitting myself to the point I’m online trying to get opinons of strangers… look what you’ve done ta me K****y, lol
November 7th, 2008 at 1:10 am
To LittleImpaler
Sounds just like me, except I’m a guy so things are reversed of course.
At this point in my life I haven’t found anyone who is mature enough mentally to deal with my quirks and odds and ends. Most instantly assume I’m either a perv or I’m just too “weird” for them.
They just don’t take time to get to know me and how much I could make them happy and it’s very, very, frustrating.
November 12th, 2008 at 5:45 am
I have had an on and off relationship with an aquarius, I’m a leo. I never appreciated him. We broke up a year ago for good. He turned his love into hate for me reecently we’ve started to talk again and I want him back
November 16th, 2008 at 11:12 pm
Hello there,
I am a fourteen-year-old girl, and I would just like to
say that I really enjoy reading horoscopes, but I often find that they are not always totally accurate. I think they are a fine portrayal of how many people are, but that even astrology cannot predict who you are as a person, when nobody is exactly alike. I know there are many variables to astrology, but there aren’t as many variables as there are individuals, so the logic in astrology is not so well thought out, or easily proved.
I am not insulting astrology in any way, I think it is very interesting and fun to read, but do not make the mistake of basing your life and love on something that attempts to describe en-masse who people are. If someone is exceedingly rude or stubborn and intolerable, it is not because they are a Taurus or Capricorn, and are heavily influenced by one of the fifty-five orbitals of Hipparchus in the geo-centric age. A relationship is never going to work if you constantly fret over your compatibility with an individual, when they are simply unpleasant, and exceedingly normal in the fact that they have normal emotions and are just regular people.
I am an Aquarius, and I am sure that is of no great interest to many, but my personality is that and more of a typical Aquarian description, as everyone’s should be. Astrology is not Astronomy, and is no science, not even a hypothesis or mild theory. Please do not base a life decision on a typical desciption that every astrology site has the basis of. Do not disprove this pretty belief system, but take it as a pastime, and less as a strict guideline.
Sincerely,
FlutistChild
December 1st, 2008 at 10:37 am
Dear Becky,
I am talking to an Aquarius male.We have been talking and seeing each other for the past few months.Well I didn’t really understand why sometimes he wouldn’t want me over or he would vanish.He’d always say he is busy.Well I believe him and all.But me being shy I wrote him a short and sweet email to let him know how amazing I think he is and how I wish that I knew how he really feels about me..Well he never wrote me back but he did call and he invited me over.He showed me a really nice time.He was acting like the little lost puppy dog.I LOVE IT!!SO,was he “showing” me how he really feels about me instead of “telling” me?
December 1st, 2008 at 11:33 am
Hi Allison,
Thank you for your comment. You have hit the nail on the head! Yes, Aquarius men nearly always prefer to ’show’ you how they feel as opposed to telling you. It is just the way they are. You have experienced just how wonderful Aquarius men can be, so enjoy it and when he has his cold moments try not to get down, because he will but it is nothing against you they just need a lot of space to themselves. Good Luck!
Love & Light
Becky
December 1st, 2008 at 11:44 am
Dear Becky,
Thank you so much!That really makes me feel so much better about things.I am trying so hard to understand his ways.I feel so much love for him.:)
I love how he is.Its just kind of confused me when he would vanish..But I now know that it wasn’t because I did something wrong,it was only because he needed his time.You have really helped me.I thank you again.
P.S.Am I going to have to be the one to ask the Aquarius if he wants to be in a relationship with me,or will he ask me when he is ready?lol
December 1st, 2008 at 11:47 am
Hi again,
So glad you feel better. Aquarius guys can be hard work! I think you will just find yourself in a relationship with him without anyone having to ask anyone. May I ask which sign you are, I don’t think you mentioned it before??
Becky
December 1st, 2008 at 12:00 pm
Hi Becky,
Sorry about that.I am a Libra.
December 1st, 2008 at 12:06 pm
Well there you go then! It’s a very good match but just remember not to get too upset when he’s not with you!! Love & Light Becky
xx
December 1st, 2008 at 12:10 pm
I’m guessing that is a good combination?Aquarius and Libra.
December 1st, 2008 at 12:10 pm
OK!!Thank you!I feel so much more confident about it all.
December 3rd, 2008 at 11:36 pm
I am a Virgo and have been on and off again with an Aquarian. We have a very strong physical attraction but we dont seem to be going anywhere. He tells me he’s not good at relationships but i find im to scared to open up to him because I dont want to push him away. I want to know where we stand and if he actually wants to be with me. He sure acts like it. He’s very affectionate and cuddly but for 4 months we havnt established what we are. I need advice on whether I should talk to him about it?
Thanks!
December 4th, 2008 at 7:29 am
Hi there Virgo girl,
Thank you for your comment. The thing with Aquarius guys is that they don’t really like to put a ‘title’ on anything. They don’t want to say that you are boyfriend and girlfriend, madly in love or anything like that. If it is working then as far as they are concerned that is good!! Yes of course talk to him, you must always express how you feel, perhaps write it to him rather than face to face, but it is always best to get these things off your chest. Aquarius guys can be confusing to be with. Good Luck.
Love & Light
Becky
December 4th, 2008 at 11:01 am
mmm! i reckon he’s tryna figure u out and the moment he does the relationship will be based on how well u fit into his perfect scenario at the time or how u can improve his life.Till he’s pieced together the puzzle you are just another facsinating experience… real talk
King Aqua
December 4th, 2008 at 11:03 am
oh if u wanna know where u stand try and find out what he naturally refers to u as to his friends without fore-thought!
good luck virgo girl.
December 4th, 2008 at 11:07 am
dats deep flutischild! glad u wrote it
December 12th, 2008 at 2:15 am
thanks Calvin
I felt really good about writing it,
and it’s nice having someone actually
appreciate it, because lots of people
on this site don’t want to hear what I had to say
about astrology. but in this case,
thanks
December 15th, 2008 at 8:09 am
Hi Becky I am a Libra girl that has fallen for an aqua guy. We have been friends for many many years and share many of the same interest and my feelings are becoming much deeper for him. I noticed that he has taken interest in me bc he always compliments me now, we talk all of the time(everyday,all day),and I find him staring at me alot and everytime I see him he doesnt stop smiling…and just recently out of the blue he called me and told me that he really cares about me and would give me his last bc he knows that I would do the same for him and constantly stressed that he cares about me and he jokingly says that he loves me, but we have never had sex and he told me that he wants to wait bc he doesnt want to mess things up for us. Is that normal for an aqua guy to want to wait? I just constantly wonder if he is falling the same way Ive fallen and if the answer is in my face or what? Please, Please, Please help me bc you know us libras constantly thinking trying to look for answers!
December 15th, 2008 at 5:02 pm
To lady~libra:
Hiya there!
Being an Aquarius gal. I can understand why he does this. Because I do it too, when I really love someone. And the way he is acting is normal. This man “REALLY” loves you. He wants to take it slow with you, and do not take this as a bad thing, because he vaule your friendship so much. Do you understand when a Aquarius weither that is a woman or man, when they fall in love someone, they fall in love competely, they will give you their all. They would die for you, jump through fire for you.
This man doesn’t mean to confuese you in no way, he wants to just take it slow with you, because in a way he is still testing the waters to see if you want the same things as well.
For me, I been hurt a lot, and when I am in relationship I like to take things slow, because I do not want to get hurt again. I watch the person I love. Not as watching as in stalking, but watching to see if you are trust worthy, that you are not type to turn around back stabe me in back.
You have a great man here, and just please be patient with him, do not rush him, we Aqaraius do not like to feel rush, or pushed into anything we are not fully ready to jump into.
If you let him be who he is, you’ll find it was worth the wait.
December 16th, 2008 at 3:09 am
wow!! that sounds exactly like the aqua im seeing now. im a sagittarius.
weve been seeing each other for about a month (although he says barely 2 weeks…) haha
hes such a goof! i love it!!
i give him all the space he needs, basically i never call him first. especially after we hang out the day before, i always wait for him. then of course when he does, he always wants to see me again. lol
and he is such a cuddler! i call him my koala. lol
to him its almost as if we cant seem to be close enough. lol and weve spent the night together a few times, but never slept with each other…
but he can act extremely cold.
he finally told me about 2 days ago that he just wants to be friends (this is also after we spent thankgiving with my family and he took me to a christmas party for his work(hes in the navy, and his buddies consistently kept telling me that he must really care about me if he brought me to the party..)
so basically 2 days after the party he tells me this, and is a complete jerk to me when im surprised.
says that he doesnt want to talk about this if im ganna keep bringing this up all morning.
totally not him to say that.
and everything was going completely perfect. we have the same mental connection, movie collection hahaha, and just really appreciate one another.
i was really hurt when he asked to be friends(because he has talked about taking me to all these places and christmas plans ect. when he gets back from visting his family for 2 weeks;he left yesturday) but he wants to be friends he says because he doesnt want the navy(him leaving for 7 1/2 months) and moving back to the east coast when he gets out..(which i mind you is in 2 years!!!!…)
i can understand that, but im a navy brat(both my parents and my brother are in the military and my older brother) so im used to people leaving. not to mention ill be done with school in 2 years and ive already said from the beginning that when im done i plan on moving to the east coast. it wasnt where hes from but ive told him that i wouldnt mind it being there.
i dunno… i called him adn told him that im happy to just be friends. he texted me and said hed call me when he gets back and to wish me a merry christmas.
now im curious since i fell for this kid, if we just act the same way we did before, or is this more platonic…
and my personal belief as to why he completely changed is because since everything was so perfect, hes afraid to really fall for me, or that he noticed that he was starting to and decided to call it off. he told me he was looking for a gf in the beginning and its funny that now all of a sudden when things are perfect he says he doesnt because of the navy…
and with his buddies comments.. its weird. i really think its because he really started to feel something between us and wants to slow things down.. waaayyyy down compared to before. maybe this is his way to control our relationship and see what happends…
either way hes amazing and i heart him.
thanks.
December 16th, 2008 at 4:15 am
Thank you Little Impaler!
I think your right I always try my best to not pressure him and give him his freedom because I like to have mines as well and Im going to take what you said into consideration and just remain patient because I really care about him and I really believe we have a bright future ahead together.I have one more question and that is should I express how much I care about him or just keep it to myself because alot of times we will have a heart to heart and then I wont hear from him for like a day or so and I know Im a really deep person so if you could help me with this I would really appreciate it. Thanks
December 16th, 2008 at 6:44 pm
To lady~libra:
Good moringing, I hope you are doing well. And you are very welcome.
Let me see, if I got this straight, he doesn’t know how you truly feel?
In this situation, I would not tell him, because you are not excately sure if he wants to take it to the next step, because you already know he wants to take it slow. Keep it inside, if you told him how you felt, he might get scared and shut down.
Let him come to you, when he is ready. When he tells you how he truly feels, then when you should tell him.
I had guy like this once (Wow, was he HOT!!!!
) He was very tall Russian man (6′8) with brown messy Harry Potter hair, with nice light pale heathy skin, with very bright blue eyes. And that Russian accent, (had me all the time.) It was SEXY! We had strong sexual attraction to each other and we liked each other a lot. We exchange telephone numbers, he called me, more than once. Never wanted to hung up. I didn’t want too, even when I had to go.
Well, one day he told me, “Why didn’t you hug me when I came in.”
I said, “Didn’t know, you wanted a hug. Well, the next time I see you, I will hug you.”
He comes to the gym with his friends (which I also know.) And I go up to him to give him a hug and suddenly he says, “No, no, don’t hug me.” His friends were laughing and I stood there all baffled. He was being all cold on me and it was just awkward. And I felt like I screwed EVERYTHING up. (The thing is everyone knew he liked me A LOT and I did too.) I told one my guy friends what happen.
He tells me, “Ohhh, I see. You’d embrasse him, he’s young (he was only 21, and I was 23 at the time, but looked like I was 18. I usually go for older men not younger ones) Any ways, He says to me, “You need to not talk to him for few days. If he really likes you, he’ll get mad and will come chasing you.”
And I told my father what happen. My father starts laughing and understood why I was so confuese. “He goes his young. How about you not express how you feel to him and let him come to you. When he is ready, tell him how you feel. You, can’t just go to a guy and bam tell him how you feel, you scared them off. You need to be in the background, be patient and just watch and enjoy the ride.”
I am very direct woman, if I like a man, he will know! LOL
So I did what my friend and father said. One day out of the blue he calls me. And says, “Where have you been? Why are you not at the gym?” I made up a little story, sorta of white lie. So every thing was cool again.
The thing is, he would get jealous if other men talked to me, because there were a lot more men that would love to go out with me. And I told Valdimir (the russian guy) He had nothing to worry about, because I am attracted to only European men. But you know, boys will be boys. A man was ordering something and trying to chat me up, well Vlad walks over to the counter, and talks to me. Boy, this men wanting to fight each other, they didn’t like each other. The man leaves, then Vlad says, “I don’t like that man. I don’t like how he looks at you or talks to you.”
That had me smiling inside. I got to learn more how he felt for me, if I didn’t express my feelings to him, and just watch him. And I also learn he would open up to me more little every time, if I let him be him and let him just come to me.
Since he was so young he would change his mind a lot. Yes, I want to date you, from no again.
But yeah, just let him come to you, when he is ready, let him lead this relationship. Things will work out. Trust me. If I hadn’t gone to Germany, when he didn’t want me too, the relationship would have work out.
But since you’re guy doesn’t sound like a really young guy, and more of a man, he will be truthful with you and not change his mind. But if he does it too much, and it driving you crazy then I would tell him how you felt. But I don’t sense that.
I hope everything goes the way you hope, and it sounds like it will with this man. So I wish you the best of luck
PS.
I think it’s really great he doesn’t just want to have sex with you, that tells me he REALLY respects you as a person, and doesn’t see you as a piece of meat. More men need to be like that, and more women should not always be in hurry to give it to him. But make him prove his worth.
Lady-Libra, you truly have a great man. And you might find yourself having a love like John and Yoko did. Which is really rare.
December 16th, 2008 at 10:27 pm
Thanks again Little Impaler…
He knows some things but not everything I pretty much wait for him to say how he feels and then I respond because I dont want to go too deep into detail because I dont want him to run off. His actions definitely show that he has feelings for me so I just go off of his actions and take it a day at a time I mean Im happy with the way things are going between us because we are closer than ever and he excepts my daughter and he just seems so perfect for me and I dont want to mess that up with us and deep down inside I really truly love him but I can wait til he is ready to say something until Ill just enjoy the ride! We have been friends for over 7years and we have always had a strong mental and physical attraction for one another even when we were seeing other people and now I just think that its our time and your right about the sex thing I am glad that he wants to wait I just needed a little reassurance thats all I guess because it isnt as common for a man to wanna wait nowadays! He is a great catch and Im willing to let him take the lead!
P.S. That was a great story alot of the situations you talked about, I have been in situations similar to those with him and I have always been a very direct woman myself and he knows that I want him but alot of times I make myself unavailable to him so he can do alittle chasing and he we are both the same age(21) but I believe that he is very mature for his age! But thanks so much for taking out the time to talk to me you are greatly appreciated!
December 17th, 2008 at 7:22 pm
To lady~libra:
You’re so very welcome. I can’t believe the more I hear your story, the more it was like the thing that Vlad and I had. I bet he makes you mad, just to make you mad.
Vald always made me mad, just because he could get a reaction out of me. LOL
One time, he came to the gym and he asked me, “If I had any band aids, because he somehow burnt himself on his shoulder. (I still to this day don’t know how a guy who is 6′8 burned himself on the top of his shoulder, I think he did it on purpose.)
I went to the back and to look, and they only had those baby ones. So I walk all the WAY to him. I go. “They only have small ones. Here you go.”
He goes, “I need big ones, these are too small.” I was pissed, because I took the time to search and walk all way to his fine Russian ass to give him these stupid band-aids and he dares to tell me. “These are too small!” Like Hell!
So I said to him, “Fine, then you can bleed all over the gym floor for all I care. I won’t come and clean it up. I’ll let you die a slow painful death.”
All sudden he grins, there’s a sparkle of wickedness in his eyes and he rasies his brow and says. “Really?????” I wanted to hit the man, but I couldn’t because that look, had me wondering. “Damn, his a wicked one. I wonder if he is like that in bed????” LOL
So I turn to leave and he grabs my hand and says, “Don’t go. Can you put the the band-aid on?”
I said, yeah sure. I put the band-aid on. I was happy he wanted me to put them on. I wish they were Hello-Kitty ones. That would have been a bigger laugh LOL He probably complain they were pink, guys like him to wear those kind. LOL
I am so like you, I love the chase and the hunt.
I am 25 now, and I am still a virgin and proud of it, and I had some men tell me. A man wouldn’t date me,because I was virgin. And I tell you, that is not true. Men respect you more when you show them you don’t sleep around. Plus a real man who loves you wouldn’t care that a woman was still a virgin or not. Real men get to know you, and like you for who you are and not just for your looks.
Wishing you the best of luck
December 22nd, 2008 at 5:30 am
Calvin as an aries girl in love with an aquarius man I hate to confess I do the same things as your girl does to you. I thought our relationship was perfect until my aquarius male started to ignore me. It caused me to go through so many self doubts about myself, as to why I was not good enough.
Aries women get a bad rap, as we get really quiet when hurt(real or imagined). Most people think we are quiet because we are snobs and I am here to say that is far from the truth. Unfortunately, that little girl in us is still there and we have to learn to handle grown up life better.
When hurt (again real or imagined) Aries women will plug along as if nothing ever happened. We try to put it out of our minds as if it never happened. We are also big dreamers and dream all these wonderful fairy tales and when they never happen we are crushed. Hence again pulling away to protect our feelings of hurt (real or imagined). Growing up birthdays were hard for me, I would dream and dream my parents would get me a certain item I wanted. Only to be crushed when I never got it. I know that sounds juvenile but it was not until I hit my 20s that I got over being disappointed every birthday or Christmas. I never asked for anything big but my mom felt I did not need those little trinkets. Now, the brothers always got everything they wanted. It used to hurt seeing them get everything they asked for and me, well nothing.
Aries women are flirts but harmless flirts. We flirt with both sexes and it is not sexual as most aries would never cheat. Flirt yes, cheat never. Honestly, I feel I am just being friendly but ex boyfriends have told me off for flirting. I realized I was wrong, but had to be told off first as I was hurting the guys I dated at different times.
Was she always like this to you? If not it could be the pregnancy hormones. Talk her she is hurting you by her actions and see what she has to say. Great site, wish I found it earlier so that I could have saved myself some self doubts.
Good luck with the baby and do not give up on your Aries girl, I bet she really does love you but a little scared of getting hurt.
December 28th, 2008 at 5:15 pm
I am an Aquarius and for the first time I met an Aquarius guy. Everything you say is so true and so me. I have to admit I was first confused when I was out with the guy, we say same things at the same time. Also, he would not call me for a week or two and that made me think “what, does he not like me”… but then that is how I get, I don’t call him but doesn’t mean I don’t think about him. And yes, not that many people understand who we are, it takes a guy who can deal with it.
December 29th, 2008 at 1:09 pm
I am an aries and have just met an Aquarian. He is amazing. He is currently in a difficult relationship and is very unhappy and is trying to end the unhappiness in the relationship by ending the relationship. there are many factors in this relationship that will leave him with great pain and guilt etc. He will need to heal and grieve. We met and have an amazing connection. I appreciate him and his personality and his traits. we have the same vision for the future and like to enjoy life. I know when he has freed himself from his current girlfriend he will return but he has told me that he cannot jump into a new relationship until he has sorted out his stuff and does not want to create the same pain in another relationship again. He said he needs to be alone (once he has ended the relationship) to give himself time to find himself again.
Do you think he will return to me if he feels we have this special connection? I have been nothing but understanding and given no pressure at all…………….??
December 30th, 2008 at 12:13 am
To Wellies:
If he is a man of word and honor he will, so just let him do what he needs to do. And just wait patiently. I think it is so awesome, that he doesn’t want to start new relationship, until the old one is finished over. That tells me, he does care for you.
January 2nd, 2009 at 1:59 am
Hello Everyone !
Geez… all these stories sound very familiar to my story. I started dating an Aqua male about a month ago… we went out 5x in 3 1/2 weeks, which is kind of alot.. now the thing is I am fairly intuitive and I really thought he liked me.. he was very thoughtful, brought me an Xmas present ( a mixed cd of his fave songs and some cake) sounds very high school but Im 37 and he is 44.. how cute ! he even talked about relationships and how he wants to get married, etc.. but ever since this last meeting, which was last sunday the 21st, I have not heard nothing from him ! He did mention that he has a huge family and he helps out his 79 yr old mother and he did go away to Cali for New Years but I did not even get a text merry christmas, nothing.. now I am an old fashioned gal, and I have not called him.. the only thing I did was text him happy new year, miss you and thats it.. and that is all Im going to do..but he never texted me back ! WTF ! What the heck happened… I know he liked me.. but this is insane… is this normal for this type of guy ?? Hey, Im all about space and independence.. but its odd that he didn’t text back and have not heard from him… Im guessing when this whole holiday season thing will be over, when he gets back from Cali he’ll call ?? am I right ?? Helppppp !!
January 2nd, 2009 at 4:40 pm
To Libra Gal:
He might and he might not. When men really loved a woman, Becky has said this and so has my dad, they come chasing after you. If you never hear from him, that tells me he isn’t interested in that way with you. Or he just might be really busy. But I will be honest with you, I had guy friends that even though they were busy, always took the time to talk to me.
Wait and see what happens, but also keep in mind this could be a sign that telling you something.
January 2nd, 2009 at 7:09 pm
I hear you Libra Girl.
The Aquarius man I love does the same thing to me. I started to think there was something wrong with me and then I started to imagine he was seeing other women. I mean, if a guy you are seeing does not contact for long periods of time then he must be seeing others. I have know some aquarius men who cheated and were players so when mine ignores me I used to feel he is with some other woman.
If you want tons of attention, this is not the best sign for it.
January 3rd, 2009 at 12:49 am
Thanks for the comments… so “dear libra girl” how is going for you now ?? Are you still together ?? I mean I am all for independence and freedom especially since we kind of just started dating but the ignoring part really gets me.. since he didnt text me back on new years… I am just wondering if he will get back in touch when he gets back from his trip and act like nothing is wrong…
January 7th, 2009 at 12:58 am
I am a Gemini/Taurus cusp/Horse, falling in love with an aquarius. I’m pleased to say i’ve enjoyed this interpretation of the aquarian love tactics, lol. To this day we can’t quite figure out how we got together, but he says (I’ve become a very important part of his life) whew…leaves me breathless, but needless to say, He’s wonderful, and this is a delightful website
January 12th, 2009 at 6:32 am
how about aquarius and virgo compatibility?
January 12th, 2009 at 7:19 am
Hi there Bhadz,
Here is the link to the compatibility you requested. http://www.love-astrology.com/astrology/love/aquarius-compatibility-with-virgo/
Love & Light everyone!
Becky
January 12th, 2009 at 2:55 pm
20 sagi male here. Met this aqua girl 4 months ago on a social networking site. And after a few days I asked her out! Lol! It was so awkward. She’s already been thru three relationships. I didnt know this. (Sagis, we rush into things). She said she needed some time, to get to know and all, be friends first, I was like “You have all the time in the world”. Its been 4 months, Im still waiting for an answer, but thats not what matters now. In these 4 months, we got so so so close, like freakishly close! The cold and distant behavior, yeah, I experienced that, but this one time, when she didnt come online for two days, I was sort of worried, but didnt call. Third day, she calls, like a bazoillion times! My cell was on silent, and I was asleep. And when I talked to her, she just yelled and yelled and yelled! Omg it was soo cute! She literally cried because I wasn’t picking up the phone! I was soooooo moved! And recently, she came down, to where I live, to meet me
And got me sooooo many gifts!! 
Im soo in love with her
January 28th, 2009 at 7:16 pm
Well im a young 17yr old Leo and have been with my 17yr old aquarious a little more then a year and we both realize we are in love with each other, but our relationship has been rocky since the first month. As you know aquarious’s pretty much say it how it is and this tends to hurt my feelings atleast once a day because he always says what im doing wrong and never praises me for the things i do right, he hates how smiley and happy i am and thinks its anoying, everytime something goes wrong even if he clearly did it he blames it on me and has never admitted when he was wrong, and as a leo sex is a big part of my life but means nothing to his, itll happen twice a week if im lucky. well last week he broke up with me and said he needs a break and we’ll get back together soon. i started to think i dont want to be in a relationship with him anymore so i tried to end it yesterday and he freaked out and wouldnt let it happen so i gave in because he finally told me how he really felt about me, but i still want it to end what do i do? i just want to be friends with him.
January 29th, 2009 at 8:55 pm
To Steva:
I hate seeing good people treated badly. You shouldn’t take that crap from him, how can he says he loves you, when he doesn’t praise you for the good you do for him, but instead puts you down. Forget this loser, you need find a man, that appreicates you more. I think it best you stand your ground, If you are going to break up with him, then break up, don’t break up, if you are going to send him a message, that says, “I want to be with you.”
I really mean it, you have to stand your ground, don’t let him control you, because, he already is, if he has gotten you to give in. You don’t need a controling man in your life, because they will control everything, and it could lead to a very abusive relationship, if not phyiscal, mentality. And that could really mess you up later in life. I know, I don’t know him, but what you have told me about him, he isn’t the kind man you would want in your life. He gives me the not good feelings.
I been there, I had a man, I could never make happy, and I will tell you in the long run it’s not worth it.
My suggesting is, don’t keep him as a friend, if you are going to end it, end it with no strings left behind.
January 29th, 2009 at 9:00 pm
To Steva:
This man clearly as issues. If a man gets mad because you are happy and smiley, there is something wrong with him. Being a happy and smiely person is nothing to get mad about!
Oh my god, this man sounds like my ex Edward.
Forget him.
January 30th, 2009 at 8:37 am
I’m very much in love with a Aqua, I’m an Aries… My first love was a Aqua, our connection was amazing but I was young and dominating and insecure.. and he was not having that… like you said they need space.. and I wasn’t giving it…
This new Aqua I’m with reminds me of that same strong connection.. when he pulls away to get some space.. it scares me … but he tells me not to ignore him when he does this… My question is about the sexual part… We waited before anything happened… and then when it did we went at it… at least a couple of times a week for a couple months .. and then it stopped… now we’ve never been official.. but i’m confused about this.. we are now back to everything .. but the sexual part of our relationship.. and i’m Hurt…
???
Whats going on ?
January 30th, 2009 at 2:09 pm
To Bdonna:
It could be so many things. Maybe he just not in the mood, maybe you should try to get him in the mood. Not to sound mean, or anything. Guys are never turn on, when you want them too. Unfornately their not light switches that you can turn off and on again. Sometimes, you got to flirt, put something sexy on, be playful, get his interest. Wear sexy clothes in his prences, get dolled up. Be a woman and not be afarid to be one around him.
If that doesn’t work, you could be very straight forward with him and tell him how you really feel, that the sex seem to have gone.
You might be surpise, he might be really busy with other things. Aquarius, get side-tracked a lot, and get stuck in their own world, that they some times do not know what is going on around them.
I know this, because I am the same sign as your boyfriend. I get stuck in my own little world, and some times you got to bring me back to the real world.
January 30th, 2009 at 9:41 pm
Oh I’m an Aries, so I was vebal about if we’re still going to ‘get it on’…lol.. and He said yes.. and I’ve left the hints and this and that and nothing… I know the sexual chemistry we had when we we’re doing it on the regular was amazing… we had so much fun.. maybe he’s scared because we still aren’t ‘a couple’ .. it’s crazy to read all these messages about Aquarius men and how they act as far as dissapearing and reappearing .. and straying away from commitment… maybe it’s just another Aquarius thing… I don’t know.. But as an ARIES .. I need physical.!! =)
February 4th, 2009 at 8:31 am
Hi everyone!
I’m wondering if anyone can interpret these behaviours from my Aquarius guy. We’ve been together just under three years, first two years rocky, last 6 months smooth sailing. Breaks up with me everytime a) we fought in the past, or b) he becomes very close to me. Now that we’re happy, he:
-agrees and writes down when we’re to hang out together, carefully makes a note of it, promptly forgets
-spoils me with affection, kisses, hugs, the “puppy dog” thing, but when I ask him, he says he is unaware he is being affectionate and thought he was being aloof keeping me at arm’s length
-asked me to meet his parents visiting from overseas and to book off time to take a trip with all of them, but says he doesn’t see us being together in the long haul. Also wants to introduce me to the woman he had a kid with so she can get used to me, but doesn’t see us staying together.
-does things exactly the way I ask, makes me food at 12 am, wakes me up with gentle singing, but says he thinks makes it clear that he’s not that into me
-tries to correct his mistakes when he hurts me and hears me out, but will ditch me or change plans without consulting me
I thought he was just being an Aquarius, but his recent claim that we “were just friends that have sex” threw me for a loop. Is he just a jackass? Because that’s what I’m thinking now.
February 4th, 2009 at 12:23 pm
To toocutequinn:
I am aquarius woman and all I got to say is . . . .
“HUH?????????????” What he is doing doesn’t make any sense. Why be with someone, if you are going to tell them “I don’t this relationship isn’t for long haul?????????????????????? And then on top of that, you stay with them??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
Sorry, what is he trying to tell you with all this bull???? I really hate indesives in people. I hate it when someone doesn’t know what they want. Esppeically in a relationship. Me, I wouldn’t have the time or the patient to put up with his indesiveness.
Toocutequinn, he sounds like an immature boy who doesn’t know what he wants in life, and he also sounds like an Asshole.
His actions do not match his words.
I wouldn’t stay with him, but here’s my suggesting, if you really love him and what to stay with him. I think you need to sit his ass down in a chair, and ask him if he is serious about this relationship. Because I will tell you truthful, you will get tired of his yes, and nos.
I say if he keeps doing what he is doing, forget the punk and move on. And if he ask you why are you leaving him, tell him. “Because you can’t grow up and be a man!”, but that is just me.
February 4th, 2009 at 12:30 pm
To toocutequinn:
PS. I just got that you’ll make plans with him and he’ll leave you hanging. WHAT A AN ASS. If I were in your shoes, when he told you “you’re just friends who have sex.” I would have found the sharpest thing I could find and ram it up his ass! And when he looked at me with that shock express that says, “I can’t believe you did that!?” I would have said with no ounce of expression in my voice. “Loves a bitch, and then you die!”
What an ASSHOLE!
Leave him.
February 4th, 2009 at 1:26 pm
OMG.
I am a LIBRA girl and I absolutely need help with this AQUARIUS guy whom I am seeing right now.
And here’s my story:
He is someone whom I have always chatted on and off since last year. Recently, we went out for dates and started hanging out and talking over the phone and blah.
Initially I treated him as a normal kinda friend; you know just someone to chat and stuff.
UNTIL one day, out of the blue, he texted me, we started chatting and then he confessed his love to me! (LOL?)
He mentioned stuff like, are u ready to make some changes to our lives? Do u want me to have your hands so that we can enjoy together? (WTH?)
And I was like ‘What? Haha.’ And the next day we met up and he brought me to dinner, asked me if I wanna watched movie, found a place with nice scenery to sit down and chat. He even sent me home personally, even though he lives like totally opposite of the country. (!!!)
I admit I am really aroused by this guy. Because u see, initially I have no intention of making him as my mate or what. BUT NOW things are certainly different; I am indeed attracted to him!
Ok what happened next was that we stayed in contact; I even gave him a birthday surprise and yeah he rewarded me with a kiss and a pat on my forehead (Aww.); said that I am silly AND shouldn’t have gone the trouble because I went all the way to his workplace and gave him his birthday present personally.
The now, POOF! He’s like disappeared! No more lovey dovey stuff from him; and he didn’t even texted me! =( that really made me SUPERRRR SAD! Like I wondered if it’s my fault or not!
Tell me tell me, what’s up with this AQUARIUS GUY?
Oh he did tell me the other day, on our first date: “Tell me when you think your heart is ready for us to start.”
And now look at what’s happening? How do you expect me to say it out when he suddenly turned all aloof?
=( HELP!!!
And oh yes, I AM A LIBRA and people keep telling me that Aqua and Libra is a good match? REALLY?!?!
February 5th, 2009 at 2:28 am
Thanks for your input, LittleImpaler! Yeah, his behaviour is classic asshole kind of stuff. On top of that, it’s so all over the place and seems like what everyone is describing about Aquarius guys, so I wanted to find out if Aquarius experts could explain these bizarre fluctuations in his behaviour. He seems genuinely perplexed that I hadn;t realized that he doesn’t have loving feelings toward me, despite telling me he is “smitten” and doing all of the thoughtful things for me. He doesn’t seem to remember doing them, though he’s consistent about with these gestures. I just don’t understand this sort of cluelessness!
February 5th, 2009 at 8:54 am
To miss-lobster:
He has already gave you his answer, he is waiting for to make the move.
“Tell me when you think your heart is ready for us to start.”
February 5th, 2009 at 4:10 pm
*sigh* i dun mean to sound paranoid or what; yesterday we chatted for awhile (really awhile!) for like 1 minute +. asked how he is and stuff.
omg now i feel so worried. hmm. what can i do to get his attention?
February 5th, 2009 at 8:22 pm
To miss lobster:
What are you worried about? Are you worried he doesn’t like you?
Yesterday, I wrote to you, but my full message didn’t show up. You said you if he still liked you. He’s waiting for you to make up your mind. You already have the answer. “Tell me when you think your heart is ready for us to start.”
He’s giving you the space so you can decide for yourself, you need to tell him how you feel.
And I think you are really worrying over nothing, just because he’s being aloof doesn’t mean he doesn’t care, if he called you to see how you were doing, that tells me he likes you.
So the next time he calls, why don’t you give him your answer, and tell him how you really.
feel.
I don’t think it will start something, until he knows what you want. He wants you to come to him.
February 6th, 2009 at 11:36 am
To LittleImpaler:
Heyy. i guess you are right afterall. i was afraid that he doesn’t like me anymore. like you know no longer interested in wanting to be with me.
and i am very happy today, FINALLY i told him (through text messages) how i’ve been feeling:
me: i was wondering what u would say if i want to be your soulmate?
him: what’s a soulmate?
me: my definition of a soulmate would be a lover and a best friend at the same time. will you?
him: sure, why not?
me: *slightly confused* ok then your officially mine!
him: Best friend and lover at the same time.. cool…
me: yeah, but being you lover is my 1st priority.
him:
well i know this looks weird, but i figured it’s the best way to convey my feelings. erm, what do u guys think? =.=
and hey, thanks so much for your previous comments
really appreciate it!
February 6th, 2009 at 5:26 pm
Hey, hey Miss-Lobster!
I say go for it!
I am really happy today, I going to be in Japanese Horror movie, playing the evil girl!
February 7th, 2009 at 2:05 pm
hello LittleImpaler:
heyy thank you so much for the wishes/ comment!
glad that ur enjoying ur time, have fun and stay cool always~
March 7th, 2009 at 7:30 pm
I learned never to pressure Aquarius. If you are going to make a suggestion, say something like, “It’s up to you, of course.” or “If you want to.” Basically, you can’t make him or her do something that isn’t their own idea.
March 10th, 2009 at 5:51 pm
haha i’ve read into astrology a lot and this is about the same but i like this one more because it reminded me of all the things i love about myself (i’m an aquarius) i sent this letter to a friend for his birthday and it was all of my comments on a cd he made me while i was listening to-it he totally didn’t get it…ahh well too bad:):):)not that this matters but yeah….i like your site:)
March 14th, 2009 at 6:04 am
hey becky!
and im now 20) just my freshman year in college i decided to cut it off with him he was a leo,I deff understand leos for one because my daddy is a leo and maybe the leo in my 10th house i dunno but at one point thats all that i would seem to attract. so i have been single for about a year and some change. so now i am into my sophomore year in college and i all i know are aquas! and i meet this aqua (irronic because i met my first bf my soph year in hs and we started out as friends and went out the netx year, now i met this aqua my soph yr of college)like the first semester we finally stated to speak because he was in my class my freshman year but we never talked(no reason just never did) and we deff clicked always talkin talkin talkin, he would come visit just to chill at least once a week lol and he spent the night one weekend xmas break lol(no no nothing happend just cuddles ) we always crack jokes and i would joke with him about how he was scared to kiss me(in a nice way not to hurt his ego at all) but he told me he wanted to but he thought i was gonna run away lol, so occasonally we would run into each other at parties and he kissed me infront of everyone and all of his friends(not a disrespectful kiss though) and i was so shocked lol i deff didnt know he was into p.d.a, and the next time he came to visit me after that night he kissed me like i have never been kissed it was so crazy and so long!!!and we kiss like that all the time now lmao. but when i came back from break he is super swamped in school work, he is in a ton of clubs and he is super super smart, he tutors, he is in research, he has his own office at school like alot of great things going for himself, so we dont see each other as much man,i let him know from the jump that he isnt to try to make me into a friend with benifits as for one im not gonna let my v card go that way and two thats not my style, and he told me over and over he wasnt trying to do that which he has deff kept his word he hasnt yet to try me which makes me like him more, he did tell me that he wanted to take his time to not rush into relationship because thats how bad ones start i just found out he was in a bad relationship so i understand and, which i agreed on but i have just admited to my self recently that i have fallin for him i havent told him, im holding off,but now that its after break he now doesnt have time for us to start a relationship, like seriously though he is a sr getting ready for grad school and plus all the other things he is involved in on campus i deff will not try to get in the way of anyone who is focus on tryna make it in this world, and i keep this in mind but it was kind of eating away at me and i finally talked bout it to him we talked a couple of weeks ago and he told me how i had no clue how i make him feel and how i was special and different he always wants to spend time with me and we always tell each other we miss each other if we havent seen each other in a while.he always calls me sweet names, always kisses me no matter where we are lol and always wants me to go on trips with him he thinks of me being pure hearted and he called me precious how i am humble lol and that i shouldnt change but how he is afraid of loosing me because he doesnt have the time and how i guess he is starting to feel the distance because of his busy schedual, how he really wants to go with me and that its not that he isnt ready for the relationship but that he knows he cant give me the time that i deserve right now, which i like that he said that, nothing worse then someone starting a relationship they know they not gonna have the amount of time that they want to and need to put into it, i went through that with my ex.so after we had this talk(i brought it up because he is graduating soon so you know i was like whats gonna happen, he doesnt know where he is going for grad school yet, but he was like bringing up how if he goes far he still will be where i am because he still has his research in my city and he would still have to come down and how WE (
as everyone I have been looking up info on aqua males also, i will say alot of stuff have been leaving me so scared.(this is going to be a long post sorry!). I have only had one bf we met my soph yr in h.s when i was 15 we were friends for a whole year then dated for two we never had sex(i still have my v card
March 14th, 2009 at 6:05 am
@ we) could fly to see each other and i mean it all sounds dandy but it was just weird because i never asked him would i see him again like of course i want to but like it was as if he telling me that like i dunno if he was trying to throw hints at long distance or what??. we have gotten into arguments (only 2) and the who aqua withdrawl thing he did but he actually apologize for it lol i feel like he is seriously trying. i am deff not the type to go off what ppl say about others and using there judgement but for the most part i never here or seem him all on other girls( i mean i could be wrong but im just sayin!) and some of his guy friends were kinda shocked when they seen him kiss me( i think everyone was because they never see him kiss on other girls) and some even say hey to me and stuff.everything seems to be going ok so far but its his time thats in the way. i dunno why we are so attracted to each other hes bday is 1-25-87 i think he is a fire tiger and my bday is 1-5-89 but you know when i look up my chinese sign it still says im a earth dragon even though i was born in 89 maybe it because of the chinese new year :/
thanks for reading i know it was hella long
March 14th, 2009 at 5:02 pm
wow this is very interesting i learned some new facts about aquarians..im a pisces myself and im interested in a aquarius man so i thought before i make some moves i should check out what to look for..im terribly shy but this info has given me some perspective..we have some history..actually he used to be a bully when we were younger(il be 20 nex week) and my friends an i didn really like him that much bcuz he always acted like an a-hole..but he moved away for some time an now he’s back i saw him one day at his job an we talked for a long while..and im not one to hold grudges or worry about the past bcuz ppl change..which during our conversation he made it clear a few times that he’s a different person with emphasis i noe i sure have mantally and physically(i was very overweight but now i look normal but still loosin) although i wondered why he held a conversation that long an the way he was looking at me gave me butterflies..but im quick to think the worse so instead of being flirtatious back i just put in my head that there must be a glare from my glasses(which i didnt have on lol)..but now since that day he’s been on my mind…im really not sure what to do..i dont want to turn a casual conversation into something that it wasnt but i dont noe im very intuitive and i could just feel something…so how do i turn a formal aquarian bully to a homie/lover/friend?
March 20th, 2009 at 5:38 pm
I was doing a search about Aquarius men in love & found you. I think you really nailed them. I’m dating one for awhile and its exactly as you described. I’m a Taurus sun but have rising, Moon & Mercury in Gemini. I think that’s what’s allowing me to accept his need for space & besides I have lots of stuff to think about! His first wife was a Taurus and she was the straight-up from the book Taurus. He says he can’t believe I’m one…of course until I ask for more time…LOL, which he gladly gives.
He is unique, multi-talented, deep, artistic, intellectual, handy around the house, poetic & yet at times aloof. I call him my ET and it fits. He have endless conversation, transformative/sensual intimacy and yes time apart! I try not to take it personally and get caught up in my own pursuits: writing, my healing circle, bellydancing, teaching workshops oh! and my day job. When we join we have so much to share, laugh & talk about.
I think it is what you said you accept or you don’t. He’s really different from anyone else I’ve loved but I’m enthralled! Hang in there Taurus ladies & enjoy!
April 1st, 2009 at 7:59 pm
im a female aquarius.. and this is me spot on.. lol it drives me mad wen tryin to define myself.. too many contradictions and when people are in my space too much i DO switch off for a bit to breathe then i come back. if im not allowed to switch off freely i may never come back lol
April 3rd, 2009 at 3:09 am
Heyy, I’ve liked my Aquarius guy for a while now. I’m a Virgo myself. And I love him sooooooo much!! I’m in 8th grade and so is he and ever since I liked him I’ve worked on building our friendship. We are like best friends now (: And he flirts with me all the time. He even asked me to dance at the dance 2 weeks ago! And when he commented on some girls on the sidelines of the dance being alone, one of the girls responded with, “Well your alone too.”
I wasn’t there but she said that he said, “No I have Shawnee.”
But just recently (when we got back from Spring Break 3 days ago.) he’s been really off and away from me for this whole week. I couldn’t understand why and after reading this I understand. He wants some space?? is that all??? I feel really bad now. I broke out crying at lunch and he didn’t know what was wrong…. But I let him know I was okay.
Does this mean he will come back? Should I give him his space?? I thought he just got bored of me or something or didn’t like me and was playing with my head! I never thought he was one to do that but I had some doubts…
So does that really mean he will come back to me?? Please answer my question.
I’m desperet. :/ Please, please answer… Will he come back to me within the next week or so? I miss him being with me… he’s so off on his own… Is it just space he needs??
April 3rd, 2009 at 11:46 pm
Thank you for this website! I’ve been thinking that I was cursed in love. I have met the most wonderful aquarius man. He is smart, very goodlooking and so calm and I fall for him the very first day. Last month after our first date he wanted to go on a second date and then on a third date which never happened because he didn’t showed up. My clock stopped and I was so desperate feeling that I did something wrong. Then suddenly he showed up 36 days later, I was agonizing, like nothing had happened, apologize for his behavior ( I don’t think he knew exactly why he was apologizing) and asked me out again. Because I have read that they need space, and we are adults he is 46 and I am 36 I tried to act mature so I let it go and went out again. We are bonding, I know we are, he is a good listener, he laughs at my jokes, he gives me advices, he has opened up a little bit and talked about some past experiences. We have not been sexually involved, no kisses or hugs. He did mention that I am very pretty and he wants to take one day at a time. He said he wanted to see me again…so I thought to give him space, ok lets do it again sometime next week and he said no, he wanted to see me sooner than that. So I waited all week for his call and finally decided to call him and asked him if he was still interested in going out and he said “sorry, I am busy, good bye”. I am a pisces woman. I am very romantic and this type of response would have killed me in the past. I am trying to approach relationships with a different perspective. I want to believe he is a true aquarius man…but would this behavior ever changed? I ve been with other aquarius men who just fall for me without hesitation but is this man a jerk or do you think I should keep waiting to see if there is something more?
April 4th, 2009 at 2:51 am
Hi I am leo and my fiance is an aquarius she is indeed very open minded and i am not i need advice what are some things i can do to make my relationship better i love her dearly and i want to make things right sometimes i tend to get annoying,jealous,and very critizing and since she is so detached i feel as if she doesnt love me what can i do to improve my self and our relationship.
April 16th, 2009 at 2:08 am
this profile pretty much described me very well. when i allow myself to give love, then i really give it. and yes, i am not into flowers or cards. those mean nothing to me. show me you love me in your own way and that’s all i need.
and i do need my space. i did become puppy dog-ish with my ex…i don’t know why, probably cuz he was my first real relationship.
also, i guess this made much more sense to me in that why i never was accepted in so many ways throughout my life. no wonder.
picnic on Jupiter sounds exciting!
April 16th, 2009 at 4:30 am
Aquarius men are VERYYYY intresting people!!!I have known my aqua odd-ball guy for a good five years.We always had an instant attraction for each other and always did,we could basicly talk about anything and everything.But be VERY cautious!
If you plan to get emotionaly attached beware,they can definatly play mind games for their own entertainment or not???It’s honestly hard to figure out these beautiful odd people one fact is to always be on point,and keep them coming back for more.
Keep them guessing make it intresting for yourself as well, it will be cute when you see their reactions start to change:).If their is anything I know from knowing my aqua friend/lover?/heartbreaker have an open mind.
You must have a strong will to love them even though they are expert liars,a bit playerish,aloof this when you make the decision to either become romanticly involved or just friends.Either way you cannot lose out trust me:).
April 17th, 2009 at 1:03 am
WOW!! You pegged my Aqui!! and I LOVE IT!! adds spice to the relationship!! Mystery!!
April 17th, 2009 at 4:00 am
I think what most other signs just do not get about Aquarius (Men & Women) is that if you wish to get to our hearts or bodies, you’re going to have to go through our minds first. One most excite us on an intellectual level. After that, it will not be long before us Aquarius folk begin to dump our buckets of love all at once. Once it comes pooring down, it won’t be hard to tell. But what will you do when you start getting drenched?
April 17th, 2009 at 7:04 am
I’m a true Aquarius.
If you find an Aquarius interesting here are some helpful tips to remember.
1.When we say “I love you” before you at anytime during the relationship,it’s the absolute to god truth.
2.If we open up to you about things in our life that we wouldn’t usually tell anyone else, we deeply care for you and trust you.
3.We need to evaluate you for the type of person you are first before taking the relationship from aquaintence, to friend, to love.
4.We do need our space at times, but don’t ever change the way you act or feel towards us because we will feel like you are just disinterested and we will push away.
5.We will tell you if something really bothers us that you are doing and this is the only time you should really give us alone time. When we finish what we are doing we will come running back to you and apologize to you for being aloof.
6. If you start strong with an Aquarius you should stay strong with your affirmations throughout the entire relationship. Once you hook an Aquarius and become less affectionate or don’t portray yourself as when you first started the relationship they will feel you are disinterested or you’re not the same person. This is a big no no and it won’t end favorably.
7. We love to be teased in an affectionate way.
8. We love surprises as long as you’re not trying to spy on us at the same time.
9. We are Loyal to almost the point of death, We will tell you before we have any other type of feelings.
10. We can’t stand people who are not honest. We don’t like being hurt, but lying about something will just infuriate us and believe me that honesty is a much better option.
11. If we compliment you,appreciate it, because we really mean it. Don’t ever disagree with a flattering comment we offer to you because if you do we will think you don’t believe us and it upsets us.
12. If an Aquarius doesn’t say the words “I love you”, “I’m in love with you”, “You are my girl and the only I want to be with” they are still free and you shouldn’t think you are in any type of committed relationship with them.
13. After we come out of an aloof stage we can get really affectionate and hyper, Enjoy these times and don’t ever question them because we don’t know why.
14. Be confident in yourself. We like confident people without the tude.
15.You have to have a big heart, be understanding, warm and affectionate with us.
16. We value and respect other people and their opinions, but if you ask for advice from us value ours or we won’t offer it anymore.
17. We are weird, wacky, kids at heart, unpredictable. This is what makes life interesting for us. We love to see new things and constant brain stimulation is something we love. Do not do the same thing the same way every time with us, put a new spin on it.
18. We are always thinking about others and Def thinking about the ones we love all the time so don’t ever think we are not. We not physically show it 24/7 but we are.
19. We are very sentimental that is why are gifts are different from the usual ones, they have to mean something to us to give them to you. If you ever get something out of the ordinary it’s because we didn’t just pick the first thing out of our mind that people usually do. Everything we give to you has more meaning to us about you than you could ever imagine.
20. Hmm.. well I guess that’s enough for now.
April 18th, 2009 at 12:41 am
Jerzi,
You are so right on.
People, if you want a long lasting relationship with an Aquarius, save this list from Jerzi, study it, and remember it.
HAHA
April 20th, 2009 at 4:57 pm
Aquas indeed are the most extraordinary species on Earth. I’ve been dating an Aqua man for almost a year and although he calls me “love”, he never said that he loves me or in love with me. It’s been really helpful to read all the comments on this website from real people and I’ve learned that it is very hard for Aquarians to open up when it comes to their deep feelings and they are far from being top-notch experts in a romance department. I’m wondering if, in my case, he calls me love, but doesn’t say how he feels…should I interpret it as a “sign” that he does love me or it just as casual as “honey” or “baby”?
April 20th, 2009 at 5:20 pm
Hi there Mika,
Thank you for your comment and welcome to my site!
Yes, Aqua’s are funny. I suggest to you that if he has been with you for all that time then he loves you, he simply wouldn’t be there otherwise. They are also very funny about calling their loved ones names such as baby, darling etc. They won’t call anyone else by these names as many people do but it will be just for you..your special name!
Aqua’s tend to show how they feel rather than say it outloud, try not to be put off by their apparant lack of emotion, they have more than most people just have no clue as to how you let it out!!
Love & Light
Becky
April 20th, 2009 at 6:01 pm
Hi Becky, Kudos to you for this website and thank you for your reply!! The only thing that bothers me with my Aqua not telling me about his feelings is that I don’t want to be the first to say that I love him. Maybe it’s very old-fashioned, but that’s the way I am. I fell for him very hard, but I just can’t be the first who admits that. How does it work with Aquarian men?
April 20th, 2009 at 6:25 pm
Thank you for your lovely kind words! May I ask what sign you are????
If your planning on waiting for him then that oculd work..but probably won’t. He won’t admit his feelings until you do..wouldn’t want to lose face..on the other hand you will keep him interested the longer you hold out..I totally respect not wanting to say it first..if only I were like you!
April 20th, 2009 at 6:49 pm
Hey Mika,
Aquas usually won’t use the terms hunni, baby or love to anyone else except for the one they are really involved with. We don’t like the normal terms of affection because it is a set standard of what people say and we really don’t like to conform.
If he uses the same words of affection with other people as he does with you I would have to question it a bit.
All the aquas I know and myself included will usually start planning on a future with you within the first year together if they are truly in love with you.
I don’t know how close you guys are or your living situation ,but the best way to find out is to drop subtle questions such as “Where do you see yourself in the future?”. It’s a non confrontational question and we won’t back away from it. Don’t include yourself into the question, you want them to include you in the answer. If they don’t mention you in their answer, I would worry a bit.
You can push a little bit, just don’t pry.
April 20th, 2009 at 6:53 pm
There’s a very interesting combination here. I am an Aries, but my as well as his Venus is in Aquarius. That’s why I can relate to his emotional “issues” very easily and actually find it both alleviating and stimulating at the same time. I guess, I am a piece of work myself :)) and revealing my own feelings doesn’t come easy to me either.
April 20th, 2009 at 7:11 pm
Mika, if you feel it, say it to him. All you have to do is watch his reaction. We only accept them terms of endearment from certain people and they are the ones we are in love with or truly love.If you receive a huge smile and big eyes, he does.
Don’t say it when he does something really special for you, say it out of the blue or he will think it was just because he did something nice.
I don’t know how old he is ,but some aquas don’t like to be tied down and like to be in a position where they can easily get out of if something changes.
Do it for you Mika, you shouldn’t have to wait to show him how you feel.I would hate for you to be so in love and involved, if he doesn’t feel the same way.
April 20th, 2009 at 7:48 pm
Thanks Jerzi! I was just about to post my reply to your previous comment and found your new post. I was going to ask whether or not I would spoil the broth if I tell that I love him first. And here’s your very encouraging reply. Thanks again! According to your list above, mine is a true Aquarius too. Our is a long-distance relationship, plus very busy schedules, which don’t allow us to see each other very often. Recently, during our “pillow talk” he mentioned that there’s “we” as far as the future is concerned. So I was wondering why, after having said that about “our” future, he still stays mum about his feelings.
April 21st, 2009 at 11:11 pm
Hi again Mika, Glad I could be of some help.
You mentioned you relate to his emotional feelings so he must show you in some kind of way how he is feeling and does open up. Aquarians have a hard time expressing their self with spoken words as Becky has mentioned. As an aries I’m sure your feelings and putting them into words of how you feel isn’t really that hard. The aqua has all of these same feelings as everyone else does ,but they are so intense that trying to put them into words actually causes us to have a mental block. This is because we start asking our self questions at the same time we are supposed to speak such as “What will they say when I say this?”, “Will this change the way they feel about me?”, “Am I going to be able to convey how I really feel without them taking it a different way?”. We try so hard to speak without hurting,pushing people away,making them look at us in a different light, having them angry or sad because of us.
If you are ever taken back and can’t believe the words that just came out of our mouth, good or bad in some rare moments, this is the time we don’t question what we are saying. It is almost like a fluid natural moment without pause and it is the honest truth of how were feeling without any regard. I’ve actually went and apologized to some people because of it, no one deserves to be yelled at or talked down to and I couldn’t take the feeling of hurting someone when I could of expressed myself in a different way.
You two seem like you’re in a healthy and happy relationship and why would I as an aqua introduce other words or anything else that could potentially change the present happiness? If I said the words “I love you” would it change how you felt about me? Do you need to hear these words so you know that I do? If you do need to hear them then tell me, aquas like to please and if we tell you that when I say this other word or words to you that’s what they mean, accept it.
Also as an Aqua we already know how you feel within a few days to a couple of months, we know if your holding something back and will question why you are in our minds, but not say anything. After spending a year with us it won’t change anything by saying the words “I love you” first. The only thing you want to avoid is trying to change the present relationship by saying it.
Take for instance this one girl I met at the bar, took her out for a dinner date one night then dropped her off at her place. We were kissing on her front porch and my whole life flashed before my eyes, this girl wants to be with me forever..just could sense it and it was way to much for me to handle, so I didn’t talk to her or see her again.
I have dejavu constantly and can almost see some parts of the future, I won’t really remember them, but when I get to the place or the thing I saw, it will just seam so familiar to me, like I’ve been here before.
Forgive my sentence structuring, never was one for English.
April 24th, 2009 at 3:43 am
IM AN AQUARIAN AND PROUD TO BE ONE BECAUSE WE ARE VERY INTELLIGIENT AND SMART NOT ONLY THAT BUT WE HAVE A UNIQUE STYLE OF NOT FOLLOW THE CROWD KINDA THING YA KNOW SO YEAH
THIS TO ALL THE AQUARIANS
{{{{AQUARIUS>>>}}…::’-_=
April 24th, 2009 at 3:54 am
O YEAH AND BY THE WAY THESE COMMENTS ARE PROOF JUS TO SHOW HOW MUCH AN AQUARIUS CAN TALK…(THAT MEANS ALOT) BUT WE SOMETIMES CAN LIMIT OURSELVES WHEN SOMEONE WANTS TO TALK.oR WHEN WE RUN OUT OF WORDS TO SAY……
heh heH AGAIN (((>>AQuaRIaNS_))))))!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
anD WE’RE VERY ExPrESSIVE AND suPER suPER suPER suPER suPER suPER SmAArTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
April 25th, 2009 at 1:58 am
An Aquarius can talk to you for hours about anything if they feel comfortable with you and are sarcasm is in all good fun, don’t take it any other way.
May 9th, 2009 at 4:48 pm
Hi, I’m a libran (39 yrs) and totally nuts about an Aquarian (53). We have been developing a social project together and have been spending time tgether. I’ve just been down to where he lives for part of the year and stayed a couple of days. We had an amazing time - including a sponatenous mad midnight 4WD off-roading through sand dunes and rivers - blew my mind. There’s been no physical contact just an enormous amount of laughing. How do I know if he’s interested?
May 11th, 2009 at 7:49 am
Do auqa men stick to there word?Like if they actually say you have my word?Or is it just a bunch of bull????
May 11th, 2009 at 8:33 pm
Hey Pam,
Spontaneity is one attribute built in that keeps us from boredom. Sounds like you two are having an extremely fun time, I would just enjoy it and not think about anything else. Aquas usually want a best friend, lover and companion all in one person. He probably already knows you’re interested so just be yourself and keep doing what you’re doing. The more time you spend with an aqua the closer the connection gets.
May 11th, 2009 at 8:37 pm
Hi Eva,
Yes, we do..unless you make us promise something.
Is there a certain situation that brought about this question ,because it sounds like you’re kind of upset.
May 12th, 2009 at 9:44 am
Thank you for responding Jerzi!An yes there is indeed a tough situation.You’re pretty psychic as well because you actually caught that lol,I found myself totally head over heals in love with him and at the same time really,really hurt.It kinda just crept silently on me..
I guess the whole part that gets me is the fact he text me “I would love to be with you but were both young which means I got nothing but time for you,you have my word”.It felt sincere and real.This was 3 months ago he said this though and we haven’t spoken since.I came to find out there is another girl involved i’m guessing he’s with her now…boo…
But I can understand at the same time I guess,I just hate the fact we don’t talk,I miss it like crazy,and wonder if he thinks about me as much as I do.We could seriously talk about anything for 6 hours straight,I never got bored either.Aqua men…what people they are=/…(=
May 13th, 2009 at 5:58 am
Sorry to hear Eva, I wouldn’t say I’m psychic, I can just read people very well. You will find that most aquas can. When you look into an aquas eyes..there is something very mysterious and peculiar about them. We sit back and examine everything, it’s why we seem so aloof. It has nothing to do with us being disconnected, because we are more connected to everything around us than at any other time in this stage.
I don’t know what was said before the text message, but he would be there for you if you really needed just not the way you want him to be. You can never ask that of another person if they don’t feel the same way because it is selfish. Aquas don’t like to hurt people and this is why he said it that way.
I can see that you’re a bit angry, hurt and feel like he left the door open a little bit without closing it all the way. Also if an aqua closes a relationship they will give their full attention to the person they are with.In most cases EXs will not come into the picture unless there is children involved, they don’t feel it’s fair to the person they are with to be spending time with a previous BF/GF. When you have an Aqua, you have all of them.
He said he has nothing but time so use it wisely, call him or text him and tell him you want to meet in a social place like a coffee shop to talk about a few things that are really bothering you and if he is a true aqua he will be glad to since I don’t sense a bad breakup or anything here. Do not bring any angry or hateful emotions with you, be calm and collective.
You need closure Eva and without it you’ll always be wondering and clouding your head with what ifs…don’t expect to regain a relationship of any kind except to hear his thoughts on the situation so you can ease your mind and move on. Tell him to be honest even if he thinks it will hurt you, because it will hurt more if you don’t know what he is really thinking.
Aquas remember the past, but don’t tend to bring it into the new direction they are moving or think about it much. They look at what’s ahead of them, not behind. The only time they look back is when they sense danger.
May 14th, 2009 at 3:48 am
Wow that really hit the spot,right on the nail,and the text message went.
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me:guess what?(:
him:what
me:you make me want to leave everything and start brand new with you(:
him:lets take it slow and let yourself know what you really want
me:i think you should ask yourself that.
him:im not tryin to rush u in to any thing dont want
me:dont want what?
him:rush you on what u want
me:I want the same thing,there is no reason to rush,build a future for ourselves first that sounds right to me(:
him:yea its better to know what you want so theres no regrets dont get it twisted i would love to be with you its all about you where both young so that means i got nothing but time for you and hope you dont feel like im trying to gas you up or anything cuz im not u have my word ok.
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But I found the point to move on heart wise,I just admitted to myself I lost in a way.Gradually getting over it, I hope we can eventually meet up and talk that’s what I want most,it’s likely to happen I believe.But THANKK YOUUU a lot I mean not even my friends gave me that kind of advice???Weird lol,it is really helpful I will take what you said into consideration!Jerzi is awesome!!!!(=
May 14th, 2009 at 7:13 pm
Jerzi, thanks for your insights. It’s true when we hang out together we have a really good time but since we’ve been back in town I’ve sent him an email with a question about our project and a suggestion we meet up for a drink. He responded to the project question but said nothing about catching up. I’m not sure whether to completely cool off or just see what happens…
May 15th, 2009 at 6:51 am
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That line there is the exact reason why an aqua would respond in a way such as you mentioned.
We would never want anyone to change their life, goals, aspirations or dreams because of us. We want to share in them and encourage you along the way. I think I mentioned above about changing the type of person you are with us, it’s like a red flag for an aqua. If we ever did allow you change or start a new life with us and it didn’t turn out the way you planned, we would never forgive ourselves for allowing you to do that.
You haven’t lost anything, you have learned how to care for and love another person from deep inside. You have felt what most people search for their entire lives.
I remember when I felt real love and it’s amazing…my entire body went cold and I just felt this incredible warmth inside my chest leaving me motionless…it’s was unimaginable, no words could ever describe it. I won’t ever stay with someone unless I experience that feeling, because I know I wouldn’t be truly in love with them.
Remember Eva, happiness comes from within, it’s just a blessing when you can share your happiness, love and life with another.
May 15th, 2009 at 7:50 am
Pamela, glad I could offer some insight. Aquas are a really tough bunch to understand. I sometimes wonder where people get the patience to actually endure us. We are friendly, outgoing,jokesters, love to laugh, smile and have a good time. The thing is when someone actually wants something of us that we don’t want to give freely or easily it can turn into a real tricky situation. It’s kind of like walking on ice without knowing where the thin spots are.
It all depends what you want out of this relationship. Are you ok with just being friends? Do you want more than to be just friends? Can you handle just being friends with him if that’s all he wants?
If you want an answer to if he wants to be more than friends just ask him, but do it in a friendly non confrontational way.
Be like hey it’s awesome we are friends and I really enjoy working on this project together, but that trip to your place kind of threw me a curve ball, did you want to be more than friends or project partners?
Assure him either way you are absolutely ok with, you just wanted to know.
If you do ask him..please let me know what the response is, I would love to hear it.
May 15th, 2009 at 2:04 pm
Hi Jerzi
You seem to know a lot about aquarians- especially being one yourself. It’s great!
I have a question and would like your perception on this
I met this aquarian girl a few months ago and we’ve caught up for lunch randomly here and there and gone out for dinner and drinks one night. I ended up at her place that night after a few glasses of wine and being pretty tipsy I lay on her bed. We ended up kissing etc and I pleased her in a certain way. When I was done she tried to return the favour but because I didn’t feel comfortable and was tipsy I wasn’t that into it plus I felt like she was rushing.
Anyway, she wanted to go to bed and me being the semi-typical pisces wanted to hug and kiss some more. She said she had to go to a certain place the next day so she wanted to sleep and I got over it. The next morning I woke up and started to kiss her but she didn’t reciprocate and after a few more attempts I gave up and said my goodbyes. We didn’t speak for a while, possibly a month or so and slowly she contacted me by email asking how i was and if i wanted to go out etc.
We recently caught up again and I really had a great time, I wasn’t as nervous and was able to be myself 100% and enjoy her company. The dinner date prior to this was a little rocky at the start as we both had nothing to say to each other for some reason..
I texted her saying it was good seeing her and that we should do it again and she replied saying something similar and that we should catch up more often.
Now i’ve read how aloof and distant the aquarian can be but so can i being a pisces with some aquarian tendencies, but i can’t quite figure out if she is interested in me as a friend or a potential partner.
Any suggestions would be appreciated
May 16th, 2009 at 1:35 am
Hey Sincere,
I can’t even count the multiple mistakes and the selfishness you showed in the first 2 paragraphs.Did you really expect her to want to hug and kiss you after that or even let you spend the night?
You two can’t even talk to each other and you actually want to start a relationship?
In my honest opinion I would just keep it as friend with benefits. I would give you more insight on this ,but I can’t encourage something I see turning into a disaster for both of you.
May 16th, 2009 at 7:40 am
This really is how my aquarian man is! Over a period of 3 years I have really learned patience. I gave him the nickname houdini bc of the disappearing acts! lol But I have just 1 ? would an Aquarian man talk about marrying you if he really has no intentions of doing it?
May 16th, 2009 at 8:56 am
Hi Jerzi
Thanks for the honesty, I guess what I wrote was all in a nutshell. The night we first met we had an absolute ball and we really enjoyed each other’s company. Then on the first official date (the one I mentioned was rocky) “the actual start” of it at the bar was a little quiet and had its awkward moments until we found a nice spot to sit down and chat, then our conversation was quite fun and interesting..I think it was more me being nervous than anything else.
I’m not saying I want a relationship but was merely after an opinion as to what she really wants from this.. i.e friendship with benefits etc.
May 18th, 2009 at 11:32 am
hey sexy, they would usually be one of the last words to come out of an aquas mouth, we do intend to do what we say, but things can change it. As for marriage it has to be a big change for us to ever decide against it. We usually need to know someone for years and everything about them before marriage. I don’t know how great the three years were, but if they have been a healthy 3 years I wouldn’t have any worries.
May 18th, 2009 at 11:46 am
Hey Sincere, glad you didn’t take that the wrong way, appreciate it.
First of all..never be nervous around an aqua, they don’t look down on people or fault you if you are a good person. The only time they would is if you come off as cocky or into yourself.
In all honestly, sounds like she was bored or maybe a little upset about the first encounter. It could be either one since I can’t see her face.
If you want to know her true intentions, don’t do the bar thing. Think of something fun and exciting she would like to do in the daytime that has nothing to do with drinking or going back to her place for relations. Set it up for a few hours on the weekend without a night encounter…The rest should be pretty clear
May 18th, 2009 at 6:04 pm
I love my aquarius man. I swear we can read each others’ minds at times. We’ve been dating now for 6 months, and he dropped the L-word:) Bout time! haha.. I was holding out to make sure he was in this for real. And you’re right… a little bow wrapped around a twig. perfect.
So to you Aquarian Men out there, I am curious about your take on having/raising children? Kasey (my aqua man) seems to draw children like a magnet. I think he’d make an awesome father..and he just turned 37, so I think he’s ready in years. For the record. I’m 29, so ready too..but never really ready! haha Thanks for any insight!
Kelly
May 18th, 2009 at 8:14 pm
I want to thank you for this site. I have been seeing an aquarian male for almost 6 months now. We work together and spend quite a bit of the day laughing and joking. The first time we went out after work..the physical attraction was crazy for both of us..we talked about it..sd it wasnt a good idea…ended up in bed.
He gave me what I considered mixed signals in the begining and even now. I tried to pinpoint ( put a lable ) on our realationship..and learned quickly..I did not want his answer.
He said that sleeping together seemed to be causing problems and my friendship meant to much to him to risk it….my response..not so nice..I am an aries on the taurus cusp.
Then..the next thing I know we are in bed and I am meeting his family..his grams..who is his world. He told me he is happy that we are better friends now than ever..he also sd I was his best friend.
Coming from any other sign..I would be irritated witht he word/title Friend..but with him, I think it is a huge step. What does it really mean when an aquarius calls you friend.
May 19th, 2009 at 12:56 am
The 1st year was crazy considering I am a Scorpio I had to learned patience which i never had dealing with the hot and cold of an aquarian. He trusts me with things about his past and present that noone else knows. I question it only because he can be with me everyday for weeks then out of nowhere he will disappear for a couple days. Sometimes we have a lil disagreement before sometimes for no reason at all. And he always returns and things are better than before. He will introduce me to all his friends and family as his future wife or this is the girl im going to marry.
May 19th, 2009 at 8:25 am
Hi Rondi, a true/best friend of an aquarian is something not to take lightly as I think you have suspected. We would pretty much go to the ends of the world for a true friend if they needed us. We wouldn’t normally introduce anyone to our family who we didn’t really care for.
You made a requirement of him after having relations by trying to put a label requirement on the relationship. Aquas work slow and methodically when someone comes on to strong and we’ll take a step back to see if it’s what we really want, then proceed or push away after the analysis.
Sleeping with someone really doesn’t change anything internally for us at all. It is the feeling we have inside of us about you, inside our heart and mind.
You have to be the best friend, the lover, the companion with no change. Once you remove or change something from the equation the Aqua will not stay or wont be honestly happy.
If you’re not ok with the relationship or feel like it’s not what you want then you need to ask him, just don’t try and label it. Simply ask him do you see this becoming more than best friends at some point and you will get the answer you need.
If an aqua feels like you are trying to take away their freedom and space they will be wary of taking it to the next level
May 19th, 2009 at 9:24 am
Hi again Sexy, I see you are no stranger to our mini-vacations. They are a very normal part of our life and if you can give us the time we need during them, without nagging and demanding our attention we will come back re energized.
We don’t like to be in an angry, stressed or over emotional negative state and this is what usually sparks the mini-vacations. It is a time for us to clear our heads and reflect on things.
I’ll give you a little helpful hint, setup a facial and body massage for your aqua…the mini-vacas will tend to happen a lot less frequently.
May 19th, 2009 at 12:44 pm
Thank you so much for your replys. It has taken me a little while to realize it is about him..and not me. Ya know that aries ego.
The simple fact that he shares his grams with me..is huge for him. She is his heart. She has had some medical issues lately..and I fully expected him to withdrawl. Instead he came to me for comfort, and someone to talk to you. He said I always make him smile.
Because I am me, It is so easy for me to want everything under my control….this will never be with him. Which just may keep me coming back.
I always say he is hot n cold. When he is hot..it is amazing. He is very passionate and expressive in his actions. The way he looks at me, the way he touches me and the way he smiles at me. Other than the birth of my daughter..I have never felt such comfort and peace. I am very high strung and he amazingly able to calm be. What a great quaility in a person.
May 19th, 2009 at 12:48 pm
One more question..you sd above that sex does nto change things for an aqaurius. I know that I am the first person he has slept with in a long time. Does the fact that we do and that we are so pasionate when we do..say anything about his feelings?
Also, we hang out a lot. Not realy long periods of time, but he will txt me and ask me to stop by his house a couple times a week and normally spend the night or most of it at least 2 nights a month. Any guesses as to his feelings?
May 19th, 2009 at 2:33 pm
lol how funny you say that i bought him a spa package for his birthday in january bc he was very stressed out and to this day he is yet to use it
May 19th, 2009 at 8:13 pm
hey Rondi, aquas are very passionate lovers.
After 6 months of being together, just hanging out a couple times a week and only spending a night or two together if that a month I would question. It sounds strange to me for an aqua not to want to spend more time with you than this, but I don’t know the full extent of the relationship.
May 19th, 2009 at 8:16 pm
Hi sexy, Did I forget to mention how aquas like to procrastinate..haha. I’ve yet to use mine either and it’s been much longer than that. Tell him you are going to call and set up an appointment for him for a weekend day.
May 20th, 2009 at 5:22 pm
The circumstances are a little difficult. We work together, but he is my boss. He was not my boss when we started hanging out..he was promoted a couple of months ago.
I also am a single mother and only have every other weekend to myself. Up to this point he has not met my daughter..but we are planning on doing that soon.
I just adore him, but at the same time I do not want to read too much into what he says or does..but dont want to read to little either.
It is taking us a while..but we are learning each others needs..and how to compromise.
May 20th, 2009 at 8:12 pm
Hello everybody here. This is a great site.
Hey,I would like comments from becky or an aqua man to my story.
Im libra in love with an aquarius for 8 months.
It all started very strong and quick he commited inmmediately and told me he left all the girls bc he found me but his friends keep texting him and calling all the time. Im a very proud and good looking woman so I dont settle for less so this behavior made me doubt and his coldness wich I did not understand at that time, made me break up with him many times and I behaved like a drama queen
He wanted to be my boyfriend and he told me once he loved me and that he was not affraid of the feeling of having children with me
He understands why I used to break up with him , its not about he is being aloof but he is addicted and to be honest he is a mess but deep in side he is such an authentic person that eventhough he does everything wrong I trust him somehow and I do care too much for him I wish he took better care of his health and I wish he understood he has to do it soon because I will oneday have children and I cant think in anyother person than him eventhough I have many choices I still like him
The problem is that now he says he does not want a relationship and he is fine on his own , he does not need anything and that he feels he is not prepaired. Its me who has looked after him lately cause eventhough we had not talked in two weeks I could feel he was not fine and I was right. We have met twice he was sick and depri but I think he is dating a few young girls like 18 19 and I know he does it because they mean nothing serius to him. We are both 34 . He told me yesterday that he does not know wether we should see each other again because he does not want to hurt me and he feels I love him more that what he feels for me . But to be honest I think he is just scared because I know he feels trapped when he feels too much. I really love him and I need nothing else that him I asked him if it was then better that I dont hang on us and he said yes so he means I should not have expectations. Then I told him he could leave if he felt better but he stayed and spendt the night with me and we had sex we always have sex but I dont know if he is playing with me
I dont know why he sees so youg girls when he has me . Sometimes I think im out of his league but despite all his mistakes I dont move a cent . I know he needs space and im not clingy at all but I must admit I get courious with all his text messages and phone calls from girls but I dont get jealous cause they are nothing compared to me I have much more to offer.
So the question is. it seems he has changed his mind about us maybe because I broke up with him so manytimes (but there was a reason) or maybe cause hes scared. It seems like he doesnt care although I can see he still feels good and comfortable when he is with me and he is still sexually attracted but he is not calling or texting as he used . Should I forget a bout him and move on or you think I should keep firm?
thanks a lot for your comments
May 21st, 2009 at 12:34 pm
“I’m a very proud and good looking woman so I don’t settle for less.”
“The problem is that now he says he does not want a relationship and he is fine on his own.”
“even though he does everything wrong I trust him somehow”
“We have met twice he was sick and depri but I think he is dating a few young girls like 18 19″
“all his text messages and phone calls from girls”
“It seems like he doesn’t care”
“but he is not calling or texting as he used”
You said you are a strong woman and don’t settle for less…so I don’t know why you are even asking the question of what you should do, it looks pretty obvious to me.
May 21st, 2009 at 6:16 pm
well..sometimes I dont know if he is just playing games or its sort of a test. to be honest i sometimes think is my fault since I rejected him several times cause I was not sure now I just miss him and hope to win him back but dont know how..
May 21st, 2009 at 6:29 pm
jerzi i dont know really what happened.. when I think back and remember how sweet and sure he was talking about having children and buy an stationwagon , he invited me 4 times to his parents for xmas and I wasnt sure at that time I was nervous about all his friends and lost my temper a couple of times … broke up and picked up my things like 5 times .
He keeps saying that he does not want to hurt me or dissapoint me .
I feel I pushed him away and Im sorry for that in fact I miss him so much that it scares me I think I always rejected him cause I liked him so much that I was affraid
May 21st, 2009 at 8:10 pm
lol jerzi! its so funny how aquas act to my friends they just think hes disrespectful and doesnt care when he disappears or procrastinates doing something for me or himself. Im glad to find this site to know that I am not nuts!
May 22nd, 2009 at 4:53 pm
Hey Brichola, You don’t break up with someone 5 times if you really like someone or are in love with them just because you are afraid of how much you care for someone. You broke up with him because you couldn’t handle the fact of relationships with the other people he had as friends. You couldn’t handle it 5 times…seriously what makes you think you will be able to a 6th time? You act like meeting his parents on Christmas was like a life threatening event, which I don’t understand at all.
You are clearly not comfortable with this persons social life and if you have broken up with someone 5 times there is clearly a lot more than you just having a temper.
It really doesn’t seem fair to you or him to continue this kind of disastrous relationship, but that’s just my opinion.
May 26th, 2009 at 12:52 am
There is just something SO attractive about aquarius men I like the mysterious play it makes everything a little more intresting even when they become aloof.So different.A little difficult.But it’s worth it when they arrive with a little apology and everything returns to normal.I think either you understand them or you don’t.TAKE IT SLOW if you truly want a relationship to evolve:)
May 28th, 2009 at 11:55 am
My aquarian BFF and I are still hanging in there. For someone who does not like labels..he sure loves to give me the BFF label…ALL THE TIME!!!!!!
We are currently in a cold phase with our relationship an are now BFF”S. Once I get over my emotional tantrum..and listen to what he is saying…I usually get it. Dont agree with it..but get it just the same.
Some things in life are not easy, you just have to decide if they are worth it. I think he is worth it. He is not out partying, and picking up girls. He has other female friends that live out of State and he chats with them. But, other than family..I am really the only active person in his life.
When we are together we have a blast and we really do make each others lives better. So for today I will smile because I can hear him talking over the wall..and a it makes my heart warm to hear his voice.
This weekend I will miss him..but enjoy my other friends and family..because he will isolate this weekend..lol And, then we will begin our process back together.
June 10th, 2009 at 8:18 am
One time, there was this Aqua-male who I was friends with (I’m an Aquarius female) he was such a typical Aquarian, as am I. Anyways, I didn’t even know he was romantically interested until one day he all of a sudden got real cuddly and weird, which freaked the hell out of me. And then I kinda blew him off… kinda remained friends but it was awkward lmao. I figured this was a good anecdote, considering people apparently suffer from Aquarius’s ‘freedom issues’. Sometimes they get a bit of their own medicine… lol. But only from other aquarians.
June 14th, 2009 at 10:55 am
I just loved reading about what everybody else has been going through with their aquas. It’s given me some insight as to what I might expect from this aqua man I work with that I recently (and unexpectantly) began sleeping with. I have a few questions if my own, if somebody might be able to answer then for me:
1. Does starting a “friends with benefits” situation in the begining change how an aqua man thinks about you/the possibility of an actual relationship? I initially established this sexual relationship with the intention of having a sex buddy but we have so much sexual chemistry together, I want to see where things may go…
2. I am a Capricorn and know that an aqua relationship will be difficult and challenging because of somewhat conflicting personalities. However, we both have Capricorn venuses. Would this help in any way concerning a serious relationship? What should I expect from an aqua/Venus cappy with a gemini moon? (for the record, I am a cappy/ Venus cappy with a Leo moon — I know that’s not going to help the situation much, either, LOL)
Any advice is greatly appreciated! This is a new situation and we just started hanging out together outside of work, so I need to be careful and all. Not to mention, casual sex goes outside of my typical cappy behavior, so I’m a little apprehensive as well
June 20th, 2009 at 9:21 pm
Well my aqua threw me for a loop after 3 years of my aqua man talking about marriage told me he never wants to get married. but by the end of the conversation went into saying he may be ready to get married in 6 months or a year he doesnt know, but he doesnt want to lose me. Since that convo 3 days ago i have not heard from him. I have tried to call but he will not return calls. Im so confused Jerzi or anyone HELP!!!
July 3rd, 2009 at 11:30 am
Jerzi.
You are a legend.
That is all.
I think how ever good the original description by Becky is, the pointers by you, have totally told me who I EXACTLY am.
Every word of that is true. Every one.
Cheers. And I enjoyed reading all your posts. Fantastic.
July 8th, 2009 at 12:09 pm
Hey MN, Aquas won’t usually turn a friend with benefits into much more than that. Aquas will usually set some roots if they are really interested in someone.
July 8th, 2009 at 12:31 pm
Hey SexyScorpio, It is so hard for an aqua to commit to anything because of life variables.
We constantly debate whether or not we are making the right decision. If there is any possibility that the outcome could be unfavorable we will constantly change are mind.
The one thing you want to avoid is getting into a confrontation with us when we do it. It feels like we are being attacked and it’s hard for us to give any concrete reasoning for it. Yes, it is selfish on our part and we should definitely handle it in a different way.
The best way to handle something like that is to get us to write something as to the reasons that made us change our mind or go in a different direction.
We don’t like confrontation as I had mentioned and the best way to handle an aloof stage with a phone call is just to call and leave a message saying “I just wanted to let ya know I love n miss you call me when you’re ready.”
July 8th, 2009 at 12:46 pm
Thanks Kapil, Every time I write or read something it makes me realize more and more about myself and why I do the things I do.
I even call myself a nut job at times..we are a rare breed.
July 9th, 2009 at 3:01 am
When an Aquarius Loves someone, they reserve a “special” love. Since we are a fixed sign. We stay in love. Only problem is we are only fixed for so long. We control the fixations. Other signs who are fixed could understand this. If you want an Aquarius its important to seeze us in a fixed position not a transition. Luckily, even when we have already transfered we can still go back to a previous fixation. This special love for one person should not be confused by the love everyone gets from Aquarius. A lot of people may hear I love you from an aquarius but they do not recieve any special sacred heartfelt gifts. Very few, if not one person get the “special” kind of Aquarian love. Recognizing this special love is the challange for other signs interested in Aquarians. Uranus causes Aquarius great energy in a short burst but without much stamina. Since Aquarius would rather not speak of their love they’ll hold it in an find other special ways to express it until they vocally pop like a balloon from a needle. Dig it?
Kal
July 9th, 2009 at 8:57 am
Aquarius is challenging in many ways
As an Aries girl i have to be very strong to deal with my lone time he gives, careless attitudes, not paying attention and all of a sudden what is wrong? Is everything ok?He seriously is so busy with other things that he lose touch of my existence..Jerzi,Kalvin talking doesnt help what do i do? How do i act?
I dont want to remind him all the time or complain bla bla..No time for that but im just trying to understand what he wants from me!
July 11th, 2009 at 5:43 am
Yeah it took him about 2 weeks but he has come around. Things definitely are not the same right now. He’s very distant but calls me for the oddest stupidest things. Half the time he calls he says uh i forgot what i called for. I’m giving him his space not asking any questions about what hes doing or why, I wont even pick up the phone to call him. He is definitely a roller coaster ride but for some reason I cant get off!!!!
July 11th, 2009 at 7:56 am
hey bb, Aquarians auto-fixate on things, it’s not planned.
You never want to seize us in a auto-fixation period, definitely not when it’s concerning very serious things, because we see all the positives at first. I have never been able to control any fixation I’ve had. Fixations end for us when we find negatives that negate the positives or when we get bored of the fixation.
We won’t pay attention if something bores us, unless it is required for survival.You have to give us a reason to care about things, not because that’s what we should do or that’s what everyone else does.
For instance, say “When you do this…, spend time with me, listen to me it makes me really happy and I appreciate it”. If we do these things for someone else and don’t feel appreciated for doing them, we won’t anymore.
We will tend to fixate on something if our daily life becomes uninteresting. The best thing you can do is keep it very interesting day 2 day.
We love to discover and indulge in new experiences which is why we seem like we are always doing something new or different.
We never lose touch of anyone’s existence, we just find things that are more interesting to us and will dive into them.
If you ever nag or demand something from us that we don’t want to give you will just push us farther away.
The best way to spend more time with an aquarian is to find things that you think would be really interesting for them that they have never done before and you would also like to do.
Make a list of like 10 things you think would be interesting to do and 10 things he he would like to do..mix em up in a hat and pick one out on the weeknights and weekends to make it a little more entertaining and mysterious.
You got to mix it up and keep it fun and adventurous for an Aqua or they will start to go fixate on other things.
Hope this helps…
July 11th, 2009 at 8:12 am
If I were you I would still find out why he said that. After 3 years of saying he wanted to get married, you deserve to know why, sounds a little weird for an aqua to say that out of nowhere unless something changed or you were pressuring him for a date/ring.
July 11th, 2009 at 6:28 pm
As you know with an Aqua you have to walk on eggshells 1 day you can ask something they will have no problem answering the next week you can ask the same thing and its a problem. When we talked that day and he said he wouldnt get married but then went on to say maybe i will be ready in 6 months or a year, a week earlier i wanted to see him but didnt hear from him so i said if ur busy just let me know. He text back right away yeah im sorry im with the boys. So my immediate response is have fun. Never any pressure. The next week which was 2 days before our talk. I was supposed to help him out with his car. I text to see when he was coming and he didnt respond so i was like what r u doing? y r u ignoring me, and he said thats what set him off. That if he doesnt answer it should be a given he is busy blah blah blah. I’m afraid to push the subject now considering how bipolar he can be.
July 12th, 2009 at 3:13 pm
hey sexy, aquas plans change daily pertaining on mood, unless it is a set event they must attend.
If you have have planned something as casual as that, make alternate plans for yourself that you can easily bump off. We get into new stuff every day that keeps us busy longer than we usually expect. When the day comes, text him saying hey I wanted to go do this other thing if your not coming over and you will almost 99% of the time get a response.
He was probably reluctant to text you back because he wasn’t or didn’t want to come over and knew it would turn into an argument if he said he wasn’t.
You have to be almost mind readers with us and stay one step ahead of the game or it’s really hard to endure us.
July 13th, 2009 at 12:04 pm
I have terribly judged my Aqua man, he is my eternal love, now we are separated, is it because of this he went away and is there a possibility that he will come back to me?
July 13th, 2009 at 12:59 pm
Hi there Smerffett,
Thanks for your comment. I don’t know enough about you or your situation to make a big comment on it but I will tell you that Aqua men HATE to be judged, I did it with mine many times in the beginning of our relationship and he would disappear for days!
They have oddly high principles for people so open minded. The problem of course is that they are easy to judge because of their weird, secretive behaviour, which in fact isn’t secret, just the way they are..odd..weird..and beautifully strange. There is also a huge chance he will come back to you, but at the moment he is licking his wounds. The best thing I can advise is that you let him know you love him, and then leave him alone. He won’t have forgotten you…but will be churning it all over, they are great thinkers but need a lot of space.
Hope this helped!
Love & Light
Becky
July 13th, 2009 at 1:06 pm
dear Becky,
I have been on and off with my Aqua baby for 3 years, he travels around, last 2 months, we started contact each other and so we decided to see each other,we went on a holiday in May, it was amazing being with him and I found myself in love with him again,and my feelings are so strong for him.
not long ago, he decided to come to me, but before he comes we had an argument and I terribly criticized him, in a way I thought that I hurt him.because he changed his mind not to come to be with me, I feel so bad…
so I called him asked him if I could come down to see him and stay wit him, he said no and told me he don’t see a future for me and him.yet he said that I should not be worried that I still have him and I didn’t lose him. I just don’t understand how he could just change his mind like that because he told me he loves me whenever we are together and he would be happy wherever with me, he cuddles with me all the time and took good care of me, it was all sweet, tho we had argument sometimes, but we could always be good and close to each other again.
at the moment I’m so confused and don’t know what to do.
Could you let me know what’s behind his acts.
I am a Gemini, and I’d say we are very compatible couple.
thank you
confused smerf
July 20th, 2009 at 1:02 pm
I love my AQUA female friend and she is in a spin
July 23rd, 2009 at 3:47 am
I went on a fabulous date with anaquarius man, we hit it off right away. We both have the same energy and enthusiasm. I took him to an outdoor concert and he love it. We spent the entire evening in my car just kissing and talking, and i forgot my car lights were on and my battery died. This date lasted 12 hours, we didn t want to do anything but kiss because we were both not into meaningless encounters. We both have had the same past in our marriages, and he had just borken up with someone 2 months ago, she had left him. He had a sparkle in his eyes with me the whole night and his heart was beating so fast. He was so sweet. and we had made plans for another date 2 days later. but he called and cancelled and asked me to call him so he could explain, so I did,and got his voice mail, and told him I had a great night. and then called again 2 days later to ask him what he wanted to talk to me about (which was why he cancelled the date.
I don t understand any of this, he didn t want to leave me in the morning when i dropped him off and now, I haven t heard from him.He disappeared. Is this normal, because I swore we had a connection. He made it clear he didnt want to have meaningless sex, because he hates it and so do I, and now I feel he completely got scared off by me.I do not call him. I was a little upset so I wrote a couple of emails, they were polite. He said he is now looking for behaviour then words because he has been deeply hurt 2 months ago after a nine moonth relationship. My behaviour should tell him, and I m smitten. Anyhow do aquarius men pull away, and disappear for good or do they come back.
July 24th, 2009 at 12:01 am
This website is so insightful on dating an aqua man. I am a gemini gal in love with an aqua male. I have learned to be very patience dealing with the different mood changes. We dated 3 months last year and then he walked away leaving me heart broken. He came back and I decided to give him a second chance. Now we have been together 4 months. I still tend to get very anxious when I dont hear from him or when he constantly tells me he loves me then goes quiet with emotions for weeks. My question is what is the best way to deal with an aqua going quiet? I have a hard time getting threw the push/pull part that aquas tend to do.
Help would be greatly appreciated!!
August 2nd, 2009 at 10:48 pm
Hi,
I have been dating my aquarius boyfriend for 4 months now. WE moved very fast and he was very adamant about making me his girl in the beginning. I agreed and it was great in the beginning but i noticed that he doesnt show ANY emotions and seems very nonchalant. I am a libra and i read that we are compatible but also know that i dont have patience and i broke up with him abt 2 wks ago for a combination of things. For a week i was missing him like crazy and then he called and said he missed me so much and wanted to talk abt things over dinner that weekend. I agreed and i told him i would call him the next day (tues)and so i did and he came over and we were very affectionate with each other and it led to sex. I got emotionally attached all over again and since then we talked maybe twice and now he is NOT calling me! I am not sure why and i simply DONT get it. I was going to call my bff told me not to and now i am sad and VERY ANGRY and hurt. Oh yeah and confused. we were suppose to hv our talk this wkd over dinner. Now i regret sleeping with him.
August 4th, 2009 at 12:23 am
i’m a pisces female i have tons of aquarian guy friends.. and i’ve always been there for them but always kept it in the back of my mind they aren’t for me.. it seems everytime they meet a girl.. she’s the one they are crazy about them and say they have never met someone like her.. till the next girl lol.. and now.. that i’m crazy about one.. it’s awful cause when he doesn’t call i’m thinking it’s cause he has that high w/ someone else.. i feel like if i don’t contact him.. he would never do it out of his own free will.. as much as part of me can see me being w/ this aquarian male.. the rest of me screams run.. there is no stabilty here.. i’m unpredictable as it is lol.. i try to desensitize the way i can do w/ every other guy.. but it’s not working lol..
August 4th, 2009 at 12:25 am
btw.. this guy .. it’s like a movie where someone thinks the phone may be traced so he knows exactly how many seconds he can stay on without being traced… he does this to me. and it sucks.. so he’s got all control.. it sucks.. the only control i have is to leave him alone.. and that’s even worse
August 8th, 2009 at 8:07 am
I’M A CANCER WOMEN , SHEEP @ THAT: i KNOW DATING A AQUARIUS MAN I FELL MADLY TRULY AND FAST THIS IS MY SECOND TIME, THE FUNNY THING IS IM AN EXTREMLY OUT GOING ADVENTEROUS MODERN FORWARD THINKING AND OPEN INDIVIDUAL, HE’S THE MORE QUIET HOME BODY TYPE, MY ISSUE IS WHENEVER I FALL FOR THIS SIGN MY ENTIRE CHARACTER CHANGES TO BE MORE LIKE MY TRUE SIGN: SENSITIVE, INSECURE, EFFECTIONITE, CARING AND CATERING BUT W/ OTHERS I’M NOT LIKE THAT WHY IS THAT. WHAT IS IT WITH THEM THAT DRAWS ME TO BE A TRUE CRAB, I MEAN I KNOW THAT I APPRECITE THE INTELLIGENCE AND HUMANITARIAN SIDE OF THEM THERE TRUE DESIRE TO HELP THE WORLD
August 8th, 2009 at 9:54 pm
I’m a cancer female. I dated an Aquarius man for 2 yrs. The problem was not getting together initially, but how he handled what he started.
I posted a comment on Aquarius man. But in reading the comments on this page I feel the need to say more.
I don’t think its fair to say all Aquarius men are alike. However, I do see so many common remarks made about them. For example: He is a total hypocrite. He even admits it. He simply said that it’s his nature. He used to say he was going to do something that I thought was mean or cruel and I would tell him so, but that he shouldn’t be get angry if I did the same. His reply to me was that he would be angry and that I should know better and know that he had the hypocrisies. Always a double standard with him!!!
He never ever gave me a present. Not for my birthday, which out of the 4 years we knew each other he acknowledged ONE! NO gift though. I always remembered his and would always have a gift for him.
At Christmas, I gave him a gift and he comes out with this ridiculous statement that we had agreed not to exchange gifts. And that I backed out of our agreement. At which point I am utterly confused, since the conversation never happened and since I know not to confront an Aquarius, I left it alone.
He never ever in 2 years of dating allowed me to go over to his house. Until of course he sold it and he let me see it unfurnished. I saw many selfish examples in him.
We would have plans to go out for the evening. He would cancel, of course, last minute. Later he would call me from a bar to say good night and see how I was doing but would then criticize me for staying home on a Friday night. NOPE. I never confronted him about it. I thought I was respecting his freedom.
He never answered my phone calls. I rarely called him. Then he would confront me about never calling him. What is that????????????
He would invite me to go places but then he would never follow through and never mention it again.
I just could not understand him. I thought it was just this man I couldn’t figure out. Always feeling the push/pull thing. I couldn’t seem to get a grasp. But I see now that I am not alone with this mystery!!
I think for him it is just a game. Entertainment. That it……..that’s what I was.
August 9th, 2009 at 8:09 am
hey im sorry about your problems in your relationship with the aquarius
im aquarius too im female
I think men tend to be a bit more extreme in all signs,
not all aquarius are like that tho its also has to do with his rising signs,what’s your sign
August 9th, 2009 at 11:26 am
the description here is not too accurate
far more entertaining were the answers
and yes we aquarians males are some really crazy fucks
August 9th, 2009 at 2:45 pm
@little impaler
you dont seem to know too much about life in genral and aquarian males in particular (were in so many ways different from you) yet you keep giving pieces of advice.
maybe its time you quit doing it, whaddya think.
ps@ all the arian girls out there, i love ya’all, youre the best in all the zodiac, the only ones to match our wit and soul
August 10th, 2009 at 8:35 pm
InRepair, that was no aquarian mystery, you dated an ahole plain and simple. They exist in all signs.
August 10th, 2009 at 8:53 pm
Thought I’d add another tidbit..if you’re not Gemini, Aries, Libra or Sagittarius you’re going to have a real struggle on your hands with an Aqua.
August 12th, 2009 at 5:15 am
Jerzi, I absolutely agree! But I doubt I will ever get involved with another Aqua man. Our compatibilities are clear and not a good mix. I almost fear that I will meet and be attracted to another, only to find out he is an Aquarius!
I don’t know if you read my post under Aquarius Man, where there is more to my story. I fear going through all that again. I also fear that I have this overpowering attraction to them and I won’t be able to look the other way!
Oh, and thanks for recognizing that he was an “ahole”!
August 24th, 2009 at 7:18 am
i will never be with an Aquarian male and I am an Aquarian female. Sure I have seen a few cute ones, but the rest are all too odd even for me. It’s like we both cannot be as weird as each other. I even feel uncomfortable around my Aquarian male friends. What the hell? It’s the one sign I won’t give a chance to. I would be with a non-compatible sign before I am ever with an Aquarian male. This isn’t out of hate either, I just don’t like it. It’s the oddest thing.
August 25th, 2009 at 3:18 pm
I’m an aquarius female and have lived an aquarian lifestyle VERY MUCH SO! I’m also left handed and an only child - I love and see art everywhere I go.. I have a vivid imagination and I’m always coming up with ideas or solutions. I can see from every point of view and consider myself somewhat of a chameleon. I love me SO much
Aquarius is like the sign that everyone should get to know! I guess the only problem is with long-term commitments… like 3+ years. The best relationship I ever had was with a Virgo (most comfortable), I’ve had a wild and hot relationship with an Aries (sexiest) who keeps calling me…10 years later. Anyway, but I’ve been with a Pisces for almost 2 years now and I guess I’m not on the same page with him, emotionally, but I’ve had emotional attachments before. I guess it’s because I need an intellectual stimuli to get turned on. I don’t know, but I am deligently looking for a site that says Pisces and Aquarius can last. I find myself confused a lot and I’ve never met a man with so many stereotypically feminine qualities i.e. overly emotional, shady, manipulative, dramatic, selfish, etc. Aquarius is the most awesome Zodiac of the bunch (I’m awesome in bed, too!) so why am I having such a hard time with this Pisces?
August 30th, 2009 at 7:44 am
I am a aqua female who recently started communicating with an aqua male. We are currently in 2 different states. We are finding that we share much in common including our desire to have our own “space”. We talk / text often, and laugh lots. We have agreed to take this slow and see what happens. I’m 42, he is 37. I am divorced, he’s never been married. He recently asked me if I would marry again. Why would he ask me this? Isn’t this out of the character of a aqua?? Also, do we stand a fair chance or are we to much alike to make it? What can I expect? Thank u in advance!!!
September 4th, 2009 at 2:18 am
Hi Jerzi,
Im an Aries, I know that Aquarius is perfect with Libra and Aries ladies but what is the difference between the libra and aries that aquarius like differently?
What does Aries have that Libra doesnt? Or other way around.. If you have an experience can you share it with me ,!
Thank you
bb
September 5th, 2009 at 9:31 pm
I don’t know if Aries and Aqua can last very long but the attraction is amazing. A Libra lady probably would be a nice ideal wife for an Aqua.
Just kidding! Go with the flow and see what happens.Are you seeing Libra as your rival? I know Aries is very competitive.He probably is attracted to your out going and fun nature but in the long-term , it could be too much head butting while Libra lady can still debate and charm him .I guess it comes down to your personality and the chemistry you guys have.Go with the flow and just be yourself.He’ll love you for that.
September 9th, 2009 at 10:42 am
Hi ,great site,it helps to understand Aquarius man.
I just met an Aqua man through a website we had 2 dates and I fell for him on the first.He asked for the 2nd date it was a day before he flew to a different country to work for 3 month.He said he wanted to stay in contact via email
but I have not heard from him,its 2 month now
Will he turn up again when he comes back?I thought he was fond of me at least .
September 13th, 2009 at 7:31 am
I been talking to this aquarius guy for 7 months now.we hooked up a couple of times
face.
And I just fell head over heels for him. I figured
Out how aquarius guys were so I kept that in mind
But this guy consistently and constantly kept contact with me
Till now. I been aloof cuz I held off my feelings. We hang out
When we did have the chance but what I’m really
stunned bout is thre fact he kept contactin me even
If I don’t txt he be like hello? Or show a
I kept my guards up there and recently found out
He likes someone else. It all kinna connects. I am
Really sad. He calls me his really good friend
But I feel friends wit benefits is all we been.
He kinna initiated the sex but we both clearly
Stated in the begin. We weren’t ready for a relationship
But sadly I fell for him. Now that I found out I’m the
One that isn’t communicating with him. I stopped txting him
Figured since he’s tryna pursue this other girl. I am really
Hurt :/ dunno if ignoring him will do good.? Anyone
Gimme suggestions thnx u
September 14th, 2009 at 12:15 am
i’m a pisces but……… confusedvirgogal do you really want to wait around while this dude is talking to someone else…… he already knows what you’re like…and how you guys connect and he’s choosing to show interest in someone else.. i know it hurts hun.. it sucks .. i’m with ya.. but try to move on .. i have alot of aquarian guy friends with all different moons.. but they are so emotionally detatched that it’s unreal.. they can really like a girl and think about her but talk to 5 million other ones just cause they live w/ their minds.. be happy girl.. inspite of him.. he might start calling you back and you might end up in this whole situation a few months from now .. only to finish off worse than you are now..
September 15th, 2009 at 12:11 pm
Hi Becky,
I have an Aquarius Boyfriend…I Love Him…But recently he got angry over a trivial issue…
I have read all what u wrote earlier as well and it helped me a lot in shaping our Relationship………Thank You for that.
But nowhere I got the Information to what to do if we have small fights…like even I said sorry……then his cold phase has begun…like I am busy ,can’t talk ,will talk later……..
Please tell me,what to do when we have small fight..
This is what I have done
1)Said him sorry on SMS
2)SMS on Faith and Trust………to show I trust him …and his Love and the Promises we made……….coz He has not done Heart to Heart talk after fight…2-3 days have passed.
3)Now normal Good Morning…Good Night SMS……….
“This is where my question is” Is it ok to send Sweet Good Morning and Good Night SMS even when we are not at normal terms……..coz wht i beleive in is that day is gone so wht point in carrying fwd tension in relations…….so just forget past tension and enjoy and live future..
Secondly ,I am a Gemini,I am very expressive and talk dirty …..wid him after all he is my Love…I asked him do u love it when i send Romantic SMS and Little dirty sms..he says he love them…..but he doesnt send…even ths is Ok..coz he feels happy…..so I feel good……
So Is it ok to be Romantic…….He Trusts me,Loves me .we will have sex after marriage…….we have decided…We are Loyal that’s for sure….
Please tell when he gets cooool mood…like whn he goes in his shell….shall i not message him ,email him to give space to him…wht if he foregts me …………or shall I message him ,to make him think That I was thinking bout him……I am confused…
Do Aquarians like pampering,Love,Care……
Please Becky,Can you reply soon…..so that I can act on our Relationship……….
September 15th, 2009 at 9:10 pm
Confusedvirgogal…
I have some advice, in my opinion I would let it go now!! Even if he starts calling you in the future, let it go and do not respond….RUN!! As if he is the plague.
My experience with the Aqua Man started off the same. He seemed to really be interested and probably was since we dated for 2 years. However, It’s been almost two years since we broke up and I am still heart broken. He wanted friendship from me but you hit the nail on the head with the comment of “friends with benefits”. And yet he has not yet replied to my last email of 8 months ago.
I look back and remember that in the beginning of our relationship(at that point nothing had happened between us) he was talking to this other girl and he was going to go out with her. He even told me about it. I was hurt because I thought he really liked me, but for some reason he didn’t go on their date. And I guess that made me the “lucky girl”. So, as I said, we dated for 2 years. During the 2 years I know he still talked with her and others. He would check girls out in front of me and also even mildly flirt with them. It always seemed as if he wanted to have an open relationship and see other women. He mentioned that a couple of times but he must have noticed my negative reaction and never said it again and as an Aqua that probably made him feel trapped and no longer free. I regret it now and wish he would have chosen the other girl. It would have saved me some major heart break and disappointment. So much negative happened in that relationship and now I doubt how honest and sincere he was with me. He treated me badly and maybe not on purpose but his Aqua traits for me (I’m a cancer) seemed brutal and really hurt me!!! I would tell myself that I wanted to live in the moment and enjoy this electrifying experience with this Aqua man. It was a feeling I’ve had with no other. But sadly, I now know that the pain I feel was not worth it. I feel used and very sad. Yet, I still miss him!!
I could go on and on because I am still “in repair” from that relationship. But that is my advice. I wish you luck!
September 16th, 2009 at 6:23 am
Hi there Alice,
Sorry to hear that you are having a few problems with your Aquarius man, I totally understand having been in the same situation as you many times. Although Gemini & Aquarius are great together on many levels it can take a good year for the to sort out their differences and find balance, when there is a problem.
The best thing (and only thing) to do is to give him some space..but also when you text him or message him just stick to telling him something about your day, something everyday, normal. Try not to bother asking how he is, the best thing to do is act like nothing has happened.
Don’t expect a heart to heart about what has happened, depending of course on the rest of his chart this won’t happen and bringing it up will only push him further away. This isn’t because he doesn’t care, it’s just his way of dealing with it, an unusual way I know, but there it is.
Alice, he won’t forget you, don’t worry. Just act like nothings happened and he will come around. Aquarius guys require a lot of patience from us Gemini girls, it is good for us though.
As for pampering, yes they like it, but not all the time. Don’t make the mistake of spoiling him in this way, he won’t be able to respond in the way you would expect and you will end up feeling resentful and bitter.
I hope this helps
Love, Light & Luck
Becky
September 16th, 2009 at 8:36 am
O Becky,
U are such a SweetHeart
Thank You ……..so much……for ur quick response…..
By God’s grace I have acted the way u said…..Thank God…….I didnt do anything stuuupid….
U are really toooo Good….I really wish Everything goes fine……between us…Please be always there …People like me actually need u ….and ur guidance ……
Just one thing more,daily one SMS is ok ….
or two SMS…. one Good Morning and one Good Night..to let him know that I thought bout him when I woke up and when i got to bed…which is a real case…Will this look clingy???
Shall I call him ??? coz most of the time he is busy .
He calls me once in 2-3 weeks.Shall I call him once daily ,coz when I call he rarely picks or talk for 20 secs only.
Take Care
Alice
September 16th, 2009 at 10:28 am
Hey Becky,
Just wanna Thank U and also Jerzi ,his post on April 17th, 2009 at 7:04 am was of great help….where he pointed the characteristics of Aquarius….
Jerzi…U too are really good …If u happens to read ths, Can you also tell me that do u like if ur girl pampers u,flirts wid u….and message u in morning and night …….and also calls u daily even for 2 mins.. but just to hear u…….
Take Care
Alice
September 23rd, 2009 at 4:29 am
Need some input! I’m an aqua girl who is friends with an aqua guy. He’s never said anything but I’ve gotten a pretty clear feeling that he’s had a bit of a crush on me for the last year. A month ago we started talking more and discovered we have things in common but since we’re both with other people, no one is going to make a move.
I thought we were cool with being friends but this week he kind of freaked out on me about how his girl didn’t know we were talking and how he felt guilty. He asked that we not talk anymore. I agreed - we’re both loyal-hearted aquas and when he confessed she didn’t know we were talking, I thought it should stop, too. (I thought she knew and was cool with it. Come to find out he’d never told her.)
HOWEVER I also know that aquas don’t give up friends easily. I felt bad about loosing his friendship but that’s because I was truly just looking to be his friend. Does his behavior hint at deeper feelings? Does it seem that his crush on me is still there and that is what is making him pull away? Thank you all, including my fellow aquas for your input!
September 23rd, 2009 at 6:36 pm
Oh, being an aqua female, let me also give some more insight on the disappearing thing and general aquarius behavior.
I disappear when my emotions need to be handled. I do a lot of art, blare my iPod and just think things through. Sometimes I only need a couple hours, sometimes I need a couple weeks. The most random things can set me off. Like when a girlfriend found out her hubby had racked up 20 GRAND in debt and ruined their credit, it really bothered me. I actually had to pull back for a couple days because I couldn’t understand how someone could do that to their spouse. My best friend and my Aries man were wondering why I was being so quiet but I was rapidly thinking through all of it, analyzing it from every different angle and all the internal mental work left no room for superficial day-to-day social interactions. I’m ALWAYS shocked and annoyed when my best friend calls to inform me that one of our other girlfriends is frustrated because she feels ignored by me. I think ‘how stupid and insecure, don’t they have anything better to do?’ but very few people are like me and I don’t want to hurt people’s feelings. So if they continue that behavior (read: twice behave that way), I push them away. If they would be cool and act as if the break was no big deal and only as short as a day instead of a week or a month, they would be my friend forever.
My aqua guy friend disappeared on me once only to return a week later when I didn’t chase him or contact him. It was a bit tough but I knew EXACTLY what was going through his mind and let it go to focus on some other fun things I was doing. You’ll be shut down HARD CORE if you chase/bother/nag when we need our retreat. It’s a total deal-breaker. When my aqua guy friend did contact me, what he said was incredibly revealing and well worth the wait! I’d not only been on his mind lately, but for an extremely long time. I also KNOW that aquas loooooove trying to figure people out so I would often word e-mails in a way that my honesty was plain to see but the words might have double meanings or there might be more. Aquas will chase if you seem to loose interest and break off to go do your own thing right as they are thinking of ending the conversation themselves. ALWAYS pick up on their vibe that they are about to hang up/let the e-mail conversation close and beat them to the closing. THEN get up and go do something - ANYTHING - and get proof. Take pics and post them on your blog or facebook (it makes you look interesting to us - you find fun things to do and we want to go with you next time). Go out and try a new restaurant, order something unexpeted and take a picture of your plate when it’s served. Jump back into a craft or hobby and have your project - finished or not - in plain sight. Go bake a batch of cookies or cupcakes with four different kinds of candy sprinkles on top and blog about what a kid you are inside. Just do SOMETHING TANGIBLE because while we will be able to read your emotions and KNOW you missed us, the tangible proof that you weren’t sitting around moping will throw us for a loop. We’ll immediately lavish you with attention to ensure we’re still on your mind. DON’T fall for this either! Be sweet but as you sense we’re once again getting confident that you want us, excuse yourself to go back to the exciting fun you had without us. AND GO HAVE FUN WITHOUT US! Fully knowing you’ve grabbed our interest. (Note: Some aquas may disappear again to see if you chase them. Proceed with caution. Wait a week and then invite them on one of YOUR adventures you’ve planned and are going to do with or without them. That aqua should be yours!) BTW, shopping is not a good activity. We already know you went shopping just to do something besides think of us and you probably spent too much money on things you thought would get more attention from us. It’s too predictable and KILLS our interest in you. Do something more UNpredictable. (An out-of-town shopping road trip with girlfriends is more acceptable. Or, even better, something where we KNOW people of the opposite sex would have been around to see you having so much fun without us.) It will give you something interesting to talk about when we reappear. And reappear we will when we get curious.
Also, aquas really DO have some special powers when it comes to reading people and knowing what they are feeling/thinking and we often send our own vibes back. I very much want to keep my aqua guy friend because in the tiniest of glances, we swap TONS of info. We’re talking nanosecnds of eye contact and I’m aware of his mood and his feelings. Things he would never confess and things that would take a 15 minute conversation to convey we swap in a millisecond. We can’t always block each other so we’ve had to accept that we’re going to know exactly how the other person feels and we show each other the utmost respect by not revealing it to anyone else. Luckily we’re both aquas so it’s not a big deal that I know he’s in to me and I’m kind of fond of him. Feelings aren’t right or wrong, they just ARE and this sign accepts that.
Just NEVER verbally reveal your feelings first. We LOVE a mystery and there’s nothing more appealing to us than falling in love with our best friend. You can’t hide the glint in your eyes and it’s all we need to see. Give us any more and you’ve lost our interest instantly. Feel free to flirt with us but then turn your charms on everyone around you, too. Other men, women, kids, babies, dogs - charm them all. It will make us wonder if we’re misreading your affection for us because you’ve NEVER TOLD US HOW YOU FEEL! It makes us curious and we’ll have to spend more time figuring you out. Meanwhile we don’t realize we’re getting so attached to you. The more we mis-read you and misunderstand you the BETTER!
Don’t deliberately play games - we’ll KNOW and we don’t like it - but honest vagueness is good. So are extremely random statements that make us think ‘where did that come from?’. For example, when your aqua guy disappeared and you went to a local fair/carnival/event, don’t just say ‘I went to the fair’. Interrupt him when he reappears and ask ‘Do you know any place that sells funnel cakes? I had one the other day and I’m totally craving another!’ This presents him with a whole new puzzle: WHERE did she have a funnel cake? WHERE was I? WHO was she with? WHAT have I missed out on? His answer may be a very cool ‘Uhhh….no, I don’t know of anywhere that sells funnel cakes…’ followed by dead silence but know that you’ve triggered his mental process. He’ll need a small retreat to work through these thoughts/feelings (a couple hours or a day) and then he’ll come back FULL FORCE to figure out what is more interesting to you than him. Again, don’t fall for it! You want him to feel LUCKY to be dragged along on the many adventures you find in life!
When your aqua guy disappears, you should immediately be online Googling the coolest, hippest events in town. Make a list and write it on your calendar then GO AND DO THEM! It’s okay if you missed us the whole time you wandered through the art festival. Don’t tell us that, just randomly quip ‘How hard IS it to cut metal with a plasma cutter?’ while he’s talking about something completely different. When your aquarius answeres ‘WHAT?’ simply add ‘I saw an art piece at a show that was made that way. Do you think it’s difficult?’. His stunned laugh or complete silence meas he’s realizing he can’t leave you alone for a second without missing out on everything fun and interesting!
We’re extremely difficult people to catch. It’s the ones who play like they don’t want us, that they’re completely immune to our good looks or they tolerate us tagging along on their adventures that end up keeping us forever. Best of luck to all!
September 24th, 2009 at 5:08 pm
To AquaGal:
WOW!!! You have just described the relationship with my ex-aqua man! Unbelievable!!!
However, in retrospect, It’s almost as if you wrote the “how to” and I followed to the tee! But sadly, my heart was still broken.
I’m a cancer with my moon in Aquarius, so I ‘GET IT’!! But what really bothers me now is that I feel consumed by him, after almost two years since our break up; The constant dreams I have of him, the fact that at any given moment, I find myself thinking of him.
What is that? Will I ever move on from him or is there something more to come?
September 25th, 2009 at 12:22 am
InRepair, I’m so sorry to hear that two years later he’s still haunting you.
We’re a rough bunch. We get inside your head, uncover your secrets and get distracted by the next exciting thing, never realizing the impact we had on you and the emotions we stirred. I can’t speak for your guy but if he’s unhappy, he may return. If he’s happy, he probably won’t. Even if he’s unhappily married, he’ll be too loyal to cheat.
If it makes you feel better, my aquarius FRIEND is giving me pretty frequent dreams but it’s no secret that aquas are in each other’s heads all the time. We’re just so darned readable to other aquas. I can’t imagine the turmoil if I was attracted to him or in love with him. I feel badly for some of the guys I left wounded in my teens.
I will confess the people that had an impact on me still cross my mind often. If you could somehow catch him in the right mood at the right moment, you might have a very small window of opportunity to be with him but be warned: he will be able to sense the two years of feelings that have been burning in you.
Is there more to your story? I’m curious!
September 25th, 2009 at 4:21 am
Hi,
I really liked what AquaGal wrote…My bf is also aquarius……….I understand thts their behaviour……..But for other zodaic its really tough,It hurts to see someone u love madly ..to leave u emotionally alone when u need him………..
Is the whole life with them a Chase Game and Reading his Mind and then what fits according to his zodiac we should act…..
This really hurts when u cant be ur natural self….u have to think smthng else,but do smthng else……………
Is this Love……..They want us to accept them the way they are ,but in the process they want us to be a totally diff person or Forced to be “Aquarian” like them…emotionally aloof……..
Just wanted to share wht i feel with my bf..
but again thts true…his looks,loyalty and true words of love with twinkle in his eyes make my heart ful of joy tht i forget all the pain…May b thts the reason still I am wid him………. coz I Love Him……….
Take Care
Alice
September 25th, 2009 at 4:43 am
Hey Aquagal,
Can you please solve my query…
like in my case my bf is reeeeeeealy busy sorts even on weekends ,like in He has to go to office or his home towm which is away…
we just talk on phone..and planning to meet next months,the question is,
like in my case my bf is 24X7 on my mind…I read it somewhere tht aquarius have their love on their mind ,like they also think about them all the time,its just that they dnt express often and have other things also to think about…
but somewhere Love is always on the back of their mind…is it True..or they think about them only when they meet or when they are less stressed or are free…
I also wanna knw ,like do they like daily Good Moring and Night messages and calls…Is it a good idea to ignore them to let them miss us…..
and any idea of type of gifts they like..
How do they express their love…
Thanks in Advance…..
Take Care
Alice
September 25th, 2009 at 5:58 pm
AquaGal,
YES, there is a lot more to my story! I’ve written some comments here and also under Aquarius Men.
To make a long story short here is the condensed version: We started off as friends for about a year before we got “involved”. We were both divorced and had no desire to re-marry. Our chemistry was unbelievable! Something that was out of this world (for both of us). We dated for 2 years and as I stated I could definitely understand most of his “disappearing” needs and moments.
It was all good until he informed that he would have to relocate for work. We talked about all of that and although vague, I think we both agreed that a long distance relationship was something we did not want. But it would be about 8 months before he moved and that is when his behavior changed. He was more rude than his usual. But then he would be soooo sweet. There where times I thought “OK, I guess this is the last time he will see me or call me” and other times it seemed he could not stay away from me. I could tell he was having an internal battle with himself but I never pried and let him to resolve whatever was going on in his head.
He told me he wanted us to stay in contact and we did for about a year or so, during that time he invited me to visit several times but when it came time to go, he would postpone my trip and ultimately on the last time I attempted to make this visit happen, he told me that he was in a new relationship and although he wanted to see me, he thought it was not a good idea.
So, I gave him his space, but he would still email and call. He would say things to me I thought might be inappropriate with him being in a relationship with someone else. And although they were only words and no actions it made me wonder if he still had feelings for me.
In any event, I have not heard from him in about 8 months, he never replied to my last email and I would just rather give him the option to do so or not. I do not want to bombard him with emails or phone calls, because if did, well, you know very well that it would just make him feel smothered!!!
I agree with you, he will know I am still missing him if and when we speak, which is why I have opted to lay low and see if he will respond to my last attempt to stay in touch.
Thanks for your comment and if you have more advice for me I would love to hear it.(read my other comments for a better picture of my story).
Thanks again.
September 25th, 2009 at 8:11 pm
Hi Alice!
Well, I’m at a disadvantage here because I’m a girl and have the same emotions as the rest of you. Still, it’s uncanny how much aqua guys and I have in common so here is my input:
BE COOL. Aqua guys are usually pretty ‘cool’ because they are quiety thinking of a thousand different things, including you, but verbalizing NONE of it. YES, you are in the back of his mind. He’s probably thinking very sweet things of you in fact, but he’s not taking the time to tell you. How would he explain that a sticker on someone’s car or an exit ramp sign somehow reminded him of you? No one thinks as much about everthing as aquas and we KNOW that we frequently over-analize things so we just keep our thoughts to ourselves.
If you know your guy is in to you, an occasional calm, random comment like ‘I saw {insert item} today and thought of you’ will let him know you care and are thinking of him too. Beware, he probably WON’T return the compliment but instead will ask you WHY it made you think of him out of curiosity. We don’t mean to be so difficult but just like a rowdy toddler wanting to explore every interesting thing in the world, we are naturally exhausting.
Good Morning/Night Messages & Calls: Okay, I’m a girl and even then, I think these would drive me nuts. An aqua guy would probably agree but we’re not all cookie cutter copies of each other. I DO like regular contact from my man during the day but we’re in a committed relationship - he’s already caught me. Aquas NEED time to sort through their thoughts without you. Keep in mind that we come back faster if we’re not sure you’re thinking of us. If you’ve been texting him regularly, stop NOW! By the fourth or fifth missed text from you, he’ll begin to wonder and maybe even contact you. DON’T FALL FOR IT! He’s testing to see how sure of a thing you are. If you’re still there, desperately wanting his attention he’ll sense the game you’re playing, realize the true chase is over and bolt. There is always another girl ready for a fresh chase. You’re going to have to figure out how to be that girl.
My Aries man snagged me by honestly believing I was always on the verge of beaking up with him and that I would disappear at any minute. The sheer fact that he’d decided to not fight for me or let me see him cry if I did ditch him left me wondering WHY. Why was he so immune to my obvious crush on him? WHY did he think that I would abandon a fun, new relationship so easily? WHY did he not understand me at all? In short, I have spent the last ten years reading him completely wrong at every turn. I never guess things right, he gets mad at the most unexpected things and his logic and reactions seem to be the polar opposite of mine. He’s a puzzle I’ve never been able to figure out!
Expression of Love: My guy has told me in the past that he KNOWS I don’t love him and he can’t figure out why I stay around. (Egotistical Aries, it’s always about them isn’t it?!!) We show love in waves. One minute you’re drowning in affection and gifts, the next minute you realize it’s been over a month since our last romantic night together. “Nice and steady” doesn’t describe anything we do. We jump rapidly from one thing to the next. Jump wth us and you’re in. Whine and we have to drop you because we can’t stand to be made to feel guilty. We’re so hyper-aware that we appear to be unaware and it kills us to hear that this has angered someone. But we’re too selfish to stop and invest the time in someone who sucks up our attention like a black hole, never seeming full. This is probably because we are black holes ourselves and it takes CONSTANT input to satiate our curiosity. We NEED someone who is strng and secure to be the rock we can tie our kite string to while we soar. Once you’re that person, you’ll have the ability to reel us in anytime you’d like. Even to make emotional demands.
Not Being Yourself: Don’t ever do this. No human being is worth it. If these things I mention aren’t your instinctive reactions and aren’t coming naturally to you, it’s probably not going to work. It’s difficult for me to play it cool when I’m waiting to hear from someone and that’s okay and totally normal. But if you really, truly need regular verbal and physical affection because that’s your personality - which is perfectly okay - then we may disappoint you. Every aqua I know is with a ROCK of a person. A serious, no-nonsense, confident, few-frills-required kind of individual.
Whether you are that person or not, I can PROMISE that you are on his mind. Even if he never admits it, you’re crossing his train of thought frequently!
September 26th, 2009 at 1:18 pm
Aquagal!!! I posted back on august 30, 7:44am and have not picked up a response. You seem perferct to reply seeing you are also an aqua female. Nothing much has changed for us. Except we seem to text 3 days per week instead of 5 and talk once a week now. He planned to come and visit next week but I have a wedding to attend and We both agreed another date would be better. So, the pace has slowed, he still states interest in meeting to see where this could go. I’m interested in him. I rarely initiate contact am I wrong?? Let him chase?!? Seeing that we are both aquas, where do we two AQUAS go from here?!?!?! Thx Aquagal!!
September 27th, 2009 at 1:50 am
Hey InRepair,
This is a cycle I am VERY familiar with. Let me assure you that you have gotten to him. You’re in his heart, you’re on his mind and he’s showing some pretty positive signs, even if you haven’t heard from him in months. All the back-and-forth before he moved was because he was unsure of everything. Probably over-thinking his relationship decisions. He didn’t want his hand forced but he was being forced to move and leave you. It hurt him. More than you know. Contacting you while he has a girlfriend means she’s probably bugging him (she’s not like you - she simply cannot fill your shoes) and he’s returning to what he needs and wants. But he will feel guilty for his actions and cut you off again to try and make up for saying inappropriate things while he was in another relationship. I don’t know why we do this to ourselves! We are SO influenced by our guilt but our curious hearts lead us to things that could be questionable. It’s so frustrating! I would guess that the 8 months of no contact is because he is trying to have other relationships and forget you. You have done VERY WELL with being calm, cool and collected which is why he’s probably cut off communication so he can make sure you’re better than everyone else. He’s seriously going to hit the market hard to see if there is anyone that can make him forget you. Problem is, your calm actions are perfect and the calmer and patient you are, the more he CANNOT get you out of his head.
Between us, just reading your reply hints that you’re EXACTLY the personality type to end up snagging one of us aquas. You totally kept your cool, let him figure out what he wanted and that is EXACTLY why he keeps coming back. He seems to know that you COULD and WOULD work well together if the distance and his ‘no serious relationships that lead to marriage’ idea would work themselves out.
Be sure to spend some time on you. Go out, date people yourself and enjoy life. I don’t want to give you false hope but there is a very good chance he may reappear in a year or two, acting like you’ve only been appart a couple weeks and he’ll seem certain that you’re perfect for him. Hopefully it happens before you meet someone else!
September 28th, 2009 at 2:09 am
HEY EVERYONE!
I want you to answer me honestly. When you’re around an aqua - good friend or someone you love - do they feel magnetic to you? Like seriously drag-you-across-the-room-without-you-realizing-it kind of magnetic? I’m trying to figure out if it’s just the combo of my aqua self and my aqua guy friend that causes us to move together nearly against our wills. I figured if everyone experienced this, it only required one aqua. (But my goodness, get the two of us together where we’re any closer than a few feet and I have to cling to the wall to hold my ground!)
September 28th, 2009 at 12:03 pm
Hey Aquagal,
well Thanks …Thanks to everybody out here..
Its sad,but yah my Aquarius bf broke up wid me…
The reason is he says he loves me….but his parents will never agree to our marriage…Its nt he ditched me……..coz the day he proposed he did tell that if parents dnt agree we cant marry……….
as we are from diff caste………we have nt been mad physicalyy…but emotional level we had dreamt our home,our honeymoon,wht he wants me to do after marriage….
he thinks so much…….he is very decent……
in my previous post i had written,we had fight,coz he talked to his parents for out marriage,but thngs dnt seem to work out.
so he has broke off.
Aquagal and Becky,can u plz tell me what shall i do…i dnt want to loose him,fr him it may b easy as he was emaotionally aloof………what shall i do……Can i get him back emotionally..
or have i lost him…Shall i text him …smthng to remember wht we discussed …loved…
just last try….
Alice
September 28th, 2009 at 1:28 pm
Hi Umichrn!
I’m happy to hear another aqua girl is feeling confused by an aqua guy! LOL! I was starting to wonder if I was the only one! They can’t stay away from us! They think about us all the time and you’re VERY lucky to get such regular contact from him!
I’d say let him chase. And let him chase you HARD! I’ve found that both being aquas means you either have a hard time being around each other from the beginning (read: you annoy each other quickly) OR you are so in tune with each other, you can practically carry on conversations across the room, just with glances! Sounds like you two are getting along very well. He wouldn’t keep such close tabs on you if he wasn’t interested! If you want him to visit, you might want to find a local/city event he might like to attend. Plan an adventure for the two of you - he’ll have so much fun and believe it’s all because he’s with YOU!
As for his question about re-marriage, I would say it was half curiosity (him asking whatever popped into his mind) and half him wanting to know he wasn’t wasting his time. Hopefully your answer was something vague like ‘I would consider marriage if it was the right person’ or ‘You never know what the future holds’. This would have been enough to satisfy his curiosity without giving yourself away or hinting at too much.
This is a bit off-topic but let me tell you about my aqua guy friend. He’s with a girl who has a vice-grip on him. She’s actually become visibly paranoid about who he talks to. He’s a playful tease (not quite a flirt but close) and she works hard to remain collected while shooting dagger-glances at whoever happens to be around him. Aquas need more freedom & understanding than that. I have SEEN him totally shut girls down who took things too seriously. He’s committed to her but she doesn’t seem to get it. She won’t ease up. I can see how it exhausts him and sends him running for any new interesting person to talk to. I know you aren’t like that but there is something about these guys that can easily trigger that behavior. Be on guard for it!
Best of luck with your aqua!
September 28th, 2009 at 1:36 pm
Oh, Alice, I’m so sorry to hear you broke up.
Luckily aquas like to keep friends. A short, kind message that says ‘I think you are a delightful person and would like to keep you as a friend’ should be all it takes. Then let him go. He’s going to need a LOT of time to sort this all out. If he disagrees with his parents, he’ll be back for you. (But in a couple months after he’s tried to date other people & figure things out.) If not, he will stay friends.
Believe me, if you have the emotional connection, it won’t break. You may not see him for six months but it will be like you’ve only been appart six days.
I’m sorry to hear it turned out this way. The best thing to do is to take care of you and start meeting new people again. Enjoy life!
September 29th, 2009 at 3:32 pm
AquaGal, thx so much for your reply. And yes, I gave that EXACT answer when he asked me about marriage. “If the right person comes along” (aqua minds; too funny). I’m going to continue to let him chase, and chase hard as u said, enjoy this and see where it leads.
Keep documenting, I enjoy reading every word u write!!
September 29th, 2009 at 6:23 pm
Umichrn - keep posting here, too! I am sooooo curious to see how a double-aquarius relationship works out!
Seriously, do you feel the MAGNETISM like I talked about in an above post? No lie, I’ve walked into a room, made eye contact and suddenly realized my body was turned and my feet were moving on their own in my aqua friend’s direction. It’s SO unreal! And fairly embarrassing. I’ve seen my aqua guyfriend do the exact same - turn to me then stop himself and re-direct back to his girl or other friends.
I keep saying this but it’s worth repeating: If you’ve caught an aquas attention YOU ARE ON THEIR MIND A LOT!!! For every one contact you get, I can promise you’ve crossed their mind ten to twenty times - maybe more. Aqua guys are almost female-like in their worry that they come across the wrong way. One aqua man told me he was a mental case around any girl he liked - he just couldn’t loosten up so he didn’t seem like his usual, joking self. No guy likes feeling this way so they make a bit of contact and retreat to deal with their love-struck “panic” (you know what I mean!) and don’t reappear quite as fast as you’d like.
There really is some TRUTH for both male & female aquas when they say ‘If the aqua acts like they don’t notice you or they don’t like you, they’re close to being hooked by you’. Oh, it’s soooo true! I may ignore most of my friend’s men but I’ll politely smile and engage in easy chit-chat if they ask me something. I’m quick-witted and able to tease and banter back & forth easily in these situations because I’m not interested in them. BUT if there is someone I have the slightest crush on, I become a blank-staring, distant, short-answering FOOL! I swear! It’s annoying. My wit disappears and I can only answer their most basic questions literally. ie: How are you? FINE. *long pause*
GAAAHHH!!! It’s a curse! LOL!
September 29th, 2009 at 11:44 pm
Hi Aquagal,
omg, your description of aquas was sooo dead on. You basically described my relationship with my aqua man to a T LOL. Especially about the disappearing acts. Thats one area I have trouble with the most. I don’t understand why they happen because they mostly happen when things are great between us or when we get close. When he dissappears I feel like he doesn’t love me as much as he says. I just can’t understand how someone who says he loves you wants no contact with you or ignores you until there ready. Then they come back like nothing happened (it’s soo confusing) But when he comes back I don’t nag or ask questions, i just let it go like you guys say.It’s just sooo frustrating.
What makes an aqua dissapear and how do you know if they really love you and are not playing mind games?
Thanks so much for the info. u wrote Aquagal It has helped me out a lot!!!!
September 30th, 2009 at 4:42 pm
AquaGal,
Thanks for the comments! I suspected what you’ve said is what’s going on with him.
I recall him making a comment, days before he left, that he sometimes felt that “this”, “us” could really work. He said thought we were compatible but that our timing was just slightly off. I was about to respond when he asked me to say nothing, that he didn’t want me to convince him he was right. I said nothing. But I think at times he has over analyzed, over thought and also worked very hard at convincing himself that because of our geographical situation and other factors (who knows what is going on in his head)at the time “it was, what it was” and therefore not workable.
I foresee that he will probably regret the outcome of our relationship and do feel he will eventually make contact. I don’t know how I will respond when that happens. But I will make no effort to initiate it. That will have to come from him!
In the meantime: I’ve been traveling, going out and trying to move on. But I have not yet dated anyone else. The others all seem to fall short of that chemistry I felt with my Aqua guy! Nothing seems interesting enough for me to say “OK, maybe”! Or even to accept a dinner invitation from someone I would be bored out of my mind with!
I think that is the Aqua side of me. I need to be challenged, intrigued, electrified and the chemistry MUST be there. I also need lots of space, privacy and the freedom to hide in my shell time to time.
The cancer in me longs for him, needs him, wants him! But mostly right now, I am haunted by him! I just wish I could go one day, just one day, without thinking of him!…..I’m working on that!!
Thanks again for your reply. Keep writting!
September 30th, 2009 at 5:46 pm
Angels2,
The disappearing acts range from person to person. I’ve personally disappeared when something else became very interesting (and I spent all my time doing it), when I had been having TOO much fun and neglecting responsibilities that could no longer go undone or when I’m stressed/upset/distressed by something. My guess would be that your guy might be disappearing to return to friends that are whining at him or to do things he’s neglected to take care of while he’s been lavishing attention on you. Occasionally, we pull back to make sure we’re not flooding the new relationship with too much affection. EVERY aquarius has ruined at least one relationship spark by being too affectionate up-front. It’s a very, very hard lesson learned. While we can’t resist pouring our love on you, we tend to stop the downpour short and pull back to ensure you don’t get sick of us. Meanwhile, you’re left wondering what you did wrong. The best thing to do is to NOT come running after us. Let us come back to you. It’s an intoxicating game we can’t resist and if you’ll play along, you’re much more likely to snag us!
How to know if aquas really love you: Geez, this can be tough. You’ll almost always see it in their eyes. If their eyes glisten and sparkle at you, they’re interested. If they appear dull, matte or flat in color, they’re getting bored. We’re people-watchers so if you catch us glancing across the room at you often, it’s a good sign!
Aquas slip up and reveal their inner thoughts on accident all the time so it’s THESE you’ll need to look for. What I mean is we’ll say things that sound like normal conversation but we’re accidentally revealing that we’ve been thinking of you A LOT. For example, if your guy says ‘I heard of this restaurant and I think you might like it’ he’s saying ‘The second I heard of this restaurant, I thought of you’. Or when he asks ‘What music have you been listening to?’ he means ‘My music reminds me of you. I want to know what you’re listening to so it can remind me of you, too.’ It’s very subtle but it’s THERE because we think about you constatly. It leaks out without us realizng it. Keep an ear up for these typed or verbal hints - in my opinion they’re the most revealing of our feelings!
October 1st, 2009 at 12:33 am
Be very careful about playing a chase game with us, because it can backfire horribly.
October 1st, 2009 at 12:36 pm
Wait, Jerzi, how have you seen it backfire? I’ve been chased off by guys that were too forward & clingy. I needed a bit more space. Aqua men seem to run even faster than I do when confronted with bold/pushy/brazen/forward/clingy women. You have info! You’ve gotta give us some details!!
It’s a good warning, though. Aquas don’t like GAMES (like manipulative mind games) but we like behavior appropriate for the situation. Match our level of interest/action and don’t reveal too much too fast. (That’s what I mean by ‘chasing’.) If we seem laid back, you be laid back. If we stare and smile, return some of the stares and smiles….but not a whole lot more. If we come to talk to you, talk to us! If you’re shy, at least give us a wink or let us see the twinkle in your eye! Keep us guessing a bit! This is sound advice for any early relationship I think. Remember, nothing is more appealing than someone who SMILES!!!!
October 1st, 2009 at 6:29 pm
hahahahahahaha.
l just had to write something after l stumbled on this site. every thing l have read is practically on point with my aqua guy. however l do not get the disappearing acts, when you have an aqua guy who really likes you, they let you know when they need space which has been my experience. virgos need a lot of space too and can be loners so that is no problem. you have to not call often, and give space and truly have a life of your own.go out and do things and tell him about them like off hand trust me they become upset that you had fun without them and become extremely affectionate. they like to take things slow and me and my aqua were best friends first as virgos like to go slow too. we are mad hot for each other and the make out sessions are HOT, L MEAN SWEET HEAVENS JUST SO HOT. heheheheheheh. just be patient with your aqua men and call them out on their bull. like he tried to be all aqua on saturday saying he needed space and l was like fine ill spend less time here and bounced and ignored him all of sunday and sent him a text to which he replies immediately. l ignore him on monday and on tuesday he sends a text about some scarves they selling near his place because l love scarves and l thank him and ignore him the rest of the day. l forget my cell phone at my friends place tuesday night and show up at his place wednesday night to say hi. he is pissed apparently he had been trying to reach me all day. he was so glad to see me and pissed at the same time it was so cute. needless to say that night was hot. so be patient, do your own thing, give him space and above all call him out on his bull, if there is something he is doing you do not like tell him in a calm logical way that he better stop being a twat. dont ever nag or moan. say it once mean it and move on. best thing to do is when you are feeling unsure with an aqua man treat him exactly the way he is treating you.hang in there guys aqua men are great. do not put up with their bull. they like strong women who have the ability to tell them where the fork they need to go when they not behaving like normal human beings.lol crazy, sweet aquas.they also love massages and are putty in your hands after one hint: this is usually a time to bring up a problem but in a rational logical way because they love if u can intellectually show they being an ass as opposed to being angry about it. one phrase l use a lot is l know you like to be your one mountain, i dont care and nothing moves me man, which is fine (this is important you not trying to change him but asking a favor. they like to be of service) but for me being that l am a separate entity and a woman with more emotional needs l would appreciate …….u being more affectionate, on-time,texting back e.t.c pls be short and sweet. dont drag it out. trust me your aqua guy is a king among men if you just understand him even just a little better. hope this helps. God bless. besos.
October 3rd, 2009 at 10:42 pm
Thanks for all the advice aquagal!! I will not play the chase game either, I have seen that backfire with others before, thanks jerzi.
October 4th, 2009 at 6:45 am
I have an Aquarian boy who has given me the strong impression that he’s interested in me, but he hasn’t made the first move, so to speak. Yet I’ve met his entire family; I worked with his mother before I ever knew him, and he introduced me to his brother a few weeks after we started “flirting” and most recently I met his father. Actually, Rick (the father) just turned and introduced himself to me, saying his son talks about me a lot and had pointed me out to him, so “he thought he’d say hi”. (Note that Rick is a Gemini) Is it telling or not that he 1) talks to his father about me, and 2) I’ve met his whole family? I’ve never found the men of this sign to be easy for me to read (I’m an Aries) and he’s becoming increasingly perplexing to my direct, straightforward and impatient mind.
Anyone’s input is appreciated.
October 4th, 2009 at 4:24 pm
Hey Alyx!
Thanks to his dad, you now know you have been on his mind A LOT!!! LOL! Aquarians tend to be fairly private with their thoughts, especially in the very beginning but we ‘leak’ all the time. His dad has not only picked up on this but has acted on his son’s behalf to communicate his interest in a polite but not-so-subtle way to you. Here’s my adivce:
1. MATCH HIS INTEREST LEVEL. Don’t be in-his-face bold with questions like “You flirt with me all the time. Do you like me?” You’ll give him an unpleasant panic attack! Instead, stare back, flirt back and SMILE! Smile at him frequently - any time you lock eyes. Let him know you don’t mind that he’s looking at you, talking to you, etc. If he talks to you and you can barely breathe long enough to blurt out a one-word answer, keep smiling! This is a clear but non-pushy way for you to signal your interest and invite him to make a move without being too foward. It’s going to be the behavior he’s looking for and the one most likely to make him act. Keep in mind that if he begins to flrt a little, YOU flirt a little! Try to match his interest level in the moment, letting your sharp Aries mind tell you what is appropriate for the situation. (Don’t flirt too much in front of his parents. He’ll be teased at home which most aquas very much dislike.)
2. His dad may have done you a favor but he’s embarrassed his son and he will probably tell his son what he did. Your aqua WILL react in his own way. Expect him to shy away from you to see how you handle this new knowledge (which, in his mind, SCREAMS ‘my dad pretty much TOLD her I have a crush on her’) His dad may also tease him so your aquarius will very much appreciate you making his feelings and his privacy a priority and not doing anything that would bring him any additional teasing. During this time it would be okay for you to initiate light conversation with him every couple of days, like saying hi, asking if he had fun at a recent event, etc. Be patient with him if he seems ‘different’ - like suddenly shy or completely disinterested or worse still - rude. Aquas will give you the complete OPPOSITE impression of what they are actually feeling to protect themselves. Take it as a POSITIVE sign if he’s a little unsure or strange around you. If he seems perfectly fine, he’s plucking up the courage to ask you out (after his dad told him YOU seemed flattered by Rick’s comment and interested in him) or he has instantly gotten over you to preserve his feelings. KEEP SMILING and cheerfully responding - he’ll come back around.
3. Be patient. He just had all of his cards revealed by his father. Had it been your dad telling him you were interested, the chase would be over. He would feel like you’re too sure of a thing and his fun would be gone. He might be afraid that you feel that way about him now. Remind him through your smiles and kind, patient female actions that girls and guys are different. You appreciated the hint that gave you the confidence to continue waiting on him to make the first move.
4. Every aqua I know secretly wants to meet and later fall in love with their best girl/guy friend. BE HIS FRIEND! If he ever mentions his dad talking to you, do NOT say anything like ‘Your dad gave me some interesting info!’ or other teasing remarks. Change the course of the conversation by saying ‘Your dad seems cool. Do you do a lot of activities together?’ Not only will this clue you in on things he enjoys doing but he’ll feel relieved that you didn’t seem to pick up on what his dad was hinting at and that his cover hasn’t been blown. This type of short conversation will leave him feeling certain that you’re friends, that you’re cool and that he should be head-over-heels for you!
Aries & Aquarius are a good match (I would know - I’ve been with one for 10 years!) so calmly roll with his moods, continue to be your usual self - as if his dad never told you a thing - and keep smiling! Let us know how it goes!!!
October 4th, 2009 at 11:59 pm
Aquagal-
thank you so much for the insight! It’s funny, because they were sitting right next to eachother when his dad struck up the conversation with me. Actually, at one point, he was sitting behind his father, kinda mimicking him (his dad likes to talk) and there I am trying to keep a straight face! The whole familys is pretty close, and the whole standoffish-ness thing makes sense with everything I’ve read. The last time I’d seen him out prior to the other night was about three weeks ago- he was quite flirty and it seemed like we might go back to his (or my) place to smoke (we’re both weeders) but then my brother showed up (which seemed to annoy the Aquarian)…
We also exchanged numbers about a month an a half ago, under the pretense of hanging out and exchanging music and last week I was feeling impetuous, so I called him and left a message. Since I hadn’t seen him out, I didn’t know if he’d been on the road or what, so I kept casual, saying if he was around and felt like hanging out to give me a call. He didn’t. When I saw him out the other night, though, he did apologize, saying things have been crazy with work and day trip shows…
The difficulty (for me) is his job requires him to travel A LOT; he left today and won’t be back until thanksgiving
but I suppose it’s good for him. Patience is not my strong suit, but it seems to be a central theme in my life, and thus far, he seems worth the effort required. We have so much in common, yet we’re opposites in many respects- its interesting.
Again, thank you for all the insight; it backed up what my gut was telling me, but we Aries are a bit insecure, and I’ve personally had too many experiences where I thought intuition was telling me one thing, but reality was completely different. And I will update when the boy gets back
October 6th, 2009 at 4:46 am
AquaGal, yes it will backfire, because you are telling a person to act and behave unlike themselves. You are going to make it a lot worse for someone in the long run when this isn’t who they really are by putting on an act. It can be disastrous if you can’t be yourself with an Aqua. Do not get into a relationship with them because you are both wasting your time.Think about if all them clingy guys played your game to get you then changed after a year into the relationship. If you want to waste your time sure…but I doubt most people would want to.
1. MATCH HIS INTEREST LEVEL. (I’m going to disagree)
Aquas love to be teased in a tasteful way.
You will know if we like you because you will find us acting in an almost strange way from are norm. Run up to us when you catch us walking by or staring at you and give us a kiss on the cheek and say you like me then go back to what you were doing. Our brain will go into overdrive with question after question that we will ask ourselves and you will get a kick out of watching us in a stupor.
2. We don’t get embarrassed about true feelings towards someone we really like. We already know you like us pretty much from the get go.
3. I say again do not play the chase game because it will utterly fail in the future.
Be adventurous, unpredictable, quirky and you will always keep an Aquarius’s attention for as long as you want.
4. Yes, every aqua wants the person to be everything..a best friend,lover etc. ,but never change the subject on an aquarian, they will become annoyed by this and probe you until they get what they want or get upset and leave your presence. If you think the aqua will be upset by the information they are probing you for, explain it to them in a glass half full way instead of half empty.
***Proceed at your own risk, you have been warned***
October 6th, 2009 at 11:47 am
jerzi-
thank you as well for the insight. I’ve read many of your posts, and I’ve gleaned a lot of information, though there are certain things I’ve learned about [my] Aquarius which doesn’t exactly jive with what either your or Aquagirl have said, but that’s to be expected given that everyone’s natal chart is different…
The whole “acting strange” thing certainly applies to him. After he first introduced himself (which he did in a rather proper fashion, which is surprising this day and age) he was very flirty, complimenting me, kissing my hand goodnight, etc… but no follow-up with a date or some innuendo of a hook-up (which is what happens to me most of the time) which all threw me for a loop. When I had decided that this guy was interesting and gentlemanly enough to be interested in, he cooled off. Then when I figured he was just being a flirt and that’s all it was, he started coming around again. Since then, every time we’ve had a really great time, an awesome conversation or things started to get interesting, he backs away. Then the dad thing happened, and now he’s on the road for a month and a half.
He’s told me briefly about his ex-fiancee and from my understanding by what both he and and others have said, is he was burned bad, and I have to wonder how much that does or doesn’t play into how he acts.
Regardless, my intuition tells me he’s interested- the man is always aware of where I am when we’re in the same place (usually at our favorite bar) and any time I look at him, he’s already looking at me. Though much of the time, it’s me initiating conversation, often about music (we’re both audiophiles and like to control the jukebox)
If nothing else, he’s an excercise in patience; seemingly everything in my life right now is some sort of lesson in patience, and with him not being around for me to dissect, disseminate and analyze him, to see how he reacts to things, well…. that’s difficult.
(it should be noted that we Aries have a particular difficulty in the whole “playing games” department. we’re too straightforward for that sort of coquettishness)
October 7th, 2009 at 6:28 pm
LOL! It’s so true, see how different us Aquas all are?!! Personal hisory, experiences and other factors will always come in to play to create an individual’s personality. I WISH it was as easy as figuring out their zodiac and knowing what the person is like! But it’s really cool that there are several of us on here representing many different facets of the Aquarius! Hopefully between all of us we’re giving everyone some good insight and they can find some similarities among their Aqua and all the bits of info we post here. I think it’s awesome to have two completely different Aquas posting opposite viewpoints - it’s helping me understand other Aquas very well! Very cool site!
Random thought not at all related to Aquarius:
Okay, here is something I have noticed from years and years of observing dating, listening to people talk about dating experiences and flat-out asking personal questions because I was curious:
If the person you are after is normal-to-fairly attractive, they are probably going to respond favorably to obviously flirty, straight-forward cues. (Like the peck on the cheeck & honest confession that leaves their head spinning! So sweet!!!)
However, if the person you desire is honestly God-blessed GORGEOUS, they know it and have been over-pursued. Forward, blatant approaches happen so frequently for them that they have become an annoyance. Please believe me when I say they are intrigued beyond belief by the person who seems to “not notice” they are gorgeous. Perhaps that person truly doesn’t find them attractive or they figure the person is out of their league and give up before ever even trying. Either way, I’ve seen it happen a dozen times where the beauty (male or female) ends up with the sweetheart who originally never thought they would get him/her.
I can’t tell you how to play the game because it’s not a game. It just HAPPENS. Their personalities match, their behavior is what works for the other person and they just click. Actually, this is true for most relationships. I have a couple of married friends who successfully employed some chase games & strategizing IN THE BEGINNING for the people they ended up with but most just met, liked each other, dated at some point that year and fell in love.
Still, I WISH I could have told myself everything I posted above. When I was younger & dating I was much too forward, too impatient and over-thought all of it. (I don’t know about young guys now but ten years ago most 18-30 year old men still enjoyed “the chase” of figuring out if a girl they liked was interested in them.) My advice is based on what I did wrong and what I have done right. My Aries guy is the opposite. He was too shy, too logical and only made moves when the girl was sweet, smiling and showed a bit of interest. All the while he was daydreaming about a pretty girl who would be forward enough to chase HIM!
If you click you click. If you don’t you’re forcing it and like Jerzi said, that will come out in the future. But if you want to know what to do in the MOMENT so you don’t scare your Aqua away, I think we’ve both given some great advice! Custom suit the info to best fit you! And keep posting! This is really a lot of fun and beyond fascinating!!!!
October 7th, 2009 at 10:26 pm
Hey Jerzi!
Some of the things you’ve mentioned seem right in line with the personality of my aqua guy friend that I’m trying to keep as a friend. I wrote about it above and have kind of figured out a few more things but my big question is:
What is he going to tend to do & think as we get these crushy feelings out of the way and all be friends? We’re able to read each other pretty easily so we’ve had to be honest and we want the same thing (all four of us to be friends) but dang it! We’re positively fascinating to each other and could talk all day, which pisses off our spouses - no matter how truly innocent the talk and the intentions.
Um, one more question. I refused to look/glance at him last time I was around him although I was my usual nice self when he talked to me. I thought this would help but I think we both missed ‘talking’ across the room like we usually do. I probably frustrated him, huh?
October 12th, 2009 at 6:05 pm
Hi Aqua.
If you refused to look or glance at him then you feel you are doing something wrong by talking to him in respect to both of your partners. It’s either you feel guilty or that you’re doing something wrong.I really doubt it feels like you’re doing something wrong because if your boyfriend didn’t have an issue with you talking to him, I doubt it would be an issue for you.
Aquarians are all inner connected in some way.
When two of them are around each other it’s like a word doesn’t need to be spoken to know what the other is thinking or feeling. It is kinda like finding yourself in someone else and it fascinates you to no end because they get it. You will find yourself on the same wave length as them and not asking yourself a million questions when you speak to them like you do with other people.
Another problem with aquas in a relationship is that the other will know everything without having to ask you or showing you just by sensing it or watching your facial expressions.
We can hide most of our thoughts from others ,but with an Aqua you can’t and sometimes you just don’t want to share them.
The last thing is when we go into our moods and they happen at all different times for us, we will usually never get what we need out of the relationship, but a constant battle. We understand what is happening with the other aqua, but we can’t time the mood changes and we are usually in the direct opposites of each other.
With Aquas to much of anything is a bad thing, even if it’s with another aqua. Don’t mistake the crush feelings as someone being almost identical to you. We have a hard time controlling the time spent on something new and interesting, but when we spend all of our time on it, it becomes quite boring after a short period of time.
Acknowledge that both of you are Aquas and this is where the inner connection is coming from and try to not play the intriguing games with each other. I doubt your boyfriend knows why you talk to him so much and I can’t blame him. If an Aqua can’t put constraints on themselves in regard to things that we find exciting and stimulating to us, we will be bound to travel the world alone forever.
You know exactly what he thought when you chose not to look/glance at him because he thought the same exact things you thought about what he would think. Turn it into more of a brother/sister relationship instead of trying to purposely ignore the situation.
Don’t play the I’m going to act a different way game. If you need to say something to him then just say it..it’s basically like talking to yourself.
October 12th, 2009 at 6:46 pm
One more thing to everyone, please do not use these tips on Aquas to “Catch” or “Hook” them.
I know myself and most Aquas are the most unpredictable,confusing,intriguing,mysterious and the hardest individuals to understand on this planet, but please use this information as knowledge to understand them and what kind of things you will be experiencing with us.
If you can’t handle us, please don’t change yourselves to adapt to us or use this info to play us.
October 12th, 2009 at 7:57 pm
Jerzi, you are SO right! I feel guilty because I didn’t realize how posessive his wife was and as soon as I was aware, I felt like I’d somehow done something wrong. Like I was back-stabbing her in some way by finding her husband mentally interesting. (It’s my GUILT that makes me so loyal! Perhaps several of us are like that?) I’ve been completely honest with my hubby - down to the unspoken awareness of feelings - and he’s understanding and fine with us all being friends. As ridiculous as this sounds, all four of us are attractive people so I’m trying to make sure everyone is happy, no feelings are hurt and outside friends don’t get the wrong idea. Really, I shouldn’t worry about that other stuff so much but we’re cursed by our own over-thinking sometimes!
You’re right, it is really easy to see self-similarities and confuse it for a ‘crush’. I have absolutely no intentions of chasing/harassing/stealing this man in any way. BUT I do want to keep him as a friend and hearing that his wife is unhappy with girls that try to keep in touch with him as a friend makes me feel like I am putting him in a possible situation where she would get mad at him and - as he should - put his wife first and never be able to speak to me again. You made me realize I need to use some of that Aqua love & caring to ensure his wife feels loved & respected. If she’s secure then there would be no reason for an ultimatum later.
I’ve been worried about this and holding back, choking on my own shyness and coming across as cautious, rude and who knows what else. You said exactly what he would: Say what you need to say and just be yourself. Damn, I kind of did have a crush on him. Will focus on brother/sister relationship. THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH for the response!!!
October 13th, 2009 at 7:53 am
“As ridiculous as this sounds, all four of us are attractive people”
Three of the people are either Aquarian or Aries, so that’s pretty much a given.
From reading all of your posts I sense you are still on the journey that all Aquas take and I don’t think you’ve found your destination yet.
I don’t know any guy especially an Aries that would be ok with their wife having a crush on another guy and being constantly engaged with them. When I was in love or with someone I really cared for, I felt no kind of attraction or crush for any other person.
You should really evaluate why you are having these type of feelings for someone else other than the man you vowed to spend the rest of your life with and make choices accordingly.
October 13th, 2009 at 1:38 pm
You were exactly right before - I was feeling the surprise & interest from “finding myself in someone else” and confusing it for crush-like symptoms. As if my brain thought any interest directed towards any other guy automatically meant ‘crush’. As soon as you pointed that out my brain clicked and made the change. We saw them last night and sure enough - NO crush feelings!!! He suddenly FELT like a brother or cousin or something. It was SO NICE and I was much more myself. He noticed and seemed a bit surprised by it but didn’t say anything - I could tell he was filing it away to think about it later.
Yes, my Aries has a jealous streak a mile wide. He had accused me of a crush a couple weeks ago and even then, I told him that word wasn’t right. It wasn’t a true crush - just mental interest. In the ten years we’ve been married I’ve never had any feelings beyond noticing someone else was born attractive and leaving it at that. Believe me, this frustrated me way more than anyone else! Like half of me knew all along that it wasn’t a ‘real crush’ but the other half wouldn’t listen and kept responding as if it was. REALLY annoyed myself with this one! LOL!
I *NEED* my Aries. He’s irreplaceable to me. Sure, after ten years together we’re having to work to keep the romance alive with dates & special evenings, etc. but that’s hardly the issue. My guy keeps his feelings locked up tight and he is borderline IMPOSSIBLE for me to read - and believe me, I can read people. Stumbling across another guy whose feelings were transparent made me wish my guy was the same. We’ve talked about that twice and this whole situation has actually been wonderful for opening even more lines of communication, generating trust and bringing my hubby and I together.
Jerzi I can’t thank you enough for your input! Really, the things you said helped me organize my thoughts & feelings back in the order they belong. Well done!
October 17th, 2009 at 3:25 am
Hey everyone,
I’ve been reading alot of post on this site about aquarius men and it has definately helped me in my relationship with my aquarius man. We’ve been friends for 6 yrs. (never had the opportunity to be in a committed relationship) and have always been romantically interested in each other, however we haven’t been in a “committed relationship” thus far, but we’ve been with each other in a relationship without discussing a “title” for 2 yrs. My aquarius has been through alot emotionally within the past 2 yrs. and he has confided in me. About a year ago he began discussing marriage and children with me (He always started the conversations, not me!) and 4 months ago he told me that he love me. I knew he wasn’t speaking in a “friendship” manner because he began talking about how our life would be if we had children together. Throughout this time, I have noticed that he becomes distant physically and I begin to wonder about him. After his “disappearing acts” he acts like a man in love and sometimes confesses how he truly feels about about me without thinking, and without warning he becomes distant again. What is up with him? I noticed sometimes he becomes distant after confessing how he feels about me emotionally and other times not. He has also condfided in me about things that he says, he has never told anyone. I’ve also noticed that he literally knows every single aspect of my life in detail (Hell, he could probably write a book LOL!!!) I know aquarius men are emotionally detached and enjoy time alone (currently he is on one of his breaks), but is he actually in love or are his emotions deeper than he would want me to be believe??? BTW, there have been 2 instances where I have moved on with my life, completely forgetting about him and literally out of no where he appears because he has “searched” for me…this has shown me that he’s no ordinary “friend” or that he wants more than just a “friendship” but he is too afraid. Please tell me… am I right or is he really and truly in love?
October 19th, 2009 at 3:30 am
Sounds like we need to hear from Jerzi again! He’s been right all along on my aqua friend.
Yet another question for you:
Brother/Sister relationship attempt going pretty well from my end. Unfortunately aqua guy friend is now acting unusual. Here’s the deal:
He goes out of his way to say hello and be polite towards me, especially if I’m distracted, feeling shy, ignoring the guys and talking to the girls, etc. But if I say hello first he goes distant/shy/aloof really quick. But immediately afterwards he will glance at me and his eyes are wider, BURNING with some emotion I can’t pick up on and don’t understand. Like a combination of “pissed off” and frustration mixed with curiosity. I can tell he doesn’t want me to know what he’s thinking and feeling so he quickly masks it with a type of ‘fake’ anger that’s not really even anger at all. Just an easy emotion to hide other emotions behind. (I keep wondering if I’m annoying him by saying hi but then as soon as I’m certain I’ve done something to ruin his entire evening, he’s back to normal and chatting right along with me and the group like nothing ever happened.)
Okay Jerzi, I’m going to be totally honest with you here. The first time I put the brother sister idea to work and felt free from my half-crush-whatever-they-were feelings we had this mental exchange in the middle of a verbal conversation:
Me: Asked a verbal question, looked at him waiting for a response.
He: Locked eyes, held my gaze calmly while he thought about his answer. (It was about exercise, BTW)
Me: Noticed his eyes weren’t sparkling at me. Tought “He doesn’t like me like that any more.”
He: Broke the gaze first when I heard his mental alarm go off, telling him to look away now.
Me: I froze - eyes on his which were averted for a half-second - while I checked my mental alarm, wondering if I’d stared too long. No, and I realized his mental alarm was shorter than mine. Interesting.
He: Felt my gaze still on him and shot me a questioning glance back with the thought “You still like me???” He was surprised and almost accusing at the same time. Like I’d fooled him.
Me: So surprised by the clarity of the question in his mind & eyes that my eyebrows actually shot up as I thought “Should I NOT look at you? It hasn’t even been that long.”
He: Saw my eyebrows shoot up and misinterpreted it as me wanting an answer to my exercise question. He clocked my mental response just a bit too late and filed it to think about later so he could keep up with the verbal conversation. I looked away, down at the ground actually, fearing that he might think I was madly in love with him or something. This ENTIRE exchange took place during the space of 1.5 to 2 seconds. Not long enough for anyone else in our little chat circle to even catch it. (Aquas are freaky aren’t we?!! LOL!)
Later he came to tell me he was leaving and although he was saying an I-couldn’t-care-less sounding “see ya later” aloud, the warmth of the wordless vibe he hit me with nearly buckled me at the knees. I wasn’t looking him in the eyes at the moment so I don’t know if it was intended or not. My instinct was to hide the effect it had on me - pulling myself under a cloak of fake indifference and saying “Okay. See ya.” as I walked away to escape the panic I felt. He partially saw through it but let me go. He did step in a little closer to me on purpose when he said good-bye. I caught that he wanted me to know he was sad to go when I’d been so unexplainably calm and personable that evening. (Brother/sister thing that was working for me.) It was when we were close that he overwhelmed me with the warm feeling. Usually we don’t dare get very close to each other. I have no idea if he meant to send that overwhelming vibe or not. I suspect it accidentally slipped from him while he was trying to convey the ‘You were different tonight. Calmer. Yourself. I liked it’ thought.
I poo-pooed the “warm” feeling away as being my imagination/my own reaction or something. Nothing else he did was emotion-laced. Just the good-bye thing. Now after being around him a couple more times he seems like he’s seriously fighting himself. His fake anger is for the same reason as my fake indifference, right? To hide the emotions I’m unintentionally stirring in him? Against his will and without his mental permission, he’s fallen in love with me and he’s fighting it, isn’t he?
October 25th, 2009 at 1:18 pm
ladyinlove…Aquas fantasize about the perfect world. It includes everything you have mentioned in your post. The thing is when certain events happen in the relationship it can change an aquas perception.
If you want to know, ask point blank “What do you want?”, If he has to think about it for more than a few seconds, he has no clue. Tell him what you expect and if he can’t meet your expectations find someone who does.
October 25th, 2009 at 1:50 pm
Aquagirl…”he’s fallen in love with me and he’s fighting it, isn’t he?
You should ask yourself the same question, you’re infatuated with this guy and he is probably infatuated with you. Aquas don’t examine someone like that unless they are really interested in them.
You guys need to have a serious talk, because it’s not healthy what you two are doing to each other.
Someone is going to wind up getting hurt, angered or become rude and distant. You’re both in committed relationships and it’s really not fair or healthy for any one of the four.
October 28th, 2009 at 12:59 am
Let me tell you, if you get one toe out of line an aquarius man will let you know. But if he flirts, digs for complements and subtly hits on you it’s okay so long as you don’t tell him you know what he’s doing. I made that mistake. Aquarius player decided I was too aware and too dangerous to have running off to tell his girlfriend so he cut me off cold and cruel. Simply because I asked if he was being flirtatious on purpose. If you get an aquarius man you’ll worry yourself wrinkled about what other women they are talking to and flirting with. If you are one of the unlucky women they find interesting, it will be a very fun month or two of great conversaion with someone you think is a cool new friend and then they drop you like a bad habit out of the blue. Because you did one small thing wrong in their book, like ask one question they suddenly deem too off-limits. All the ladies here are right. Totally interesting but dangerous! They need boring, grouchy people to hook up with. They are the only ones who keep them.
November 1st, 2009 at 7:06 pm
Frustrated
Aquarians are flirtatious by nature in other peoples eyes, but it is our normality.
I think you might have left some parts out of this story.
You will notice that we have a hard time being normal and “flirtatious” as you said around people we are interested in as more than a friend. You will be cut off if we sense that you or we are having any other type of feelings besides just friends. It has nothing to do with running back telling our partners that we are friends with you. Every person in a relationship with an aqua knows how outgoing they can be and a lot of people just can’t handle it for whatever reasons.
As for your last comment saying that they need boring and grouchy people to hook up with I’m suspecting you were talking about his partner only leading me to believe you were interested in more than being friends, hence the part about leaving some parts of the story out.
A boring and grouchy person would be the last person you would normally see us with.
November 1st, 2009 at 11:23 pm
Thanks for the advice, Jerzi.
November 3rd, 2009 at 5:15 am
no problem, ladyinlove.
Aquas will become distant if what they are saying has not been fully thought out before they said it, they use this time to fully evaluate. Try your best to convey to him that it hurts you when he becomes distant and you want him to be open with you. Explain that you will be understanding of anything he has to say or what his current feelings are.
I’m an aqua and I know that I could never handle someone such as myself. It takes a very strong willed and devoted person to deal with an aquas mysterious ways.
November 14th, 2009 at 3:40 am
Hello there everyone, yes this website sure is helpful! Thank you Jerzi and Aquagal for the advices.
I have a question and would really appreciate it if either one or both of you would answer.
I have known this Aquarius guy for a year now, at first he only looked at me as a friend and thought i was cute (what he’s friends told me) but now he’s falling for me, and he has said it out of the blue “i love you” with a big hug, now i know he means it…
My question is..he has asked me to the movies a few times but flaked out on me..the day comes and no call and no txt…this has happened few times and he’s not my boyfriend yet…why does he do this? i know he doesnt mean it, because he apoligized once and i could tell he really meant it…he was very emotional…is he afraid to hang out with me? i mean i see him at college and he always comes to see me after my class and we talk for hours…but when it comes to hanging out outside of school he gets scared and disappears…why is this?
Thank you in advance for your answers.
November 17th, 2009 at 1:24 pm
i am an AQUARIUS AND MOST OF WHAT U HAVE WRITTEN is true , i am very unique and many ways ,, and do hate feeling caged in sometimes i need to be free. and i get frustrated cos i dont understand why my husband doesnt KNOW WHy im feeling this way , and sometimes im on my own lil planet at work it feels as if im on mars lol lol im very dreamy and dream alot .. and i do always stick out like a sore thumb with the way i dress in a good way ofcourse im a good dresser .. but i always felt as a kid something was wrong with me and i was very differnt from others.. but i know im just SPECIAL in a very unique sort of way
November 17th, 2009 at 5:59 pm
So…I still have not heard from my Aqua guy! But I wonder why he has not blocked me from Instant messenger, so that I can see him when he is online? It is obvious to me that he does not want to keep in touch……..10 months have passed since I last wrote to him via email. He never replied to it.
My question is: Why wont he erase me from his contact list? The opportunity is there for him to see me (or me him) online. Am I reading too much into this? Because I am about to go mad with the wondering. I’ve stayed invisible online, but I can see him when he briefly comes on. I don’t know what I would say and I fear the tension would be obvious and any chance of staying in touch would be gone if he reads my emotions. (which I’m sure he could)!
And why do I care? Why does he haunt my thoughts so much? Still dreaming of him, random memories pop in my head in the most inopportune moments.
Any advice any one?
November 19th, 2009 at 6:13 am
Hi Leogirl.
It’s because he doesn’t know how important it is to you.
Aquas base their plans around importance, even if they go ADD for awhile doing something else.
We don’t usually keep track of time, but when we need to be somewhere or do something that is important our internal clock with constantly tell us. You have to make it important to you or it will be of low importance to us.
Here are some pointers to say…
“Going to the movies with you is going to be so much fun.”
“I’m really excited to go see this movie.”
“I’ve been waiting for a movie like this forever to come out.”
Reminders like this, when you talk to us, will reinstate how much importance it has to you.
You will constantly see us just looking into space daydreaming, but be assured everything you say is being recorded by our 2nd brain. It’s actually like we have two people living inside of us. The daydreamer and the other part that is connected to reality. The part that is connected to reality has a higher authority in our daily lives based on importance and will tell the daydreamer to wake up and what to do. You will notice even as a daydreamer we can pretty much tell you everything you said even when you said you didn’t or be amazed of how much we retained when you thought we really weren’t listening.
November 19th, 2009 at 6:36 am
Hi Inrepair.
Aquas won’t block or erase someone who hasn’t harmed, hurt or bothered them in some type of way.
You said he was in a new relationship and the more committed he became to it the more innapropriate it was. If you can’t handle just being friends with him I don’t think contacting him would be the best idea. If you can’t just log on and say “hi” and ask how he has been and leave it at that you should do yourself a favor and delete him from your contacts because you are making it worse on yourself. If he’s interested in more than just being friends he will find you or get in touch with you somehow.
Please don’t wait around and injure your mental state because of it, Go out and enjoy life.
November 26th, 2009 at 8:09 am
Help I have fancied an aquarian guy for 3 years now. We meet each other every night when walking our dogs. We became friendly for a while and arranged a date which he did not keep. He seems to be everywhere I am. I wrote him a few letters but the last 2 have remained on his hall floor unopened. I have stopped going the same places but freinds have told me he is still there looking for me we havent spoken in some time I Know he had a long term relationship which went very badly wrong, and a hard upbringing. We do have a connection but I need more, and feel really let down when I know he really goes out of his way to see me but then ignores me.
November 29th, 2009 at 5:56 am
Jerzi is always right! It’s wild but he’s dead-on when it comes to aquarius men. I’m very much looking forward to the day when I know myself that incredibly well.
Listen to him and take his advice very, very seriously. You’d be wise to follow it.
So…I pulled back from my aqua guy friend and had him blow up a couple weeks later. (How did he expect to explain all the non-verbal conversations to my husband who thinks we’re both nuts?!!) I never got the whole story but it sounds like aqua guy’s guilt overwhelmed him and he handled it the best way he thought: by calling hubby and gently blaming me for “making him feel awkward”. His wife can be mean and my hubby is much more calm so I have to agree that me as the scapegoat was easiest, even if his wife is out for me now! We have seen them a couple times since and everyone acts like nothing happened but I couldn’t look my guy friend in the eye. (I hurt myself, it wasn’t his fault, but when I’m really hurt I can’t make eye contact.) We had to miss a big party with them and afterwards guy friend wouldn’t look me in the eye…of course that was just as I was starting to get over my self-anger and returning to my normal, happy self.
Jerzi, now what do I do? All four of us said we want to all remain friends and at the very least maintain the guy-guy/girl-girl friendships with each other. No lie, the both of us aquas felt guilt over SILENT GLANCES at each other because we knew there was attraction. Never ever did we touch/hug or do anything at all! Even conversations or e-mails that seemed ‘flirty’ to us are boring banter to other’s eyes. (Funny how we ‘flirt’ like mad with everyone then go deep & serious with the people we care about, thinking it’s ’so obvious’ our sentences are loaded when to the rest of the world it looks like we showed some restraint for once!) What on earth do I do with this boy? I’m not mad at him, I was angry at myself for allowing myself to be hurt in such a stupid, thoughtless way. I needed a little time to recover and now I can be more normal but I can’t hide the emotional bond/understanding I still feel. (I know, it’s a weird aqua emotional affair but really this was a total accident and not what either of us want going forward.) Still, I fear this cycle will repeat if I don’t keep my distance but I also fear that will piss him off. He’s already refusing to look at me because of the missed party. Right? Can you explain his side and his feelings to me and suggest a course of action?
November 29th, 2009 at 6:11 am
Hey Annie!
Okay, just a thought but I think you’ve got a shy aquarius on your hands! Or maybe ‘girl shy’ is the right word. A long-term relationship that goes bad HURTS and so does a bad upbringing.
How do you know the letters have gone unopened? Is it possible he opened them, read them then re-sealed so it would look like he hadn’t read them so he could have the time to think? That probably sounds nuts but then again, that would be aquarius behavior for you.
Have you tried making it a bit more physically obvious that you’re interested in him when you’re around him? Eye contact, smiling, etc? If so, how does he react? Does he always seem to be looking at you but never coming over to talk? (That can be a good sign that he’s interested but shy.) We’re world famous over-thinkers so if you’re writing sweet letters then ignoring him in person he might think it’s a prank and you’re not really writing the letters.
Aquas don’t like to be ignored and avoiding him will temporarily spark his interest. But do it for too long and he’ll get distracted by someting else.
November 29th, 2009 at 9:33 pm
To: Aquagirl
Everything you need to know has been mentioned in the posts between us. You have been through the entire cycle of the emotional state of an aqua. This situation ended in the way I mentioned in my last post. You either have the choice knowing all this to continue the relationship as just friends without the crush feeling or if you can’t, it will repeat again and again until the situation becomes worse each time. This has nothing to do with your aqua friend, it has to do with you. I’m not going to tell you what to do ,but this is the last type of game you would want to continue playing. It will have more serious consequences next time. Take some time and evaluate what you are and not capable of. Use this information as guidance to what you really want.
This is why you should never play games being an aqua or with another aqua. You need to be blunt to the point of how you feel or how they make you feel. It might not feel like the best choice at the moment, but in the long term it will be the best thing you ever did.
November 29th, 2009 at 11:05 pm
Hi AQUAGAL Thank you so much for leaving me a message, I did laugh at the bit where you said that he had probably read the letters, I thought that as well. I have left him dangling for a couple of weeks and I Know he will walk his legs off trying to find me but when he does……. same old, same old. Yes you are so right he is shy but he will look to check I’M looking when he sees that I am he looks away 1, not giving me the chance to smile 2, making me annoyed at his behaviour. Sadly I am also very shy and feel that I have tried but he hasnt met me half way. I AM ALWAYS MAKING EXCUSES FOR HIM because I really really like him. THANK YOU FOR LISTENING AND BEING SO UNDERSTANDING. I have enjoyed this site so much I am a Leo and have much to learn. I APPRECIATE THE HONESTY.
November 29th, 2009 at 11:29 pm
Jerzi, Aquagal;
Hi, long time! It’s been about two months, and my aquarian is finally home from the road. We saw eachother for the first time wednesday night, and it was awesome. We hung out and talked the whole night at the bar (Thanksgiving eve, who’s not out here in the states?) and I ended up going back to his house. Initially, it wasn’t to spend the night, but things happened, and I did. He tried playing a song on his guitar for me, only to be wracked by nerves and unable to get his fingers to “work right”. Turns out, he’s never played his guitar for anyone before
We talked a lot about things, and as it turns out, I read the situation right- he does like me as much as I like him, and it was amazing to be that open and honest with each other. Probably the cutest thing is, I mentioned to him I notice how observant he is, how much he pays attention to things, and I asked him when it was that he started to notice me or like me. He told me his mom had told him about me, and then when he started talking to me and realized how intelligent I am and how much we have in common, that he realized he really likes me. His work is what the difficulty is, though. His job requires him to travel a lot- he works for a lighting company and is often on tours, sometimes for 8 months out of the year. When we were talking about things, he asked me what I want, and I didn’t exactly know how to answer, because, well, I was startled by the frankness of the question. So I measured my words and told him I don’t want this to be a one time thing. He indicated it wouldn’t be, that he doesn’t fool around on the road (which I believe) but it’s difficult and most women can’t handle his job. I told him I’ve had seven weeks to think about that. He didn’t say anything, and that was that, for the night. We kind of had plans to see eachother out at our favorite bar on saturday night, but he didn’t sound like it was a definite, but, I was happily surprised to see his car there when I got out of work. Things were low-key at first, as though nothing had happened two nights prior, so I just played it cool. We ended up having a really great time, joking around and having fun, just the two of us talking. I ended up back at his house again, and things were just as awesome as the first time. Afterward, we were talking, and the subject of a ‘relationship’ came up again. He reiterated the fact that he’s away so much, and it’s hard to have a serious relationship when one person is away most of the year, and I understand and appreciate his point of view- he doesn’t feel it’s fair to ask someone to deal with that. I told him he’s not asking me anything, and that I do understand what he’s saying. I told him, the way I look at it is, let’s take things slow and see if I can handle it. I think I can, but maybe I can’t. I’d like the opportunity to find out, because he’s so… amazing. We’re so alike, yet complimentary. He didn’t say anything to that, but wrapped his arms around me in a big embrace and kissed my forehead… so, I don’t know where this will go.
I like this guy, but I understand his reservations, and I have my own too- I’ve learned the hard way that I am not as good at assessing character as I would like; I want to take things slow and get to know him better- I don’t want to jump into a serious relationship myself just yet, but I want the opportunity to go there. I haven’t the faintest idea what to do now- we haven’t gone out on a date, I doubt (seeing as we’ve already skipped the perfunctory date before spending the night together) it will happen soon, but how do I play this? How should I be reading this?
When I left his house this morning, he walked me to the door, wrapped his arms around me and drew me into this wonderful embrace, kissed me a few times, and as we were standing there in each others arms, I asked him when I can see him again- he didn’t really say, only saying he’s got a lot going on at work this week. I didn’t press the issue, and I imagine we’ll see eachother out this weekend, but I wish we could have made plans to see eachother on one of my days off, in the evening after work. I’m trying to be understanding of where he’s coming from. I get the impression he likes me more than he’s willing to say, but is apprehensive about getting involved with me in case I can’t handle his work situation. So what do I do?
The two of you have provided me (and others) with excellent advice, and any insight you have is, again, incredibly appreciated.
Thanks
November 30th, 2009 at 6:33 pm
Alyx, YAY!!!! I’m very happy for you! Here are some thoughts I had while reading your post:
* You are reading him well. It’s okay to have doubts but remember strongly the ‘hunches’ or ‘gut reactions’ you get from him because they seem to be right - even if you talk yourself out of them.
* Aqua guys, to me, seem to SHOW their love and affection. His sweet physical responses to your verbal statements convey much more than words can. That is why he uses this type of communication - he could never put into words the intense wave of feeling he wants to convey because words aren’t strong enough. He’s showing you a lot of love, kindness and respect!
As far as what you should do, I would say that you give the relationship a try. Jerzi’s advice to me applies to you, too. You’re going to have to be in touch with your feelings and blatantly (maybe even brutally) honest with him. If you’re scared, SAY IT. If you need more, TELL HIM. If you have fears, SAY THEM. In my experience, there is not much you can tell an Aqua that a) they don’t already sense or know and b) that would surprise them or make them change their mind about you. The key here is paying attention to what you are feeling and trying to put it into clear words BEFORE communicating it to him. (And try to use ‘I’ statements such as “I feel ______ because of ______” - you don’t want to attack the Aqua ego or we get defensive and don’t listen as well!)
Oh, and when you asked to see him again, I get the feeling you wanted to see him this week and he picked up on that so he explained he had a busy week. He didn’t mention the weekend because obviously you probably will get together then but also I suspect he’s hoping to find some free time this week to see you as well. But he didn’t want to promise that and upset you later if he can’t make the time. You were wise not to press the issue but hopefully this fills you in on what he was probably thinking.
When the time comes you might consider telling him what you told us: That you feel he might be a bit apprehensive about a relationship and you’d like to know what you can do to help him. Often times when you are unselfishly helping someone else, you find a lot of your issues disappear. What I mean is that if you work to be as unselfish as possible while he is on the road, you most likely will feel very loved and secure in return because of how much he appreciates you. Yes there might be difficult days (like week 7 without his warm body next to you) and you’re going to want to lash out because you miss him and hate the distance but be quick to apologize and acknowledge your feelings. It will help you have a strong relationship.
Jerzi is better at this than I am so I’m eager to hear his answer, too!
November 30th, 2009 at 7:29 pm
Hey Jerzi, our Aqua guru!
7 months later I am back on this website all confused and heart broken. I just re-read our communication from April (p.6) and your words: “Take for instance this one girl I met at the bar, took her out for a dinner date one night then dropped her off at her place. We were kissing on her front porch and my whole life flashed before my eyes, this girl wants to be with me forever..just could sense it and it was way to much for me to handle, so I didn’t talk to her or see her again” nearly made me cry. To be honest they didn’t ring the bell when I first read it, but now I can totally relate to it.
We hit a rough patch in our relationship and he totally misinterpret my words as though I don’t want to stay in this relationship saying “Not sure what you are asking of me, but I clearly get the message that you don’t want to be here anymore. It was never my intent to hurt you nor will I try and prevent you from moving on if that is you choice. I hope you find something that better suits your needs”.
I guess after having said that he will not eventually pop up in my life again….He basically decided to broke up with me and go cold turkey. I loved this guy very very much and feel very bad now that he didn’t want to try to patch things up and just cut me off after 19 months of dating. My take on this situation is that he didn’t want to commit and I am very upset that he didn’t have guts to tell me that. Oh well…. :(((
December 2nd, 2009 at 3:56 am
Hey Alyx,
You’ve had two dates already. You make me laugh when you said a normal routine date with an aqua, that’s the last thing you want. The time you have spent with him as mentioned is worth ten times more to us than a routine date. We will take you out on one of them “routine” dates if it interests you or you have a favorite place to eat.
You don’t have to read or play anything, you are doing just fine. You’re being yourself, realistic about what you want and how you want to proceed. I’m sure you have read all about aquas and know exactly why he is being apprehensive with all the variables involved.
You’re holding aces Alyx, just do what feels right to you and your happiness will prevail no matter the turnout.
December 2nd, 2009 at 4:14 am
Hey Mika,
Sorry to hear…
I don’t know what the argument was about ,but aries can be pretty fierce and sometimes makes an aqua push away in some sort of way. I would need to know the details of the rough patch, because it isn’t always the case of being at an end. If you don’t want to post the details here you can email me at jsett78@gmail.com. Aquas take a very long time to commit, 18 months for us is a very short period of time. People get divorced at over a 60% rate and this is why we take so long to commit, we want to spend the rest of our lives to the person we are commited to.
December 2nd, 2009 at 5:04 pm
Let me tell you one thing about aquarius men, i am dating one guy who is aquarius. I have dated before other guys who were of different horoscopes. This one ohhh my God is really unique, very creative, very passionate in the appropriate times. He doesnt flood you with passion all the time, but once he’s in the mood to be passionate he will let you forget your name. He’s so inventive in the things he gives you & that what is special about him than all the other guys. I mean any guy can get you flowers, invite you to dinner, get you jewelery. But he as an aquarius guy can give you something as a very original gift which sure you will never forget it will be stuck in your heart & mind. He’s so clever & listens well whenever you’re talking & this is the best. I believe that getting into a relationship with an aquarius guy is really interesting & even if its not forever it will be the best memory ever.
December 3rd, 2009 at 6:48 pm
Jerzi,
I suppose deep down, I knew the answer! And have always known it, but was too afraid to acknowledge that to myself.
At this point I wouldn’t have initiated any contact, although I was waiting for him to do so, as I believed him when he told me that we would forever have a connection. He insisted we stay friends and keep in touch. As much as I wanted to believe that, he has fallen short of that request and his word!
I am saddened by the lose I feel for the person I felt so connected to. I have never felt that for anyone else.. I mean, honestly, I have held on to him for two years, and in that time, the contact we did have was limited, tense and also hurtful. Yet I have continued to hold on. I wished that he would somehow feel the same as I, even if we are not romantically involved, but at least, feel a strong bond to me as a very close friend he couldn’t let go of. But that apparently is not so and I know I should end this mental torment for myself and move on with my life. I don’t know if he is still in a relationship, but that doesn’t matter. I guess now I only hope for two things: One, that he realizes one day how much he hurt me. Two, that somehow, someway I will know it, by him telling me so or otherwise.
I just hope, for myself, that I don’t hold on any longer and can avoid the memories of this Aquarian that at times makes me feel that I miss him and other times that I hate him.
And might I add; Even though we all have our personalities and we can all be weird at times, what happened to integrity? I have made excuses for him based on being “Aquarian” but, there comes a point in which he should have been completely honest. I am a cancer with my moon in Aquarius (Yeah, a total contradiction) I have my way about things, but some of my “weird” stuff I know I must control, otherwise I might hurt someone’s heart and soul.
At least I know my conscience is clear! I played no games. I gave him all the things I knew he needed, like space and freedom and was there for him when he needed a friend, shoulder or my company. I have never once bothered him in any way shape or form. And all of the confusion, pain and anguish I feel, has been privately between my brain and my heart. Never to him and I have left him alone to live his life happily without any drama from me.
Thank you everyone for your posts, it has greatly helped hearing your stories, that sound at times, familiar.
Well, I guess this is it? A closing of a chapter and hopefully a new beginning of something better.
But….will I EVER feel that type of connection again?
December 5th, 2009 at 9:37 pm
I LOVE THIS WEBSITE.
real talk man haha.
I’m an aquarius and oh my god this is so true. Everything. You hit the nail on the head! I really like your site because it helps me understand why people act certain ways, and once you understand the purpose of people’s actions you can learn to appreciate who they are as people, you know?
Anyway just wanted to give you props on such a fabulous site :))))
December 6th, 2009 at 8:42 pm
Jerzi, Aquagal,
Thank you for your advice, but I’m now starting to get nervous- we didn’t see eachother this week, he was on the road earlier in the week and I had stuff to do wednesday and thursday, but were both out friday night. i went to the bar after work with my sister and some friends, and he was there with his dad. He pretty much all but ignored me- at one point when i was on the opposite side of the bar, we did make eye contact and i waved and smiled- he waved and kind of smiled back, but when he looked away, the little smile turned into a big grin. However, that was the extent of it. After my crew left, I went over to talk to him, and we made small talk for all of a minute, and then there was silence. I didn’t know what to say, cause it felt/seemed like he didn’t want to talk to me. I hung out with some other friends for a little bit, but was getting tired and didn’t really feel like waiting around for last call and hoping he’d see if I wanted to go back to his place. When I was getting ready to leave, i went over to him, told him i hope he has fun this weekend in boston (taking his brother for his birthday) and he seemed surprised, asking me if i was leaving already; we hugged and I went on my way.
I’m starting to get nervous about this, because I want to believe everything he said, but I might have misunderstood him. I hope his aloofness is a version of that ‘houdini’ trick your kind sometimes pulls- that it was his way of pulling back and protecting himself, gauging my reaction to him, etc… but I could be wrong. I’m afraid I’m wrong. I don’t want to continue bringing up the subject of a relationship, because I know he’s hesitant about it, but I need to know if something is going to happen beyond this, or if it was just a hook-up. I feel like I made a mistake in sleeping with him, though at the time it did not seem like a just a hook-up. Nothing that was said or expressed indicated that, but I would have figured he would have been happy to see me out friday night. The fact that he didn’t seem to care if I was there or not bothers me, and I can’t tell if its because he really doesn’t care that i was there, or if it’s self-preservation.
I still have his number, and I’ve thought about calling him this week to see if he’d like to get together and watch a movie or something (instead of just running into eachother at the bar) but I don’t want to be too forward or pushy, and I certainly don’t want to chase him, that’s not my style. I’m trying to think of or find an opportunity to be able to tell him that I want more than the random hook-up, but that I don’t want to spend every day with him or take up all his time when he’s home from the road.
I’m just wondering if should I wait this out (because it did take the guy five months to let me know he likes me) or if I should hang it up. Things seem to make sense if he’s a stereotypical Aqua, but no one is their exact sign, and as such, I’m at a loss.
December 8th, 2009 at 12:32 am
I need to write this down:
I woke up this morning in a cold sweat, dreaming of this Aqua Man that keeps haunting me! In my dream my phone was ringing and when I answered it was “him”, I was shocked and my heart was racing! He said to me that he wanted to know why I had not emailed him. I told him that I had but he never replied to me and that I figured he wanted me to leave him alone. He then asked me if I was going to let him go, that he needed to know. I could hear he was choking up, his voice was shaky. I was so confused, thinking that it was him who had cut off the communication by not responding to my email. I asked him what did he expect me to think if he never wrote back. I told him I did not want to pry and leave him alone in his new relationship. But all he kept saying was he needed to know and began to cry.
Today I opened a fortune cookie and it said “Prepare yourself for a change of events in your personal life”
So, what does this mean, if anything? The last time I had an intuition about him was a few months after he moved and he had “disappeared” for a month or so, but I had this feeling he was going to call, in fact, I would almost hear the ringer assigned to him on my phone, like when a song is played on the radio and the tune is engraved in your head. Well, a week went by with that feeling and I could not shake it off. One day that week, sitting at my desk at work, it rang! I jumped from being startled by the sound and the fact that it was his him.
I have not deleted him from my contact list, I have attempted to several times but I just can’t do it!
December 8th, 2009 at 10:56 am
Alyx…
Aquas can be the most loving person or the coldest at any given point, it’s sad, but true.
It fluctuates randomly and is really annoying. One day were up full of life and the next we could be just moaping around ignoring everybody. I think it has to do with us not expressing our feelings properly, but who knows. We feel like we should be able to work everything out for ourselves and to let someone else provide care or help would make us feel like less of a person. We even ignore people we love at times because of it and it might not have anything to do with them.
Doing something based on feelings is never a mistake, please remember that. Never second guess yourself, do what feels right to you. Everything you posted here you should be saying to him without fear of chasing him away…
Call him up and see if he wants to go hang out at the movies etc. If it is a yes or no ask him if everything is ok because you thought he was a little down at the bar.
If it is a no, find out at this point about a future relationship, don’t postpone it any longer.
If it is a yes bring it up during the hangout session, get definite answers.
Hmm…If it is a yes for the relationship you’re going to get a one way ticket to loonville =)
Good luck
December 11th, 2009 at 4:03 am
Thank you so much Jerzi for answering my post. I have one more question, i have always wondered, when Aquarius fall in love do they fall harder then most other signs? is that why it’s hard for them to get emotionally attached to one person? and how can i tell when he’s starting to commit..
Thanks and really appreciate it!
December 12th, 2009 at 4:33 pm
Jerzi-
thanks. yes, I’m already getting the impression this would be a rollercoster of a relationship, if it does work out. I have no idea where things stand because he’s on the road again. Maybe it’s a test, maybe he’s trying to figure out his end of it- if this is something he can handle. Because he more I’ve thought about it, even if it does just end up being what it was, I don’t think it was intended that way- you don’t tell someone that you don’t sleep around on the road if they’re just a hook-up. So we’ll see. I know we’ll talk at some point, it’s just a matter of when.
Thanks again for your advice and insight!
December 14th, 2009 at 12:14 am
Thanks Jerzi and all of you who have given me much insight…and yes, Frustrated, I relate with you…I’m frustrated! But I’m moving on. Why wait around for someone who has decided to just disappear from the radar…
I know something was there…something deeper, beautiful, meaningful…but, he’s just nowhere to be found, gone.
In Repair…ok, that’s what I am too, In Repair…girlfriend, you seem very beautiful and you deserve someone good. I also relate to your comment about the aqua guy when you wrote something like- it’s like I don’t know if I miss him, or hate him more. Oh, I guess I should say dislike…hate is a strong word! haha
I’m just ready to move forward, in this next year and beyond.
Maybe this guy will actually try to write a couple of lines to say hi and contact me, in who knows however long into the future…but hello, I deserve more than that. I want someone who is not afraid to connect with me, be in communication with me.
Anyway, I do appreciate what everyone has written here…it helps give me perspective, and now I’m feeling fine to just let it go and be me, someone really valuable and worth being cherished by someone who is not going to run away.
December 15th, 2009 at 9:00 pm
For goodness sake would one of you brilliant authors write something. Its like one of my favourite soaps or a good book has come to its end. Each day I check if something powerful has been written to keep me going in the struggle of persuing this man. This site has been a wonderful education for me and when you look at all that has been written and you feel the pain that some of these ladies have been and are going through its quite unreal. Es pecially when it is called Aquarius in love. Some of the advice is so powerful and your insight is quite staggering, I have enjoyed this so much I do not want it to end.
December 15th, 2009 at 11:36 pm
Hi Becky,
I referr to your site all the time for insite. I am an aquarius who has just met an aquarius man. OMG!!!! This is the first time I feel like someone other than my BF who is also an aquarius and Oprah who is one too, gets me. We talk on the phone for hours, and the conversation never gets lost, or I don’t have to spend hours explaining myself. He is warm and funny and I feel so lucky to have met him. We met at a Food Give Away that I organized (surprise) and he says I light up a room. I am having such a great time with him. Here’s hoping the best. Much love and many blessings.
December 21st, 2009 at 9:29 pm
This is so cute and true!
I am a female Libra deeply in love with my Aqua man, and when he does detach himself a little, I used to get upset but you’re right: Just think ‘nutter’ and life goes on! This article put a smile upon my face!
December 23rd, 2009 at 9:13 pm
Aries girl here. I would avoid dating an Aquarius guy at all cost.
They can be good friends for Aries girls but not lovers.
Too confusing and complicated. UNPREDICTABLE.
They detach themselves when they think Aries are possessive.
Too tough to handle that seriously bores and freezes me.
January 1st, 2010 at 11:10 pm
I love reading all this info on Aquarians. It has been really helpful. But I am having a hard time trying to figure out where we stand. Do they ever get to the point where they want to see you everyday or talk to you everyday? And why would he tell me all about his ex’s? Or about all the girls he meets? Sometimes we don’t talk for a couple of weeks and then we go out and he says we should see each other once a week. Am i just an FWB to him? Help!
January 4th, 2010 at 9:24 am
Hi Bella,
Yes, I had very similar experiences with some Aquarian guys that talk all the time about their ex girlfriends and relationships, or girls they meet, and I’m thinking to myself- What’s up with that!? Ok, a little bit is fine, we all have our pasts to talk about, but for me to have to hear it almost everytime I saw him, it just kind of doused the flame of developing a more romantic feeling and attachment. Anyway, I’m into the new year, leaving the rest behind.
Bella, I do wish you the best with your Aquarian. Who know how it may develop. Communication is important. I think sometimes these guys need to be told how we are feeling, otherwise they just don’t always get it. But also I’ve found with this sign that communicating your feelings, needs, can go another way, they can act the complete opposite. Well, I only want to think good thoughts in the new year. Aquarian guys, despite all your quirks, there are some really nice guys out there. Happy New Year all.
January 5th, 2010 at 1:08 am
Thanks for the insight. I,too, am trying to be more positive in the new year. Do you think they brought up the ex’s because they thought of us as friends more than girlfriends? Has it been your (and any other people in relationships with Aquarians)experience that they do not call frequently? I never expected to fall for this person but here I am. I have read that to be in a relationship with an Aquarian requires much patience. I am trying but it is wearing thin. I truly feel that this is the person I should be spend the remainder of my life with. Only thinking happy thoughts…xoxo
January 5th, 2010 at 6:43 pm
Hi Bella, It is good to hear from a fellow sufferer, I am yearning for an aquarius man who seems to be a committment phobic. I We have been doing a strange sort of a dance for almost 3 years. He is shy and has been very hurt in the past, as I have. I always feel he pushes me away, and yet almost stalkes me to make sure I am still around. Some people I have read call this a mind F— and that what it seems to be. I am a LEO a very attractive lady, good job, car and home. He has none of these things and yet I am more than deeply attracted to this man. I HAVE TRIED TO STAY AWAY FROM HIM BUT ALWAYS SEEM TO GO BACK. help.
January 7th, 2010 at 12:18 am
That described me perfectly..lol
January 9th, 2010 at 4:51 am
Just wanted to say this website caught my attention all evening, & it gave me some helpful insight!! Thanks!! AquaGal..you said some great things, but im still curious to know more. I am a libra lady with an interest in an aqua male. We have known each other for 10 years, but never dated due to poor timing (i.e When we met, he was getting married. Three years later he divorced, and I was getting married. I am now dovorced & he is single.)I am newly divorced, and we texted on and off throughout my separation-I initiated the texting. He let me know I could text him during this time, but because I was “technically still married”, he did not want to initiate communication with me. I usually texted him about 1x/week. Most times he would respond with short-simple responses, and there were times he would ignore my texts. I love to give him compliments. It is sooo easy to do, and he always thanks me for them. However, now that I am divorced, I don’t understand why he will not initiate any communication with me. When I ask if he is mad, upset or hates me, he always says “no”. (I seem to ask these questions after a period of him ignoring my texts-but I have not asked these questions lately). He did initiate 1 simple text since my divorce. However, with my last text, I politely stated if he wants to consider texting/calling me…I planned to keep my number for awhile, & I said..keep in touch. His response was U2. Anyway, I have not texted him now for almost 2 weeks, & I’m not sure this is the best approach. It’s driving me crazy not texting him, but so much of the information I have read, suggest to ignore him and he will respond if he is interested. On the other hand, I have read, don’t ignore him too long or change my communication pattern or things may backfire. So, I am confused, and I do not want to throw away an opportunity to get to know this aqua male if I have a chance to get to know him. I like this aqua male-and he knows it, and I sense he likes me too. Can you please help me understand his behavior, and offer any suggestions to make this a successful ending or beginning? You stated when you have a crush on someone, you become distant and give short answers..that is him-he seems to be a true aquarius in more ways than one. Thank you and I do appreciate all the input I can get!!
January 25th, 2010 at 11:48 pm
“they make stimulating lovers and will take the time to learn how to press all the right buttons, as their first priority isn’t to please themselves but to please their partner.”
T_T so true..
All my ex girlfriends thought that was odd that i got off on doing things for them. None of them really grasped that….
February 2nd, 2010 at 5:47 pm
HELP i hope somebody can give my advice on what to do! I’m an aries female and i’ve an aqua male friend who i first met in 2008. We live nearby and see each other almost everyday.We really had a click and became close friends but after a while i developped fealings for him. The stranges thing was that this wasn’t anything sexual but more a sense of closeness i had never experienced before. After i confessed this in the beginning of 2009 he became very distant for a couple of months but returned and the friendship became more close than ever before. One of the best things of our relationship is that we see each others blindspots and weaknesses and learned a lot from this.
In december my “problem” popped up again and because i noticed my behaviour towards him changed i told him that i didn’t wanted anything more than friendship (we both still struggle with our ex-relationships) but had difficulties keeping my feelings in control. He kept me close this time and we tried to manage.
Two weeks ago i lost it, far to many things happened in my live and one night he kept pushing my weak spots so hard, asked my how i felt and when i said “terrible, i feel nam en so cunfused” and he just laughed. This felt so bad that at i didn’t see him for 2 days and then when i did i couldn’t talk but was so mad. The next day when i saw he asked me if i was mad and i said i was and we made an appointment to talk about it the next day. Later that evening he canceled that (text) and said that he got a bad feeling and the relationship wasn’t gonna work. I couldn’t understand why he didn’t wanted to work things out so we could end this properly.
The next days it was so strange because when we met the feeling of closeness was still there and i even thought ok maybe it just needs time and i’ll become ok again. We talked, emaild and texted and it all seemed normal. But suddenly he acts like i am a total stranger. If we are in the same room he’ll avoids me or is really distant. I tried to do as normal as i can but feel really insecure, does he need space? leave him alone or is something bugging? Should i ask this or not? …
Please give me some advice!!! Thanks in advance and excuse my bad englinsh please;)
February 2nd, 2010 at 7:31 pm
So I’ve been in this “entanglement” (can’t really call it anything else at this point) with this Aquarius man, and while I’m starting to figure him out; believe me, he’s a textbook aquarian; there is something that is puzzling me greatly. There had been some miscommunication but we’d worked that out, and we met up about a week ago for some drinks. Everything was great, he was flirty, talkative, fun, romantic… we went back to his house, and had a great time, he was sweet and romantic beyond measure, and while we were making out, he bursts out with “i really like you, but i don’t know if i can do a relationship” -now, we’ve already talked about this, and i understand the few different reasons for his reluctance to get into a relationship (his job has him away a lot, and his last relationship ended badly because of his job) but i’m willing to be patient and i reiterated that, and told him i understand he’s got his stuff to deal with, but it think he’s unique and interesting and i like him too. Then later on, mid-sex, he blurts out that he loves me- I’m like ’shhh, no, you don’t” and he says it again, and i’m like, honey, no you don’t… and he goes “well maybe i just really like having sex with you” which is probably the more accurate sentiment for the emotion he was feeling, but still! What the hell… the part that kind of freaks me out is, he said it twice. I could more easily chalk it up to the throes of excitement if he’d only said it once and then amended his words, but…. anyway, the rest of the night was amazing, as was the morning…
Here’s my problem, and I think I have an inkling of what the issue is, but I’m intensely curious to see what aquarians have to say about this- all this happened on a wednesday. we didn’t see or talk to eachother until sunday, as we were both out for a mutual friends birthday. Other than saying hi to me, he completely ignored me. I’m thinking he scared himself by what he said and is trying to put a little distance between us, but I dont know.
So, water-bearers, what gives?
ikubak- yeah, noticed that about my aquarian. definitely nothing to complain about!
February 16th, 2010 at 5:10 pm
Taurus and Aquarius won’t work. I have exp. Man, they r so conservative…
February 16th, 2010 at 6:05 pm
@to those whose Aqua bf keep talking about his ex:
Talking about people he used to be intimate is just a way to express himself and make you understand more about him in his love life and about the people he chose to be with. It’s just another topic for conversation. You should comment and share your love stories with him too. It’ll be fun to discuss (or at least I think so)
@confused Libra woman:
It’s absolutely going to backfire, or at least in my case (me with a Cancer). I’ve read about my sign tend to get more interested when admirers pretend to be distant and I have to say, right, if you are distant from the very beginning. Aquarian’s love for knowledge probably leads them all to discover stuff about themselves so they’ll know it when you’re faking disinterest in order to get to them.
I’m not sure if he really loves you; maybe he likes you a bit as he knows you like him too. But if you don’t try to enforce his emotion, it’ll extinguish. It’s quite complicated. I think not only Aquarian but most people tend to be influenced and developed some sort of feelings for their admirers if those are nice, intelligent and not so not good looking.
Short text messages? Haha, he’s trying to conceal his emotions or something like that. We like being short and effective, leaving people hanging. I always try to shorten every messages possible.
In your case, I think you just have to confront him “nicely”, ask him directly how he feels about you. Trying not to be forceful as Aquarian dun like it that way. Most like to be the dominant partner.
They say Aquarius and Libra are compatible but I’m not interested in Libra. I appear to always fall for Gemini and Taurus, though the latter combination never works out.
@confused girl:
Em, this guy is quite tiresome. I can imagine the sense of closeness rather than sexual interest and how things went wrong and suddenly seemed back to normal. Don’t try to understand it, really. It’s just our way of doing things. There are many things going on in our heads and all the probabilities and possibilities just danced around and there were many options so we sometimes can’t decide and just jump from one treatment to another. That explains why he decided to cancel your appointment he was fear to face it and thought time would cure.
Leave him alone for a week or so. Not to long. And text him nicely and pretend to be normally, finding something he’d be interested in and later try to broach the subject when he’s become more expressive.
@Alyx:
Anything unusual about that? *I’m just frankly asking*. What did you expect him to do? Walk up to you and hold your hand, hmmm? Well, do people know you’re going out and how does he act after that incidence?
@ikubak:
The hell, yeah!! She said “I can’t say I’m too excited or eager” when I tried doing something unconventional. I was so put off that I didn’t text her for a week though after that I talked to her like nothing had happened.
@Annie:
I feel for you… Pushing someone away and making sure they still around at the same time…Does he make you tired? If you can’t forget him, try to help him. If he’s more of a typical Aquarian he should be able to leave the past where he was hurt behind.
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February 17th, 2010 at 11:27 am
Jerzi, you seem to be the aqua guru in this site. I would love to have your input in my case. I have been seeing an aqua man for the past year and a half. He pursued me, it didn’t take long for us to get together. He has been getting closer these last couple of weeks. He tells me we have a connection and that he knew that when we first met. The connection is there, in many levels, mentally, phisically and spiritualy. I’m totally taken, but I keep my feelings to myself, until I can understand what they are. He has many friends and men and women are attracted to him like bees. I actually like that about him and I feel pretty special because he treats me differently. We were out on a date the other night, drinking, he was looking at me and describing to me what attracts me in a man, and he said he loves it - because I am very picky and only those who spark some intellectual interest have any chance. When we make love is amazing and the other day, just after, he hugged me and smelled my hair. Then he spooned me. I am tempted to take a guess here and say that he is falling for me. But being an aqua man, he might just be seeing me as a real friend, which we are. Is he falling for me? Thanks!
February 17th, 2010 at 5:50 pm
Hi, Dex Jerkon Ahme.
Thank you so much for answering my heartfelt confession, yes Im tired and suffering and longing for this man. Never in my life have I felt like this, you see normally I JUST GLANCE THEIR WAY and they are in the bag hopping over themselves to get to me, but no not Mr Cool Aquarius. I have to admit I do not understand this game, enough already, but I CANT LET GO! He’s in my heart and soul like other worldly or something…. yea sounds stupid to me as well, I just cant help myself, love to you and yours, thank you again.
February 18th, 2010 at 1:53 pm
Hi, Annie
No need to thank me. I feel regret that I can’t come up with any practical solution to help you, as I know little about your man and his past. All I can offer is my sympathy. In my case, I was the one playing my Gemini around. It was really surprising that she didn’t just walk away. She told me she’d only give up until I’ve had someone else and I was really grateful for that. I now don’t try to push her away anymore but we are still just best of friends as I’m kinda scared of commitment and I’ve never told her “I love you”.
February 20th, 2010 at 2:44 am
Hi everyone! Can anybody give me an input on my previous post, please?
February 20th, 2010 at 6:27 pm
Hi! It’s me again. Still doing some kind of dance w my Aquarian. My situation is complicated..He is single and I am in the process of divorce. So I am not sure if any of his behaviour is typical aquarian stuff or related to my situation. But any input would be greatly appreciated. We have been hanging out (for lack of better term) for about 8 months. He still lets me know about the other girls he is pursuing, and backs off a little from me while in pursuit. When things dont work out with the others, I become #1 again. Call me crazy but I just have to go with my gut feeling which tells me that he does have feelings for me. Or am I just his fallback until something else comes along? He is complimentary, but never expresses feelings. He has told me alot about his past relationships, is starting to tell me more things about his family and about growing up. He told me that his friend saw us out and his friend asked if he could pursue me. He told him no. So do I take that as he does want to be with me? I am falling for him and I am scared that I will be hurt. Please anyone help me try to understand.
February 22nd, 2010 at 6:33 am
alice: lol i think no one is responding to your post becuz ur situation w/ ur aqua is so clear.
hes goin crazy for you. most likely hes squirming around in his room trying to decipher what kind of girl you are, and how he can hold on to u till the end of eternity.(aqua brosef speaking)
February 22nd, 2010 at 3:27 pm
You were right on the dime!
I didn’t believe in astrology…AT ALL!
Then I started dating an Aquarius man and you described him to a T! Its unbelievable!!!
Reading what you wrote was like seeing a Ghost! I just cant believe it you were so right about EVERYTHING!
My aquarius man was so sweeet and caring and thoughtful. He wasn’t very expressive vocally but he showed me he loved me. He wasn’t very romantic and neglected to get me a birthday present. I looked pass that because everything was almost perfect and we spent almost every waking moment together for 7months and one day, completely out of the blue…no explanation, he physically and mentally walked away. I was devastated!
He never contacted me until I emailed him almost 4months later asking what happened. Only to be told how much he cared about me and I meant the world to him and he wanted to get back together a while back but felt I already hated him.
I cant deal with this trait of the Aquarian so I’ve decided to move on.
I’m Leo and I’ll NEVER date another Aquarius male.
What sign is best for Miss Leo?
February 23rd, 2010 at 12:23 am
Hi AVFC2010,
Thanks for responding!!!!!
You really think so. Wow. I can see it in his eyes, they glitter when he talks to me. I can feel it, but am not sure if he is mirroing what I feel. Also, reading all these posts I was thinking that he is just enjoying the moments, that he considers me a good friend and that’s that. Maybe I was reading too much into it. If that’s the way he feels do you think he will tell me eventually?
Thanks
February 25th, 2010 at 9:11 pm
Don’t let an aqua crack your shell to easily…
February 26th, 2010 at 8:27 pm
To JERZI,
We need more info………….pleasssssssssssssssssssse!
February 27th, 2010 at 12:56 am
Jerzi, what do you mean? Him figuring me out too quickly?
March 2nd, 2010 at 11:37 pm
Jerzi, It looks like you are pulling the aqua disappearing act on us… Lol that’s fine, we respect that. Whenever you can, come back to enlighten us.
March 7th, 2010 at 3:43 pm
Dex-
lol, of course not. but i didn’t expect to be all but ignored, though it doesn’t necessarily surprise me, given how things have gone since july of last year, when we started flirting. my concern is not so much him having ignored me as it is what he said (the L word). And anyway, I did see him after that, on his birthday, and I spent the night with him. And I haven’t seen him since. He hasn’t been out- he hasn’t been on the road- well, he was for a short weekend job, but I know he’s been home because drive by his work every day on my way to work, and his car has been there, and the lights have been on on his side of the house.
Funny thing too- the weekend right before Valentines day, i was out, both fri and sat night; fri i met up with an acquaintance of mine (who is a buddy of his from work) for a birthday drink, and he asked me where Dylan was, why he wasn’t out. I told him I don’t know, he works with him, sees him more than I do… well, the next night, another friend of Dylan’s who also works with saw me out, and asked the same thing- if I knew what Dylan was up to and why he wasn’t out.
March 7th, 2010 at 4:02 pm
Sorry about the weird posts- for some reason it wouldn’t take the whole post and then i couldn’t copy and paste it in… so, following the last thing about his buddies asking me where he is…
I find it curious and interesting that buddies of his from work, who, while I know them, I’m not close with them, would think that I know what he’s up to. Now, I haven’t said ANYTHING to either of these guys about Dylan and I, so that leads me to believe he’s talked about me at work.
It’s now been a month since his birthday, and not only have I not heard from him, I haven’t seen him. He hasn’t been out at all, and actually, a mutual friend of ours asked me the other night where he’s been. Perhaps he’s doing one of those houdini tricks you water bearers pull every now and again- I don’t know. Him having said the L word opened up doors in my mind I had purposely left closed; I’ve learned the hard way to keep certain thoughts out of my consciousness as a matter of self-preservation… and I’ve started to fall for this guy. Since I haven’t seen him, and calling does no good (he’s a phone-phobe, and it turns out his mother is the same way) so I wrote him a letter. Not a mushy, gushy letter, but I had things I needed to say, and while I wanted to do it in person (the last time we talked about things, it went really well, better than I had hoped) I really needed to get these things out. I’ve been very measured in my words with him, not only for his benefit, but mine as well (self-preservation again) but at this juncture it seems that no longer serves me. So, I wrote this letter telling him very plainly how I feel, where I’m at, what confuses me and what seems to me to be the issue at hand, and asked him to get ahold of me, as I need some fashion of a resolution, regardless the outcome. Now, I don’t/didn’t expect to hear from him right away- that’s not how he works, and I know that. But I am wondering how long I have to wait, and to be perfectly honest, my patience and understanding are wearing thin. I know things take him a while- it took him the entire summer and much of autumn before he could actually verbalize that he likes me, and then it took another 2 months for him to get to the comfort level of being affectionate with me in public. So I get it- he’s not impetuous or impulsive like me, but I need to know what’s going on. I don’t want to waste my time waiting around if this isn’t going anywhere, but at the same time, I’m more than willing to be patient and wait for him if he does want this to progress.
March 8th, 2010 at 9:40 pm
Hi Im a kinda out there Leo, who whilst likes the chase cant just quite grasp whats the problem IVE SEEN EVERYTHINGFROM THE AQUA except the man, there’s got to be one in their somewhere or else Im the one loosing it, and you all know that can,t be true dont ya well….come on
March 11th, 2010 at 9:23 pm
Need help please! I dated/lived with my boy for 3 years..he is Aquarius to the T. I am Gemini and completely aware of space needs as I live with those myself but we had a rough patch and rather than stepping back I became needy and smothering. After a few months he needed “space”. I gave it to him by moving out and cutting off contact. I had bigger issues and needed to deal with those. He continued to try to contact me and when I asked him to back off he retaliated in childish ways which made our situation worse (we are both in our 30’s and it’s our first serious relationship). Once I figured out that I was the reason we were having challenges I made contact just by telling him I missed him. He was enthusiastic in his response and we have VERY SLOWLY begun to see a bit of each other. I’m only confused as to why he initiates contact and wants to “hang out” and then doesn’t contact me all week. I’ve admitted to him already that I made mistakes when we were together and I know he loved me…he’s even confided in mutual friends that he thinks about me all the time and doesn’t know that we won’t get back together. I guess my question is do I continue to just give him space and respond when I hear from him in hopes that he will trust me again at some point or should I give up and move on? Obviously a lot of details that are no disclosed but I am trying not to let my pride get in the way of getting back the best man I’ve ever met.
March 14th, 2010 at 5:53 am
I’m a pisces girl and i was just wondering how a pisces female and aquarius male go together, idk if it’ll work out seeing as 90% of the websites i go to say that it isn’t the happiest pair….also i don’t know if this helps but i do have aquarius in mercury and venus. please someone reply…thank you.
March 17th, 2010 at 4:28 pm
Wow I enjoyed this site very much! I am an Aries and my Aquarius and I have been dating since October! We immediately hit it off being that I’m an Aries
Love at first sight, however I like showed him I was interested we got physical but then being the Aries I am, I backed off a little and missed a few calls but remained sweet and decided against a few date offers, however, he chased pretty good then I decided to chase back. We began to go out and I found him to be rather intriguing we went bowling, played tennis, table hockey, he would come over to my place and always impress this Aries woman with good manners and some sort of sweet like a Sunday from Sonic or movies, or pizza! We talked all night sometimes, he would spend the night, we’d wake up talking then he leave go to work and come back that night. I never asked for a relationship, however I did begin to fall deep in love. He intrigued my mind with things like carving pumpkins for Halloween, walks outside nothing monetary just plan thoughtful! And in the bedroom it was amazing. Well, he was only in my town for four mos of training and had to leave for TX due to his job…I then found out what it is like when the Aquarius starts to care…I told him I loved him one night on the phone and there was silence, nothing then quickly he assured me he cared and was very detailed but said he would never say the “3 word phrase” unless he knew it for sure but let me know I could say it anytime I felt I wanted to and I did just that. As an aries I was okay with not hearing those words for a while as long as his actions made me feel it, like he rented a car and drove 8 hrs to see me just for a weekend…oh this was big for me! Sacrifice, then I waited several weeks because he was about to be deployed into Iraq and drove 8 hrs to see him for 1 night! Just 1, yes one night. His eyes lit up like a christmas tree, he knew I was not just saying I love you, I did. Still, he didn’t tell me, he just glanced in my eyes with those big beautiful loving eyes of his and kissed me on the forehead I told him I loved him and he told me to have a safe drive…he had to fly into ATl for his last 3 day training before being flown out into Iraq. So on the last day he asked me to drive up to see him, I could not and I told him that and he being and Aquarius looked at a map, found the halfway point and we met up! He blew this Aries mind…he took me to a beautiful hotel which shocked my socks off because he didn’t look like he had money and he didn’t dress like it that’s for sure I was totally thrown for a loop…He rented two suites had champagne and we ate breakfast together my fav meal, went back and had a passionate night, he was patient and waited on me while I dressed in the morning, which was great bc my ex who was an aries used to rush me and I hated it, I like to take my time getting dressed and looking in the mirror until everything is perfect otherwise it can ruin my mood for hrs. So he just took my bags down to my car while and dressed and checked out of the room. Voila by the time he returned I was sexy dressed to impress and ready to go! Surprisingly our hotel was in a big mall so we went to it upon his suggestion, he remembered that my fav. chocolate was Godiva and took me to the shop bought me chocolate covered strawberries and fed them to me while we walked through the mall. Then he amazingly remembered my fav store and we went in, I was not really in the mood to shop but he started suggesting outfits that would look good for my business and insisted I try them on, waited for me to come out gave me feedback on each outfit (goes so well with the Aries Ego:) Then suggested the ones he loved and why. As we approached the cashier he surprisingly insisted he buy everything, now I was like okay this guy has taken me by surprise really. Aries love surprises at least this one does! And I was happy to see he was stable he just doesn’t live a flashy lifestyle but is more than willing to spoil his center of affection. We sat for lunch in the mall and were deep into a good conversation when two girls came over and asked if they could take the two spare chairs from our table, well, not only did he say yes but he rushed up to help them gather the chairs and take them across the mall to their table I was impressed, outgoing and helpful to strangers even…hmm good sign of how he’d take care of me. We are able to laugh at each others jokes he keeps me on my toes as far as guessing goes the whole time…it was beautiful…he and I left that day feeling so good…still no I love you…but the actions were all there def. OH, I forgot to mention that the day after he left my town he had asked me for a committed relationship and I said not right now…so he wanted a relationship 1st and I wanted to hear him say I love you first…mind you we had already been together physically! That is the funny part! Finnally, late Dec. we got into a discussion and he told me he loved me and I told him I loved him to…Jan 7 finally he asked me to be his girlfriend again and I said YESSS! We are still together, Aries and Aquarius make great mates bc of the compromising abilities. Now that he has fallen and totally committed he spends a great deal of time and money to please me…flowers, 27 cards on Valentines, 1 for every Valentine’s in my entire life he ever missed lol, 2 bouquets of flowers a 3 page love letter wow, he communicates extremely well and can calm me when I am very upset! Under normal circumstances I don’t know if he would do this, but being that he is in Iraq, recently I got upset about having to wait for him, and to prove to me his serious thoughts about the future he told me he is planning to propose beginning of 2011. I am so in love with my Aquarius he plans and that is great for an Aries woman because she is very extreme and making plans is frustration and just plain hard, so what a relief to know that when we go to Greece in Spring we will have an agenda and fun things to do because ” he plans” yay…engagement, marriage…life will be better because he plans and includes me and asks what I like so they become our plans. We have our ups and downs but neither of us stay mad long so its great! 1 Problem I don’t know how to give things that will really tickle his fancy as much as he tickles mine…any ideas
March 18th, 2010 at 1:47 am
ok…so i have venus in aquarius and i’ve read that it’s quite an aloof sign and i was just wondering how strong the venus sign shows in people. i always see my friends hugging, snuggling and all that, but when i see it, i feel kind of grossed out, especially when i see them in public where everyone can see them. i also see tons of people kissing at school and i just start to cringe (not rly, but u get the point). whenever a guy friend suddenly comes and gives me a hug, i feel very very uncomfortable and i just want to wriggle out. but the problem is, i have mars in leo…..hmmm and i’ve read that they’re opposites. I definitely crave that comfort of being hugged, but then when it does happen, i just feel very awkward. i’m not exactly sure as to what to do….please help! so does having venus in aquarius influense me or am i just rly rly weird?
March 23rd, 2010 at 2:25 pm
Yep, I was on a mini-aqua vacation from the board entangling myself into new and exciting things that interested me.
What’s going on in the Aqua world?
March 24th, 2010 at 11:07 pm
Welcome back Jerzi!
What interesting thing has caught you attention?
March 25th, 2010 at 3:44 am
Hi Jerzi im so glad you’re back!!!….hope you had a fun mini-aqua vacation. I have a quick question if you don’t mind. How do Aquarius guys finally commit? Well I told my Aqua “frind” that I love him and he seemed pretty pleased but said that he only loves me as a friend, but doesn’t act like a friend. He grabed me and gave me a kiss on the check when he found out how I feel about him. He’s afraid of commitment because he has never had a girlfriend and he’s 24 so why is he so afraid to lose me if he says he only loves me as a “friend”….is it because he’s afraid to open up to me just yet? I told him if he doesnt love me then ill leave him alone and he said no I don’t want you to leave me….and when I saw him after my confession he was looking at me differently, like he had these sparks in his eyes which suprised me to be honest…we have known eachotehr for 2 years now. Im sorry im just so confused, im really trying to understand him but I can’t.
Also let me add that im a virgin (21 years old)…he didn’t know that we never talked about it..he came asked me out of the blue and I told him that im saving myself for marriage…he was pleased and said he’s proud of me with a big hug and this conversation was after me telling him that I love him. I don’t know what he wants it’s like he doesnt “love” me but at the same time doesnt want me to leave him and date other guys. (although I don’t date at all lol I don’t trust anyone)
Im all over the place here but you get what im trying to say, so can you please help me figure him out…any insighy helps. Thank you in advance
March 28th, 2010 at 1:10 pm
(It’s me again. I was finally able to take my aqua guy off my contact list.
I never did hear from him. I’m not sure what has become of him. The last time I saw him online was back in October, nothing since.
However I know that he was stateside recently, but of course he didn’t contact me. So…now I think that the email he gave me was one of those you make up and give out to the non-important people, you know, the kind you give out so that your real email is not bombarded with junk.
Anyhow, my situation is complicated. And I just wish I could move on. I don’t want to think of this man anymore and no mater how hard I try, I still think of him, or dream of him or remember the feeling I had when I would see him.)
I was going to post the above last week, but I never got around to it. But here it is….I woke up this morning, very early, couldn’t sleep. I logged in to check my emails and my heart stopped…..literally lost my breath. And there it was…a message from him. It took me a few moments, with my hand on my chest and holding my breath to absorb this. A million things went through my mind those brief seconds that seemed forever. Finally I opened the message and of course, he writes as if no time has passed, greeting me like old pals. He tells me what is going on in his life (two paragraphs).
And finishes by saying it would be nice if I wrote back.
I AM SO CONFUSED!! Do I write back? What do I say? It has been a few hours since I read his message and I cant begin to explain all the things that have gone through my brain! Finally I have told myself that this message doesn’t mean ‘EVERYTHING’ It’s his nature….right? It the Aquarian personality.
I checked my horoscope, that by the way has been so off lately. But today it said:
‘”The present astral configuration could bring you to a crossroads today concerning a decision about an important relationship. You may find that you have conflicting feelings about what
to do next. It may help you to take some time out to quietly reflect on what your deeper nature is telling you, to discover how you really do feel, as opposed how you think you should feel.”
His said this:
Your natural impulse is to bring conflicting people or issues into some kind of harmonious agreement, as disagreement is something you find hard to stomach. The present astral configuration may indicate that you need to face up to a possible rift in your own relationship and apply all your natural skills to creating a bridge between your hearts. You just need to take the first step.
Confusion is taking me over. My heart says one thing and my brain tells me another. But again I don’t want to take his message too seriously because this may be nothing other than that….a message to a pal!!!
I have been so angry at him all this time, and as I have expressed in all my posts, I have also missed him terribly. Can someone out there give me some advice before I decide if I respond to him? HELP!!!
April 8th, 2010 at 5:45 am
Dear In Repair, I had hoped that someone else would answer your heartfelt plea, your emotions were jumping off the page to me and I could really feel for you. I guess you have made contact by now and I hope things have turned out well. Although I FEEL it would take a miracle for him to behave in the way you really want him to. I will give no advice you alone know this man and your feelings for him and that is very precious. Common sense tells me to tell you to kick him to the kerb, I will say you do deserve better (my opinion) remeber your name I dont know why you chose it, just be careful. Lots and Lots of Love yea Im a LEO!
April 12th, 2010 at 1:41 pm
Thank you Annie,
I have not replied to him It’s been two weeks and I have taken some time to think things through, I suppose I just need more than what he wrote. I need him to say…..I’m sorry I’ve taken so long to reply or what happened to the ticket you bought to come visit me? Did it expire? Did you loose the money? Can I repay you, since it was by my invitation you bought to begin with, and it was me that cancelled every time?
I realized that no matter what I say or how I respond he would not understand where I am coming from and then judge me for being honest in whatever I say.
If I answer nonchalantly, he would think all is good and…. it’s not!
So, I thought why respond? What would be the point? If he wrote the way he did, like it’s all great and dandy, then there is nothing he has realized and I just need more than that!
As far as my name, I choose it because I’ve learned that while I was dating this man, I became something I never thought I would!! I lost myself! I look back and ask myself….Why did I allow that? Why did I put up with that? When did I loose all self respect? I have always taken pride that I am a strong woman, independent, self sufficient and take no bull from any one! But when it came to this Aqua man, I lost that! Don’t get me wrong, I did not really show it in the relationship, I was not needy or clingy and I did not ever ask him for anything. But I allowed some things to happen that otherwise wouldn’t have.
After the relationship was over, I felt lost in so many ways. I knew I had to “repair” the damage I caused myself. It has been over two years and I am still trying to sort this out.
I think my silence is best! I can’t do this anymore. I need more than the crumbs. If he really cares for me on any level, as a person that was really good to him, as a friend, as someone who truly cared for him, then he will have to make a heart felt effort! He has my phone number, he can write again and say more, whatever but I think I deserve more than the simple words he wrote!
April 13th, 2010 at 6:56 pm
In repair
What can I say, you have really thought this through, I can see you have gone over it and over it and Im so glad that you are not going to have any half measures, as these will not do in the long run. You have been very strong and I can feel your sadness and loss, but I love your resolve.Love should not be painful and although we understand that they can be (aloof and detached) when you need something else, that is exactly what you need (SOMETHING OR REALLY SOMEONE ELSE) and to want a relationship and all that means is very normal Please hold out for what you NEED because nothing else will do. We will see, believe me its his loss. Be yourself you’ve been wonderful. Go Girl. I CAN LEARN FROM THIS. xx
April 28th, 2010 at 2:44 pm
I’ve been fighting the urge to reply to my lost Aquarian! There are moments my mind plays tricks on me….’maybe he didn’t get your last email and it’s him who thinks I never wrote back” or ‘what if he wants to apologize’ and ‘what if he wants to honor his many invitations’
CONFUSION!!! I must say that I’ve reasoned my way through and have not made contact. It’s hard though! I would love to know why he has contacted me? What does he want? If anything! Sometimes I think about the fact that I will never know if I don’t reply and other times I just think I should let go! I’m so curious it’s killing me!
But in the end I settle back and think about how persistent he was in his pursuit of me and I know that if he really wants to talk with me about whatever he will write or call or something right?
He mentioned in his email that he would be in town soon, and I wonder if he just wanted to warn me or was afraid to bump into me, or maybe just wanted a place to stay, like he did when he left. But then I find myself angry at that possibility and think to myself “why would he think I would welcome him again”? Did he ever invite me to his place? NO!! NEVER! Even the many many invitations he made for me to visit him after he left, he backed out on and again I’m going to say it…I lost a high price ticket!!!! Damn it!!! And so it goes full circle in my thoughts; wonderment then anger! Then I let it go for a few days and then it starts all over!
Annie, thanks for your kind words!! It helps more than you know!
Until next time…..
May 18th, 2010 at 6:32 am
I have been reading all this posts about Aqua men… I don’t think all of them are lying selfish pricks.
I myself a Gem girl and in a relationship with Aqua man.
He could be so sweet in one week and the week after a bit distant or tired, then the next week suddenly rocks up outside my door with the biggest grin on his face.
I found these traits of Aqua men are annoyingly, surprisingly charming in a cute way.
He is tho very open about his feeling when he’s drunk, haha. what a cute idiot.
I spoil him sometimes then I ignore him too, he comes back like a puppy dog.
One thing I like being a Gem, I somehow find a lot things about Aqua men amusing.
Overbearing acidic fools who actually show so much love compared with other star signs, so much tiny actions that screams “i love you” from Aqua men (eg suddenly cooks for you, suddenly visit you after work just to say ‘hello’ and off again in a second like a true random idiot)
I mean seriously, Aqua men will do everything happily for you when they love you, but they just don’t say “I love you”.
So all I can say now to girls who are in love with Aqua men, just enjoy his attentions when he gives and when he doesn’t don’t nag, he’ll come back if he loves you.
And best part is you don’t have to do a lot of work for these men ;-P just don’t do anything and let them work the things in their ways and their pace and time (but doing nothing when you love someone is quite hard, no?)
May 29th, 2010 at 6:13 am
Hi In Repair, how you doing, just a short note to say have you been on The Mirror of Aphrodite site very interesting reading and thought provoking, see what you think, or perhaps you are lucky and dont care. Be good to yourself and know it will all work out in the end. What will be, will be and as my lovely Aunt use to say to me IF HE IS FOR YOU, HE WONT GO BY YOU Just believe. Lots of love.
June 1st, 2010 at 6:12 pm
its soooo true!!!!! im just like you said!=D its amazing how accurate you are…:)
June 23rd, 2010 at 1:01 pm
Hello Annie,
I suppose I’m doing better, but sometimes I find myself thinking about him. However, the thoughts are few and far between now….
I have not and do not intend to respond to him. I’ve held on to that decision and glad that I have!!! Still, though, I wonder??? And I know he will be in town in the summer, but I want him to worry about bumping in to me. I want him to feel the big “question mark” about what happened with me.
I don’t know if he will attempt to contact me again or while he is in town, but I know that one day he will regret his behavior and maybe feel badly about how cruel he was with me! I know by recent personal experience that ‘what comes around, goes around’!!! And the past slaps you in the face and your heart feels like a bus just hit you in the chest……I hope he feels that one day!!!
I have fantasy scenarios about having my say or treating him the way he treated me, I think the intention for him to contact me was to have some entertainment while he was back in town, I believe that he keeps his “X’s” as “friends” so that he can re-visit the intimate connection he had with us. (if nothing else is going on or finds himself bored!!!)
So, that is that!!! Who knows? But I am done participating in his game! All I have to do is stop thinking about him completely! I’m almost there, not quite, but almost!!!
I did check out the “mirror of Aphrodite” site…..it was definitely a good read! Thanks:-)
June 28th, 2010 at 8:21 pm
Hi Jerzi,
My name is Mia and I am Gem girl…I was in a complicated realtionship with a Taurus mainly since we have children…me and my Aqua friend have been friends for 3 years, in those 3 years he has really showed interest in me and when we are talikng about something he randomly asks out of the blue when are we going out, when can we go out, he even says I’ll go anywhere do anything drive out to your house which is an hour away, just to hangout with me…we haven’t gone out because of the complications with Taurus…he is very aware of the sitation and we still have this amazing connection…a few months ago he started dating a Capricorn and he did get a bit distant, he said he fell in love and lost his way but always stayed in touch and still wanted to get together…recently that relationship has ended and I’m seprated from Taurus…he called me and said he really needed to hear some words from a friendly face…he pretty much told me eveything that had been going down in his life…I felt honored that he wanted to share this with me and that out of all the people in his life it was me he wanted to speak to and help him feel better…He then again asked about us going out…I really like him but I don’t want to hurt him…He’s in my mind all the time and its not like I want to think of him he’s just there like a pulsating vibration in my head…I have the abilty to sense energy etc and its almost like he’s thinking of me all the time…then in return it makes this happen in my head…its exhausting…its nuts! Now that I’ve given you an overview…should I try to purse a realtionship with this Aqua? Am I someone he considers a relationship with, am I friend that obviousy stands out from the rest? From an Aqua point of view…any insight?
He also says I bring in sunshine and that its like I read his mind…
June 29th, 2010 at 8:26 pm
Hi Mia,
Do not mind if I interupt, I know your question was directed at Jerzi, but after reading your beautiful relationship with your Aquarius man, I felt the need to chip in and give you my perspective on what I think you should do with the current situation in hand. Let’s just say fellow Gemini to Gemini
Anyway, so lets back track, you drop out of a relationship with a Taurus… (may I say good on ya girl.. Taurus would probably bore you to death)..and whilst you are going through this there is an Aquarian friend in the back ground, who you have subconsciously supressed to the back of your mind. When you break up with this Taurus, there is a spark that lights between you and the Aquarian dude, and you and him feel there is a strong connection between the both of you. These feelings are started to drive you crazy, because he is the one person who gives you happiness and logic in your life, when all else is failing. But now, that you both have spoken and had these feelings for eachother there is a dilemma, on whether to pursue these feelings and let it transform into a relationship. Or to keep it as a simple but strong friendship?
My advice … (here it goes..)
The attraction and connection you both have is clearly insane and drives you wild. BUT even, though this Aquarian male has been there for you and you there for him, you don’t want to risk turning something so precious into a relationship, which could end bitter. Not only that but, you think that his value for this friendship may be destroyed if you were to pursue it further into a relationship.
) but, let him come to you. Aquarians like to make the first step, if you do pursue a relationship with him, it may just scare him, and he may move away from you which is something that you want to avoid happening. Do not make the mistake of taking the first step, it could turn alittle scary, and might end up as a sadness than a happiness. Now, just because I am suggesting not to pursue a relationship yet, does not mean that you give him the cold shoulder completely, you stated that he keeps asking you when you both will be linking up, make dates with him where you both can go and have your time together. In that time, that you spend together, he will slowly start to make the move. I think he already has major feelings for you but, play safe than sorry.
I personally, think that you need to read the situation and him alittle more closely. If he has turned to you in time of need and also has dropped in there a phrase of you being ‘the sunshine’ then this is clearly a strong friendship that he values. Remember that Aquarians are the one sign that see friendship as the biggest commitment, more than marriage and children! If you feel Mia, that he values the friendship and you more than anything, than I would not jump into the deep end just yet, he might just be coming to terms with his break up and needs you to be the cushion for his blow.
Anyway, I know that he might drop some hints along the way that might make you think that he is totally interested in you…(WHICH HE MOST DEFINATLEY IS!
I guess, in the end what I am trying to say, is that be that friend that he sees in you. Don’t let him down, but don’t let him let you down (if that makes sense :S) .. Keep the relationship alive, as well as it may be going for you now, if you give him the time and space, things will get better!
Just a couple of questions, to help me get a better insight into your relationship..
1. When is your birthday and when is your Aquarius males birthday?
2. Have both of you dated before?
Hope this helped
Reply back soon
x Peace and light x
Haz91
July 2nd, 2010 at 8:45 pm
Hi Haz91,
My birthday is May 30th 1980 and his birthday is Jan. 22nd 1978
We knew each otherin high school…never dated…the connection we share has been on going…
August 8th, 2010 at 8:38 pm
Hi Im a Leo and have been going out with an Aquarius girl for over a year. We did broke up last january as we had small fights that got her upset and she told me that she needed space. At that time I was so down that she left me that I did not manage to give her the needed space so we went no contact for 2-3mths. Then after 6mths we got back together.
Now after 2mths back together she says she needs space again
and she even told me, that she thinks its better if stay as friends, but we still meet in the weekends to attend parties together with friends. We have strong pyhsical attraction and very good sex life, but I dont know how we can avoid these stupid arguments we have, and she says that I critise here…its true from what i have read here in the comments about aquarians, and I really hoped that I had read them before!
In the first month of getting back to me…she was all over me and couldn’t get enough of me, then we had some small stupid fights that said they were making her said, hence her need for space or breakup. Do you think she will come back to me?
We have been like this for one week now. But I must admit as a Leo that this has been the hardest of all in terms of the times i fight with her or after the 1st breakup, I really missed her, and overall when we dont fight, I think this is the best relationship I ever had!
August 20th, 2010 at 5:55 am
Haz91 is so right, this Aqua is going crazy about you Mia and once you try to speed up the process of turning this friendship into a relationship, he might get a little bit frighten and keep his distant to over analysis the situation about making sure if you are really the right one for him. So just go with the flow and when the times come, this aqua boy will be so confident in analyzing everything about you, he would be sure you are the one, when that happen, he will probably be in love with you and that is when he will ask you out and take it to the next level. Good luck.
August 20th, 2010 at 12:50 pm
Thanks Micheal !
August 20th, 2010 at 12:51 pm
Sorry its spelt Michael
LoL
X
August 23rd, 2010 at 6:54 am
I am soooo in love with my aqua man. I have never felt this way about someone in my life. It feels amazing. Being an Aqua myself, I never thought the love of my life would be a fellow aqua.
September 5th, 2010 at 1:49 am
I’m an Aqua female and have been married to a Gemini man for 8 and a half years. Over the past 5 years I’ve grown more and more distant as he has gotten more and more complacent. I even sought out and volunteered for long deployments just to get away from him. Now I’m finally ready to follow through with a divorce. His father’s a very good lawyer and I suppose that I was always afraid that he’d ruin my career and finances - so I guess I’ve always felt trapped in the relationship. Thank God I didn’t have kids with him.
I’ve fallen in love with two Leo men, who are very much unlike the Gemini, or each other. Both are extremely intelligent, confident, a little cocky, very manly and somewhat alpha-type males. But one is completely unattainable and somewhat of a womanizer (extraordinarily charming, but also very flaky- which actually intrigues and excites me), while the other is getting too serious about me to quickly. Actually, both of them were way too quick to say I love you. Is that a Leo thing?
I’d probably be happier with the 2nd guy though, considering he seems more reliable and stable. He has two kids from his first marriage, but they live with their mother. I think I’m just very confused right now.
Sometimes Aquarians just need a little room to breathe and think things out - we tend to over-think and agonize about seemingly trivial problems. We also see deeper meaning behind words and actions, which applies to both others and our own. Maybe this is why I don’t take the “love” word so lightly. My ex Gemini would use it every time we spoke and it became so routine. It felt more like a reassurance to him rather than genuine.
Anyway, any insight on my little drama would be appreciated. Thanks…
October 24th, 2010 at 11:17 pm
Haha, I love the twig with the string bit. If you ever read Linda Goodman’s Sun Signs, she puts out a similar description that Aquarians may seemly not care about an event or topic but later provide a ’surprise’ caring about the situation.
There have been times where my friends will talk about something they’ve always wanted to have/ do, and although it may be a couple of years, I’ll go out of my way and find that gift and give it to them. And then they’ll look at me like I’m crazy…. not crazy, caring in a eccentric way.
We also have that emotional detachment issue. :/ I know if I really like someone and interested in them, I want to spend time with them as much as I can and I’m a double Aquarius (sun/rising). Usually I don’t like humanity and prefer to do stuff by myself. I don’t know if that’s all Aquarians, I’m just agreeing with your post.
And got completely spaced as to the point of my posting.
-.-
Sammi
October 26th, 2010 at 10:28 am
Hi, can anyone give me advice? I am a gemini male and I want to know how I can tell if an Aquarius female has something 4 me… we have known eachother for a number of years now… we both live in different parts of the world and live our own lives… we are still in contact even though we havent seen each other for years…she still seems to contact me if she needs to just talk to someone… Its been a while now…but as I am in my late twenties.. this girl has been the longest female to stay in my life as a close friend..its weird…usually girls come and go…this one is still around… do u think there could be something there???… ANYONE please provide feedback.. thanks.
October 27th, 2010 at 4:34 pm
aqua men are just strange and need to grow up!!!!!
have been dating a aqua for 7months and i have yet to figure this creature out. i am in aries with minium patience but with him i seem that have learned some patience. We met at a social network and he messaged me in a weird way being we didnt know eachother. he claimed he wanted to view my pics and see what i was about, i laugh and asked if was a pyhsco but anyhow i accept his request of viewing my pics and he likes what i was about we spoke and he tired to get the nerve to ask me out but i nicely declined. he told me we could be friends or even best friends and i said sure we’ll see he opened up about things that he had gone through in his life, like battling cancer. i spoke to him for a bit and then i never responded to him. he messaged me back after a couple of weeks stating that it was okay if i was not into him cuz alot of girls he had been nterested dont want to deal with him having this battle but then he asure me he understood but that not to worry as he is all better and fought this diease. a couple of weeks he messages saying hello and so i act polite and leave at that this lasted a while where he tried to ask me out and i decline. and suddenly after a month or so i decided to comment on his staus and make myself visible to him and we got talking without planing boom we et and hung out several times after that, we spoke gotten close, even intamite and wow oh wow….this is mind blowing sexually. we went out many times and i would offer to pay and he said he didnt like that, i still kept doing it. he said he wants to feel like a man. we went away for a weekend and he confessed he loved me but kept a secret from ecause he felt he would lose me btw: prior that he siad, he claimed to know me and that i was a beautiful person inside as well as outide that all i really want is to be loved, that i show a don’t care emotional to others in order to hde my true feelings and not get hurt. i was amazed that is true. well…..the secret he revealed to me was that he had rented a room and that he not have an apt because he lost it during the chemo……he couldnt afford it because he was too sick to work but was recievng benefits and somehow lost his apt. i told him i was not going away that i didnt care because he had shown me more. on the back of my mind all i could of was this guy using me in a sense? because i have a car, apt and i work. i know he has a job but still i was thinking about what was ths fools agenda. the relationship was great we kept going out. i paid for many things because it seemed he was short on cash at times. the relationshp still was steamy, affectionate, did everything together and so on…..and some how i was loving and getting close to hm and he ended up staying at my home frequently, i found myself playing wifey….cooking and all. he had me runing around taking him from place to place, paying for things most of the time,and take my car when he had a chance. things were good he really didnt for sure bring all his things but did it slowly and than asked if i wanted him to move in. i sad yes, everything was greeat sweet and my family and frinds could not be happier. then i statred to notice we were arguing….he would disagree with me,and then things in his life started to worsten, lost job, mom issues, daughter not communicating with him. he kept coming back and fourth…..then left the room he was renting and went to hs moms to live. then he would come back….argue, said he wasnt happy, he hated me, became jealous because men would talk to me in the social network and he thought every guy wanted me, he would often express how he felt on the interent by wrting on my wall or if a guy wrote to my wall sayng hello how is everything he would write something like babe i love you……he often write nice things on my wall but i dont if it were to show off to others that he is a loving person. he was affectionate alot but that changed. he became angry and would shout and somethngs often accuse me of affairs…..we exchanged passwords to prove i was not doing anything. then when i though he was seccure i wold change it and then he would question and id give to hm again and change it. then finally i said enough….i am no longer going to give u my pasword and that it i dont care what you think anymore. and he said we were over and i said fine do what you will i am not playing these childsh games. i never gave it him. he deleted me from his friends and blocked me he removed my friends and family from his list. i told him if had such insecurties it very well meant he was up too something. he didnt speak for 2 days then he said i got a job and i want too share that with you cuz youre my best friend. i answerd short and said great. i dont understand him but when we got talking he expressed he loved me so much….but blamed me for making him go out of hs character by yelling, cursing and saying mean things. he blamed. then he said i said i hate you but what i really meant i hate my life but i could not say it so i said i hate you. i told him i was not a punching bag, he would say mean things and act as if nothing happened, he needs to have things his way and the shouted i told him i hate. i told to take responsibilty for you actions, dont manipulate the sitauatio and just cause you don agree doesnt mean you need to get loud and angry to the point of throwing things. i will not stand for it. he calmed he was unhappy with living where i was because there was nothing to do in my area. he felt unahppy but i told him a husband who beats his women to deaf often says see what you made me do and smashes her head against the wall, you may not be physically abusing but you are doing t verbally and you need to change that about yourself not for me but for yourself otherwise you will find youself from relationship to realtionship. we took some time off…he went away i was trying to reflect and understand why he did what he did and does he really love me or is this just convience and i expressed this to him also and he often says i am soory we got together while i am down but i always had apt,car, jewery and i love to give you all that and i know i will once i get my life together. i dont want yo to think i am with u for something. he never came back….he stays at his mothers but we communicate and try to work things out but we took a moth off with very little contact but i ask him things about us and their are times i feel hs pain…..he says he so confuse but he loves me soopo much and that i am his family and all he has, misses me but he says i need to get my life together. you will see how i will be with you we are going to have so mcuh fun and you will have all you want once i do. he stop calling, i didnt want to pry, i gave hm space but texted a few times to assure i am here…..i thought we were done and everything died between us, he came back from his trip and we spoke but didnt see eachother til the 5th day and just when i thought this was over, and he didnt feel the same……he were in sexual amazement and he said he missed me…..after our inamacy i cried silently and everything was as the first time we met alot respect, affectionate, we went out, he is still a bit jealous but not extreme. he asked if i was seeing someone, he felt i was i sad no. i asked him the same he said no. he said to me he had missed me and thought so much about then few days later he came to a conclusion that he wasnt happy and that he didnt need to stay with me beause there is no obligation to stay we have no kids are married. then is back to baby i love and affection after all that jazz out his mouth. wthell is wrong with him? ive never yelled at him,disrespeced him or insulted him at all yet there were times he would accuse me of being fake when i tried to figure out in (in a physcilogical way) trying figure out what he meant when he said he hated me or was unhappy he said i was fake and when i tried to offer sugguestions to why he might be acting that way he said it wasnt me asking this. he would say i have a cloud over my head, i am negative, unhappy, controlling,and i like to fight. when actually he was all those things that i meantioned to him but he reveresd them and said i was those thngs and then i said see not accepting responsibity. i offered to help him in his healing and that i would try to understand and then he said ok lets see it will work. freak! i dont nderstand him/ what is he doing/ what is his intensions? what should i do?
October 27th, 2010 at 9:37 pm
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December 15th, 2010 at 9:50 pm
Hi Mirror of Reflection
Sound like the relationship I was in with a cancerian. Not everything is related to star signs….read up on narcissism…not saying the he is a narcissist (mine was) but the behaviour certainly sounds familiar. Knowledge is power and with it a lot of freedom because at the end of the day you start believing what he says to you and think that you are the problem. My advice…run…run fast! And read and learn:)
January 6th, 2011 at 3:44 pm
I just need to write and release the frustration;
I have not spoken or communicated with my X aqua man. He emailed twice about nine months ago and I never replied. However, I occasionally think of him.
Most of the time, I get angry when I think of certain situations, other times I miss the feeling I had; the butterflies, the excitement of knowing I was to see him, feeling beautiful and even remembering the quiet Friday afternoons in my office daydreaming about him and hoping I would see him that evening.
I have not felt that since and it’s now been 4 years since the height of our relationship. I miss feeling that alive! I miss having that connection and attraction to another human being! I just have not been able to feel it with that intensity!
I know that he was not right for me, I realize that it is better that I am no longer in a relationship with him, but then I ask myself…..’If that was not good for me, then why am I unhappy?”
When you avoid bad things to better yourself, where is the better???? Where is the peace? And why don’t I have peace?
I have really tried to forget him, I have not attempted to contact him; I’m too angry at him and know that he did not care for me on any level. So, I guess I just wish I did not miss the ‘feeling’ I had and then miss it, I miss the ‘feeling’ but it had to do with him and I suppose the two go together and I find myself thinking about him……..even though I know I don’t want to talk to him, or see him or have any connection to some one who treated me the way he did!
I just hope this new year brings me some peace of mind and all thoughts of him will be a distant memory!!!
January 12th, 2011 at 4:19 pm
Ha, thank you for making this specified for Aquarius. You must have been loving your Aquarius so much. Good Luck on your life .
January 14th, 2011 at 3:27 am
I am amazed to find out that I’m a different astrological sign then I had thought-?- But the Aquarius woman description and relationship with Taurus man issues are very pertinent (23 years and hanging in there). Was I never a Pisces? - or maybe I’m a blend. 3-8-66 b’day
January 19th, 2011 at 9:19 am
i ROFL when i read ‘(they will freely tell you this themselves)’
yeah i like being an aquarian and this is the 1stt time i read something so accurate.
January 26th, 2011 at 5:48 pm
This is just soooo me! Sometimes i can’t help thinking why i do things i do and why i’m like this and like that…makes me sound a weirdo, (lol) but i know am not! I am a very sane person but i don’t deny that i love to try out new ideas and do things beyond normal (but i always try to see nobody gets hurt whenever i come up with an idea that i find interesting) love it when somebody gets the benefit of something I’ve done unusual and if they’re happy about it…Sometimes i just love being different not because i want attention but because i find it very unique and originally from ME.
Now i understand myself better as a girl born under this sign. This site is helpful so keep it up folks!
January 26th, 2011 at 7:29 pm
I’ve noticed that with Aquarians, they are heavily influenced by their moon signs. This is just an observation, but I encourage anyone who is trying to figure out their Aqua to look into where the moon is in their natal chart. The moon sign governs more of the internal behavior/emotions and might give you some insight on how to touch those heavily ignored emotions.
I feel terrible reading all of these posts from people freaking out over their Aquas lack of reply/communication. I’m guilty of not replying, calling back, forgetting dates, etc. Sometimes it’s because I’m not really interested (ok, usually this is the case) and sometiems it’s the absent minded professor syndrome. There is always so much to think about in an Aqua mind and unfortunately, many things go forgotten.
Although if I am genuinely interested in a person, I will make sure they are not left hanging..
January 30th, 2011 at 4:46 am
This looks like a great blog, maybe someone can provide me some insight… I’m a Leo, my ex boyfriend aquarius. We dated a cpl times in our teenage years, a broke up with him cuz I liked him too much, got scared.. Yada yada, referred it for years. We kept in. Touch over the four years. I confessed my undying love for him but he was in a relationship by that point. We still kept in touch. A few months ago we began talking again and told each other everything about the past the stubbornness the true feelings, how we both thought of each other often. We got back together and I ended up moving in with him. I noticed his behavior change drastically when I ditched him one night after too much alcohol consumption, I know it was horrible, I didn’t cheat on him but something in him changed. Anyways, saying we loved each other was always on the tip, he said it a few times in his sleep, or after drinking but neither of us could do it. I was too scared. He wad acting out of sorts, closed up and of course the more I tried to talk or get close to him the worse it got. He became mean. I decided he needed space so I went out of town. I told him. I didn’t call the whole time I was gone, until the next night, by then he was already, drunk and sleeping with his ex. He confessed, cried which I found surprising and told me it was a misunderstanding, he’d thought I’d left because if his miserable behavior. We cried together the days before I left. Wed only been together 3 monthsish, talked about how we felt how stupid we acted. He said he now invested his exes feeling and something about morals. We still talk. I’ve tried every possible thing coming to the conclusion that although I care I’ve got to move on.He’s back with His ex, I’m back with my ex from before him, but I think of him daily, its been almost three mOnths since we broke up. My aquariums mystery. We texted for over an hour the other night. Then the next day, I noticed he welter me from fb. I wrote him a joking msg saying… I spy on you daily now what? He said he was a fuckup, I said I love you.
I didn’t hear from him, then he called. We talked about how hard it is, he said he deleted me so he couldn’t just randomly call or msg anymore and how like it or not he’s my friend. I said I couldn’t be just his friend ever, he said me too. Then hung up… Then 10 minutes later. Texted ” I love you”. First blatant time saying ur but he’d been drinking… Lol. Should I disregard it because of that fact? We still are both in relationships but he’s still calling me randomly to go for coffee or have drinks or just I talk, I just talk with him, I’m too nervous to see him in case he still only wants the friendship. I’m wondering if I was the rebound or her.. Was i just the stepping stone to rekindle Thierry relationship? Or I am just the girl he trying to keep strung along? I don’t know if it’s in aquarius character to do that, to say things to me that aren’t true. Why is he still with her?
January 30th, 2011 at 5:14 am
Better question, now that he’s made somewhat of an effort, is it ok for me to just sit tight, will he feel rejected or to forced if I dont try to pursue him? I’ve been clear about how I feel about him.
February 1st, 2011 at 11:50 pm
Lynn, I don’t know this guy so I can’t say for sure. I do know that if I am genuinely interested in someone and they are open to being with me that there is no way in hell I would waste time going back to an ex. If he wanted to be with you, he’d probably be with you. I also usually make sure to have “backups”. He may be stringing you along for when it falls through with his current girlfriend. He may be feigning indecision sometimes, but I’m sure you know on the inside that if he wanted to be with you, he would not be with her… He probably loves knowing that you are pining for him, so if you stop replying and give him his own medicine, he may just come just knocking at your door. This is my gut reaction to your post, don’t invest too much if he’s not giving you the love and adoration you deserve. Leo tends to love the challenge/mystery of an Aquarian but do not let him hurt your pride and don’t force it if it’s not happening. I wish you health and happiness in the future! Good luck!
February 20th, 2011 at 1:17 am
i love your site pretty much intriguing. I am aqua girl and am loving me for who i am, everything you said about an aquarian woman is true we are know for our independence and open mind and space.I am loving it
March 6th, 2011 at 1:23 pm
Hi Becky (and evrybody else who concerns), I want to ask you,
I am a Leo girl, dated an aquarian for 1year or more, broke up bcos of same ego you all know about leo of possesive, dramatic, over controlling. broke up in 2008, but until atleast 2 days before today, we still went with our mutual feelings without label of gf bf. also that phase is the phase where people may outside-ly see me as a girl who pathetically doesnt move on while her ex is so over her, where in fact the things between us pretty much concludes that we have mutual feelings.
once in a while he told me his feelings, but never said frontally the three words “I LOVE U”. examples, when i asked him do you still love me? why cant we go back together? (well i know now these questions are soooo not needed. i was still a kid and havent reached to the point ive reached now about the way he shows his feelings. it was in 2009), he said “I love you, but just cant”. and othe example is like a week ago, when we argued bcos he is now chasing for a taurus girl. he said ” seriously, you are very important to me, but if you insist to be like this (possesive very jealous etc) our thing will become not important”
-well i do take it as a statement that he loves me (and the statement of i just need to deflate my freaky egos and relax), well aquarians and becky, what do u think? does he love me?
-oh and for further consideration, he has once told me before the gf-bf phase “dont worry D, my heart is all yours :D” when we argued that time about something., reading about you aquarians comments, was it just a flirty sentence or did he really mean it?
-also about does he really love me,.. im the one he cried to when he was down.. does this mean something or its just a coincidence (bcos i was the only one he was texting with)? well that day was very dark for him i knew by the way he showed that he was so sad, and he has never been like that before. he also greets me on my birthday, whether at 12 oclock or at 24 oclock, he took me on a date on my bday and made that a special nite. (omg, i love him and hes so… caring:”c)
what do you think? does he really have this deep special feeling the way i feel towards him?
well i ask that since now we agreed to take separate roads first, bcos he is chasing this taurus girl.. and we agreed that if were meant to be, well get back the way God plans.
-and i have a question.. well i know it depends on the people who play the roles. but… which is more compatible for you guys aquarians, and what do u think becky? A leo or a taurus?
thankyou for asnwering
March 12th, 2011 at 11:17 pm
I recently ended things with an Aquarius man I was seeing for 7 months. It took quite a while to understand the whole disappearing thing, but I learned to appreciate him. I am a Pisces and knew instinctively that he was special. He never told me how he felt and while it bothered me, I decided to trust him and wait. But after a while I couldnt discern if he was being a typical Aqua or a man who was just not into me!
Of course he didnt call that often, which I learned to accept, but my birthday rolled around and not only did he not call to wish me a Happy Birthday (no surprise there), he said he would come to a party my friends were throwing for me, implied he was on the way, and never showed up! That was the last straw because that showed me that he did not care and he didnt bother to offer an excuse or an apology! Yet called me FOUR days later to make plans for that week. Its unfortunate because although astrologically we are said not to be compatible, I felt like there was a real spiritual connection between he and I. But he kept running everytime we got closer. And I had to protect myself. I ended things two weeks ago, but must admit I miss having him around. But I cannot be w/ someone who treats me like I dont matter at all. SIGH..
July 27th, 2011 at 7:05 pm
I have been seeing an aquarius man for sometime now, and you are completly right about them. They are affectionate, loving,caring, respectful, amazing, and the best relationship you have ever had, then he will be quiet reserved, “disappear” for a while, or shut me off, but then shortly he is back again, still loving me just as before! They are amazing a little hard to handle at times yes, but they are so worth it! I appreciate your sight and keep them coming. I am a Capricorn and without these to give me insight I would have gone crazy! LOL
August 7th, 2011 at 6:20 pm
Hello everyone.
I know that some signs can bump heads with each other, but rising signs and where your venus is makes a big difference in the relationship. I am a Taurus rising Libra , mooon in libra and venus in libra and have a wonderful relationship with an Aquarius rising Scorpio. Its genius! So if you really wanna see the whole pattern , get your astral chart and find out where the other planets are. It helps. Much love and blessings for those in love with Aquarians. xoxo
September 11th, 2011 at 1:09 am
I need your insight. Aquarius woman and Cancer Man. He had me at hello. I read about cancer and he does not fit the bill. I feel like I am the emotional, clingy one who can not wait to have a family and he is soo nonchalant, but sooo sweet too. ???? Cancer Sun, Moon, Venus and Mars, yes he is.
November 25th, 2011 at 7:36 am
hi am an aquarian (18/2), agree with what the admin has wrote here. Our free spirited soul, independent and need space. In love life, kinda hard to like someone in instant…as some of them will count us like cold mountain. Well, i admit it that if i do fallin with someone i will be very secretive and analytic, a bit ignorance too…sometime i hate being this but it always happening. One day i can be very in love with him but next day i feel i am bored with him hehehe. All i can say is someone who had crush on me shud be very stubborn, patient and an non-give up person. Sometime i feel very guilty to treat them quite bad, especially with the pisces men :p
My logic minds rules me a lot than my heart, and when they were collide i am in mess….hahaha!
January 10th, 2012 at 10:01 pm
The way an Aquarian shows they love you is unique and meaningful and that for me is adorable, They won’t do the same thing with every girl, they make sure you know its about you and only you. I love it. The fact they very often avoid expressing emotions that are classed as ‘normal’ is strangely endearing.
Showing someone you love them through something only you and him/her can understand for me is highly romantic!
Everyones had chocolates, flowers, jewellery, a teddybear, We don’t need more. I prefer the aquarians unique ways by far!
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