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Aquarius In Love
Introduction
Over the next month Aquarius’s everywhere are celebrating their birthdays and indeed entering the world for the first time. These people are hard to define in life and love mainly because defining them takes away a big part of what and who they are, and what they are is highly individual and very quirky human beings. Perhaps ‘human beings’ is not the right phrase, as Aquarius’s are not really of this world. I mean, physically they are, and we can, for instance, touch them, see them and hear them. But the Aquarius person’s mind is seldom linked to earthly matters.
Aquarius In Love
When in love the Aquarius subject is not overly gushing and certainly not traditional. Occasions can tend to get forgotten about even when reminded and things such as birthday cards can prove a bit of an effort also!! Now, don’t get me wrong, I am a fan of this sign, I am indeed madly in love with a man of this sign…luckily for me I am one of the few people who can understand where they are coming from, sort of!
So, if you are the kind of person who loves nothing more than to be wooed in the appropriate manner of posh restaurants, flowers and chocolates, then you may be disappointed. However, if you are the kind of individual who likes something different, such as a picnic on Jupiter, then this could be the person for you. Although tradition maybe lost to them, everything else isn’t.
They will always surprise you with something no doubt zany and unique, but, you see, the meaning behind it will be enormous. You might be given for example, a twig with a red ribbon tied around it……..but there would be a reason for it, some kind of memory you had together or a private joke. It’s that sort of thing the Aquarius brings to your life and makes a smile appear on your face, not just any old smile, but one you have never had before!
The Aquarius is also very independent, and hates to feel confined or trapped by anyone. They may spend weeks by your side, cuddling you and kissing you and behaving like a lost puppy, then all of a sudden and always without warning, the Aquarius goes away…sometimes physically, sometimes mentally, occasionally both. And this is, for some, one of the frustrating way’s of the Aquarius. Just to reassure you, they haven’t stopped loving you, or caring, or even thinking about you, they simply need space. These people have a touch of the genius in them (they will freely tell you this themselves) and what almost always comes with genius is a little bit of madness. So, just smile to yourself when your Aquarius lover vanishes and just think ‘nutter’ and go about your day.
Aquarius In The Bedroom
These people are very open minded. And this is projected into every part of their life, including the bedroom. The Aquarius lover loves to have sex. They love having another body and soul to get entwined in. They are not one of the more promiscuous signs, however, the Aquarius does love to experiment new things and really does need a partner who will want to co-operate with any new ideas. It is common for this sign to be found at swinging parties!!!
They make stimulating lovers and will take the time to learn how to press all the right buttons, as their first priority isn’t to please themselves but to please their partner. The Aquarius loves to see you enjoy yourself in every way, both in and out of the bedroom.
So what we have here is a loving, unique, independent soul, who is up for any kind of adventure and extreme sports, both in and out of the sheets!!!!
These characteristics are based fully on a persons sun sign. Therefore may not be 100% accurate for everyone as there are lots of different aspects of one’s chart to take into consideration.
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i think this is incredibly patronising towards both astrology and aquarius signs.
Well I am sorry to hear that Grace. It wasn’t meant in anyway to be patronising. Perhaps with a little humour. My partner and I have both just re-read it and neither of us can find anything in it that we would call partronising. And he is an aquarius himself. But we are all entitled to our own opinions and your’s is just as appreciated as a positive reaction.
Love & Light
Becky
its amazing how analyzed my sign nicely, much is so true about my sign and some is eye opening
there is things you wrote that i do or i am but never occurred to me that it was an effect from my sign, but something i read about my sign being in love with Taurus made me feel worried and sad, plz email me crying.devil_@hotmail.com
I am an aquarius and from my experience love for me has been a tiresome road. I find myself becoming less interested in my taurus’ boring daily routines. Nothing he does surprises me and he constantly feels like I am asking for too much when in reality the reason why my needs are not being met is because my taurus is too tired from daily activities or simply too fed up with my wants and needs. I do all I can do to please him when he asks, but when I ask for something like more of a message or sex i’m always asking for too much. If you ask me I would say love between a Taurus and Aquarius can work only if the taurus learns to control their anger and give in not just once in while but more than usual without the request of the Genius Aquarian and stop judging your aquarian lover for he/she will surely leave you . For the aquarius learn to trust your taurus and listen when you feel like you don’t need to because you’ll end up wishing you did !!!
Boy, you hit THAT on the money,I have been reading alot about astrology and you are the only one has come close to it, really like your site,
P.S. Im an Aquarius too. I left that out :O)
aaah i love your readings, it makes me love being aquarian. gives me a nice warm fuzzy inside. i enjoy disecting people and i believe you did my job for me and layed it right out there on the table for me to gobble up with little effort. thank you
ciaociao
i totally agree, its hard when they leave u alone but reassure when he comes back u will forget n forgive right away. the aqua men are r perfect if u have a open mind, sexy scorpio.
To me, birthdays are really important so even if i give a twig with a red ribbon, I’ll definately have the real present backing it up..but yr right about the puppydog thing i suppose…
and i really hate being confined or trapped cause I’ll just run… :p
Thank you, thank you, thank you for this wonderful description of the Aquarius man. I’ve recently started dating one and turned to astrology to get a “sense” of the sign. Almost everything I read said that aqua’s were, well not romantic, not overly affectionate, etc. I’ve only been dating him for just over a month but my aqua guy definately seems affectionate, loving, a wonderful communicator etc. I haven’t really seen the disappearing part yet…maybe that will come with time, I’m not sure…all I know is that for now, he is everything I could hope for in a man. I’m 38 and this is the best relationship that I’ve ever been in in my life.
I liked this very much!
It seemed VERY accurate!
That Grace person…I think overreacted WAY too much.
I think she woke up on the wrong side of the bed or something…
OMG… such an awesome description of the Aquarius male! Especially the “puppydog” theory…lol
While I’m sitting ’sulking’ or digging deep to see if there is something I did wrong - he then suddenly comes back to me like nothing ever happened! LOL … I just move on…
I dont get it, but there is something so intriguing about them, so beautiful but weird… (smiles)
♥ your site! Can’t wait til everything is up and running! Dont forget about us LIBRAS!! ☺
For the previous comments regarding taurus and aqua relationships. Trust me, from experience, they do not work. There’s going to be lots of arguements and you’re going to get tired of it. I know, I am an aqua myself. I have been with a taurus for nearly 4 years. We thought we could work it out, but in the end, I left. We can only take so much before they get too overbearing. If you’re in a relationship right now, I am telling you. It’s going to end sooner or later.
Hello Becky!
Any thoughts on Venus in Aquarius People (men and women) Love to hear that???
Aly, The Water OX
Hello Aly my friend,
Great Idea and yes I have lot’s of thoughts about this. I am just in the middle of writing Gemini/Horse for the combined astrology section and then I think I may write about that.
Thanks Aly
Love & Light
Becky
WOW, would wait to hear that. We are the Quirky Types.
Thanks
Yehh would luv 2hear about guys w/ Venus in Aquarius too!!x
How can I tell if the aqua man I am dating is in love with me? How do aqua man show they are in love?
I should probably tell you that I am a virgo. We have known each other for over 3 months and we have this amazing connection in all levels and the best time when we are together. Sex is awesome. He was the one to tell me first how amazing he thinks I am, and how he loves the way i am, and how cool it is to hang out, talk to me and do all the crazy things we do together. I feel exactly the same way about him and I told him that. I just don’t know if what he feels is friendship only, or if that is his way of saying that he loves me…. so my question is: how do aqua man show they are in love? Thank you!
Hi Jen,
Thanks for your comments. Well Aquairus men are not the gushing type, but he will do things for you, spending time with you alone means that you mean a lot to him. Remember this sign needs noone, they can function perfectly well alone, when they do spend time with someone it will only be because they want too therefore the more time he spends with you the more he feels for you. If he lets you into his world then he loves you. It is always wise to actually ask them out right too or you may never find out! They don’t function the same way the rest of us do. Sounds like it’s going well so far though
Love & Light
Becky
Becky,
Thank you! I was wondering if the fact that we both have scorpio ascendants connect us in a deeper level. It’s amazing how we know how each other is feeling without even speaking…. By the way, your website is AMAZING!
Jen
I’ve been seeing my Aquarius guy for a few months.. we’ve been friends for a couple years. We spend all our time together and he gets really jealous when I hang out with my friends. I’m a gemini and I love astrology so I know about both signs.. I can’t understand his jealousy for one thing.. he was so shy at first now he’s completely different his moods are crazier than mine (that’s saying alot you know?) . He says he doesn’t want a relationship but we spend all our time together and he does things for me.. he acts just like my boyfriend… except when he gets caught up working on his truck for hours and wants to be alone and working. I guess the scorpio somewhere in his planets and his cheating ex girlfriends drove him to decide he wants to be alone.. which is the opposite of what he wants.. which way which way??? I thought I was the gemini hahahaha really though.. I’m tired of analyzing maybe you have a few thoughts
Hi there Acasia,
Thank you for your comment. There a pain at the best of times these Aquarius men, to the rest of us anyway, to themselves their behaviour is perfectly normal! If he tells you he wants a relationship then that means he has given himself to someone, he has commited..and they don’t really like that, so by saying that he dosen’t want a relationship, in his mind, allows him to feel he is still free whilst having you in his life as well. My Aquarius is just the same, he works for long periods of time and it’s like he isn’t even here. It’s just the way they are, and that is there one falling point, people can love them but they find it hard to accept them. And that is becuase it’s nearly impossible at times!! It’s just a case of accept or walk away i’m afraid.
Good Luck
Love & Light
Becky
I believe this to be very accurate, I am an Aquarius male myself. I just love that lost puppy dog part…
But what seems to be the problem for me is that girls don’t take the time to get to know me. They just view me as “that weird guy” and think no more of me.
But I just wish they’d see that I’d do anything to be their dream, I really would.
Oh well, guess that’s life?
Once again Becky nailed it. This is sooooooooo true. Expect I wouldn’t go to swinger parties. I am one man kind of girl. I will be honest I haven’t had sex yet, but I had foreplay with some flings. To me, sex doesn’t interest me, I am more interested in love. And I am one that doesn’t need someone RIGHT NOW. I can live my WHOLE life being alone. It just I am not in a hurry. I know somewhere out there is someone just for me. Even if I was in relationship with guy and he never wanted to get married, that wouldn’t bother me. Because I am not in the rush to get married.
Oh yeah, that is so true, we are really expermenial when it comes to the bedroom. For me it gets on my nerves when someone doesn’t let me play and just expect me to just lay there and do absoulutely NOTHING sadden me. I think love should be fun, have no boundaries, free and ect. The moment someone wants to do it sooo TRADTIONAL is where I lose my interest and say “BORRRRRING!!!” And yeah, we aim to please. One needs to clairfiy how they want to be please, because if you told me “just touch me.” I am just so lost. I also found myself that I am so curiosites behind close doors. I want to fullfill my fantasties, but then I become shy. So yeah, I think we need a partner that is calm and doesn’t rush us, but yet is up for anything I come up with.
I don’t know about the rest of you Aquarians, but for me it very hard to just have sex with someone. There has to be the emotional conntection of love.
Being detact is one of our traits. And people should not interuppted as we don’t care, or we hate you. Because we’ll let you know when we don’t care or we hate you, we are not afarid to be in your face direct. I know I am not.
Wow i’m a aquarius myself…. and I dont really kno myself. Well my sgin that well… as well as you do. I like the sounds of being a aquarius alot. It seems that we are good people and excellent lovers. But, I do have a question! Are aquarius good in relationships?
To Anna. Hallo!!!!
Well, it really depends on the person’s makeup. Yes, we are all Aquarius, but we are different people. I can’t really say that Aquarius are good in a relationship, nor are they bad in one, because it really depends on the person.
For me, I haven’t found the right person yet, that likes my strong sense of self, indepence, will. And let me be me in a relationship. I seem to find that when I get in relationship with a man, he wants to change me into his version of what I should be. Or has a problem about me, that shouldn’t be a problem. I had this one guy that said he loved me, but had problem with me being a virgin. To me that isn’t love. A real man wouldn’t have problem with a woman who was a virgin.
I have not had any good luck in a relationship. Because, I haven’t found a guy that is secure enough in himself to handel my intense, firecryness. Immature men cannot handel me, but man who is forces, has strong will of self, is level-headed, has thrill for life, and lets me be me could handel me. I find myself attracted to older men.
But it really is up to the person’s makeup and how they were rised.
This is the thing, you can’t really basic how things are going to work in a relationship by star signs. It really comes to how the person was raise, can you two commuicate well, can you two handel each other annoying traits and still get along.
To Acasia Sounds like your boyfriend has some insuries. My suggesting is. Is to re-sure him that when other men talk to you or whatever that you are not going to cheat on him and that everything will be fine.
Jealous in men turn me off, because that jealous can lead to controaling. So just be careful. And just re-sure him that everything is fine.
My partner is an aries and she used to allow me as much space as i wanted, i was free to do whatever i pleased… this upset me! there would be no txt messages asking how i’m doing, no i love u calls in fact we were like mates who would chill untill it was sex time, in fact I started feeling she wanted me out the way to do what she wanted with whom she wanted, i spied on her phonecalls knocked her house randomly and caught her out on several lies but nothing that proved her cheating. I decided to let go emotionally and have a not care attitude and now shes started txting askin me who i’m with what i’m doing on facebook and generally making an effort to show she doesn’t want to lose me, good thing really as shes giving birth to my first born next month and I’m shitting myself to the point I’m online trying to get opinons of strangers… look what you’ve done ta me K****y, lol
To LittleImpaler
Sounds just like me, except I’m a guy so things are reversed of course.
At this point in my life I haven’t found anyone who is mature enough mentally to deal with my quirks and odds and ends. Most instantly assume I’m either a perv or I’m just too “weird” for them.
They just don’t take time to get to know me and how much I could make them happy and it’s very, very, frustrating.
I have had an on and off relationship with an aquarius, I’m a leo. I never appreciated him. We broke up a year ago for good. He turned his love into hate for me reecently we’ve started to talk again and I want him back
Hello there,
I am a fourteen-year-old girl, and I would just like to
say that I really enjoy reading horoscopes, but I often find that they are not always totally accurate. I think they are a fine portrayal of how many people are, but that even astrology cannot predict who you are as a person, when nobody is exactly alike. I know there are many variables to astrology, but there aren’t as many variables as there are individuals, so the logic in astrology is not so well thought out, or easily proved.
I am not insulting astrology in any way, I think it is very interesting and fun to read, but do not make the mistake of basing your life and love on something that attempts to describe en-masse who people are. If someone is exceedingly rude or stubborn and intolerable, it is not because they are a Taurus or Capricorn, and are heavily influenced by one of the fifty-five orbitals of Hipparchus in the geo-centric age. A relationship is never going to work if you constantly fret over your compatibility with an individual, when they are simply unpleasant, and exceedingly normal in the fact that they have normal emotions and are just regular people.
I am an Aquarius, and I am sure that is of no great interest to many, but my personality is that and more of a typical Aquarian description, as everyone’s should be. Astrology is not Astronomy, and is no science, not even a hypothesis or mild theory. Please do not base a life decision on a typical desciption that every astrology site has the basis of. Do not disprove this pretty belief system, but take it as a pastime, and less as a strict guideline.
Sincerely,
FlutistChild
Dear Becky,
I am talking to an Aquarius male.We have been talking and seeing each other for the past few months.Well I didn’t really understand why sometimes he wouldn’t want me over or he would vanish.He’d always say he is busy.Well I believe him and all.But me being shy I wrote him a short and sweet email to let him know how amazing I think he is and how I wish that I knew how he really feels about me..Well he never wrote me back but he did call and he invited me over.He showed me a really nice time.He was acting like the little lost puppy dog.I LOVE IT!!SO,was he “showing” me how he really feels about me instead of “telling” me?
Hi Allison,
Thank you for your comment. You have hit the nail on the head! Yes, Aquarius men nearly always prefer to ’show’ you how they feel as opposed to telling you. It is just the way they are. You have experienced just how wonderful Aquarius men can be, so enjoy it and when he has his cold moments try not to get down, because he will but it is nothing against you they just need a lot of space to themselves. Good Luck!
Love & Light
Becky
Dear Becky,
Thank you so much!That really makes me feel so much better about things.I am trying so hard to understand his ways.I feel so much love for him.:)
I love how he is.Its just kind of confused me when he would vanish..But I now know that it wasn’t because I did something wrong,it was only because he needed his time.You have really helped me.I thank you again.
P.S.Am I going to have to be the one to ask the Aquarius if he wants to be in a relationship with me,or will he ask me when he is ready?lol
Hi again,
So glad you feel better. Aquarius guys can be hard work! I think you will just find yourself in a relationship with him without anyone having to ask anyone. May I ask which sign you are, I don’t think you mentioned it before??
Becky
Hi Becky,
Sorry about that.I am a Libra.
Well there you go then! It’s a very good match but just remember not to get too upset when he’s not with you!! Love & Light Becky
xx
I’m guessing that is a good combination?Aquarius and Libra.
OK!!Thank you!I feel so much more confident about it all.
I am a Virgo and have been on and off again with an Aquarian. We have a very strong physical attraction but we dont seem to be going anywhere. He tells me he’s not good at relationships but i find im to scared to open up to him because I dont want to push him away. I want to know where we stand and if he actually wants to be with me. He sure acts like it. He’s very affectionate and cuddly but for 4 months we havnt established what we are. I need advice on whether I should talk to him about it?
Thanks!
Hi there Virgo girl,
Thank you for your comment. The thing with Aquarius guys is that they don’t really like to put a ‘title’ on anything. They don’t want to say that you are boyfriend and girlfriend, madly in love or anything like that. If it is working then as far as they are concerned that is good!! Yes of course talk to him, you must always express how you feel, perhaps write it to him rather than face to face, but it is always best to get these things off your chest. Aquarius guys can be confusing to be with. Good Luck.
Love & Light
Becky
mmm! i reckon he’s tryna figure u out and the moment he does the relationship will be based on how well u fit into his perfect scenario at the time or how u can improve his life.Till he’s pieced together the puzzle you are just another facsinating experience… real talk
King Aqua
oh if u wanna know where u stand try and find out what he naturally refers to u as to his friends without fore-thought!
good luck virgo girl.
dats deep flutischild! glad u wrote it
thanks Calvin
I felt really good about writing it,
and it’s nice having someone actually
appreciate it, because lots of people
on this site don’t want to hear what I had to say
about astrology. but in this case,
thanks
Hi Becky I am a Libra girl that has fallen for an aqua guy. We have been friends for many many years and share many of the same interest and my feelings are becoming much deeper for him. I noticed that he has taken interest in me bc he always compliments me now, we talk all of the time(everyday,all day),and I find him staring at me alot and everytime I see him he doesnt stop smiling…and just recently out of the blue he called me and told me that he really cares about me and would give me his last bc he knows that I would do the same for him and constantly stressed that he cares about me and he jokingly says that he loves me, but we have never had sex and he told me that he wants to wait bc he doesnt want to mess things up for us. Is that normal for an aqua guy to want to wait? I just constantly wonder if he is falling the same way Ive fallen and if the answer is in my face or what? Please, Please, Please help me bc you know us libras constantly thinking trying to look for answers!
To lady~libra:
Hiya there!
Being an Aquarius gal. I can understand why he does this. Because I do it too, when I really love someone. And the way he is acting is normal. This man “REALLY” loves you. He wants to take it slow with you, and do not take this as a bad thing, because he vaule your friendship so much. Do you understand when a Aquarius weither that is a woman or man, when they fall in love someone, they fall in love competely, they will give you their all. They would die for you, jump through fire for you.
This man doesn’t mean to confuese you in no way, he wants to just take it slow with you, because in a way he is still testing the waters to see if you want the same things as well.
For me, I been hurt a lot, and when I am in relationship I like to take things slow, because I do not want to get hurt again. I watch the person I love. Not as watching as in stalking, but watching to see if you are trust worthy, that you are not type to turn around back stabe me in back.
You have a great man here, and just please be patient with him, do not rush him, we Aqaraius do not like to feel rush, or pushed into anything we are not fully ready to jump into.
If you let him be who he is, you’ll find it was worth the wait.
wow!! that sounds exactly like the aqua im seeing now. im a sagittarius.
weve been seeing each other for about a month (although he says barely 2 weeks…) haha
hes such a goof! i love it!!
i give him all the space he needs, basically i never call him first. especially after we hang out the day before, i always wait for him. then of course when he does, he always wants to see me again. lol
and he is such a cuddler! i call him my koala. lol
to him its almost as if we cant seem to be close enough. lol and weve spent the night together a few times, but never slept with each other…
but he can act extremely cold.
he finally told me about 2 days ago that he just wants to be friends (this is also after we spent thankgiving with my family and he took me to a christmas party for his work(hes in the navy, and his buddies consistently kept telling me that he must really care about me if he brought me to the party..)
so basically 2 days after the party he tells me this, and is a complete jerk to me when im surprised.
says that he doesnt want to talk about this if im ganna keep bringing this up all morning.
totally not him to say that.
and everything was going completely perfect. we have the same mental connection, movie collection hahaha, and just really appreciate one another.
i was really hurt when he asked to be friends(because he has talked about taking me to all these places and christmas plans ect. when he gets back from visting his family for 2 weeks;he left yesturday) but he wants to be friends he says because he doesnt want the navy(him leaving for 7 1/2 months) and moving back to the east coast when he gets out..(which i mind you is in 2 years!!!!…)
i can understand that, but im a navy brat(both my parents and my brother are in the military and my older brother) so im used to people leaving. not to mention ill be done with school in 2 years and ive already said from the beginning that when im done i plan on moving to the east coast. it wasnt where hes from but ive told him that i wouldnt mind it being there.
i dunno… i called him adn told him that im happy to just be friends. he texted me and said hed call me when he gets back and to wish me a merry christmas.
now im curious since i fell for this kid, if we just act the same way we did before, or is this more platonic…
and my personal belief as to why he completely changed is because since everything was so perfect, hes afraid to really fall for me, or that he noticed that he was starting to and decided to call it off. he told me he was looking for a gf in the beginning and its funny that now all of a sudden when things are perfect he says he doesnt because of the navy…
and with his buddies comments.. its weird. i really think its because he really started to feel something between us and wants to slow things down.. waaayyyy down compared to before. maybe this is his way to control our relationship and see what happends…
either way hes amazing and i heart him.
thanks.
Thank you Little Impaler!
I think your right I always try my best to not pressure him and give him his freedom because I like to have mines as well and Im going to take what you said into consideration and just remain patient because I really care about him and I really believe we have a bright future ahead together.I have one more question and that is should I express how much I care about him or just keep it to myself because alot of times we will have a heart to heart and then I wont hear from him for like a day or so and I know Im a really deep person so if you could help me with this I would really appreciate it. Thanks
To lady~libra:
Good moringing, I hope you are doing well. And you are very welcome.
Let me see, if I got this straight, he doesn’t know how you truly feel?
In this situation, I would not tell him, because you are not excately sure if he wants to take it to the next step, because you already know he wants to take it slow. Keep it inside, if you told him how you felt, he might get scared and shut down.
Let him come to you, when he is ready. When he tells you how he truly feels, then when you should tell him.
I had guy like this once (Wow, was he HOT!!!!
) He was very tall Russian man (6′8) with brown messy Harry Potter hair, with nice light pale heathy skin, with very bright blue eyes. And that Russian accent, (had me all the time.) It was SEXY! We had strong sexual attraction to each other and we liked each other a lot. We exchange telephone numbers, he called me, more than once. Never wanted to hung up. I didn’t want too, even when I had to go.
Well, one day he told me, “Why didn’t you hug me when I came in.”
I said, “Didn’t know, you wanted a hug. Well, the next time I see you, I will hug you.”
He comes to the gym with his friends (which I also know.) And I go up to him to give him a hug and suddenly he says, “No, no, don’t hug me.” His friends were laughing and I stood there all baffled. He was being all cold on me and it was just awkward. And I felt like I screwed EVERYTHING up. (The thing is everyone knew he liked me A LOT and I did too.) I told one my guy friends what happen.
He tells me, “Ohhh, I see. You’d embrasse him, he’s young (he was only 21, and I was 23 at the time, but looked like I was 18. I usually go for older men not younger ones) Any ways, He says to me, “You need to not talk to him for few days. If he really likes you, he’ll get mad and will come chasing you.”
And I told my father what happen. My father starts laughing and understood why I was so confuese. “He goes his young. How about you not express how you feel to him and let him come to you. When he is ready, tell him how you feel. You, can’t just go to a guy and bam tell him how you feel, you scared them off. You need to be in the background, be patient and just watch and enjoy the ride.”
I am very direct woman, if I like a man, he will know! LOL
So I did what my friend and father said. One day out of the blue he calls me. And says, “Where have you been? Why are you not at the gym?” I made up a little story, sorta of white lie. So every thing was cool again.
The thing is, he would get jealous if other men talked to me, because there were a lot more men that would love to go out with me. And I told Valdimir (the russian guy) He had nothing to worry about, because I am attracted to only European men. But you know, boys will be boys. A man was ordering something and trying to chat me up, well Vlad walks over to the counter, and talks to me. Boy, this men wanting to fight each other, they didn’t like each other. The man leaves, then Vlad says, “I don’t like that man. I don’t like how he looks at you or talks to you.”
That had me smiling inside. I got to learn more how he felt for me, if I didn’t express my feelings to him, and just watch him. And I also learn he would open up to me more little every time, if I let him be him and let him just come to me.
Since he was so young he would change his mind a lot. Yes, I want to date you, from no again.
But yeah, just let him come to you, when he is ready, let him lead this relationship. Things will work out. Trust me. If I hadn’t gone to Germany, when he didn’t want me too, the relationship would have work out.
But since you’re guy doesn’t sound like a really young guy, and more of a man, he will be truthful with you and not change his mind. But if he does it too much, and it driving you crazy then I would tell him how you felt. But I don’t sense that.
I hope everything goes the way you hope, and it sounds like it will with this man. So I wish you the best of luck
PS.
I think it’s really great he doesn’t just want to have sex with you, that tells me he REALLY respects you as a person, and doesn’t see you as a piece of meat. More men need to be like that, and more women should not always be in hurry to give it to him. But make him prove his worth.
Lady-Libra, you truly have a great man. And you might find yourself having a love like John and Yoko did. Which is really rare.
Thanks again Little Impaler…
He knows some things but not everything I pretty much wait for him to say how he feels and then I respond because I dont want to go too deep into detail because I dont want him to run off. His actions definitely show that he has feelings for me so I just go off of his actions and take it a day at a time I mean Im happy with the way things are going between us because we are closer than ever and he excepts my daughter and he just seems so perfect for me and I dont want to mess that up with us and deep down inside I really truly love him but I can wait til he is ready to say something until Ill just enjoy the ride! We have been friends for over 7years and we have always had a strong mental and physical attraction for one another even when we were seeing other people and now I just think that its our time and your right about the sex thing I am glad that he wants to wait I just needed a little reassurance thats all I guess because it isnt as common for a man to wanna wait nowadays! He is a great catch and Im willing to let him take the lead!
P.S. That was a great story alot of the situations you talked about, I have been in situations similar to those with him and I have always been a very direct woman myself and he knows that I want him but alot of times I make myself unavailable to him so he can do alittle chasing and he we are both the same age(21) but I believe that he is very mature for his age! But thanks so much for taking out the time to talk to me you are greatly appreciated!
To lady~libra:
You’re so very welcome. I can’t believe the more I hear your story, the more it was like the thing that Vlad and I had. I bet he makes you mad, just to make you mad.
Vald always made me mad, just because he could get a reaction out of me. LOL
One time, he came to the gym and he asked me, “If I had any band aids, because he somehow burnt himself on his shoulder. (I still to this day don’t know how a guy who is 6′8 burned himself on the top of his shoulder, I think he did it on purpose.)
I went to the back and to look, and they only had those baby ones. So I walk all the WAY to him. I go. “They only have small ones. Here you go.”
He goes, “I need big ones, these are too small.” I was pissed, because I took the time to search and walk all way to his fine Russian ass to give him these stupid band-aids and he dares to tell me. “These are too small!” Like Hell!
So I said to him, “Fine, then you can bleed all over the gym floor for all I care. I won’t come and clean it up. I’ll let you die a slow painful death.”
All sudden he grins, there’s a sparkle of wickedness in his eyes and he rasies his brow and says. “Really?????” I wanted to hit the man, but I couldn’t because that look, had me wondering. “Damn, his a wicked one. I wonder if he is like that in bed????” LOL
So I turn to leave and he grabs my hand and says, “Don’t go. Can you put the the band-aid on?”
I said, yeah sure. I put the band-aid on. I was happy he wanted me to put them on. I wish they were Hello-Kitty ones. That would have been a bigger laugh LOL He probably complain they were pink, guys like him to wear those kind. LOL
I am so like you, I love the chase and the hunt.
I am 25 now, and I am still a virgin and proud of it, and I had some men tell me. A man wouldn’t date me,because I was virgin. And I tell you, that is not true. Men respect you more when you show them you don’t sleep around. Plus a real man who loves you wouldn’t care that a woman was still a virgin or not. Real men get to know you, and like you for who you are and not just for your looks.
Wishing you the best of luck
Calvin as an aries girl in love with an aquarius man I hate to confess I do the same things as your girl does to you. I thought our relationship was perfect until my aquarius male started to ignore me. It caused me to go through so many self doubts about myself, as to why I was not good enough.
Aries women get a bad rap, as we get really quiet when hurt(real or imagined). Most people think we are quiet because we are snobs and I am here to say that is far from the truth. Unfortunately, that little girl in us is still there and we have to learn to handle grown up life better.
When hurt (again real or imagined) Aries women will plug along as if nothing ever happened. We try to put it out of our minds as if it never happened. We are also big dreamers and dream all these wonderful fairy tales and when they never happen we are crushed. Hence again pulling away to protect our feelings of hurt (real or imagined). Growing up birthdays were hard for me, I would dream and dream my parents would get me a certain item I wanted. Only to be crushed when I never got it. I know that sounds juvenile but it was not until I hit my 20s that I got over being disappointed every birthday or Christmas. I never asked for anything big but my mom felt I did not need those little trinkets. Now, the brothers always got everything they wanted. It used to hurt seeing them get everything they asked for and me, well nothing.
Aries women are flirts but harmless flirts. We flirt with both sexes and it is not sexual as most aries would never cheat. Flirt yes, cheat never. Honestly, I feel I am just being friendly but ex boyfriends have told me off for flirting. I realized I was wrong, but had to be told off first as I was hurting the guys I dated at different times.
Was she always like this to you? If not it could be the pregnancy hormones. Talk her she is hurting you by her actions and see what she has to say. Great site, wish I found it earlier so that I could have saved myself some self doubts.
Good luck with the baby and do not give up on your Aries girl, I bet she really does love you but a little scared of getting hurt.
I am an Aquarius and for the first time I met an Aquarius guy. Everything you say is so true and so me. I have to admit I was first confused when I was out with the guy, we say same things at the same time. Also, he would not call me for a week or two and that made me think “what, does he not like me”… but then that is how I get, I don’t call him but doesn’t mean I don’t think about him. And yes, not that many people understand who we are, it takes a guy who can deal with it.
I am an aries and have just met an Aquarian. He is amazing. He is currently in a difficult relationship and is very unhappy and is trying to end the unhappiness in the relationship by ending the relationship. there are many factors in this relationship that will leave him with great pain and guilt etc. He will need to heal and grieve. We met and have an amazing connection. I appreciate him and his personality and his traits. we have the same vision for the future and like to enjoy life. I know when he has freed himself from his current girlfriend he will return but he has told me that he cannot jump into a new relationship until he has sorted out his stuff and does not want to create the same pain in another relationship again. He said he needs to be alone (once he has ended the relationship) to give himself time to find himself again.
Do you think he will return to me if he feels we have this special connection? I have been nothing but understanding and given no pressure at all…………….??
To Wellies:
If he is a man of word and honor he will, so just let him do what he needs to do. And just wait patiently. I think it is so awesome, that he doesn’t want to start new relationship, until the old one is finished over. That tells me, he does care for you.
Hello Everyone !
Geez… all these stories sound very familiar to my story. I started dating an Aqua male about a month ago… we went out 5x in 3 1/2 weeks, which is kind of alot.. now the thing is I am fairly intuitive and I really thought he liked me.. he was very thoughtful, brought me an Xmas present ( a mixed cd of his fave songs and some cake) sounds very high school but Im 37 and he is 44.. how cute ! he even talked about relationships and how he wants to get married, etc.. but ever since this last meeting, which was last sunday the 21st, I have not heard nothing from him ! He did mention that he has a huge family and he helps out his 79 yr old mother and he did go away to Cali for New Years but I did not even get a text merry christmas, nothing.. now I am an old fashioned gal, and I have not called him.. the only thing I did was text him happy new year, miss you and thats it.. and that is all Im going to do..but he never texted me back ! WTF ! What the heck happened… I know he liked me.. but this is insane… is this normal for this type of guy ?? Hey, Im all about space and independence.. but its odd that he didn’t text back and have not heard from him… Im guessing when this whole holiday season thing will be over, when he gets back from Cali he’ll call ?? am I right ?? Helppppp !!
To Libra Gal:
He might and he might not. When men really loved a woman, Becky has said this and so has my dad, they come chasing after you. If you never hear from him, that tells me he isn’t interested in that way with you. Or he just might be really busy. But I will be honest with you, I had guy friends that even though they were busy, always took the time to talk to me.
Wait and see what happens, but also keep in mind this could be a sign that telling you something.
I hear you Libra Girl.
The Aquarius man I love does the same thing to me. I started to think there was something wrong with me and then I started to imagine he was seeing other women. I mean, if a guy you are seeing does not contact for long periods of time then he must be seeing others. I have know some aquarius men who cheated and were players so when mine ignores me I used to feel he is with some other woman.
If you want tons of attention, this is not the best sign for it.
Thanks for the comments… so “dear libra girl” how is going for you now ?? Are you still together ?? I mean I am all for independence and freedom especially since we kind of just started dating but the ignoring part really gets me.. since he didnt text me back on new years… I am just wondering if he will get back in touch when he gets back from his trip and act like nothing is wrong…
I am a Gemini/Taurus cusp/Horse, falling in love with an aquarius. I’m pleased to say i’ve enjoyed this interpretation of the aquarian love tactics, lol. To this day we can’t quite figure out how we got together, but he says (I’ve become a very important part of his life) whew…leaves me breathless, but needless to say, He’s wonderful, and this is a delightful website
how about aquarius and virgo compatibility?
Hi there Bhadz,
Here is the link to the compatibility you requested. http://www.love-astrology.com/astrology/love/aquarius-compatibility-with-virgo/
Love & Light everyone!
Becky
20 sagi male here. Met this aqua girl 4 months ago on a social networking site. And after a few days I asked her out! Lol! It was so awkward. She’s already been thru three relationships. I didnt know this. (Sagis, we rush into things). She said she needed some time, to get to know and all, be friends first, I was like “You have all the time in the world”. Its been 4 months, Im still waiting for an answer, but thats not what matters now. In these 4 months, we got so so so close, like freakishly close! The cold and distant behavior, yeah, I experienced that, but this one time, when she didnt come online for two days, I was sort of worried, but didnt call. Third day, she calls, like a bazoillion times! My cell was on silent, and I was asleep. And when I talked to her, she just yelled and yelled and yelled! Omg it was soo cute! She literally cried because I wasn’t picking up the phone! I was soooooo moved! And recently, she came down, to where I live, to meet me
And got me sooooo many gifts!! 
Im soo in love with her
Well im a young 17yr old Leo and have been with my 17yr old aquarious a little more then a year and we both realize we are in love with each other, but our relationship has been rocky since the first month. As you know aquarious’s pretty much say it how it is and this tends to hurt my feelings atleast once a day because he always says what im doing wrong and never praises me for the things i do right, he hates how smiley and happy i am and thinks its anoying, everytime something goes wrong even if he clearly did it he blames it on me and has never admitted when he was wrong, and as a leo sex is a big part of my life but means nothing to his, itll happen twice a week if im lucky. well last week he broke up with me and said he needs a break and we’ll get back together soon. i started to think i dont want to be in a relationship with him anymore so i tried to end it yesterday and he freaked out and wouldnt let it happen so i gave in because he finally told me how he really felt about me, but i still want it to end what do i do? i just want to be friends with him.
To Steva:
I hate seeing good people treated badly. You shouldn’t take that crap from him, how can he says he loves you, when he doesn’t praise you for the good you do for him, but instead puts you down. Forget this loser, you need find a man, that appreicates you more. I think it best you stand your ground, If you are going to break up with him, then break up, don’t break up, if you are going to send him a message, that says, “I want to be with you.”
I really mean it, you have to stand your ground, don’t let him control you, because, he already is, if he has gotten you to give in. You don’t need a controling man in your life, because they will control everything, and it could lead to a very abusive relationship, if not phyiscal, mentality. And that could really mess you up later in life. I know, I don’t know him, but what you have told me about him, he isn’t the kind man you would want in your life. He gives me the not good feelings.
I been there, I had a man, I could never make happy, and I will tell you in the long run it’s not worth it.
My suggesting is, don’t keep him as a friend, if you are going to end it, end it with no strings left behind.
To Steva:
This man clearly as issues. If a man gets mad because you are happy and smiley, there is something wrong with him. Being a happy and smiely person is nothing to get mad about!
Oh my god, this man sounds like my ex Edward.
Forget him.
I’m very much in love with a Aqua, I’m an Aries… My first love was a Aqua, our connection was amazing but I was young and dominating and insecure.. and he was not having that… like you said they need space.. and I wasn’t giving it…
This new Aqua I’m with reminds me of that same strong connection.. when he pulls away to get some space.. it scares me … but he tells me not to ignore him when he does this… My question is about the sexual part… We waited before anything happened… and then when it did we went at it… at least a couple of times a week for a couple months .. and then it stopped… now we’ve never been official.. but i’m confused about this.. we are now back to everything .. but the sexual part of our relationship.. and i’m Hurt…
???
Whats going on ?
To Bdonna:
It could be so many things. Maybe he just not in the mood, maybe you should try to get him in the mood. Not to sound mean, or anything. Guys are never turn on, when you want them too. Unfornately their not light switches that you can turn off and on again. Sometimes, you got to flirt, put something sexy on, be playful, get his interest. Wear sexy clothes in his prences, get dolled up. Be a woman and not be afarid to be one around him.
If that doesn’t work, you could be very straight forward with him and tell him how you really feel, that the sex seem to have gone.
You might be surpise, he might be really busy with other things. Aquarius, get side-tracked a lot, and get stuck in their own world, that they some times do not know what is going on around them.
I know this, because I am the same sign as your boyfriend. I get stuck in my own little world, and some times you got to bring me back to the real world.
Oh I’m an Aries, so I was vebal about if we’re still going to ‘get it on’…lol.. and He said yes.. and I’ve left the hints and this and that and nothing… I know the sexual chemistry we had when we we’re doing it on the regular was amazing… we had so much fun.. maybe he’s scared because we still aren’t ‘a couple’ .. it’s crazy to read all these messages about Aquarius men and how they act as far as dissapearing and reappearing .. and straying away from commitment… maybe it’s just another Aquarius thing… I don’t know.. But as an ARIES .. I need physical.!! =)
Hi everyone!
I’m wondering if anyone can interpret these behaviours from my Aquarius guy. We’ve been together just under three years, first two years rocky, last 6 months smooth sailing. Breaks up with me everytime a) we fought in the past, or b) he becomes very close to me. Now that we’re happy, he:
-agrees and writes down when we’re to hang out together, carefully makes a note of it, promptly forgets
-spoils me with affection, kisses, hugs, the “puppy dog” thing, but when I ask him, he says he is unaware he is being affectionate and thought he was being aloof keeping me at arm’s length
-asked me to meet his parents visiting from overseas and to book off time to take a trip with all of them, but says he doesn’t see us being together in the long haul. Also wants to introduce me to the woman he had a kid with so she can get used to me, but doesn’t see us staying together.
-does things exactly the way I ask, makes me food at 12 am, wakes me up with gentle singing, but says he thinks makes it clear that he’s not that into me
-tries to correct his mistakes when he hurts me and hears me out, but will ditch me or change plans without consulting me
I thought he was just being an Aquarius, but his recent claim that we “were just friends that have sex” threw me for a loop. Is he just a jackass? Because that’s what I’m thinking now.
To toocutequinn:
I am aquarius woman and all I got to say is . . . .
“HUH?????????????” What he is doing doesn’t make any sense. Why be with someone, if you are going to tell them “I don’t this relationship isn’t for long haul?????????????????????? And then on top of that, you stay with them??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
Sorry, what is he trying to tell you with all this bull???? I really hate indesives in people. I hate it when someone doesn’t know what they want. Esppeically in a relationship. Me, I wouldn’t have the time or the patient to put up with his indesiveness.
Toocutequinn, he sounds like an immature boy who doesn’t know what he wants in life, and he also sounds like an Asshole.
His actions do not match his words.
I wouldn’t stay with him, but here’s my suggesting, if you really love him and what to stay with him. I think you need to sit his ass down in a chair, and ask him if he is serious about this relationship. Because I will tell you truthful, you will get tired of his yes, and nos.
I say if he keeps doing what he is doing, forget the punk and move on. And if he ask you why are you leaving him, tell him. “Because you can’t grow up and be a man!”, but that is just me.
To toocutequinn:
PS. I just got that you’ll make plans with him and he’ll leave you hanging. WHAT A AN ASS. If I were in your shoes, when he told you “you’re just friends who have sex.” I would have found the sharpest thing I could find and ram it up his ass! And when he looked at me with that shock express that says, “I can’t believe you did that!?” I would have said with no ounce of expression in my voice. “Loves a bitch, and then you die!”
What an ASSHOLE!
Leave him.
OMG.
I am a LIBRA girl and I absolutely need help with this AQUARIUS guy whom I am seeing right now.
And here’s my story:
He is someone whom I have always chatted on and off since last year. Recently, we went out for dates and started hanging out and talking over the phone and blah.
Initially I treated him as a normal kinda friend; you know just someone to chat and stuff.
UNTIL one day, out of the blue, he texted me, we started chatting and then he confessed his love to me! (LOL?)
He mentioned stuff like, are u ready to make some changes to our lives? Do u want me to have your hands so that we can enjoy together? (WTH?)
And I was like ‘What? Haha.’ And the next day we met up and he brought me to dinner, asked me if I wanna watched movie, found a place with nice scenery to sit down and chat. He even sent me home personally, even though he lives like totally opposite of the country. (!!!)
I admit I am really aroused by this guy. Because u see, initially I have no intention of making him as my mate or what. BUT NOW things are certainly different; I am indeed attracted to him!
Ok what happened next was that we stayed in contact; I even gave him a birthday surprise and yeah he rewarded me with a kiss and a pat on my forehead (Aww.); said that I am silly AND shouldn’t have gone the trouble because I went all the way to his workplace and gave him his birthday present personally.
The now, POOF! He’s like disappeared! No more lovey dovey stuff from him; and he didn’t even texted me! =( that really made me SUPERRRR SAD! Like I wondered if it’s my fault or not!
Tell me tell me, what’s up with this AQUARIUS GUY?
Oh he did tell me the other day, on our first date: “Tell me when you think your heart is ready for us to start.”
And now look at what’s happening? How do you expect me to say it out when he suddenly turned all aloof?
=( HELP!!!
And oh yes, I AM A LIBRA and people keep telling me that Aqua and Libra is a good match? REALLY?!?!
Thanks for your input, LittleImpaler! Yeah, his behaviour is classic asshole kind of stuff. On top of that, it’s so all over the place and seems like what everyone is describing about Aquarius guys, so I wanted to find out if Aquarius experts could explain these bizarre fluctuations in his behaviour. He seems genuinely perplexed that I hadn;t realized that he doesn’t have loving feelings toward me, despite telling me he is “smitten” and doing all of the thoughtful things for me. He doesn’t seem to remember doing them, though he’s consistent about with these gestures. I just don’t understand this sort of cluelessness!
To miss-lobster:
He has already gave you his answer, he is waiting for to make the move.
“Tell me when you think your heart is ready for us to start.”
*sigh* i dun mean to sound paranoid or what; yesterday we chatted for awhile (really awhile!) for like 1 minute +. asked how he is and stuff.
omg now i feel so worried. hmm. what can i do to get his attention?
To miss lobster:
What are you worried about? Are you worried he doesn’t like you?
Yesterday, I wrote to you, but my full message didn’t show up. You said you if he still liked you. He’s waiting for you to make up your mind. You already have the answer. “Tell me when you think your heart is ready for us to start.”
He’s giving you the space so you can decide for yourself, you need to tell him how you feel.
And I think you are really worrying over nothing, just because he’s being aloof doesn’t mean he doesn’t care, if he called you to see how you were doing, that tells me he likes you.
So the next time he calls, why don’t you give him your answer, and tell him how you really.
feel.
I don’t think it will start something, until he knows what you want. He wants you to come to him.
To LittleImpaler:
Heyy. i guess you are right afterall. i was afraid that he doesn’t like me anymore. like you know no longer interested in wanting to be with me.
and i am very happy today, FINALLY i told him (through text messages) how i’ve been feeling:
me: i was wondering what u would say if i want to be your soulmate?
him: what’s a soulmate?
me: my definition of a soulmate would be a lover and a best friend at the same time. will you?
him: sure, why not?
me: *slightly confused* ok then your officially mine!
him: Best friend and lover at the same time.. cool…
me: yeah, but being you lover is my 1st priority.
him:
well i know this looks weird, but i figured it’s the best way to convey my feelings. erm, what do u guys think? =.=
and hey, thanks so much for your previous comments
really appreciate it!
Hey, hey Miss-Lobster!
I say go for it!
I am really happy today, I going to be in Japanese Horror movie, playing the evil girl!
hello LittleImpaler:
heyy thank you so much for the wishes/ comment!
glad that ur enjoying ur time, have fun and stay cool always~
I learned never to pressure Aquarius. If you are going to make a suggestion, say something like, “It’s up to you, of course.” or “If you want to.” Basically, you can’t make him or her do something that isn’t their own idea.
haha i’ve read into astrology a lot and this is about the same but i like this one more because it reminded me of all the things i love about myself (i’m an aquarius) i sent this letter to a friend for his birthday and it was all of my comments on a cd he made me while i was listening to-it he totally didn’t get it…ahh well too bad:):):)not that this matters but yeah….i like your site:)
hey becky!
and im now 20) just my freshman year in college i decided to cut it off with him he was a leo,I deff understand leos for one because my daddy is a leo and maybe the leo in my 10th house i dunno but at one point thats all that i would seem to attract. so i have been single for about a year and some change. so now i am into my sophomore year in college and i all i know are aquas! and i meet this aqua (irronic because i met my first bf my soph year in hs and we started out as friends and went out the netx year, now i met this aqua my soph yr of college)like the first semester we finally stated to speak because he was in my class my freshman year but we never talked(no reason just never did) and we deff clicked always talkin talkin talkin, he would come visit just to chill at least once a week lol and he spent the night one weekend xmas break lol(no no nothing happend just cuddles ) we always crack jokes and i would joke with him about how he was scared to kiss me(in a nice way not to hurt his ego at all) but he told me he wanted to but he thought i was gonna run away lol, so occasonally we would run into each other at parties and he kissed me infront of everyone and all of his friends(not a disrespectful kiss though) and i was so shocked lol i deff didnt know he was into p.d.a, and the next time he came to visit me after that night he kissed me like i have never been kissed it was so crazy and so long!!!and we kiss like that all the time now lmao. but when i came back from break he is super swamped in school work, he is in a ton of clubs and he is super super smart, he tutors, he is in research, he has his own office at school like alot of great things going for himself, so we dont see each other as much man,i let him know from the jump that he isnt to try to make me into a friend with benifits as for one im not gonna let my v card go that way and two thats not my style, and he told me over and over he wasnt trying to do that which he has deff kept his word he hasnt yet to try me which makes me like him more, he did tell me that he wanted to take his time to not rush into relationship because thats how bad ones start i just found out he was in a bad relationship so i understand and, which i agreed on but i have just admited to my self recently that i have fallin for him i havent told him, im holding off,but now that its after break he now doesnt have time for us to start a relationship, like seriously though he is a sr getting ready for grad school and plus all the other things he is involved in on campus i deff will not try to get in the way of anyone who is focus on tryna make it in this world, and i keep this in mind but it was kind of eating away at me and i finally talked bout it to him we talked a couple of weeks ago and he told me how i had no clue how i make him feel and how i was special and different he always wants to spend time with me and we always tell each other we miss each other if we havent seen each other in a while.he always calls me sweet names, always kisses me no matter where we are lol and always wants me to go on trips with him he thinks of me being pure hearted and he called me precious how i am humble lol and that i shouldnt change but how he is afraid of loosing me because he doesnt have the time and how i guess he is starting to feel the distance because of his busy schedual, how he really wants to go with me and that its not that he isnt ready for the relationship but that he knows he cant give me the time that i deserve right now, which i like that he said that, nothing worse then someone starting a relationship they know they not gonna have the amount of time that they want to and need to put into it, i went through that with my ex.so after we had this talk(i brought it up because he is graduating soon so you know i was like whats gonna happen, he doesnt know where he is going for grad school yet, but he was like bringing up how if he goes far he still will be where i am because he still has his research in my city and he would still have to come down and how WE (
as everyone I have been looking up info on aqua males also, i will say alot of stuff have been leaving me so scared.(this is going to be a long post sorry!). I have only had one bf we met my soph yr in h.s when i was 15 we were friends for a whole year then dated for two we never had sex(i still have my v card
@ we) could fly to see each other and i mean it all sounds dandy but it was just weird because i never asked him would i see him again like of course i want to but like it was as if he telling me that like i dunno if he was trying to throw hints at long distance or what??. we have gotten into arguments (only 2) and the who aqua withdrawl thing he did but he actually apologize for it lol i feel like he is seriously trying. i am deff not the type to go off what ppl say about others and using there judgement but for the most part i never here or seem him all on other girls( i mean i could be wrong but im just sayin!) and some of his guy friends were kinda shocked when they seen him kiss me( i think everyone was because they never see him kiss on other girls) and some even say hey to me and stuff.everything seems to be going ok so far but its his time thats in the way. i dunno why we are so attracted to each other hes bday is 1-25-87 i think he is a fire tiger and my bday is 1-5-89 but you know when i look up my chinese sign it still says im a earth dragon even though i was born in 89 maybe it because of the chinese new year :/
thanks for reading i know it was hella long
wow this is very interesting i learned some new facts about aquarians..im a pisces myself and im interested in a aquarius man so i thought before i make some moves i should check out what to look for..im terribly shy but this info has given me some perspective..we have some history..actually he used to be a bully when we were younger(il be 20 nex week) and my friends an i didn really like him that much bcuz he always acted like an a-hole..but he moved away for some time an now he’s back i saw him one day at his job an we talked for a long while..and im not one to hold grudges or worry about the past bcuz ppl change..which during our conversation he made it clear a few times that he’s a different person with emphasis i noe i sure have mantally and physically(i was very overweight but now i look normal but still loosin) although i wondered why he held a conversation that long an the way he was looking at me gave me butterflies..but im quick to think the worse so instead of being flirtatious back i just put in my head that there must be a glare from my glasses(which i didnt have on lol)..but now since that day he’s been on my mind…im really not sure what to do..i dont want to turn a casual conversation into something that it wasnt but i dont noe im very intuitive and i could just feel something…so how do i turn a formal aquarian bully to a homie/lover/friend?
I was doing a search about Aquarius men in love & found you. I think you really nailed them. I’m dating one for awhile and its exactly as you described. I’m a Taurus sun but have rising, Moon & Mercury in Gemini. I think that’s what’s allowing me to accept his need for space & besides I have lots of stuff to think about! His first wife was a Taurus and she was the straight-up from the book Taurus. He says he can’t believe I’m one…of course until I ask for more time…LOL, which he gladly gives.
He is unique, multi-talented, deep, artistic, intellectual, handy around the house, poetic & yet at times aloof. I call him my ET and it fits. He have endless conversation, transformative/sensual intimacy and yes time apart! I try not to take it personally and get caught up in my own pursuits: writing, my healing circle, bellydancing, teaching workshops oh! and my day job. When we join we have so much to share, laugh & talk about.
I think it is what you said you accept or you don’t. He’s really different from anyone else I’ve loved but I’m enthralled! Hang in there Taurus ladies & enjoy!
im a female aquarius.. and this is me spot on.. lol it drives me mad wen tryin to define myself.. too many contradictions and when people are in my space too much i DO switch off for a bit to breathe then i come back. if im not allowed to switch off freely i may never come back lol
Heyy, I’ve liked my Aquarius guy for a while now. I’m a Virgo myself. And I love him sooooooo much!! I’m in 8th grade and so is he and ever since I liked him I’ve worked on building our friendship. We are like best friends now (: And he flirts with me all the time. He even asked me to dance at the dance 2 weeks ago! And when he commented on some girls on the sidelines of the dance being alone, one of the girls responded with, “Well your alone too.”
I wasn’t there but she said that he said, “No I have Shawnee.”
But just recently (when we got back from Spring Break 3 days ago.) he’s been really off and away from me for this whole week. I couldn’t understand why and after reading this I understand. He wants some space?? is that all??? I feel really bad now. I broke out crying at lunch and he didn’t know what was wrong…. But I let him know I was okay.
Does this mean he will come back? Should I give him his space?? I thought he just got bored of me or something or didn’t like me and was playing with my head! I never thought he was one to do that but I had some doubts…
So does that really mean he will come back to me?? Please answer my question.
I’m desperet. :/ Please, please answer… Will he come back to me within the next week or so? I miss him being with me… he’s so off on his own… Is it just space he needs??
Thank you for this website! I’ve been thinking that I was cursed in love. I have met the most wonderful aquarius man. He is smart, very goodlooking and so calm and I fall for him the very first day. Last month after our first date he wanted to go on a second date and then on a third date which never happened because he didn’t showed up. My clock stopped and I was so desperate feeling that I did something wrong. Then suddenly he showed up 36 days later, I was agonizing, like nothing had happened, apologize for his behavior ( I don’t think he knew exactly why he was apologizing) and asked me out again. Because I have read that they need space, and we are adults he is 46 and I am 36 I tried to act mature so I let it go and went out again. We are bonding, I know we are, he is a good listener, he laughs at my jokes, he gives me advices, he has opened up a little bit and talked about some past experiences. We have not been sexually involved, no kisses or hugs. He did mention that I am very pretty and he wants to take one day at a time. He said he wanted to see me again…so I thought to give him space, ok lets do it again sometime next week and he said no, he wanted to see me sooner than that. So I waited all week for his call and finally decided to call him and asked him if he was still interested in going out and he said “sorry, I am busy, good bye”. I am a pisces woman. I am very romantic and this type of response would have killed me in the past. I am trying to approach relationships with a different perspective. I want to believe he is a true aquarius man…but would this behavior ever changed? I ve been with other aquarius men who just fall for me without hesitation but is this man a jerk or do you think I should keep waiting to see if there is something more?
Hi I am leo and my fiance is an aquarius she is indeed very open minded and i am not i need advice what are some things i can do to make my relationship better i love her dearly and i want to make things right sometimes i tend to get annoying,jealous,and very critizing and since she is so detached i feel as if she doesnt love me what can i do to improve my self and our relationship.
this profile pretty much described me very well. when i allow myself to give love, then i really give it. and yes, i am not into flowers or cards. those mean nothing to me. show me you love me in your own way and that’s all i need.
and i do need my space. i did become puppy dog-ish with my ex…i don’t know why, probably cuz he was my first real relationship.
also, i guess this made much more sense to me in that why i never was accepted in so many ways throughout my life. no wonder.
picnic on Jupiter sounds exciting!
Aquarius men are VERYYYY intresting people!!!I have known my aqua odd-ball guy for a good five years.We always had an instant attraction for each other and always did,we could basicly talk about anything and everything.But be VERY cautious!
If you plan to get emotionaly attached beware,they can definatly play mind games for their own entertainment or not???It’s honestly hard to figure out these beautiful odd people one fact is to always be on point,and keep them coming back for more.
Keep them guessing make it intresting for yourself as well, it will be cute when you see their reactions start to change:).If their is anything I know from knowing my aqua friend/lover?/heartbreaker have an open mind.
You must have a strong will to love them even though they are expert liars,a bit playerish,aloof this when you make the decision to either become romanticly involved or just friends.Either way you cannot lose out trust me:).
WOW!! You pegged my Aqui!! and I LOVE IT!! adds spice to the relationship!! Mystery!!
I think what most other signs just do not get about Aquarius (Men & Women) is that if you wish to get to our hearts or bodies, you’re going to have to go through our minds first. One most excite us on an intellectual level. After that, it will not be long before us Aquarius folk begin to dump our buckets of love all at once. Once it comes pooring down, it won’t be hard to tell. But what will you do when you start getting drenched?
I’m a true Aquarius.
If you find an Aquarius interesting here are some helpful tips to remember.
1.When we say “I love you” before you at anytime during the relationship,it’s the absolute to god truth.
2.If we open up to you about things in our life that we wouldn’t usually tell anyone else, we deeply care for you and trust you.
3.We need to evaluate you for the type of person you are first before taking the relationship from aquaintence, to friend, to love.
4.We do need our space at times, but don’t ever change the way you act or feel towards us because we will feel like you are just disinterested and we will push away.
5.We will tell you if something really bothers us that you are doing and this is the only time you should really give us alone time. When we finish what we are doing we will come running back to you and apologize to you for being aloof.
6. If you start strong with an Aquarius you should stay strong with your affirmations throughout the entire relationship. Once you hook an Aquarius and become less affectionate or don’t portray yourself as when you first started the relationship they will feel you are disinterested or you’re not the same person. This is a big no no and it won’t end favorably.
7. We love to be teased in an affectionate way.
8. We love surprises as long as you’re not trying to spy on us at the same time.
9. We are Loyal to almost the point of death, We will tell you before we have any other type of feelings.
10. We can’t stand people who are not honest. We don’t like being hurt, but lying about something will just infuriate us and believe me that honesty is a much better option.
11. If we compliment you,appreciate it, because we really mean it. Don’t ever disagree with a flattering comment we offer to you because if you do we will think you don’t believe us and it upsets us.
12. If an Aquarius doesn’t say the words “I love you”, “I’m in love with you”, “You are my girl and the only I want to be with” they are still free and you shouldn’t think you are in any type of committed relationship with them.
13. After we come out of an aloof stage we can get really affectionate and hyper, Enjoy these times and don’t ever question them because we don’t know why.
14. Be confident in yourself. We like confident people without the tude.
15.You have to have a big heart, be understanding, warm and affectionate with us.
16. We value and respect other people and their opinions, but if you ask for advice from us value ours or we won’t offer it anymore.
17. We are weird, wacky, kids at heart, unpredictable. This is what makes life interesting for us. We love to see new things and constant brain stimulation is something we love. Do not do the same thing the same way every time with us, put a new spin on it.
18. We are always thinking about others and Def thinking about the ones we love all the time so don’t ever think we are not. We not physically show it 24/7 but we are.
19. We are very sentimental that is why are gifts are different from the usual ones, they have to mean something to us to give them to you. If you ever get something out of the ordinary it’s because we didn’t just pick the first thing out of our mind that people usually do. Everything we give to you has more meaning to us about you than you could ever imagine.
20. Hmm.. well I guess that’s enough for now.
Jerzi,
You are so right on.
People, if you want a long lasting relationship with an Aquarius, save this list from Jerzi, study it, and remember it.
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Aquas indeed are the most extraordinary species on Earth. I’ve been dating an Aqua man for almost a year and although he calls me “love”, he never said that he loves me or in love with me. It’s been really helpful to read all the comments on this website from real people and I’ve learned that it is very hard for Aquarians to open up when it comes to their deep feelings and they are far from being top-notch experts in a romance department. I’m wondering if, in my case, he calls me love, but doesn’t say how he feels…should I interpret it as a “sign” that he does love me or it just as casual as “honey” or “baby”?
Hi there Mika,
Thank you for your comment and welcome to my site!
Yes, Aqua’s are funny. I suggest to you that if he has been with you for all that time then he loves you, he simply wouldn’t be there otherwise. They are also very funny about calling their loved ones names such as baby, darling etc. They won’t call anyone else by these names as many people do but it will be just for you..your special name!
Aqua’s tend to show how they feel rather than say it outloud, try not to be put off by their apparant lack of emotion, they have more than most people just have no clue as to how you let it out!!
Love & Light
Becky
Hi Becky, Kudos to you for this website and thank you for your reply!! The only thing that bothers me with my Aqua not telling me about his feelings is that I don’t want to be the first to say that I love him. Maybe it’s very old-fashioned, but that’s the way I am. I fell for him very hard, but I just can’t be the first who admits that. How does it work with Aquarian men?
Thank you for your lovely kind words! May I ask what sign you are????
If your planning on waiting for him then that oculd work..but probably won’t. He won’t admit his feelings until you do..wouldn’t want to lose face..on the other hand you will keep him interested the longer you hold out..I totally respect not wanting to say it first..if only I were like you!
Hey Mika,
Aquas usually won’t use the terms hunni, baby or love to anyone else except for the one they are really involved with. We don’t like the normal terms of affection because it is a set standard of what people say and we really don’t like to conform.
If he uses the same words of affection with other people as he does with you I would have to question it a bit.
All the aquas I know and myself included will usually start planning on a future with you within the first year together if they are truly in love with you.
I don’t know how close you guys are or your living situation ,but the best way to find out is to drop subtle questions such as “Where do you see yourself in the future?”. It’s a non confrontational question and we won’t back away from it. Don’t include yourself into the question, you want them to include you in the answer. If they don’t mention you in their answer, I would worry a bit.
You can push a little bit, just don’t pry.
There’s a very interesting combination here. I am an Aries, but my as well as his Venus is in Aquarius. That’s why I can relate to his emotional “issues” very easily and actually find it both alleviating and stimulating at the same time. I guess, I am a piece of work myself :)) and revealing my own feelings doesn’t come easy to me either.
Mika, if you feel it, say it to him. All you have to do is watch his reaction. We only accept them terms of endearment from certain people and they are the ones we are in love with or truly love.If you receive a huge smile and big eyes, he does.
Don’t say it when he does something really special for you, say it out of the blue or he will think it was just because he did something nice.
I don’t know how old he is ,but some aquas don’t like to be tied down and like to be in a position where they can easily get out of if something changes.
Do it for you Mika, you shouldn’t have to wait to show him how you feel.I would hate for you to be so in love and involved, if he doesn’t feel the same way.
Thanks Jerzi! I was just about to post my reply to your previous comment and found your new post. I was going to ask whether or not I would spoil the broth if I tell that I love him first. And here’s your very encouraging reply. Thanks again! According to your list above, mine is a true Aquarius too. Our is a long-distance relationship, plus very busy schedules, which don’t allow us to see each other very often. Recently, during our “pillow talk” he mentioned that there’s “we” as far as the future is concerned. So I was wondering why, after having said that about “our” future, he still stays mum about his feelings.
Hi again Mika, Glad I could be of some help.
You mentioned you relate to his emotional feelings so he must show you in some kind of way how he is feeling and does open up. Aquarians have a hard time expressing their self with spoken words as Becky has mentioned. As an aries I’m sure your feelings and putting them into words of how you feel isn’t really that hard. The aqua has all of these same feelings as everyone else does ,but they are so intense that trying to put them into words actually causes us to have a mental block. This is because we start asking our self questions at the same time we are supposed to speak such as “What will they say when I say this?”, “Will this change the way they feel about me?”, “Am I going to be able to convey how I really feel without them taking it a different way?”. We try so hard to speak without hurting,pushing people away,making them look at us in a different light, having them angry or sad because of us.
If you are ever taken back and can’t believe the words that just came out of our mouth, good or bad in some rare moments, this is the time we don’t question what we are saying. It is almost like a fluid natural moment without pause and it is the honest truth of how were feeling without any regard. I’ve actually went and apologized to some people because of it, no one deserves to be yelled at or talked down to and I couldn’t take the feeling of hurting someone when I could of expressed myself in a different way.
You two seem like you’re in a healthy and happy relationship and why would I as an aqua introduce other words or anything else that could potentially change the present happiness? If I said the words “I love you” would it change how you felt about me? Do you need to hear these words so you know that I do? If you do need to hear them then tell me, aquas like to please and if we tell you that when I say this other word or words to you that’s what they mean, accept it.
Also as an Aqua we already know how you feel within a few days to a couple of months, we know if your holding something back and will question why you are in our minds, but not say anything. After spending a year with us it won’t change anything by saying the words “I love you” first. The only thing you want to avoid is trying to change the present relationship by saying it.
Take for instance this one girl I met at the bar, took her out for a dinner date one night then dropped her off at her place. We were kissing on her front porch and my whole life flashed before my eyes, this girl wants to be with me forever..just could sense it and it was way to much for me to handle, so I didn’t talk to her or see her again.
I have dejavu constantly and can almost see some parts of the future, I won’t really remember them, but when I get to the place or the thing I saw, it will just seam so familiar to me, like I’ve been here before.
Forgive my sentence structuring, never was one for English.
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An Aquarius can talk to you for hours about anything if they feel comfortable with you and are sarcasm is in all good fun, don’t take it any other way.
Hi, I’m a libran (39 yrs) and totally nuts about an Aquarian (53). We have been developing a social project together and have been spending time tgether. I’ve just been down to where he lives for part of the year and stayed a couple of days. We had an amazing time - including a sponatenous mad midnight 4WD off-roading through sand dunes and rivers - blew my mind. There’s been no physical contact just an enormous amount of laughing. How do I know if he’s interested?
Do auqa men stick to there word?Like if they actually say you have my word?Or is it just a bunch of bull????
Hey Pam,
Spontaneity is one attribute built in that keeps us from boredom. Sounds like you two are having an extremely fun time, I would just enjoy it and not think about anything else. Aquas usually want a best friend, lover and companion all in one person. He probably already knows you’re interested so just be yourself and keep doing what you’re doing. The more time you spend with an aqua the closer the connection gets.
Hi Eva,
Yes, we do..unless you make us promise something.
Is there a certain situation that brought about this question ,because it sounds like you’re kind of upset.
Thank you for responding Jerzi!An yes there is indeed a tough situation.You’re pretty psychic as well because you actually caught that lol,I found myself totally head over heals in love with him and at the same time really,really hurt.It kinda just crept silently on me..
I guess the whole part that gets me is the fact he text me “I would love to be with you but were both young which means I got nothing but time for you,you have my word”.It felt sincere and real.This was 3 months ago he said this though and we haven’t spoken since.I came to find out there is another girl involved i’m guessing he’s with her now…boo…
But I can understand at the same time I guess,I just hate the fact we don’t talk,I miss it like crazy,and wonder if he thinks about me as much as I do.We could seriously talk about anything for 6 hours straight,I never got bored either.Aqua men…what people they are=/…(=
Sorry to hear Eva, I wouldn’t say I’m psychic, I can just read people very well. You will find that most aquas can. When you look into an aquas eyes..there is something very mysterious and peculiar about them. We sit back and examine everything, it’s why we seem so aloof. It has nothing to do with us being disconnected, because we are more connected to everything around us than at any other time in this stage.
I don’t know what was said before the text message, but he would be there for you if you really needed just not the way you want him to be. You can never ask that of another person if they don’t feel the same way because it is selfish. Aquas don’t like to hurt people and this is why he said it that way.
I can see that you’re a bit angry, hurt and feel like he left the door open a little bit without closing it all the way. Also if an aqua closes a relationship they will give their full attention to the person they are with.In most cases EXs will not come into the picture unless there is children involved, they don’t feel it’s fair to the person they are with to be spending time with a previous BF/GF. When you have an Aqua, you have all of them.
He said he has nothing but time so use it wisely, call him or text him and tell him you want to meet in a social place like a coffee shop to talk about a few things that are really bothering you and if he is a true aqua he will be glad to since I don’t sense a bad breakup or anything here. Do not bring any angry or hateful emotions with you, be calm and collective.
You need closure Eva and without it you’ll always be wondering and clouding your head with what ifs…don’t expect to regain a relationship of any kind except to hear his thoughts on the situation so you can ease your mind and move on. Tell him to be honest even if he thinks it will hurt you, because it will hurt more if you don’t know what he is really thinking.
Aquas remember the past, but don’t tend to bring it into the new direction they are moving or think about it much. They look at what’s ahead of them, not behind. The only time they look back is when they sense danger.
Wow that really hit the spot,right on the nail,and the text message went.
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me:guess what?(:
him:what
me:you make me want to leave everything and start brand new with you(:
him:lets take it slow and let yourself know what you really want
me:i think you should ask yourself that.
him:im not tryin to rush u in to any thing dont want
me:dont want what?
him:rush you on what u want
me:I want the same thing,there is no reason to rush,build a future for ourselves first that sounds right to me(:
him:yea its better to know what you want so theres no regrets dont get it twisted i would love to be with you its all about you where both young so that means i got nothing but time for you and hope you dont feel like im trying to gas you up or anything cuz im not u have my word ok.
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But I found the point to move on heart wise,I just admitted to myself I lost in a way.Gradually getting over it, I hope we can eventually meet up and talk that’s what I want most,it’s likely to happen I believe.But THANKK YOUUU a lot I mean not even my friends gave me that kind of advice???Weird lol,it is really helpful I will take what you said into consideration!Jerzi is awesome!!!!(=
Jerzi, thanks for your insights. It’s true when we hang out together we have a really good time but since we’ve been back in town I’ve sent him an email with a question about our project and a suggestion we meet up for a drink. He responded to the project question but said nothing about catching up. I’m not sure whether to completely cool off or just see what happens…
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me:you make me want to leave everything and start brand new with you(:
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That line there is the exact reason why an aqua would respond in a way such as you mentioned.
We would never want anyone to change their life, goals, aspirations or dreams because of us. We want to share in them and encourage you along the way. I think I mentioned above about changing the type of person you are with us, it’s like a red flag for an aqua. If we ever did allow you change or start a new life with us and it didn’t turn out the way you planned, we would never forgive ourselves for allowing you to do that.
You haven’t lost anything, you have learned how to care for and love another person from deep inside. You have felt what most people search for their entire lives.
I remember when I felt real love and it’s amazing…my entire body went cold and I just felt this incredible warmth inside my chest leaving me motionless…it’s was unimaginable, no words could ever describe it. I won’t ever stay with someone unless I experience that feeling, because I know I wouldn’t be truly in love with them.
Remember Eva, happiness comes from within, it’s just a blessing when you can share your happiness, love and life with another.
Pamela, glad I could offer some insight. Aquas are a really tough bunch to understand. I sometimes wonder where people get the patience to actually endure us. We are friendly, outgoing,jokesters, love to laugh, smile and have a good time. The thing is when someone actually wants something of us that we don’t want to give freely or easily it can turn into a real tricky situation. It’s kind of like walking on ice without knowing where the thin spots are.
It all depends what you want out of this relationship. Are you ok with just being friends? Do you want more than to be just friends? Can you handle just being friends with him if that’s all he wants?
If you want an answer to if he wants to be more than friends just ask him, but do it in a friendly non confrontational way.
Be like hey it’s awesome we are friends and I really enjoy working on this project together, but that trip to your place kind of threw me a curve ball, did you want to be more than friends or project partners?
Assure him either way you are absolutely ok with, you just wanted to know.
If you do ask him..please let me know what the response is, I would love to hear it.
Hi Jerzi
You seem to know a lot about aquarians- especially being one yourself. It’s great!
I have a question and would like your perception on this
I met this aquarian girl a few months ago and we’ve caught up for lunch randomly here and there and gone out for dinner and drinks one night. I ended up at her place that night after a few glasses of wine and being pretty tipsy I lay on her bed. We ended up kissing etc and I pleased her in a certain way. When I was done she tried to return the favour but because I didn’t feel comfortable and was tipsy I wasn’t that into it plus I felt like she was rushing.
Anyway, she wanted to go to bed and me being the semi-typical pisces wanted to hug and kiss some more. She said she had to go to a certain place the next day so she wanted to sleep and I got over it. The next morning I woke up and started to kiss her but she didn’t reciprocate and after a few more attempts I gave up and said my goodbyes. We didn’t speak for a while, possibly a month or so and slowly she contacted me by email asking how i was and if i wanted to go out etc.
We recently caught up again and I really had a great time, I wasn’t as nervous and was able to be myself 100% and enjoy her company. The dinner date prior to this was a little rocky at the start as we both had nothing to say to each other for some reason..
I texted her saying it was good seeing her and that we should do it again and she replied saying something similar and that we should catch up more often.
Now i’ve read how aloof and distant the aquarian can be but so can i being a pisces with some aquarian tendencies, but i can’t quite figure out if she is interested in me as a friend or a potential partner.
Any suggestions would be appreciated
Hey Sincere,
I can’t even count the multiple mistakes and the selfishness you showed in the first 2 paragraphs.Did you really expect her to want to hug and kiss you after that or even let you spend the night?
You two can’t even talk to each other and you actually want to start a relationship?
In my honest opinion I would just keep it as friend with benefits. I would give you more insight on this ,but I can’t encourage something I see turning into a disaster for both of you.
This really is how my aquarian man is! Over a period of 3 years I have really learned patience. I gave him the nickname houdini bc of the disappearing acts! lol But I have just 1 ? would an Aquarian man talk about marrying you if he really has no intentions of doing it?
Hi Jerzi
Thanks for the honesty, I guess what I wrote was all in a nutshell. The night we first met we had an absolute ball and we really enjoyed each other’s company. Then on the first official date (the one I mentioned was rocky) “the actual start” of it at the bar was a little quiet and had its awkward moments until we found a nice spot to sit down and chat, then our conversation was quite fun and interesting..I think it was more me being nervous than anything else.
I’m not saying I want a relationship but was merely after an opinion as to what she really wants from this.. i.e friendship with benefits etc.
hey sexy, they would usually be one of the last words to come out of an aquas mouth, we do intend to do what we say, but things can change it. As for marriage it has to be a big change for us to ever decide against it. We usually need to know someone for years and everything about them before marriage. I don’t know how great the three years were, but if they have been a healthy 3 years I wouldn’t have any worries.
Hey Sincere, glad you didn’t take that the wrong way, appreciate it.
First of all..never be nervous around an aqua, they don’t look down on people or fault you if you are a good person. The only time they would is if you come off as cocky or into yourself.
In all honestly, sounds like she was bored or maybe a little upset about the first encounter. It could be either one since I can’t see her face.
If you want to know her true intentions, don’t do the bar thing. Think of something fun and exciting she would like to do in the daytime that has nothing to do with drinking or going back to her place for relations. Set it up for a few hours on the weekend without a night encounter…The rest should be pretty clear
I love my aquarius man. I swear we can read each others’ minds at times. We’ve been dating now for 6 months, and he dropped the L-word:) Bout time! haha.. I was holding out to make sure he was in this for real. And you’re right… a little bow wrapped around a twig. perfect.
So to you Aquarian Men out there, I am curious about your take on having/raising children? Kasey (my aqua man) seems to draw children like a magnet. I think he’d make an awesome father..and he just turned 37, so I think he’s ready in years. For the record. I’m 29, so ready too..but never really ready! haha Thanks for any insight!
Kelly
I want to thank you for this site. I have been seeing an aquarian male for almost 6 months now. We work together and spend quite a bit of the day laughing and joking. The first time we went out after work..the physical attraction was crazy for both of us..we talked about it..sd it wasnt a good idea…ended up in bed.
He gave me what I considered mixed signals in the begining and even now. I tried to pinpoint ( put a lable ) on our realationship..and learned quickly..I did not want his answer.
He said that sleeping together seemed to be causing problems and my friendship meant to much to him to risk it….my response..not so nice..I am an aries on the taurus cusp.
Then..the next thing I know we are in bed and I am meeting his family..his grams..who is his world. He told me he is happy that we are better friends now than ever..he also sd I was his best friend.
Coming from any other sign..I would be irritated witht he word/title Friend..but with him, I think it is a huge step. What does it really mean when an aquarius calls you friend.
The 1st year was crazy considering I am a Scorpio I had to learned patience which i never had dealing with the hot and cold of an aquarian. He trusts me with things about his past and present that noone else knows. I question it only because he can be with me everyday for weeks then out of nowhere he will disappear for a couple days. Sometimes we have a lil disagreement before sometimes for no reason at all. And he always returns and things are better than before. He will introduce me to all his friends and family as his future wife or this is the girl im going to marry.
Hi Rondi, a true/best friend of an aquarian is something not to take lightly as I think you have suspected. We would pretty much go to the ends of the world for a true friend if they needed us. We wouldn’t normally introduce anyone to our family who we didn’t really care for.
You made a requirement of him after having relations by trying to put a label requirement on the relationship. Aquas work slow and methodically when someone comes on to strong and we’ll take a step back to see if it’s what we really want, then proceed or push away after the analysis.
Sleeping with someone really doesn’t change anything internally for us at all. It is the feeling we have inside of us about you, inside our heart and mind.
You have to be the best friend, the lover, the companion with no change. Once you remove or change something from the equation the Aqua will not stay or wont be honestly happy.
If you’re not ok with the relationship or feel like it’s not what you want then you need to ask him, just don’t try and label it. Simply ask him do you see this becoming more than best friends at some point and you will get the answer you need.
If an aqua feels like you are trying to take away their freedom and space they will be wary of taking it to the next level
Hi again Sexy, I see you are no stranger to our mini-vacations. They are a very normal part of our life and if you can give us the time we need during them, without nagging and demanding our attention we will come back re energized.
We don’t like to be in an angry, stressed or over emotional negative state and this is what usually sparks the mini-vacations. It is a time for us to clear our heads and reflect on things.
I’ll give you a little helpful hint, setup a facial and body massage for your aqua…the mini-vacas will tend to happen a lot less frequently.
Thank you so much for your replys. It has taken me a little while to realize it is about him..and not me. Ya know that aries ego.
The simple fact that he shares his grams with me..is huge for him. She is his heart. She has had some medical issues lately..and I fully expected him to withdrawl. Instead he came to me for comfort, and someone to talk to you. He said I always make him smile.
Because I am me, It is so easy for me to want everything under my control….this will never be with him. Which just may keep me coming back.
I always say he is hot n cold. When he is hot..it is amazing. He is very passionate and expressive in his actions. The way he looks at me, the way he touches me and the way he smiles at me. Other than the birth of my daughter..I have never felt such comfort and peace. I am very high strung and he amazingly able to calm be. What a great quaility in a person.
One more question..you sd above that sex does nto change things for an aqaurius. I know that I am the first person he has slept with in a long time. Does the fact that we do and that we are so pasionate when we do..say anything about his feelings?
Also, we hang out a lot. Not realy long periods of time, but he will txt me and ask me to stop by his house a couple times a week and normally spend the night or most of it at least 2 nights a month. Any guesses as to his feelings?
lol how funny you say that i bought him a spa package for his birthday in january bc he was very stressed out and to this day he is yet to use it
hey Rondi, aquas are very passionate lovers.
After 6 months of being together, just hanging out a couple times a week and only spending a night or two together if that a month I would question. It sounds strange to me for an aqua not to want to spend more time with you than this, but I don’t know the full extent of the relationship.
Hi sexy, Did I forget to mention how aquas like to procrastinate..haha. I’ve yet to use mine either and it’s been much longer than that. Tell him you are going to call and set up an appointment for him for a weekend day.
The circumstances are a little difficult. We work together, but he is my boss. He was not my boss when we started hanging out..he was promoted a couple of months ago.
I also am a single mother and only have every other weekend to myself. Up to this point he has not met my daughter..but we are planning on doing that soon.
I just adore him, but at the same time I do not want to read too much into what he says or does..but dont want to read to little either.
It is taking us a while..but we are learning each others needs..and how to compromise.
Hello everybody here. This is a great site.
Hey,I would like comments from becky or an aqua man to my story.
Im libra in love with an aquarius for 8 months.
It all started very strong and quick he commited inmmediately and told me he left all the girls bc he found me but his friends keep texting him and calling all the time. Im a very proud and good looking woman so I dont settle for less so this behavior made me doubt and his coldness wich I did not understand at that time, made me break up with him many times and I behaved like a drama queen
He wanted to be my boyfriend and he told me once he loved me and that he was not affraid of the feeling of having children with me
He understands why I used to break up with him , its not about he is being aloof but he is addicted and to be honest he is a mess but deep in side he is such an authentic person that eventhough he does everything wrong I trust him somehow and I do care too much for him I wish he took better care of his health and I wish he understood he has to do it soon because I will oneday have children and I cant think in anyother person than him eventhough I have many choices I still like him
The problem is that now he says he does not want a relationship and he is fine on his own , he does not need anything and that he feels he is not prepaired. Its me who has looked after him lately cause eventhough we had not talked in two weeks I could feel he was not fine and I was right. We have met twice he was sick and depri but I think he is dating a few young girls like 18 19 and I know he does it because they mean nothing serius to him. We are both 34 . He told me yesterday that he does not know wether we should see each other again because he does not want to hurt me and he feels I love him more that what he feels for me . But to be honest I think he is just scared because I know he feels trapped when he feels too much. I really love him and I need nothing else that him I asked him if it was then better that I dont hang on us and he said yes so he means I should not have expectations. Then I told him he could leave if he felt better but he stayed and spendt the night with me and we had sex we always have sex but I dont know if he is playing with me
I dont know why he sees so youg girls when he has me . Sometimes I think im out of his league but despite all his mistakes I dont move a cent . I know he needs space and im not clingy at all but I must admit I get courious with all his text messages and phone calls from girls but I dont get jealous cause they are nothing compared to me I have much more to offer.
So the question is. it seems he has changed his mind about us maybe because I broke up with him so manytimes (but there was a reason) or maybe cause hes scared. It seems like he doesnt care although I can see he still feels good and comfortable when he is with me and he is still sexually attracted but he is not calling or texting as he used . Should I forget a bout him and move on or you think I should keep firm?
thanks a lot for your comments
“I’m a very proud and good looking woman so I don’t settle for less.”
“The problem is that now he says he does not want a relationship and he is fine on his own.”
“even though he does everything wrong I trust him somehow”
“We have met twice he was sick and depri but I think he is dating a few young girls like 18 19″
“all his text messages and phone calls from girls”
“It seems like he doesn’t care”
“but he is not calling or texting as he used”
You said you are a strong woman and don’t settle for less…so I don’t know why you are even asking the question of what you should do, it looks pretty obvious to me.
well..sometimes I dont know if he is just playing games or its sort of a test. to be honest i sometimes think is my fault since I rejected him several times cause I was not sure now I just miss him and hope to win him back but dont know how..
jerzi i dont know really what happened.. when I think back and remember how sweet and sure he was talking about having children and buy an stationwagon , he invited me 4 times to his parents for xmas and I wasnt sure at that time I was nervous about all his friends and lost my temper a couple of times … broke up and picked up my things like 5 times .
He keeps saying that he does not want to hurt me or dissapoint me .
I feel I pushed him away and Im sorry for that in fact I miss him so much that it scares me I think I always rejected him cause I liked him so much that I was affraid
lol jerzi! its so funny how aquas act to my friends they just think hes disrespectful and doesnt care when he disappears or procrastinates doing something for me or himself. Im glad to find this site to know that I am not nuts!
Hey Brichola, You don’t break up with someone 5 times if you really like someone or are in love with them just because you are afraid of how much you care for someone. You broke up with him because you couldn’t handle the fact of relationships with the other people he had as friends. You couldn’t handle it 5 times…seriously what makes you think you will be able to a 6th time? You act like meeting his parents on Christmas was like a life threatening event, which I don’t understand at all.
You are clearly not comfortable with this persons social life and if you have broken up with someone 5 times there is clearly a lot more than you just having a temper.
It really doesn’t seem fair to you or him to continue this kind of disastrous relationship, but that’s just my opinion.
There is just something SO attractive about aquarius men I like the mysterious play it makes everything a little more intresting even when they become aloof.So different.A little difficult.But it’s worth it when they arrive with a little apology and everything returns to normal.I think either you understand them or you don’t.TAKE IT SLOW if you truly want a relationship to evolve:)
My aquarian BFF and I are still hanging in there. For someone who does not like labels..he sure loves to give me the BFF label…ALL THE TIME!!!!!!
We are currently in a cold phase with our relationship an are now BFF”S. Once I get over my emotional tantrum..and listen to what he is saying…I usually get it. Dont agree with it..but get it just the same.
Some things in life are not easy, you just have to decide if they are worth it. I think he is worth it. He is not out partying, and picking up girls. He has other female friends that live out of State and he chats with them. But, other than family..I am really the only active person in his life.
When we are together we have a blast and we really do make each others lives better. So for today I will smile because I can hear him talking over the wall..and a it makes my heart warm to hear his voice.
This weekend I will miss him..but enjoy my other friends and family..because he will isolate this weekend..lol And, then we will begin our process back together.
One time, there was this Aqua-male who I was friends with (I’m an Aquarius female) he was such a typical Aquarian, as am I. Anyways, I didn’t even know he was romantically interested until one day he all of a sudden got real cuddly and weird, which freaked the hell out of me. And then I kinda blew him off… kinda remained friends but it was awkward lmao. I figured this was a good anecdote, considering people apparently suffer from Aquarius’s ‘freedom issues’. Sometimes they get a bit of their own medicine… lol. But only from other aquarians.
I just loved reading about what everybody else has been going through with their aquas. It’s given me some insight as to what I might expect from this aqua man I work with that I recently (and unexpectantly) began sleeping with. I have a few questions if my own, if somebody might be able to answer then for me:
1. Does starting a “friends with benefits” situation in the begining change how an aqua man thinks about you/the possibility of an actual relationship? I initially established this sexual relationship with the intention of having a sex buddy but we have so much sexual chemistry together, I want to see where things may go…
2. I am a Capricorn and know that an aqua relationship will be difficult and challenging because of somewhat conflicting personalities. However, we both have Capricorn venuses. Would this help in any way concerning a serious relationship? What should I expect from an aqua/Venus cappy with a gemini moon? (for the record, I am a cappy/ Venus cappy with a Leo moon — I know that’s not going to help the situation much, either, LOL)
Any advice is greatly appreciated! This is a new situation and we just started hanging out together outside of work, so I need to be careful and all. Not to mention, casual sex goes outside of my typical cappy behavior, so I’m a little apprehensive as well
Well my aqua threw me for a loop after 3 years of my aqua man talking about marriage told me he never wants to get married. but by the end of the conversation went into saying he may be ready to get married in 6 months or a year he doesnt know, but he doesnt want to lose me. Since that convo 3 days ago i have not heard from him. I have tried to call but he will not return calls. Im so confused Jerzi or anyone HELP!!!